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Do I do the best I can?

Friday, October 16, 2009

I've been thinking today as I'm trying to figure out how best to handle a situation with my son and his behavior at school if I do the best that I can in my daily activities?

Do I go to work and give 100%?

Do I take care of things around the house in a timely manner instead of putting them off and let them pile up?

Do I do what I say I'm going to do for other people?

Do I take care of myself like I say I'm going to so I'm better able to take care of others?

Do I really listen to people when I ask how they are?

Do I make sure that I am there for my family and friends when they need me?

I'm always asking my son and daughter to do the best they can at school, at home, in sports and at life in general and I think that maybe I need to take an inventory of my own life to make sure that I am giving 100% to others and to myself. It seems like sometimes I spread myself too thin and can't do everything as well as I would like. I guess that's the juggling act of a parent. I know that when my children can't get everything done, I'm ok with that. Maybe I need to cut myself a little slack, learn to prioritize a little better, learn to say no occasionally and make sure that I always give 100% of myself to the things that I do.

Just some things I need to think about........and learn to do better........another step in making my life better day by day..................

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CHEROKEE1946 10/17/2009 9:27PM

    You are a very special lady and I think we all tend to spread ourselves too thin at times, and I think sometimes we give in rather then saying no just so they don't ask again. But you are a very good mom and don't every doubt that. We all question ourselves from time to time but I think you do a great job at work, and at home, and especially with your children.

So you keep up the great job you are doing and stop doubting yourself. That is an order.

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TERESA:) 10/17/2009 1:42PM

    Very good blog! Saying "No" sometimes is very important! That is something that I have trouble with and cause me not the do things I should. The fact that you are thinking about how well you do will help your kids learn to do the same to themselves.

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 10/17/2009 7:15AM

    Thank you for your thoughtful blog.

I need to remember to do the best I can too.

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SHERLYNN43 10/17/2009 5:47AM

    You are one smart lady and you added a lot of insight to my day on this blog post. I think all of us need to take a step back and ask ourselves..."Are we doing the best we can for ourselves?" We need to love ourselves in the same way that we love our families and take good care of ourselves! Have a BEAUTIFUL weekend!

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BABY_GIRL69 10/16/2009 11:11PM

    This is very true & that's why I do what I can when I feel up to it & leave the rest for someone else! LOL


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LLTS01 10/16/2009 10:55PM

    You are so incredibly smart. Leave it to you to turn things around and to become introspective. Good luck in finding the right balance.

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KNITTABLES 10/16/2009 9:55PM

    Awsome blog, we must do the best we can and you seem to do just that with all the many things you do.
have a great weekend.

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DIVALICIOUS7 10/16/2009 9:02PM

    I agree with AWOLF24 - YOU WEAR MANY HATS THRU THE DAY & a little soul-searching is good for us. Be kind to yourself Claire emoticon

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TBABY912 10/16/2009 8:57PM

    thanks for the reminder!

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AWOLF24 10/16/2009 8:55PM

    Great blog! I sure you are trying your best but it is always good to sit back and re-prioritize every so often. As women who wears many hats, some days 100% is just getting through the day with everyone (including ourselves) clean, fed and relatively happy!

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Not letting the rain get me down......

Thursday, October 15, 2009

Well we are on day #2 of probably 5 days of rain. It's cold, wet, damp, raw, and pretty much plain miserable out however I have decided that I will not let this rain get me down. I'm actually thinking if it was a couple degrees colder it would be snow - that would be awesome - I love the snow - when I don't have to be anywhere.....

So, this weekend (a three day weekend for me emoticon I took a vacation day on Monday) I'm on a mission to shake up my workout routine for fall. I need to incorporate some more cardio and obviously with the weather getting cooler, I'll be turning to videos. Thanks to SHERYLNN43 and her blog I found some this evening. I want to be able to plan some things out ahead of time so I'm not scrambling at the last minute trying to decide what to do. I'll keep up with my ST as well. The prednisone doesn't seem to be doing anything for my shoulder but then again I'm not very patient so for now there will be no upper ST.

On the nutrition end, I've been trying some new recipes each weekend. I love the crustless quiches. I make one and then have it for the week. I've been eating very well except for the ice cream at night time. I've got to find something to eat at night or just quit eating a snack but it almost always is within my calorie range so I say it's ok but I'd rather have something healthier - I have to work on that. Guess I'll look for some new snack ideas to make. I love trying new recipes out so that's always fun for me - any suggestions for snacks anyone???

