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Special Me #15: Resilience

Thursday, May 19, 2011

I may get "down," be in tears, or feel desperate sometimes, but never for long. No matter how dark things seem, before I know it I'm bouncing back--seemingly out of the blue. This amazes me. Sometimes I sit there thinking, "Okay, where's the bounceback? I could use it now!" And eventually it always comes.

If you were to ask where resilience comes from, some scientists claim it's from your upbringing. Even those who have had a dismal childhood, with lousy parents, can, if they find the right role model in a neighbor, teacher, or relative, emerge resilient.

I was lucky enough to have an idyllic childhood, almost too free of want or worry, and I could have been terribly spoiled. Although they were a bit self-absorbed, my parents were successful, handsome, never out of work, and never fighting. I had no siblings to share their attentions. We weren't rich, but we weren't poor either. Though my parents didn't own any property when I was growing up, we lived in beautiful historic houses filled with antiques from their dealership and oil paintings that both of them created. We took regular vacations, and I had all the books I could read.

And now, of course, I've got Bill, whose presence really makes life happier and boosts my reslience, even in the rough times. And he's resilient, too!

Plus, look at that, the sun just came out after a week of rain! How symbolic!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 5/30/2011 11:07PM

    I had the dismal childhood but I am tough as nails as we both know. I always say that I could live in a box in the ditch if I needed to.

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SILLYHP1953 5/21/2011 2:41PM

    I think having love in your life helps resilience, but that is my personal thought.

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_LINDA 5/20/2011 12:30AM

    You are just amazing Suzy!! That is all there is too it! Some people have it, some don't, but you have it in spades! Its how you were put together!
Keep on finding that sunshine!
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SCREWIE 5/19/2011 9:15PM

    It's lovely to be able to bounce back from whatever life throws at you :)

It makes everything more fun, even the things that do not appear very nice at first glance.

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JOYINKY 5/19/2011 8:43PM

    Yep, I knew you were resilient too! You are doing a great job on this project! WTG!

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PATTYSH 5/19/2011 8:17PM

    Bouncing back is a great quality to have! I never doubted it for one minute. Anyone who can bounce back time after time with all the yuck you've gone through, has got to have a boatload of resilience in your make up!

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HJFOGARTY 5/19/2011 7:36PM

    I hear you and you are so right - and growing up like you have allowed you to see what needs to be done in what ever situation you have - and I'm glad you have Bill - you are amazing and you really are such an inspiration! continue to take care of you

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VEENAS1 5/19/2011 7:33PM

    Resilence is the one thing I have known you have. You have survived so many terrible things recently. I hope you continue to get up if you are down and I am glad you have Bill. And yes DC even got a little sunshine!

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RWETHAIRYET 5/19/2011 4:34PM

    hmmm, now my childhood doesn't sound anywhere near as "Idyllic" as yours, but resilience is definitely still one of my traits. In fact, I'd say my resilience came from trying to cope with the arguing and fighting, the alcohol, etc etc And on the days when I wonder if I'd really survived that upbringing I take a good look at my sisters and figure I"ve survived it way better than them.
So personally, I think it's just something built into your core personality. You're either born with that trait...or not.

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BETHGILLIGAN 5/19/2011 3:21PM

    I envy that resilience! I guess I've got some or I wouldn't have survived to this ripe old age. I just wish I could bounce back a little faster and a little easier. I can stay "down" for quite awhile if I don't really work at getting back up.

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LAURELSPARK 5/19/2011 1:43PM

    I bought a book on resilience years ago. According to the author, resilience is so important to kid's school (and life) success. I share your strength.


