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Looking For Advice About The Binge Monster...

Saturday, September 21, 2013

emoticon This is about as REAL as I can get on here... but I have nothing to hide from you fine people. I don't expect everyone to be able to relate, but if you can and have found ways to combat the Binge Monster, this one is for you. emoticon



First off, I feel the word Binge can mean so many things to so many people. When I think of a binge, I picture someone in the kitchen just eating everything and it's almost like they are on auto pilot and are not aware of what they are doing. I used to get so caught up on the labels and I'd think to myself "well that's not what I do, I'm not a binge eater." But I am definitely an emotional eater (eat cuz I'm happy, bored, tired, cranky, sad)... and I am definitely an over eater. You don't get to 272 pounds eating normal and healthy amounts of food. But I am done getting caught up on the labels, because the truth of the matter that whatever it is that I do from time to time, is not a healthy behavior. For me it is more of an "I'm bored, I want to eat". Or sometimes there are no emotions involved and it's a simple "I want to eat." I know that I am not hungry, I just enjoy eating and I enjoy food. I was doing a really good job at telling myself "you aren't hungry, you will eat later when you're hungry", but that hasn't been doing the trick the last few days.

This past week my Self Sabotaeur teamed up with the Binge Monster, and really got on my case. You see, even after losing 80 pounds, there is still that little Saboteur emoticon that does not want to see me hit my goal weight. She is really sneaky, because she will disappear for weeks or even months at a time, only to pop up and bring me down in the blink of an eye! When she pairs up with the Binge Monster, they are a dynamic duo that can not be stopped, until now!

I had heard suggestions before of doing activities or something to distract yourself. I've also heard tips for finding lower calorie foods to eat when the urge hits, so that you can come away from it with less damage. I never used those suggestions, because I was so caught up in trying to get rid of the behavior entirely, and telling myself to stop the madness. I think I am at a point where I know I am going to have to battle the Binge Monster for the rest of my life. I am prepared for the fight, because it is worth it, and sometimes I can beat him to a pulp and come out unscathed. But I am looking for any tips you have heard of or might use yourself to fight him when I'm not so strong.

I read about setting a timer for 20 minutes, doing an activity, and if you still want to binge you can when you are done. If that happens I want to make a list of lower calorie foods that I would still like to eat, but nothing that I love or consider a treat because that would really mess me up LOL.

The only food I have come up with is the 40 calorie fudgecicles when I am wanting something sweet. But I definitely to find more foods that would help when I'm wanting something more salty.

For activities I have:
Cleaning
Hula Hooping
Exercising
Painting Nails
Reading a book or magazine
Staring a movie
Spending time thinking about how I felt at 270 pounds
Coming on Spark and giving goodies and commenting my spark friends

My binges or overeating days have definitely lessened and lessened over the last year and a half, but I really feel like I need a plan of action for when those days do hit. I need to realize that the urge may always be there and that I can't simply trick myself into thinking it'll go away on it's own... so that is why I need your help in putting a firm plan in place. Any suggestions on foods, activities or any other tips. The goal here is to not have the binge happen at all, but the list of foods is the back up plan for when all else fails.

emoticon I have little/no interest in seeking professional help on this issue. There is nothing wrong with seeking help for these things and I think it could be very beneficial to some. I feel like I am really self aware and understand a lot about why I do this, which is why I am researching and looking for tips to help work on it. This has also gone from something I did all the time to something that I can go months without doing, so I don't think it's a huge enough problem to go that route. It is just something that happens from time to time and I'm looking for a plan of action when those days come. emoticon

Edit: emoticon Interesting tidbit, even when the binge monster hits I still track all my food. If it is something that would typically be weighed I will weigh it and eat one serving. The issue of course is sometimes I go back in for yet ANOTHER serving. So I am realizing that if I am in the frame of mind to TRACK it and physically weigh out the portion, maybe while I'm weighing said food I really need to RETHINK what I'm doing and work on putting back all or at least some of the food I'm dishing out. (This is just a note to self really, I really want to work on this. :)

  
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CHUBBY_MOM 9/25/2013 12:57PM

    OMG....I thought you were writing about me!! Thank you are putting this into words, it helps to know that other people are fighting those two mean little monsters! Keep us posted if you find something that works for you. I have tried the water and waiting, sometimes it works.
Going to the darn grocery store can set those two monsters working against me.....grr, which is really bad because we do actually have to eat!

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AAHMED61 9/25/2013 3:50AM

    Hi,
Chk out this link http://www.everydayhealth.com/diet-
and-nutrition-pictures/ways-to-
fend-off-food-cravings.aspx#/slide-1

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TRIXIETEXAS 9/24/2013 2:52PM

    I really have to jump on Annie's bandwagon here. I eat low carb and I don't eat processed foods or sugar anymore, so I have a lot in common with Paleo eating (I can't give up my dairy, though, so I'll stick with low carb).

The binge monster visited me DAILY before. I was hungry ALL. THE. TIME. Even when I was trying to eat healthier foods, the binge monster would come and I could never fight off the sunuvabitch. I would go to get fast food on the way home from work, eat it, stop somewhere and toss the evidence, and go home and cook a meal for my family and eat that, too.

That gnawing hunger is GONE. Gone, gone, gone. The binge monster is gone, gone, gone. When something is tempting, I look at it and think, "I don't eat that kind of stuff anymore."

The more I research, the more I believe that low carb diets and Paleo are the way we should all be eating. I echo Annie's sentiments...give it a try. You'll be amazed at the binge monster's disappearance!

Whatever you decide to do, you always have my support! You are AWESOME!

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MOVEITMARY 9/22/2013 7:44PM

    Thanks for another super blog! emoticon

Probably the biggest key for me is keeping my trigger foods out of the house as much as possible. Thankfully, my family is pretty supportive most of the time.

The other danger is nighttime and feeling blue, which it helps to play my ukulele or pop in a movie and crochet, those keep my hands busy. Highly recommend handcrafts of any kind.

One nummy salty food is nori (the kind of seaweed that is wrapped around sushi) and it's now available in snack packs in various flavors. Another fave is wasabi peas because you can't eat them too fast! Trader Joe's has both.

After 10 months on SP, my binges are fewer and farther between, I binge on better foods than I used to, the quantity is smaller, and I actually notice how I feel afterward. All of these things help me to binge less and less.

So if it stil happens occasionally (as it did last night!), I'm not going to beat myself up over it the way I used to, I'll just pick myself up, dust myself off, and eat properly the next day.


