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Sunday, October 24, 2010

I have so many things going on in my head right now. I don't know where to begin. This weekend was great. My husband and I went out to dinner today to celebrate our anniversary and we picked out a new mirror for our bathroom. I got started on the bathroom floor and so far it's looking pretty spiffy, if I say so myself! And I'm really excited because my daughter is coming home next weekend for three days, too. It will be the first time since leaving for Ohio University that she's been back home. She said she wanted mashed potatoes. I asked her what she wanted with them and she said she didn't care, she just wanted those. Apparently campus food isn't all it's cracked up to be, especially when you work in the dining hall and you see how the food is prepared!

Halloween has me fighting back the tears, though. Next weekend would have been when my brother Steve would have transformed his big garage into his annual Halloween Haunted House Bash for the neighborhood kids. He always put his whole heart into the occasion and it rivaled any other haunted house in town. He never charged money for the event either. Everything came out of his pocket, the decorations, the monsters, the extraordinary food, just so the local kids would have a place to go that evening instead of out-and-about causing trouble. He had such a soft heart for them. The kids absolutely adored him. I don't know who had the most fun...Steve getting it ready or the kids who came. And Steve was actually a big kid at heart. Christmas was the same way for him. Each year he would pick a family in need and buy them Christmas. The tree, the dinner, the presents, the works. It hurts so badly that there is a family out there who will not experience the love and extraordinary giving of my brother this year. My heart is in misery because HIS heart gave out on him January 2nd of this year. One minute he was gathering the brush to burn and fifteen minutes later he was gone. Oh, how I miss him! The whole community misses him! There has actually been a couple of times over the past few days I've had to excuse myself and go to the bathroom and cry. It all just seems so surreal, like a really bad movie that leaves you scratching your head in disbelief and sorrow.

I ran into my sister-in-law Rita, Steve's wife of 35 years, at Walmart the other day. I saw her sitting at the pharmacy. When I approached her, her face lit up and she stood with arms outstretched ready to give me a hug. She's been battling walking pneumonia. She is not the same woman. The twinkle is gone from her eyes and has been replaced with such deep sorrow. I don't think I've prayed as hard for anything that night...I asked God to give her some sort of comfort, some kind of understanding as to why things happen the way they do. Then I asked the same thing for myself because I don't understand either.

As I looked at Brian's face over dinner today, I wanted to reach across the table and stroke his cheek. It was all I could do to wait until we were in the car when I could lay my head on his chest, listening to the thumping of his heart, and wrap my arm around him on the way home. He quietly asked me what was wrong and I couldn't speak, just hold him tighter. Sensing that I couldn't talk, he firmly held me and said, "It's alright. I know you love me. I love you, too." I think he knows where my mind has been as of late.

I am blessed to have the love of my life today. I am SO blessed. But my heart is breaking for the ones who have lost theirs.

Please tell your husband or wife how much you love them today. And hold them close. Hold them really really close, okay?

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GREGGWEISBROD 11/19/2013 5:00PM

    This life of ours... so fragile... a treasure. Don't know if you read my post 'Dreaming with a Broken Heart' yet. It's not earth shattering, but the sad reality of loving with the deepest parts of who you are - which is of course, the only way to love - means that when the person you love is taken from this earth, the feeling of loss is crippling, and you never truly escape that pain. Time layers a soothing balm over top, but the heart is never the same. What an incredible post that you poured out here.

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CHRIS3215 10/27/2010 4:25PM

    WOW your Blog really hit my heart too.
Soo sorry for the loss of your brother .
Thanks for sharing such a heart filled Blog..

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AZCUPCAKE 10/27/2010 12:21PM

    You are an old soul in a wonderful, beautiful woman's body. I wish more than anything you could have Steve back.....

I am happy to hear about Paul's new lease on life, and how glorious it will be to be able to spend Christmas with him!!!! I am excited for you and want everything to be all right for him in the future. You have been there for him through thick and thin, and he is sure to show you that the past is gone, and his future is full of good, healthy, happy opportunities. He is in my prayers, just as your whole family is!

Mashed potatoes?! I just KNEW there was even MORE to love about that darling daughter of yours! I love them plain, plain, PLAIN! Talk about GOOD TASTE!