All in all with exercising and eating well I am feeling great (except for my shoulder - you know there is always an issue with me - lol). My migraines are under control. I have more energy than I've had in some time. I feel in control of things that I am able to control. Taking care of myself helps me be able to take care of those that I love and others that I don't even know.

So, let it rain, I'll be busy finding a new exercise plan, trying new recipes and oh yeah there's always the cleaning, the grocery shopping, the running the kids, the soccer in the rain.............

Have a good weekend all!!

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CHEROKEE1946 10/16/2009 8:16PM

    Hey Stephanie

I can send you a little snow from here if you would like some. I hate the cold weather, the rain and the snow. Boy am I bitchy? Yes I am bitchy with this weather. Hate it Hate it hate it.

Well you take care of your shoulder I know I have been there and done that and it isn't any fun. I am now attached with screws and that is no fun especially if you fly you have to tell them Have a great weekend and try to get some rest for that shoulder.

Hugs Colleen

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VERITY50 10/16/2009 4:27PM

    What a great idea, i.e. planning out your workouts in advance. That way you'll never be bored. But I don't think you have that problem anyway with all your family activities. I always have hot air popped popcorn for a snack. Low fat ice sandwiches are also a favorite. Skinny cow or the less expensive aldi brand are both good. Bon appetit!

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TERESA:) 10/16/2009 12:09PM

    Crustless quiche for the whole week sounds like a great idea!! Any good recipes? I like a little rain, but 5days is a bit depressing! As far as snacks, have you ever tried vitamuffins? Another healthier idea for far might be apple crisp. I hope your shoulder is better soon!

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SHERLYNN43 10/16/2009 6:50AM

    Glad you were able to find some workouts on my blog on Blogspot!!! Wooo hooo! Have you tried Frozen fruit for a snack. I loveeeeeeeee frozen bananas!

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CLEMENTSUE 10/15/2009 9:44PM

    Sounds like you're doing great, weather not withstanding. It has already snowed here (way too early!). I am ready for a respite, with some highs in the 60s-normal for this time of year! Glad the migraines are under control. Now, if only your shoulder will cooperate...

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KEAKMAN 10/15/2009 9:34PM

    Evening about a light yogurt with a tablespoon of mini chocolate chips and half a banana? Under 200 calories, you get some calcium, some potassium, and the dark chocolate, too!

I feel your rain pain. That has been the hardest thing about living in Oregon (she says, into year #15) - we get non-stop rain all winter. From now until June it will be drizzly and grey. But we will be back east at Christmas to visit my mom, and then Scott usually takes me off to the coast at least once in the winter, so I have learned to tolerate it. This winter I should try to embrace it, right?!

Hope the cold and damp isn't aggravating your shoulder!

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LOOSEINGIT 10/15/2009 9:15PM

    We've had cold rain here for the last couple of days too, yesterday, i just put on my rain coat and sweat shirt and took off on my hike..only got in 5 miles but today I wasnt looking forward to going out in it..I started looking for my dusty videos and a short time later the Lord Blessed me ..the rain stopped and i hike 7 miles..I was singing and old hymn.. Mercey Drops around me are falling half the way home..

God's Speed

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LLTS01 10/15/2009 8:35PM

    I ma already dragging with the rain. I don;t mind the cold but the rain is depressing. I hope your shoulder starts feeling better soon. I have an almost 3-day weekend. I took Tuesday off for such fun stuff as having the carpet cleaned, having a mammogram and taking all my too big suits to Dress for Success. I will feel very productive if I get all of these done.


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And we have a good one.......

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

a day that is. The last couple of days (probably the last week or so) have not been some of my best.

However today I woke up and it just felt different. I was actually out of bed before 5:30. I got to work early. My day at work was rather uneventful. Then I had a meeting with Jesse's teachers and I must say that it went rather well. I wasn't really told anything I didn't know. His grades are pretty good although he could be a straight A student. However his attitude really needs to improve. They are more than willing to work together (and closely) to make this happen. I will say that the teachers at our middle school go above and beyond for our kids. I am SO grateful and I told them that today. So we will have a talk and continue to reinforce this with him to encourage the same behavior he uses at home at school.

My shoulder is still acting up big time. I did all lower body ST tonight. Tomorrow I'm hoping to get a cardio workout in.