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FLMOMX2 9/22/2013 5:58PM

    Lots of good ideas. We're in this together. emoticon

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MOURGIE221 9/22/2013 5:26PM

    Thank you so much for referring me to this blog entry, it's so smart to track your binges me on the other hand I track everything but that lol I'm going to try it next time hoping there isn't a next time but hey I'm a work in progress lol emoticon

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PEANUTSDOG17 9/22/2013 8:39AM

  Hang in there. Were all in this together. I hear what your saying and its not an easy journey. Take one step and one day at a time. I have been up and down myself we with. You are inspiration and a success story to me! I'm sure as well as others. Hang in and I am behind you all the way. You go girl! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Happy first day of Autumn a new season and a the changing of the leaves and we can change just as well and turn into more beautiful the we already are! Good Luck emoticon

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WEBEZE 9/22/2013 12:15AM

    I too have a self saboteur and binge monster. Since I quit smoking they have really spoke up and I am doing a poor job of conquering them as I have gained 15 pounds in the past 10 months since I quit smoking. Lately my plan has been having 1 meal a week that I eat what I want without worrying about salt, fat, calories. Within reason of course, that oh so stuffed feeling is not comfortable. I really enjoy salty the most when I binge so I always have popcorn on hand when I just want to eat uncontrollably. You can have a lot of popcorn with few calories and high fiber. Helps to fill me up so I won't eat everything in sight. Being 18 months into this journey I am trying to find a balance between my old life of eating anything and everything and my new of eating healthy. If everything is always no I will just get frustrated and want to go back to my old ways. You are so smart for wanting to have a plan in place when the binge moments hit. By having a plan you can lessen the damage and get back on track faster. Stay strong by Spark Friend.

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KML410 9/21/2013 7:54PM

    I too an am emotional eater. Sweets are the thing that gets me, usually right before I'm ready to go to bed. Two things I do - 1. If it's during the day I chew a mint flavored gum that helps keep the cravings a bay and also helps with my drinking water. If its at night I drink a hot cup of tea and allow myself a few chocolate chip morsels. That satisfies my sweet tooth and I don't overindulge. emoticon

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RAEMARIE13 9/21/2013 6:41PM

    Loved the post. I will try some of the suggestions. very informative. thanks emoticon

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BARBARAROSE54 9/21/2013 6:40PM

    I caved in after losing 75 lbs, its a daily battle, Stay strong.

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SIMONEKP 9/21/2013 3:32PM

    I'll think of some suggestions and come back and post

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ROZZIEOZZIE 9/21/2013 2:31PM

    I battle the binge monster too! He gets me usually when my emotions get the better of me, usually when someone pisses me off! And it's hard not to give in.....I drink water, take a walk, ride my bike - but even that sometimes doesn't help! When I really need something crunchy I have carrots, when it's something salty I use my air popper and air pop some popcorn. Sometimes you just have to have something more than a cup of tea or a glass of water. Good luck - he's really a devil to deal with!
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ADF1981 9/21/2013 2:13PM

    Hang in there! You have done so well and have come so far! Some things that have really helped me are the foods I eat, trying to avoid buying the bad stuff, reminding myself how far I have come, and planning. When I feel like I am wanting to snack on something but it's really not time to eat I will drink a big glass of water and make myself busy.

I thought that the theory of avoiding certain foods was bogus, but for me it works. I'm not on a low carb diet, because I don't think those are healthy but I chose to get my carbs from fruits and veggies instead of starchy foods and sugar. This really helped my cravings. Also, I make sure I eat foods that I like and pick a few things that are low in calories to bulk up my meals. I have found that if I enjoy my food and eat foods that really fill me up that saying no to the other stuff is easier.

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TWEETYKC00 9/21/2013 12:59PM

    Ah, the nasty binge monster, I know him well. Finding something to do can help alot, but I think finding the magic magnet in the fridge door and burying it in the yard would be great, too! lol Keeping a journal of how you feel can help, then you can spot a binge when it hits and maybe keep it from happening in the future.

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KATYDID412 9/21/2013 11:26AM

    I agree with the folks who mentioned keeping those trigger foods out of the house entirely. I have used the "wait 20 minutes" practice for years and sometimes it works for me. I love the idea of coming on SparkPeople during those times because of the support and strength you can get just b y visiting a few sparklers' pages.

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CERTHIA 9/21/2013 11:18AM

    Dynamic duo indeed! They have been visiting me lately, so they sure are keeping busy..

I really like your activity-list! You could add going for a walk to it?

When I get that salty urge I will usually have dried fish (Weird, I know..) or popcorn. Lately I have been craving popcorn like crazy, so I am actually considering getting an air-popper for damage-control!

I too make a point to track food when I overindulge. I feel better about it when I do. The truth hurts, but the shame I would feel otherwise would hurt me worse.

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SKINNYSTRUMMER 9/21/2013 10:59AM

    I like to use water and wait 10 minutes! And in that 10 minutes get distracted.....and get as from away from the kitchen as possible... Or I hear the food calling my name.

You have a good plan, and a healthy attitude about it. But remember the solution is not linear, and that it is gradual. Be kind to yourself !

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AMARILYNH 9/21/2013 10:47AM

    As for your list of things to do when in the midst of a craving, this is just me but I'd remove reading and watching a movie (for some reason both of those make me want to eat.)

For something to eat OTHER than 'goodies', first I'd do as others have suggested and keep trigger foods OUT of the house. Then how about eating something tasty but healthy like an apple, grapes, or other fruit? Or something crunchy like raw carrots? Or something I choose (because of the extra protein and because its pretty low carb) is the Dannon Light Greek Yogurt.

That said, I read through what Annie said and feel it has a lot of merit. I haven't gone full blown Paleo (yet) but I have cut way back on grains. I have a friend who suffers from both arthritis and gout and I recommended it to her (because I'd read here on Sparks of people getting relief from diseases that cause inflammation with it) and it has helped her AMAZINGLY! Just sayin'.....

Whatever you choose to do, I KNOW you are going to succeed because like me you have embraced Winston Churchill's quote: "Never, never, NEVER give up." And Babe Ruth's "Its hard to beat a person who never gives up!" emoticon emoticon

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KNYAGENYA 9/21/2013 10:03AM

    I am an emotional eater as well. My problem is that I let the emotions get to me rather than dealing with them. I do better if I deal with the feelings. I have also used knitting to help me manage it. I am keeping my hands and mind busy and the urge usually go away. Good luck.

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STONECOT 9/21/2013 9:26AM

    I am also a binger. I have come to the conclusion that it is part of my personality, and it has been with me since childhood. I don't binge often now, mostly I can distract myself by promising myself that I will eat that tomorrow, but I know then that a binge is coming. Therefore I plan it. I work out the things that I don't normally eat, and fancy, and I buy them. Salted roasted nuts usually, jam doughnuts, chocolate, beer. Whichever I chose. Then I sit back and eat them and enjoy them. Usually as if it was my main meal, so I have saved the calories of that. It's not as if I'm binging regularly anymore, so once in a while does no harm and is a 'release' of negative emotions. I need that safety valve, and I feel so much better if it's planned and I'm in control. the rest of the time I don't have these foods in the house.

