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Going Against Myself: Carb Nite Solution (Countdown: 66 days)

Sunday, October 27, 2013



emoticon I am very reluctant to post this, because it goes against what I had decided for myself and the advice I give to others. When others ask for tips on how to lose weight, my biggest piece of advice is it's easiest if you make changes you can stick to forever. If you are leading a healthy lifestyle, you never have to go "off of the plan" and figure out how to survive once you aren't doing that certain plan. I am 19 months into this journey and my approach has always been counting calories and exercising. That is not the approach that works for everyone, but everything in moderation (except my blasted trigger foods LOL) was what I followed and I have never regretted it. So to post this goes against everything I've always said. If you want to criticize I will gladly take anything you want to throw at me. emoticon

So what is all this hoopla about you might ask? Well here's the scoop. 19 months in I'm bored to tears on my weight loss journey. emoticon My arthritis is flared up, my knees are swollen and sore and that has bummed me out. I was enjoying Hip Hop Abs so much and loved doing it almost everyday. I even bought Rockin Body to give that a try but my knees put a firm stop to that. It was keeping me on my toes, it was keeping me feeling like I was doing something new and exciting and it was taking the weight off of me. Since I am back to essentially only walking, I have gotten very bored.

Let's add on to that the part where I am getting towards the end of my journey. Now wait wait, hold the phone, don't jump on me yet! This is a life long journey that never ends, I understand that... but what I mean is I am at a place where I have lost more weight than what I have left to lose. Does that make any sense? Maybe not. What I mean is that I have lost 80ish pounds, and my goal weight on my ticker is 170. According to that I have 20ish pounds to lose. Between you and me, I probably will keep pushing til I got to 160 so that's 30ish pounds. emoticon While 30ish pounds is no small feat, it is a heck of a lot less than 80 pounds. Add on to the fact that my body has not forgotten that I've lost all that weight and is continuously trying to find that weight again. With that said the weight is surely coming off at a snails pace. I know my way works, but my body is just rebelling all the way. Too bad 190 wasn't my goal weight, because I can maintain that like a champ. emoticon

Anyways, if you are looking for detailed information on this Carb Nite Solution you are in the wrong place. I am not here to promote this plan in any way. In fact, I do not even have the book. I got the information online, and the rules of the plan were readily available as was some of the "science" behind it. One thing I really respected about it was that the guy himself said this is not a healthy lifestyle. It is a weight loss TOOL and that you should not do it for more than 6 months. I really respected the honesty behind that because I do believe a healthy lifestyle is the way to go in the long run and that is what I intend to do. But I thought this would be a fun little experiment. I am really bored and it has lit a fire under me. Granted it is only day 2 (completed) of this plan. Remember when you started your journey? That sense of shiny newness where you couldn't contain your excitement? I am looking to get that back almost 19 months later. I have a goal to follow this plan for a month to: 1. Give myself something new and exciting to try. 2. To be accountable to myself and show myself I am strong enough to do anything. 3. Possibly shed a few more pounds that my body doesn't want to let go of.

So there you have it, that is what I'm up to. If you want to call me a hypocrite I completely understand. I was reluctant to try any plan because I have never been big on "plans". This won't be something I do more than a month or two and it is not a lifestyle. But the difference between me following a plan 19 months in is that I know what to expect when I go off this plan. When I go off this plan the 3 lbs that disappeared in water weight will come right back. When I go off this plan it does not mean going back to eating fast food 2 times a day (sorry Burger King, I miss you, kind of...)... it means going back to my healthy balanced lifestyle of everything in moderation and counting my calories (which I am still doing on this plan btw) and getting the job done. I also thought this would be the extra push to me through some of these dreaded holiday gatherings. emoticon If I throw in the towel on this plan, I promise to fess up. In the past I just would never mention it again, but I enjoy the accountability so when I go off the plan I will let you all know.

Countdown to 2014: 66 days
Starting Weight: 193
Current Weight: 190 (just water weight, don't get too excited)
Goal Weight: 179 emoticon

  
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TINA5111 11/3/2013 12:00PM

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SUNNYBEACHGIRL 10/31/2013 1:29AM

    I think that doing something different to get through to Valentine's Day without gaining weight is a Success. Losing deserves a celebration. Hope it is going well and I am with you

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JUDY106 10/30/2013 10:27AM

    emoticon weight lost. I am so happy for you. I know how you feel about not being able to do the excises you really want to do. I do water aerobics because my joints are so bad. you will get those last lbs off to reach your goal. I have faith in you. emoticon

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MAMACHAMBS 10/29/2013 9:00PM

    I'm so proud of you! It sounds like you're off to a great start with your experiment of one! The one thing I'm learning is that every good plan seems to have the same basis, low carbs, whole food, lots of veggies, etc. I think your 2013 goal is very achievable!

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MRSP90X 10/29/2013 12:09PM

    Sorry it took so long to answer your question. I just changed teams this weekend in the BLC. I did notice that you and someone else was doing the diet in the chat thread, but wasn't placed on your team. It has been challenging to catch up with a new team.

ANYWAY, It is basically a cyclical ketogenic diet. Since the diet has been around for a while, he has changed his stance on being healthy. You just eat higher glycemic carbs of more a "healthy" type, or take a paleo approach instead of eating extreme amounts of junk on carb nite. His Carb Back-loading is the same and that one is a lifestyle "diet". I love the diet!! I do however need to watch my fat and overall calories, or I will gain weight, but that is true with any diet approach. I eat lots of salad and more healthier carbs on carb night, but at least I can have a cheat meal, and get to eat lots of air popped popcorn!! I love it!! If you or anyone else on your team has questions, please ask! I should be able to respond quicker now. Changing teams almost halfway is rough!

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SIMONEKP 10/29/2013 11:46AM

    I hear you, 19 months is a long time to keep vigilant. I feel that way sometimes and I'm only 10 months in. You are so funny "Add on to the fact that my body has not forgotten that I've lost all that weight and is continuously trying to find that weight again.
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I can't see myself off carbs but give it a whirl and see if it gives you a head start.

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BRADMILL2922 10/29/2013 12:08AM

    Boredom is a hard thing to fight. Like this thing isn't hard enough as it is but we can get a little lax due to success and/or injury and that sounds a little of what is going on with you. You don't need anyone to tell you what you have to do because you already know it. So, good luck with trying something new. Sometimes, that is all it takes!

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TIRED49 10/28/2013 11:35PM

    Thank you for posting this! It is good to know that those that are successful also struggle.
I totally understand why you would want to try something that will get that weight moving again, even if it is only temporary.

I am trying your approach of no foods off limit, this is a lifestyle change but when (you notice I said when) I get to a plateau, believe me I would try something new to "shock" my body into getting moving again.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

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ZAPPATTACK 10/28/2013 4:26PM

    You're awesome!! I find myself in a bit of a slump too but am trying to get back into the swing of fitness... Here goes nothing.

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SLIMMINGSHAY 10/28/2013 3:29PM

    I absolutely loved this blog and how you were completely honest about what you are doing and why.

Have fun and keep pushing on! You can do it!

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MOTHEPRO 10/28/2013 10:19AM

    I'm about a year in and getting bored myself. I'm interested to see how you do with this.

