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Walking the walk

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Me and my daughter were sitting watching tv when,I extended an invite to walk on the treadmill/eliptical.She quickly wrinkled her brow and gave me the STANK-EYE!Mom...she mumbled cant you be still and relax?No,I laughed lets boogie to a dance cd then!So we shook,rattled and rolled ourselves to exhaustion and slept like babies.LOL...She actually said she wanted me to wait for her to dance again tonight.I am thrilled and hope she will stick to her word.I just returned from a trip with DH and we had so much FUN!DD wanted me to come to get her right away.Instead I had her wait and i had a romantic evening with dinner a movie and a walk in the park. emoticonSUSAN

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FOXYROXY13 8/16/2012 1:10PM

    sounds like you had a great evening ^_^

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MNOT2THICK 8/15/2012 10:35PM

    Sounds awesome, dancing with your DD and the romantic evening with your hubs. emoticon

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FRAN0426 8/15/2012 8:35PM

    Hope your DD continues to dance with you, so much fun having a dancing buddy. My friend and I go to the Y four times a week for dance classes and have a ball even when we mess up. Glad you had a great evening with your DH.

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LHLADY517 8/15/2012 5:00PM

    Sounds great. and good job with getting your DD to dance

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It all started with a big bang!

Thursday, August 09, 2012

In the midst of home demo.The fridge/stove/table/microwave have been re-homed for what I thought was temporary.The flooring crew were due at any moment and here I am up to my eyeballs in water.The water heater blew up like a bomb.Water was everywhere and the shop vac was nowhere to be found!Im mopping water when the doorbell rings.I ushered the crew into the kitchen and would you believe,Nobody had done a moisture reading?They tore up half my floor only to decide they were'nt able to proceed until the floor was 100% dry?So,They promised to return one week later???I had about lost my mind when the appointed time was from 1-2 yesterday and when should he choose to arrive?9am yesterday!!!Sorry he mumbled we'll have to reschedule.I got in my car and burned rubber getting to the improvement store home-depot.Those were the sweetest,caring,helpful people I've ever met! I was angry,red faced and tired.They did such a good job cheering me up.The water heater was a different story.It turned out to be a pipe that blew but,we were without water for 4 days.I gave up on the plumbers and bought a new heater and paid my neighbor to install it and saved $300...we were showering outside in the hose using a camping shower...My 18 year old DD said..Are you nuts Mom?I just laughed and said then STINK!She got over it and used that shower... emoticonI hope ya'll are doing better than me...lotsa emoticonSUSAN

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FRAN0426 8/9/2012 11:54PM

    I think using the camping shower was genious. Sorry to hear you were without water in the house for four days. Good for you for taking matters and not waiting for the others to come back. My goodness they had to start ripping up your floor and then decide they needed for the floor to dry-really

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LHLADY517 8/9/2012 11:34PM

    I agree with your comment about Home Depot. They have great people working there. I've been to HD in Newport News VA, in Decatur, IL, in Bourbonnais, IL, in Branson, MO and Springfield, MO and have consistently found great service.

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MNOT2THICK 8/9/2012 11:33PM

    emoticon emoticonA fake shower is better than none at all and you saved a little money.

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How can a friend be a friend when they hurt you repeatedly?

Wednesday, August 01, 2012

I have always been very passive to people.They stomp all over my feelings and I take it.I am a lover of people and just shake my head and pray for the cruel,thoughtless words the person said.I sat all weekend with a sick friend.She talked about the soup I made from scratch,the way I folded her towels,the vacuuming I did wasnt good enough,and I left streaks on her mirror.I made her bed all wrong and I am too short.She couldnt eat the tasteless food or drink the weak iced tea.Wow,she commented,Didn't your mama teach you anything?I gathered my kind heart and my purse and left without a word.She watched me drive away looking incredulous as to why?PEOPLE,I am not taking anymore abuse from anyone.I was crying out my anger and driving!I almost was hit by a bus.I finally answered that person's call and calmly told her to get some psychiatric counseling because im not qualified.Her husband of 30 years divorced her and says he's the happiest he's ever been!She has become bitter,mean and unfeeling to me and im finished.It kills me to walk out on her but Im just tired.I went to see her to talk and just as I was walking in the door she told me I looked like a fat pink sumo!I turned around and left her standing there open mouthed.She told me I didnt need to be so touchy all the time.What do ya'll think,was I too hasty? emoticonSUSAN

