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Laughing does make me better

Friday, April 26, 2013

Traveling far or near is one of my favorite things to do. To see friends, family, trees, historical sites or just to get away from the everyday life. It has become apparent that the whole going away process stresses me out more than it used to do a few years ago. I worry about the water, fires and dying plants. My most recent worry addition is someone breaking into the house and stealing my computer. So I now put some electronics away in less obvious place and have taken to putting my small box of jewelry in a hidden place. It would probably work just fine if I picked one spot and always put the items there. However, I keep thinking of better places and that would be ok except I now find that I cannot always remember the New Special place. Three trips ago I put the little jewelry box in such a good place, I couldn’t find it and I couldn’t remember where was the newest special place. I cleaned out shelves and drawers, opened every box and did a nice job of straitening up, but no little box. It is small problems like this that nag at me, increase my anxiety and make me feel like I am losing my mind. I didn’t say anything to anyone because I was also embarrassed.

Then the other day at a party, I was listening to a women describe how she hid her Kindle in her house while she was gone for a few days. Now she can’t find it and she wants to finish the book she started. She laughed!! Certain that she will find it and not being afraid to admit that sometimes the synapses just don’t spark.

Listening to her helped me to get over my embarrassment and realize that I did not have a large or unique problem. Getting older is a process and it is better to acknowledge the lapses and take steps to help minimize the problems. Laughing at my lapses will help reduce down my anxiety even if it doesn't solve the problem.

And guess what? I found the jewelry box; it was in a good hiding place. But I am writing a note of where it is. Now I just have to make sure to remember where I wrote the note.

  
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MORTICIAADDAMS 4/27/2013 10:07PM

    I have done the same thing. It is fairly common. LOL.

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So...NO MORE EXCUSES! I've done this before I can do it again.

Thursday, February 28, 2013

I read the title of this blog on another blog and it just was so familiar. This has been a 3rd time journey to lose 30 pounds over the past 15 years. Yes I have done the losing again but I wish I could do the keep off better. I have done Weight Watchers twice and decided to do SparkPeople this time. I will get the weight off but keeping it off is the hard part. Maybe SparkPeople will help. I know some of the reasons the weight comes back but the main one is that I get stressed, feel sorry for myself and then indulge in the high calorie fat filled foods that I crave. Right now the changes going on in my life are making me feel depressed. The non-profit is moving along and although there is a place for me, the work is not making me happy. So I will probably not return after my current commitment. Then what to do is the next question? Part of this is to get out and talk with people to find another group to join. But this time I am spending more time to look at what makes me happy and what that looks like. But finding that has a lot to do with looking inward and really figuring out more about myself. I should be happier, my family cares about me, I don’t really have financial issues, my health is good and I have friends. Maybe I just need to look at the positive and focus on that part of my life.

I just know that although the “I can do it again” looks at losing weight, it also applies to gaining it. So no more excuses, this time I will face the internal reasons. And eat appropriately everyday.

  
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MORTICIAADDAMS 2/28/2013 5:18PM

    Stress is my down fall as well.

Good luck with your plan. It sounds like you are very committed to it and in a good place as far as that goes right now.

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RAWCOOKIE 2/28/2013 11:24AM

    I am sorry your are feeling depressed about work and stuff. You are right to look to fill your life with things that make you feel happy. I get depressed when I am overwhelmed with stuff that needs doing - and feel better when I make progress on them. I am finding jogging is really helping my mood considerably - gives me a sense of achievement and well-being I suppose. I have lost 20lbs and put 10lbs back on in the last 18 months or so - it's like our sub-conscious pulls us back to a comfortable place again - where we are not glorious or radiantly happy, but 'safe'!?
You can work it out!
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Not another Change

Thursday, January 10, 2013

Changes bring opportunities along with the anxiety of the unknown. I like the volunteer work I do for a small non-profit arts group. But the last year the work took a lot more time than I wanted to give because some of the older (I mean over 78 but very lively and bright) members decided to make changes in their lives. Some moved closer to their children, several had health issues which slowed them down and a few decided to scale back their commitments. There were not enough new volunteers to cover the hours and several of us just stepped up. Then the director (of six years) decided to move to a new job at the end of 2012. A new director was hired and I just wasn’t sure I wanted to adjust to a new person. I was anxious about changes and even after all these years, if she would want me to stay.

