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What I've Learned

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

In my last blog I confessed to having lost just over 130 pounds and regaining 100 of it - all within a matter of months. This is what I've learned from the experience:

*if you under eat for months on end your body is going to rebel at some point and demand to be fed. you are probably going to want to eat A LOT

*over 2 hours of cardio every day (with no strength training) during (and only during) the weight loss phase is not the way to go. it is difficult to maintain that schedule over a lifetime

*drugs such as atypical antipsychotics used to treat mood and anxiety can affect your appetite and hunger but if you become apathetic and start believing that your weight is out of your control you can end up in serious trouble weight-wise

*one day after months of emotional eating it will dawn on you that many of the feelings you ate to get rid of are still with you - only now you have more pain - weight related pain that is both emotional and physical

In my last blog I said I am not ready to make a life commitment to healthy living. It seems too overwhelming. Thinking it over I realize it is part of my all-or-nothing pattern which has not worked.

JUST FOR TODAY I aim to eat healthy food within my healthy caloric range, get a healthy amount of exercise and find healthy ways to meet my emotional needs.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

GIGISPARKY 12/27/2011 12:55PM

    I admire your honesty, Strong-Fit-Girl. That is the big first step to getting healthy.

I know how you feel; I was there too. I lost a lot of weight twice -- 50 lb. and 60 lb. After gaining back the 50 lb. plus some, I realized that I needed more than just a diet. I joined Overeaters Anonymous and gained sanity and peace. Then I lost 60 lb. I have gained back 20 lb. because of side effects to the chemo treatment I have been on this past year, but I am off chemo now and looking forward to exercising again.

My best wishes to you and thank you for your honesty.


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4BARBIE44 11/9/2011 1:32PM

    Thank you very much for writing this blog! I have been on that same boat with you. We are in this together, my dear friend! Live one morning at a time, one afternoon at a time, etc... that is what I have been doing lately and am starting to have results again. You are awesome emoticon

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LIVESTRONG2010 10/30/2011 8:55PM

    That all or nothing thing gets me into a lot of trouble. You can do this!

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MKLEINSC 10/26/2011 7:05AM

    A very common line of thinking I have learned! Good luck on your journey!

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LIBBYFITZ 10/23/2011 10:45PM

    emoticon emoticonfor opening up and being honest with your self. Are you going to counselling to adress your emotional pain?

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BABYSOX 10/21/2011 5:43PM

    Your honesty is so sincere. Thank you! I like your attitude to take it one day at a time. Just try to take smaller steps this time..they all head in the right direction.

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MARITIMER3 10/19/2011 3:48PM

    I think we can all learn from your experience. Thank you for your honesty. I think you are right that we can't be perfect in all ways for all time, and if we put too much pressure on ourselves to be "PERFECT" we might rebel one day, and then watch out... the weight comes back. Like you, I'm trying to take it one day at a time, slow but sure, and try very hard to lear new habits. Hang in there, I believe you can do it.

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BTINTERNET 10/19/2011 2:27PM

    Great decision! One day at a time, one focus at a time! emoticon

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SIMPLE_IS_BEST 10/19/2011 11:59AM

    It's great that you know what went wrong, and are starting to work on doing better again. This must be terribly hard for you! Just take it one day at a time, and one step at a time. Make changes that will be sustainable for a lifetime. Good luck, you can do it!

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PAMATX 10/19/2011 11:27AM

    I too am guilty of all-or-nothing thinking and getting on a cardio kick that I can't maintain over a lifetime. I have to keep reminding myself that some weeks I'll get a lot of cardio time in, others I won't. All that matters is that I keep going. And starting over is okay, but it's better to start over every day, than every six months. I LOVE the "just for today" goal. Spectacular strategy!

Love your kitty wallpaper.

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SMILESHINE81 10/19/2011 8:52AM

    Thank you for being so honest! I hope you don't mind me adding you as a friend so I can encourage you along the way!

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FARLOWWOMAN 10/19/2011 8:15AM

    That's is girl, one day at a time!

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EDWARDS1411 10/19/2011 6:57AM

    Thank you for being so honest and sharing your yourself with others as so many are in the same predicament as you.

My oldest son who is very overweight (at least 150 lbs.) has also had the "all or nothing" attitude about health & fitness, but I think he's finally accepted that he's not perfect and that the old way of thinking has been working against him. He's on the right path again, taking it one day at a time. He's walking, doing strength training and yes, he's eating healthier and takes the occasional rest day when his body tells him he needs to. He's somewhat discouraged because he hasn't lost any weight in a couple of weeks, but he recognizes he feels better physically and emotionally and that's enough progress to keep him going. He's also learning there are and will continue to be bumps along the way which he accepts as a reality - it's the "keep on keeping on" that's important.