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FIFIFRIZZLE 8/18/2012 6:27PM

    Wow I just checked out the site that Sandbbar suggested, it is fantastic! What do you think, Sue?

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GIRL*IN*MOTION 8/10/2012 3:07PM

  no one should be made to feel bad by anyone, and you did the right thing, you stood up for yourself. Be strong! You deserve all the niceness in the world and shouldn't settle for less!!

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MSPRIS3 8/10/2012 2:03PM

    I don't think you were wrong for walking away. No matter what is going on in her life, she still need to resepct you and your feelings. She has no right to belittle you in anyway, odds are she does this to make herself feel better, inferior, or whatever.

She needs to be left to herself. When she realises that she's pushed everyone away because of her treatment of them, she may change, until then, the more everyine goes back to her, she will not learn from it.

That's my opinion, and good for you for standing up for yourself!

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CHRIS3874 8/9/2012 10:50PM

    Its tough I had a friend for years that got remarried and he or his wife( not sure) kept sending these annoying group emails and I kept asking for them not to be sent and finally I just blew up because instead of an apology or stopping she got all defensive and argumentative. so after he told me off he won't have anything to do with me what a USER. Another friend started sending em forwards of insulting emails about how people in similar emp;loy to me are leeches and then other emails insulting to my heritage. So I basically don't have time for him. not worth the effort.

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DEE797 8/9/2012 6:02PM

    She is not a friend and you did the right thing. Sending you emoticon and emoticon

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TEENY_BIKINI 8/9/2012 4:14PM

    You are so sweet. I can't imagine anyone being mean or thoughtless to you. Walking away from the situation took guts aplenty - congrats on your courage. Congrats for standing up for you!

You rock!!

PS - I agree. You did the right thing. No question.


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IAM_HIS2 8/4/2012 5:01PM

    I am so proud of you!! A friend is someone who is kind, supportive and uplifting. This woman has it all wrong. She is critical in order to feel superior. That is a dysfunctional person who needs prayer. Someone to love from a distance.

You are kind, giving and looking for acceptance. You won't find it from her. Please move on. Ask God to guide you to the right people. Have him help you. It works.

I was just like you. Many times I was hurt by people whom I kept giving and giving to. My actions were saying, "It's okay to hurt me." Well, I had to learn, it's okay to walk away and care about your feelings--you deserve better--a true friend.

WooHoo, you are growing stronger as a person...thanks for this beautiful blog!! Loved hearing about you giant step forward!!!!! emoticon emoticon

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FRAN0426 8/2/2012 4:20PM

She isn't your friend, she uses you to say nasty things to and doesn't care about your feelings. She evidently does not now the meaning of a friend and she just lost the one she had due to her own bad mouthing. Walking out on her was the best thing you did for yourself no one needs the stress of that type of person being in their. Sounds like nothing you did was good enough for her when she should of been thanking you for taking the time to do things for her. Continue standing up for yourself. Take no crap from so called friends or even family for that matter. You are worth having friends that treat you well.

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SANDBBAR 8/2/2012 11:56AM

    I want to share this website with you...I get it into my email about twice a week, and the advice in here helped me to realize a friendship that I had was indeed over after that friend said some hurtful things...and I have moved on. Please explore this has a ton of good, sensible advice about living!!