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NEW-CAZ 5/19/2011 12:53PM

    Lovely to hear of your upbringing Suzy.
Lovely too that you don't stay knocked down for long, your positive outlook and reslilance shines through. emoticon

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NORASPAT 5/19/2011 12:26PM

    Nice to hear your story about growing up.
I guess I was on the other end Poor but happily that experience gave me determination and resilience also.
I hope the sun is heading in our direction Hugs Pat in Maine. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Special Me #14: Keep a Sense of Humor

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

When you start to look at life like John Irving does (think "The World According to Garp" or "The Hotel New Hampshire"), and when your life starts looking back at you in that same way, then you know you're finding humor in the worst possible situations. Stuff like: Plane crashes in the ocean, family goes down, someone survives by floating atop the stuffed family dog. That's what I'm talkin' about. Cue laugh track.

Four months ago, my ex was court-ordered to put the family home of the past thirty-plus years on the market and to find another place for himself, my two adult children who live with him, and a 140-pound dog the size of a small horse. Much pain, hysterical shrieking, and payment of attorney retainers preceded and followed this decree. My son stopped talking to me entirely. There was a suicide attempt (faked, and solely for effect, but never mind). I had to endure two stressful legal appearances, a demand for every conceivable document from the last 7 years of my life, and threats of equity court, alimony, prison, and deposition under oath.

In retrospect, I see in this all the elements of a screwball comedy. We are in court, before the judge, who is ordering, very matter-of-factly, that the house be sold and the proceeds split. The ex's response is to turn to his attorney and inquire, audibly, "Can we bring criminal charges now?" emoticon

An even more bizarre series of events ensues, involving the actual sale process. (a) I haven't been allowed in the house in years. (b) My ex doesn't answer his phone or open his mail, which makes showings and meetings with the realtor awkward, to say the least. (c) When the realtor finally manages to gain entry, by screwing up his courage and knocking on the door, he discovers a real estate nightmare worse than "Hoarders" or "Gray Gardens." His little "Tips for a Successful Sale" handout about having soft music playing, flowers in vases, and clean countertops for showings is a joke. One basement door is padlocked, and one can only guess what's behind it. The dog/horse (which has, by the way, bitten the ex's attorney and holds all visitors to the home at bay) has had the run of the house because ex has stated that it's "too dangerous" to walk it outdoors, and has used the house liberally for its massive elimination needs. The place smells, and anyone who goes inside comes back out feeling itchy. (d) Realtor determines that the only way to list this hell-hole suitable only for teardown is to have the court order the ex to begin by filling a dumpster with the "clutter."

A date is set for said dumpster to be obtained and filled. That date passes. Realtor, me, and two attorneys, all jumping up and down at once, cannot compel ex to get the thing and start filling it. His attorney finally obtains a dumpster FOR him. He proceeds to fill it at his leisure, claiming a sprained wrist and bad back. Realtor reports to me, weeks later, that ex isn't loading the dumpster right. Tables are being tossed in topside up, with huge spaces underneath; hunks of ripped-out carpeting are being thrown in higgledy-piggledy. The basement door remains padlocked. Ex tells realtor that he has plans to fix the house's electrical system and roof--which should be quite useful activities, given that it's a teardown. I remind realtor that I don't even try to communicate with this lunatic any longer and that he should contact his lawyer instead.

The house is never listed on MLS, because it simply can't be. But somehow an angel of a developer makes an amazing offer on the house, no strings attached except that everyone has to move out and clear it out as much as possible. This is wonderful!

I find out that it isn't a short sale, as I'd feared, because some secondary liens aren't really liens on the property because of screwed-up paperwork years ago. This, too, is wonderful!

What does the ex do? Of course, he signs the purchase and sale, then goes berserk and announces that he's going to march to the bank (on a Sunday) and force them to "make" it a short sale despite everything. My son wisely decides that he has had enough insanity, gets the hell out of there, and goes to live with a friend. My ex fakes a suicide attempt with, it turns out, a replica flintlock that shoots only wax wads and leaves a dent in the floor. (If he were trying to shoot his head off, wouldn't there be a dent in the ceiling, I wonder? Well, never mind.) My son and I call the police when we learn of this. The street is blocked off, helicopters circle the neighborhood, hordes of police cars arrive, flashing and wailing. The ex is hauled off to a mental hospital for a week. My daughter is home alone with dog-too-dangerous-to-walk and a refrigerator that doesn't work except for its freezer. She gamely claims that she's okay as long as she has some frozen dinners and fresh fruit.

