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Going to swim and exercise before work today...

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

I didn't make it yesterday morning and I sure am stiff today. I have been sleeping a lot cause I have that "rundown" feeling. Don't have to be at work until 9:00 a.m. so have almost 4 hours from now to get movin'. My health insurance has a free program for stress control with a phone coach which I plan to sign up for in a week or so to see if that will help me feel better. I also am going for my first appointment with a psychologist on March 4th and that is next week. In the meantime, I plan to exercise as much as possible cause I know that makes me feel better physically and emotionally.

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DJS-DEBBIE 2/24/2010 9:19PM

    I am interested in how it goes with the phone coach myself...

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NJMATTICE 2/24/2010 2:36PM

    Hope that your early morning dose of endorphines set you up for a wonderful Wednesday! Great opportunity with that phone coach. Glad that you are willing to take advantage!
-nj


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SLIMMERJESSE 2/24/2010 9:21AM

    Hope you feel better soon.

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RITAROSE 2/24/2010 9:08AM

  I always know I chose the right thing when I go exercise. It improves my mood and energy level substantially! Hope you have a super day!! You are off to a great start! emoticon emoticon emoticonRitarose

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MSLZZY 2/24/2010 7:22AM

    Whatever helps you feel better!

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POLYANASUNSHINE 2/24/2010 6:57AM

    Sounds like a great plan

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BIGT_56 2/24/2010 6:25AM

    Sounds like you have a game plan. Let me know if you think the psychologist is helping any. I have been considering doing that myself. I am just afraid I won't find a good one and will have wasted my time and my money.

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2 kinds of pain from root canal...financial and physical

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Dr. lightened my bank account substantially for the root canal/crown I had done yesterday. I maxed out my dental benefits in January for a 4-tooth bridge so it all comes out of pocket. That hurts. I was hoping after the procedure yesterday the jaw pain and gum pain would be over but I guess I was too optimistic. Had to use pain pills to get sleep last night and this morning will have to get by with tylenol as I have to go to work whether I want to or not. (I am maxed out on unscheduled time off). If I had planned ahead and asked for a day or two off after the procedure last week I probably could have stayed home. Thank goodness this week I am still only working half time so should be able to tough it out for 4 hours.

I am hoping that one of these days I can write a blog that doesn't sound so whiney.

One dr. visit down this week and 2 to go.

I am leaving for work early so I can go to gym and exercise in the whirlpool. That should make me feel a lot better!!! emoticon

  
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LIFEISAJOURNEY 2/23/2010 7:12PM

  I don't have dental insurance either. I don't mind the teeth cleaning & exam bill, but I chose to go each 9 months, not 6 months. Paying for crowns is a different matter. Hope the pain is gone by now.



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KAT7457 2/23/2010 6:36PM

    paying out of pockets is a killer on dentists , i had to have all my teeth pulled do to my health issues and dry mouth so I had to visit dentist a few visits i didnt want it all done at once and when i did i had the denture ther to put right in and if that dont hurt. I feel your pain teddy. some insurances dont want to work with you either. I think all insurance should pay for all dentists what ever you have done same with the dr's.
I hope you get to geeling better dental pain is the pits. have you ever tryed tylenol for arthristis pain its 650mg.and i take 2 when needed for pain and it works. its just not for arthritis . just a suggestion. get better soon. hugs

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DJS-DEBBIE 2/23/2010 11:18AM

    Yeah, I know that pain too. I had one dentist who said he could fix my tooth, charged me $200 for the 'fix' and then said if this doesn't work you'll need a root canal. Which of course I did and he charged me in full for as well. Don't use that dentist anymore!

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HOLLYSNOWWOMAN 2/23/2010 8:58AM

    At least you are getting to the gym. Yes, root canals are a rip off. With insurance the last time I still paid 500 out of pocket because none of the dentists here will join the PPO plans -- they don't like insurance companies telling them what they can charge -- I bet! I worked so hard to keep my teeth and now that I am disabled, I just couldn't afford it now so I will have to start having my teeth pulled if this happens.

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CARRIE1948 2/23/2010 7:31AM

    Hope you're feeling better soon.

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MSLZZY 2/23/2010 7:14AM

    I've had 7 root canals done (lousy teeth) but it will get better. Have fun at the pool!

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a very busy week ahead

Monday, February 22, 2010

Today I get the root canal done on the tooth that abscessed....after work. On Thursday I get a"final check up from the hand surgeon who did CTS and trigger thumb release in December. Then On Friday I get a day off........to get an EUS so pancreatic specialist can look at the growths on my pancreas...and needless to say I am very nervous about this. This is the third time I have gone through this. They put a camera down into the stomach and look at the pancreas from the stomach and if necessary to a micro incision into the pancreas to do a biopsy or biopsies. So far I have had good news (no cancer) but last time there was growth of tumors which still were very small. Dr. is pretty blase' about the whole thing and says there is nothing I did to cause this and nothing I can do to make it better. (Not very uplifting news, in my opinion.) I just have to keep hoping things are still okay and probably won't get results for a week afterward. Will update when I know more.

