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I am awesome!

Wednesday, November 30, 2011

I put everyone else first and dont know if I'll ever change!I adore people of all races,religions,sizes!I could strike up a talk with Jack the Ripper...LOL..I hold doors,give up my seat to elders,Give help where help is needed,support abused women,volunteer at the old folks home,But,I come last!I have trouble putting Me first!My daddy's mama said we were conceited if we put ourselves before others...Grandma was sweet and loving but expected us to be grownups in the mind.She talked to us like we were grown folk.I was 4 the first time she made me kneel on the stairs and pray for an hour for saying..HUH!Now at age 51 im on a trek to try putting me first.Im afraid of what my kids and dh will think of me..will they think im going bonkers?Not speaking up to them and swallowing any comments i might have,has put me back on the road to FATTY MCFAT GIRL!I do not like confrontation,so i keep quiet when im dying to speak up..example..my galpal asked me over for tea and talk,she brought out a coconut cake and cut me a giant slice...I didnt want the cake and tried to say so but she wouldnt hear me,i gave her son my cake and she says good huh?Of course he hollers,I ate it mama!So she says im a sorry friend and i apologized..where were my balls when i should have spoken up and said she was the sorry friend to force cake on me?She rolled her eyes and cut more cake for me!!I told her no cake please but she cut it anyway...why am i a challenge to my friends?They are expecting me to fail
Im expecting me to fail but im trying so damned hard to grow a pair and learn to speak up more...i like peace!
My mama always got on me for not speaking up
my husband scolds me for giving the waitress too much money
my daughter talks crap to me if i give the kids food
My opinion just dont matter
My neighbor brought over a ton of xmas cookies
I fed them to neighborhood kids
I put a sign on the front door..DO NOT FEED THE BEAR!
they all walk past it and laugh!
Kayla has a good idea...YELL YOUR HEAD OFF MAMA!!!
right,that'll get their attention for sure!
I am fat because of my weakness.
I am fat because I eat away my frustrations
I am fat because Im hurting inside
I have this,its just a matter of time... emoticonSUSAN

  
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FIFIFRIZZLE 12/2/2011 3:27PM

    This resonated with a previous me. I used to wonder whether I had actually spoken out loud sometimes, if I said something people didn't want to hear, they would ignore it. But hey, if you are speaking about your needs or wants, it's not actually OK for people to ignore you. From what you have been blogging for a long time, I think this is big work for you and maybe a big key to your ultimate success.
Well done, you, for getting to this!
I know it is very important to you, what other people think of you. And from what I can see, this hurts you very much. You do have to give yourself VIP status, among those other people. Self respect is important to us all. If you don't come first to yourself, you don't come first to anyone
It takes practice, that's for sure! And there might be an issue with volume control. Too quiet, no one notices. Too loud can't be ignored but it can be dismissed.
Your family are heavily invested in you changing back to how you were, so it might be an idea to practice with people not too close. Who might that be? Oooh, I know! Why not start out by visiting your coconut cake friend and talking about how you felt about her steamrollering your wishes. You could ask her to show you more respect in the future. Give it a whirl, what have you got to lose? emoticon
Hoping this unsolicited advice hits the spot.
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NAVYMOM133 12/1/2011 2:57PM

    Hi Susan,
You always leave such inspiring comments on my v/blogs. I want to be able to support you as well.
You are not alone. My family also pushes food on me and almost pouts if I don't indulge in the "party foods". This Thanksgiving, one of my sisters actually arrived at my parents (frazzled - she was staying with my youngest sister and family - they have two young daughters) and announced, "This will be the Thanksgiving where the food is too unhealthy to eat, right Mel?" I found that comment very unnecessary, and embarrassing for everyone. So what were my options? Eat everything to placate my sister??
It is such a hard thing to row against the current with our families. They are so caught up in who we were, and when we start changing it really is setting off the uncomfortable feelings in THEM. Isn't it ironic that when we are really shining, we tend to get the most flack about it?
I think that's why Sparkpeople is so valuable to me. You folks GET IT!! It's such a joy to share here safely, talk about our concerns, stumbles, wins, losses (which are WINS, right?! ;)
Stay true to your healthy YOU! We can hope together that one day, our families will be more able to support us fully. In the meantime, get your motivation bottle filled here so you can stand strong.
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NSTARSMITH 12/1/2011 9:27AM