The realtor's expected lifespan is now reduced by about ten years because the ex hasn't found a place to live yet, his lawyer is incommunicado, and the angel of a buyer--an impatient man, we're told--wants to have the closing sooner.

Ex arrives back home from loony bin and somehow finds an apartment. (This place actually allows 140-pound horses inside??) Daughter is thrilled with it and no longer wants to leave and go live in her own place. I am not allowed to know the address, because I'll no doubt have my minions casing the joint and planting listening devices.

The closing date is in a week, we're signing all kinds of papers, and there's no sign of moving vans, storage pods, or even a signed lease for the new apartment.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 5/23/2011 12:09AM

    I loved Irving as a teen. This ordeal has certainly had it's fair share of quirkiness but all good things must come to an end. LOL. And even this shall pass. I hate to see your daughter move back in with the nut.

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PATTYSH 5/19/2011 9:22AM

    Oh my goodness, Sue! Though I've known some of this before, to read it all at once is very much like a soap opera. Maybe you can sell the movie rights to Hollywood and make a fortune!

No wonder you're such a strong woman!!

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SCREWIE 5/19/2011 7:58AM

    You're right, you've got to laugh... Some times it's the only way :)


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SILLYHP1953 5/18/2011 9:21PM

    I must agree with you writing a book or sreenplay, too. But until you're ready for the big time, I'm perfectly happy learning about your life as you see fit to share it. I could write some wild stories, too, except one of my coping devices is to forget the bad things that happened. And that's as an adult, not just as a child. I do keep journals off and on, so all is not forgotten. I did not laugh at this blog/story because I have lived in that type of craziness and feel the pain, and I thank god you do have your sense of humor.

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HJFOGARTY 5/18/2011 8:24PM

    wow sue you really do need to write a book about all this - it would be a best seller - you've got it all - and with a smile - I know that it hasn't been easy and I'm glad that after it is all said and done you can look back and laugh - you need to - it has been hell on a rollercoaster and being pulled by a 140 lb dog/horse! haha I'm continuing to pray that it does all end for you and the house sells - and you can move on with your life - and remember if you end up needing any help - I do have a bobcat! haha I love demolition! haha

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RWETHAIRYET 5/18/2011 4:46PM

    Did you ever think of writing a screenplay??? This stuff is better than soap operas, haha.
As long as you can keep laughing, you're doing just fine. Laughing beats crying any day, and helps keep you on the right side of that fine line called sanity.
Now I wish you would stop stealing my traits, because that was what I was going to write about today. emoticon

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MEADSBAY 5/18/2011 1:57PM

    Lordy, lordy- some things are so sad you HAVE to laugh!


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_LINDA 5/18/2011 1:50PM

    Just sitting here with my mouth agape emoticon emoticon emoticon
So wish you could be free of this nutter once and for all :((
I would like to know if this new place he is renting even knows if he has this huge dog? I have my doubts.. Surprised your daughter still wants to live with this man. Talk about the blind leading the blind..
Really, you can laugh about it, but this has just been going on for way too long.
Looking forward to the day we can all celebrate you are finally, finally free!!
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JOYINKY 5/18/2011 1:23PM

    You are amazing! With your talent, I'm wondering when the book will come out and if you've sold the movie rights yet? I got so engrossed in the read that I had to stop and skim back to the top to recheck the title! That was with knowing the plot! Seriously, I hope the transaction goes smoothly and that you are soon able to close this chapter. So glad you can see the humor and take it one day at a time! Be well.

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BIONICBETH 5/18/2011 1:04PM


You are my psychological hero. You would be filthy rich if you could bottle that mind-set and sell it!

