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I have a .....FRIEND??

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

She never makes any sense to me!I honestly dont know why I tolerate her either.She wont come around if my black friends are here.They"have nothing in common!!My mexican friends are called beaners,the jewish ones are called athiest and I have 2 korean girlfriends she calls JAPS!!I told her to stop being racist and hateful!The last straw was yesterday when we went to lunch. A gay couple sat down to eat and she asked them to move!!! I said,Jay!!Are you serious they are not hurting you!She got loud and said,They are polluting my space!Well I said,you are sick and I'm leaving you alone!I got up to move my food and the gay couple invited me to sit down by them!Her face turned red and she screamed..FAG LOVER!!It didnt hurt me at all because suddenly I felt 200 lbs lighter. emoticonI called her and told her I would pray for her bitter soul and if she ever needed help to call me....I was raised to love all people...even the mean hateful ones..... emoticonSUSAN

  
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IILAAD65 8/30/2011 9:02PM

    Who would be soooo rude!! WOW.. good for you. And terrific of the gay couple to invite you to sit. KUDOS!!!

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TRESSWANN 8/30/2011 7:54PM

    Good for you. I am interracial and interfaith but very very fair. People always say things in front of me both in terms of religion and race on both sides of the aisle. I HATE ignorance and stupidity.
You are freer!

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FRAN0426 8/30/2011 4:30PM

    Now that was one fantastic reaction to your friend, standing up to how you were raised to treat others . You didn't need that negative friend, that only causes more stress for you, which none of us need. Hopefully one day this friend will get over the haterid of those not like themselves.

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OBOIST61 8/30/2011 3:17PM

    Susan, good for you ... couldn't have been easy but your heart is so much lighter now. Thank you for sending positive energy out into the world.
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COMPASS_ROSE 8/30/2011 2:49PM

    Good for you! Ours is not to judge but to love all -- God is big enough to sort it all out in the end. I actually have family members that behave this way too -- it puts a real strain on my heart and our relationship. I love them anyway but I try not interact with them in public. Why should the rest of the world endure their ignorance and hate...it shouldn't. God is good, sometimes, people are not. Good for you! You get a gold star and a blue ribbon!

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KIMMAS82 8/30/2011 2:45PM

    Wow! Good for you for standing up for other.

"A strong man stands up for himself, a stronger man stands up for others." In this case a woman, but you get the point!!

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FIFIFRIZZLE 8/30/2011 2:16PM

    Well done, you. You are really living what you believe. It is hard to reconcile being open to all kinds of people including the intolerant, but you have been a true friend to this person by demonstrating tolerance and acceptance in action, and also drawing a line. We all have the duty to take care of ourselves and protect ourselves against toxic people, and we don't have to be arond people that make us feel yuk.

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SHASSYSUE2 8/30/2011 1:12PM

    RUN!!!!! Good for you!! She will end up a very lonely person when she grows old, and that is sad, but some people will NEVER see that they are wrong, but WE have the choice, to be affected by their stinkin thinkin, and I am glad that you chose to drop her like a bad habit!!! YOU GO GIRL!!!! HUGS!! Shannon

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NSTARSMITH 8/30/2011 12:53PM

    Oh, wow! Way to go! Maybe you'd had all you could take but it takes courage to stand up to a really negative bully and then walk away. Good for you! emoticon

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DUSTYGIRL25 8/30/2011 12:43PM

    You did the right thing. She really has a lot of soul searching to do. I'd say maybe a lot of therapy also.
No one needs that much negativity in their life, I'm sure your other friends will feel much lighter too.

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SUZIEQS65 8/30/2011 12:41PM

    Good job - we do NOT need people like that on this planet! People have enough to worry about without people like her "spewing forth" racist & hateful comments.

Breath easy - you made the right choice!

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BECOMING_HOLLY 8/30/2011 12:35PM

    You are amazing! Thank you for sharing this story. I am sorry that you have someone in your life that is so disrespectful to people she doesn't know, but I am glad to know there are people in this world like you!