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SKINNYINMYHEAD 10/28/2013 8:49AM

    Stephanie... no name calling from me... I'm pretty much sick to death of defending what *i* do... so I won't be casting stones on others.. nope.. I've said it once and I will say it a million times - everyBODY is different and everyMIND is different.. do what works for you! and I can't wait to hear about this because I'm intrigued.. and GONE are the weeks of losing 4-7lbs... if something doesn't happen tomorrow or Wednesday I'll be posting a 0 loss after last weeks dismal 1lb loss. that's why I'm looking to shake it up a bit too...

Those 66 days til 1/1 will fall like dominoes before you as homage to your commitment and success!!

Annie

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SMART4ANDREY 10/28/2013 7:00AM

    I have good news for you!
I'm like you all that lifestyle changes.
And you're the first one I'm telling this to, there's one more step, more complicated practice, that only can be mastered after you made these lifestyle changes!
You can call it "new and exciting experience" at this point it won't drive you off track!
For example, you should walk more, be more active, that's a lifestyle thing and you can practice it everyday for the rest of your life.
But you can go scuba diving, that doesn't mean that you need to scuba every day for the rest of your life, it's just new and fun experience.

Happy for you!

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MOVEITMARY 10/27/2013 11:14PM

    I think it's good to try it as an experiment and not a "magic solution". Have fun with it and if it doesn't work, you know what to do....

Does bicycling work for your knees? Maybe that would be less boring.

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TOKIEMOON 10/27/2013 9:42PM

    I have no idea what this carb plan entails (limiting and than binging?) But if it's working and it's something you can stick with for a short while - why not absolutely give it a try. Now that my curiosity is peaked, I'm going to see if I can find it and see for myself! Have fun!!

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AMARILYNH 10/27/2013 7:44PM

    emoticon Stephanie, I think it is a GREAT idea! I haven't heard of this particular plan, but assuming is has something to do with limiting carbs I say go for it! I lost the first 30 or pounds of my weight on a modified low carb plan (I modified it by eating fruit) and I am still VERY careful with carbs (try to eat mostly complex carbs and limit bread - even whole wheat bread).

Every body is different. Until I tried it I swore I'd never go on a low carb plan because I LOVE me some carbs! But once I actually did it? It was way easier than I expected. What is the worst that can happen? You hate it and go back to your previous healthy eating plan!! Well heck, that's what you are planning to do in time anyway!! And who knows, there may be a part of this new plan you choose to incorporate INTO that plan!! Its all good!! emoticon

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LOTUSBURGER 10/27/2013 5:32PM

    emoticon emoticon Good Luck on your new journey! emoticon

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GEORGE815 10/27/2013 4:09PM

    Keep trying. You can do it!

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PIGGYWAY 10/27/2013 3:34PM

  good thinking good luck

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KATESQUEST 10/27/2013 3:02PM

    The willingness to examine your thinking, try new things and expand your experiences is a sign of intellectual wellness :) Although I have never tried the Carb Nite Solution, I am a proponent of limited carb plans for weight loss. They do help reset your metabolism and flip on your fat-burning switch! One has to be careful about how you reintroduce the carbs in order to prevent complete backsliding and weight gain, though. I say, good for you for trying something new! I find that when I limit my carbs I feel MUCH better!

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CHUBRUB3 10/27/2013 2:26PM

    WE all get bored, so don't beat yourself up. If you want to change up your diet do so, we live and learn. If it works for you even better!
You have done great and you will continue to do great.
Big hugs,
Angela


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JACOBSBELOVED 10/27/2013 1:49PM

    I haven't looked into the newer plan you're talking about but knowing you, I'm sure it's safe and healthy. If you need something to light a fire under you then by all means I think you should do it! Like you said, you're 19 months in and you need that spark that we all get when we start losing weight. Mix things up because it sounds like you need something new.

Keep us updated and let us know how you're doing! I'm sure you will but now I'm really curious to see how this works out for you. :)

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BRENDA_G50 10/27/2013 11:18AM

    Shake it girlfriend shake it!!! emoticon I'm with you, I'm getting bored with food and when I do that, I usually binge on what I've been craving (like potato chips, or sweets). So...go for it!!! If you find you don't like this plan, you can always go back to eating the way you were before you started it. Best of luck and be sure to keep us posted on how things are going. emoticon

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WORKNPROGRESS49 10/27/2013 11:16AM

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DRADDIE 10/27/2013 10:03AM

    Good luck to you! Sometimes we just have to shake it up a little for a little newness and excitement- our bodies just get so used to our routines! Well done! Keep postin'!

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1CRAZYDOG 10/27/2013 9:38AM

    EBONY said it best for me . . . not planning on taking YOUR inventory! Too busy with my own. That said, my advice (I know, you didn't really ask for it!) is realize NOTHING is written in stone. So, if this doesn't work for you, you can cease and desist! NO harm in trying. You never know till you do. And heck, if it's a mistake, you'll know and lesson learned.

Have you looked into reactive foods @ all? I found for me, red meat is a real bug-a-boo for my joints (osteo & RA -- that one undiagnosed, but 99.9% positive of it and it is WAY in the gene pool). Cutting down has really helped.

Peace.

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ADARKARA 10/27/2013 8:42AM

    I've been considering shaking things up myself. I have about 20 lbs to lose still as well (TWINSIES!) and I'm getting bored/impatient. The problem is that my brain is so thoroughly resistant to anything with RULES! lol

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CAT125 10/27/2013 8:01AM

    I fill my carb tank up every Wednesday.....right after weighing in! emoticon
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Keep tweaking....you'll get there!

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BARBARAROSE54 10/27/2013 6:49AM

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CHRISTASP 10/27/2013 6:40AM

    I really like your honesty. I feel we all need to make our own choices, you are the only one who can decide what's best. I am trying to normalize my eating patterns and have chosen to do so for 100 days but again and again I wonder if I should not do something 'drastic' and try a method that would help me lose weight fast. So I understand your reasoning, I think.

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CHICAT63 10/27/2013 6:22AM

    Thanks for sharing and posting this, in some ways I am at the same standpoint. I have been maintaining up and down for too long, I need to make some nutritional changes....Rock on my friend ! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MARYBETH4884 10/27/2013 6:16AM

    Sometimes we need to shake things up and keep our bodies guessing! I hope your plan works!

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EMPRESSAMQ 10/27/2013 5:59AM

    It's great to try new approaches to keep things fresh, good for you! Sounds like an interesting plan.

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COCK-ROBIN 10/27/2013 5:49AM

    Very good! It's wonderful to try something new, to keep your journey fresh and alive. Keep at it!

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HAPPYMENOW58 10/27/2013 5:44AM

    Best wishes...I think you should try whatever new things appeal to you...It makes sense to me...We shake things up by trying different exercises...Sometimes we need to shake up our food plans, too! Hang in there..keep trying, reading, sparking, and moving....We are all different and have to follow our own hearts on this journey... emoticon emoticon

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EBONYSOL 10/27/2013 5:12AM

    Thanks for sharing and for being honest.
I, for one, have no plans on taking your inventory; I have more than enough work trying to keep track with my own life and goals.
Might try some water exercises to help you get past those knee problems. If you are bored, find a place with good water slides just make sure you don't have any neck/back probs. OR try river fishing where you are up to your whatever in water trying to catch an elusive fish while the river wants to sweep you away. My brother loves it. I personally have not tried it; I haven't been that bored yet. Kayaking is a good workout and so is dragon boat racing according to my friends. Just a few different ideas:)

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Final Countdown: 69 Days - Lose, Gain, or Maintain?

