Wednesday, December 23, 2009
I'm a sap! I am so loving a Christmas filled with gifts that are paid for and plans that are casual. I am soooo looking forward to spending time with my BF's family, Christmas Eve and Day (I get to meet his Aunt from Utah this year). I am looking forward to spending time with my family (day after Christmas). I can't wait for all those hugs! And it's BF's b-day on Sunday! Extra family time!
My daughter and I went light looking last night. I love to do that! I think we are doing it again Christmas eve. I posted a facebook status asking where the best light displays are and there are a few good responses.
I can't wait to be able to sleep in! I have to work Christmas eve day, and may be up early Christmas day (but not as early as normal). What a joy!
I wish all of you blessings too numerous to keep track of this year for Christmas. Cherish the little things and all will fall into place!
Monday, December 21, 2009
Boy friend and I had a weekend sans my child. Friday night I went out with two of my longest known girlfriends. We celebrated my birthday (very belated) and Niki's birthday (very timely). We had so much fun! Tex-Mex restaurant, excellent Margaritas. I do recommend you get a friend like my friend Amy (the treat-er for this birthday extravaganza) who brings her own flask of tequila to "doctor-up" the "weak" drinks they serve there! I think it is so crazy that she is so like that!
Saturday was BF time! We had lunch at a restaurant where I knew exactly what to order (that is healthy and yummy). I order, get my order, and realize they have changed the menu! I HATE when they do that! They were very accommodating, and I ordered something else, that was surprisingly yummy. Yay for grilled fish taco's with pineapple salsa! Then we went to the Taft Museum downtown, where they had a display theme of Christmases past. I LOVED it! BF would have rather had a root canal. But he took me and that is what I love about him! Then we went to his Catholic services at the Cathedral downtown (I would rather have a root canal then endure organ music). But hen we decided that since we were already downtown, we should check out the festivities.
We walked around in the cold, slightly wet, atmosphere. We went up to the tallest rooftop in Cincinnati. I had never been up there at night. It was slightly misty, so the views weren't clear, but were really neat to see anyway. It was kinda surreal. Then, we got to the train display, 10 minutes after they shut the doors. Boo Hoo! Then went to Fountain Square just in time to hear the announcer say to "keep your eyes to the sky's for a surprise at 6:30". We had about 15 minutes, so we watched the skaters and checked out what else was around. Then some people asked us what was going on, and we were like, ah, clueless--just know to watch the sky's at 6:30. At 6:30, the Jumbo- Tron starts up with 2 elves wondering where in the world Santa could be. Then a spot light appears, swooping around the buildings nearby. It lands at the top of one, where Santa, Rudolph and one elf, rappel down the side of the building. Once they land (on the top of a smaller rooftop) Fireworks start up! It was really cool! What a great time! And romantic...
Thursday, December 17, 2009
I need more physical challenges. After volleyball last night I was super-charged and feeling great! I love that I had some good plays and that I sweat! I love knowing that my game is improving. I love feeling physically stronger. My mood has skyrocketed.
I am not so good at achieving this feeling by DVD or, in general, at home workouts. I find it hard to do a whole workout with others here (my daughter or the kids I care for). I do much better in a structured setting (volleyball) or on my own away from home (walking). I have decided though, that I could handle 5-10 minute increments through out the day. I haven't done stair steps for a while. I could start with 5 min, 3 times per day. Then "run" on the trampoline for 5 min 3 times per day and see how that goes. Perhaps throw in jumping jacks ( I liked that challenge from QuickFire) Any other suggestions?
Thursday, December 17, 2009
My church puts on a Christmas show/extravaganza every year. My BF and I go with my daughter. Or, we have gone 2 times together. We did not go last year (there was a tragic accident and it was canceled). My BF is not a "member" of my church and has said that he does not enjoy going there (it is a contemporary Christian church, he is Catholic). The show is huge and you have to reserve tickets in advance (they are free, but you have to reserve them as they "sell-out"). I reserved 5 seats this year in the hope that my Mom and her husband could go with us. They couldn't. I then asked the mom of the girls I watch and her oldest daughter. They ended up not being able to go. I then called BF and asked him how he would feel if he didn't have to go with us. He was skeptical of how to answer. I then told him the ticket situation and that I had someone in mind to ask who would have 3 people in her party. I knew that they would enjoy the show more than my BF. He did admit, then, that he would only like to go because I wanted him to go (not because he wanted to go). And he didn't know if he could even make it there on time because of work. So I verified with him that it would be okay if I asked this other friend and her daughters. He said yes.
Well, last night, he gave me guilt about not wanting him to go. And said things like he was feeling left out and it's too bad I didn't choose him to go , that I kicked him out. I got so pissed! I told him that if he felt this way, he should have told me the TRUTH when I asked him! He then just sat on the phone in silence. (He does this because he has told me how much he hates it if I get off the phone without BOTH of us saying goodbye). In other words, he was holding me hostage on the phone. I said that I was getting more angry by the minute and that I hoped he was proud of himself because now I was feeling guilty. Maybe I should never have given his seat to someone else? Maybe I should have tried to get more seats? I asked him if he wanted me to look up another seat, I mean, since he is so bummed out that he isn't going to see the show now! He said, no because we won't be sitting together. UGH! What? I thought you were bummed because you weren't going to see the show this year. You mean you're just upset because I have a life outside of you? All of this could have been avoided if you had told me the truth!
I ended up hanging up the phone on him. (Silence was unbearable.) Was I wrong? Should I have just gone with him and turned the other 2 tickets in? We have tickets for the showing tonight. Perhaps I could find tickets for another night for just the 2 of us for this weekend?
I just don't think I should feel guilty at all! He told me it was okay! Grr...
I spoke to him this morning. We went round and round for a while. But then it came out that he didn't say it was okay. He said that it was up to me. Oh, that soooo does not fly in my book. No way No how am I going to let him continue to NOT make a decision about something by saying what ever I decide is fine. It can't always be left to me. I let him know that. From now on if I ask his opinion, I expect to get it and that the words "whatever you want dear" will NOT be his decision. I explained to him (I swear this is not the first time either) that his leaving every decision up to me is setting us both up for failure and disappointment. He agreed. Woo Hoo! Now let's see if we both stick to this...
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