    Hey, there - we all have an outside and an inside and the trouble is getting 'em to match. Peace has gotta penetrate through the layers, otherwise you are in turmoil inside while everyone else is satisfied. Truth is you will have to RETRAIN everyone how to think of you. Give them some credit - they'll ADAPT as you transform. And you will NOT expire if others are not super-pleased. I think you need to grow that giant heart of yours big enough to enclose YOU - love, love, love you at least as much as everyone else. Otherwise you are enabling them to USE you which is not good for THEM or YOU! Keep posting!

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SHASSYSUE2 12/1/2011 1:31AM

    Sounds like to me our "friends" are 2 peas in a pod!!!! We just need to keep being true to ourselves and no matter what, not lower ourselves to fit into their lifestyle!! God tells to stand apart, so we are going to pull ourselves up and stand straight and stick to it!!!!! YOu go girl and YELL!!!!! Love Ya!! Shannon

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BARBAELLEN 12/1/2011 1:25AM

    Susan -- You've come so far in losing all that weight and becoming healthy. You know what you had to do to be so successful, and you know you've got to keep doing those things to stay healthy.

I think a quick U-turn on the road to FATTY MCFAT GIRL is in order so that you're back in the right place to work on those emotions. You know what to do, and you can do it!

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PRAIRIECROCUS 12/1/2011 12:04AM

    I hope that you can be strong, following all the nutrition and
fitness teachings that you get here at SparkPeople. Feel confident
that you are doing the right thing, by following these guidelines.
No one ought to challenge you on that !

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I am Miss fix-it!!

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

I am the take charge,gett'er done,100 miles an hour type of person.It drives dh crazy when i want something done,and he takes a few days to comply,I WILL DO IT INSTEAD!!He thought when we married that girls didnt climb ladders/trees/roofs/mow grass/change oil filters on cars...stuff guys do.Mama he was happy I knew how to!When I met his family they were mortified when I took tools to the bathroom and repaired the sink and toilet...shoot,i wasnt spending 3 weeks putting my hands under the cockroach infested sink!And the toilet had algae growing inside..lol..shes changed now but..she dont like me not being as girly as they ALL are!My brother did right by me by teaching me so much and occaisionally I let the guys do it!My brother in laws think its great that im Miss fix-it!When I decide to rest,a bulldozer cant move me!I will put on my pj's and slippers grab some coffee and veg out!My dh does a double take and makes me laugh.I know im a busy person,nobody needs to tell me.I now take one day a week to be lazy because I need it!Taking the diet and exercise slow is hard but i will get there emoticon emoticonSUSAN

  
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MARTHASPARKS 11/30/2011 10:55AM

    Susan, we have a lot in common. I don't like to wait and would rather fix it/do it myself than wait. We women rock! Okay, you guys do, too but differently...

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WILSON425 11/30/2011 8:03AM

    I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN. MY NIECES AND NEPHEW USED TO CALL ME UNCLE GERI INSTEAD OF AUNT GERI. SOMETIMES I DID TOO MUCH AND THE KIDS DECIDED THEY DID NOT HAVE TO DO ANYTHING BECAUSE MOM WOULD DO IT ALL! HARD HABIT TO BREAK.

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FIFIFRIZZLE 11/30/2011 2:18AM

    Respeck.

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SHASSYSUE2 11/29/2011 9:51PM

    You go girl!!!! HUGS!! Shannon

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MARVEEME 11/29/2011 7:11PM

    Many years ago, I was in the middle of replacing a fuel injector in my VW Squareback when a guy I met at work (now DH) drove past my apartment to see if I happened to be lingering outside. Little did he know he would find my butt up in the air and my head in the engine that day. At least the view was good enough for him to stop and ask if I needed help. Though I declined his offer and finished the job myself, he stuck around anyway. Today, I was up on a 4 acre roof. LOL

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NSTARSMITH 11/29/2011 6:58PM

    Woo Hoo! I say to your mad handy skills!!! I used to do a lot more but the arthritis slowed me down. Dang. I actually envy you! Go for it.