Belated happy anniversary wishes to you both, too! You and Brian are one heck of a tag team, and you are both very blessed to have found each other. Love conquers all - even bathroom remodeling jobs, right!?!? emoticon emoticon

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CDAWN26 10/27/2010 10:02AM

    What a heartfelt blog. I can understand the loss and do not take a day for granted. It can be gone in an instant. I'm thinking of you especially with the holidays and all the joy your brother brought to others during this time.

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 10/27/2010 9:52AM

    emoticon Shame on you for making me cry at work!

Ugh! I'm thinking of you today. I'm glad Brian is there for you and you for him.


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DISP770 10/26/2010 4:32PM

    Tearing up at my desk too! emoticon

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CARTOONB 10/25/2010 10:45PM

    Okay. Done. Every day.

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IAM_HIS2 10/25/2010 9:45PM

    Michelle you said it so heart hurts one minute than it rejoices the next because I know where he is. Then my heart hurts again for his wife, you and all those mourning his loss. May our Lord helps heal your hearts. God bless you and your sister-in-law.

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TRENTDREAMER 10/25/2010 9:14PM

    Apparently campus food isn't all it's cracked up to be, especially when you work in the dining hall and you see how the food is prepared!
* WH4T!!!!!!!????// say its not s0. lol

He will be allowed to come home for Christmas and it will be the first time in three years that our family will be able to spend a holiday together. I'm REALLY excited about that!
* w00t! im happy 4 u. i h0pe it works out 4 u as well.

My heart is in misery because HIS heart gave out on him January 2nd of last year. One minute he was gathering the brush to burn and fifteen minutes later he was gone. Oh, how I miss him! The whole community misses him! There has actually been a couple of times over the past few days I've had to excuse myself and go to the bathroom and cry.
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Please tell your husband or wife how much you love them today. And hold them close. Hold them really really close, okay?
* if i 3v3r am married i will.

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DARLENEK04 10/25/2010 7:47PM

  It isn't often when someone posts a heartfelt blog that I can say I truly know
how that person feels, but since I have lost both of my brothers, I can.
I know you still miss him punkin, you were so close....maybe you could invite
his wife over for the holidays or just for a meal and visit soon????
Be strong...and take care of Brian.


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JUSTJO66 10/25/2010 3:58PM

    A wonderful inspiring blog and so true. Thank you for sharing.

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PEGJOHN1997 10/25/2010 1:25PM

    Wow, great blog! You reminded me that I almost lost my husband to congestive heart failure 6 years ago. He made a miraculous recovery. I'll hug him tighter later tonight after he gets home from work.

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STAYCXL-NOMORE 10/25/2010 1:02PM

    Great Blog , you said it right !It's the now , cause later isn't guaranteed !!

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AWOLF24 10/25/2010 11:21AM

    I am sitting here at my desk getting all teary. What a great reminder and I will certainly do that today!!!!! emoticon

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BKNOCK 10/25/2010 10:47AM

I am sitting at my desk bawling after I read your blog! You know that you are always in my thoughts and prayers! It is so hard to lose loved ones! This weekend I missed Linda soooooooo much watching her beautiful baby get married. I know that they are in a better place and I guess we just have to try to be patient and understanding!

Love ya,

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KATVHALE 10/25/2010 8:46AM

  Michelle, I feel your pain as I have lost a husband and a sister to heart disease and diabetes. You never get over such a loss but knowing that they are with our creator is very uplifting because you know you will see them again. So try and think of your brother as being on assignment for God and that one day you too will get that assignment and you will meet up with him then.

I will be praying that all goes well with Paul and that you have a great family time during the upcoming holidays!

Enjoy your visit next weekend with your daughter!

love ya,


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LIZZYP609 10/25/2010 8:32AM

    emoticon You are so my favorite right now!

thank you.

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PJSTIME 10/25/2010 7:29AM

    Michelle that you for sharing with us. Sometimes it helps just to talk about it. I hope your holiday plans all work out now what are you going to serve with those mashed potatoes. Meatloaf, chicken, steak,????????

Have a great day and I will be sending comforting prayers to you, your family and the neighborhood.

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DONNAORLENE 10/25/2010 1:38AM

    Happy Anniversary! And I'm so happy for you that Breanna is coming home. I have a niece that asked for mashed potato cake for her Birthday! That's how much she loves them. Too bad Breanna doesn't have the services at her college like where my nephew works. He's head she for Bon Appetite and the college hires them to cater three meals a day for the kids. You wouldn't believe the way these kids eat! It's unreal. I know what you mean about missing your brother. My oldest passed away very suddenly 3 years ago this November and I still can't get over it. They didn't have any children and my sister-in-law has really tough times still.I hope things work out for your holidays.And remember you are always in my heart and in my prayers.

