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It sneaked upon me!

Tuesday, September 03, 2013

What did! A year of maintaining weight!
I had no idea until I started to receive many congratulation messages via sparks members. What! How did that happen.! I really had not noticed a year had gone by. I have kept within .3 lbs of what I was a year ago.
It's habit now to eat how i like to eat, and exercise most days.
But I am being asked to say more on it to encourage others.
I am working on an alphabet of words and phrases that helped me.

A. Acceptance, it's not just going to happen by wishing it so I accepted that and worked out what would help me., I had to make a plan , I listed foods I could eat freely , yes there are some! I planned daily exercise. I am not young or very fit but I started with few minutes each day and worked up to 30 mins gradually .

B, Battle, Yes it is a battle and like all battles don't just happen but usually have a plan of campaign with a few contingency plans . I could enlist allies on my battle, a slimming group is one good supporter . Sparks teams are another great ally. For me writing things in a weight loss diary was another helper. We are all different so we all have to work at what will help us .

C. Calories, checks clubs, there are many Cs there to help, there is no one way that works for everyone. I have my own way , you can find yours .

I will work now on the next letters of the alphabet . We can't eat and write or type at the same time. Thank you to all who took time to offer congratulations , some say I am inspiring them , wow that is an ego boost. Thanks Irene

  
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HAWTGRANNY2014 8/23/2014 12:15PM

    Great job Irene. So proud of you.

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    Congratulations! I like your inspiring blog, thanks.

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    Good for you!

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    Congratulations! Maintaining is not easy and you've managed it well. emoticon

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8HABIT 9/4/2013 3:09PM

    Ree - I did not realize that it had been a year! That is so great!!

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LYNCHD05 9/4/2013 2:21PM

    Ree, I am so proud of you. I am just starting maintenance and it is not easy finding that balance. You have done awesome and thanks for sharing the ABC's of maintenance.

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TEALHAWK 9/4/2013 7:37AM

  Great job Ree! Thanks for sharing. Lorie

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1CRAZYDOG 9/4/2013 7:17AM

    Excellent blog! It is ideed a testament to

D determination! I am in maintenance as well and it is not as easy as one might imagine for sure! Still have to "mind the p's and q's" to maintain those healthy habits!

Excellent job. Proud of your accomplishment.

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WEEDERGOOSE 9/4/2013 1:45AM

    Wow, Ree! What a blog. I sat and read it and felt like someone really had put together a great plan. Don't accept the weight, accept that I need a plan for changing my habits. And turn it into a battle that requires a plan. you have really helped me to focus on this struggle in a much more positive fashion! THANK YOU!
Oh, and CONGRATULATIONS on maintaining your weight for a year! That is a real cause for celebration!
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FITANDFIFTY2 9/4/2013 1:35AM

    emoticon You are truly an inspiration to us all!! Thank you for sharing your success tips with us! emoticon emoticon

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SPARKFRAN514 9/4/2013 12:09AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon sorry i missed your big day don't know what happened but missed it sorry. I like you idea of the ABC approach . the one saying we can eat and write made me smile as i was was eating and reading blogs . thanks for reminding me we don't eat at the computer no sticky key no crumbs on our computer table are all good reason but most of all we don't enjoy what we are eating and eat way to much. thanks for the reminder going to clean up around the computer and put my sign back up No Eating at the computer emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon at emoticon .

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HAWTGRANNY2014 9/3/2013 11:11PM

    Great job Ree. That is awesome to keep it off for a whole year.
You just keep on going with that alphabet. Have a great evening .Pam emoticon

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    Congratulations! You've done a fantastic job! emoticon

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CATLADY52 9/3/2013 3:26PM

    Three cheers for you. A year of maintaining is super. emoticon emoticon

I like your way with the alphabet. I may just have to borrow a few letters. emoticon

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FLASUN 9/3/2013 2:54PM

    emoticon Ree!!! emoticon I LOVE your A -B- C so far!!!!! Continue your GREAT work you are doing!!! Glad to have ya on our team!!!! emoticon Janice

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HAPPYMOM8 9/3/2013 1:34PM

    WOW! WHAT A WONDERFUL TESTIMONIAL!
YOU ARE EXHIBITING TRUE LEADERSHIP.
AND THAT--IS "FOOD FOR THOUGHT"
THANK YOU, REE!
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I really look forward to reading more and agree with A to C ideas so far!