Thursday, October 24, 2013



We are down to crunch time here... 68 days left in 2013! If I was forced to sit down and really decide if I am where I want to be at this point this year, I would probably say I came up short of where I wished I would be. But you know what, I'm not going to do that. This is a lifetime journey and I am moving forward, getting into smaller sizes and losing weight... at the end of the day that is a victory to me!

With that said, the year is flying by, and before we know it we will be ringing in 2014! emoticon But before that we have that dreaded time of year where the pounds try to creep up on you!



The holidays are great, it's a time of family and fun! But it's also the time of massive amounts of food, and every single get together revolving around it! If we just "ate poorly" ON the actual holidays, it would just be a handful of days. But it's not that simple. Everyone is offering you baked goods or candy, wanting to have you over for dinner on other days, and wanting to feed you all sorts of food. It can be really hard to say no to so much yumminess! It is so easy to get sucked into the mentality that "It's the holidays, and I'm going to ENJOY IT!" By all means we all deserve to enjoy the yumminess of the holidays with everyone else, but there has to be a line somewhere. Imagine if we started that attitude on Halloween? That is over two full months that we could have to pack on the pounds.

With 68 days left I feel like I have 3 options, I can gain, lose, or maintain. Gaining would be the easy and obvious choice, it's the holidays! They only come once a year, right? Why not enjoy and eat every yummy treat that crosses my path? But no, that path is not for me. Maintaining doesn't sound too bad, I can't lie to you. Indulging in SOME treats but keeping a good eye on it so that I can maintain... things could definitely be worse. But I will have a lifetime to maintain when I get to my goal weight... so now is not the time for that. I am choosing to take my power back and LOSE weight during the holidays. I am going to actually set some very realistic expectations for me based on some of the things I have coming up. With about 10 weeks left this year I want to lose 10 pounds. Some may say that is "ONLY 1 pound a week", but to me that sounds fantastic, especially during the holiday times. Not to mention I have another trip to Vegas coming up (still recovering from the first one), and I have a 3 week total vacation. The majority of the time I do better at work because I can't get up and eat whenever I want... but I also have a lot of tempting food at work that can make it hard. It will be interesting to see how I do when I am home for a couple weeks. But I am just going to push forward and do the best I can.

So how about you? What is your action plan to make it through the holidays? It might sound early to be worrying about but it doesn't hurt to plan! emoticon emoticon

Countdown to 2014: 68 days!
Current weight: 193 (Up a few pounds after vacation)
Goal weight: 179
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AMARILYNH 10/29/2013 7:20AM

    I missed this blog last week and am just now seeing it. I say GREAT PLAN!! I am in the maintenance phase of weight loss, but believe me when I tell you that doesn't make it ANY easier to resist holiday foods! And pounds come back SO FAST - one can never cease to be diligent!!

Before going on an 11 day vacation to Canada followed a week later by a 3 week vacation in Europe (yes, retirement IS good!) I worked extra hard and got to 5 pounds under my goal weight. As of this morning I'm sitting at 3.4 pounds under goal weight. And I'm back into weight loss mode - I was LIKING that weight and have decided I want to keep it.

So I'm WITH you!! We CAN enjoy a little holiday food - just in moderation!! I learned a couple of years ago that Thanksgiving dinner is MORE enjoyable when you just have a little of each yummy food. And that includes the punkin pie - a tiny sliver more than satisfied me! And what a FABULOUS feeling to not feel bloated and stuffed after dinner!!

So my method for handling holiday meals with family is to talk - a LOT (any friend of mine reading this will tell you this is an AMAZING skill of mine - I talk a lot!) With all that talking and a little eating I'll finish the meal satisfied and fulfilled!! Because it really IS about the people, not the food, right?

So HAPPY HOLIDAYS Stephanie!! We can DO this!! emoticon

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KEYTOSLIM 10/26/2013 11:05PM

    Great Goal! Go for it!

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WEBEZE 10/26/2013 2:10AM

    I am with you Steph. 10 pounds by end of year. 186 now so 176 by end of year.
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SKINNYINMYHEAD 10/25/2013 8:26AM

    Well, you go girl!! Love the attitude.. love the challenge... and have zero doubt you will meet your goal! My plan is to make stuff that I can eat and take it to all these parties ... but I'm not kidding myself, it's going to take some laser sharp focus to meet my ONEderland goal by the new year...

YOU GOT THIS!
Annie

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CHICAT63 10/25/2013 4:37AM

    Oh yes you can !!! emoticon emoticon

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WEEPINGANGEL74 10/25/2013 12:54AM

    Sounds like a plan!! I can totally relate to the people wanting to feed during the holidays but unfortunately I have someone in my office who is like that ALL the time..... she hardly eats and is skinny as a rail but the Italian in her (she says) makes her feed everyone else all the time.... I know she means well but it definitely makes it harder to lose weight.

I think you can kick those 10 pounds to the curb by New Year's Eve, no problem!!

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LIMITEDGRACE 10/24/2013 11:45PM

    I'm with ADF1981... I had to count the weeks myself as well!! LOL I really like the idea of shooting for losing 10 pounds by the end of the year. Actually, I set my goals for 5 pounds a month, so really if I stick to what I'm already doing (and actually measuring, weighing, and tracking EVERYTHING I put in my mouth) then I should be on track.
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JENRAQTAY87 10/24/2013 10:44PM

    I am taking part of the November challenge to work out everyday in November up until the day of Thanksgiving!

I even think on Thanksgiving I will make sure I walk for like 2 hours!

On Halloween I am going to chew gum which Trick or Treating so I don't gobble up any candy! emoticon

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TREV1964 10/24/2013 10:05PM

    I personally am chasing my mini goals one at a time. My long term goal is to loose the remaining 80 pounds by next summer.

Good blog and highly motivational reading.

Cheers

Trev

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1CRAZYDOG 10/24/2013 8:03PM

    Planning the work and working the plan. That's what it's all about. You have both covered. So, there you go . . . you're setting yourself up for success.

HUGS

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JACOBSBELOVED 10/24/2013 6:25PM

    It's not "just" 10 pounds. It's a very realistic goal! You're expecting something very reasonable from yourself and it's to ensure you do good during the holidays.

I've definitely been thinking about the holidays and I've already decided that I'm going to be good. I'm going to have the rest of my life to enjoy the holiday yummies and I think it would be good for me to resist as much temptation as possible this year. I'm not bummed about it at all. I think it's important for me to keep myself in check. That's my plan. :)

In my opinion, I can't have any regrets if I'm good during the holidays. I know I'm not going to think, "Ah, I lost 2 lbs this week, but I still wish I would have tried everything at the Christmas party last Saturday." There's no way you can regret being good, but you will definitely have different feelings if you ate too much. This is just my opinion. :)

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TOKIEMOON 10/24/2013 6:20PM

    Gosh Steph, 68 days! Right now I'm in the 2nd week of an 8-week 5% weight loss challenge. I'm shooting for 1.3 lb loss a week. My first week weigh-in I was down 2.2! I'm shooting for losing a total of at least 10 lbs by Dec. 7th finish date. Then maintain (or lose, but NOT regain) through the Christmas & New Year holidays.
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ZAPPATTACK 10/24/2013 3:51PM

    Wow... 68 days. I definitely need to kick my butt into gear!! I like your plan and I think likewise I am going to try and lose. For me, the biggest thing is going to be not engaging in the mindless eating around the tables during gatherings. My thought is that keeping my water glass filled and in front of me will keep my hands busy.

Thanks for posting and reminding us that we have to be conscious of our decisions during this journey to a healthier, happier self!

