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HABIT-BREAKING PRINCIPLES

Saturday, October 30, 2010

Yesterday was my double nickel birthday, and although I did not do anything spectacular, well for me, breathing is spectacular. I was born a very happy, cuddly, not wrinkled, reddish brown, with sandy hair, just shy of nine pounds. My life's beginning should have been the pattern for my life, because my delivery was smooth, and peaceful. BUT, along the way, things got in the way. Instead of following God, I had God following me, you see somewhere along the way, my way became my way and stuff happened, but God kept me. I affirm the beginning of my new year by using these Habit-Breaking Principles I worked up for a youth group. Now, listen, I made this for them, did I think to do them? No, not at all, but God, who gave me the faculties to write these, just waited for me patiently to stop butting my head and doing the same old same old and expecting different results. Now as Barry White and others of course have said Practice What You Preach.

1. Admit to yourself that the habit you want to change is really harmful.
My not taking care of my body is a bad habit, It allows my body to obtain illness.

2. Be honest with yourself.
I have lied to me about my weight, that a little bit of this and a little bit won't hurt,
and that I am okay, when I was not. Holding in pain is a lie when I knew I could
not handle it alone, whatever and whenever.

3. Take personal responsibility for your habits.
Bottom line, it is what I ate, when I did not exercise, when I punished myself.

4. Ask God to assist you in reaching your goal.
Asking is received so much more than telling,. I didn't ask. It does not matter what
your faith tradition is, ask of whom you pray for assistance.

5. On a regular basis, read Scriptures that emphasize God's power at work in your life.
Convicted, I did not do this, and I am in the ministry. Please whatever your faith
tradition is, find something that is centering and balancing for you life, that will give
you peace that exceeds all understanding.

6. Examine the habit carefully and determine what it's components are.
This is an honest, butt naked moment. I cried for the living suicide that I was
committing, I saw that this habit was my way of hiding. from living abundantly.

7. Seek the assistance, support and, encouragement of others. Learn from others who have
overcome the habit that you are working on.
I joined Spark People in 2006, and did nothing. I came back in 2010, and
because of you I am. I am far more teachable now, and that is contributing to my
success of living, and not dying.

8. Set some specific goals
My most specific goals at this time, is daily logging in and drinking 12 glasses
of water a day. In my next blog, I will be providing my next goals. I am writing it to
make it plain.

9. Be willing to seek professional help.
I have done for my mind, body and spirit. I was not ashamed to seek counseling. Those
things that we can not understand, make sense of , softly kill our spirits, requires assistance
to make sense of, blend in, and/or eradicate from an objective person. Best time of my life.

10. Keep in mind the reason you want to change the behavior.
FInally, I feel worthy to be alive, and I want to celebrate daily. I love to smile and that
is something that I did not do much of, because I had a deep dark sadness in my soul.

11. Visualize yourself as you will be when you have conquered your undesirable habit.
No one lights a lamp and puts it under a basket. Instead, everyone who lights a lamp puts it
on a lamp stand. Then its light shines on everyone in the house.

12. Fill the vacuum left by the abolition of the bad habit with a good habit.
Daily, I will eat healthy, drink water to hydrate and cleanses, rest well and be positive.
Living Life to the fullest will be my new habit.

13. Do not give up if you have a temporary lapse.
Begin again, remember the input determines the outcome.

14. Be careful of pride once you have licked the habit.
It really to be honest is not something to be done alone, and clearing we are just vessels to
hold the light.

15. Reach back and bring someone with you. Pay it forward to help someone else, and be truly
honest about the process, because it is a process.

I hope someone will consider joining me with these. I do appreciate you reading my blog. Many Blessings for you today and have a happy forever, it is yours just for asking. emoticon emoticon






  
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DEBBIE_C 10/31/2010 12:29AM

    emoticon Love it! I am better for having read it... I commit to implement some changes inspired by your blog. Thanks for sharing it!

~Debbie emoticon

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MORRIS1989 10/30/2010 9:37PM

    I really enjoyed your blog. I am in the habit breaking of stop downing myself. I always feel I am not worth it or anything I say don't matter. But over the years I have gotten better but not completely. I just don't have faith in myself. But I have been asking GOD to help me. I have been exercising and eating right, I lost 26pounds I still have 17 more to go. I am going to do better. Thank you for your blog it made me take alot of things to heart. emoticon

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FITJEANS 10/30/2010 1:16PM

    Love this blog, habit breaking is a great way to get results. I am now in the habit of working out , eating healthy and drinking 8-10 glasses of water a day. The more unhealthy habits i break the more i win. The more i win on the journey called life.
Take care sweet emoticon and have a super emoticonsaturday!

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Grateful for my life

Friday, October 29, 2010

It is past midnight, and I am up. My group presented tonight and we did well. I did dance, and I am grateful for God being a blessing in that. My surprise was that my husband came as well. He wasn't sure, he was being man, but not only did he show up, he was part of our class as well. So, I am grateful.

