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Just sad and angry

Friday, October 07, 2011

No matter how hard im trying to have some space to myself,my dog follows me,my husband does too and my daughter is hugging me.Funny thing is,that when I'm not bumping into THEM,I feel like where is everyone?I was feeling sorry for myself today and thinking why is eating so much fun and gaining weight is not?I have gained some weight back and my esteem is in the TOILET.I have hit a wall of sorts.I Hate feeling low!It feels like 10 steps forward,10 steps back.I am stoked when I get up and start then,tired and weary after a while,and start to cry from frustration.Go figure but menopause could be the reason!I never cry but,it takes the pressure off when I do.... emoticonI am woman hear me roar emoticon emoticonSUSAN

  
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FIFIFRIZZLE 10/9/2011 12:40AM

    Hope you are feeling better soon. That weight will shift and you will have fun losing it.

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MARTHASPARKS 10/8/2011 10:57AM

    Are you getting help for the menopause? it doesn't have to be hell.
I hope that you can get a good night's sleep and feel better. And, my #1 best advice: Feeling fat and ugly and overwhelmed can drain the fun out of life, so go and do something nice for yourself. Buy a new workout video or a pretty lipstick or shirt for today, for right now. Then decide on the treat you'll get when you are back on track. Instead of Eleanor Roosevelt's advice to "do one thing every day that scares you" go and do one thing every day that delights you!

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BETTERHEALTH123 10/8/2011 10:19AM

    What's "wrong" with crying? But I also know exactly what you're saying.

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FLAFLUTTERBY 10/8/2011 2:54AM

    Been there, done that, and it's not a lot of fun ... but, as everyone has pointed out, it is much better on the other side. Try not to be so hard on yourself (easier said than done). Sometimes you have to allow yourself to just be whatever it is you're feeling ... sad, angry ... whatever. Set a time limit for your feelings and then change them to something a little more positive by doing something you enjoy. This too shall pass.

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MARVEEME 10/8/2011 12:44AM

    I hear ya, and I can relate. Spontaneous showers help me. If you've ever held a cranky baby who is not wet, hungry, or tired and doesn't want to cuddle or play, a good bath was always my "go to" attitude changer. That's when I realized it works on us big girls too. While it is quite a release to be able to also cry in the shower, it is also a GREAT place to stretch and do toe touches while the water soothes your back and muscles. Quite a refreshing attitude changer.

Hope this idea helps you as much as it has me. Quite a revelation!

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SHASSYSUE2 10/7/2011 7:15PM

    I want to cry iwth you!! Today has been one of those days too!!!! I must be at the beginning stages of Menopause, and already I can tell this is NOT going to be fun!!!!! Also NOT a good time to have a teenager in the house!!!!! Oh I feel so sorry for him!!!! Thank Goodness I have my friends here on Spark to help me through it!!!! HUGS!! Shannon

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1MANKNEY 10/7/2011 6:03PM

    Menopause is that same old hormone thing that you get when you are pregnant only more so and with the added fun of hot flashes, night sweats and mood swings. Talk to your doctor to find out what you can expect and if there is anything you can do to make it not quite so awful. And, if crying or screaming helps, go for it! emoticon
At least it is a limited time thing and much easier on the other side of it.

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LHLADY517 10/7/2011 5:53PM

    Hang in there. It is a tough time.

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PUDLECRAZY 10/7/2011 5:52PM

    Roar away, Woman! Yup, menopause will do that to you... hormones all out of balance and tears. You WILL get through it, but dang, it can be tough going sometimes.


"There is no more creative force in the world than the menopausal woman with zest." Margaret Mead

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 10/7/2011 5:48PM

    emoticonHang in there.

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ALASKASKY 10/7/2011 5:42PM

    Menopause is serious business. My mom is going through it and she is miserable.

I hope you feel better tomorrow.

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ARLENE_MOVES 10/7/2011 5:35PM

    Oh man, I cried alot when I went through menopause. I was working then and I would close my office door and put a sign on the outside that said 'enter at your own risk - I do not apologize for biting'. Rough time and while going through it, most of us don't understand what is happening to us -- but we know it when we see it. Just so you know, it will be better on the other side!!

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neighbors that are not neighborly!