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NEW-CAZ 5/18/2011 12:52PM

    Suzy if you didn't smile/laugh you'd cry hun.
You are one STRONG SASSY LADY to have come through all that with some sanity intact.
Indeed you have needed an awesome sense of humour and a positive attitude to have survived at all!
I hope this dreadful emotionally sapping ordeal is almost over for you and you can get on with your life with your fantastic Bill.

Fingers (and everything else crossable) crossed for you!

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HAPPYSOUL91 5/18/2011 12:51PM

    Sorry for your pain, don'tknow how you have held it together.

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Special Me #13: Working through Aches 'n' Pains

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Ever since I read a book by John Sarno about the mind-body connection, I've been acknowledging that most of the structural aches and pains that I feel are NOT a physical problem, but rather manifestations of stress and anger that my mind is reluctant to grapple with. Oh, I've got touches of arthritis and slight scoliosis all right, but that's no reason to be held back. Now when I get a new ache or pain, I mentally yell at it to quit that, that I know it isn't serious, and that I plan to continue on! The pain goes right away, too.

Mind you, I don't have anything major wrong with my body like so many others here, but I refuse to be held back by a popping knee, frozen shoulder, or lower back pain any more! (I can't run. I do acknowledge that. My knee just gets much more painful when I even try, so walking is just fine by me.)

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MORTICIAADDAMS 5/22/2011 11:59PM

    I push through pain too. If I didn't I would be stuck in a bad place - my wheelchair. I won't go there willingly.

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NORASPAT 5/18/2011 8:16AM

    I am a great beleiver in the mind over matter theory. I have done the biofeedback and discovered my controlled childhood gave me a controlled body. It has taken years for me to be able to RELAX my muscles.
After my back surgery for ruptured discs from lifting a heavy object. I went to PT and as usual could nor relax so i went back to Yoga. I do not do the classes any more I know the poses that get the pain to remit. I guess that is also mind over matter-the Mind-Body response.
Thanks for reading and responding to my blogs I really do appreciate the in put.
As soon as I get to Portland for my Skate I will find out restaurants that are serving it. As soon as i know I will let you know. Pat in Maine.

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SCREWIE 5/18/2011 3:25AM

    I'm the opposite. After crashing to a halt a few years ago with a nervous breakdown, after years of ignoring stuff and pushing on, I now stop dead in my tracks at the slightest whisper, and look into what's wrong and work it out of my system before I start going again.

It's not jut with pain but with just about anything. If I can feel something wrong, it means I need to look at whatever it is and fix it before it gets out of hand.

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SILLYHP1953 5/17/2011 8:55PM

    Luckily I grew up in a family that was rarely sick or hurt or injured so it comes naturally to me to believe I do not get sick, hurt, or injured.

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_LINDA 5/17/2011 8:50PM

    Great attitude!! I can't run either, big deal, its not for everyone, and just getting out and doing it is a great accomplishment! Walking is great, and gives you time to enjoy the scenery around you -I have the problem of gawking too much -one of these days, I will walk into something lol.
Is there anything that can be done about your back pain? I am getting physiotherapy that is finally starting to work..
Keep up the great work!
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HJFOGARTY 5/17/2011 8:37PM

    well I love it - I often talk to myself but I think for different reasons! lol - but really this does work - I know when running I will get "stress" pains and I have to tell myself to knock it off because I'm not stopping til I'm done and it usually goes away and I continue on - I stress about the run and if I can finish and if I allowed it I would talk myself right out of even trying - and that just won't happen! so I do believe you are on the right path - just listen when your body screams back at ya! lol continue to take care of you and thanks for sharing! you are simply awesome!

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RWETHAIRYET 5/17/2011 4:01PM

    I usually have that attitude, but its been a struggle in recent months.
It's the same attitude that keeps me going to work no matter what, I might as well go to work hurting...maybe I'll get busy enough to forget about it, haha.
Of course it also helps that all my paid time is bundled together and I'd so much rather use it for fun things, not being sick.