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SKINNYINMYHEAD 9/21/2013 8:40AM

    Stephanie... this is probably not the answer you're looking for but it's my truth.. and so, I must share it with you.. I could have written your blog last year (without as much flare but the same content - wink).. I know you hear me taut eating along the Paleo guidelines but just give me one more listen.. please.. i have not had a visit from the binge monster since eating paleo.. could it be because I have not eaten the foods that chemists have *intentionally* combined the right amount of fat, sugar and salt to keep me addicted?? to keep me craving? to keep the binge monster coming to the trough?.. I used to think *I* was flawed.. that I just didn't have the same self control as the skinny girls.. that it was a character defect.. and finally I gave up and said "it's just something I'm going to have to battle for the rest of my life" but I was wrong.. eliminating sugar, grains and processed foods from my diet made me realize *I am not broken*.. it's not ME.. it's what I was eating.. and before you say "yeah, but....".. I am an emotional eater still.. but the cravings before were insurmountable.. it took SO much energy to resist.. that I would get worn down.. and then feel like a failure.. I've had none of that now.. I don't have strategies because I don't need them.. if I'm having an emotional day, then I eat healthy nutritious food and am satisfied.. un-freaking-believable.. and one more thing and I will stop (swear) .. but one of the tenets of eating the Paleo way is to reduce inflammation in the body (not just lose weight).. there are whole groups of people who eat Paleo NOT to lose weight but to treat their inflammatory disease - you know, inflammatory diseases like ARTHRITIS.. do you think it's a coincidence that you had a flare up right after you binged? I don't.. I think there is a *possibility* that you could control both the binge monster AND arthritis flare ups with Paleo.. or? I may be wrong cuz every "body" is different.. but it might be worth a 30 day try? I would not normally make this direct of a plea.. but you did ask.. and I do care... :-)

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MOLLIEJEAN2 9/21/2013 8:27AM

    I have the same problem that little monster sticks it head out now and then. So I have tried not to have the unhealthy things in the house and when I'm out I try to talk myself out of the stuff I'm craving. It isn't easy cause sometimes that ugly little monster gets in my head and says eat me it won't hurt you. Try to talk yourself out of it and if that doesn't help take a walk.

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JIBBIE49 9/21/2013 8:20AM

    I never have been a binge eater, but I did learn a lot from reading Roger Gould M.D.'s "SHRINK YOURSELF" and I recommend his web site. He has a 12 week course on emotional eating that many have taken and said it really helped.

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TAMNIOWA 9/21/2013 8:06AM

    I too suffer from the self saboteur. My salty suggestion to you is one that helps me when I need to slow down. I buy the snack size bags of microwave popcorn. Around 100 calories, but gives volume. For me the volume slows me down just enough to satisfy the urge to eat the emotions. Hang in there sounds like you are on the right track. emoticon

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POUTINGPEGGY 9/21/2013 7:59AM

    I haven't binged for 86 days, but I still know i could be ambushed at anytime and then the binge can last a few days. I am tracking everything I eat, I try not to have 'binge foods' in the house. I if I feel one starting I eat some protein. The only time I didn't binge was when I was following Atkins. I blew a whole year when I came off it for Christmas and was like an addict eating carbs. I gained a stone in just a few days. We are like alcoholics I think you just have to say I am in control one day at a time. I think you have done really fantastic. emoticon

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CHOCOHOLIC2276 9/21/2013 7:23AM

    You have some great ideas there! I am an emotional eater, stress, anger, sadness I eat. For me this is a work in progress but I have learned (not always) to just ride it out. Feel the emotion and repeat to myself a cheeseburger will not make me feel happy. They suggest you keep busy but when you're driving and these feelings overwhelm you and you spot a McD's you have to dig deep for that willpower and drive past and not hit the drive thru.

For me it's like going to the grocery store. If I don't put it in my cart I won't eat it because I won't have it.

I LOVE the idea of the saboteur. I have one of those!! I must name her emoticon

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ZELLAZM 9/21/2013 7:05AM

    Well, it sounds like you already have good self-awareness and a pretty good plan of action. Two other things - I try not to keep those famous trigger foods in the house. I tend to binge on odd things - certain kinds of cereal, for example. Other types just don't do it for me, so I can be satisfied with one portion. Another thing that has helped me with the evening snacking thing (which can turn into a binge) is to make a cup of tea or hot cocoa (around 100 calories) and sip it slowly. I sometimes get "mouth hungry." Even the preparation helps slow me down so that I become more mindful of what I'm doing. I have a couple of favorite cups that make me smile and remind me that I'm worth it.

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So happy! (Dr's Appointment)

Thursday, September 19, 2013

Back from the doctor... I'm healthy and awesome according to the doc... That's right, she said emoticon! Can I say I love my 20 dollar scale?!? emoticon At home 194.6 at dr 194.4. Booyah! A little bummed that I blew the 191 for overweight the last few days but it is what it is! emoticon

She congratulated me on the 30 pound loss since the visit last year, and about how my blood work improved. emoticon I have this thing when I first get to the dr and I get nervous and my heart will pound while they take my blood pressure. She said it was okay but borderline high. I told her about my issue and asked if we could try again and she said of course. So I thought about emoticon's and emoticon's and when my reading came back they said it was perfect! I would have never spoken up about that 80 lbs ago. I would have just let them lecture me because I was obese and they must be right, right? emoticon But now I know my body and know when to speak up! Yay me! :)

  
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TERRIJ7 2/20/2014 12:09AM

    How thrilling! I hate going to the dr. because the first thing they want you to do is step on the scale! YUCK--it's bad enough that I know how much I weigh! But slow and steady, right?

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GRAMPIAN 11/12/2013 3:57PM

  Great! emoticon

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DRTOVAH 11/2/2013 6:06PM

  congrats!

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VMMMAY 9/29/2013 1:30PM

    good golly, I get that way checking my blood pressure at home! it really works better if you get a few minutes to collect your thoughts and find your way to a bit of calm.

CONGRATS on the improving blood work! although my own blood work had not yet led the doc to begin to prescribe meds or talk tough about my weight and family history I knew each visit got me closer to that... which is why I am now sparking! and using my own little bp monitor occasionally I have already seen a big improvement so even though the scale is slower to move along I have confirmation of the results I feel each day.

keep up the good work, your health is worth the hard work! emoticon

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KAT808 9/28/2013 2:14PM

    Congrats!!! I get that way at the doctor too!! Good for you for speaking up!!
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WHITEANGEL4 9/27/2013 10:09PM

    Great blog....I have white coat syndrome and my doc is aware. They do my count when I come in and again later and then at the end of my consultation. Boy hat a difference in the readings

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AMBER461 9/24/2013 7:58PM

  Great job. Congratulations and continue the good work.

