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Occasionally I Will Get Surly

Monday, January 11, 2010

I was shopping for a few things in a small market this morning. I used one of the baskets that stores have stacked up front to carry my items. As I was checking out, I put the now empty basket on the cashiers bagging area.

She says to me "That basket goes in the front of the store where you picked it up"
And I said (now here comes the Surly part) "Then I guess that's where you will have to put it"

Now, I ask you - was I wrong? Seriously! The customer needs to put stuff away ?! Really?! If I take a cart into the parking lot - will someone chastise me for leaving next to where I parked ?!?

Occasionally - I will get Surly

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SUZEEEK 1/21/2010 3:28PM

    OMG that has happened to me several times - I put the basket on the conveyor belt and the cashier tells me to put it back with the other baskets.

I always apologize and do it (what can I say, I'm Canadian!) I wish I had the balls to say something back!

Way to go!

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TUFFYBIRD 1/12/2010 8:09PM

    I agree with GSCOTTC that a wee chat is in order ... there is behaviour that is appropriate in a job and behaviour that is not! I think this qualifies as the second. No, I think you were perfectly justified!

Talk soon.


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GSCOTTC 1/12/2010 12:21AM

    I am a District manager for 10 Retail/Grocery operations. If I heard any of my staff make that type of a comment to a customer, we would be having a wee chat in the private office. That kind of attitude just ticks me off.


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DIANAS4597 1/11/2010 11:37PM

    LOL!!! That is great! I would have done the same thing. Cause you know its not like they pay them for that or anything!!!
Surly is good. Some times you just need to be!

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KATELOSS2009 1/11/2010 11:23PM

    LOL - now I know why we seem to "connect" so well - I would have said something very similar... you know, you just reach that point in your life where you're done taking the garbage that some people continually dish out.

it's NOT the customer's job to tidy up the store.

you did good, honey.


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LABYRINTH 1/11/2010 9:54PM

    I can understand getting Surly - right now though, post-Christmas I feel sorry for cashiers. I was at Target during Christmas, and the very pregnant cashier had been working all day. We discussed buying presents and what a tough year it was for many; she confided she had four more kids at home and what they would be getting would be very little. :(

OTOH I really wish stores would pay their personnel to collect baskets, carts and CLEAN THEIR BATHROOMS!


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ROSIE777 1/11/2010 9:20PM

    Sorry the cashier was so rude with you. . . I agree with you how did she expect you to put it back holding your grocery bags in hand...Hmmmmm? I do hope the rest of your day was better. emoticon

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IMREITE 1/11/2010 9:16PM

    Most register lanes have a shelf were they can hold the baskets till a store employee will pick them up.

the cashier was a little rude. i find myself wanting to get snippy with peiople who are to f#$%ing lazy/incompetant to do their job!

sorry, i needed to vent a little. As lonmg as you don't take the surliness out on your family/friends.

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Waiting for Tests and Results

Monday, January 11, 2010

So I went to the doctor this morning because I've been dealing with a few issues. I'm always cold lately (even when it's 70-80 degrees outside) and sometimes my fingers get numb.
Also, I suffer from migraines which had abated for several years, but are now coming back to haunt me every 4-8 weeks or so.
Also, my right heel often hurts and it's painful to stand,walk, run, treadmill, kickbox - well you get the idea.

The doc took 12 vials of blood to check for various things like thyroid function and to rule out some auto-immune diseases (like lupus). He also wants to do a nerve function test, which we'll do in his office Thursday afternoon, to get a better handle on the fingers/toes numbness issue.

The MRI on my brain is too be sure that my migraines are just migraines and not an embolism or a tumor or something equally as horrifying.

We're also going to do a foot Xray to rule out a stress fracture or bone spur on my heel.

The doctor's suggestion to relieve my foot pain was to rest it and stay off my feet. Yeah Right! - He doesn't know me very well - does he?!? Anyway, I took a week off during Christmas and my foot felt better, but now that I'm back to my regular routine, it hurts again - so rest is NOT the answer.

I'll know more next week and until then I refuse to worry about what might be. I'll just dress warmly, carry extra layers of clothes in the car and use my gel heel inserts.

I'm off to the gym to get in some extra cardio and weights before kickboxing class because I was away over the weekend and missed 3 hours of gym time.