The beginning was a little awkward for all of us, a few people left but I stayed. Now after a month of working with her, I find that I like her style. It is important to let go of “the way we have always done it” and embrace new. The reorganization of tasks will make it easier on those of us who are there and she has some good ideas on how to make the operations work better. So the anxiety has gone away and I am glad I stayed.

This made me think of how change is important when dealing with health issues and nutrition. Making changes is hard but you just have to stick with it. Eating low fat cheese instead of full fat, reducing the amount of meat I eat each day by adding in legumes, increasing the amount of fruits and vegetables each day and writing down what I eat have all helped me to change to a lower weight. It wasn’t easy because “that’s not the way I like it” but I am feeling better and looking better.

The holidays were difficult because of the parties and celebrations and the flu but I logged in everyday, even if I didn’t record the food I ate. I gained a few pounds but I am confident that they will go away. This is a change in my approach to weight gain which is good change.

  
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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/11/2013 4:20PM

    Sounds like you are making really good decisions in every area of your life.

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It all seems so fragile

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

The memories of christmas of my younger days are of a large number of assorted relatives getting together in loud boisterous groups. Smashed together in small houses with lots of food and cold winter weather. Now the holiday get togethers are small with polite adults eating fewer rich dishes and drinking a lot less alcohol. The connections between many of the family have either been broken by death, moves to cities far away, changes in interests that make conversations awkward, divorces or just getting older. The connections seem so fragile and each year seem to decrease so that it is memories of people that christmas brings back to me. I make some phone calls just to hear voices to help me keep the past alive with people who are special. Then the people who are very close arrive for dinner and I am happy in my present connections and grateful they are in my life. The memories slip away into the shadows of christmas and wait to be revived again next year.

  
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CAT-IN-CJ 12/25/2012 4:18PM

    Yes Christmas brings back so many memories. So much loss, so little remains the same. Even values we once held dear.

It seems a lot the "good ol' days" can be chalked up to "euphoric recall". Nothing was as perfect as the memories. But yet they remain.

This year, due to splinters and conflicts within the family that can't seem to be resolved without bloodshed, we decided to remove ourselves from the stress. This has been without doubt the most peaceful Christmas we've ever had. It's given us the opportunity to cherish the memories of loved ones no longer with us and look with hope towards a brighter new year.

Let's make 2013 our best year yet!
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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/25/2012 4:00PM

    I think many of us can relate to everything you said. I know I can.

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WEARINGTHIN 12/25/2012 5:26AM

    Very poetic. Glenn

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Watching my Health

Friday, December 14, 2012

Actually I feel like I am watching my health deteriorate. At the beginning of November I came down with a rally bad sinus infection which lasted for several weeks. Now of course, I was really starting to feel better and along comes really bad cold. As a generally healthy person, I have taken for granted that I can do a fair amount of exercise each day and be very active. These are minor ailments but they have stopped all my activity. This makes me a lot more sympathetic to people who have serious physical issues and have limited ability to get up and go. Although the unpleasant things in life are not something you go looking for, it seems that it is an opportunity to appreciate what you do have. This time of the year is especially stressful on people so looking for the happy, cheerful and grateful parts of my life is going to be my goal for the rest of December. Have a great holiday season.

  
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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/14/2012 9:49PM

    I have been critically ill before so I know the importance of good health and don't take it for granted. It's wonderful to have the energy to do what you want.

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BARBANNA 12/14/2012 1:23PM

    I have a sore throat that's been nagging me for a couple days, so I totally understand. I'm still doing my usual activities,but it makes life more difficult.

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THEEXERCISER 12/14/2012 1:02PM

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