Holly (AKA A woman in a relationship with another woman, raising a biracial child)

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TRISSA3 8/30/2011 12:31PM

    It always makes me wonder who some people think they are when they feel like that. They seem to forget Who created this Earth, and that He is the one who put all of these races of peoples here and that He loves every single soul without distinction.

One of my kids asked (when they were really little) if God created us in His image, why didn't we all look alike. I said, we were made to look so different so we could recognize each other. If we looked the same, we couldn't tell who our mom or dad was in that mix. The real "image" of God is our soul. That bright, glowing inner part and THAT's what our Creator sees. He doesn't look at the outside to judge us. The outside "melts away" because God doesn't need that to recognize us. It's what's inside that He sees.

Praying for people like your friend is all we can do. Nothing in this world will change their minds.



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RUNNER12COM 8/30/2011 12:19PM

    Good heavens. What a piece of work that woman is. But how lucky for the rest of us in this world that YOU are the person you are!

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SUECHRIS50 8/30/2011 12:08PM

    Dont worry Martha,Im done with her for a long time!

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ARLENE_MOVES 8/30/2011 12:08PM

    emoticon emoticon You are a perfect person.

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MARTHASPARKS 8/30/2011 12:06PM

    This woman is not a friend; she is a head case. Please be careful around her because that kind of person is toxic and that type of anger is contagious. I know you want to be happy and positive and the best way to do that is to be around people who have joyful hearts. Pray for her Sue, but don't be around her.

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BERGBA7 8/30/2011 12:01PM

    God for you!
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I hit a roadblock!!

Monday, August 29, 2011

Yes I said roadblock!!I think that we all no matter how strong we are,Hit a roadblock!Well I hit one and i felt so down and humdrum that I wanted to cry!!!My husband,bless him,tried to cheer me up.I was landscaping the backyard and I could hear my mama's voice saying.It's okay susieQ we all have our moment now,suck it up and move forward!She was the type to spare no hurt feelings.I loved that about her!I was feeling sorry for myself and digging in the dirt.Crying big huge alligator tears while I was watering the bushes.I felt arms come around me and a kiss at the top of my head.It was my husband.I just turned around and let the floodgates open.He has to deal with me,4 daughters and 3 granddaughters even the dog is a girl.He gets cried on all the time!I guess its the weight coming off I dont know,maybe its menopause.It's like a cleansing of my soul because I hold alot inside to the point I cry.I didnt want to exercise,count calories,or eat right.I guess thats why alot of people are fat because its alot easier NOT to watch our diets,lay around and be lazy.My husband marched me to the treadmill and said,GET ON!I said NO!he picked me up and placed me on there and started it up.He said dont try anything woman!I schlepped along boringly for ten minutes until my body started loving it.I was off and jogging.He can be a pain and a BF!!Afterwards he grilled me some chicken,roasted some veggies and a baked potato and wheat rolls.....He's the best!When i'm faced with a roadblock from now on,I'll just climb over it emoticonI should have known that already..... emoticonSUSAN

  
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HICKOK-HALEY 8/30/2011 4:01AM

    Your Hubby sounds so sweet. And then to make you a good dinner!

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MARTHASPARKS 8/29/2011 10:10PM

    An d if you can't climb over the roadblock, you are lucky enough to have someone who will haul your butt over it. Sometimes even Little Miss Sunshine needs a good cry...I know because I am joyful, positive, grateful and happy but every now and again, I need a good cry. it's just a way of blowing off steam in a harmless way instead of venting it at those close to us in a hurtful way.

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IILAAD65 8/29/2011 9:22PM

    You are sooooooooo lucky and blessed to have someone to lean on and who knows you sooooooooo well he knew exactly what to do!!

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LHLADY517 8/29/2011 9:02PM

    We are definitely fortunate to have such supportive husbands.