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SASSAGAIN 1/12/2010 8:19PM

    Sounds like you and your doctor are a good team! I'm hoping those tests come back for you soon and know they will explain what has been happening!

Thinking about you!

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LABYRINTH 1/11/2010 10:00PM

    Hm from reading your blog I'm happy to hear your doctor is taking this seriously! A lot of times they just blow us women off (hypochrondics says the doctors). Hope though they find something minor to explain all these things.

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LITTLE_DEBBIE 1/11/2010 8:16PM

    Here's to better days ahead! Let us know what you find out! Glad you are still making it happen in spite of these health issues! emoticon

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AXREAH 1/11/2010 6:07PM


I'm sooo...sorry to hear of all your issues. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers----that everything will be okay and that you suffer from no major health issues.

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THENAMESLISA 1/11/2010 5:58PM

    Hope they get to the bottom of it soon...the waiting is the worst part.

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KATELOSS2009 1/11/2010 5:02PM

    holy cow... you'll be in my prayers that it's something tiny and not anything major.

the waiting sucks. prayers inbound for that, too.


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DAWNO64 1/11/2010 4:50PM

    I don't know about the rest of it, but if it's your heel that hurts and it's worse when you first stand up in the morning, look at info on Plantar Fasciitis. I've been dealing with it myself, and it's no fun at all!

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PHONEBUG 1/11/2010 4:26PM

    Sorry you are dealing with all of this. I can relate as I am having some health issues right now myself.

Hope the tests come back with some answers!


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FOR THE GIRLS - Funny, Please read !

Thursday, January 07, 2010


One for the girls
Now I lay me down to sleep
I pray the Lord my shape to keep.
Please no wrinkles, Please no bags
And please lift my butt before it sags.
Please no age spots, Please no gray
And as for my belly, Please take it away
Please keep me healthy, Please keep me young,
And thank you Dear Lord, For all that you've done.

Five tips for a woman....
1. It is important that a man helps you around the house and has a job.
2. It is important that a man makes you laugh.
3. It is important to find a man you can count on and doesn't lie to You.
4. It is important that a man loves you and spoils you.
5. It is important that these four men don't know each other.

Foot Note:
One saggy boob said to the other saggy boob:
'If we don't get some support soon, people will think we're nuts.'

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FLABSNIPER 1/11/2010 12:20PM


OMG my coworkers think I'm nuts, I'm sitting here giggling like a twit. Thanks, needed that.

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CHELANDJ 1/9/2010 3:42PM

    LOVE this! emoticon

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LUCKY1333 1/8/2010 10:58AM

    LOL, this is great. I'm def gonna share this with people...

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SHANNOND5 1/8/2010 10:39AM

    Loved this

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FITSPIRATION 1/8/2010 8:42AM

  I love it! lol. Especially about the 4 diff guys... ha ha. Mine has 3.5 out of the 4. For 2010 he needs to spoil me more. :o)

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2_NEW_HORIZONS 1/8/2010 3:38AM

    Thanks for making me smile!

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CSIENK 1/7/2010 10:38PM

    Love those five tips about the four men Carolanne.
It made me emoticon

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LINDA25427 1/7/2010 9:44PM

    Funny emoticon emoticon

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LITTLE_DEBBIE 1/7/2010 9:43PM

    Just what I needed...a break between workouts and a good laugh! emoticon

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TUFFYBIRD 1/7/2010 9:17PM

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LABYRINTH 1/7/2010 9:13PM

    LOVE THE FIVE MEN!!! OMG - emoticon

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A Balancing Act

Tuesday, December 29, 2009

I've been feeling a bit frustrated lately. I work hard, eat properly, workout 5-6 days each week and for this effort I see small scale results - maybe 1 lb a week. Last week I had a wedding then a road trip and 5 days with DS, DIL and 3 DGS and a road trip home. I was careful, but not obsessive and I did a fair amount of drinking, for this effort I received a 4.5 lb gain - AARRGGH :(

When stuff like this happens I feel like I've been kicked in the teeth! Why does my body betray me this way? Why is my metabolism so delicate that I can't eat a few cookies or have a few glasses of wine on Christmas? Why can't I find a balance instead of all this see-sawing up and down all the time?

Why do set backs make me feel inadequate? Why can't I find inspiration in my success instead of dwelling on my failures? Why do I find myself so lacking?