Thursday, October 06, 2011

I have lived here for 14 years in my neighborhood.I tried getting to know the people around but,they seemed to want their space.So,I left them alone after trying several times.They would accept bushels and baskets from my garden of endless veggies and fruit trees bent over.But,when I would come across them in church or the grocery or doctor they would pretend not to see me!!I gradually stopped bringing them my garden treasures.Now whatever surplus I have it goes to the food kitchen feeding the hungry.A few weeks ago on my walk I came upon a tiny kitten with a rope around its neck.I rang several doorbells and was told nobody owned the kitten.So,the animal lover in me carried his tiny meowing and trembling purring self wrapped in my tee shirt home with me.I called the no kill and they cant take him for weeks.I didnt want to go out and buy a bunch of kitty food and litter box so,I decided to take him to the cat lady(my children's nickname)She answered the door with a huge smile.I introduced myself(she has seen me walking)and explained my dilemma.I unwrapped my kitten that turned out to be a girl.Her name is SuzyQ!Dayna is a foster mom for dogs and cats.We bathed SuzyQ and gave her some kitty formula and some crunchies to nibble on,clipped her claws and she snuggled right up to another cat that had lost kittens of her own.Dayna is a Joy to talk to and a fast friend to me.We have lived this close for 14 years and have missed out on a happy friendship.I bought 3 different kinds of cat food and 4 cat toys to help her out.I've found homes for 4 of her dogs and 5 cats/kittens.It's a shame people are so scared to be friends with us.I will keep trying though.Me and my daughter are planning to make christmas cookies for them and a card telling them they can knock on our door anytime.Almost all of us are retired military....... emoticonSUSAN

  
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ALASKASKY 10/7/2011 5:53PM

    I wish you were my neighbor too.

My neighborhood is the same way. I think a lot of people are going through things that they don't want others to know about. I get that feeling because I see the things that go on here.

The neighbor with the wild teenage daughter who always has different boys over while the parents are at work, a few who are going through financial problems, one who was being abused by her husband, and so on and so on.

But who cares, that's what neighbors are supposed to do. Be there to help each other through the hard times. I've been through my own issues with a teen daughter, a husband, and finances. It sure would have been nice to have someone to lean on in those times.

You'd be a great neighbor.

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FRANCESCANAZ 10/7/2011 3:04PM

    When we moved into our neighbor hood 10 years ago noone welcomed u so after a year I went knocking on their doors. One neighbor turned out to be a great friend the others wanted their space so... Glad you are neighborly and help out when you can.

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NANASAMM 10/7/2011 12:21PM

    Suzy Q appeared so she could bring you two together as friends. Job well done Suzy Q!
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DIANNEMT 10/7/2011 8:29AM

    Glad you found a friend! My in-laws were retired military and made friends wherever they were. Sorry your neighbors are not like that!

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MAMAG476 10/7/2011 1:17AM

    I wish you were my neighbor. I think we would have alot of fun. If you know what I mean. You are a good person. I am glad we are Spark friends. God bless you and yours. emoticon emoticon

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COMPASS_ROSE 10/6/2011 7:56PM

    Good for you and especially GREAT for them! My motto is don't every give up! What a kind soul to look out for that sweet little kitty and look at the reward--you made a wonderful new friend.
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SNOWANGELDIVA 10/6/2011 5:43PM

    Sue, I'm so glad you found your kindred spirit!
WOO HOO to new friends!
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SHASSYSUE2 10/6/2011 5:34PM

    I just wish you lived in my neighborhood!!!! I am so glad that you found your new friend!!! She is Blessed to have found you!!!! HUGS!! Shannon

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PRETTYLILHEFFER 10/6/2011 4:03PM

    Bless you for saving that cat, and so glad you and your neighbor could band together. Hopefully your other neighbors come around!

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RUNNER12COM 10/6/2011 3:43PM

    What a great friend to find, right there in your own neighborhood. And good on you for creating a plan to meet some other folks, too. Don't give up on them!

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I spent the morning with my old folks

Wednesday, October 05, 2011

It's funny they call themselves my old folks!I washed hair,did nails,read books,wrote emails,clipped toenails and gave a speech about eating right!Henry,a prankster says what are ya our mama??Everyone laughed and I said No but if you dont stop eating junk,I'll be here wiping drool from your silly chin when you have the stroke you threaten me with!!All the fellas cracked up laughing at the look on his face,,,,TOUCHE HENRY!!What was hilarious was that Joseph's daughter brought him some underwear as a gag gift!he was smiling until he unfolded them...they were so big they fit across the desk!We had a good time laughing at that.She finally brought out his fall clothing and he gave a fashion show shouting...LOOK OUT,MR.STUDMUFFIN IS HERE!!My sides were aching..Zoey shouted from her small voice IN YOUR DREAMS BABY!!I swear they are like teenagers.My poor daughter is sick(my fault) and working her butt off!Being home is a blessing and im gonna take a nap(right!) emoticonSUSAN

  
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FIFIFRIZZLE 10/7/2011 8:15PM

    You had such a god time with those folk, it sounds truly nourishing for you both.
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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 10/6/2011 9:54AM

    What a fun day. emoticon

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BETTERHEALTH123 10/6/2011 9:08AM

    "Don't you ever take a break?" You're always on the "go"... Well I guess it's better to "stay busy" it keeps you out of trouble..