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DIDMIS 9/3/2013 11:51AM

    I liked that and knowing you will find someting for every letter of the alphabet.
Everyone should read this.
Irene

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MOM2GEO_JR 9/3/2013 9:46AM

    Congratulations, you have done a wonderful job, and keeping it off for a year is wonderful. You are an inspiration.

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Be Prepared

Tuesday, August 20, 2013

It's the mottos of the scouts movement , it's mine now.
Being prepared is a big part of my efforts to lose a few pounds.
Last night I was going to a quiz with wine and nibbles included.
The very word nibbles immediately means calories and fats to me. For my contribution to the nibbles display I added a bowl of grapes. When it was nibble time I just took a few of my own grapes. I had eaten before I went so I didn't need anything extra. I wasn't going to take wine but we were all given a glass of wine or fruit juice. I took wine and sipped about half if it, I refused any top ups . I enjoyed my evening a great deal, I would have regretted it if I had partaken of high calorie nibbles . I shall go and polish my halo now and start being prepared for today's challenges . Ree

  
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WEEDERGOOSE 8/23/2013 2:02AM

    WOW! You really earned your halo! Way to go, Ree!

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MNNICE 8/20/2013 7:53PM

    Way to go! You had a plan it you stuck to it! It's such a great feeling when that happens! Keep it up!

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GREYGRANNIE 8/20/2013 7:48PM

    Well done. You planned ahead. And enjoyed the evening guilt free. Congratulations.

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8HABIT 8/20/2013 4:28PM

    You make a really good point about thinking about your plan BEFORE you go somewhere that you know will be heavy in calories.



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ETERNALMINDED 8/20/2013 3:41PM

    Whoohoo! Way to go!

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DIDMIS 8/20/2013 11:44AM

    emoticon that halo looks bright after the polishing and it is on a very happy face.

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1CRAZYDOG 8/20/2013 10:45AM

    emoticon Good job! Eating before an event is my strategy as well. Works wonders. That and plenty of water!

Your strategy of just "nursing" a glass of wind is excellent too. You get to taste but not going overboard!

Good job. You were prepared! HUGS

OH, and the grapes as your "take along" for the nibbles is excellent.

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    You SHINE Ree!
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    LOL...that's a well deserved halo, wear it proudly! emoticon

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Change a four letter word

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

I am in a challenge and one requirement is write a blog . I am not a prolific blogger but gave it some thought on the topic of what's gone wrong with my diets and plans in the past?
I have succeeded several times only to regain most of the weight lost.
. But recently I had kept about 35 lbs off for some time but could get no further.
Why? I ask myself ! know what to do, why don't I just do it?
I do not usually join in challenges? Why? I worked it out it is lack of belief in myself . I just assume I won't be able to do challenges .
Maybe not losing weight is linked to the same lack of self belief? I automatically think I can't do that. But if I change one four letter word for another ! CAN'T to WILL that should be a good start!

  
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WEEDERGOOSE 8/16/2013 2:19AM

    What a profound blog, Ree. It is truly amazing how we can limit ourselves by assumptions we make or things we come to believe about ourselves on the flimsiest of evidence. Many of us don't believe in ourselves. It's time to realize that we have not gotten this far in life by being wimps! So let's, day by day, step up to the plate and do what we KNOW we can do. All we need to do is, as you say, tell ourselves "I will do it" instead of "I can't do it". thanks for the reminder, Ree.