When we are too restrictive we set ourselves up for failure. Be more kind and gentle with yourself. Yes, you've done it before and you can do it again, just take it slower. Even if it takes you five years to do what you've done over a year in the past, you will be creating a lifestyle you can live with for the rest of your life. Think that you are not on a diet - but a live-it.

A little tip I've learned is to stick with the strength training which maintains and builds muscle to help with our metabolism which really starts to slow down after we turn 30.

I have a spark friend who says that everyday is the first day of the rest of her life - I like that! So indeed take it one day at a time.

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ROX525 10/19/2011 5:09AM

    You can do it!

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I've regained 100+ lbs. An Update

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

I was totally in control.
I lost 133 pounds in 16 months.
I was tracking consistently.
I was exercising consistently.
I was doing all the right things.

Ok. Maybe I wasn't.
I was under eating.
Over exercising.
Was not taking my medications
to manage my mental health.

So here I am
just 30 pounds away from where I started.

What do I do now?
Part of me feels too defeated to restart.
Another part of me knows that I have lost the weight before
and can do it again.
Still another part wonders what kind of toll this weight cycling
is having on my mind and body.
I know I'm not in a place to commit to healthy eating for the rest of my life.
Loosing weight gives you such a high -
regaining weight is a crushing blow that leaves you in the lowest of the lows.

I'm at a crossroad.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

LIVESTRONG2010 10/30/2011 8:51PM

    Man I so know how you feel! Last year I was at my lowest weight ever but today I am just 7 pounds from being where I started in 2009! This is a hard journey but one well worth it because we are worth it! It's just so much easier being over weight than it is to get healthy.

You can do this because there are so many out there with you in the same place.

Stay strong by friend! Blogging help a lot.

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ROCHELLE62 10/19/2011 9:42PM

    you learned a lot from the last attempt. figure out what you have learned and use it to formulate a better plan. Saying you under ate and over exercised is a good start. you will now be looking for sustainable methods.

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SUNSHINE084 10/19/2011 4:57PM

    You can do it! you will on your own time. What ever your goal is you are in control.

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CLAIRE94620 10/19/2011 12:22PM


You're story is true for many of us. Just turn around and take one step at a time. Be kind to yourself.

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PAMATX 10/19/2011 11:18AM

    Hi, I'm Pam, and I'm a weight cycler. All I know to do is to keep trying. Giving up simply is not an option. We're in this together. We will conquer this, dammit!

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GRAMLORI 10/19/2011 9:09AM

    Stop beating yourself up.
You can't change what you did.
But you can make one change today that's healthy.
Just one.
Then you'll be on the road again, and like DEBECKUM said, look at it as starting with 30 lbs less than your last start.
Small baby steps at first are hard.
It ain't easy.....but it's worth it.

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NEVERORNOW 10/19/2011 8:19AM

    It's so easy to go back into those old habits and gain the weight back. I know because I've done it too many times. The thought of losing it again is discouraging but you CAN do it. I know from experience that staying where you are won't bring happiness. If it did, you wouldn't be back here, right? You need to do it the right way - the sensible way - maybe under a doctor or nutritionist's guidance. You need a reasonable approach that will last over the long haul. Whatever it takes to do it the right way, find what works for you, and know that you are soooooo worth the effort. We'll be here for you every step of the way! emoticon emoticon

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MISSG180 10/19/2011 7:41AM

    I've done the same thing: lost 80 pounds, regained 90. It's hard. I had to be looking 300 in the face before I could finally stop myself. It scares me that I will do this again and end up regaining again. But I am determined to be smarter about it this time. To take it slower and be more forgiving of myself. And I believe that I can do it, and that you can, too!

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TRACYZABELLE 10/19/2011 7:39AM

    Nothing wrong with restarting but do ti right this time-- eat right and exercise then modify your habits as well. It does work . Good luck! emoticon emoticon

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FARLOWWOMAN 10/19/2011 7:23AM

    I can totally relate. I too, have stumbled and I am climbing back up. You just have to realize that YOU are worth the effort! You and your health matters. Life is a beautiful gift and to live it fully we have to take care of the vehicle we travel in, our bodies. I hope I am listening to what I am telling you. Why is it so much easier to give advise than take it? emoticon

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SUNYG5 10/19/2011 7:05AM

    Girl, we are all there for you!! As I told you before, I lost 75 and regained 30 of it. Can't seem to get myself back!!
Let continue to keep in touch!!
It is a vicious cycle...and it is one I struggle with ALL THE TIME!!