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ARLENE_MOVES 11/29/2011 6:13PM

    Good for you. Being able to take care of oneself in this day is important. Now, if I could just cook!

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MNOT2THICK 11/29/2011 5:56PM

    You are my kind of woman. I am the same way. I do not like to repeat requests and after the second time, I am doing it myself. I guess that is also because I do not have a hubbie. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LIVINGFREE19 11/29/2011 5:23PM

    Wow! You can do a lot of 'man stuff' but that is awesome. It can take forever sometimes waiting for the male part of the house to help out for sure.
Knowledge is power!
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The bell ringers for Salvation Army

Monday, November 28, 2011

Dont get me wrong the Bell ringers standing out in front of the stores are wonderful people!They deserve a medal for all the bad weather and pennies they get.Someone even went so far as to snatch and run with a kettle FULL of cash!That insessant ringing of the bell seems to stick in my head.I came out of JCPENNEY waiting for my husband to bring the car around and pick me and my many packages up...my head was splitting with a migraine...that's when im the meanest!Most shoppers were gone by now and that lady rang that bell loudly for the length of time i was there waiting...please i begged GIVE IT A REST...your arm must be tired by now and my head is aching.....It got louder and louder..jingle jingle jingle...she ignored my pleas...as soon as dh pulled up to load the bags she sat the bell down to smoke..Heeeey,how are ya?I heard hubby greeting someone...I was greedily swallowing some water and pain meds...I turned to look and he was speaking to the bell ringer....GRRR...I yelled out the window...Yeah howr ya doing?She turned so red...my DH was confused and I was telling him...its ok dear dont worry,you can treat me to dinner now!...Guess who was standing outside ringing a bell at the restraunt?????ARG!! emoticonSUSAN emoticon emoticon

  
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FIFIFRIZZLE 12/2/2011 3:52PM

    What a great depiction of the self-righteousness of some do-gooders. True charity asks a lot more of us, doesn't it! I am kind of dreading the melee of Christmas shopping, but thank goodness we don't have bell ringers. Though I like the sound of bells, so long as they are not used as a weapon!
Here in NZ the Sallies brass bands play carols, I LOVE that and hope it only arouses warm feelings in all.
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MARTHASPARKS 11/29/2011 11:32AM

    Those are good people but I can't imagine the reverberation of the bell with a migraine.

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FRANCESCANAZ 11/28/2011 8:45PM

    Every year my husband & i ring the bell on Friday evenings. We meet the nicest, most generous people, young & old. Also, each year my Junior National Honor Society members work in pairs on the Saturday before Christmas at the mall. They go all day, rotating one hour shifts. They love it! I think the bell ringing keeps them warm & singing. emoticon

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NSTARSMITH 11/28/2011 7:56PM

    Oh dear - nothing like a rotten migraine to bring out the worst, eh? I seriously doubt you object to the ringers: sounds like pure pain drove you to hollar ... well, I suspect the ringers will have the last ... ring? Hang in there. Put a few bucks in a kettle! Hope your migraines go away.

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BUELLRIDER 11/28/2011 2:40PM

    I would agree with you on the loudness of the bell. Friday I am helping my sister ring one at Walmart. Maybe I can wrap something in it to have it ring softer. I now, the bear bell I bought in Alaska would ring better. I wonder if my sister will let me get away with that. Wish me luck. emoticon

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AWONDERS59 11/28/2011 2:19PM

    My late grandmother rang the bell for over 75 out of her 102 years. Right up til she was 95

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I hope you all had fun!

Sunday, November 27, 2011

Thanksgiving 2011 has come and gone and im still standing!!A few pounds the heavier but overall im feeling great!It was so much fun.My three out of four daughters were here and we celebrated with so much laughter.We tweaked a few recipe's for healthier options,drank alot of water,they didnt even know that I made the sweet potato pie with fat free canned milk,egg sub's and equal.No pie is left to tempt me either.The mac n cheese was made with low fat cheese and it was awesome.Today we got together and put up the Xmas tree and dec'd the house.I havent washed so many dishes in months.The kids use a cup and put it in the sink....whew!I havent had this much fun in years!!I hope you all had fun too...xoxoxoxox.... emoticonSUSAN

  
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FIFIFRIZZLE 12/2/2011 3:59PM

    Sounds lovely.
I love the cleanup after a good dinner party, time to reflect on all the fun. That said, I've been thinking, maybe Santa might bring you a dishwasher? You seem to have so many dishes in your life... And not all in a good way.