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8HABIT 8/15/2013 3:15PM

    I really can't much to all the awesome comments that others have left. But you are always an inspiration to me! I love your attitude toward life and I know if you just keep eating healthy, you will be successful.

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DI_NAMIC 8/15/2013 11:09AM

    What a great blog, Ree! Keep that spirit going.

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You've inspired me today. Thank you!

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LYNCHD05 8/14/2013 8:43AM

    I k ow you can do it as you are such an amazing woman. WHOOHOO TO YOU!!!!

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FLASUN 8/14/2013 6:23AM

    That was an emoticon blog Ree!!!! Everyone knows what is needed to be done and with your positive attitude it WILL get done!!!!! YES......... emoticon
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DSJB9999 8/14/2013 3:40AM

    Well done Ree, you are so right CAN'T can be changed to CAN easily!

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HAWTGRANNY2014 8/14/2013 3:39AM

    Great blog Ree. You can do this. You don't have to do it all at once and you can modify anything that is too hard. I have faith in you so keep on going,

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    I like it! emoticon let's do this!

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    I like youor attitude. emoticon

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SPARKFRAN514 8/13/2013 8:33PM

    You can do don't think of it as a challenge because its your journey to good health. Think of it as a tool for you to check off things that are we already do
we plan out meals track out food and works out share like you did your doing great sharing your with us. made a great start by sharing your with us you are off to a good start we are here to support you along the way. emoticon emoticon

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HAPPYMOM8 8/13/2013 8:22PM

    YES! WE ALL KNOW emoticon

JUST REMEMBER-ANYTHING WE CAN DO-YOU CAN DO BETTER!!

REMEMBER THE KID'S RHYME?
" I THINK I CAN- IKNOW I CAN?)

HUGS, AND SUCCESS-PAT

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BEST WISHES in reaching all of your goals.

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VONBLACKBIRD 8/13/2013 1:49PM

    I didn't join challenge teams until the 5% challenge and have been in it over a year now and lost at first but now at a stand still...Need to lose about 35lb more. Good luck an hopefully we will all use the words "I WILL"

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STAV44 8/13/2013 11:56AM

    Well said, Ree. Never give up. You can do this.

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ETERNALMINDED 8/13/2013 11:16AM

    You can do it! You have the right idea! Blessings on your challenge!

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1CRAZYDOG 8/13/2013 10:07AM

    You're so right! There is such a HUGE mind/body connection. Positive self-talk will go far towards succeeding. What you've written is very insightful.

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    That's the spirit, Irene!! emoticon
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MOM2GEO_JR 8/13/2013 8:22AM

    Just take 1 week at a time. We can do it. Writing down helps a lot for me. I have counted calories for so long, that I pretty much know what I am eating. Hang in there. You have done very well.

Marsha


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  great idea . you can and will do it. good luck on your journey.

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I am glad I am a woman !

Friday, May 24, 2013

I feel I have been neglecting both team and personal mail lately. I am doing an update now on a blog.
It's a follow up really to my previous blog when I told you my husband had been diagnosed with dementia. 3 months on we went to see the mental health consultant yesterday for a review. He admits there is no cure but medication can help slow the symptoms down. We had a good chat and I told him we work together and rely on each other in different ways. My husband agreed.
So I was surprised later when he told me he was only relying on himself and needed no one else. I was shocked and upset by this comment. Of course I know dementia patients say things they would not normally say or mean, I was annoyed with myself for not accepting that, and feeling he had meant it.
I hada bad few hours but talked to widowed friend. I know she went through similar times when her husband had a terminal illness and shut her out.
She explained it as they are men, they are scared by what is happening but will not admit it. We agreed women would turn to loved one and friends in crisis Men think they have be strong and not admit to needing anyone .i felt better after talking to my friend,.
All I can say is I am glad I am not a man. I would be lost without my friends and the ability to say, I am struggling please help.
Thanks for reading this , Irene