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KAB7801 9/24/2013 12:27AM

    Far out!

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CLAIREINPARIS 9/23/2013 10:39PM

    Woohoo, congratulations!!! Such an achievement... very happy for you!

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MRSRIGS1 9/23/2013 1:56PM

    Well done! emoticon

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IZZZ33 9/23/2013 10:21AM

    That's fantastic! Congratulations! It seems like your hard work has definitely paid off. :)

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1DRWOMAN 9/23/2013 1:09AM

    WHOO HOO!!!!!! well done!

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SUSANELAINE1956 9/22/2013 8:33PM

    Great news. I have white coat syndrome also, but the good news is that as your BP gets lower the affect at the doctor's office no longer matter because you are still in a good range. emoticon on such a great visit.

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KIMBERLY_Y 9/22/2013 8:26PM

    Great job! Congratulations!!!

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SANDYPUDOFF 9/22/2013 10:16AM

   
The doctor's office freaking out is a normal, common reaction which is called "white coat syndrome." You handled it perfectly with a little mind over matter meditation. Didn't know you could meditate did you? Thought you had to be some yogi or something? It's your body and you are in charge of it. Keep that in mind and you will win every time! emoticon

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SMILINGEYES2 9/21/2013 9:32PM

    You have every reason to be happy. Just think what the report will read next year as you continue this journey. Whoooo Hooooo.

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SMILINGEYES2 9/21/2013 9:31PM

    You have every reason to be happy. Just think what the report will read next year as you continue this journey. Whoooo Hooooo.

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AJB121299 9/21/2013 9:02PM

    nice

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FITFRIT 9/21/2013 7:03PM

    woohoo!

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CICELY360 9/21/2013 4:51PM

  Good blog

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  wonderful news. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SOAPSTRESS1 9/21/2013 9:57AM

    Just one word. emoticon and keep up the great work. It's great when you have confidence isn't it?

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NAVYMOM133 9/21/2013 9:28AM

    Keep Going!! You are rocking your plan!!
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SUZIPAM1 9/21/2013 9:13AM

    so how are you today?

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MOMMY445 9/21/2013 8:50AM

    that is wonderful news! congratulations!

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LKS2GAB2 9/21/2013 6:59AM

    Good job. Congrats on the great weight loss and health improvement!

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DREAMWEAVER1637 9/21/2013 6:56AM

    Good job!!! Keep up the great work.

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KIM22211 9/21/2013 4:39AM

    good for you!!

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BLUEJEAN99 9/21/2013 1:57AM

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LIVELYGIRL2 9/21/2013 1:43AM

  Oh this is wonderful! I hope she will be even more impressed next year. . I think you will blow her away. She might even have you write what you did and post it, next time. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MEDNICOLE84 9/21/2013 1:26AM

  Yay! You have done a great job :)

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KKLENNERT809 9/21/2013 1:22AM

    Yes, congrats to you and all of your hard work

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MARYJEANSL 9/21/2013 12:59AM

  Congrats! Nothing like coming out of a doctor's appointment happy!

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HEATHERFREE 9/20/2013 10:12PM

    dude that is so weird, my heart pounds everytime they take my blood pressure too lol

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FAIRHAVENQUEEN 9/20/2013 10:04PM

    I'm so happy for you! Way to go!

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TRYINGHARD54 9/20/2013 9:48PM

    well, good for you.. that's terrific....... clapping here. !!!!

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TONYAINTUCSON 9/20/2013 7:37PM

    Way to go!!!! I know you must feel SO proud to have actual, tangible results in those greatly improved numbers!!! Keep it up! That's so awesome! emoticon

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DUSTYPRAIRIE 9/20/2013 7:29PM

    Marvelous! This is a day to circle on your calendar! emoticon

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JSEATTLE 9/20/2013 6:44PM

  How wonderful for you!! Gold Star and Congratulations on your good report from the Doctor!!

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The Reverse Golden Rule

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

So we are all probably familiar with The Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Or treat others the way you want to be treated works pretty well too. Now of course not everyone follows this, but it's a pretty nice idea. emoticon

But what about the reverse of that? I think we need to remember to be kind to ourselves just as we would be kind to someone else. I think this rule definitely applies in the weight loss category, and Spark people is a perfect example of this!

emoticon Example 1: A Spark Friend posts how they totally messed up this week and they gained 1 lb! (Or maybe "only" lost 1 pound).

Reaction from Spark Friends: Don't worry! It happens to all of us! Just keep pushing forward and make this week a better week! Or if it was a case of "only" losing 1 pound, it would be: 1 pound is great! That is 1 less pound for you to lose in the future, you should be proud!

No matter what your reaction would be to the fellow Sparker, I am sure it would never be negative.

emoticon Example 2: A Spark Friend posts a blog about how they got attacked by the Binge Monster last night, and they totally derailed their progress.

Reaction from Spark Friends: I am so sorry to hear you had such a rough day! Today is a new day and a fresh start, and I know that you can make it a great day! emoticon

You would never tell a fellow Sparker: Oh man, what a piggy *oink oink*, how could you allow yourself to eat all of that food? You REALLY should have more self control!

So if we wouldn't respond to a fellow Sparker in such a negative way, why is it okay for us to to talk to ourselves that way? The answer to that is simple, it's not okay! But sometimes we forget that we need to treat ourselves with that same kindness, and we can get so down on ourselves.

I was guilty of that today. I had a horrible day Monday and despite blogging, venting, and even explaining to myself that food would not help my problems in any way, I still ended up with a visit from the Binge Monster. Today came all the negativity... Some of my questions to myself were valid: "Why would you allow yourself to do that?" "How do you feel after overeating?" I believe those questions were valid because I need to learn from my mistakes and work through the reasons I allow myself to eat that way from time to time. Getting in touch with my feelings was also helpful because I felt like crap physically and emotionally. So there was essentially no pay off from the "incident" yesterday. But then came the nasty comments: "This is why you will always be fat, you can't control yourself!" "What kind of a person would eat all of that food?" "Do you realize you ate enough calories for TWO days, how disgusting!"

But I finally had to step back and stop all the negativity. For me personally, that negativity creates a vicious circle that could lead me right into another binge. So I had to stop it, and turn it back around. I am still not proud of what happened yesterday, but I can chose to move forward and make today a better day and to make it a better week. I can continue to get stronger and take pride in the fact my Binge Monster days have become less and less over the last year and a half. I have gone from having several a month, to even skipping a month here or there or having 1-2. That is definitely progress, and it is something I will always have to work at and be conscious about, but it is definitely worth it!