I believe the answers to these questions are tied up in my feelings of rejection from my father. He's been giving me grief and saying mean things about and to me. He sent a Christmas card and signed it with his first name instead of "Dad". He's not usually that passive-aggressive, but his message came through loud and clear!

I think maybe I should have a few conversations about my dad to a therapist. Life is too short to waste time and energy feeling this way.

I resolve to make 2010 my year to find my "Balance"

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LABYRINTH 12/31/2009 10:43AM

    Hi Carolanne - hm well I was feeling the same last night, pretty much. I think it has something to do with the metabolism of someone who has lost, regained, and losing again. I wish I could provide more information about that but I am learning it as I go along myself.

On the Dad thing, how cruel! I am not saying this is what you should do, but for my own situation, I withdrew from an active relationship from my mom because of some similar, destructive, manipulative and passive-aggressive behavior. Some people think I am cruel for doing this (I have four siblings) but it has made my life ever so peaceful these last two years.

Counseling can really help put some family issues into better perspective. I highly recommend it, esp. as you write that you get frustrated and then de-railed. Counseling can help you focus on what is important to you and help you get there.

May you find the path that is right for you!


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2_NEW_HORIZONS 12/31/2009 4:01AM

    Don't let the scale have the power to make you feel good or bad. your body is in real good condition now because of all the hard work you have put in this year. the scale is just a number.

as to your dad. i feel ya. my dad doesnt even acknowledge that 4 of his 5 kids exist. it used to eat me up but now i think that its his problem, not mine. He's an idiot and i dont need that crap in my life.

hope you can reconsile your feelings towards your dad and if that means counselling then i say go for it xxx

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JLR7_18 12/30/2009 5:22PM

    Your dad's card reminds me of one I got from my brother. My child had just been through a major surgery and when I called him he completely cut me off for unknown reasons. The next month I had a birthday card which said "Forty is it?" with just his name. Well geez, thanks for the thought!!!!!! I have had to cut him off for my own emotional well belng. If and when he "grows up" maybe I will consider letting him back into my life. In the mean time, I carry on with my own life. It hurts like hell, but at some point one has to put ones emotional health FIRST. I have also btdt with the therapy and it can be well worth your time.


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JESLES 12/30/2009 11:52AM

    Hi Carolanne...thanks for the shoes back at me! I have always wanted to be "daring" enough for red heals...

I feel your pain re: the scale. You know I have been doing this since last July, when I first signed on. I am STILL at 154. I can't seem to budge! I have been eating an average of 1500 cals a day, and exercising 40 minutes of cardio almost every day, which for ME is a BIG improvement after what I had been going through for two years, which was almost complete immobility from various disease process.

Well, I have been SO on track, and thought, hey, I guess I will weigh myself today, I am feelin' pretty good bout thing. I thought I would for SURE see a TWO on the scale, but also didn't get my hopes up...which turned out to be a good thing. 154 again! I was seeing threes last week, 153.4 etc. I know I know, it's just water weight etc, but you know, I feel that SAME way about my metabolism. For crying out loud, I have corrected my hypothyroidism, I am correcting my hormone issues (recently got tested for menopause and my body is making almost NO estrogen, none!). As i said I've been working out etc.

I just don't get it. I know menopause messes with stuff, but I know PLENTY of women older than I who maintain their usual weight. I have always been near 130 or mid 130's for decades and I just don't get why I can't get back there, with all of my hard work.

I am going to try to do 1200 calories a day, and really take it down a notch, but I tell ya, I get SO hungry after a week or two of that, then I always want to binge. I thought if I just upped my kcals to 1500 day, which is WELL within my recommended range, well, you know.

I like you, had some drinks over the holidays, but for crying out loud, I counted the calories. I know alcohol slows one's metabolism but good grief, when drunken three times a year? Give me a break!

I am at a loss. When I used to teach aerobic classes, the mantra was always, if you aren't seeing any improvement : More time, more intensity, more frequency! Meaning, increase the minutes you work out, OR the intensity of each session OR how often you do this. I am thinking of adding an additional 20 minutes session of some sort of aerobic exercise in the evening, but HA, I already struggle with the one session, because I sweat SO MUCH that I can't do anything afterwards for a long time.

