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Go to the Doctor - Do it FOR YOU

Thursday, November 13, 2014

For years and years and years, I didn't go to my doctor because I was fat and I didn't want to have the talk about how I was fat (my doctor at the time would and did talk about how I needed to lose weight for like 30 min straight, even if I was at the doctor to have, say, a cyst in my ankle checked out). And instead of finding a new doctor that wouldn't harp on my needing to lose weight, I just didn't go.

The only person that hurt was me. My employers didn't care - they actually probably liked that I never went because it meant they didn't have to shell out the $$ for the coverage. My doctor didn't care - she had plenty of other patients to see. The person it hurt was me. Because I could have learned a lot about my body and didn't.

But as I was losing the weight, I realized I needed to make going to my doctor a priority as part of my healthy journey. I was still nervous about the weight thing, but I needed to think of ME and MY BODY and how I can get the best for ME.

I mention this because yesterday I went to the doctor and was diagnosed with shingles. Two years ago, that diagnosis may never have happened because I was too nervous to go to my real doctor. (I may have gone to urgent care, but who's to say?) But today, I have a doctor I can go to, tell what's wrong, and she will treat me. I am still considered obese, but my doctor never spent 30 min talking about how being obese could affect my health. Instead, she focused on my problem, gave me some remedies and drugs and let me on my way.

I'm not saying a doctor shouldn't have the "fat talk" with you. But there's a difference between a doctor who blames all your problems on your weight and won't treat you RIGHT NOW as you are and a doctor who is aware of your weight and will give you the meds and treatment you need.

I am so glad I found my doctor. I look back at early blog posts about how nervous I was going to see her and can compare to how relaxed I was to see her yesterday (minus being nervous about the shingles diagnosis - funny enough, just knowing that it was definitely shingles made me SO MUCH MORE RELAXED). My doctor is my right-hand man to keep good health. We are teammates, on my health journey. She isn't someone to dread, she isn't someone to fear.

I wish every single person could have a doctor like mine, and I just want to say to everyone: If your doctor doesn't listen to you or you are afraid of seeing him or her, stop going to him/her! (And I hope you can - I know there may be extenuating circumstances.) PLEASE go find a good doctor who listens to you, who is your shieldman, who can help you get good health.

Because YOU ARE WORTH IT!

  
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SNOWYOGA 11/20/2014 2:11AM

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AJDOVER1 11/14/2014 1:00PM

    Thanks. I needed to be reminded that I really ought to find a primary care doctor. I fired my last one (yeah, like she's standing in an unemployment office somewhere!) but since then I just wait for a crisis and go to urgent care.

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ALIHIKES 11/14/2014 10:37AM

    Thanks for sharing this post. I am glad you found a doctor that will treat you and not be prejudiced about your weight. My mom would not go see a doctor for her knee replacement because she was so afraid she would be told she had to lose 50 pounds. My doctor has discussed my weight but in a compassionate and caring way, and she has offered good suggestions and good health care.

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PEGGY11 11/14/2014 10:24AM

    This blog is so true. At one time I had a doctor who always said you just have to lose weight and you will be fine. He never checked anything. My doctor now cares about how I am doing. He sends me for necessary tests to see how I am doing with my diabetes. Went for a blood test this morning to check if Crestor, for high cholesterol is not doing other harm. When my test last time showed high cholesterol, he was quick to reassure me that it was not my fault, but the diabetes. He said, you will be fine, I'll look after you.

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LYNMEINDERS 11/14/2014 1:31AM

    Woohoo...thats awesoem...
I would love a Dr like that...I usually get who ever is available when I go to my Dr's....
Found it really interesting on Monday when I went with a suspected broken finger...
The Dr I saw in the morning told me it wasn't broken and then when it had been xrayed and it was broken went back thinking the nurse was going to strap it I had to wait to see another Dr and the first thing he said was...well thats a good break!!!!
Go figure....am a bit over the lack of consistency....
Think I will have to find another one who at least knows what they are doing

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HEALTHIER-VICKI 11/13/2014 4:08PM

    Our family doctor is pretty good about taking care of the issue of why we're there but she is concerned about the weight issue too. Not so much for me but for Bob because of his heart issues. But she is good to listen to us. emoticon

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ADARKARA 11/13/2014 2:45PM

    I ADORE my doctor. He is the best. He's not always right (he once told me I had a fungal infection in my skin and it wound up just being really dry skin which took two specialists to figure out so that's ok) but he always tries the simplest solutions first. I was depressed, and he gave me a blood test and it turned out I had a vitamin D deficiency. He could have thrown antidepressants at me, but he didn't.