So next time you are ready to beat yourself up about whatever it is that happened, stop and ask yourself what you would tell your fellow Spark Friends, and don't allow the negativity to creep in!

  
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LORIVIOLA 3/12/2014 8:40AM

    THIS IS A FANTASTIC POST.

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DRTOVAH 10/31/2013 8:30PM

  valid points, I agree with you!

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WHITEANGEL4 9/27/2013 9:34PM

    Thanks for the great blog,you are reinforcing the things that we all need to remember

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CORKYCORAL 9/21/2013 11:35PM

  emoticon Way to go everyone keep trying emoticon

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4RASCALS 9/21/2013 9:34AM

    Awesome blog, and so very true. Thank you for reminding me

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HEATHERFREE 9/20/2013 10:24PM

    Thanks love this


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MRSRIGS1 9/20/2013 8:12PM

    So, so true! We must remember kindness to thyself! emoticon

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ZAPPATTACK 9/20/2013 7:37PM

    I totally needed this! Thanks for sharing your feelings :)

Even though the Binge Monster (and the Drunk-at-Weddings Monster) have visited me a lot lately, I have to remember to look at the positives - that I'm here and willing to change.

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RAINA413 9/20/2013 9:16AM

    You make a very excellent point! We really can be too hard on ourselves and need to remember we are our own best friend too!

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CICELY360 9/20/2013 12:05AM

  Good point. I never thought of that.

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JSEATTLE 9/19/2013 11:47PM

  So true, we are hard on ourselves but need to remember we are our own best friend too!

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JOANNHUNT 9/19/2013 10:15PM

    AWESOME BLOG. SO VERY TRUE. THAT AWEFULL MEANY MONSTER STICKS IT'S HEAD IN WHERE IT DOESN'T BELONG. TOMORROWS ANOTHER DAY TO BE AWESOME.

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ONLYTEMPORARY 9/19/2013 9:10PM

    So true!

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AMARILYNH 9/19/2013 8:49PM

    YES!!! If we'd treat ourselves as we treat our friends we'd all be much happier!! The bible says "Love your neighbor as yourself"! So we NEED to LOVE ourselves!!

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JUSGETTENBY42 9/19/2013 6:34PM

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JERICHO1991 9/19/2013 6:22PM

    yes

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FLMOMX2 9/19/2013 3:21PM

    Super blog! emoticon

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MOTIVATIONFOUND 9/19/2013 3:20PM

    This is a fantastic blog...and so very true! I beat myself up over every little mistake or "weakness" but I would never do that to my Spark Friends. Why is it that it's so easy to remember we're only human when we're talking to someone else, but we can't cut ourselves the same break? I'm so glad you stopped those negative voices in your head and posted this blog. Thanks so much for posting!

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LCRUMLEY81 9/19/2013 3:03PM

  great post thank you

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BAMAJAM 9/19/2013 2:32PM

  What a valuable lesson here! It is time to become our own best friend, and time to become our own hero! Thank you for this message today----
Keep on Sparking!

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SIMONEKP 9/19/2013 2:04PM

    great thoughts, I often say the same things to myself when I catch myself being really on myself about something. I guess we can all sympathize with others but have a harder time giving ourselves a break!

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NONNAOF2 9/19/2013 1:55PM

  You are so right! We can only move forward and not let negativity take over! You should be proud of yourself for what you have accomplished and move on ahead! Good work! :-)

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IDICEM 9/19/2013 1:51PM

  We must believe in ourselves through the good and the bad. Thanks for the reminder.

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SUSIEMT 9/19/2013 1:10PM

    Good for you! You gots to do what you got to do! Great job on the steps! Keep up the good work but pay attention to your body!

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SUSIEMT 9/19/2013 1:04PM

    Another good blog Steph! Using spark coach our challenge yesterday was to ask ourselves whenever we were reaching for food " are you really hungry? Or is it something else?" I have to admit when I first read that I thought oh yeah! Like I am going to do that! Well, I actually did ask myself those questions. Go figure! I stayed within my calorie range and then some. Go Coach!! Keep up the wonderful job with your blogs. They mean a lot to your fellow sparkers!!

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DIANNEMT 9/19/2013 12:10PM

    Yep--we need to treat ourselves like we treat our friends.

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BARBARAROSE54 9/19/2013 12:10PM

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ROCKYCPA 9/19/2013 11:42AM

    Thanks for sharing - really good advice!

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PATRICIAANN46 9/19/2013 11:35AM

  Great advice..........Too often we are our own worst enemy!!!!! emoticon

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TIME2BLOOM4ME 9/19/2013 10:08AM

    So true. emoticon

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WORKNPROGRESS49 9/19/2013 9:52AM

    emoticon blog!!! emoticon

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GOOSIEMOON 9/19/2013 9:00AM

    Your blog posts are so honest and real and well written.
Thanks for sharing your insight and your journey.

This reminder was good to have today. emoticon emoticon

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MIMIDOT 9/19/2013 8:50AM

    Great blog! Thanks for sharing. I needed it today. I went away and came home 3 pounds heavier. Tho, I know most of it is salt. I gain every time I eat out, and I ate out a lot this past week. I still felt I let myself down.

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SANDYCRANE 9/19/2013 7:20AM

    Great advice.

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NEWTINK 9/19/2013 7:10AM

    Being kind to yourself is the hardest to learn but the most necessary to be a success . You are doing great !!!!

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WATERDIAMONDS 9/19/2013 6:52AM

    Great point of view and very encouraging. Thank you.

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PENOWOK 9/19/2013 6:37AM

    What can I say- you are so right!

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SHERYLP461 9/19/2013 6:26AM

    Yes, we must all learn to treat ourselves better and to know as the commercial says, "we are worth it!" Good reminder, thanks

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CARRIELYN56 9/19/2013 6:11AM

    Thank you! Good encouragement!

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NASFKAB 9/19/2013 5:37AM

  you are so right thanks

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    Great blog

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    emoticon and sooooo very true!!! Thanks so much for posting! You did a great job putting this together!

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    Thank you for sharing!

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Just One Of Those Days...

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

I love to blog about happy things, NSV's, scale victories, good days and just all of the emoticon's and emoticon's that go on. But I also realize that life isn't constant emoticon's and emoticon's and some days it's just emoticon & emoticon .