It just feels good to feel myself again - to be able to smile and mean it and laugh more than I have been and just enjoy the moment. Thanks for listening to my vents. I appreciate all your encouragement lately. It means alot to me.

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KEAKMAN 10/15/2009 9:38AM

    I think of you often (especially when Scott gets hammered with a migraine, and he has been getting them about 3x a wek!) and I am so glad to hear you had a great day. I love it when teachers have a plan and are willing to work with you to help your kiddo be his or her best - and to have a parent say "thank you!" Holy cow! You made their day!

Hope today is just as awesome Stephanie! You are due some happy days! emoticon

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KEEPSAKES66 10/14/2009 8:58PM

    glad you are feeling better!!!! emoticon

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CHEROKEE1946 10/14/2009 7:43PM

    Glad you are feeling better. Will keep praying for you son, maybe just a stage in his teenage years he is going through and when he is all grown up you will all look back at this time and laugh about it..... Keep the faith baby. LOL

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BABY_GIRL69 10/14/2009 5:51PM

    Awesome! I'm glad that you are feeling better & the meeting went well with the teacher. You take it easy with the shoulder, promise? Okay then, carry on! LOL


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SHERLYNN43 10/14/2009 5:57AM

    I am sooooo glad you are starting to feel like your old self. I will pray that your son hears what you are saying to him and gets it together!!! Love ya!

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TERESA:) 10/13/2009 10:33PM

    I am so happy that you are feeling better! That is wonderful! I hope some of it will rub off on me emoticon

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VERITY50 10/13/2009 10:24PM

    I am so glad that you are feeling better and that the meeeting with your son's teachers went well! I can remember going to those meetings and feeling like it was me getting graded. Its very unsettling when the teachers seem to "blame" you or suggest that there is something that you are doing or not doing to negatively affect your child's development. I am so happy that your son's teachers are supportive. After all, it takes a village to raise a child. emoticon emoticon

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DIVALICIOUS7 10/13/2009 10:07PM

    I'm soooo glad things are working& maybe keep the headache at bay!!!

Keep feeling well, make healthy food choices, work out & most of all take care of yourself - be gentle with yourself you deserve it. The wand is always at the "ready" just holler
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MRSMILLER777 10/13/2009 9:22PM

    oh my... there IS a light at the end of the tunnel! YIPPEE! I'm so glad to see things are getting back on track in all avenues of this journey for you!

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LLTS01 10/13/2009 9:10PM

    Well I love and adore the good old Stephanie but I'll take the bad with the good. That's what life is all about.


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AWOLF24 10/13/2009 8:58PM

    I'm really glad to hear it! And it sounds like your son has some great teachers - he is fortunate to have a good support system at home and at school. emoticon

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BIOFOOL 10/13/2009 8:45PM

    I'm glad you're coming out of the dark clouds. I feel the same is happening for me lately, although my stress has been mostly professional. I have some awesome stretches for your shoulder if you want them. There are also some great supplements for that kind of thing--fish oil and Glucosamine/Condrointen. I can hook you up with more info on that if wanted. Done a world of good for my knees and back. BTW, I love the background and design of your Sparkpage. Take care my friend.

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It's always something......

Monday, October 12, 2009

So, starting this past May or June I started having some pain in my shoulder. Well now that pain has become hmmm let's say a little more than painful at times. This weekend was terrible. I really dislike going to the doctors but thought maybe I should pay him a visit this morning. I'm now on prednisone for one week and if that doesn't work (he didn't seem too positive that it would), I'll be going for an MRI. He's pretty sure it has something to do with my rotator cuff and/or a pinched nerve. I have a pretty much constant dull pain down my arm, tingling finger tips off and on and shooting pain in my shoulder/neck/top arm kinda area from time to time.

I guess there will be no upper body ST this week. I'm really not pleased about this because I really need to get some painting done to get carpet ordered too - grrrr. Oh well, I have a lower body that can certainly use some work - ha ha and I always can do some walking for cardio. I asked my daughter (16) to take a walk with me yesterday and she told me I walk too fast for her!?!?!?!? Guess I'm doing something right emoticon

I'm loving this fall weather. It makes me want to keep active. I made a big batch of fruit salad yesterday with winter fruits and a batch of taco soup - yum!!! The leaves will be changing here before long and hmmmmm guess who will NOT be raking them this year.......

Have a great Monday everyone.