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CHERIRIDDELL 10/25/2010 12:52AM

    What a wonderful blog ,I am sorry you have had so much on your plate. A Very happy anniversary to you! I can' t just reach out and hug my husband he is deployed to Afghanistan but your blog makes me realize how lucky I am to have Sparkfriends .I can't reach out and touch my husband when I choose but you reach out and touch me with your thoughtful blogs and you make me feel a part of a community . emoticon Cheri

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FLEMIDG 10/24/2010 11:49PM

    Oh, Michelle, my heart goes out to you. You are going through such emotional turmoil. I am so excited that you will have your family together for Christmas. I am praying for you that everything will go smoothly.
I can understand your sadness at the loss of your brother, too. I am so happy that you have such a wonderful husband there with you to wrap his arms around you and tell you he loves you. God bless you both. Know that I am thinking of you and praying for you. I love you to pieces.
I wish I were close so that I could give you a great big hug too.

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ANNAMARIE1958 10/24/2010 11:46PM

    I'm a true believer in telling your family how much you love them and to spend time with them. Life is so short you never know what tomorrow will bring. Nov.14 Is a bitter sweet day for my family, My son got married and My close neighbor was killed ..same day..same yr. Take the time to spend with your family.
This was a great blog..It made me cry. I lost my Father 2 yrs.ago and my mother 22 yrs. ago. O how I miss them both!

...God be with you....

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GEEMAWEST 10/24/2010 11:46PM

    You sure have had a lot going on this past year. Good thing you're such a strong woman. And remember, everything God puts you through makes you that much stronger.

Love ya, Cheryl

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LAVENDERLILY 10/24/2010 11:17PM

    Thank you for sharing your family with us.

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 10/24/2010 11:03PM

    Oh, my sweet friend... your blog said SO MUCH tonight, and I can't catch up with everything fast enough! I want to tell you that you mean so much to your SparkFriends, and I love you! When I'm stuck in bed after Wednesday, I hope I have time to Spark more. This blog response just doesn't say what's in my heart for you! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BLAKBIRD 10/24/2010 10:37PM

    PS. Thanks for offering your DH's help with my home maintenance projects, but I'd guess he'd much rather stay home and get hugged really, really tightly.


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HOT4FITNESS 10/24/2010 10:29PM

    Thanks for sharing. I will go tell my DH how much I love and appreciate him right now. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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LMB-ESQ 10/24/2010 10:27PM

    Wonderful blog... so true!

I was at my mother's yesterday and I went into her bedroom for something. I saw my dad's old winter cap sitting on the bedside table and reached out to touch it -- couldn't help myself and started bawling like a baby. Went and hid out in the bathroom! I sure do miss him! But at least I have the knowledge that he knew I loved him, because I told him so all the time, more and more often toward the end. And I tell my kids and my mother too. The nice thing is, my kids are finally at the age where they realize it's okay to say it to me first!

Make a mountain of mashed potatoes for Breanna, and I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for Paul's Christmas release. I don't know why he's there, but three years is sure a long time to be not allowed to go home! emoticon

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BLAKBIRD 10/24/2010 10:23PM

    Thank you 'Sis for an incredibly moving and Awesome blog


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KGRIMES371 10/24/2010 10:13PM

    Oh my gosh. What a post. Thank you for sharing.

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Hellooo DOLLY!

Friday, October 22, 2010

I THINK I am doing okay. Well, except for the occasional slip-up here and there of a bite of ice cream, I'm eating pretty well and hiking. But, dang, it's getting cold and forcing myself out the door on mornings like this just sucks. And I don't mean it bites, I mean it REALLY SUCKS. I've grown accustomed to those dirt poundings during the spring and summer but I can't do the 30-degree grindage. I'm not sure if it's just my general dislike of cold weather or the fact that Lupus makes my joints very aware of the temperatures around me, but I'm telling you, I JUST DON'T LIKE IT. My frozen joints burn to the point of pain and I'm the type of person if it hurts the WRONG way I won't do it. So, I have to find something that's indoors, in the warmth, that's equivalent to the "good" burn of the hike and get rocking with it.