Today is my birthday, and I am glad to have this day. There was a time when it did not matter. I was not caring for myself because I did not feel loved and I did not love me. But now it a celebration. In the morning, I am heading to spend some time by the water. I like to talk with God on my birthday. Last year, I remembered that I cried because I was unhappy, home was not a home, a resting place, it was a battle ground. Now, I have learned to ride the train and trevel throug the cars, I have learned to begin again, and I have began to look up and see the unlimited sky, instead of looking down and seeing the dust.

A friend sent me this for my day, and I want to share it with you. I do hope you enjoy it. These are the things that I plan to incorporate and practice for the next 12 months. I want each day to be a testament to the goodness of the Lord in my life. I am striving to me the best I can be, with my health, with my mind, body and soul. So I am committing to live the life that I have been called to. Thanks for reading my blog and I hope you enjoy this:

  
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MORRIS1989 10/30/2010 9:40PM

    Happy-Belated Birthday!!! Wishing you many more.

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LYNN-I-CAN2 10/30/2010 7:06PM

    WOW! I love this blog.. U always leave me thinking...
Each day is full of blessings, and sometimes we don't even see them.. Or even count them.. And its a blessing to wake up on your birthday morning and have a wonderful day with family and friends.. I love this blog...

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VW_STEPH 10/30/2010 4:00PM

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY to you!! Enjoy your day & night... you are truly blessed =)
I am back friend to walk beside you in our journey! xxoxx

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FITJEANS 10/30/2010 1:18PM

    Happy emoticon emoticon belative b-day my emoticon. Hope you had a phenomenal emoticon. Another year you are on this earth what a blessing.Heres a bday present emoticon with lots of lo emoticonve.

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SPIDERGIRL502 10/30/2010 11:27AM

    Such a great message! I think sometimes when I'm focusing so much on what I want to be, I forget to be grateful for what I already have!

This is a really inspirational blog! Thanks for sharing it!

And Happy belated Birthday! emoticon

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DOTSLADY 10/30/2010 10:46AM

    Good idea!

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BANKER-CHUCK 10/29/2010 9:21PM

    Happy Birthday! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ALLYALLYT 10/29/2010 8:19PM

    Hope your day was great! Happy Birthday! Love the letter statements-very uplifting! emoticon

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-POOKIE- 10/29/2010 3:12AM

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PAST -Girl Interrupted Now - I am Woman

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Last night I went to dinner with some ladies, and I actually had a nice time. A friend was celebrating her b's. It was nice, since that is not something I often do. I had oysters and they were okay. However, this morning, I was dog tired, and blew off my water aerobics class, but did I pay for it at the noon strength class. I got in a lot of work and felt better for it.

I am going to work out from home tomorrow since I have a presentation on Thursday and my portion is a dance on a chair from Nina Simone's Four Women. Pray for me, I have not danced in a while. I am part of a group of four. One is 60+, two of us are 55 and one 49. We are talking about the Civil Rights and Black Theology. We lived through it, although we were young, but many of the students in the class, were not even born, so that will make it very interesting. It has been a moment since I danced; I am feeling this.

I explained to my daughter that I am now doing things that I put on hold, I guess you could call it , gaining the person that I gave away back. I believe that is the reason that I am finally losing weight.

As for the discouragement from my last blog, that situation is not my reality. I am woman, hear me roar. I am taking this on as a challenge to do my next 9 weeks with gusto. What I like about Sparks, is the teaching that comes from my spark friends. So, now I have learned how to eat better and with that information, I will be hydrated enough, with better nutrition, can do substantial workouts which begin next week. I am going to push forward and get it going. I am breaking through that which I have allowed to interrupt my life. That;s right, I have been girl interrupted.

I wrote my daughter an e-mail tonight, as she is living life on her terms. She is a chemical engineer, and decided to teach english in Japan for two years and sing Jazz; when she returns to the US, she will be enrolled in acting school. She never let anything interrupt her plans, she decided ( oh, I forgot that), and move forward. I decided to take care of everything and not me, and my life was interrupted; One thing I know is that people can only take from you that which you will allow them. I, on the other hand, gave some of me away to people who could not nourish me, simply put, hurting people hurt people. Don't get me wrong, I am not a victim, I am a give and fixer. Now, I am giving to me and fixing on me, and I believe I am better for even those years where I felt interrupted. It is a new day and a new dawn. Let's rock and roll. I have wisdom born of pain! and it was the sweetest pain!

Now I am WOMAN emoticon Hear me roar emoticon, well I could not find a lion. That cat will grow into the lion - for real!!

Here is my song : www.youtube.com/watch?v=FLV4BBmjnzM

  
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DOTSLADY 10/30/2010 10:44AM

    emoticonyou're a tiger, too (cause there's a tiger in your tank!). ;0)

I can relate on "girl interrupted." I had to stop SParking so much cause I wasn't taking care of me - I was caring too much about others. I'm finding a balance, but with me first. I'm getting better health results. yay!
emoticonmew. ;0)

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FITJEANS 10/28/2010 7:51AM

    That sounds awesome i love this blog.

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-POOKIE- 10/26/2010 2:44AM

    You are beautiful!