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KAT7457 2/22/2010 8:13PM

    hope everything goes ok for you. your in my prayers.

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DJS-DEBBIE 2/22/2010 1:35PM

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BIGT_56 2/22/2010 10:08AM

    Bless your heart. You have had way too much on your plate these last few months. You are an amazing woman! I sure hope you get a good report from the doctor. I will sending up some prayers to the big guy for you.

Terrie

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MSLZZY 2/22/2010 10:04AM

    The hand surgeon and dentist visits should be fine but the panceatic specialist does sound blase about the whole thing.
Keep smiling and try not to stress about things until you know what you are dealing with. I'll be thinking of you and praying for a good resolution.

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BZYBOYSMOM 2/22/2010 9:28AM

    emoticon Yes, you do have a full week. Good luck with everything!

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LLLAWSON 2/22/2010 9:21AM

    Wow. Sounds like you have a tough week ahead of you. Hang in there. I'll be praying all goes well and it will be a quick week for you. emoticon

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JOHNTJ1 2/22/2010 8:25AM

    I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and I hope your week as a succesful conclusion to it.

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Thanks Spark Friends for support...

Saturday, February 20, 2010

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Trying to have a stiff upper lip today.. think I cried enough.... at least I should be able to enjoy my time in the pool in about an hour. Ooops...better hurry up and have a bit of breakfast and get dressed. Missed exercising yesterday and the day before due to not feeling well, but I know I will feel better after 75 minutes doing pol exercises in the class at the gym. Then into the whirlpool and steam room before going home. If I get home by 10:15 I will be able to go to a Spark Rally in St. Paul and see a fantastic flower show. Perhaps even get hubby up to go wtih me so he can get a little exercise, too. emoticon

NOTE: Made it to the spark rally but touched based with only 2 people. One new member whom I will contact this week. Got hubby to go with and we walked around the conservatory and looked at the flowers. Stopped at my favorite Korean grocery store on the way home and bought some shirataki noodes, then went out for lunch and had walleye. A great day.

  
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CARRAND 2/21/2010 9:52PM

    Enjoy your weekend. Your water exercises sound like wonderful fun.

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SLIMMERJESSE 2/21/2010 12:08PM

    Have a good day.

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DAISYDAY25 2/20/2010 9:34PM

  Sounds like you have a busy but fun day planned

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KAT7457 2/20/2010 8:30PM

    enjoy the day Teddy. I didnt know they have a flower show in winter in mpls.thats awesome.

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WANDAH3 2/20/2010 6:40PM

    Flower shows in the middle of winter sound just the perfect thing!

Have a great day,
Hugs,
Wanda

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LAVONNE57 2/20/2010 2:34PM

    It sounds like you have a great day planned! Flower shows in Minnesota winters are wonderful! It makes it feel like spring! Have fun!


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DJS-DEBBIE 2/20/2010 12:21PM

    I hope you get to the Spark Rally and the flower show. It sounds like you can use some 'me' time. I saw your post on my blog and the week you have coming up. Try to hang in there. Hopefully you will be feeling much better by the time the week is over.
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BIGT_56 2/20/2010 10:55AM

    Go and enjoy the day! You deserve it!

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RUSTYSHAW1 2/20/2010 10:46AM

    I love flower shows. Some the flowers are so beautiful, they don't look real. Glad you are feeling better. emoticon

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PATTIDGN 2/20/2010 10:43AM

    sounds like a wonderful day!!

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RITAROSE 2/20/2010 9:55AM

  Spark rally? Wish I could go too! Have fun! emoticonRitarose

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HOLLYSNOWWOMAN 2/20/2010 9:49AM

    You are in for a busy day. Enjoy!!!

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LOOZINITNOW 2/20/2010 9:47AM

    Enjoy the Spark Rally and flower show!

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PUDLECRAZY 2/20/2010 8:56AM

    Oh, my - enjoy the flower show. What a perfect thing to do in a MN winter!

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MSLZZY 2/20/2010 8:25AM

    Sounds like an excellent plan! Have a great weekend!

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Taking care of myself...

Friday, February 19, 2010

I went with hubby to see the psychiatrist and the end of the session she zeroed in on me and asked who do I have for support. I have 1 sister left whom I talk to about once a week but she has been in assisted living for 8 years, is blind and has numerous health issues. It does make me feel llike I am not all alonein the "big world" to talk to her but it is not really support (for me). I told her otherwise I have no one for support. With my husband's condition (possible early dementia or Alzheimer's ) coming to the forefront I have some new enemies which is his family accusing me of being selfish, planning to have him committed, trying to steal his house (actually it was my house when we got married) and trying to steal his money (he has practically none left, as he spent it), and because I have a life insurance policy on him through work they think I am plotting to kill him off to collect the proceeds of that. Because of his mental state the doctor recommended I have my husband sign papers giving me power of attorney, medical power of attorney and a living will (all revocable). His children all up at arms about this and they have no idea of the problems I am having taking of myself and dealing with their father. The psychiatrist suggested a family conference and now my husband doesn't want to see her any more because she is convienced he is not going to get better but will eventually need professional care at which point my own financial and emotional survival will be in jeopardy. (The psychiatrist said I definitely need counseling.)