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SANDBBAR 8/2/2012 11:45AM

    You are right to pray for [people and be kind, but sometimes you have to know when to walk away...and you did! You did the right thing! emoticon

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MARTHASPARKS 8/2/2012 11:23AM

    Answer: she isnot your friend. You give too much and take too much abuse, Susan. Stopping it right now is NOT hasty, it is long overdue. You are killing yourself with your girls and your friends. Who takes care of you? Not even you take care of yourself. It's sad but this is no friend and any gap left by her absence is time for you to be good to yourself. It is her loss.

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BOHEMIANCAT 8/2/2012 8:31AM

    You were right to leave and quit taking the abuse. She needs the kind of help you cannot provide.
I was in sort of a similar situation this week with one "friend".
Then another told me she would vote for my boss opposing candidate! I guess knowing I could lose my job was not good enough for her! So I lost two friends this week, but am better off because of it.
Stay the course and do not let this woman back into your life.
You are a good person to put up with this.

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DIANNEMT 8/2/2012 8:13AM

    I am so glad you treated YOURSELF as worthy and left. You sound like a very giving person and she was a TAKER. You don't need to take her abuse so just leave her "dropped". MAYBE she will eventually contact you by mail and apologize--THEN you can think about speaking to her again. Be NICE to yourself--you don't need her kind of "friendship".

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HDHAWK 8/1/2012 10:12PM

    I can be the same way. Good for you for not taking her abuse. How dare she say those things to you after you took your time to clean for her and take care of her when she was sick. She should get a clue and figure out it's not everyone else, but her, that's the problem. emoticon

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NANASAMM 8/1/2012 9:59PM

    You did the right thing by walking away from this friendship. You were a wonderful friend and should have been treated as such. It doesn't sound like she has it in her to recognize and appreciate true friendship. Say good-bye and don't look back.

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NSTARSMITH 8/1/2012 8:42PM

    Oh, dear ... not only were you not too hasty, you put up with it too long. This woman is 'way past anyone other than a paid professional's help. If she were in a nursing home, she would get minimal attention for her stupid comments and stern lectures from the nurses. By allowing someone to constantly lay their poison on you, you are hurting yourself AND teaching that person they have the right to treat people like cr*p. And that hurts THEM! I have not heard of a bona fide disordet that results in such ongoing meanness - so she has simply settled into a low level of functioning and justifies her abuse of others with twisted thinking. Pray doubly for her and stay away. She is unable to be anyone's friend!

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GINGERMACC 8/1/2012 6:45PM

    She is not your friend. She is toxic to you and I agree with everyone who said that you do not need her in your life and you should walk away. Some friendships aren't meant to last and this looks like one of them.

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RUNNER12COM 8/1/2012 5:25PM

    If someone else was telling you that this was their experience with a third person, you would say, "get the heck away from that horrid person!"

Well, that's what we are all saying to you.

This person sounds truly miserable. And there is no amount of kindness you can show her that will change her behavior.

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TNTAZELAAR 8/1/2012 4:46PM

    I agree with everyone her, run don't walk! you want people in your life that are going to lift you up not tear you down. This person obviously doesn't value you as a friend, or a person otherwise she would be treating you with respect and kindness. I had a similar situation a few months back and it took a lot of reminders and hard work but I finally was able to cut this friend out, and have been happier because of it. Good luck! emoticon

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SHOAPIE 8/1/2012 4:18PM

    Run, don't walk away as fast as you can. No one needs to be treated in that way. emoticon

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MOTTAMAMALOU 8/1/2012 4:12PM

    You are not hasty at all. Divorce her as her husband did and you to will be happy! She is not a friend when she treats you that way.

I've just divorced my friend of many years because she lied continuously about her drinking problem and kept calling me stupid when I would try to help her.

So, with a sad heart, I will no longer be her friend.


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DANGER....summer heat inside of cars can kill!