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RECREATING_ME 10/24/2013 3:39PM

    One of my action plans is to bring a plentiful veggie tray to all family gatherings and others that ask for a dish to pass. So often there is nary a vegetable to be found at these get-togethers, so I need to be responsible for bringing a healthy option that will nourish me, not fill me with empty calories.

I like your perspective in this blog post! We do have options during the holidays; keeping a balance (as we do during other times of the year) is very reasonable. emoticon


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MLLEMINOU 10/24/2013 2:24PM

    Hmm, I say try to at least get back to 193 *if* you gained in Vegas, and try to lose maybe 10 lbs bc if you're like me, during the Holidays, you're gunna have a lot of family dinners and I think it's a time to celebrate and give in a bit to some goodies (a bit!) and if you don't want to keep trying to lose, maintain!! I think u can totally get to your goal weight if not by Dec 31, prob mid January the latest!!! emoticon Congrats on all you have lost so far!!

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SIMONEKP 10/24/2013 2:14PM

    let's do this!

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ROZZIEOZZIE 10/24/2013 2:09PM

    Some great advice here! I also will plan my holidays very carefully, and maybe only eat one "holiday" type treat instead of a little of each like I used to do! Or maybe don't even have one treat, unless I can fit in an extra workout - just fill up on veggies and salad!
Thanks for getting me thinking, again!
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(And I love the fat cat that ate too many Thin Mints!!)

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HEALTHYHEIDI12 10/24/2013 12:19PM

    Both you and Chelle are smart to bring up this topic now! I love your plan. I think I'm going to decide ahead of time what my favorite things are and plan to indulge in a moderate serving. This way I can have what I like the best, but if I plan ahead and track it in advance, I should be fine.

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JADED_CHICK19 10/24/2013 11:59AM

    Great goal! 10 pounds is a good number to shoot for especially around the holidays. The holidays are a great time of year but we need to remember that we are on this journey for a reason. You have a great mindset heading into the end of the year!

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SLIMMINGSHAY 10/24/2013 11:53AM

    Is that all that is left of this year?! How did that happen?!

hmm... thought provoking. Planning ahead is a very good idea! Holidays are also not a great place for me, but since I"m pretty much at home all the time being a SAHM, I do have the choice of what I do and how I do it and how much I shovel in. Practicing self control will be my feat!

Good luck to all!

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ADF1981 10/24/2013 10:39AM

    I think 10 lbs is a great goal. Until I read your blog I hadn't thought about there being only 10 weeks for this year. I had to count it for myself LOL!

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ADARKARA 10/24/2013 10:28AM

    You can TOTALLY do this, girlfriend!!! emoticon

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CHOCOHOLIC2276 10/24/2013 8:01AM

    emoticon Go for it, you've come so far already.

I am determined to make this the year I don't gain weight. I would be ok with maintaining. Losing a couple of pounds would be the ultimate goal. Gaining is not acceptable!!


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SMART4ANDREY 10/24/2013 6:56AM

    We need some food free holidays! Society hear me!!!

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KIDMIFFY1 10/24/2013 6:05AM

    Thanks for the blog....it really sums up some of the issues Ive been dealing with. My plan is to loose (thank god for spending the holiday season on the other side of the world to my family so they arent forecing food down my throat)....but i took the maintain option over the summer while I was travelling europe, and it really made me realise the importance of having this third option in your back pocket .... and realise that if life doesnt work in a way that allows you to focus on loosing, then its not black or white, there is that grey inbetween thats maintaining...and lets face it we all need to learn how to do it anyway as we cant loose forever - we all have a healthy end point we want to reach!

Have a great holidays and good luck with your plan!!!!

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MARYBETH4884 10/24/2013 5:09AM

    Great plan and attitude! Why wait for 2014. One excuse usually leads to another! emoticon

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MOLLIEJEAN2 10/24/2013 5:00AM

    Where has this year gone, can't believe it is almost over. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon , good to have set goals than go head first into the holidays thinking I can eat anything and gain that weight back.

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POUTINGPEGGY 10/24/2013 4:52AM

    This is a real wake up call. Only 10 weeks. A lot of people out there, like me, have to tighten up if they are going to hit those end of the year goals. Thanks for this emoticon

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COCK-ROBIN 10/24/2013 4:41AM

    Good advice! One I need to take with me on the holidays!

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SUNNYRAYE 10/24/2013 4:21AM

    You go girl! I love that you are planning your responses to situations during the silly season.
For me it is pretty much status quo except turn beast mode on.

I know that I have an eating problem and that means I have to protect myself and fight fight fight every day of the year. Whether it is fighting others trying to give me food or my binge monster (which I haven't heard from lately) or myself trying to say that I don't need to gym because I did so hard during the year.

Every day is a fighting day because I want to be happy, healthy and full of hope. So for me, I have to do what I do every day and don't break my habit - no matter what the cost.

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How Badly Do You Want To Lose Weight?

Thursday, October 17, 2013

Hey you! Yes you, don't look behind you I am talking to you! emoticon Do you want to lose this weight? Do you want to get to your dream size and KEEP IT OFF? I have the secret... you aren't going to believe it when I tell you this... okay, I've kept you in suspense long enough. The secret to having the healthy body you want and finally dropping those pounds for good is...



Okay, at this point the average person would walk away from me or stop listening. They do not want to hear that at all. They want to hear what supplement, pill, shake or program they can buy to get the results that I have. But you are different, you are a Spark Person! Not to act all high and mighty, but us Spark People have the edge on the Average Joe's! emoticon If you have been on Spark for sometime you know that weight loss isn't something you do until you lose the weight. You know this isn't a diet that you go on only to go off of it a few months later. You know this is a full on lifestyle change, where you track your food (or at least monitor calories to an extent) and you make sure that fitness is part of your routine. But before Spark People, maybe you were like myself.

Stephanie-BSP (Before Spark People)
Stephanie-BSP was a very different person. She was a person who spent lots of $$$ on things that she thought would get her to her goal weight. You see, at 272 pounds, she was DESPERATE to lose this weight. She was a sad person who was overwhelmed by the amount of weight she had to lose. Deep down she knew a healthy lifestyle change was the way to go, but that just seemed too dang hard. emoticon She wanted magic! emoticon She wanted the Weight Loss Fairy to come while she was sleeping and wake up at her goal weight.

Eventually she gave up on the Weight Loss Fairy and decided to waste a lot of time and money on things that don't work, let's list a few.

Alli, Trim Spa (back in the day), Countless weight loss pills and supplements that I don't remember the names of, low carb diet, cabbage soup diet, detox diet, 4 day diet, Jenny Craig, Nutrisystem, Weight Watchers... and well, you get the point. emoticon (Disclaimers at the bottom of this post)

I was desperate to lose weight, and I spent so much time and money on those things. Some I lost quite a bit of weight, but it never lasted because I looked at them as diets that I could go off of when I was "done". Boy was that wrong. emoticon

Don't let me catch that gleam in your eye! Are you wondering about one of those diets because you haven't heard of them? Well don't bother, because they don't work LOL. I am guilty of that to this day. I have lost almost 85 pounds through tracking my food and exercising. I have not cut out any foods and nothing is truly off limits. I have done this on portion control and counting my calories. It's really true what they say about calories in calories out. So why to this day do I still look at other "diets"? I don't go looking for them, but I hear a Sparker is doing a juice fast or started a such and such diet and I'm intrigued to go and see what it is all about. In my defense I have never actually done the diet (not in the last 18 months on this journey at least), but why is it that after all this time I still want to go and look? I guess there is always this part of us that is hoping there will be an easier and faster way to do this. We can be successful and still wonder if there is a better way.