So tomorrow I will make a phone call to see about counseling as I seem to to be "going down the slippery slide" and my life has become "one disaster after another" and I definitely need to make some major changes. emoticon emoticon

  
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CARRAND 2/19/2010 10:04PM

    My heart goes out to you in your struggles. Hang in there, and definitely get the counseling.

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BIGT_56 2/19/2010 4:17PM

    Yes get some counselling, but get that lawyer or some legal advocate ASAP. You cannot count on his children "coming around" to seeing the truth. I have found that you need to expect the unexpected in this kind of situation and not take what people tell you as the truth. They may have hidden agendas. You need to know what your rights are where the assets you share are concerned. Did you put the house in both of your names after you got married? Can you provide proof that you had it before? Do you have shared bank accounts or separate? Is you name on his? Do you all have a will? Whose name is on the vehicles?
My mom was the one with all the assets when she married my stepfather. They were married 25 years and his children never accepted her. She sold her house after awhile and they lived in his, but she was the one with the money. Luckily she passed away two years before he did, so they couldn't try and give her any grief when he died. They still tried to give us some where her belongings were concerned. Luckily my mom and put the three of us girls on her bank account and that money just came to us with no questions to be asked.
Stay strong and just remember that we are here for you if you need to talk or rant...we are good listeners!

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HOLLYSNOWWOMAN 2/19/2010 10:26AM

    I worked in a Nursing home and saw this every day and lots of times the care giver died before the resident! TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!! DO get power of attorney for financial as well as medical. Does your husband want a feeding tube? Do a advance directive. No matter what the family says -- you need to keep him and yourself safe. When he begins to wander and he will -- who is going to watch out for him? You cannot be there 24/7. Kids are the first to point fingers so if they feel like you are not doing the job let them take him!!! Yes you need someone to talk with besides family. God bless you. If I can help just give me a yell. Remember everyone has an opinion even if it is not their business. As you can see I am very passionate about this and sorry if I steps on any toes.

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MATTRIXMSP 2/19/2010 8:45AM

    Please take that counseling and please keep speaking out here as well!

You are a strong person and can make it through this, remember part of strength is seeking help when needed too.

Best of luck to both of you!

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RITAROSE 2/19/2010 8:15AM

  Teddy, I'm so sorry to hear about your trials! Looks like you have lots of support here, which is great, but yes, you do need to have support in making the legal changes that need to be made and keeping open the lines of communication with the step kids. I am praying that they will open their eyes to see the difficult position you're in. Do you have a pastor you could go to for counsel? One that has experience in counseling?
I can't understate the impact a good one could have to encourage you, see some options that maybe you hadn't noticed yet, to help your step kids see the other side and to be a support to you and your husband. May the Lord help you right now.
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NO_SNOW_BODY 2/19/2010 8:12AM

    I hope you find someone to talk with, we all need that one person that will listen as we unburden ourselves.

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COLEENCOLE 2/19/2010 8:00AM

    What trials you have right now. Families can be so difficult in relationships. Take time for yourself and stay focused with SP. It can be difficult with all the emotional upheaval. emoticon

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ORANGE_MAMA 2/19/2010 7:53AM

    Teddy:
Sorry to hear of your woes. But I am confident that u have the COURAGE to move forward. With that said, as a nonpracticing attorney, I have to say that consulting a "elderly care attorney" is in your best interest. U may even want to have your step children sit in w/ the atty and u. Best of Luck.

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WANDAH3 2/19/2010 7:47AM

    This is a very tough situation to be in. Do try to get those legal papers in order and quickly. I'm eternally grateful that I had them done when I became my Mother's legal guardian. Try to keep the lines of communication open with his children...not easy, I know, but if they are kept in the loop, eventually they will understand the devastation of this disease.

Hugs,
Wanda
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S...get the support you need, it's important.

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MSLZZY 2/19/2010 7:18AM

    You are trying the best you can and meeting resistance on all sides. This is certainly not good for you and counseling may help you express your feelings and get some support for all you are
going through. It is a shame that family members don't see how hard you are trying. Hang in there and do the best for you and DH. My thoughts are with you. emoticon

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DJS-DEBBIE 2/19/2010 5:11AM

    I am so sorry you are having these problems with your 'new enemies'. I have heard versions of this story too many times when a loved one develops Alzheimer's. Good for you for being proactive and setting up some counseling for yourself. It will help.
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