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Boys at the Gym

Monday, June 25, 2012

Sigh. It's summer. The gym is packed with 'boys'. Boys who stare. Boys who I want to scold for the obviousness. Sophomoric. It is the word of the day. I wonder what it will be like next summer when I'm bringing my own teenaged son to the gym. Might be embarrassing for him.

One kid is off to (indoor) basketball camp. The other is stuck at home because his sailing camp was cancelled for the day. It's just miserable out!

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MOONSTORMER 6/26/2012 1:55AM

    staring is such a double-edged sword. on the one hand, it's nice to be noticed in a positive way. on the other hand, it is so irritating to be oogled while at the gym. it doesn't change when they get older, though - at my gym it's all ages and still sophomoric (love that word, too!)

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CONFIDENTLY_FIT 6/25/2012 1:19PM

    I walk into the gym with total blinders on. The "open"section is for both men and women, and is right next to the sign in sheet. It was great when I was going with my hubby, but now that I go alone, I completely avoid looking over there. It bothers me that I can feel many eyes on me as I walk past. I often wonder if I will ever get over this feeling. I have to walk past this section to get to the studios where the classes are that I take.
One time I heard my name being called and turned around to see a male former student. It was not a pleasant experience. Now like I said total blinders, the president could be in there and I would never know it.

As for the other comments: Just adding my two cents, not trying to start anything because we are able to speak freely.
I don't feel the need for other's attention now that I am in much better shape than I was. I have a tremendous amount of self-confidence and no I do not want "boys" looking at me. It grosses me to be honest. There are so many reports of inappropriate teacher/student conduct in the news that perhaps that sways my thinking also. If I am not looking at them, then I have no idea if they are looking at me.
I am also noticing much more gym traffic now that school is out. I have not stayed for a few classes because of the "girls" who were about to enter. Shorts way too short and they had no clue what type of class they were getting ready to do. Great that they were there, but like I said that atmosphere was not for me.

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TANYAP71 6/25/2012 12:53PM

    It's hard to separate the self-confidence out of the equation because, you are absolutely right, having achieved fitness and weight goals I AM so much more self confident. In fact, had I cowered in the gym I probably would attracted less of the unsettling attention. The attention is 'different' when the kids are out of school. There's a respectful attention from older people - of all shapes and sizes - that doesn't bother me at all and which I try to extend myself.

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RUN_BAKE_BLOG 6/25/2012 12:17PM

    You know what, there is something else that people don't realize...

No matter what size or what 'package' you come in...

A persons self confidence level attracts far more attention than you realize.
Yes, men are going to drool over a special ordered pair of boobs or some other 'in your face' physical feature.

But I have seen gorgeous women of all shapes and sizes attract all kinds of attention because of how they carry themselves.

I think we all deserve to have fun with ourselves.
There are far more important things to be concerned about then whether or not we are encouraging men to 'objectify' us.

Love your self and ignore whatever shenanigans are going on at the gym.

Comment edited on: 6/25/2012 12:29:16 PM

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TANYAP71 6/25/2012 11:33AM

    I can see it from both perspectives. It *is* nice to be noticed again but I remember very well what it was like to be overweight and out of shape and invisible. I am still the same person I was then. It makes me so sad to think that so many people are overlooked because of the package they come in.

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ROSEWAND 6/25/2012 11:20AM

    I actually disagree with MOM21AN. This is not the
kind of affirmation we want, to fit into a cookie
cutter fantasy of some adolescent. Individually,
we want to be affirmed for our full selves, not our
body shape or facial image.

Feeling validated when men objectify us makes
us part of the problem. As long as we "enjoy"
it, secretly or not we encourage this unhealthy
behavior in men.

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RUN_BAKE_BLOG 6/25/2012 11:14AM

    Well...one way to look at it, if they are staring you must be looking hot!
LOL...I say it is ok to secretly enjoy it.

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Kayaking .... and cruising

Sunday, June 24, 2012

We rented boats go to out on our little lake today. My son and I went out in a kayak (a first for both of us) and my daughter and husband went out in a canoe. It was great. I preferred kayaking to canoeing. My son was a natural. This summer we are renting various boats to figure out what, if anything, we'd like to buy for next summer. Right now his vote is for 4 single kayaks because he wants to be out there on his own. For a kid who spends most of his time on a screen (although we've confiscated the laptop and lock down the internet to all the kids' devices), it makes me SO happy that he's finding physical activity he likes. (He's also working with a trainer and enjoying that.)

On Friday we upgraded our cruise stateroom from an assigned oceanview room to a guarantee at a level called 'aquaclass' - balcony stateroom with various 'spa' amenities and access to the 'clean' restaurant called Blu. We've been assigned our room and I'm very happy with the location - steps to the stairs and one flight down from the fitness center and aquaspa cafe (casual 'clean' breakfast/lunch). This means I will have access to FANTASTIC and healthy food for all 3 meal (and at least one of my usual snack times). I am delighted. The best part is that it cost us a grand total of $107 extra for the 7 nights. It was a crazy price drop!

I got centergy in this morning because the kids' camp schedules make it impossible for me to go during the day this week. I'm hoping to squeeze another class in Tuesday evening. I'll get my strength training in because I can do that around camp schedules. 2 weeks until the cruise... and I'm very happy with where I am. This is the cruise I booked the day I joined the gym with the intention of being 'not overweight' by the time we cruised. Not only am I 'not overweight' I am at an ideal BMI with a lean body fat percentage and I've been there for 8+ months. I am so proud of that after 10 years of yoyoing (and NEVER being 'not overweight').