Treadmill, you say?? Aw, that son-of-a-gun and I have an understanding. The Dread-Mill has tasted the feel of my wrath and he's bitten off a piece of my butt on several occasions. Nooo, don't call me a wimp because it's not like that. I've used him while watching t.v., used him while staring out my patio doors, pretended that he was the outside turf while I inclined him but he's not as good as the real thing. It appears that I am going to have to cut back on my calorie intake in order to not gain while I am using him this winter because he just doesn't give me the push or the drive that I've become accustomed to on my rolling outside terrain.

Ab Lounger, check. Zumba video, check. Stationary bike, check. Sigh. And my occasional bite of ice cream is going to have to bite the dust because I just can't afford it right now. Bring with that the impending Thanksgiving dinner and the Christmas goodies and I can't help but feel a little depressed with the approaching struggles that are sure to ensue. Warrior spirit, check?

Wait a minute...I know I put it somewhere.

I've asked Brian to give me the exercise regimen that they used in the Marine Corps and after about 40 "Hello Dollies" I was crawling towards his feet begging for mercy. Perhaps THAT is the ticket. I will use my Old Man to give me the edge that I feel I desperately need right now. I can do without his "C'MON PRIVATE, gimme ten more!" because I think he's lovin' the power play but if it keeps the muffin tops and banana rolls at bay, I'll tell Dolly hello every day of the week and twice on Sunday. Along with the Cherry Pickers, I'm probably biting off a piece of butt more than I can chew. The In-Place Double Time made me have thoughts of throwing Brian in the wood chipper so he and I will not go there again....but all-in-all, I think my husband may be the key to a possible replacement until Springtime sets in again.

Hi, Dolly, it's nice to meet you, girl. At least for now, anyways.

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GREGGWEISBROD 11/19/2013 4:27PM

    lol, muffin tops :-D Banana rolls is a great one though, I've never heard that before! See, what would I do without your three year old posts! :-D

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AZCUPCAKE 10/27/2010 12:25PM

    This blog is just ONE of the many reasons I love you.....

YOU ARE FEARLESS!!!! emoticon emoticon

If anyone can show us who's the BOSS of exercise, it is YOU!!!!

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KGRIMES371 10/24/2010 9:43PM

    Wow you are doing so much in my eyes! I know I will have to get in gear one of these days because the weight won't just fall off with lowering calories alone. And I will want to firm up the flab. So you inspire me bring out my "buck up sister" attitude.

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PJSTIME 10/23/2010 6:19PM

    Don't let Brian be tooo hard on you private.

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DONGR8NCHARNC 10/23/2010 1:37PM


What would life be like without the "little slip-ups"? I'd rather call them the "little pleasures" of life. When you look at the big picture, you've been successful (with the help of Brian -LOL) so ENJOY LIFE TO THE FULLEST!

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GEEMAWEST 10/23/2010 9:44AM

    I also want Hello Dolly explained.

Never mind. Just googled it. No wonder you were fried after doing 40 of them. Whew!

I like the outside walking too and my body can't handle the cold either. So I use the exercise bike in the winter for the most part. I watch T.V. while doing it and the time files by.

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LYNNEJ5 10/23/2010 1:07AM

    It sounds like you have it all figured out and emoticonI know you can. Keep on bloggin and let us know how you are doing. Have a great weekend, and Happy Anniversary to you and Brian. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LAVENDERLILY 10/23/2010 12:37AM

    Great Blog, I can relate! emoticon emoticon

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FLEMIDG 10/22/2010 11:50PM

    Another wonderful blog, Michelle. It sounds like Brian really enjoys watching you work out. I hope you find something to do that will keep you moving rather than hurting your joints. Have a wonderful weekend.
Love and God bless you.


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KATVHALE 10/22/2010 10:57PM

  Yeah, I'm with Steven... what on earth is Hello Dolly? I'm guessin' it has something to do with military boot camp but what do I know?? I know what you mean about cold weather! Being from Florida most of my life I can't stand anything below 60! In fact I was on a real spark roll until November of last year when the temperature dropped! It didn't help either that northeast Florida's winter of 2009 was the coldest on record! I couldn't ride my bike and I didn't want to get out and run!

I am determined that this fall and winter I am going to brave the elements so I don't get lazy and fatter than I am now!