These are my tips for finding the BEST weight loss plan for you (I know many might disagree):
emoticon Your eating plan is something you can stick with for the rest of your life. If you can't go low carb for the rest of your life, don't lose weight that way. If you can't go the rest of your life on a juice fast (who can?!), don't lose weight that way. Anything that you have to go "off of" at the "end" is not a healthy balanced lifestyle.

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emoticon If you are starting out start with small changes. Trying to do it all at once can be so daunting... I started with water... trying to get in 8 glasses a day. Then I started tracking all my food, not even worrying about the calorie range, just getting in the habit of tracking. Then I worked on staying in range and then adding in exercise. Doing it in stages helps so much and seems less overwhelming.

emoticon Use Spark for support or have an accountability buddy. We all have bad days, we all have days where we eat everything or don't exercise, that's to be expected. But when it turns into several days or weeks, have someone you can turn to remind you to keep your eye on the prize. emoticon

If you have ever said you were willing to do ANYTHING to lose weight, then why not do the one thing that is PROVEN to work and proven to make sure you keep the weight off? emoticon Healthy Lifestyle For The Win! emoticon


emoticon My disclaimer is that I know Jenny Craig and Weight Watchers have been a huge success for many. I think out of all the programs, Weight Watchers is the same as a healthy lifestyle and counting calories. It didn't work for me way back when because I had a bad mentality. My mentality was if you can use all your points eating one meal at Jack In The Box and not eating anything else, then do it. BAD BAD BAD. That was my fault, not Weight Watchers. ;) Jenny Craig and Nutrisystem are great while you do them, but what happens when you go off of them? You still need to learn how to eat and cook for yourself. With that said if you can teach yourself those things after you go "off them" then you are golden. I in no way mean to talk poorly of those weight loss programs or anyone who chooses to use them, just saying they didn't work for me personally. emoticon

  
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TERRIJ7 3/9/2014 12:36PM

    Very true! Don't you just love Spark People? So much great, common sense advice.

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GRAMPIAN 12/16/2013 3:55PM

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DRTOVAH 11/11/2013 9:56AM

  great post

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WHITEANGEL4 10/31/2013 10:48PM

    You are right. We Sparkers are aware that to be successful in losing weight and having a healthy lifestyle, we need to mwke a lifestyle change for life. It works and all members can tell evryone so

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SUECHRIS50 10/24/2013 3:53PM

    Spark People is amazing.having been here going on 3 years I haven't found any site as wonderful.The support is awesome and knowing i'm not alone in this journey is tops! emoticon

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SUPERMODEL2BE 10/23/2013 5:10PM

    Thanks for the motivation!

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SHELL1400_85 10/23/2013 2:29PM

    Awesome blog! Thank you so much for sharing. You are right fad diets do not work. I have experienced this first hand as while. I used Slim Quick before. Now I realized that having a healthy lifestyle is really the only way to go!!

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JAMY130 10/22/2013 10:34PM

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SLIMMINGSHAY 10/22/2013 3:15PM

    VERY well written! Loved reading this and I have always agreed that if it's not something you can stick with, then you shouldn't be doing it. I have NEVER done any of those programs you listed or any others out there. I know and always have known, that to lose the weight I put on is all in MY power simply by moving more and eating better. Thanks for this blog!

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LINZBM21 10/22/2013 9:36AM

    Thanks for sharing this! It's encouraging to see someone make progress just by hard work. You're right those diets don't really work, at least not for me! I can't stand being so restricted! Can I ask though, do you allow yourself to have sweets occasionally? I have a huge sweet tooth and that's been half my battle to lose weight.

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AJINMN 10/21/2013 10:33PM

    So true, so true... :)

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GRACILU 10/21/2013 2:36PM

    Great blog!

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RENLLY 10/21/2013 2:01PM

    Good Blog Post - thanks for sharing

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PENNYPEARLS 10/21/2013 9:51AM

    Thanks. I needed to have this encouragement today. Your words are absolutely true. emoticon

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SHERYLP461 10/21/2013 7:52AM

    Thanks, good information

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  Good blog.

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GEORGE815 10/20/2013 12:26PM

    Thanks for all the advice!

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MRSRIGS1 10/20/2013 12:05PM

    You hit the nail right on the head with this blog! Thank you! The only thing I would add is that it takes a lot of patience, patience, patience. We must remember that we did not gain the weight in a day, week or month. We did it over the years! Therefore, we cannot expect the weight to come off in days. Even when we do not see our hard work pay off (meaning on the scale) we must continue forward with the healthy eating and habits we've learned. Eventually, we feel the efforts by putting on our clothes and they no longer fit. This journey can at times feel too long and perhaps painful but it is WORTH every effort if we just have the patience to stick with it!

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KELLYD2112 10/19/2013 6:35PM

    Thanks for the awesome blog. Very motivating!

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THESHELBSTER 10/19/2013 6:34PM

    Great blog as usual. All so true!

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GRACILU 10/19/2013 6:00PM

    Great thoughts!

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MARYJEANSL 10/19/2013 5:53PM

  Very true!

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ZELLAZM 10/19/2013 8:02AM

    Love your take on things...and really get why this post is so popular. Now if we would all just LISTEN!

Good weekend!

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SANDYCRANE 10/19/2013 6:50AM

    I agree with you.It is not easy, but it can be done.

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SCRAPBECCA 10/19/2013 1:28AM

    Thanks for reminding me to keep (put) my eyes (back) on the prize. After 6 months of successful commitment here at SP I have gotten wildly off track in the last week.

I love how I look and feel after losing almost 25 pounds with sane eating and reasonable exercise. Thanks for the reminder that I really don't want to go back to the insanity of binge eating and no exercise (already I have gained back 3 or more pounds in just 7 days!).

Part of me was thinking about giving up but after reading your post I am recommitting to what has worked so well for me these last 6 months. I am going to view these last 7 days as a very temporary detour. Thanks for leading me back to the right path!

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CAT125 10/18/2013 9:30PM

    Love your blogs! emoticon

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JAMER123 10/18/2013 9:04PM

    Excellent blog and very inspiring!! Keep up your good work and weight loss!!
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STARSUB99 10/18/2013 8:11PM

    Love your words of wisdom!

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LIVELYGIRL2 10/18/2013 7:52PM

  your doing super. Keep it up!!! emoticon

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CHUBBY_MOM 10/18/2013 5:36PM

    Thanks for reminding me that it isn't about "the diet" but the life style change and making it something you can continue on a daily bases.

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SUSIEMT 10/18/2013 5:20PM

    I love you Steph-knee! You are so right on!! We need to make this a Most Popular Blog for wider dissemination!! I hope everyone that reads this forwards it on to someone else. Trev1964 was so right on with his response! You did good Steph!

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JSEATTLE 10/18/2013 3:54PM

  Yes, whatever works for you! It is a combination of things as you have stated so well.

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GALINAZ 10/18/2013 3:17PM

    I would add only one thing - give yourself the TIME to make these changes. I'm into my third year with SP and I haven't lost all the weight I would like but I HAVE made lifestyle changes that will get me there. emoticon

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CHUBRUB3 10/18/2013 2:41PM

    Fantastic!!
I Angela - BSP was exactly as you described yourself. So much of what you say here resounds with me. I bet we like the same shoes. LOL!
Thanks for the advice and inspiration.
Hugs,
Angela


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They Finally Stopped Snickering (Or Did They?)