  
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    Irene, my mum has alzheimers and when I cook a meal she thanks me and says it is wonderful to be waited on for a change! She hasn't done ANYTHING in the home for 5 years, and it really upsets dad as she NEVER thanks him and of course she thinks she does it all. It is the illness and we have had to learn to laugh it off, but not easy. emoticon

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TORTISE110 6/23/2013 8:53AM

    Hi Irene, I just saw this blog as I'd missed you on our team and wondered what was up. Dementia/alzheimers is so CONFUSING. Things shift and it always takes us awhile to see what is going on. I think it's true for patient and caregiver.

I think men are raised to protect US and thinking a spouse might need to take care of them is just plain hard and might seem wrong to them. I wonder if in this awkward way your husband might be saying, "don't worry about me, I can take care of it," so you won't have to. All of which rips at us who are trying so hard to do well by them and know it's our job to figure it out.

Thinking of you and hoping the drugs slow this disease down, way down. I also hope you and your husband have many wonderful moments during this time. I know you are good at noticing the positive and savoring what is sweet and fine. And I know that will help when times are so hard. Toni

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PATRICIA441 6/3/2013 8:19PM

  It must be so wonderful knowing you have so much support here at Sparks. You will never meet these great people but they are sisters of your heart. Know that I am covering you with prayer and am here for you if you ever need me. Tender hugs from a Spark Sister. Pat

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JAMER123 5/27/2013 12:33AM

    Irene, I can't add any more than everyone has said before me. Just know he doesn't know he is hurting you. You have the support of many on SP! Lean on us as much as you need. Sending prayers for strength to you and your DH. God bless!!!
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BJPENNY70 5/26/2013 11:37PM

    Oh dearest Irene,

I pray GOD leads you in this situation with your husband. HE will bring you comfort when there seems to be none. Have faith that the LORD will walk with you through this and walk with your husband, too! I am sending you a big hug. Do rely on family and friend. You have a big family of friends here on Sparkpeople.

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GOTTASTITCH 5/26/2013 8:18AM

    Oh Ree, I wish I could give you a hug-- the one thing I tell the families I see is that the person they knew is no longer that person-- that it is nothing personal yet very hard not to take it personal when you live it daily.

No two will act or react the same. And each day can be different. You can not always reason with them.

You grow tired, weary, frustrated and all the other emotions.

The only thing you can do is one day at a time. Some days better than others.

Then where I am is the aftermath of it all. It takes it's toll. But one day it will all be ok.

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ELAINESHAFF 5/25/2013 10:57PM

    Irene, I know where you are coming from. I went thru this with my father and my mother has the early stages of dementia. Just remember, he loves you and it is the disease that is talking.

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GGMFAY 5/25/2013 8:04PM

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HAPPYMOM8 5/25/2013 6:28PM

    ME TOO!
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8HABIT 5/25/2013 4:35PM

    Irene- when my husband is sick, he does not want anyone around him. So, I just stay in the background and look for little things to help. Perhaps men are afraid of losing control or that they will stop trying to do what they can do. Of course, everyone should always try and do whatever they can for themselves and not give up.

I would say not to take it personally.

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LYNCHD05 5/25/2013 11:33AM

    Irene isn't it sad that after so many years this is what is now happening. I know it is part of life but such a hard part especially for the caregiver. I know you have family close by and that is wonderful for you both. Friends are so important too. We can not do this alone and that support is so important. Take care of you too!!!

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FLASUN 5/25/2013 10:56AM

    Irene, YOU are WOMAN....I can hear you ROAR!!!! You just stick by your words, take care of your man and just let him know if anytime you are needed for support that you will BE THERE!!!

I know when I was sick with Cancer my hubby was there for me all the way, and I would be there for him if he ever got sick. He LOVES to be a baby and need help!!!