Oh and don't be mad at Brian; you asked him to kick you butt!!
Have fun and get up and shake it off!

Love ya,


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DARLENEK04 10/22/2010 10:10PM

  Oh puddin,
I hate exercise no matter the weather. It just makes me so mad to have
to work out. We went walking at the park yesterday and my back was
killing me all night. When you hurt, it is really hard to get moving.


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CARTOONB 10/22/2010 9:57PM

    If you want your butt busted without the power trip, check out anything with Jillian Michaels. She will "Hello Dolly" you right into the ground! LOL!

Good luck!

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JRDIAMOND4 10/22/2010 6:52PM

    Hey Girlie,

I need your secret just a few weeks ago you couldn't get your butt in gear. Now, here I am in the same boat. Eating the same just no energy. I could care less if I get off the couch. This is not good. I know it is going to catch up with me. So far so good on the weight but I know it isn't going to last forever. UGH!!

I went to a Zumba class the other night and I didn't even get sore. So does that mean it wasn't advanced enough or I was not doing it right. I will admit I looked like a orangutan trying to dance but I should have felt something. Right?

Hope you get the results you are looking for!! Tell Brian to be sweet or act like he is not enjoying it so much. lol

Have a great weekend,

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STEVENGO2 10/22/2010 6:43PM

    Please explain the Hello Dolly...for those of us to slow to know. And it sounds if I would rather face the cold than Brian the drill sergeant!

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LMB-ESQ 10/22/2010 3:37PM

    Ok... I'm afraid to ask... what's a Hello Dolly?

I think I'd rather face the cold too!

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JOOPRINCESS 10/22/2010 3:25PM

    Girrrrrrrrl, I so hear you on so many levels. Put away the ice cream and *in case of emergency* keep some Skinny Cow sandwiches in the deep freeze just in case.

As far as joints, switch up your schedule a little bit and take a really brisk hot shower. Just 2 minutes. You don't even need to soap, cause that's not the point. You're waking up your blood flow and telling your joints to get ready for business. Toss on some thermal underwear and show that plot of land you mean business.


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    Ah, you make me smile! I enjoyed your blog! I'll have to cut my calories, too, girl, with being incapacited next Wednesday for 6 weeks. I'll have to come up with a few of my own Hello Dollies! emoticon

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HOT4FITNESS 10/22/2010 12:43PM

    Cute blog. Sounds like you DH is going to be quite the motivater!! Keep up the gpood work!

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BKNOCK 10/22/2010 12:31PM

    I don't know, I think I would face the cold weather before I face Brian!

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Sunday, October 17, 2010

I didn't like the shower curtain. I told the Old Man that I would loooove to have a new shower stall with glass doors in the bathroom next to our bedroom. (We did not go on our vacation as planned so we did THIS.) Our old bathtub was a catastrophe and I was getting creeped-out using you realize how many tookuses it's seen over the years?? Anyways, for those of you that have asked, here is what's been going on over the last week.


These images aren't pretty.

I'll start with how the bathroom looked before the chaos struck.

This is the image that made me hyperventilate into a brown paper bag.

This took TWO DAYS, I repeat, TWO DAYS to accomplish. I patiently explained to Old Man that the bathroom could NOT stay like this even if it WAS functional.

This is what happens when you realize you have a water leak under the sink.

This is what I am left with now. It's not finished. Hopefully it will be finished by 2012.

What the wall and floor are supposed to look like together....

Where we are going on our NEXT vacation....

Who I am going with...

Who Old Man says HE'S going with...

I don't long as she can swing one of these!

Have a great week, guys!


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DISP770 10/26/2010 4:36PM


Loved the captions also.

You are hilarious.

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BLAKBIRD 10/18/2010 10:13PM

    Loved the blog, the photo's - especially the captions - LOL

I'm with WalkOffWin. If it's broke or looks like it's going to be I'll fix it.

"Projects" at my house usually wait until my In-Laws come to visit. FIL is very handy, he slowed down a bit since he turned 80 emoticon so his daughter, my wife, has him work longer hours emoticon.

Patience Ms M.


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GEEMAWEST 10/18/2010 8:39PM

    Too Funny! But probably not to you. At least you are realistic and don't except it to be complete until 2012.