Sunday, October 13, 2013


Being overweight my entire life, I have had my fair share of teasing. I had a lot of it in High School... and it wasn't fun. I can remember I was sitting down, waiting for my mom to come and get me. A guy pulled up and took the time to stop the car to say "Can I get your number? Yeah that belly just REALLY turns me on!" I wouldn't even make eye contact with the guy until he finally drove away. It's sad that over 10 years later I can still remember that like it happened yesterday. The good news is, I don't think of times like that very often.

After High School I thought the worst had to be behind me, adults couldn't be as petty and ridiculous as children right? WRONG! emoticon I actually found out that adults were even more brutal and judgmental and had no problem showing it. I could provide examples, but I don't want to think about those unhappy moments and give them any more time and energy.

But the other day I realized that I haven't heard a snicker or a snide remark in quite some time... in fact if you asked me when was the last time I heard one, I probably couldn't figure out when it was. The thing of it is, I am still about 188 pounds, not small by any means and I carry a large amount of weight in my stomach. To add insult to injury I live in Los Angeles, and even after losing almost 85 pounds I can almost always be the biggest person in a place at any given time. Whether it's shopping or out to eat, I am often the big girl... this isn't always the case but it happens more than I care to admit. So did people really stop making comments at my expense? Maybe, but I somehow find it highly unlikely. I think what has changed is me. I am no longer looking to see if anyone is giving me a weird look, or whispering while they point at me. I am no longer looking to see who is laughing so loudly, because they MUST be laughing at the fat girl. I am too busy feeling stronger and more confident because I have lost 85 pounds. In the past I literally walked around feeling like EVERYONE was looking at me and passing judgement because I was so big... it might sound paranoid but the sad part is it was often true. But those days are behind me and it's no longer something I choose to worry about.

I joked with my brother if I heard people making a joke about me I would say "Where? Where's the fat girl? I want to see! I've lost 85 pounds so it couldn't possibly be me!" emoticon It is to the point now where I don't care who thinks I'm fat or what their opinions are about it. Am I still overweight? Absolutely. But I am happy, healthy and I have come a long way and I am too busy enjoying my life to be worried about what other people might or might not be saying.

I am sharing this with you, because whether you've lost 5, 10, or 100 pounds, you deserve to be proud of yourself. People that pass judgement on others purely based on weight clearly have their own issues, and it has nothing to do with you. My hope by sharing this is that you won't wait until you lose 85 pounds to regain that confidence and to start living life. Don't waste any more time wondering if those people snickering are talking about you... they aren't worth your time. Hold your head high and be proud of who you are today, tomorrow, and everyday moving forward! emoticon

  
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MYTURN694 4/3/2014 4:23PM

  I can totally relate to what you said. I used to be afraid to walk around when I was with people because I was afraid they would they remark on how big I've become. It isn't until recently that I've noticed that it doesn't bother me anymore. I am 24 lbs lighter than my heaviest known weight and I am more comfortable in my skin than ever before. I have a long way to go but at least I'm not in the same place I was before. Good luck to you .... I know we'll both meet our goals! emoticon

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HELLOADDISON 2/19/2014 10:43AM

    Thank you for shareing this! I have been in that bad place for a long time of not wanting to be out or leave my home due to my size and looks I feel like a big purple yellow polka dotted monster everyone is looking at because there is a spot light on me, and people are mean nasty snide and laughing and pointing all at me. I also have social/agora phobia and that does not help. I am starting to notice a few small victories though since i have joined Sparkpeople, the other day while at Mc donalds with my dad I noticed a young couple was making fun of me and you know what for the first time i held my head high and even looked at them like they were stupid it hurt yes but it did not get the best of me. I am thankful for the friends and support I have found here at spark! emoticon emoticon

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MAYBER 12/25/2013 11:57PM

    Thank you for sharing your story it has helped a lot of others
Very proud of who you are today
Best wishes as you continue on to your tomorrows
One day at a time
Love Prayers Peace
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PROVERBS31JULIA 12/19/2013 7:26AM

    To some degree, I've no idea if any or all are laughing or snickering or made snide remarks just because I'm already deaf in ine ear and not far behind deaf in my "good ear"... But I sure sensed strange body language. So maybe I am paranoid...

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MCJULIEO 12/13/2013 10:38AM

    Grieving for what you went through, but rejoicing that you are healthy and wise to reject their hurtfulness... your testimony is SO encouraging...

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SAMMI-SAM 12/7/2013 12:33AM

    I laughed my butt off when I saw this page. Very humerus emoticon ....

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GODSGLORYGIRL 12/6/2013 9:01PM

    Steph-knee, I've had your blog post in my in-box for weeks now and I finally took a minute and read it! I am SO PROUD of you! And your story is so encouraging to me. I have over 160 pounds to lose and I KNOW that I am treated differently and judged for my size. Your blog reminded me that confidence and a positive attitude are our best weapons against ignorance. I hope that your journey continues to be full of wonderful happy times and compassion for others because of your experience.

Paula
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KATHLEENMMF 12/3/2013 8:31AM

  You are awesome ! Thank you so much for motivating me today !!! : )

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SPICY23 11/27/2013 8:08PM

  Thank you for this encouraging post! You are a Beacon of Inspiration!
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JPANNELL0 11/25/2013 11:50PM

    Loved your blog! Keep up that great winning attitude and keep up the great work!

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LOVEXAVIE 11/23/2013 2:38PM

  Great blog!! Know what you mean about being in So CA (I'm in OC).
You are doing so well and I am so proud of you.

It must really suck to be the kind of person like that guy who said those hurtful words in high school. I try to always put myself in the other guys shoes but honestly? I can't even imagine being of a mindset to think - let alone articulate - what he said to you.
Says infinitely more about him and his sad state than it could ever say about you!

People like him simply. don't. matter.

YOU matter!! Keep up the GREAT WORK!!!

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JOELLACORNEILLE 11/23/2013 11:45AM

  Excellent post. You dealt with something even more important than the weight loss, you dealt with the ability to like yourself in spite of everything else. Thank you.

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LADYGSC 11/21/2013 7:41PM

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ETERNALMINDED 11/21/2013 3:50PM

    Congrats on the weight lost! Also, congrats, on not caring what others think! You just continue on your journey to a healthier you! Blessings to you on this journey we call life! emoticon

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LEANMEAN2 11/21/2013 5:57AM

    Good for you. Congratulations.

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1GROVES2 11/19/2013 1:07PM

    Great blog! and Congratulations on your healthier diet!....and
THANKS!

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MOTIVATIONFOUND 11/19/2013 12:15PM

    You are awesome! I love your attitude and the way you look at things. You have lost 85 lbs!. That is incredible and you are a rock star! You're right, though - waiting for something (anything, not just a weight-related something) in order to be proud of ourselves, or to accept and appreciate ourselves is such a waste of time. We should all be proud of ourselves and love ourselves today. Life's too short to wait!

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GETTINGFIT88 11/19/2013 11:45AM

  Congratulations - your positive attitude is inspiring!

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AMYSYOKO 11/18/2013 9:13PM

  wow so inspiring, reading this kind of broke my heart and then really BLESSED my heart I admire your strength, courage and determination...you go girl, well done!!!

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STEPHLOKI 11/18/2013 1:14AM

    Thanks for sharing this. I am still worrying about who is sniggering, even though I have never been obese and live in a place with many obese people. But I am right now at my heaviest ever since I regained my weight I lost and then some.