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JULIA_211 5/25/2013 6:36AM

    My mother has dementia, and she wouldn't cooperate when I was taking care of her at my home, in her lucid days she would say to me, that she was the mom, not the other way around. So I think it's more about pride. I can only imagine how hard it is for men.
I'm so sorry about your dear husband. There was an online caretaker support site that I used at that time, I believe it was called, Agingcare.com, perhaps you can search for one regarding your situation. I will say a prayer for the both of you. emoticon

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IMAVISION 5/25/2013 3:25AM

    My heart goes out to both your husband & you, as y'all navagate these new uncharted waters in life.

I am in total agreement with Deb's beautiful prayer!

God bless!

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SPARKFRAN514 5/24/2013 11:57PM

    Sorry to hear you are struggling. you are right when you say I know he doesn't mean the things he says it the his disease talking. Its like when you are lost when out driving they don't want to stop and ask for directions they feel are the ones that are in control and take care of every ting Glad you have a friend to talk with and get support from and its so helpful she has went thought some of those things with here husband. please keep us up to date in how you are doing and when you need a hug call out we are here for you emoticon emoticon

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CIERAPOET 5/24/2013 6:16PM

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Father You Know Irene's Heart And You Know What's Going On In Her Husband's Mind And In HIS Heart As Well! I Know You As a God Of Love And Mercy! You Don't Put Any Of These Things On Us. I Am Asking In Jesus' Name For Your Intervention In Irene's Husband's Body. YOU Created Him In YOUR Own Image And Likeness! YOU Created Him To Prosper and Be In Health Even As His Soul Prospers! You Father Ask That We Give And It Will Be Given So I'm Giving My Prayer Of Faith For TOTAL Restoration To FULL Quality of Life With His Wife Irene! I Feel Her Pain And I Know YOU Are A Healer And A Miracle Worker! Thank YOU Father That You Hear Me When I Pray And That You Are Hastening Your Word to Perform. In Jesus' Name I Thank You For Your Love Over Irene and Her Husband's Lives. Your Love NEVER Fails! Thank You for Your Perfect Peace!
God's Blessings And I'll Continue In Prayer For You Both!
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DOOBRIE 5/24/2013 5:01PM

    Irene - it is very difficult to deal with someone with dementia. They really don't know what they're saying, even though they can appear to be their old selves in other respects. My mum changed and she wasn't always the person she was. I had problems accepting that too.

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DIDMIS 5/24/2013 4:40PM

    Irene I am so sorry. I know exactly what you are going through. My husband had dementia for several years. I took care of him at home for as long as I could but finally had to put him in a nursing home as he became violent one night.
One day he told me I think I am going crazy. Some people say they don't know but they do. One day he said I can't do anything anymore. That is difficult for the male ego.
Have patience, don't contradict him and understand it is a disease.
Irene

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VONBLACKBIRD 5/24/2013 4:33PM

    I so agree. I am thinking of you as you go through this and will keep you in my prayers. It is so hard to deal with this. emoticon

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CUSH1932 5/24/2013 4:11PM

    Thank you for sharing. I will keep you and your husband in prayer. Its good you had a friend to share with. emoticon

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PAULA3420 5/24/2013 3:29PM

    Dear Irene,
You are so wise and I am so happy I am a woman as well. Good for you for reaching out to your friends for the support you deserve. I am also glad you posted on the Huddle Wall to read this blog. It was a good reminder for me. Sometimes, I let little things that my DH will say bother me. NOW, I will think of you and move on to a happier place. I love my Spark Friends. emoticon

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ETERNALMINDED 5/24/2013 3:25PM

    Bless your heart! I will be praying for you as you walk this road with your husband!

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DSJB9999 5/24/2013 1:32PM

    Oh Irene that must have been really difficult for you. emoticon I agree remember we are here when you need us.

I am glad I am a woman too, (even at this time of the month!) emoticon
We see the world in a different way and I'm glad thats the case.