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MARVEEME 10/5/2011 8:20PM

    LOL Thanks for sharing. Hope you enjoyed your nap!

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ARLENE_MOVES 10/5/2011 7:29PM

    You are obviously having a ball with the 'old' folks. Laughter for them and you is super important. Good job!

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I've been on a JOY ride!

Tuesday, October 04, 2011

My life is so FULL!I can't catch my tail(so to speak) My dear husband has had a few days to take a trip to Louisiana to see his family.We saw them all in January and I was quite surprised at how big(FAT) they all have gotten!!It's as if this little town has not been notified that healthy food exists!!When they get together its all concentrated on the greasiest,cream laden,fried,fatty food,sweets in sugar and caramel and syrup.Bacon and sausage swimming in grease,salad drenched in cheese and ranch.I was horrified!!My inlaws are mostly diabetic and still eat like theres no tomorrow.I did not comment but,just drove up to the supermarket and bought a rotisserie chicken,naked salad and wheat rolls.I was talked about like I was showing off for their benefit...hmmm!Oh my gosh,they told me I was disrespecting my mother-in-law!!She made all this food and I go and eat something else...how dare I?I was in tears,embarassed and my MIL said ya'll shutup to her right now!!If we were to eat better we would'nt be in the shape we are in now.....WOW!!I managed to gain 5 pounds but lost 4 !!I am so happy to be home.Ever since we got home I have been going non-stop 100 miles an hour.The same car I had in the shop 3 weeks ago broke down again.I had an eye exam.dental cleaning.head cold(i ended up in the ER)my fever was 103 and I was dehydrated from vomiting due to getting food poisoning!My daughter was helping Church make 300 cupcakes plus she worked everyday till 11pm.Pray for me please!! emoticon emoticonSUSAN

  
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FIFIFRIZZLE 10/5/2011 12:00PM

    What a lot all at once. emoticon
Time to practice the three rs: Rest. Relax. Regroup.

I think it is wonderful that your MIL appreciated your efforts and supported you.

Poor you in the ER, if anything is a signal that you do need to give yourself a little healing space, a trip to the hospital oughter do it.

As for the car, ours is like that too. We're throwing good money after bad.

I'm beginning to consider just using public transport. We did that for six months before we got this car, buses and taxis and renting a car when we needed it. Online shopping for groceries. It cost no more than running avcar and we both walked a little more and lost some weight.

Anyway, you take care of yourself, you poor thing!

Hey, just as well you weren't babysitting that devil child as well, with all you have on!


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DUSTYGIRL25 10/4/2011 11:13PM

    Hope you get well real soon! Thank goodness you stood up for yourself and got something healthy to eat. If some people don't understand, that's their problem. It's your one life to live, we are all here to support each other and help each other stay on our healthy journey.

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MARTHASPARKS 10/4/2011 5:26PM

    I'm praying for you, Susan. I'm also happy that you have found a better path than your in-laws!

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BETTERHEALTH123 10/4/2011 3:47PM

    Oh my - that food your in-laws made seemed kinda good, but yucky at the same time. You did the wise thing by buying the chicken. Hang in there - those damn car repairs never seem to end. Was there anything good about your trip?

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MARVEEME 10/4/2011 2:47PM

    My prayers are with you. Hang in there, sweetie, better days are right around the corner.

Blessings!

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SHASSYSUE2 10/4/2011 2:36PM

    You poor thing!!!! Hang in there, and remember I luv ya!!!! HUGS!! Shannon

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GONEWLIFE 10/4/2011 2:27PM

    Hope you feel better !

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NO!!I wont babysit!!

