Tuesday, August 28, 2012
Someone I know through the online community berated unhealthy parents of hospitalized children as selfish yesterday. I used to be one of those parents - overweight, inactive, eating crappy food - dealing with repeated hospitalizations and a day-to-day life that was VERY stressful. It drives me batty that he called ME selfish when he's the one staying at a luxury hotel down the street from the hospital, taking time away from his hospitalized daughter to exercise almost every day, eating out (and NOT making healthy choices - oh, the irony) away from the hospital and, well, generally acting almost like he's on vacation. I think he hasn't figured out that he's at a hospital with family-centered care. Those nurses EXPECT a parent bedside 24/7, involved in the child's care, comforting and reassuring the child during recovery. They didn't put bedside accommodations in for appearance's sake. They talk about parents who are absent and, guess who, THEY think is selfish? I know because I was one of those 24/7 parents and nurses talk when they feel comfortable with parents.
I have a plan in place for healthy food when we face inevitable future hospitalizations but I still haven't figured out how I'll be there as a care partner for my daughter AND get the exercise I need. One thing is for certain though, the needs of my hospitalized child will ALWAYS come before my needs. Call me selfish.