Anne made a comment about my migraines and I will say that they have been much better the past couple of weeks which is a huge relief!!!! I think the change in weather is part of the reason for that. I know another trigger is loud gymnasiums (not sure why) so we'll see how I make out when bball season starts. I will not miss games for anything!!

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CHEROKEE1946 10/14/2009 7:41PM

    I have had 3 rotator cuff surgeries on my right arm and the last time they put screws in to hold together and told me if I ever tore it again they would not guarantee use of my arm. So needless to say I retired from work because I did Home Nursing in the field and that involved some lifting (which is how I got it hurt in the first place). So take care and becareful.

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TWOCANS 10/13/2009 2:16AM

    Hope you feel better! That's funny about your teen thinking you walked to fast! WTG! I too LOVE Taco Soup!

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DIVALICIOUS7 10/13/2009 12:38AM

    Sorry to hear about the shoulder - please take care of it - I have a damaged tendon in my right shoulder. will never be what it was before the injury - but I'm VERY careful what & how I lift.
People who suffer from migraines are sensitive to loud noise & Vibration, Some concerts are too much for me - I medicate before I go or I can't sit through the whole thing. Take it easy kiddo Love Claire emoticon emoticon

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KAYAKID 10/13/2009 12:24AM

    Stephanie, Take care of yourself. My wife had the same problem and she has a cortizone shot about once every 2 years and it seems to take care of it. I think the MRI is a good start.
Good luck to you and take care.

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TERESA:) 10/12/2009 9:47PM

    Hey Steph, I hope you feel better. I know about shoulder pain, I have arthritis is one. Hopefully the meds work. Be sure to walk a lot to make up for it! I love the fall too :) emoticon

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LITTLE_DEBBIE 10/12/2009 9:17PM

    Your blog title says it all! Take care of yourself! emoticon

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SHERLYNN43 10/12/2009 7:11PM

    So glad to hear that your migraines are better, but sorry to hear about your shoulder. I have to watch that i dont try to life too much weight....or else I have a lot of pain. Take care!!!

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AWOLF24 10/12/2009 3:55PM

    Oh wow - bummer. I didn't know you've been in so much pain. (and all on TOP of the migraines??? It is a wonder you exercise at all! I'm impressed!) Hope you are feeling better soon.

I think it is great you walk "too fast" for your daughter!

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BABY_GIRL69 10/12/2009 3:48PM

    You know I did something to my shoulder about 2 years ago but I just take an advil. My doctor gave me muscle relaxers & told me if it doesn't get better, then will move more aggressively. Well, I just have my husband or son rub if for me but mostly its me rubbing it with heat or something. If I work out then it hurts worse but I try to be careful of it. So you take it easy & I hope its not the rotator cup. That can hurt. You're right, it is always something!

Blessings & Take care!


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LLTS01 10/12/2009 2:25PM

    Did you do anything specific to aggravate your shoulder. That really sucks. It's bad enough trying to keep in shape and to be healthy without these blips. Can you work out one arm for a while and then catch the other up later. LOL- sorry was trying to come up with some brilliant ideas to help you.

The weather is fabulous so getting out there and catching some fresh air should do you good. Don't forget to take extra Calcium.
BTW, I think your doctor loves prednisone..


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KEAKMAN 10/12/2009 1:39PM

    Stephanie, In am so sorry to hear about your shoulder....that kind of injury can really do a number on your ST! I hope the prednisone does more than the doc hopes!

In the meantime, enjoy not being able to rake leaves, or run the vacuum, or anything else that you don't particularly like to do around the house!


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It's been a rather rough week around here.....

Thursday, October 08, 2009

So, the stomach bug that decided to visit me last Friday has not really left me. I haven't missed work but I just can't get feeling exactly right. I was going to go to the dr's but from what I'm hearing many people have it and have it for some time. Ok, I'll continue to deal with it.

I've received phone calls from the principal, one teacher, and emails (some which I started) from teachers regarding my son. He is such a bright young man. He hates school. His attitude. His grade are decent but could be great. I don't know what to do!!!!!! AARRGGHHHH
I will be meeting with all the teachers next week to discuss what to do. I'm at a loss. I just want to cry - it's just a continuation of last year. It's like as soon as he goes to school he shuts down and becomes someone else!?!?!?

As most of you know, our dog passed away yesterday so Kenyon is extremely upset. The kids and I are doing ok. Biscuit was Kenyon's baby. It's still very upsetting to me to see him hurting.

