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Jake the snake

Sunday, October 16, 2011

Surprised is what I was when I stepped outside to take a bag of trash to the dumper.A snake lay there sunning himself on the sidewalk!My husband was cooking me breakfast and washing the dishes and I wasnt about to spoil that moment for any snake...LOL...besides the snake was eating a rat.I took out my phone and snapped a pic to show my brother.NAW,its just a rat snake he said he will eat rodents,bugs,frogs and other small snakes.Glad to know Jake the snake was taking care of our rodent troubles!Later on I was going to get in the car and looked down,there was Jakes mama right next to my foot...woohoo I ran like crazy!!well,I got my exercise today!! emoticon emoticonSUSAN

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MNOT2THICK 10/17/2011 9:22PM

    you made my skin crawl, yay for the exercise!

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MARVEEME 10/17/2011 6:02AM


At least you now know you don't have a heart condition. LOL

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HICKOK-HALEY 10/17/2011 5:24AM

    Lol...At least you didn't kill Jake or his Mama...

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DUSTYGIRL25 10/17/2011 3:43AM

    Yucky! I really don't like snakes but I think my hubby is more scared of them than me. (He'll never admit it though)

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LYNN-LOVESLIFE7 10/17/2011 1:47AM

    emoticon emoticon Jake the snake "mama" helped you lose a few inches. I'm scared of them. Glad, your okay.

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ARLENE_MOVES 10/17/2011 1:31AM

    We had copperheads in our neighborhood. They would sun themselves on our driveway. Neighbors tell me they haven't seen one in years. Problem is, I can't tell the difference between a regular old snake and a copperhead. People have showed me pics, but when I see one, I have to ask someone to tell me what it is. I think they are all copperheads -- so I stay clear and really worry about my dogs. Interestingly, mine stay away from snakes. When they see one, they bark and once the snake moves on or we move him on, they stay away from the area for awhile. Didn't know they would do that...

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 10/17/2011 1:06AM

    emoticon Glad they were just rat snakes.

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FIFIFRIZZLE 10/17/2011 12:30AM

    Good story! We don't have snakes in NZ. I think I would have found it a bit unnerving.

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SNOWANGELDIVA 10/16/2011 10:39PM

    I want does he handle cold weather?

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My mama's voice

Saturday, October 15, 2011

Looking across the lawn at my neighbor struggling to bring in groceries with a broken leg,I totally had to laugh.What goes around comes around...was my thoughts.She had left me walking in a pouring down thunderstorm,when my car had broken down.I could hear my mama's voice in my are nothing like her so,go help her!I came up and grabbed 4 bags took them inside and told her to go sit down while I returned to get more bags.I closed her trunk and went home.I would like to say that kindness begets kindness but,she didnt say a word to me!!I stewed over it until I heard my mama's voice again....Do not do a favor for a favor returned.Oh mom I thought it would be nice to have a pat on the back though....LOL!It did feel good to help another but,she may just be walking in a pouring down thunderstorm someday as I drive by!! emoticonSUSAN

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FIFIFRIZZLE 10/17/2011 12:50AM

    Aren't you a kind person! Your mother sure did a great job bringing you up, she would be so proud of you.
And she lives on in you.

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ASHAIXIM 10/16/2011 11:08PM

    She was probably too embarrassed and seething in her own guilt!

I had a neighbor (still have her) who was just AWEFUL to me for over a year... yelled obscenities and everything every time I walked outside and she could see me. Then one day she was sweeping up leaves in front of my house (not to be nice but because they would blow into her yard and she's very house proud) and I sent her a thank you note in the mail... now I'm her best friend! She lived a very rough life and expected people to be mean to her so got her meanness in first... I just had to kill her with kindness!!

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ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 10/16/2011 10:54PM

    I admire you! I would be stewing about it but you are a noble spirit. emoticon

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DUSTYGIRL25 10/16/2011 9:23PM

    Your Mom was so smart, wasn't she? And you are just like her.

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HICKOK-HALEY 10/16/2011 6:17AM

    Your a good person, and a better person. emoticon

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KOFFEENUT 10/16/2011 1:08AM

    Sometimes that "repay with kindness" can be TOUGH - but you have a terrific model you're following!

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SNOWANGELDIVA 10/15/2011 11:37PM

    I'm lovin' that Mama voice, Sue. Bless her.
Good work woman. Good work!

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 10/15/2011 11:15PM

    Our reward in heaven is far greater than any earthly hurrahs. emoticon emoticon

It is sweet you went and helped her.