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LIFECHANGZ 11/13/2014 2:41PM

    emoticon I was shocked to read surveys show a surprisingly high number of medical professionals are repulsed by overweight patients. That the diagnosis code of obesity can/often is the reason to deny coverage for a doctors visit for unrelated problems b/c the obesity diagnosis code was the primary code. How many people are denied, and fail to appeal b/c of the hassle? One of my insurers routinely denied each and every claim, which I routinely appealed. And that is just an iota of the way this plays out. Could not agree with you more. When and where we can, speak up, change docs, stand between the haters/bullies and the targets, ourselves included. I am sorry you went through this, and am glad you have found a good doctor :)


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WIFE48 11/13/2014 2:34PM

    After reading this blog and some responses, I am so fortunate that my doctor has never held it against me when I was heavy.
Thanks for the blog. It was an eye opener.

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CRAMPERELLA 11/13/2014 1:21PM

    Wow! This rings so true! For years, I also avoided going to the doctor. It was a humiliating experience. My former doctor was fixated on my weight and would send me for test upon test. She would be visibly uncomfortable and miffed when the tests always came back fine. She was determined to prove to me that my fat was killing me and was upset when she couldn't back up her assertions. She even convinced me to take Meridia, a weight loss medication which is now banned. Fat people know they are fat. They know it is not the healthiest state to be in. Doctors need to focus on the immediate health issue. I now have medical problems related to my rapid WEIGHT LOSS while taking Meridia. My doctor's fat bias made me sicker than I have ever been. BEWARE of doctors with a fat bias, they can have a negative impact on your health. Thank you for writing this blog. This message really needs to get out, especially to health professionals.

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Happy Halloween!

Tuesday, November 04, 2014

It's belated, I know, but I wasn't feeling so good last week, and now, I am.

Whatever caused me to feel blue has washed over me, and I feel SO RELIEVED it is gone. DO NOT MISS AT ALL. I don't like being blue and down and negative; there is enough in this world to try to make us miserable, I want to live and enjoy my life as best as possible.

And THANK YOU everyone for your comments! I have no doubt that the combination of weather/food choices was probably making me feel the way I was.

Halloween was rough on me; I'll admit I indulged more than I should have. But you know, that's why we dust ourselves off and try again. I'm not letting that spill ruin my health. It's just a learning experience.

  
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SNOWYOGA 11/20/2014 2:11AM

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LYNMEINDERS 11/13/2014 11:57PM

    November will be a great month...we can do this

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    Let's make November a great month.
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JENSTRESS 11/5/2014 11:16AM

    An extra indulgence won't hurt you! It would if it was constant, but it sounds like you know what you are doing for the future!

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BLUECAFE 11/4/2014 10:32PM

    Every day is clean slate. Progress not perfection!
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    Happy belated Halloween to you too! emoticon

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Been Feelin' Blue

Thursday, October 30, 2014

I'm not exactly sure why, either. Is it the gloomy weather? Is it my eating habits? Exercise habits? Did something happen in my life that I'm not processing correctly.

I just wanted to explain why I haven't logged on. I haven't forgotten you guys, just trying to keep up the motivation and not get too bogged down in my blue feelings.

  
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FORZACHANDMATT 10/31/2014 5:25PM

    Aww - I'm sorry you are feeling so blue - hang in there

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JENSTRESS 10/31/2014 10:38AM

    When my eating is on track, I rarely get blue, so that could be part of it. Or the gloomy weather started it and you could have respeonded with eating a little worse, which kept up a downward spiral. Wish you the best to get out of it!

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LYNMEINDERS 10/31/2014 2:29AM

    I strike that occassi9onally and usually put it down to the grey skies and my eating not being as good as it could be...
Praying you feel uplifted again soon

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ADARKARA 10/30/2014 4:38PM

    your vitamin D might be low due to the lowered amount of sunshine. could you invest in a HappyLight?

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Quick Update!

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Life has been good, though last weekend was BUSY preparing for my aunt's boyfriend's birthday party!

Probably the best part, or at least one of the memorable ones for me, was when I decided to play chase with my cousin's son, a very energetic 6/7 year old. He chased me around the park shelter, and it took him several circuits before he caught up to me. And once he did, he had to sit down and take a bit of a breather - telling me that I should make another go at running.