So I do feel fat & ugly & like a failure. But deep down I can overcome all the obstacles and even the hormone problems and loose again.

Thanks for cheering us on

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FIRECRACKER61 11/17/2013 2:07PM

    Been teased, shunned, ignored, overlooked about my weight since I was three years old. But I am also experience healing here at SparkPeople. Thank you for sharing. You are doing so great!

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LEN_VERSION32 11/17/2013 12:51PM

    Congrats on your weight loss and great confidence!! Thanks for encouraging us!

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JERICHO1991 11/17/2013 7:53AM

    Moving forward, great attitude.

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DESIZGIRL 11/17/2013 5:54AM

    Your blog entry brought back so many memories. Of hiding behind loose clothing, chairs squeaking precariously as I would sit down, looks and comments I would pretend not to hear. The list goes on.

When we focus on positives....positive people, positive self-speak, appreciation for all we have, the negative begins to fade to the background. We notice it less. Since we are not focused on negative aspects of our lives, we notice more positive things. Our lives become reflections of that positive attitude.

So congratulations on your tremendous accomplishment! You should be so proud of yourself!

Blessings!
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FREEBIRD7100 11/17/2013 2:39AM

    Congratulations for losing weight and gaining yourself! Keep up the great work & thanks for being a role model for the rest of us

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LINDA! 11/16/2013 11:57PM

    What a great blog.

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4KWALK 11/16/2013 7:18PM

    Congratulations and thank you for caring enough about other Sparkers to write this blog. It is a help for me today.

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MRSCHIPPY 11/16/2013 4:58PM

    Thanks for sharing and congrats on your successes!

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STITCHLADY55 11/16/2013 2:18PM

  Congrats on your progress It is always interesting to hear one own experience reflected in the words of others. It lets us all know we were not alone then and we are not alone now. Thank you SOooo much for sharing it make the journey so much easier. emoticon emoticon

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ROXYHON 11/16/2013 12:42PM

    You are incredible! Congratulations on your weight-loss, but mostly congratulations for the wonderful confidence and strength that you have developed. YOU should be so proud of everything you have accomplished, and thank you so much for your blog as it is such an inspiration to all of us. Keep up your great work, and continue to enjoy every positive change that you foster...way to go!!!

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MEADOW47 11/16/2013 12:26PM

  So many of us have had the unpleasant and hurtful experiences you described...and more. Before Spark there was Overeaters Anonymous where I learned that my value was not in my weight. That I was kind, attractive, reliable, honest, capable, well-read and had many other sterling qualities. I made a list. I quit giving the scale, and other people, power over how I felt about myself! I put the list with a picture of myself where I could see it often and titled it "Graduate of Life"

I have held my head up ever since and I never think anyone is a better person than I am.

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IAMCOLEEN 11/16/2013 11:36AM

  Fantastic sharing. Good for you, great message for us all!

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EGMINGA 11/16/2013 11:28AM

    I fully understand what you went through for me add elementary school. I have moved on and reading your blog let's me know I'm not the only one who has fought this battle and we are winning it. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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KANOE10 11/16/2013 9:11AM

    Great blog. We have all suffered the cruelty of others. It is time to be proud of ourselves and to beiieve in the healthy life we have chosen. Great job on losing 85 pounds!


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CHERYLJAY7351 11/16/2013 7:51AM

  Congratulations, you have made the most important shift-changing your attitude about yourself.
I have long subscribed to this quote.

"What other people think of me, Is none of my business." emoticon

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CYDE43 11/16/2013 3:54AM

  I wish you could bottle what you are getting in strength from your experience, because it's worth a million! You are lucky that "the guy" was in a car and drove away ... believe me, I know the comments and the evil little snide remarks. Unfortunately, I have "the guy" (figuratively speaking) all around me--in my family, living with me, friends of people who don't drive away. And day in and day out, that's what I hear. Nothing is good enough, gets resolved fast enough, is attractive enough or picked apart so that what is attractive, good and working is hardly recognizable. I learned to use headphones and listen to good music a long time ago. I decided to feel sorry for them because of how poor their quality of life is for not being able to recognize what is truly valuable. And as your weight loss of 85 lbs may seem like it doesn't show, I assure you, like a light taken out from under a barrel, it shows. emoticon

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SASSYTHING52 11/15/2013 10:50PM

    nice blog i dont care what people think but my past really hurts my efferts emoticon

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DGRIFFITH51 11/15/2013 10:03PM

    Well said!! You have come a long way and you deserve to be proud of the changes you are making in your life!
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BEVIEG41 11/15/2013 8:10PM

    You go girl. I would kill to be a trim 188 lbs, so enjoy who you are and dont worry about the really small petty people. I went to a restaurant lately and they stuck my friend and I near the kitchen. I complained and asked if they put all their overweight patrons in the back of the restaurant. He hemmed and hawwed and by golly we got a seat up front and by a window. You have to like who you are no matter what size you are.

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OLDLADYOF5 11/15/2013 7:59PM

    I am glad to hear how good you are doing. I come from a family of men and women who weigh on average 200 pounds. Some weigh more and some weigh less. I have always struggled to keep my weight under control because of this and health reasons as well. I can remember being a freshmen in high school, many-many years ago, and kids making fun of me because I was a little over weight (like 20 pounds). I vowed to lose weight over the summer. I did it in an unhealthy way, but I did not get made fun of any more. As a matter of fact, those who poked fun at me and those who didn't, took notice of my new found look. By the way, I went from a size 16 to a size 9 over that summer. Now that I am getting older the weight is starting to come back. But I got a saving grace coming my way. I am getting a free 6 month membership to weight watchers and will be joining a gym soon after. Keep up the good work and continue to encourage others.

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SADDHU1 11/15/2013 7:27PM

  Congratulations on the weight lost and the confidence gained!

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XENA1956 11/15/2013 7:01PM

    Great blog! Finally to get that "Ah Ha!" moment is wonderful! Wishing you the best of luck in your weight loss journey! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JULIA75 11/15/2013 6:11PM

    Well, allegedly living well is the best revenge, so since you are living healthily and dropping weight (how many thousand people want to lose weight and haven't even even managed 20 pounds, and you dropped 85!), I think you won out over that evil memory. That said, since I've met creatures of that ilk I'm having a lovely warm image of him totaling his car, taking a long time to being back on his feet and gaining 80 pounds, none of which he ever dropped. (I may not be an entirely nice person ;) )

I think maybe you aren't hearing snide remarks because with that huge, huge, huge success of losing so much weight and all the work and the changes it took, you simply have gained a confidence that repels cowards like that. emoticon emoticon

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JANAYA2424 11/15/2013 6:05PM

    So very true! emoticon emoticon

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JMADAMS3 11/15/2013 5:59PM

    GREAT Job! Keep it up - You are an inspiration!!

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My 3 Phases of Weight Loss...

Tuesday, October 08, 2013

Everyone's weight loss journey is different... so what is true for me may not be true for you. emoticon 18 months into this I have realized my weight loss journey is always in one of the following 3 phases. For the most part, it's either the good, the bad, or the meh. Let's break it down.

The BESTEST of all the phases:

The Sweet Spot, AKA emoticon's and emoticon's.