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BETTERHEALTH123 10/15/2011 10:45PM

    I'm in a "goofy mood". Maybe since you brought all the bags in, she "expected" you to put her groceries in the cupboards/refridge for her...

(Just kidding)... I can't believe how very rude some people are...She could have at least said thank you. She sounds like she has problems.

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MARTHASPARKS 10/15/2011 10:36PM

    Susan, it won't happen. Your mother's voice is too loud and ingrained in you to allow you to be unkind deliberately. You have a sweet heart and can't pass by a person in need, even if they are not a friend in need. Don't ever let that change!

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MARVEEME 10/15/2011 10:29PM

    ......but being of better fabric, you shall stop.

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The wind beneath my (bat)wings!

Friday, October 14, 2011

I was frustrated and walking always does me good.When I cant solve the turmoil within me and Im stewing over it,I will mull it over in my head until I'm crazy....well I am crazy naturally!It's what makes me the wild and daring woman I am.I dressed in my walking clothes,pulled on my sneakers,turned on some walking music and set out with a vengeance,determination a sparkle in my phone rang...grrr...I answered it and continued to walk a little faster starting to huff and puff.MOM!shouted my newly turned 21 year old daughter.What are you doing?I'm busy walking dear!I answered.All you care about is exercise,she grumbled.What do you want? I need to talk,can you sit down?My ears perked up and my stomach tied in knots.She was getting ready to bitch at me again for god knows what.I cant sit down I'm out on the walking path..she mumbled something....Just say it dear i said....Why do you always treat me like trash?Oh boy here it comes....When was this?....well,you break your neck for everyone but me....My necks not broken!....MOM!!this is not a joke....When I need you,you bail on me(I did bail her out of jail 2 years ago)I was wishing I had the money back..hmmmm.....MOTHER!!she yelled through the phone You are always on THEIR side(everyone but her)....I'm not!I reassured her....I'm trying to be on my side....You mom are not being funny right now!!!....I'm seriously not trying to be....Why wont you answer my calls?(she calls me at 11pm)....I'm sleeping?or at the gym,away from my phone,in the shower....she treats me like I'm a teenager and she's such a drama queen...I picked up my pace and am running,my arms pumping,my batwings are almost gone,im out of breath and cant answer her comments on my unsatisfactory parenting skills.WOOOO she yells and hangs up.I ran until my wind was gone and so was the pesty daughter.I did call her back and listen to her rantings.I could listen to her everyday and she would be unhappy about something about ME but,I dont care so much anymore!I have put her and her sisters first all their lives!!I am sick today and im taking it easy until Monday so.... emoticonSUSAN

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FIFIFRIZZLE 10/17/2011 12:42AM

    I love what Shassy said. I love that you were out exercising. What you wrote reminded me of that stage kids go through when they won't let you out of their sight. They even want to come in the bathroom with you.
I dunno, 21 seems so young these days. I'm sure I was more mature when I was 21.
Always exercising! You BAD momma!
Yay for you!

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ASHAIXIM 10/16/2011 11:12PM

    A lovely Christmas gift can be given in the form of a book called the Four Agreements. It basically says your life is your own, live it. Stop blaming other people and get off your drama kick... no one likes it but you.

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DUSTYGIRL25 10/16/2011 5:47AM

    Wow! Isn't it amazing how some grown kids can sometimes be so selfish? I have two of my own and I have gone through the same thing with both of them. How do they turn something so positive (such as us taking care of our health so we can be around on this earth longer),into such a negative thing. For some reason they still think us parents shouldn't have a life of our own.
I love my kids very much, but I know sometimes they cross that line and I have to remind them that they are now adults also, and not a child anymore.
You are doing wonderfully. Don't let her sidetrack you with to much Me, Me, Me. It's now time to put YOU, YOU, YOU first.
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MARTHASPARKS 10/15/2011 10:43PM

    When our kids were children, we put them first. They were the center of the known universe because they NEEDED us to survive and it was our responsibility to care for them until they were grown. Our children are grown. They really don't need us, they WANT us. Putting their wants before your own needs isn't unselfish anymore - it's really stupid. You need to care for yourself because obviously the girls aren't mature enough yet to care for themselves, much less you. You gave and gave and gave. Stop it and at least take time to care for yourself.