Disclaimer emoticon: It has been a cranky sort of day, so pure crankiness to follow. emoticon More importantly the "problems" that resulted in crankiness are very small non-problems... and I'm aware there are people with real problems, haha. emoticon

#1. I get to work today and someone threw out my bag of food. My bag of food had the date and initials on it, so it shouldn't have been a problem. It only had a couple pancakes in it, but it also had an almost full bottle of syrup and a little measuring cup. I checked all 4 (yes we have 4) fridges, nothing. I even went to the dumpster but I guess it's trash day because it's empty. So my measuring cup is gone (luckily from the dollar store), the pancakes that I planned on eating (no big deal, just annoying), but I managed to find the syrup in the door of the fridge. I am 99% sure it is the same one, it's Aunt Jemima Lite syrup with only a small amount missing. It doesn't expire til 2014, and most of the "community" stuff like ketchup is older than I am. So I took that back, booyah!

#2. (Which chronologically should be #1) I almost rear ended some idiot who kept hitting his break for no reason on the way to work! So I was finally changing lanes to get away from him because he (or she) was clearly an idiot, and of course as I looked back to check my blind spot they hit their breaks again, luckily I was able to get around them. *PHEW*

*Are you still reading this? I sure wouldn't be, I'm just venting lol, nothing interesting to see here!*

#3. People! I'm not a fan of people! Okay, Spark People are the exception to the rule, I love Spark People, but people in general, MEH! So my work does our schedules 3 months at a time. We have a list, it rotates. I always chose to work weekends if given the opportunity. But the holidays always screw it up because people want the holidays off (makes sense). So people that don't work the weekends all year will sign up to work weekends so they can have Christmas, Thanksgiving, and Halloween off. Okay fine. I came to terms with it. I was last on the list so I am working weekdays (which I hate). I don't care about working the holidays, that comes with the job. We signed up months ago, but some guy quit. So they should switch someone to fill his spot. Basically they STILL haven't moved someone, and this starts in October. Frustrating. Frustrating because you can't put in time off when you don't know what days you are working, I have 3 weeks of vacation that I can't fully plan because I "might" get switched... and I can't do trades with people because I don't know the days. Everyone at my work has their lives planned out til the end of the year and I am stuck.

Then on top of it, this chick at work emoticon, who I already don't like... is ahead of me. So she says to me a month ago, "If they move someone, I will pass it up and LET YOU HAVE THEM, as long as you work the holidays for me." I couldn't do Thanksgiving because that is during my 3 week vacation, but agreed and would work Christmas and Halloween for her. I was going to have to work them anyways and it's not a big deal to me. Well now that over a month has past and they still don't know if they are going to move someone, I tell the girl you know what, scheduling sucks, I'm over it. I don't want to work the weekends anymore, I'm done, so if it comes up you make sure you take it so you can have the holidays off. To which she looks at my slightly annoyed "I don't want to work weekends!" I said well I'm over it so you pick whatever you want. Then she says "I guess I'll have to put in a time off request for Halloween", I said "yeah you should." She has barely been here not even 2 years, she won't get the holiday off it's based on seniority, and she wouldn't have gotten it off if she put it in a month earlier, so I didn't mess her up on that. But seriously, she was NEVER going to work weekends, she was tricking me into working the holidays for her so she could have everything she wanted. Getting weekends off and having the holidays off. I hate liars... there are some really nasty people at my work who are jerks in general but they know they are jerks and I can respect that LOL! It's the ones that act nice to your face and do shady crap behind your back that really bothers me. There is obviously more history with this girl that I won't go into, but I'm so annoyed and bothered by it. The funny part will be that they might "force" me to move because I'm at the bottom of the list, which will then mean I will "have" to work weekends, and I'll end up with the schedule I originally wanted (but no longer really care about) and will get Halloween and Christmas off, which isn't a big deal but at least a slap in the face to the other girl. If not neither of us move and both of us work weekdays and I will make sure not to sit anywhere near her.

So that is my day... Oh and my arthritis in my knee is starting to flare up,it's not awful yet and I'm hoping it stays that way. That has really messed with my fitness and fitness minute goals for this month and I am really down about that. I really wanted the 2,000 and while it is still possible I doubt I will be able to reach it if my knee keeps this up. I hate getting worked up over things that I can't control... and am working on letting it all go without eating everything. The emotional eater in me always wants to soothe myself with food (and a lot of it), but I do my best to fight it. I can eat a ton of food or chose not to, but I will have the same "problems" regardless, and I need to remember that.

Hopefully tomorrow is a better day. *SIGHS*

  
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HEATHERFREE 9/20/2013 10:19PM

    ugh work drama.....I totally get it!!!

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RAINA413 9/20/2013 9:18AM

    So sorry about all the stress and icky stuff going on in your life. We all have our crummy days. I sincerely hope you have a better rest of your week!

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MOVEITMARY 9/18/2013 1:10AM

    Strange scheduling system they have there. Sorry that it is causing you so much strees!

Re food and large companies, it's worth it to get a personalized special lunch bag/box, people are less likely to raid it or toss it than a shopping bag.

I hope tomorrow goes better for you!
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DALMOM2007 9/17/2013 10:13PM

    Hopefully after venting, you felt better and your stress decreased with each key stroke.

Wishing you a much better day tomorrow. emoticon

PS: I just love Eeyore. Him and piglet were my two favorite characters from Winnie the Pooh stories.

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DONNELDA22 9/17/2013 9:43PM

   
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TEREMC 9/17/2013 4:39PM

  Nice to know other people have the same Kinds of 'non-problem" problems as me! Thanks for sharing and Keep up the good work. Love your blogs~! emoticon emoticon

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TOKIEMOON 9/17/2013 4:12PM

    Venting is the healthier alternative to bottling up feelings. Hopefully putting your bad day down in print helped to let it go. Now I just need to practice doing the same type of venting (non-violent emoticon ) myself!

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FLMOMX2 9/17/2013 3:53PM

    Sounds like a tough day

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ROZZIEOZZIE 9/17/2013 2:38PM

    Please, vent away! I love your blogs, and this one reminds me why I am so glad I am retired and don't have to deal with the office crap anymore! Things will get better, so don't let one day ruin everything. And I have arthritis in my hip, which can also be very painful, so I know how your poor knee feels! Don't give up - venting can help immensely!
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LOVINSHERRY78 9/17/2013 1:53PM

    boooo to bad days :( but we both know it can't last!

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FELINEBETTER 9/17/2013 1:50PM

    Every once in awhile, you get a day like that when you question why you ever got of of bed that morning! I think you should vent about it. We've all had similar experience and beats the heck out of stuffing it down with food! I used to work in an office with this one person who used to steal everyone else's food. She got caught a few times and would give you some stunned answer like, "oh I thought this was for everybody!" 'yeah - that's why my name is on the bag you stupid &*$#^^%^#$^%!' lol lol I used to get infuriated over this and finally just quit leaving anything around in her reach. I would see & hear others freaking out, and would just roll my eyes, as she would never change. I finally left that office because there were many things that went on there (all very, very unnecessary stress!) that were already playing on my health!