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TRESSWANN 8/29/2011 8:42PM

    Great. You are blessed. And it's good to cry

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ARLENE_MOVES 8/29/2011 8:32PM

    What a wonderful man; what a wonderful husband; what a wonderful friend. He knew just what you needed -- then took good care of you. Sweet!!

Glad your back and it's ok to cry. I've been through menapause and I vote for it!!! emoticon

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BAKERICLISA 8/29/2011 6:34PM

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SUECHRIS50 8/29/2011 5:43PM

    amen sister!!

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 8/29/2011 5:40PM

    Glad you are feeling better. emoticon This heat is not helping. It is zapping our energy.

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Texas Hot... blues!!

Sunday, August 28, 2011

Man,it's hot and It's hard to even go out to take the dog for potty breaks!The 100's have been here for 78 consecutive days with NO rain emoticonMy husband has been working 6/12 hour days and this was the only day he could get out....WHEW!!!I mean it was blistering,stifling,dry miserable HEAT.I could just stay home and hibernate until it passes but Its not possible.My washer and dryer are in my garage and I had to wash dh uniforms and socks!Grrr....109 and heat index of 114.Its scary that people are dropping like flies from this heat......pray for us emoticonSUSAN

  
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MARTHASPARKS 8/30/2011 11:22AM

    I wish they had called this a global weather shift instead of global warming - then maybe people would really believe in it. I hope you get some relief soon!

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MAMAG476 8/29/2011 12:11PM

    OMGoodness! It has been pretty nice in Iowa. I will pray for you and cooler weather. Hope everything else is going good. Kendra survived her golden birthday and mother received no phone calls to come bail her out. So she really is growing up. We may reach adulthood in a couple years. emoticon Hang in there. God bless Sandra

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MARVEEME 8/28/2011 10:18PM

    My prayers continue.
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May relief arrive soon!

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HICKOK-HALEY 8/28/2011 7:44PM

    That is tough. We have been 107 the last few days. Not as long as you though, and our humidity isn't as bad. I keep praying for a break for ya'll!

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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 8/28/2011 7:34PM

    Looking forward to next week...upper 90's. Who would have thought 98-99 would look good. emoticon

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DIVALADY 8/28/2011 7:04PM

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DEBBIEOLMOS57 8/28/2011 6:47PM

    it will get cooler in time

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Patience is a virtue

Saturday, August 27, 2011

Trust me when I say I have the patience of a saint...most of the time!Kayla on the other hand wants something yesterday!!I can sit in waiting rooms,DMV,the pharmacy,the car repair,lines at the grocery,lab,etc.recently we were having an oil change and She's ready to die in ten minutes!I just get a book and read.She hmmms and haws and is starving to death!I handed her a breakfast bar and she says dont you have any candy?No,thats all I have.Well,can I go and get something?okay!Oh blessed Peace!!!In walks a sulky teen boy,Im starving to death!!he says.His mom pulls out an apple,ewwww!! dont you have a candy bar?Everyone in there started laughing and Kayla comes back with a bag of candy bars and says Oh Hi Justin!!We all were laughing so hard and they both just looked at us like,LOONEYTUNES!!They are classmates!They were sitting down happily sharing candybars and talking.Please dont leave!!I prayed..... emoticonSUSAN

  
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SHASSYSUE2 8/27/2011 9:28PM

    I think our kids would be BEST friends!! Ha Ha Ha!!!

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MARTHASPARKS 8/27/2011 6:38PM

    Just remember that this is the same Kayla that those women were oohhing and aaahing about - with such lovely manners...kids are always at their best in herds. And at their worst in herds... emoticon

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ARLENE_MOVES 8/27/2011 4:42PM

    Thanks emoticon

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BARBAELLEN 8/27/2011 4:21PM

    I love Kayla stories. (I hate to tell you how much she sounds like me when I was that age. Uh-oh!) Anyhow, I'm glad she's not moving away any time soon! Thanks for sharing!
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STESSOUTCHICK1 8/27/2011 4:03PM

  Very cute and i relate

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KOFFEENUT 8/27/2011 3:45PM

    I think Mark Twain had the right idea - you should put children in a barrel and feed them through a hole until they become teenagers. Then you should plug up the hole!