Sending you good wishes and hugs Donna xxx

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IDLETYME 5/24/2013 11:02AM

    I was a caregiver to my Mother who had dementia. It is such a sad illness. She had no idea who I was or who she was. She said things that she would never have said before she was ill. I can imagine that it would be harder for men than women since they are used to taking the lead in everything.
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MOM2GEO_JR 5/24/2013 10:33AM

    Yes, friends are so important, and you will have to make time for just you. I was a caregiver, and it was the hardest job I ever had, but I knew in the end that I had done everything that I could do. Men don't like to admit that they need help, we just have to do the best we can, and praying for strength for you.

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KPETSCHE 5/24/2013 10:05AM

    I'm glad that you have been able to share with your SparkFriends. We are here for you when you need support or just to vent your frustrations. I hope that things with your hubby go as smoothly as possible. Just keep remembering that what he says isn't always what he means and that the dementia is at the base of it. Stay strong!
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GABY1948 5/24/2013 10:01AM

    I am SO with you, Irene...and glad I am not a man. I went through what you are with my mother and can totally understand when they react in ways that are not typical of them. My heart goes out to you and pray the medications help. They didn't have some of the newer things to benefit my mother! Blessings to you and your day and to Colin! emoticon

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A diagnosis plus praise.

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

As some of you know I was waiting for a diagnosis on my husband, we received it yesterday . Much as I expected he is in the early stages of dementia. He took it better than I thought he would. I can't say too much of it yet as we are still coming to terms with it and finding out more. We are both positive.
The doctor who told us this asked questions of our life style my husbands weight and so on. He commented that M was in the normal weight range and generally in good physical health. He praised my healthy eating plan which we both follow . He could only suggest we continue with our healthy eating, some exercise and to interact as much as possible with other people.
I do a lot of interacting ! I agree that's important . I was told I must take great care of myself now as the caring will be up to me generally .
I can only take one day at a time but will be continuing with healthy eating, exercise and interacting on sparks teams and with friends . I am continually learning from others on here.
I am doing this general blog now to bring team mates and friends up to date . Thank you for your support.

  
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BJPENNY70 2/18/2013 6:30PM

    Ree,

I am so sorry to hear about your beloved husband. I can't imagine the anxiety you both must be feeling. Both of you trust in the LORD to help you get through each and every day. I will be praying for you both.

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LITTLELOUIE71 2/18/2013 6:01PM

  emoticon emoticon I am sorry about your husband I will be praying for you Please take care of yourself while you are taking care of him You can not give if your tank is empty so fill it up by caring for yourself on a regular basis Lou

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YIDDLE 2/18/2013 2:13PM

    Ree
So overwhelmed by your DH's diagnosis. Losing our minds is such a great concern for all of us as we age. So glad you were encouraged by the doctor to know you are right on target with nutrition. Keep your health a primary concern so you will be able to continuing caring for him. Do look for community and church support groups to step in and help you. emoticon

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DELORESTHOMAS 2/17/2013 10:37PM

    I am so sorry to hear of your problem. You are wise to maintain things as they are for as long as possible. Please remember there is help out there. Don't forget to ask for help from friends, neighbors, church members and professionals. Doctors, nurses, and others can guide you to those who can help. Take one day at a time and I will pray for you and your family. Bless the both of you.

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GREYGRANNIE 2/17/2013 8:33PM

    Ree, this is so hard for you - but you finally have a diagnosis and can go from there. Taking care of yourself is not easy. I hope you will have some support as it becomes more necessary. So sorry. emoticon

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ANGELUS__QUINN 2/15/2013 7:18PM

    God bless you both. My prayers are with you.

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LYNNWILK2 2/15/2013 5:48PM

    Ree, I am sorry about your husbands diagnosis, you are dealing with it very well, and it sounds like your husband is also. Pull in the support of your friends in your community to up the interaction within the community. Keep active and get him out walking with you. You are so great! Best wished always!