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WALKOFFWIN 10/18/2010 7:38PM

    Too funny!!! And also why home remodeling projects are seldom undertaken in our house. If it's broke, I will fix it. If it ain't broke, then I leave it alone!

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DARLENEK04 10/18/2010 6:46PM

  Hey Michelle,

Pam can swing a hammer....did you not see her on Tool Time??????
with Tim Allen and the bearded guy???????

Who cares whether Gerard can swing a hammer or not????????????
I certainly don't....I'd park him in some lovely surroundings
and ..............well, I won't go there....................

That hinges on David allowing any of the above. He thinks Pam
is on that vein, I am thinking you would
do better with Gerard than me......

PS: Much as I love him, David is the only person I know who
could turn a pciture needing hung into a 4 hour ordeal....


PSS: I take the above back....when I came home this morning
from my Bible Study, he had mopped and cleaned up the laundry
room where the elderly kitty has his potty.

I am blessed........

PSS: He knows I don't like to get stuff on my
grosses me out.

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CARTOONB 10/18/2010 4:26PM

    Great pics! Love the labels!!

BTW, great choice on vacation partner. emoticon

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JILLWILSON2102 10/18/2010 2:42PM

    LMAO!!! emoticon It will get done!

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AZCUPCAKE 10/18/2010 12:04PM

    You put the FUN in every day of the week, but ESPECIALLY today!!! Your photos AND captions are PRICELESS....if only we had a magic wand to make all of those remodels and dream vacations (with accompanying beefcakes!!! Yowza!) happen! I just KNOW we could truly say our lives would be complete if these "small details" were part of the deal!!!!! emoticon Love you lots!

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1NICUBABE 10/18/2010 11:49AM

    LMAO!!! i have been remodeling my bathroom as well for the past 3 weeks but not nearly as much as you have. I really wanted all new fixtures but decided to replace old floor, paint and put in new ceiling instead. I definitely feel for you. My son has come home from college 3 weekends in a row and is thoroughly disgusted that all of the bathroom stuff is covering his bed! Hey i need some place to put the stuff till I'm done :) Have a great week and hope you get your bathroom done soon. MB

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 10/18/2010 11:16AM

    LOL You made my day! Thanks for sharing this. I'm glad ya'll survived!

Looking forward to the pictures from next year's get-away!

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ERINEC11 10/18/2010 10:38AM

    I love the captions. Very precise. :P

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WOLFKITTY 10/18/2010 10:03AM

    LOL! Well, you've got it going, right? That's good. This was a great blog. :D


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PARKIE 10/18/2010 9:22AM

    I am cracking up at the fact that the shower curtain is still there. emoticon

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ABETTERJILL 10/18/2010 8:02AM

    What a great way to start my day...thanks for the laugh! :)

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BIONICBETH 10/18/2010 7:47AM

    LMAO! Thank You M. I needed that.

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PJSTIME 10/18/2010 7:33AM

    You write the best blogs and have such a good sense of humor. You and Old Man make a good team. Plumbers crack and all you are making progress. Hmmm not sure about that next vacation tho you better just go with each other and take a hammer with you.

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LMB-ESQ 10/18/2010 7:31AM

    LOL... well, at least you are handling it with humor! (Where would we be without humor? I would be in a rubber walled cell) Just two questions: How does a dollar store trashcan cost $4.99, and why not just replace the shower curtain? Oh, and to borrow a line from Jaws, "you're gonna need a bigger hammer!" Enjoy the beach, and Mr. Butler's company!

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SWEETNEENI 10/18/2010 6:53AM

    That is hliarious! OLD MAN...PLUMBER'S CRACK... LOL!

Thank's for the Monday morning chuckle! emoticon

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LIZZYP609 10/18/2010 6:51AM

    HA! It sounds like a remodel that takes place at MY house. We riped out a bathroom in our basement to repair a crumbing wall and it too TWO years to replace it...For the the first year it was just studs and a tub...Completely functional but who wants to shower in a jail???

PS Plumber crack wasn't THAT bad!

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WINDEE52 10/18/2010 6:39AM

    HAHAHA! My bathroom remodel took 4months, best of luck! BTW - Gerard Butler - YUM.

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BKNOCK 10/18/2010 6:19AM

    ROFL! Oh my gosh are you good at telling a story! You are getting pretty good with that camera too!