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NEW-CAZ 5/17/2011 12:28PM

    wonderful attitude!

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JOYINKY 5/17/2011 9:16AM

    You do a great job of this! WTG!

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MEADSBAY 5/17/2011 8:31AM

    Wow- I've heard about mind over body, but...
I think my sis has this philosophy as well.
She ignored many aches and pains for years- until she couldn't get out of a car without help.
Turns out she had Lyme's which would have responded much better to earlier treatment.


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BETHGILLIGAN 5/17/2011 8:01AM

    Love that attitude!!

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RD03875 5/17/2011 7:02AM

    Way to go! I am enjoying reading these!

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Special Me #12: Naivete

Sunday, May 15, 2011

I am a very trusting soul, always believing the best of people. You all know this to be so, given my experiences with my ex. I am taken aback when someone turns on me, because as far as I can see in my happy little heart, there's no reason for it, ever. Of course this special thing, too, has an obvious down side: that I can easily be taken by surprise or advantage of, and that I don't understand or play office politics at all.

We recently lost a very good friend, my first BFF in a long, long time. I was totally trusting of her seemingly unconditional friendship with me and Bill, and it saddens and perplexes both of us that there's such a rift now. We were in a tight financial spot, having to pay my lawyer, a few weeks ago. Bill, who is the brave one about such matters, asked her if we could borrow using one of her unused credit cards. "No problem," she says, because she has bailed us out in the past and knows we're always good for it, within a month.

Then a very peculiar series of events took place. We need work done around the house before putting it on the market, and she recommended a handyman whom she knows. We've heard pros and cons about this guy lately, so Bill checked with another mutual friend, who also hires this fellow, before contacting him. The mutual friend was leery of this because of drug problems, yada, yada. When our friend heard this from us, she exploded and accused us of betrayal, throwing the borrowed money in our faces as if that obligated us to work with whomever she suggested, regardless of good sense or of getting advice from elsewhere. She later apologized to me only, but not to Bill, who is the one who really deserves the apology because he handled all the transactions and, we feel, did nothing wrong.

This is a bizarre situation, and Bill is planning on contacting her, just to get an explanation, if not an outright apology.

I'm not going to stop trusting other people after being sucker-punched, because it's part of my nature. Lesson learned, though: Neither a borrower nor a lender be. The fear of being "beholden" after borrowing money is strong in me and has been reinforced by my friend's apparent assumption that we were totally beholden because we borrowed from her. I suspect this might be a New England, or at least an East Coast, trait, because I know that other cultures don't view loans in this way. (In many cultures, you're a fool if you lend money and deserve whatever happens to you, lol!)

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MORTICIAADDAMS 5/22/2011 11:57PM

    It's a mantra here too to never be a borrower or lender. And hubby and I have had plenty of opportunity to see the truth in it. He loaned a new tent and it was destroyed - returned unusable. I lent a favorite book which was eaten by a dog. Had I done such things I would have replaced the destroyed property but they did not. Lesson learned. People here also have some strange concepts of gifts similar to your friend's strange idea of indebtedness. I had a boyfriend who bought me gifts as I did him and when I had to break up with him because he was too possessive he threw it up into my face that he had spent a lot of money on me in anticipation of marrying him even though I clearly told him it would never happen. Some people are control freaks and to be honest, they bother me. Your friend sounds like one of them as she has blown up over something strangely insignificant.

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SILLYHP1953 5/17/2011 8:52PM

    I am also a very trusting person. As I grow older, and hopefully wiser, I am still trusting but more discerning.

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RWETHAIRYET 5/16/2011 5:00PM

    hmm, so what's really going on with her? Something below the surface.
Me, I don't really trust anyone. Saves some grief and heartache along the way, but comes with it's own cost.

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PATTYSH 5/16/2011 3:33PM

    Some people will always hold that kind of thing over your head. That's a shame really. It hurts to lose a friend who you thought you had. I don't blame you for feeling hurt and sad.