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LIVINGFREE19 11/28/2011 1:35AM

    That's awesome you had a great time and did well on the calories!!
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SHASSYSUE2 11/28/2011 12:33AM

    I am so happy for you!!! I am glad that you had a wonderful time!!!! I got my house decorated this weekend to, now to get back to eating well, and getting back into the pool!!!! Have an awesome week!!!!

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KOFFEENUT 11/27/2011 11:06PM

    So glad it was a memory-building Thanksgiving - that's the BEST part of this holiday!!!

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MARVEEME 11/27/2011 8:43PM

    Mmmmmmmmmmmmm....pie.

Fun and laughs with family in exchange for doing more dishes? I'll take that over any posed alternative of those items, Amen!

Blessings!

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OH MY!THE HOLIDAY SHOPPING!!!

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

It's an obstacle course at Wal Mart..the shoppers are angry,hurried and frustrated trying to get last minute foods.I wont let myself get that way anymore.Last year my sweet hubby had me searching high and low for xmas tree pans.I found them and we didnt even use them..We think we need so many things...when there are people in shelters...homeless,jobless,foodless!I watch the craziness that goes on.The key to it all is Being Together...WE have created our own traditions throughout the 37 years.I would be okay with pizza,wings,salad and pie.Watch a few movies,play outside,take a walk.My hubby is a stickler for traditions and wont budge.Take it easy on yourself and remember its the friends and family thats MOST important....Have a Happy Thanksgiving my sparkies emoticon emoticonSUSAN

  
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SHASSYSUE2 11/25/2011 2:11AM

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MARTHASPARKS 11/24/2011 11:31AM

    Have a great Thanksgiving and don't let the turkeys get you down. I wouldn't shop on Black Friday for anything.

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MARVEEME 11/24/2011 7:02AM

    Mmmmmmmm......pie. Oh yeah!

Don't sweat the small stuff. Happy Thanksgiving!

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MOBYCARP 11/23/2011 3:35PM

    Yeah. I got out of work early today, and even Aldi was crowded enough to be a little annoying. Fortunately, I was able to get all but one item at Aldi. I still have to go to Walmart, but I only have to get one thing and I know where it is. Should be reasonably quick, other than the inevitable wait at checkout.

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BARBAELLEN 11/23/2011 2:28PM

    I've been so sick recently that everyone in my family feels sorry for me. They're bringing everything to my house for Thanksgiving to keep me from having to do anything. I'll wait until dinner's on the table to let anyone know I'm finally feeling better.
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FIFIFRIZZLE 11/23/2011 12:58PM

    Even though we don't celebrate Thanksgiving here in NZ I am beginning to feel the stress in the lead up to Christmas. We have friends coming tomorrow for a traditional time that we spend together and I am dreading the rushing around it involves. But when they are here, it will be a good time together.
Enjoy being together, everyone.

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MNOT2THICK 11/23/2011 12:09PM

    I can so agree. Making a simple meal from what is in the house. Ground turkey, stove top stuffing, baby spinach and yams. I am thinking of making them into a shepherds pie.

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PAWSINAZ 11/23/2011 12:03PM

    I would like to crawl under a rock until the middle of Jan.

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ARCHIMEDESII 11/23/2011 11:08AM

    I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving, Sue !!! On the one hand I can understand wanted to keep things simple, but I see the hubs point too. It's Thanksgiving. It's the one or two days of the year when people should enjoy their traditions.

Personally, I never understood why people get sooo upset at this time of year when they go shopping. Of course, there are going to be lines at the market. Of course, there are going to be crowds. People need to relax. Stamping their feet isn't going to make the line move any faster.

I try to stay upbeat whenever I'm stuck in line. I try to lighten things up because people are just too up tight.

Anyway... have a great holiday !!




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