I am a patient person but....

Saturday, March 17, 2012

I actually got 7 hours 30 minutes of sleep the first time in 3 weeks!I feel much better today except for a little green skin color!At least I match the day!!I was going to sit down and redo a faded watercolor painting but my ungrateful kid had to have a haircut and I conceded,not wanting to hear her mouth...We were having Subway when she had forgot she put her name down on the sign in sheet.I told her just to go on and I'd finish my lunch...No,I had to come with her.People,I am having symptoms of back pain that sits right there above my arse...Can I hurry up?No, my back hurts or I'd sprint there!!We arrived only to learn she had taken another customer...It was all my fault,she was pissed,she turned away from me like...I had personally called and told her hairdresser to skip her!I made a joke...she rolled her eyes...I told her it was not like she couldnt wait a few minutes....She clucked her tongue...I got up and left!!!
I didnt answer her calls or texts!I browsed Sears and bought some shoes,a necklace on clearance for $2 and some bras for $4...I had cooled down so I went back to wait for her...Wait! you went to sears without me???Yes,Sears is about 50 feet down that way,I answered pointing my finger...she slouched down in her seat pouting so,I created a scene...I said how dare you talk to me like im the child?Say another smart ass comment and you will ride the stinking bus!!All the ladies in the salon clapped for me!Not realizing they heard us I apologized...Laughing,the owner said it was about time!Dont get me wrong she is an excellent young woman and I love her very much.She has became a demon from teenager hormones and i am peri-menopausal and standing up for myself at last.....She apologized profusely and I accepted but I sat her down and had a long talk with her at home...Pray for me! SUSAN

  

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MNOT2THICK 3/20/2012 11:39AM

Go ahead mom. Those moments are make or break times. Awesome job. Report Inappropriate Comment

DEEANN8 3/18/2012 7:08PM

Hormones vs Hormones ... and Mom wins !!!! Yayy !!! Report Inappropriate Comment

MARTHASPARKS 3/18/2012 1:15PM

Go Sue GO! Report Inappropriate Comment

FLAFLUTTERBY 3/18/2012 7:09AM

Reminds me of the h3ll I put my mother through. She was a saint to put up with me! Perhaps one of the reasons I don't have kids. Good job standing up for yourself! We need more moms like you! Report Inappropriate Comment

CIRANDELLA 3/17/2012 6:36PM

Especially considering you've got a pretty painful back condition, she was doggone LUCKY that you were so generous to her! Recently, I heard a media psychologist say that adolescence seems to be extending well into the late twenties (YIKES!!!)...so I'm glad you're standing firm with this kid. WTG!!! Good parenting, and good, healthy assertive behavior on your part. Report Inappropriate Comment

ALLIEALKINS 3/17/2012 5:49PM

That's so awesome! I'm so glad you stood up for yourself and laid down the law. Way to go! Report Inappropriate Comment

HIPPYCAT 3/17/2012 5:44PM

Mom the Avenger! Tawanda! You go, girl! Report Inappropriate Comment

Words can hurt !

Thursday, March 15, 2012

I have a friend..Sara,that is a good soul.She just happens to have a friend thats so superficial I want to GAG!She puts Sara down and boldly declares us to be obese.If we go anywhere with her to eat she eyes every morsel we bite into.Are you really going to eat all that chicken?Isn't that too much spinach?I turned on her yesterday...having had enough of her constant berating.What's wrong with you?Dont you think we have it hard enough?Are you always this unfeeling?She looked shocked!N-n-no...her lips and chin quivered.I was just trying to help!I apologized and told her she had to watch her words that they can hurt!Trust me she knew because a few minutes after we stepped into her home and saw the pictures of her at 425lbs,I wished I could disappear.I felt horrible and she told me she needed to be put in her place so,she could remember and not JUDGE others.She showed us some scars from her body lift and said she'd had a gastric bypass 10 years ago.Why did she hide that from us when she knew both Sara and my struggles with weight?I guess it felt scary to admit she was human and had been where we are.Just remember that before and when you make your goal weight,tell anyone and everyone...It shouldnt be hidden!BE PROUD..... SUSAN
P.S.I still dont like her friend,but im trying!