The good news is -- today is bound to be a better day for you! Good for you for finding a non-destructive way of dealing with these feelings! emoticon

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MKATE99 9/17/2013 1:48PM

    I hope your day gets better. I found your venting entertaining though, you have a great writing style. We all have days like that (and coworkers - ugh).

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I also love seeing the outpouring of support. This is an awesome community.

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BARBARAROSE54 9/17/2013 1:39PM

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SIMONEKP 9/17/2013 12:48PM

    sounds like a rough day. hope it improves

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TRIXIETEXAS 9/17/2013 12:05PM

    I am so sorry you had a crappy day. It is OK to vent! It's better to release your stress that way than by stuffing it down with food, you know?

Do you take Glucosamine and Condroitin? I don't have arthritis, but my knees were getting a little achy after I began my running regimen. I started taking them and voila, no more knee pain!

Hope you feel better and have an awesome day!!!

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JESSYJAINES 9/17/2013 11:45AM

    It's good to vent and get it off your chest. I had a similar problem when I worked at a back office bank. Some people just love being mean, while smiling to your face. It got so bad I decided my health was more important (after going to the hospital with chest pains, and finding out it was anxiety) and found a new job. I know that's not really a good idea. But I took the chance.

Anyway hope you have a stress free Tuesday and your knee starts to feel better. Maybe you can do certain yoga moves to help it. emoticon

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SKINNYINMYHEAD 9/17/2013 8:49AM

    danger danger will robinson (are you too young to remember that show?).. anyhoo.. I recognize the .. uhmmmm..*itchy mood... cuz when one thing gets under my skin it just paves the path for everything else.. and before you know it I'm in full on pity party mode.. good for you for acknowledging this is no reason to eat cuz it will only make things worse not better.. hang in there.. try to read or watch some positive, funny stuff.. force yourself to smile.. and fake it until you make it...

Annie

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LOTUSBURGER 9/17/2013 8:14AM

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COCK-ROBIN 9/17/2013 8:03AM

    I hope it gets better. I thought you were talking about me. That's a typical day for me.

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CHOCOHOLIC2276 9/17/2013 7:04AM

    I am with you. My work environment is stressful too. So much drama and gossiping and criticizing people. Ugh. I stay to myself and am pretty sure they think I'm anti-social. Most of the time I'm ok with this.

Vent all you want. We all have those days. emoticon

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LYNNWANNABE 9/17/2013 6:18AM

    I love seeing past peoples mask and getting to the heart of the issue, what makes them tick. I build myself up by building them up and watching their faces when they can't break me [make me hate them] it's pretty funny to make them like you .. I especially loved the challenge of making hateful people like me in school [boy, did I have a bad roommate in College that took a while] ..tee-hee-hee! Sometimes you find out the meaner they are the more they've been hurt and it takes longer to win them over, but once you do.. you can find a life long friend .. at least, so far I've not had any life long HATE relationships. emoticon

I admit with the roommate one, I'm not sure the cost was worth it.. she almost won when she kicked me out of OUR room in the middle of dying my hair and two hours later she finally let me back in!!! (THE R.A. was her best friend, so no help there! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BEANIES_MOM 9/17/2013 4:32AM

    I am so with you on not being a people person lol. I had a co-worker steal my lunch bag one time... They left the apple in the fridge and stole the bag how lame. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you. emoticon

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POUTINGPEGGY 9/17/2013 3:45AM

    I feel for you. I retired a year ago and only now have I come to realise how awful were the majority of people I worked with. Hope the week gets better and that you got through the day without a binge. emoticon

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MARVICBORG 9/17/2013 2:26AM

    You and me are so alike! Me too hate being around people! From my expierience very few people are ready to help you and very few people are sincere these days so I prefer to stay alone sometimes! Yesterday was one of those days for me I ate and ate till I felt I would throw up! I feel so bad and guilty today!
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WEBEZE 9/17/2013 2:00AM

    I am not a people person either. Most of them can get off of the planet and I wouldn't miss them. Sometimes it's nice just to vent. I find if I can vent I have less of a tendency to smother my problems with food. Here's to having a better day tomorrow. emoticon

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JACOBSBELOVED 9/17/2013 1:37AM

    Haha I too am not really a people person. I can get along with just about anybody but I really don't enjoy my time out at the store, movies, etc. where there are a lot of people. The general public in my opinion is so rude and inconsiderate. It's everyone for themselves and they don't mind inconveniencing others to get what they want.

I really don't like people like your coworker that act like they're doing you a favor but are really just trying to get what they want. Good for you for telling her no and that you're over it.

You seem like you have just had an overall bad day and are just really disenchanted with the people around you. Thankfully you have a nice, quiet home with a loving dog to go back to at the end of the day. :)

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MRSP90X 9/17/2013 12:56AM

    That is one of the reasons that I like spark! I think we are a different breed here. Who else would cheer, encourage, and support people that we really do not know very well and take our own precious time doing it when we could be working out or preparing our food or something else?! There are people here only for themselves, but they are in the minority. emoticon

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WEEPINGANGEL74 9/17/2013 12:32AM

    I feel your pain! People outside of Spark can really suck especially the manipulative, bratty ones!! Fridges.... something about work fridges that says throw out the good and keep the science experiments! I refuse to use them at work lol..

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MAUIUENO 9/17/2013 12:22AM

    Love your recitation of your very bad, horrible day and also love your attitude and priorities! Thank goodness that tomorrow is a new day.

That being said, I just want to offer that you could still build up your exercise time by doing more sedentary exercises - arm curls anyone?

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ZRIE014 9/17/2013 12:16AM

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This Attempt Could FINALLY Be Your LAST!

Friday, September 13, 2013



So a recurring theme I seem to hear on Spark that I was guilty of as well is thinking to yourself: "Every time I have lost weight in the past, I have gained it all back! What makes me think this time could be any different? Maybe I'll lose 10, 20 even 30 pounds, but I'm going to gain it back because I've always gained it back in the past, so what is the point?" Most of the time that isn't our first thought when we start a new weight loss program or journey. We all start off with that sparkle, that I can do this attitude. The first week is great, new changes, drinking your water, moving a little, losing 3-5 pounds the first week with just the simplest of changes. But as the days and weeks roll on, that awful voice starts sneaking up on you. Mine was a real stinker, she was famous for reminding me "You will ALWAYS be fat!" She would list all the times I had lost weight only to gain it back. I had lost 40 pounds 2 or 3 times in my life only to gain them back (plus more). That wasn't even including all the times I lost 10-30 pounds just to throw in the towel and go back to my old ways.