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DEBBIE_C 10/26/2010 1:01AM

    emoticon Great blog!

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WHEW WHAT A DAY

Saturday, October 23, 2010

I got to clean most of the first floor and the mater bedroom on the second floor house today and yesterday and I am grateful. Now, don't get me wrong, but I just was not functioning well, and it was because I had let my home get yuk. So, I started yesterday afternoon, and did every room in the first floor except my office, and there is such a sweet spirit following through, My office is a tackle on it's own, and when I get to that, I will be throwing stuff out. Once that is done, all of floor one will be done - then selecting paint. I will be putting 1' laminate - that looks so much like hardwood, it is not funny. It will become our library for a moment, with the settee and all. I am thinking a sage color. We still have the basement and garage and the garage will get a burp this week. We want to park our cars in there this winter as it appears it is going to be a rough one. I feel so much better and a since of relief.

I am doing that two pound thing, two up, two down - I told my body, I was not playing volley ball, so what's up? I workout well this week, accepted some challenges and fought well. A few days, I was tired as all get out, and body wanted to sleep well, but I made us get up to get to getting' and I am glad I did. Nov2, starts a new set of classes, and one is metabolic something, and it is designed to burn fat. My P.T. consultant thought it would be good, but how about the instructor telling, me, " well it is going to be very difficult and you might want to think about." And how about me, as a paying person, ignoring her. It bothered me, and I found it somewhat discouraging, but all my life, I let people tell me what I could and could not do, and I was fat. Hear me: I AM NOT GOING TO LET ANYONE PUSH ME AROUND!! I am going to hydrate, eat well, and do it as BEST I CAN! I am doing this for me, and not anyone else and if I need a modification, then I will get a modification. NO MORE MISS LAZY or MISS I CAN't. I CAN AND I WILL.

When, what a day. I am tired and happy cause I am in the land of clean. Have a great evening. emoticon

  
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LYNN-I-CAN2 10/25/2010 1:58AM

    U know, that makes me mad.. U work hard at getting somewhere and someone always comes in with that under cover you can't.. U might want to think about that..

I remember a while back... Talking to one of my trainers, and told him what someone had told me about STRENGTH TRAINING.

Now, this one lady told me.. My friend told me we can't spot train.. He told me.. My trainer and a few others.. If you work on your core every morning with 100-200 crunches daily.. That's spot training.. He said.. The next time she talks about her daily crunches.. U tell her she is STRENGTH TRAINING one area, and you can- because she is..

People like that makes me sick..
U might wanna stomp them out like a little bug, but just do what you been doing.. LOOK up.. And say. GOD forgive me and forgive them too.. Forgive you for the anger and forgive them for being a fool.. Works for me, and it really helps keep my anger down..

U are going to kick that volley ball match and win with 15 points. Just stay focus on what you are doing..

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DEBBIE_C 10/23/2010 11:48PM

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JAVAJUNKIE0920 10/23/2010 10:08PM

    Way to go girl! You aren't gonna let anything or anyone get you down!
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CELEBRATE YOURSELVES

Friday, October 22, 2010

I want to thank you for being who you are. It is safe and warm and loving, Why do I want you to celebrate you today because I know I can because of you. I know that you are here to encourage, make suggestions and chastise gracefully. I know you will pray and I know you will smile. I know you care and that is so important.

This week sent me some gifts that I was not expecting - infact these gifts were not what I wanted, but I must tell you, these gift are called gifts now because they are an opportunity for some immense growth in me - from the spirit sometimes that it is not authentic to the dancer in me that needs to come out. These gifts make me know from whence my help comes and why my help comes. These gifts could have been tragic, but instead they are designed to make me appreciate me more and pour from my belly so much love for who I am, so I can love you with the sincerity and joy that you deserve, and that is why I want you to celebrate yourself.

Now go to the mirror of your soul and thank it for that kindness that you have shown me. We have 71 days left in this year and for me, I am going to make each and everyone count by taking care of me, with kindness.

You may be a bit confused, but I realized my body had been talking in tongues and I was not getting get the translation right; I thought I was being attacked, instead, I am being taught how to live and walk that living walk. I am being taught to speak truth to power and expect a return. I am being taught more and more how to love unconditionally. And so my beautiful friends, Please as we enter this weekend, celebrate yourselves on me, you are one great, giving, loving, positive, strong, spirited, generous, gentle, joyful, compassionate, and beautiful group of people. And to help you celebrate, sing this song to yourself, because that is how you love me and I thank you. If you feel that it is not true, keep singing it until it is in your spirit and you can separate yourself from those words. I am working on that now!

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JAVAJUNKIE0920 10/23/2010 10:12PM

    Very encouraging...thank you!
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CMDOUBLE 10/23/2010 8:41PM

    Great words from a great lady. Thank you!

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-POOKIE- 10/22/2010 5:05AM

    Beautiful blog xxx

*hugs*

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LYNN-I-CAN2 10/22/2010 1:09AM

    I LOVE THIS BLOG!
And I will celebrate myself, but most of all.. I have to celebrate our union as friends too..



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