This was an AWESOME moment for me! Two years ago, I didn't stand a CHANCE of running 1/2 a circuit of that shelter, much less the 2+ I did! And to outrun a 6/7 year-old?!

I've always said it's the small things that make it worth it, and that was most certainly true on Sunday. Losing weight isn't just about getting to this number on the scale or in my pants; it's been about opening a whole new world, one that I welcome with open arms.

  
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MJZHERE 10/23/2014 6:01PM

    I feel so happy for you! You go girl!!

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SNOWYOGA 10/16/2014 4:18AM

    Great job! and you said it my friend, (It's not all in the numbers)! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DIETROCKSTAR 10/16/2014 12:35AM

    It is so true!

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PEGGY11 10/15/2014 4:56PM

    NSV. are amazing aren't they?

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JENSTRESS 10/15/2014 10:31AM

    That is EXACTLY why you will succeed. You have reasons besides vanity to do this, and fitness is a big one. That is an incredible accomplishment. WAHOO!

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LYNMEINDERS 10/15/2014 3:55AM

    Woohoo...go you...great what we can achieve

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Week 4 and 1 Year Anniversary

Wednesday, October 08, 2014

Things got all wonky what with my vacation a while back, so pardon my departure! I have been trying to stay on plan, and while my weight loss has not been as much as I would have liked, I *AM* happy to report being down to 191.2 as of this morning! Which means I've lost nearly 9 pounds from 9/7 - not a remarkable or extraordinary amount, but given I went on vacation and splurged, I am just glad I didn't regain it all!!

Also, I saw a bunch of lovely, lovely Happy 1 Year Anniversary goodies and comments, which just warmed my heart! Thank you, everyone!

On one hand, I feel somewhat bad about celebrating my 1 Year Anniversary of Maintaining, given that I regained nearly 50 pounds. Almost as if I don't "deserve" to celebrate. However, I counter that negative thought by thinking, "Well, you didn't regain the other 60!"

Life has its ups and its downs. What's important is not to focus SO MUCH on the downs that it rules your life and keeps you from moving forward. I could have seen that I gained back 50 pounds and then did like I had done before - thrown up my hands in defeat. But I didn't. I remembered that I STILL kept off those other 60+ pounds. Those are GONE, evaporated into thin air, far, far away, never to return.

So on my 1 Year anniversary, I'm about 38 pounds heavier than I was this time last year. But I'm really not gonna sweat too much about it.

1) I am healthier and more active now than I have been in many years.

2) My doctor is fully aware of my program and pushing for me.

3) My cholesterol, glucose, and blood pressure are doing great.

4) I am enjoying life immensely, doing things I would never have done before and just living life.

5) I *AM* seeing results, in my pants, in the way my knees feel, in the energy that I have.

And really, when it's HEALTH you are focused on anyway, that number that Mr. Scale puts up isn't really so much of a big deal.

  
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MJZHERE 10/22/2014 2:45PM

    Great job looking at the positive and going forward!

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BLUECAFE 10/14/2014 11:56AM

    Too many times we dredge up our failures rather than celebrate our successes. You have every right to be proud of your accomplishments. Weight loss is not a one time thing rather an ongoing journey. It's taken me a long time to realize this.
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SNOWYOGA 10/12/2014 1:45AM

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FORZACHANDMATT 10/9/2014 7:03PM

    Way to go and love your attitude!

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KRISZTA11 10/9/2014 2:58PM

    emoticon to your first maintenance anniversary,
and to your progress!
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DIETROCKSTAR 10/9/2014 1:38PM

    You motivated me! I have been struggling and I started back on medifast today. The only wrong thing to do is to do nothing.

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PRETTYPITHY 10/9/2014 1:35PM

    Awesome! Well done! I'm right behind you weight wise so you're inspiring me very directly!

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MUFFIY831 10/9/2014 9:05AM

    You're doing great and I think you have the right attitude!

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LYNMEINDERS 10/9/2014 4:37AM

    Go you....
You have achieved some great health milestones....keep going you will achieve the rest....
woohoo...go you

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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 10/8/2014 8:52PM

    Yep, that's right. You kept off more than 10% of your starting weight, so most NWCR papers would call that successful maintenance, too.

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Looking forward to celebrating your TWO YEAR anniversary, as well!

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