When I started March of 2012, there was a huge part of me that didn't truly believe I could do it. But then I would see these amazing people on Spark that had lost 100+ pounds and were keeping it off. In fact pretty much all of them had lost weight in the past only to gain it back... but this time was different for them. It didn't matter how many times they had "failed" at weight loss... they were succeeding now. That is when I realized you never know when this weight loss attempt could be your last one!

So when that voice starts creeping in, reminding you that you've ALWAYS gained it back, you need to shut that voice down and tell it that this time is different. You are stronger, wiser, and more prepared this time than you were in the past. You know this is a lifestyle, not a fad diet. You know that you need to watch your calories or food in take, that you need to do physical activity that is appropriate for you, and that this takes work. You now know the sneaky things that voice can say to you and you are ready to fight it tooth and nail to prove it wrong! So if you find yourself thinking this time won't be any different and that you will only gain it back, you be sure to shut that voice down!

I will tell you 18 months later and 80 pounds down that voice is still around, but it is so much quieter, I almost have to struggle to hear it. Because with each passing month that I don't give up, and each pound lost, that voice is starting to realize I am stronger than it thought I was! emoticon emoticon

This attempt could be your last, just don't give up and keep Sparking! emoticon emoticon

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

TERRIJ7 2/17/2014 12:24PM

    This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear today! Right ON!


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CATNCAG 11/25/2013 2:03PM

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GRAMPIAN 11/5/2013 11:09AM

  Wise words. emoticon

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LISA_FRAME 10/15/2013 4:24PM

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UWPALUM 10/8/2013 12:26PM

    I definitely have that voice, but it has gotten much quieter over the months!

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BUSMOM27 10/8/2013 11:28AM

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EFFRAYECHILDE 9/28/2013 1:53PM

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WHITEANGEL4 9/25/2013 7:07PM

    Great blog....a positive outlook for all us fellow Sparkers

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LEANMEAN2 9/21/2013 7:43AM

    Thanks for sharing.

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LEANMEAN2 9/21/2013 7:42AM

    Thanks for sharing.

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CORNERKICK 9/21/2013 1:10AM

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ANNIE4108 9/18/2013 1:45PM

  Wow I felt like I was writing your blog! I have gained and lost the same 50lbs too many times to count. I too heard that little voice "not again" that tried to defeat my new journey and chance to be healthy and "Me" again. Thanks for the inspiration.

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LEEW0LF 9/17/2013 10:46AM

  that thought has been my downfall and my excuse and lack of commitment. thanks I needed to hear that my roller coaster could actually in fact end.

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SPARKBJOK 9/17/2013 9:26AM

    Great inspiration!

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WIZCAB 9/16/2013 9:17PM

    Thank you for the post--wise words--inspirational! I have that voice as well--this is a lifestyle change--it's a process not an event!

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BLINGQUEEN:O) 9/16/2013 8:33PM

    GREAT WORDS OF WISDOM! I too have had a long, yo-yo journey. I always have said, "I will never give up cuz you never know when forever starts! This can be my forever!" I restarted July 5th and so far so good! YOU are my inspiration today! emoticon

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JUNIORSSISTER 9/16/2013 7:53PM

    emoticon Wow and I thought that voice was only in 'MY HEAD", seems like that conversation was on speaker phone. Congratulations on your accomplishments. I am just getting back on spark train. Trying very hard to look ahead and not back. This was the perfect post for me to read today. Thank you so much for sharing your experience.

Patty
(Juniors Sister)

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CANES173 9/16/2013 7:31PM

    Loved reading your blog!

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CAROL_31649731 9/16/2013 4:30PM

    Thank you for sharing today . . . I continue to try and shut down that voice, too. I love sparking & I won't give up either!!! You story is inspiring; congrats & continue on, my friend! emoticon

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MRSRIGS1 9/16/2013 4:20PM

    You go girl! Squash that inner voice and put her in her place!! You keep up the good work.

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SVJACKS23 9/16/2013 3:30PM

  I loved reading your blog today! It's inspiring and very relatable to me personally! Thank you for being open and honest. Congratulations on your success emoticon

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IMAGINE46 9/16/2013 3:22PM

  So true. Great post. Thanks! emoticon

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FARIS71 9/16/2013 2:37PM

    Oh that is so true. Everytime we don't get up, that pesky voice gets quieter. Thanks for the boost!

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KELLYD2112 9/16/2013 1:43PM

    Yep - I've been listening to that voice for a while now and gaining steadily. Time to shut'r up emoticon

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RUNNINGYOGINIRE 9/16/2013 1:22PM

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BUBBATYLER 9/16/2013 1:17PM

    Thanks for the post, I really needed to hear that today! I only lost one pound this week and my inner voice was being REALLY mean to me emoticon !

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SUZIPAM1 9/16/2013 12:30PM

    you doing so well

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VELVETDRAGONFLY 9/16/2013 11:55AM

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BELLA2244 9/16/2013 11:38AM

  Thanks for the push! You are awesome. emoticon

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BLONDIE218145 9/16/2013 11:35AM

    Ty for your thoughts...

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CICELY360 9/16/2013 10:00AM

  Good blog

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HLOCHRIDGE 9/16/2013 9:44AM

    Congratulations!!! Thanks for the post!

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CHANGING-TURTLE 9/16/2013 9:04AM

    emoticon emoticon on your weight loss emoticon emoticon

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WHOOLA 9/16/2013 8:25AM

  Well done you!

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QUAIL75 9/16/2013 8:14AM

    Great blog! Thanks for the motivation!

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KIRSTENCO 9/16/2013 6:05AM

    I really like the eone about the future being more important than the past :-)

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AUTUMNAGATE 9/16/2013 3:03AM

    Thanks for the inspiration! emoticon

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CATGETTINGFIT 9/15/2013 11:51PM

    This is just what I needed to hear today. Thank you! emoticon

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PDAN04 9/15/2013 9:18PM

    I see a career as a motivational speaker in your future! :)

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LULUBELLE65 9/15/2013 6:47PM

    Great post!

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SKABELS2 9/15/2013 6:18PM

  Oh that voice . . . it won for a week, but now she's gonna hush up cuz I'm ready to be back on track. Love the post - thank you!!!

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MOMMY445 9/15/2013 6:00PM

    i needed to hear this,too! have a wonderful day!

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BOPPY_ 9/15/2013 5:32PM

    What wins THIS race is consistency. To achieve consistency, several things are required. Most important among them are:

* Tracking: what you eat and how much, how much you weigh; how you exercise , and at what level, and for how long.
* Record all that you track.
* Plan what you eat and how much before you shop, cook and eat. Plan your goals. Make them small and achievable; achieve then; then, upgrade them.
* Have a model that allows you to achieve your goals. Visualize that model of you! The above is a good part of the model.
* Spend your time on the above with less time spent looking for inspiration.
* Share the success and shortcomings in your blog.

It always works. Always!

Lee

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