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2BDYNAMIC 2/15/2013 4:24PM

    Bless you sweet lady! ....... I am sure you are giving the best TLC ever ........... emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 2/15/2013 3:52PM

    Ree: It is definitely a time of being tested. You're not alone! Definitely wise to care for yourself so you can care for your DH.

This is what I'm trying to instill in my Dad as he lis primary caretaker of my Mom who has Alzheimer's. It is a brutal disease to watch, but just have to take it a day-at-a-time as you are.

HUGS HUGS HUGS

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POPSY190 2/13/2013 9:58PM

    You are doing all the right things. I feel for you as we have just been dealing with my husband's TIA - I worry about his having a bigger episode. Like you, we were happy that the hospital approved of our lifestyle choices.

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CAT-IN-CJ 2/13/2013 12:33PM

    Bless your heart. It is important to take care of yourself.
I'm glad to know you have many SparkFriends to support you in your journey.

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LISABERGIN 2/13/2013 4:06AM

    I am sorry to hear about your husband Irene, my Nan had dementia towards the end of her life and it was very frustrating for everyone her included. I hope you get all the support that you and your husband need. You are in my thoughts, and sending big hugs xx

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MOM2GEO_JR 2/13/2013 1:02AM

    Ree, I am so sorry to here this, I know exactly what you are going through, and what you will go through, I lost my DH will be a year May 1st of Dementia, we had hospice near the end. It is sad, but you know he never forgot anyone, and knew me up to the night he passed. His dementia was losing control of his lower body, mind didn't tell feet to move, etc. It works differently on different people. He would start to tell someone something, and then at me to finish it. I kept a jigsaw puzzle sitting out all the time, and work on it, and he would work it some, and when he found a piece he would get so excited. Being a caregiver is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. Hospice was great near the end, and he got to stay right here with me.

Yes, please get your rest. You and him will be in my daily prayers. God Bless.
We would have been married 62 years if he had lived until Sept. 7th.

Marsha
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ERIECANALGAL 2/13/2013 12:29AM

    Sorry to hear that Ree. But you are doing all the right things...eating healthy, exercising, etc.and that helps.
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SPARKFRAN514 2/13/2013 12:06AM

    Glad you have such a positive attitude that is a big thing in being a care giver. I agree Spark friends are a great source of support and words of wisdom as we spark along. agree enjoy your time together and keep things simple and do what you feel is working for you your husband each person needs and response is different. weight the advice given and take what works for you. be sure to tell us you need support even if you just have time to tell us in the huddle emoticon emoticon you have been such an inspiration to me on our team Everyday is a new start ....

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DRB13_1 2/12/2013 10:06PM

    As difficult as this phase of life may seem, information gives you power.
Suggestion: make sure your home is as organized as possible. When things have a place, the chance of "losing" items goes down and frustration about memory lapses are lessened.
Hugs to you both, wishing you well.
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DIDMIS 2/12/2013 9:56PM

    I know just exactly how you feel. Just keep positive and be patient with him and love him lots and yes take care of yourself.
I didn't take care of myself when he was in the nursing home and gained lots of weight. I was taking care of him even then.
Irene

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GGMFAY 2/12/2013 9:34PM

    Buddy of Mine,

Your dh is probably in more advanced stages than mine but you and I can still share emoticon and words of encouragement from time to time. I wish you could get better sleep for yourself to keep you stronger.

Where we live, we could not get anywhere without a car. Dh requests eating out most lunchtimes. You seem to have better transportation available, but direct routes with a car can be easier. Wish we could pick you up to go out to lunch together sometimes. That would be great!!

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KARRENLYNN 2/12/2013 9:15PM

    I'm sorry about your husband's diagnosis. I can imagine how hard that must be. Your doctor is right, taking care of your self will be even more important.