Well, sorry to blog on your blog! I had been thinking of you and wondering how things are with your dad as well. I can't believe he signed his card with his first name. How rude! That is just plain mean spirited. If you think therapy would help, well, you know my thinking on it...I couldn't have the fabulous relationship I have now with my mother had it not been for therapy. And I mean, INTENSE therapy . Examining why we LET, and yes, we let them, people treat us in bad ways, is a pretty intense process. He sounds like he feels entitled to treat you poorly. I wonder what your husband thinks of all this? Does he have a relationship with your dad?

Well, again, I should have just written a letter...not blogged our blog, but oh well. I respect your struggles. I don't know if it helps to know, you aren't the only one out there.

Have a good day? I hope you do! It's almost 2010, and I just can't get over that!

--Jessica emoticon stupid scale ...

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TERESA6262 12/30/2009 10:33AM

    Hi SurlyGirl! I'm sorry that you're having a tough time. It's SO much EASIER SAID than DONE.... but somehow, someway, you've got to move past the "dad" issue. You can't control or change him and what he does... and you can't let HIM bring you down and rob you of the goodness, health and light that you are working so hard for! Someone recommended a book to me... it's called "The Energy Bus." Here's a link with some excerpts:


I plan on reading this book and "The Spark" to get my mind in the right place for the upcoming weeks.

Happy New Year! Hang tough, sister!


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IFDEEVARUNS2 12/30/2009 8:34AM

    As far as the weighing in goes, don't weigh in right away after an indulgence. Give yourself a day or two back on track and then weigh. The REAL damage may not be as bad as you first assumed.

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TUFFYBIRD 12/30/2009 8:19AM


Absolutely, set up an appointment to see a therapist. Sometimes just having a non-judgemental, objective person to listen can make all the difference in how we perceive the challenges in our life. It takes a lot of time and effort to identify (and then change) all the negative ways in which we have learned to see ourselves and our accomplishments. I do believe it's worth the effort, though.

I was wondering how your dad was behaving ... *sigh* ... I guess it really is true that 'leopards don't change their spots'.

I know how frustrating it can be to be "good" and have the scales rebel. I was very well behaved over the break, and for the last week or so I've been able to start working out again ... today I stepped on the scales and I was up 2 pounds. At this point that's not a problem as I was actually 2 pounds under my goal weight, but I don't like the increase, and I certainly don't want it to become a trend. Right now I'm giving my body the benefit of the doubt, allowing that it may be normal water fluctuation, but I'll be keeping a close eye on it.

Keep your chin up kid! This is just another speed bump in life's (sometimes poorly maintained) highway.

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CHARLIESANGEL10 12/30/2009 5:23AM

    Yes do it--I talked to one a couple years back & saying out loud a lot of pent up things helped me make peace & move are a great & inspiring person in my'll get it balanced out & then you can teach those following behind you how it's done....go do it.

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I'm the one in red :)

Monday, December 21, 2009

Sunday night, DH, myself and a group of close friends from the gym were privileged and honored to attend the wedding of our dear friends AMy & David.

I had no idea that Amy's family had the resources to throw such a lavish party. The cocktail hour was to die for with dozens of freshly made nibbles an open bar with top shelf liquors and an ice slide martini bar! The food was absolutely delicious and then we moved to the ballroom and a 4 course sit down dinner.

A band that rocked and had us all out on the dance floor except when our meal was served.

Below is a picture of 6 of us (I'm in red) out on the dance floor well into the evening (about 3 martinis in) - LOL. We're doing a step we named "The bridesmaids dance" - hauling their stunning copper colored strapless gowns up every few minutes to keep them from falling.

You'll notice I'm hauling up from the bottom (being a bit older than all the others girls and the only one with kids - LOL)

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JLR7_18 12/22/2009 10:39PM

    Daaling, YOU LOOK MAAVELOUS!!!

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CSIENK 12/22/2009 10:11AM

    Looks like you had a blast! I love the new dance step.. emoticon

(And btw - you look awesome...)

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CLEMENTSUE 12/22/2009 9:29AM

    Too cute! You're hanging right in there with the "younger, childless" set. Looks like fun!

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TUFFYBIRD 12/22/2009 8:06AM

    Hey, you look great C ... and obviously a good time was had by all! emoticon I hope you drank lots of water after your Martinis ... emoticon

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THENAMESLISA 12/21/2009 11:01PM

    3 MARTINIS?? I'd be snoring in the corner. You look great!!

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IFDEEVARUNS2 12/21/2009 10:24PM

    Woohoo! You look hot!

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