You have a good heart---keep it that way.

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LIBBYFITZ 5/16/2011 5:45AM

    emoticonThere is always something happening in life to teach us lessons, never too old to learn! So Sorry this has happened. emoticon

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SCREWIE 5/16/2011 4:23AM

    I'm a bit naive too. I'd rather keep being surprised by other people's thoughtlessness (or some time downright nastiness) than thinking people on the whole are not a nice lot :)

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JOYINKY 5/15/2011 11:42PM

    We do keep growing and learning. Sorry this rift has happened; hope it does mend but it will take a lot on her part. Once things are said even an apology doesn't change that. I agree with others; something else is going on here. Still, really good friends are a treasure; time will tell if that's what she is.

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MONTY68 5/15/2011 10:54PM

    Hi Sue
A very interesting Blog. I think that you need to continue being a trusting person. Personally, I think there is something deeper with your friend. Her reaction, is weird and has nothing or should have nothing to do with the loan transaction. She should apologise to Bill.
I guess you are right about neither a borrower nor lender be. About 3 years ago, a close friend of mine, needed $10,000 and I agreed to put it on my card. She never made a payment.
Hopefully Bill can get this straightened out and your friendship can be healed.
As I said, keep that part of you that trusts others, it will serve you well in life.

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HJFOGARTY 5/15/2011 10:17PM

    OHH I hear you on this one - all I can say is been there done that - I wish you well and hope it resolves soon - I wish you luck and hopefully not a lost friendship. however I also think you shouldn't change you - it is after all the whole package that makes up a person and this one tiny piece is just as special as the rest! continue being you - you are awesome!

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BETHGILLIGAN 5/15/2011 7:11PM

    Wow! I am so sorry to hear this situation!! Hopefully, you and Bill can get it worked out and find out what's really going on with her! Don't lose your trusting heart! It brings more good than pain!!! Your house is going up for sale??????? Really?? Are you moving to Florida? what about jobs? HMMMMMM!

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JERIBERI1 5/15/2011 5:01PM

    Wow. There has to be something else going on with her. Why should she care who you hire? That's sad that your friendship has taken a bad hit due to money. I hope maybe she was just having a bad day, and you can soon move past it and regain your friendship.

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_LINDA 5/15/2011 4:00PM

    Money is for sure a touchy subject. So sorry you had this experience :( I hope things can be mended. Would have expected better behavior from a best friend though, that is not being naive.
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SCOOTER4263 5/15/2011 3:06PM

    This situation sounds more complicated than a straight-forward money issue - your former friend's over the top reaction suggests there's more here than meets the eye, and her hitting you over the head with the loan was just because that weapon was handy.

In my life. I've been wealthy and I've been dead broke. I've lent and I've borrowed, been a millionaire and been in bankruptcy, and in the end none of it matters. Honestly, right now I should be in absolute panic mode over money, but I'm not, and it's not denial, it's just...not something that I sweat about. It's like when people realize that food is fuel rather than love - it can still be fun, and we still need at least some of it to live, but it isn't life itself, and going without for a little while isn't going to kill us. If you need money, borrow it. If someone else needs it and you've got extra, lend it. It'll all work out.

Meanwhile, hang onto your happy little heart. I believe that if you speak to the highest part of a person, that helps them to lift themselves in their own life path. Expect the best from people. You may not get their best every time, but you don't allow yourself to fall to their level. It doesn't mean that you're somehow superior; just that you don't let their issues get in the way of your joy. LIsten to your happy little heart - it won't lead you astray.

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NEW-CAZ 5/15/2011 1:56PM

    My mum told me eons ago never a borrower or a lender be and I've stuck to that.
If I give a someone/a friend money I do so not expecting it's return it's a gift! Pure and simple.!

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GATOR12 5/15/2011 1:18PM

    I've had so many mis-communications w/money involved mainly w/family members so like you, neither a borrower nor a lender be NOW!

