Friday, May 28, 2010
Life is very messy at times.
We seem to be drawn to making everything all neat and in balance.
What's the fun in that? It isn't even achievable.
You'd have to do laundry nekkid for it to EVER be really done!
And who really wants balance? I want a life that trends towards good. Not an equal portion of good and bad.
I know that when I step out on a limb, make a mess and feel everything is done for--That's when I learn the most!
It's when I grow.
I like growing. I may feel comfortable with a breather, in the stagnant. But never for very long. Restlessness enters.
My idle brain seems to want to create chaos-just to shake things up. Bad, I know. I must learn a better way.
I'm sorry men, but sometimes, niceness does not get me heard!
Or, is it that I simply don't like the answer he gave?
My bad! See, I'm learning. Why does it always seem that boys learn more slowly than girls? (cause I want to believe that!)
I have my own messes to clean up. My own lessons to learn.
I love seeking council along the way. Is that a woman thing? I really like to get input. And well, if the council is a wiser, more mature, been there-done that, kind of person-All the better! It's a good thing!
I'm gonna keep making messes. I'm gonna keep learning from them. I'm also going to keep forgiving and having grace, because I know that's how I want to be treated. We are all flawed. But if there is good and love at the core-I can live with it.
I just read this in my e-mail, it's Today's Healthy Reflection:
"The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet."
- James Oppenheim, short-story writer, novelist, poet
The key to happiness
The secret to happiness is not to get what you want, but to want what you already have. If you think about it, most discontent grows from want. We want more stuff, more excitement, more pleasure. When we don't get those things, we're resentful and unsatisfied. Take away the want, and you take away the unhappiness. When your quality of life is tied to your desires, fulfillment is a shadow that escapes your view. Like trying to imagine a new color, the harder you look, the harder it is to see. Does this mean you stop setting goals and striving for a healthy lifestyle and better life? No. It means you can appreciate life regardless of the outcome. It means you can relish the pursuit while accepting the possibility of failure. It means you can still enjoy the ride. Happiness is not a destination--it's a way of life.