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NEWMEPA 8/27/2011 3:27PM

    What a cute story. Don't you just love teenagers.

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nursing home abuse:part 2

Friday, August 26, 2011

So,I get asked to come over to the nursing home!I got there and here are my old friends sitting in the office,looking angry and wont make eye contact.Miss administrator asks me exactly what I thought could be happening to the residents.I tell her about the bruises(Im aware older folk bruise easy)I tell her of the fear in thier eyes when Nurse Weird(thier nickname)comes in the residents room.I tell about Maudes soiled diaper!She turned to ask the patients to give thier side.Mum,nothing,notta!!!I said,Be mad all you want but I'm being your voices.At least they will have a reason to investigate if something happens.Nobody would talk to me,so I got up to leave and who should step in the room???Nurse Weird!!!The old folks were asked to wait outside.To make a long story short...she admitted to physical and mental abuse!She is on leave pending psychiatric counseling so she could get her job back.I left without any of the folks saying anything....they feel like I betrayed thier trust.....I would do the same thing again!! It's ok and I understand and I will go back next week because I love them all! They are pouting for now....I do feel like a traitor but just a little........ emoticonSUSAN

  
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JOYSGARDEN 8/30/2011 4:16PM

    I agree with ourmama. They are afraid she will be back, and the abuse will be worse and more often. I'm glad the home handled it so quickly. Eventually the elders will realize she's not there, and they'll be back to being like they were before all this happened..... Way to go!

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SHASSYSUE2 8/27/2011 9:33PM

    You ABSOLUTELY did the right thing!!!! I am so glad that she is out of there until she gets help. It is the same thing that happens in so many abuse cases.. Nobody wants to admit that it is happening. Children will deny it, Battered Woman will deny it, and Seniors will deny it.... It is so sad... It takes strong and wonderful people like you to be their voice... I am so PROUD of you!!! HUGS!! Shannon

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TRESSWANN 8/27/2011 4:27PM

    You did the right thing. Thank goodness

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JFROGDIVA 8/27/2011 3:09PM

    GOOD for you!!!! When I lived in Florida, I was the DON of a nursing home & then a nurse consultant for the company!!!! It is SO important for people to come forward so that things like this can be investigated!!!! You did the RIGHT thing!!!!

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MSGUIDEDLEMMING 8/26/2011 10:52PM

    Good for YOU. The same kind of thing happened to my mother. She had no one to speak up for her except for me and my brother.
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BBORDEN86 8/26/2011 12:48PM

    Way to stand up for what you believe in!!! I'm surprised she admitted to that, but had you NOT reported that YOUR license would have been at jeopardy to continue to let it go on. emoticon

I know that's a tough situation to be in! The residents might be mad now, but they will be thankful when it's NOT happening anymore!! Give it time.

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TXGRANDMA 8/26/2011 11:57AM

    Good for you for standing up for those unable to stand up for themselves! That is intolerable to treat people that way! Hopefully "Nurse Weird" never is able to use the title "Nurse" again. If she is a licensed nurse, her license should be forcably revoked. You need to report this to the State Board of Nursing in the appropriate state.
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LJCANNON 8/26/2011 10:30AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticonThank you for standing up for them!! It is never easy to report any abuse because so often the victims are too scared to say anything. Obviously there was idence or Nurse Weird would not be gone (even temporarily).

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ALICIA214 8/26/2011 10:25AM

 

I have heard stories about abuse in nursing homes and I think it is shameful
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CRYSTLE4HIMTX10 8/26/2011 10:21AM

    I agree, they are just afraid. Once they are sure they will be taken care of in love they will come around. emoticon

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MARVEEME 8/26/2011 10:17AM

    They're scared, but after a week without Nurse Weird, they'll come around.

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