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MT-MOONCHASER 5/15/2011 12:38PM

    The money issue has ruined many a relationship. I don't have any words of wisdom here, but a lot of people, when they are owed money by someone, think that they ought to dictate any spending decisions that are made until they are paid...

Good luck with this situation. I hope the fences can be mended..


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Special Me #11: Routines

Saturday, May 14, 2011

I'm not sure whether this is a good thing, but I'm very regular about sticking to routines. This comes in handy with Sparking, because no matter what's flying loose in my life, I adhere to tracking nutrition, tracking fitness, posting on message boards, tracking water, walking 5 miles a day, and sticking within my calorie range. The down side of this one is that it sometimes tries to interfere with spontaneous fun! The up side is that it keeps me grounded in something when I need to be, and it isn't bad for me.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 5/22/2011 11:36PM

    I'm the same way to the point that if I can't do my routines, like now, I get stressed.

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SILLYHP1953 5/17/2011 8:49PM

    Being grounded is important. Put on the miniskirt and leather jacket, you'll have spontaneous fun.

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RWETHAIRYET 5/16/2011 4:58PM

    I don't mind routines, i need some structure to my day.
I despise ruts.

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HAPPYSOUL91 5/15/2011 9:14AM

    I agree that routines keeps us focused and happy. But if your routine goes by the side of the road because of things that are beyond your control, don't let it cause you to spin away and make you lose your balance.

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JOYINKY 5/15/2011 8:22AM

    My routines go out the window when I have a weekend like this. I am doing great nutritionally but fitness routines are non existent. That's stressful for me even though we are having a great time. After 4 days I'll be really happy to get back to my routines. Life is good!

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SCREWIE 5/15/2011 4:38AM

    That's one thing I'm bad at, but should really practice on!

Well done you for sticking with it :)

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HJFOGARTY 5/14/2011 10:51PM

    I think sticking to routines is a great asset but still allows for a bit of fun too - just another reason you are awesome! hope you have a great weekend

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JUSFOLK 5/14/2011 9:45PM

    I hope spontaneous fun wins out sometimes!

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CARTOONB 5/14/2011 9:17PM

    I like ruts...I mean routines! emoticon

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PATTYSH 5/14/2011 9:15PM

    I think everyone does better with routines. It is what makes us feel safe and secure, too. You've obviously found a routine that works for you, so emoticon

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BETHGILLIGAN 5/14/2011 7:57PM

    Routine is a good thing. It is easy for my routine to turn into rigidity--that is NOT good!

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NEW-CAZ 5/14/2011 6:43PM

    Routines are what ground us- there's room for fun too.
I spark like you do Suz emoticon emoticon

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GINIEMIE 5/14/2011 5:38PM

    I have not been good at sticking to a routine. I do track my nutrition and water when I have computer access. My fitness, I'm a little less consistant with. So I admire you, because you travel and can still maintain your routine.

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MONTY68 5/14/2011 5:26PM

    Hi Sue
I feel sticking to routines is a great way to live. I pretty much stick to mine when it comes to exercise and walking. I have had to adjust some things to make sure I do all my tracking on Spark. I do get behind on commenting, but try to catch up. Sometimes I feel I could be a little more flexible when something comes up. As with everything there needs to be balance in life.

Thanks for sharing

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_LINDA 5/14/2011 4:16PM

    Sticking to routines is a GREAT thing! This is what makes you successful at living the healthy lifestyle. If you weren't consistent, you would probably be backsliding.
Here is to being dull, same old, same old, but a ROARING SUCCESS!!
Go Suzy, GO!

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SCOOTER4263 5/14/2011 3:56PM

    I certainly think it's a good thing. In my world, "spontaneous fun" frequently translates to "impending disaster". When the children were little, I was extremely good at keeping them to routines - I think routines are soothing for children - but once they grew up and left, so did my adherence to daily schedules. I'm trying gently to reinstitute a little routine in my life.

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