So, with not feeling the best, stressing over my son, feeling bad for Kenyon, I am just having a crappy week. I don't like not being my normal happy self. I know I'm not eating the way I normally do because most times food is not staying with me and I am not exercising as much because I just don't have the strength. I am getting my sleep - thank goodness.

Although not my normal happy, I am still happy because I know that my life is blessed. I rarely lose sight of that fact. I always try and remind myself that I will always have these days and I will most certainly appreciate my good days even more. Thanks for listening to my vent. I think just typing this has helped me feel better.

Thanks to all my SP friends - you are the best!!!!!

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CHEROKEE1946 10/11/2009 8:00PM

    Hey Stephanie

I sure hope you are starting to feel better. We lost our dog, Holly almost 3 years ago and we still can't bring ourselves to get another one. I sure hope your son can get his life turned around it is such a shame when one so talented just can't seem to do the school scene. What grade is he in and would he be willing to go and get a GED if he decides to quit. Not sure how old he is. Maybe someone is being mean to him or he don't get along with some where there. will be keeping you and him in my prayers. I sure hope everything works out good for you.

Hugs Colleen

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A_RARE_BEAN 10/11/2009 1:21PM

    Awww hun I'm so sorry this week has been tough, it's the last thing you need when feeling under the weather. I have no idea how to deal with kids so can't offer any advice but will keep you and your son in my thoughts. School can be rough on kids for so many reasons, I just hope it works out and you can all find a situation that suits him better. Sorry about biscuit too :o( Sending you extra extra hugs today and hoping for better times for you, take care ((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))
))))) xx

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VERITY50 10/10/2009 12:31AM

    So sorry to hear you are having a bad week emoticon God knows all, hears all and bears all. May he bring you healing, comfort and peace. I truly empathize with your frustration with your son. Keep telling him how much you believe in him and his capabilities. Somehow a lot of young men get turned off to school when their hormones get turned on to the opposite sex. I keep telling my sons that girls like smart boys! After all, they will probably be better providers if they get a good education. Real men love learning! emoticon

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BABY_GIRL69 10/9/2009 12:01PM

    Hey Precious!
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You are always here for us & your words help us heal & keep us motivated. We hear you & we are here for you. My son is the same way but how do you motivate them? Heck what do we know anyway? We're too old to understand. LOL Of course, my dog passed 2years & I still miss him ALOT! Don't let Kenyon buy another dog for a little while anyway. It won't be the same. You take care & keep plenty of crackers & broths around. Don't worry about working out, you probably are losing weight from the stomach thingy anyway.
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You & your family are in my prayers!

Blessings & I know you already know, joy cometh in the morning . . .

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AWOLF24 10/9/2009 8:10AM

    emoticon emoticon Hang in there! Just take it a day at a time. And please don't worry about not exercising....sounds like your body is telling you that for now, it needs rest more than exercise.

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SHERLYNN43 10/9/2009 7:12AM

    First...I am soooo sorry to hear about your dog. I will be dealing with that shortly. I know my son is VERY upset about our dog too. Shane was 2 years old, when we got Max. They are like brothers.

I sure hope you feel better soon. That's too long. If it's a virus though....they usually take 10 days to get out of your system.

Take care....Sending hugs and prayers your way.
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LLTS01 10/8/2009 10:05PM

    Oh Stephanie, I feel like such a rotten friend for not realizing what a hellish week you have had. I cannot stand to see you this way. I am sending a million hugs your way and wish I could make you feel better.

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MUSIC66 10/8/2009 7:52PM

    Sorry about your dog i know how you feel our caviler king charles spanail passed away last july he died from a brain problem we think he was only 6 years old.

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LITTLE_DEBBIE 10/8/2009 7:51PM

    That is a rough week. emoticontoo! emoticon

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DIVALICIOUS7 10/8/2009 7:43PM

    I've got to find that damn wand!! You are on overload & I feel helpless. Take very very slow deep breaths & one ONLY ONE minute at a time. My mother told me there would be days like you're having - but just not so close together!!. I'm here for you Claire emoticon emoticon

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TERESA:) 10/8/2009 7:31PM

    I am sorry to hear that you had a hard week :( I don't really know what to say about your son. It must be hard to watch and not know what to do. I am also sorry about your dog. It is always hard to see a family pet go. Try to be strong and everything will get better soon. Have some tea and crackers and a hot bath maybe. emoticon

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