Thursday, September 29, 2011

My friend Carla has a little bad monster of a boy!He is adorable but,BAD!She lets him come in my house and throw things,drink juice anywhere he wants,stands on my furniture emoticonI'm not sure if his mom is getting the true picture of how rude it all is to me.I told her we dont act that way in our house.She ignores my rules and acts so calm I feel like slapping her and saying "Snap out of it"He is already around 70 pounds at age 5.And taller than the other kids in his pre K class.She comes over with a diaper bag full up with junk!Cookies,candy,coffee drinks(cause he likes them)soda,little debbies!She asked me to care for him while she works!HMMM.... emoticonI think NO WAY IN HELL!!So,I told her he was mean,rude,disrespectful and I would end up tying him to a tree and going to jail!She said AW he's not that bad...huh?Who is she kidding?Im a no nonsense kind of mom/grammy and I uphold the law around here.Heck,even my dog hides away when he comes around because he stabbed her in the ear with a sucker stick...she didnt forget!he would be a challenge to the emoticon emoticonNO I WONT BABYSIT.... emoticonSUSAN

  
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FIFIFRIZZLE 10/3/2011 9:04PM

    Oh good on you! Why on earth would you put yourself through that? Your time is far too valuable to waste on such a thing.

If he is in daycare his mother will have to change her ways to get them to accept him, and he will learn what is acceptable and what isn't. Which he is going to need if he is to advance through school.

Do you think his mother is on something to help her to zone out while all this mayhem is going on? I can't believe her calm reaction to your feedback about her child. Most mothers would go ballistic in several directions.

I wonder is she depressed (who wouldn't be, coping with such a wild child?) and I wonder also, is there something wrong with this little boy? I have a friend with a grandson who is autistic, his experience of his environment is that it is unbearably stimulating. His behaviour is much improved after he got treatment and people around him have a program for dealing with him to help him to become calm.

Hopefully your refusal will make his mother deal with his problems, and if not, why on earth would you?

i know this sounds hard, but it is coming from someone who raised somebody else's children, so I feel I have earned the right to comment.

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BETTERHEALTH123 10/1/2011 1:39PM

    I wouldn't babysit him either--I would start "running for the hills"...

When I'm out shopping I found it very irritating when I hear whinying, crying toddlers

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DUSTYGIRL25 9/30/2011 12:37AM

    OMG! No way would I ever take care of a kid like that! Not even if it was my own grandchild. I can't believe the mother can even handle being with him.
First she needs to get that child off the sugar and caffeine or no one will want to ever watch him.
I don't blame you one for not wanting to stay with him, who would?

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WILSON425 9/29/2011 10:33PM

    She probably can't find a daycare center that will take him. If she could find one it would most likely be the best place for him. When you have a bunch of them you HAVE to keep rules and a structured environment. Also balanced meals. NO JUNK or coffee. You are right to say no.

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HDHAWK 9/29/2011 9:51PM

    Good for you for telling her how he is and for saying no!

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KIMBERTA99 9/29/2011 8:39PM

    OMG....that is horribble. I have 3 boys under 7 and they know they HAVE to show respect in someone else's house, no exceptions. Or we have to leave!! I would totally understand you not wanting to babysit!! And your poor dog. Maybe you should babysit and teach the monster some manners!!!

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NGALAX 9/29/2011 6:44PM

    And I don't blame you one little bit! This blog had me laughing! Thanks for stopping by mine emoticon for the great words of wisdom!

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MELLABELLAS 9/29/2011 6:43PM

    Who gives their 5 y/o coffee?

And your poor doggie! I wouldn't watch him either! Especially since he doesn't listen!

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BARBAELLEN 9/29/2011 6:35PM

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Susan, your description of this hefty, coffee-drinking, 5-year-old brat is soooo funny! I'm sure it's more funny reading about it than it is being around him. Yep, she needs another babysitter who finds him more appealling!

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MARVEEME 9/29/2011 6:29PM

    Good for you! Hopefully, this is the slap upside the head she needs to start being a responsible parent. Great job, Sue. Once again, a future generation benefits from a little tough love!

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SHASSYSUE2 9/29/2011 6:24PM

    HAHAHAHA!!!! I love your complete candor and honesty!!! My Godson, whom I love to death, has also turned into a little brat!! His Mother is my best friend in all the world, and the closest thing I have to a true sister, and yet she is the WORST disciplinarian that I know!!!! She is a such a sweet person, that she just will NOT make him mind. She verbally will tell him NO, but then goes ahead and lets him do whatever he wants to. He just started Kindergarten this year, and has already been to the principal's office 3 times!!!!! Then she calls me crying that she DOES NOT know where she has gone wrong!!!! OH MY!!! She also has a 12 year old daughter, that they are constantly buying whatever she wants, no matter how expensive... I just don't get it... I have become like you, I will not babysit, unless it is for a really good reason. STAND FIRM MY FRIEND!!!! HUGS!! Shannon

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ARLENE_MOVES 9/29/2011 5:54PM

    No, not your job to reform him or her. Hang tough lady!!!

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