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CONFIDENTLY_FIT 6/25/2012 1:04PM

    Awesome news with the kayaks and the cruise:) Can't wait to read about your adventures!

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MOONSTORMER 6/25/2012 1:35AM

    emoticon you've done SO well! and what a great motivation!

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DAWNFIRE72 6/24/2012 6:40PM

    emoticon on finding an activity that your son likes and does not require a screen. I hope you figure out what your boat of choice will be for next summer.

emoticon on getting to the body you love and I hope you and your family have a great time on the cruise.

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Funny Things My Kids Have Said About My Journey

Friday, June 22, 2012

My kids have said a few funny things along the way from the old me to the new me. I thought I'd right a few down and, if I can find this again in the future, I'll add to the list over time.

Early on my daughter told me, sadly, that I wasn't squishy anymore. This is a bad thing for her because she LOVES to be squished :-(

Last winter we were shopping for clothes and I was holding things up for her inspection. She told me 'Stop doing that with your arm. It's freaky.' She meant, um, using it.... because it makes my muscles show.

Shortly after she started working with her trainer, she poked me me (hard!) in the middle and asked me 'Why aren't I hard like that? I eat a lot of CLIF bars too!'

Yesterday my son saw my before picture. He was amazed. I'm not sure why, it's not like he wasn't seeing me every single day along the whole journey. He told me 'You looked like a fat old lady! No, really, a fat old lady!' Um, thanks. I think. :-)

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CHICKPEA23 6/22/2012 1:51PM

    Hahaha... kids don't hold back, do they? Thanks for sharing these stories!

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CONFIDENTLY_FIT 6/22/2012 12:20PM

    :) Cute stories!

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GINA180847 6/22/2012 11:41AM

    Your kids sound wonderful along with your amazing journey. Thank you!

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BONDMANUS2002 6/22/2012 11:39AM

  do it for you

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Loving Learning :-)

Thursday, June 21, 2012

I'm reading about nutrition every day and LOVING it. Seriously loving it.

I'm reading the Nutrition textbook, of course, but I'm also on the wellness advisory committee for the local schools so I'm doing other reading for that. Do you know there is a 110(ish) page document outlining the dietary guidelines for Americans? HOLY! Who has time to read that if nutrition isn't a major focus of their life? I've added the PDF to my ipad so that I can make my way through it. I'm also reading more about the rules that govern food served in school and the reality of food served in school.

Do you know that the 'school lunch' may have 'healthy' (so they claim) guidelines but 94% of schools don't meet the guidelines! To top that off there are MANY competitive foods sold in schools from which a child can build their own lunches. The federal government has no rules governing those competitive foods so a child could, for example, make a lunch of chicken tenders, chocolate milk, and a couple of poptarts. The wellness advisory committee I am part of was formed to help implement the new Massachusetts law on competitive foods and to revise the wellness policy which was written over 5 years ago and never revisited (and VERY poorly implemented).

I'm also still making my way through The Weight of the Nation, taking notes, trying to figure out REASONABLE goals for our wellness advisory committee. There are so many people that are SO gung ho. I'm afraid we will make such huge changes and so many of them that people freak out and push back and nothing will change. I feel like we are not listening to the guidelines for weight control (which really is the long term goal of the law we are tasked with implementing) - #1 is to make SMALL CHANGES. #2 is to set REASONABLE GOALS.

(mini fitness update - Started a new whole body workout yesterday. It was GREAT. I am sore today. It's been weeks since I've had DOMS. Sadly, I'm also still feeling twinges of pain in my achilles from Tuesday's run so I think I'll stick with the elliptical for all of next week.)

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MOONSTORMER 6/22/2012 1:49AM

    glad you are learning all kinds of new things - feel free to share!

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CONFIDENTLY_FIT 6/21/2012 5:06PM

    Sounds awesome! I love learning too! Implementing change is hard but can be done with the right mind frame. You have the right idea with keeping changes small.

Many of school's lunches are disgusting. Mozzarella sticks are often the main meal with veggies and spaghetti sauce on the side. if the students don't want that they can have pizza sticks. I roll my eyes all time and make comments all the time, but I guess when things are government issued certain people's hands are tied.

What's your new workout consist of? Good for you to stick with the elliptical. :)

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Running Update, First Quiz

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

I took a 2 week break from running. We did a lot of climbing on our hike on Sunday and I had no pain so I figured I'd give running a go. I did 1.25 miles at 5.5MPH before I had discomfort that was not going away. It wasn't as focused as before but I'm not taking any chances. I switched to the elliptical for the rest of my workout. I'll run again next Tuesday and see how it goes. I don't think I have to get 'serious' about running until after our August vacation and I really do enjoy the elliptical more. I noticed the elliptical was a lot harder when I returned to it after a months'-long break so I figure it's not horrible to go back to it.

YTD: 52.25 miles
I finished the first chapter of my nutrition text. Watched all the lessons (which were straight from the book). Took the first quiz. Easy peasy. Man, I've missed this. I did make my husband promise that he would do everything he could to stop me from pursuing another PhD (OMG, what hell the last year of THAT was) but we made no such deal about any other degree ;-)

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CONFIDENTLY_FIT 6/20/2012 7:44AM


The nice thing about running...it's always there. You just need your sneakers.

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