You know that amazing feeling, when NOTHING can stand in your way? Your nutrition is on point, calories in range, drinking all of your water without even thinking about it... emoticon You're exercising like a beast and you feel fierce! Rawr! emoticon You turn down that emoticon at work, you make healthy choices when you are forced to eat out, you take an extra emoticon just because you are emoticon! In fact, this spot is so sweet, you feel like this weight loss journey is a piece of emoticon! You might even momentarily forget how much work this weight loss journey is, because the emoticon's and emoticon are taking over! There is only one minor problem with the sweet spot... you can't live there permanently. You can stay there weeks even months at a time, but we are only human. We are going to drop the emoticon at some point, we are going to eat more than we should, or skip a workout because we all make mistakes. Sometimes life gets in the way, sometimes things get us down, but we can always push forward and return to the sweet spot if we put in the effort. emoticon

Now for the WORST of the phases:


emoticon Don't let the adorable Sheldon or the bright colors fool you, the Pit of Despair is pure EVIL! This is the phase where you feel like you should just be hiding under the covers! emoticon emoticon Everything that can go wrong will go wrong. You will skip workouts, you will eat everything in sight, sometimes you may even get attacked by the dreaded Binge Monster! emoticon This will make you even more agitated and under certain circumstances the pit can suck you in for weeks at a time. This time in the pit is very costly, it typically means pounds gained emoticon, and lots of motivation lost. emoticon The good news is, the pit of despair doesn't have to be permanent! For me, I turn to my special Spark Friends to help pull me back out. emoticon Asking for help is definitely a sure fire way to get to the sweet spot, or at the very least the 3rd and final phase.

I present to you: Middle Ground!


While the Middle Ground isn't nearly as exciting as the Sweet Spot, it is definitely miles away from the Pit of Despair! It is that balance... today you might pass up the emoticon , and tomorrow you might eat it. You may miss a workout or two but you don't feel out of control and get right back to it the next day. The Binge Monster emoticon may come knocking at your door but you turn him away, at least for the night. Bumps in the road happen, but you don't let them throw you completely off plan. This is where I find I spend the majority of my time. Going through the motions, mainly good choices with bad choices peppered in. I am learning that a few bumps along the way doesn't have to throw you right into the pit, and that is progress! emoticon

I have learned SO MUCH from all 3 of these phases. I've learned that the Pit of Despair can suck you in so easily, a few days off plan can turn into 6 weeks. Yes you read that right, I had a 6 week stint at the Pit of Despair... they didn't even give me a discount for my extended stay. emoticon What I learned from the Pit was to appreciate the Sweet Spot. I also remember a good 6 week stint in the Sweet Spot, where I was happy to pay full price. emoticon I really learned to enjoy those moments where things come so easily, because that is not always the case.

I am really learning to adjust to the Middle Ground. Things can't always be emoticon's and emoticon but they don't have to be emoticon & emoticon either. There can be a nice balance to life and weight loss where it does require effort, there are mistakes but ultimately you can still come out on top. 1 emoticon doesn't have to lead to 10, 1 missed work out doesn't have to lead to 2 weeks on the couch, we just have to take it one day at a time. So some days, if you find your emoticon just isn't in it, and you are just going through the motions, sometimes that is okay! Going through the motions is better than not bothering at all. I really believe success is a bunch of tiny victories all strung together! If you have more tiny victories than minor slip ups, you are on the right path and you are amazing! emoticon emoticon emoticon

  
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TERRIJ7 2/26/2014 10:53AM

    Yeah, feeling like the busted can of biscuits right now--working my way back to the sweet spot.

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GRAMPIAN 12/3/2013 10:03AM

  Interesting. emoticon

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EMMACORY 11/12/2013 2:17PM

    Great insight. Thanks for sharing. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LINDAM.1 11/4/2013 6:03PM

  Good blog! I liked the analogy.

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LORIKNAPP 10/23/2013 2:03PM

  Thank you so much for sharing. I have spent a lot of time in the "pit," but I know I can change this. Puppies and rainbows would be awesome, but I'll be happy with the middle ground.

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ADVENTURESEEKER 10/21/2013 9:16AM

    Love this! Soooo true. I've been through these phases many, many times.

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THESHELBSTER 10/16/2013 9:16PM

    Great blog, as usual. All so true.

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MOTOMOM226 10/15/2013 2:52PM

    I was LOL as I read this! Very well written and oh so true! :)

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SUNNYWBL 10/14/2013 11:38PM

    emoticon I can certainly relate to all three of the phases!

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EBONYSOL 10/13/2013 9:15PM

    Brilliant. From one who is climbing out of the pit of despair. Thanks for sharing; it is a blog that I will be saving as one of my supports!

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LAYDEJ 10/13/2013 2:41PM

    I needed to hear this today! thank you... emoticon emoticon

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HAPYGIRL01 10/13/2013 10:52AM

    This is a great post!! So often, I know I fall into the perfection or all-or-nothing type of attitude. I'm going to shoot for the middle ground? emoticon

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SASSYTHING52 10/13/2013 12:24AM

    thanks for sharing

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GEORGE815 10/12/2013 1:25PM

    Have more good days than bad ones.

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SBARGANZ 10/12/2013 12:51PM

    I love that skinny/busted can of biscuits meme! :) Thanks for sharing!

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KIM22211 10/12/2013 3:53AM

    yep. that about nails it

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WILDFLOWERMA 10/11/2013 9:32PM

    Great wisdom here!

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    Pretty creative!

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SIZE8NOTSOMUCH 10/11/2013 8:06AM

    LOVE this, and so very true. Thank you so much for sharing, and you have a wit about your writing!! Way to go.

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RAINDROP16 10/10/2013 11:47PM

    Thank you for sharing this it really helped me understand everything better! emoticon

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BIGSOFTY5 10/10/2013 10:28PM

  Thank you for this blog it has encouraged me.

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CHUBBY_MOM 10/10/2013 8:43PM

    Oh soooo true!

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GRACILU 10/10/2013 6:16PM

    emoticon Thank you! This is a great motivator!

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NANFITGRAN 10/10/2013 3:39PM

    Loved your blog, your humor, and your emoticons! The writing is oh so VERY true for me! Keep on keepin' on! emoticon

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DIANNEMT 10/10/2013 3:34PM

    I hang on to the middle ground--prefer it to the highs and lows.

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FIRECOM 10/10/2013 2:18PM

    Not only informative, but very well written with a good blend of humor and data. Loved it.

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ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 10/10/2013 2:13PM

    What a fantastic blog! You are amazing! emoticon

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MRSRIGS1 10/10/2013 12:05PM

    WOW, this was an inspiring blog for me today!! Thank you! emoticon emoticon

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SPARKBJOK 10/10/2013 11:41AM

    Very true. Thank you!

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VERO24AVALOS 10/10/2013 11:21AM

    emoticon Thank you for posting. I love the way you put everything in perspective. Right now, I think I'm in the middle and I've been feeling a little down but this is a great reminder to keep pushing. Thanks!!!

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EFFECT25 10/10/2013 11:14AM

    One of the best blogs I have read so far!

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ELLENSANGEL 10/10/2013 11:00AM

    so true


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RENEETC1 10/10/2013 10:31AM

    Really good blog.

Right now I wish I could be in the middle ground and the sweet spot is not within my reach. The Pit of Despair is my residence for now.

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IMAGINE46 10/10/2013 9:06AM

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    Good blog!

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PENOWOK 10/10/2013 7:01AM

    I know just how you feel!

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    sooooooooooooooo true

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DANCINGFLAMES 10/10/2013 5:09AM

    Fantastic post, and so very true.

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