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BOOKWORM27S 10/19/2011 1:39AM

    Thank you for this blog. Many people do not realize just how easy it is to regain weight that has been lost quickly. I lost 154 lbs. in 18 months 9 years ago, and it was very difficult to keep off. Losing this last 25 lbs. has been much slower and easier to maintain. Sometimes I feel like I'm holding back an ocean of weight, and one day it is just going to come crashing down on me with a vengeance. If you have any questions... please feel free to e-mail me.

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DBECKUM 10/19/2011 12:53AM

    I can relate to your situation and I thank you for your honesty. After my most recent re-gain, I was so depressed and defeated and disgusted with myself. The more I tried to pull it together and start again, the further I seemed to fall. It has taken me a couple of years and only in the last two months have I been in the right place with my heart, my mind, and my body. It may take some time, but I think you will get back to that place. For now, at least you are still down thirty pounds from when you started instead of up 30 pounds. emoticon

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The plan

Tuesday, March 08, 2011

I know how to lose weight, I just am not doing what I know I should do.

Since I asked for accountability partners for exercise a few weeks ago I am back in the habit of exercising 5 times (or more) each week. (Thank you accountability partners!)

Perhaps instead of thinking I need to do a major overhaul on my eating plan, I should attempt to change one more bad habit. Currently, eating chips and chocolate most days of the week is one of my biggest stumbling blocks. (I'm also eating second and third helpings and more than 3 generous meals a day.) Taking it all on at once is something that I could do - but I would likely only do it for a couple days before deprivation set in. If I were to change one thing that would make the biggest impact on my health and weight it would be to have chips and chocolate (if I'm going to have them at all) on only one predesignated day of the week.

So this is my plan: Get back into the habit of eating the "junk" infrequently (once a week or less). I will work on this until it becomes a habit once again (I was doing something similar when I lost the 125 pounds last year) then I will re-integrate other healthy habits into my program one at a time until I am eating, exercising and living out a healthy, sustainable lifestyle.

Feel free to ask me how I am doing with this to hold me accountable!

Once again, thanks for reading and supporting me as I work out my plan toward permanent lifestyle change.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

LIVINGWELL69 4/19/2011 11:12AM

    I, too, have decided to take baby steps to change my lifestyle (I also struggle with sugar). I've just started back on Spark people. Keep on keeping on!!

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NONNATERRY 4/10/2011 10:29AM

    Congrats on the new plan. I need to make one as well!!!

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SUSANMOMOF6 3/24/2011 11:18PM

    What a good plan. All or nothing is for the birds. I know there are those who can cut out and add everything they need to in one fell swoop, but they are so rare, and I'm not sure I could be friends with one- emoticon. Seriously, take one step, master it, then take another. Sounds good to me. How is it going?

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ZANNACHAN 3/17/2011 12:34AM

    Coming in late here (I'm catching up on my blogs now as I've been sick and didn't want anything to do with the computer) but I wanted to say that I'm a BIG believer in baby steps and what I've read in The Spark backs me up.

Why? Many reasons.

For one thing, if you change too much too quickly, you'll feel deprived--and if you are feeling deprived, you are more likely to relapse.

Two, if you try to change too much too quickly, it's hard to figure out HOW to do it, especially in keeping with the rest of your life. For example, if you decide "I'm going to work out 1-2 hours every day!" you have to find the time to work out that much. Your body may not be able to handle it. You have to juggle sleep, work, family obligations, etc., around those two hours. But if you decide instead to gradually get back into working out--maybe even as little as 10 minutes a couple of times a day, that's a lot easier to do. It's a lot easier to find 10 free minutes than 60 to 120. You won't be so physically worn when you're done. And as you get into the swing of it, it's relatively easy then to slowly expand that time--10 minutes to 10, perhaps. You will slowly get a feel for how you can adjust your schedule to find time (and space and, if necessary, money for equipment or gym memberships or whatever) because you won't be doing it all at once. And if something isn't working out for you, it's easier to adapt to find something that *does* work out for you.