  

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MNOT2THICK 3/20/2012 11:42AM

Wow, we sometimes forget where we came from. It is best to be true to yourself and others. Report Inappropriate Comment

WE_PA_FIT 3/16/2012 8:05AM

a lesson for both indeed. this journey isn't just about changing on the outside as much as it is changing on the inside! Report Inappropriate Comment

CIRANDELLA 3/16/2012 7:45AM

Maybe it's just me, but I would refuse to spend so much as a second with this insensitive witch...mostly because she's just so duh-mmmmmb. I'd try to see your friend when this piece of work isn't around. You're not responsible for the fact that she's a waste of protoplasm. Report Inappropriate Comment

HDHAWK 3/15/2012 9:54PM

I don't think you had anything to feel bad about. She should know from being overweight herself that that kind of talk doesn't help motivate anyone. Good for you for speaking up. Report Inappropriate Comment

RUNNER12COM 3/15/2012 9:16PM

What a balancing act it is, to try to understand someone when they seem to make it so purposely hard to do so. Good luck as you try to find your place between this friend and her friend. Report Inappropriate Comment

SPARKCHANTAL 3/15/2012 6:28PM

there is nothing harder to accomplish than empathy. like the cat playing with a bird, our nerves are not hooked up to the ones feeling the pain, so of course, it just doesn't exist. only our own, that's real enough! and we are the only ones running the world. it's all in the process of growing up. so this friend of your friend's needs a high dose of understanding and making connections to the (her) outside world. my guess is she has none. Report Inappropriate Comment

My dd is driving me up a wall!!

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

My DD kayla is a hypochondriac!She will fake a blister,a headache,a cramp,dizziness and nausea any day of the week.Until...her friends come knocking!A few weeks ago she started telling me her heart was pounding,she felt dizzy,and she could'nt catch her breath and I couldnt take any chances.I took her in to see her doctor.He totally acted like an A--Hole,like I had made her sick and had munchausen by proxy syndrome...LOL..his attitude sucked!I very calmly told him I dont bring her in every time she farts....Plus she is very talented at milking any ailment she has..She is a senior,has a job and has been draining my positive energy...She's perfect anytime she wants to go out with her buddies...They took every test known to man!!NOTTA!!a social worker/Therapist came in,talked to her and determined her to be depressed and anxious???She knows I have it and wants to mimic me.You just cant have a problem when you dont want to do something or go to work!!The patterns are too familiar,I am an observant mom.She has missed so much school they are transferring her to an alternative school now.Its right there within reach too!She can walk and she's now limping around!!!!!I am beginning to get angry at her and am having a way hard time holding back on bitter comments.I am normally happy and outgoing and now Im an intovert!Please help if you have any advice...No Marthaspeaks,I wont pay her bill! SUSAN

  

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ARLENE_MOVES 3/14/2012 7:44PM

Never had to deal with anything like that, thank goodness. The other advice given sounds good, but not being on your end, I don't know how easy it is for you to do. But it is certainly worth a try. You need to keep all your positive energy for yourself. Report Inappropriate Comment

ALLIEALKINS 3/14/2012 4:40PM

My mom experienced very similar things with my oldest sister, who also has anxiety and depression. However, after attending her support group, she's learned not to let Natasha run/control her life. Many times, (and it's hard not to) you feed to her drama by letting it corrupt you; now, when my sister (who's 28) throws tantrums, my mom walks away or refuses to talk to her until she's calmed down and can be an adult. Your daughter is old enough to know that her actions have concequences and you need to ignore her when she goes on these sprees of seeking attention. If she really is that sick, then she doesn't need to be texting/on the computer/with her friends. Don't let her control you! Report Inappropriate Comment

RUNNINGYOGINIRE 3/14/2012 3:48PM

Hi, Hang in there. My stepson is the same way. He always has some sort of aliment. My husband took him to the ER/Urgent care 6 times in one month. I think he is trying to get his hands on pain killers plus he is all about being the center of attention. After a visit to a Neurologist and ENT, he was told - nothing is wrong and didn't get any drugs. Luckily, since then the 'health' drama has stopped - going on one week so we are due for an outburst. The sad part he is 21!! UGH... Anyway, what has helped me - when he is whinning around the house, I just ignore him and talk about something else - totally difuses him. Maybe that will work for you?? Good luck... Report Inappropriate Comment

Stupid things people say

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

I watch tv sometimes and I have the hardest time with the..Stupid!From commercials about marrying bacon to sell a burger,to news reporters interviewing someone about the loss of a loved one.How are you feeling right now?asks the reporter.A young down syndrome man and his dog were in a car waiting for his sister when a thief jumped in the car.He took off with the ds man and his beloved dog,throwing the ds man out of the moving car very roughly.Taking his beloved pet with him.His sister was on the news begging to know the whereabouts of the dog.The reporter,only trying to do her job,asks...How are you feeling right now?His reply?That's stupid!I feel sick and I miss my dog...I was in tears and laughing too!A young man(TOM) was struck by a hit and run vehicle(RICKY),Tom survived and became best friends wth his physical therapist only to learn that the best friend/therapist had drove the car that hit him!To spite all the bashing the reporters did to destroy the mens relationship,It became only stronger and because the young man had love in his heart HE FORGAVE!!He will walk again due to his faith!Today my own DD says to me...MOM,if you dont pay my phone service,I will DIE without my phone!!What a laugh!! SUSAN