Monday, July 23, 2012

I am talking about humans and animals!I dont take any chances with anyone and WILL turn you in.Example,I was going for my pool therapy.I peered inside a running car and there were several small kids and 2 babies sleeping.I went up to the desk clerk,told her and she just gave me a blank sorta "what the heck do you want me to do" stare.I said listen to me,if you don't announce that cars plate number and demand they come out now,im calling the cops.The engine can die,catch fire,get hit from another vehicle.I dont like "bothering"people but dont leave your pets in the cars either!They are innocents without hands to open doors.Three beautiful dogs left in the car died on friday.Little dogs!What did they endure the last moments of their lives?Anyway,back to the car/kids,2 older ladies told me that I should mind my own dam business/get a life!!That was the old days when ya just looked the other way!I DONT LOOK THE OTHER WAY...THANK YOU!I once saw a baby in a car with the windows cracked and said to myself thats just wrong.I went inside and shopped for like 5 minutes and couldnt think so I went back outside and checked to see if the baby was there and it was.I opened the car door and took the baby out(which was wrong)and fanned her,tried to wake her and told the cart guy to call 911.I saved that babies life,was called a hero but,how many walked by?I walked by!!!I will never walk by again!!So if I pissed those parents off thats okay,they could be in jail for neglect and endangerment.Whatever you do,take your kids with you even for a few minutes.I got some mean looks when i went in for my water therapy but,Im holding my head high emoticon emoticonSUSAN

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MSPRIS3 8/10/2012 2:08PM

    I agree with you 199% I have not seen a child left in a car where I live, but I have seen animals, and I am the first to pipe up. I actually called the cops on an elderly couple because the left their older dog in the car with 1 window opened about 3 inches. It was 30oC that day (86oF). I reached into the window, unlocked the door and held it open. We had paged them 3 times in the store, they came out 35 minutes later. They were greated with a strange woman sitting with their dog (who was too small to even get fresh air out of the window) and the cops sitting behind the car so they couldn't leave.

I will be the first person to pipe up when it comes to animals, and I am not afraid to smash a window to save them (or a child) if required.

Your message is very important!

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FRAN0426 7/23/2012 8:54PM

    I agree 100% with you, how awlful would we feel if we ignored that type of situation and would find out later that the children or pets died due to extreme over-heating.

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BLEGNER1 7/23/2012 2:50PM

    Good for you. I would do the same and if someone did not like it that is tough.

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Friday, July 20, 2012

My DH grew up eating iceberg lettuce.I love baby leaf lettuce/springtime mix/spinach.I decided to hang the empty packages from the lettuce(s) by the grocery list should DH get ambitious.LOL he brought home 4 kinds.Guess what i'll be eating plenty of?He also picked up several types of salad dressings.Trouble thy name is salad dressing,i might as well eat bacon grease!He meant well and I secretly snuck it all back for a refund. emoticon emoticonSUSAN

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MARTHASPARKS 7/22/2012 11:45AM

    Love it!

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MADAME-NOT-MISS 7/21/2012 9:21PM

    Woman can not live by lettuce alone ! emoticon

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DUSTYGIRL25 7/21/2012 1:51PM

    HaHaHa, very cute!

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BLEGNER1 7/21/2012 12:10PM

    Lettuce lettuce and more lettuce. Maybe you hint around about the dressings LOL Any time my DH goes to the store, he brings me bananas. Guess he thinks I am a monkey!!

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LASKIE2 7/21/2012 6:46AM

    Iceberg lettuce has no nutritional vale, I believe there ate numerous series Sparkers that grew up wating this type of lettuce. Hug your DH at least he tried to make a change!

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BARBAELLEN 7/20/2012 11:26PM

    Aww. At least he was trying to be thoughtful. He must be a southerner. You made me think of my mother-in-law. She was a Southern bell type who was used to servants and couldn't cook much of anything. We always joked that she had mastered two specialties: Karo pecan pie and wilted lettuce salad. The lettuce was wilted because it was covered with bacon grease. It may have been fattening, but at least it kept your lips moisturized for the rest of the day!

BTW - - been following you. Hope you're healing well and able to get back to your healthy weight zone!

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ROCKYCPA 7/20/2012 11:22PM

    Good for you - salad is good for you and you can dress it up all different kinds of ways!

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