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SHASSYSUE2 10/15/2011 7:55PM

    I am sorry but I have to ask, do you have CALLER ID?? I have a Mother in Law who is the most miserable person on the planet, and I actually have her on her very own "special" ring tone, and when I hear it, I KNOW NOT TO ANSWER IT!! I have come to the point that my time, is not for her or anyone else to waste with their unhappiness. I can't help that they can not see the Blessings that God has for them, and I can't change their unhappiness only God can, so I choose to be proactive and NOT allow them to VOMIT on my time. I know that this is hard, they are your kids, and you love them, but they just don't seem to Love you enough to give you any credit.. You deserve so much more. I have been trying to teach my Son that before he speaks, to ask him these 3 questions... Is it true, Is it Beneficial, Is it Necessary?? If he can't say yes to all 3 I don't want to hear it. Maybe you need to tell your kids the very same thing.... I love you Girlfriend, hang in there!!! HUGS!! Shannon

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BETTERHEALTH123 10/15/2011 10:45AM

    I know that stomach tied in knots feeling.

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IILAAD65 10/15/2011 7:11AM

    Aww hon. I know EXACTLY what you are saying. My oldest tries to mother me. She actually is talking about moving out soon!

But this is YOUR life. YOU deserve to be happy!!

I think as we age we begin to understand how awful we treated our parents and that being a MOM is NOT easy.

One day... she'll get it. In the meantime, do your thing. BE HAPPY!!

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MARVEEME 10/15/2011 7:05AM

    Hang in there, sweetie. She'll miss you terribly when you're gone.

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MIMI-NANNY 10/15/2011 12:44AM

    Girrrrl, sounds like my 22 yr old son! It's allll about him - maybe it's just the age. But yeah, he's definitely full of drama and there's always some predicament when he calls - either he needs money, or somebody's trying to do him wrong. *Sigh* I feel for you, sugah... BIG emoticon


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tomorrows another chance

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

I have fought the inner demons that cause self-loathing for years!They are all but gone but,They are like alcoholism...they destroy my faith and determination if left to fester.I care alot what others say to me,especially my daughters.They seem to think my world revolves around them and dont give a hoot that,I have other people I see and places I go.If something happens in their lives I'm supposed to automatically know with my superhero radar...LOL....I'ts taken me a long time to get where I am and Im self destructing from stress.I keep my successes to myself because really nobody but Kayla cares.If I start talking about anything weight related,the subject gets hurriedly changed.BECAUSE,it's not about them!How did I raise them to be so coceited and rude and think its ok?We can for all intents and purposes laugh,joke and have a blast until,I scratch the surface and piss them off!It's always been about them!I put me on the back burner,threw myself out on the porch for a doormat and now Im expecting respect?how dare I?I love my Children dont get me wrong but it's my turn to be in the spotlight!It's my turn to SHINE!!And if they dont want to watch and enjoy my journey,they can move the hell outta my way!!Sorry for airing grievances folks!! emoticon emoticonSUSAN

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MAMAG476 10/14/2011 4:22AM

    Good for you. You are not alone. We do for our kids well because they are our kids. They didnt come with manuals so you take one day at a time. You can say no. You have raised your family. Lived thru your problems. They need to do the same. There is nothing wrong with you living your life. You have earned that right. You have the right attitude. If they dont like it get the hell out of the way. I totally agree. Stick to your guns. Write a few boundaries. And dont let your kids cross them. You can do it. Take back your power. Spark. And put the flame under someone else butt. emoticon

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SHASSYSUE2 10/12/2011 11:52PM

    I say we need to get our kids together, and leave them to battle it out, and you and I go on vacation!!! JUST US and a cute CABANNA BOY!! Whoo Hoo!!! I hope this made you smile!!! HUGS!! Shannon

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SUECHRIS50 10/12/2011 6:19PM

    I failed to mention their ages...35,31,21,17 and the 17 year old has more smarts and respect than anyone!!

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BARBAELLEN 10/12/2011 6:16PM

    Susan, I hope you're paying attention to the comments you've gotten on this blog. Notice a common theme? Kids are immature and naturally selfish until they grow up. They've been the center of their mother's attention for their whole lives, and it doesn't just stop in a flash. It takes longer to learn that it's not "all about me" with a parent than it does to learn that with the outside world. The outside world never did consider them the center of the universe and doesn't provide unconditional love!

Like many, many parents, I recall hearing from others how considerate and polite my kid was, and I wondered if they were talking about the RIGHT kid! In other words, kids drive us nuts sometimes, and they will see themselves as the center of your attention until, and if, they learn otherwise.

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BETTERHEALTH123 10/12/2011 8:26AM

    I didn't realize you had two daughters in their thirties.

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MARVEEME 10/12/2011 8:21AM

    That's right, you didn't infuse them with that selfish attitude, it is natural ID that everyone is born with. Don't take it personally, but do what you're doing....push them out of the way to put the rightful owner of the spotlight at the right moment. They'll figure it out, and if not, they'll be road pizza as you run over them!