  

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LILLI56 3/15/2012 6:50PM

Sometimes it seems our kids think they are owed things. I don't expect them to understand that when I was growing up you didn't have the things expected today. I am not saying that I had to walk 5 miles to school in the snow both ways. (that is what my dad would always say) but some things are not required for everyday life. I am not telling you not to pay her phone bill, but do have a talk about it. I also am dumbfounded at some of the things said/done on tv! Report Inappropriate Comment

SNOWANGELDIVA 3/15/2012 6:27PM

I will die if my husband doesn't pay for internet. It is my sociallife in my season of life. That's where our similarities end with your DD and I because I cherish the man that provides that service for me...she needs some improvement on cherishing the things you do for her. This world is full of stupid isn't it? How absolutely horrid those questions were. Nasty, insensitive creatures to even waste their breath on them. I catch meyself being six kinds of stupid and apologize but the person I apologize to usually doesn't see how I've been stupid because in comparison to the rest of the world I fit right in somedays! Report Inappropriate Comment

FRAN0426 3/15/2012 12:02AM

Glad to hear many others feel the same about the stupid question people in the media in piticular ask. My thought is they're trying to use up air time, but come on folks sometimes you just need to tell the story without asking people for more info---stupid info. Report Inappropriate Comment

MARTHASPARKS 3/14/2012 12:52PM

I hate those stupid questions...and could give them a list of 50 good ones to use instead. PS don't pay that phone bill, Susan. That girl abuses your soft heart! Report Inappropriate Comment

NSTARSMITH 3/14/2012 10:09AM

Yeah, the media represent our dumbest level of functioning. Not real, but a sadly accurate facet. There are people who buy it all!!! Explains a lot about our society, don't ya think? I agree with you. Not sure if we are in the majority! Oh, and teenage drama is soooo real to the kid! Report Inappropriate Comment

IMREITE 3/14/2012 12:20AM

TV/the media is a great way to really see how stupid people are. I tend to limit how much i watch because i think it rots my brain and makes me lazy. Report Inappropriate Comment

When I shoulda stayed home!!

Saturday, March 10, 2012

I woke to pounding rains,lightning and thunder.A good day to stay inside and do some home improvement and watch movies do some laundry and clean the freezer.No way was that happening because my daughter had other ideas.Please Mom she begged can we go get out and do some shopping?So I decided to wait another day for my must do list.At first the rain had lightened to a misty mess and we remained dry.After a bit of running around the rain increased.Mom,she looked a little embarassed,Jess invited me over for a few hours is it okay?Is it ever???? I dropped her off and went on home.ONLY to be locked out due to a power outage!I couldnt lift the 800 pound garage door enough to get inside.So,I decided to go shop some more...LOL...Lowes was on my shopping list anyway.I quickly picked up my list of things,chatted to the cashier and left,not realizing the cashier left 75% of the stuff out of my bag until I reached home!The electric was still out 4 hours later so I went around trying windows and miracle of the year the patio door was open...Note to self:check before sitting in car for hours!Sooooo,I returned to Lowes for my purchased and missing items only to be told the cashier didnt remember me coming through her register!!!!The manager asked what I had bought.I told him and he walked right over and found my bag at the same register!!!!!HMMMMMM!For the trouble I was given a 25$ gift card!The rain had increased so much the streets were flooded and I went home lickety split!!I hope ya'll have a great day!! SUSAN

  

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SERAPHGYRL 3/13/2012 2:54PM

What a day! At least you got a 'prize' Hopefully, the gift card paid for your Lowes purchases. Report Inappropriate Comment

MARTHASPARKS 3/12/2012 11:04AM

$25 would make the extra trip a lot easier. Report Inappropriate Comment

ARCHIMEDESII 3/11/2012 2:02PM

Well, that's a helluva way to get your shopping done ! Report Inappropriate Comment

REDSHOES2011 3/11/2012 1:18PM

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CIRANDELLA 3/11/2012 1:02PM

WHEW! Well, one thing's for sure: Never a dull moment, is there? Yikes! Report Inappropriate Comment

IILAAD65 3/11/2012 10:17AM

You must be west of me.. storms hitting the Lou today... it's giving me a headache. At least you had fun at Lowes!!! lol Report Inappropriate Comment

PRIMALMICHAEL 3/10/2012 10:31PM

Wow what a day! I'm glad you are home and dry now (I assume!) Michael Report Inappropriate Comment

BARBAELLEN 3/10/2012 9:42PM

Susan, are you related to Lucille Ball? Report Inappropriate Comment

ONUTHIN125 3/10/2012 9:36PM

Hope you have a great Sunday! Spark On! Report Inappropriate Comment