I wish you all the best,

Karen

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BROOKLYN_BORN 2/12/2013 7:32PM

    I'm so sorry about the diagnosis. As you have been advised, be sure to take care of yourself too.

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MUSICFORLIFE2 2/12/2013 6:20PM

  i am very sorry. you are right about your strategies. time to think about your support system and build it up - you will need respite care. there might be a local chapter of families with people with a similar diagnosis. that can be a huge help. and yes, photos are priceless and helpful.

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DOOBRIE 2/12/2013 5:44PM

    Ree, I'm sorry about your DH's diagnosis. Dementia is very unpredictable and it could be that he only has it mild for the rest of his life. That's how it was with my mum anyway, so keep your positive attitude and know that you can always come to your Spark friends for support if you need it.

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DSJB9999 2/12/2013 4:03PM

    Oh Ree, guess you're not surprised really. Take care of yourself - that is really good advice and do what you think best at all times.

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JOYFULSONG45 2/12/2013 4:03PM

    Thanks for the update. You have a great positive attitude and good healthy habits and friends to support you. You will be in my prayers.

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MYMISSY 2/12/2013 4:02PM

    So sorry for what is happening to your family, your positive attitude will take you both far as well as your healthy lifestyle, as other's has said, please remember to ask for help from your family and friends and take that help I am sure you are going to need it in time. Best of luck for your future. emoticon

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GABY1948 2/12/2013 3:08PM

    I could almost quote Linda Kay ver batim. Nan, you have my prayers also and my dh. Your healthy eating is definitely a plus! God Bless you and dh and show you the Way! HUGS,
Gaye

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LKWQUILTER 2/12/2013 2:13PM

    (((HUGS))) and praying for both of you. New treatments are coming out almost daily so try to stay positive. ((HUGS)) Linda Kay

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HAWTGRANNY2014 2/12/2013 1:21PM

    I am sorry but I love your positive attitude. He will be helped by all your love. It takes patience and you seem to have a lot of it. It is a blessing that you are both healthy.
I really enjoy your posts and sometimes it helps to put what we feel in words on a page. It helps to share. I will pray that this doesn't progress or if it does...slowly.
You are such a special lady and I know that even if he doesn't say so that he feels
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8HABIT 2/12/2013 12:46PM

    I am so sorry to hear this, but I know your healthy habits and positive attitude will go far. I have also read that interactions with others, exercise, and reading really helps with dementia.

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CT-FL-SNOWBIRD 2/12/2013 12:26PM

    I'm so sorry for the diagnosis! I love your positive attitude. It will make your life a lot easier to make the best of your situation.
My best advice for you is to accept any help that's offered, IF it's truly helpful. And don't be afraid to ASK for help. That's all some friends and family need is to be asked. If he has any male friends, see if they'll drop by and engage him in "guy" conversations and reminiscing a couple of times a week.

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CLWALDRO 2/12/2013 12:01PM

    emoticon for the update. I will pray for you and your family to work through these issues and can make forward on your healthy journey

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CELIAMINER 2/12/2013 11:19AM

    Hugs and blessings!

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SPARKARINO 2/12/2013 10:48AM

    So good that you have your healthy habits already in place and can go forward from there. As Sparkers we really know about taking things one step at a time, too! All the very best to you and your husband.
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HAVEFUN2LOSE 2/12/2013 10:42AM

    Just take one day at a time and make sure you make time for you. Dad is sole carer for mum and he has a sitter in twice a week for a few hours so he can go out and mostly do the shopping but also get a break. I also help with cleaning and my sons and I help with taking him shopping or arranging a home delivery as well. Plus in the nicer weather I go for the day so he can go out and completely relax. Mum is in the early to mid stage and is always asking what is for dinner, even if she just ate it, bless her.
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RAINBOWCHOC 2/12/2013 10:35AM

    enjoy time together, revisit some "special places" and take lots of photos.
best advice? Ignore advice!
sending big hugs, xx

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