Quite simply, it's not so overwhelming. Even though I've been on sparks for a long time now and I've made a lot of changes in my lifestyle--my diet, my activity levels, etc.--I *still* can get overwhelmed by all the things I *should* do. I should still eat more vegetables (I'm eating a lot more than I had, but I still struggle to consistently get 5), I should eat even more protein, I shouldn't eat high fructose corn syrup or as much sodium as I am, I shouldn't drink any soft drinks or high calorie coffee shop drinks, I shouldn't eat sweets, I should exercise more--both longer and more intensely, I should find more time to cook and clean and shop and workout..... It's daunting. It's hard enough to do what I *am* doing that reading about all the other things I should be doing can cause something akin to a panic attack, LOL! So I focus on baby steps, always pushing the envelope, but a little bit. And if I over do something (like I did in January when I overdid it and aggravated my bad hip, or like I did last week when I tried to work out too soon after getting sick), I reevaluate, always with the goal of slowly but surely improving myself.

Sure, there are times I back slid. I haven't exactly been doing a gold medal job the last two months, for example. But whenever I do, I try to refocus and--with baby steps--get back on track, one problem area at a time.

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JANC319 3/10/2011 12:11AM

  Excellent plan! I know you can do it!

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4BARBIE44 3/8/2011 5:10PM

    let me know how you are doing with this.

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JOJOSZENT 3/8/2011 9:42AM

    Sounds like a successful plan to me for sure! We all know you can do it because you have done it before. We also know that you have the will power to succeed. Have a wonderful day my friend!

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CO-CREATOR 3/8/2011 7:54AM

    I think you have a wonderful plan, I wish you all the best.

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GROOVER4 3/8/2011 7:47AM

    I tend to go the 'all or nothing' thinking as well and it's such a hard thing to change. Small steps or changing one bad habit at a time still means you are in front and that should be celebrated! Good luck with your plan and let us know how your week goes.

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NAYNAY69 3/8/2011 7:38AM

    This is life...our ups and downs. This is our journey... Each time I think we learn how to do it better and something of that sticks with us and allows us to continue on. After all this time I don't feel like "I'm 'starting all over" anymore. Just picking back up where I temporarily left off.

That is what you are doing as well. Picking back up the healthy habits and putting back down the less healthy habits that slip in. We are still on the right path as we have been. Sometimes we are just slower and sometimes we march faster with purpose!

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CATWOOMAN 3/8/2011 1:26AM

    Baby steps....great plan!
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MIRACLELOVE77 3/8/2011 1:16AM

    your plan sounds great! You can do it!

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JAAM1224 3/8/2011 1:04AM

    Great plan to designate one day for the junk. I think that is what I need to do as well. thanks!

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BIGOLEDIVA 3/8/2011 12:36AM

    You have a plan- I am weaning myself off baked lays - LOL- you can allow yourself treats- just in moderation. it will get easier I promise!

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Exercise Accountablity Partner Needed (short-term).

Sunday, February 06, 2011

I LOVE to walk.

I easily walk 2 plus hours every day during spring, summer and fall,
not to burn calories or improve health, which it does,
but for the PURE JOY of moving my body in the fresh air.

This winter (more than most winters), I am struggling to get in any fitness whatsoever.

Anyone willing to encourage and hold me accountable through daily emails for the next 4 weeks? I will do the same for you in whatever your primary goal is.
(We can extend the time frame and switch up our goals if it is working for us.)

If interested, reply here or through sparkmail. Thank you friends.

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COOL_CHARLOTTE 9/13/2011 12:19PM

    Was thinking of you today and then read this email. My kids started full time school today and I am getting settled into a new routine so I will check in as well.

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4BARBIE44 2/21/2011 8:08AM

    I know how you feel because it has been a very snowy, icy, and cold winter where I am at, and really hard to get outside to walk. I love to walk, I will try to stop by and see how you are doing with it. Keep on moving! emoticon

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LIVESTRONG2010 2/10/2011 1:47PM

    Great ideal I will do my best to come and check on you every day to make sure that you did your walk!

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JOJOSZENT 2/6/2011 1:19PM

    I either walk or run every day, would you like me to help you out? I don't walk outside right now I do it all inside with my wii or with Leslie Sansone walk at home DVD's, it's to cold to walk outside for me right now.

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LYNDALOVES2HIKE 2/6/2011 12:35PM

    I have the same issue so would love to 'pair up' with you - together we can achieve our goals!! I also recently joined the Official 10-Minute Daily Exercise Streak Challenge for the same reason - if interested, it's at


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LIBBYFITZ 2/6/2011 11:42AM

    Yes we can ! emoticon

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