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FIFIFRIZZLE 10/12/2011 3:47AM

    Ah, kids are naturally selfish. It's their nature. They will grow up and move on. Then they will appreciate everything you are doing for them now. I've been really enjoying your assertiveness with your kids, I'm sure it's good for them. You're obviously a great mother.
It's very hard to find space for yourself with a house full of kids, I remember so well feeling desperate and swamped but all will be well, just keep on doing what you are doing.

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 10/11/2011 11:40PM

    emoticon Sorry you are not having the best day. I think our kiddos love to drive us batty. emoticon

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SNOWANGELDIVA 10/11/2011 11:35PM

    Sue, I'm sorry they're not loving you like you should but do not gauge your worth on their immaturity.
You are worth every effort you take to care for your body. If they do not want to share in your journey do not give them the privilege of hearing it.
You will get to your destination, you will shine and then they will see. They will feel a little ashamed that they could've been more to you when you needed them to be, but, that's their issue. Don't wait for them to grow up before you take care of yourself.
The same people that treated me poorly and ignored my need for support are lavishing attention on me now that I'm visibly different and more confident. I still have the same brain and know true friends!
You "do you", Susan, 'it all comes out in the wash'.
Hopefully, they'll learn compassion in the process...
You can do this!!! You're worth it!!

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like my life isnt full enough

Monday, October 10, 2011

My husband and daughter both came home asking me to bake,my friend wants me to go house hunting with her,My daughters old elementary school asked me to help with a field trip.And I had to take the car back a third time to get re-repaired!!!Calgon take me away!(old tv commercial)My daughter got up on the grouchy side Friday morning and asked..Can you pick up some snacks for Jess's party(her bff)She has two working but able bodied parents.No,sorry I cant I have a list of things!She got perturbed and says Why?you dont have a job!!and they do. emoticonyes the devil came out in me!This person is ready to move out she thinks...haha!My life isnt full enough but,she thinks that I am superwoman(flattering)but not working at that moment.Look I answered you and the girls walk to the store after school and I'll pick you up when you are done(they dont want to mess up their flat shoes walking somewhere)After much eye rolling and grumbling she agrees emoticonI hate car dealership waiting area's they are worse than the ER.People sniffling,coughing,hacking,red nosed and bleary eyed.I got a seat as far away as I could.I waited 2 hours for a shuttle ride back home.As soon as I was able to return and pick up the car,my daughter says they are ready to be picked up.I get there and 8 kids are waiting!!! emoticonI dont have a bus!!I put my foot down and refused to be a taxi.....she then proceeded to pout and give me the silent treatment.....AHHHH heavenly quiet and peace! emoticonSUSAN

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SHASSYSUE2 10/11/2011 5:44PM

    I know why God made babies cute!!!! If they had been born teenagers, we would have never had any!!!! The world would have died out right after Adam and EVE LOL!!!! Girl you are singing my song!!!!! LOL emoticon

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MARVEEME 10/10/2011 7:06PM

    Repeat after me:




Too harsh? Try this:

"I'm sorry, that's just not something I can do."


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IILAAD65 10/10/2011 2:29PM

    OH MY !!! sounds just like my house! lol

Now they threaten ME with moving out.. um can i help you pack?? And trust me, you aren't hurting my feelings lol

I feel your pain and understand your PEACE!!!


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FIFIFRIZZLE 10/10/2011 1:14PM

    Awww, kids are cute.
Then they turn into teenagers. Not so cute.
I had a German Short Haired Pointer who never quite cottoned on to the fact that he wasn't a puppy anymore and couldn't fit in my lap, no matter how long he lived.
Your blog really shows how our teens are children while they're learning to be adults. emoticon
Good job sticking up for yourself, a good lesson for your daughter. And so sweet that she thinks her mom has magical powers. emoticon
She clearly knows she is loved.

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MARTHASPARKS 10/10/2011 12:34PM

    Kids. We have just the one but for at least 12 years, I felt that I had 12 living with me for food, and taxi service. I didn't "work". I had a job that allowed me to work at home and to flex, so most people didn't realize that I worked, including our daughter. Right before she started medical school, she told me that she wanted to be a stay at home mom. I was horrified and asked, "Then why the he** are you spending $200,000 and 6 years of agony going to med school?" She asked why I was so upset - after all, I was a "stay at home" mom. I told her I wasn't - that I always worked and flexed to be home when she was. She was silent for a minute and said, "Oh, that's right. Well, that is what I want to do..." KIDS!

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