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KWRIG7 10/18/2010 12:43AM

    Oh my goodness, this made me laugh! I needed that :)

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LYNNEJ5 10/18/2010 12:39AM

    emoticonfor the chuckle. Another interesting and funny blog (although I guess you are not finding things very humorous right now) but hey it has only been 2 days! Be patient it will be done before you know it and it will all be a distant memory while you are relaxing in your new tub. The floor and walls are going to look great. Hang in girlfriend, this too shall pass. emoticon emoticonLynne

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FLEMIDG 10/17/2010 11:44PM

    Another wonderful blog. Sorry you didn't get your bathroom finished. Hopefully it will be done soon. I am sure it is going to be beautiful when it is finally finished. Have a great week.

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ELYMWX 10/17/2010 11:17PM

    Wayyy too cute. I hope you get it all straightened out before your next vacation!

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KATVHALE 10/17/2010 11:14PM

  Why didn't you just buy a new shower curtain??? emoticon

I like the toilet lid! emoticon That new tub is really nice and just be patient, it will all come together real soon. The walls and floor are going to look so cool together. I can't wait for the "it is finally done" picture!

Thanks for the laugh before bedtime!


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DIVA14K 10/17/2010 11:10PM

    That was cute. I enjoyed that blog.

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 10/17/2010 11:06PM

    I SO enjoy your blogs! I love them! They are so creative and fun! Thanks! emoticon emoticon

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THEMIGHTYLEX 10/17/2010 11:05PM

    Best update ever! Though, I am suddenly made aware of my own plumber's crack

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Wednesday, October 13, 2010

I was joking with Betsy last Thursday evening on the phone that by mid-week of my husband's vacation, my update statuses were going to get pretty hairy. Oh, don't get me wrong, I love having him home! But he is kind of "spazzy" and he's not able to sit still for any amount of time. He is like a blur, running to and fro, mind racing with projects to do around the house. So, it came as no surprise when we were not able to go anywhere for a substantial amount of time that he found this week perfect for bathroom renovations. I was ecstatic...the first few days.

But yesterday I was ready to make good on some of those "hairy" statuses. A few of them ran through my mind at blinding speed. Like, STEELKICKIN IS...

...going off the deep-end.
...taking out her Old Man, Dexter-style.
...ripping my head off.
...ripping my Old Man's head off.
...checking myself into an insane asylum.
...redoing laundry because Old Man's Brother threw old dirty shutters onto STEELKICKIN'S clean laundry on the couch and now he must die.

I was tired, sore and haggard. He was becoming increasingly impatient and agitated by how the wall wasn't lining up "just so." The romantic images of him and I holding hands in the middle of our newly remodeled bathroom, gazing longingly into one another's eyes, was quickly being replaced with duct tape across my mouth (his fantasy) and him being strung by his wedgie from the light fixture (my fantasy). I left for awhile to clean my sister's house and came back home to find devastation galore and him telling me to take his mess out to the curb before I cook dinner. STEELKICKIN IS...

...telling Old Man where to shove his mess.
...taking sledgehammer to new bathtub and current stove.
...getting lost just like her Old Man told her to do, in a land far, far away. Or Walmart.
...getting high on wood glue.
...filling Brian's underwear with a can of "Gap and Crack."
...watching "Texas Chainsaw Massacre" for ideas.

I'm glad I didn't decide on one of those, though. Although our tempers were running pretty hot, I bit my tongue and decided to see the bright side. I decided to thank God that he is still here to get on my nerves. Many of you know I almost lost him a few years back to a massive heart attack. So, I refocused my feelings of anger onto feeling thankful that yesterday I was not alone. If he had passed away, I wouldn't HAVE a bathroom to remodel. I wouldn't have this HOUSE or THIS LAND that I love so much. And I also had to remember that he was doing this for ME. He told me he doesn't need frills, fancy toilets, pretty tubs and cool floor designs to be happy. But he knows it's what I like. So, he was doing all of this for ME. When he COULD, rightfully so, use his vacation to go do something HE wanted to do. But he DIDN'T. Why was I getting so mad at him when he was doing everything he could to make me happy?

So STEELKICKIN IS... happy she has someone around who loves her so very much.
...ecstatic that Old Man is here to slap her keister when a milestone is reached.
...was taken to Olive Garden today and had her hand held by the greatest man in the world. humbled and honored that he chose me to share his life with.
...making memories with my soul mate.
...not looking forward to next Monday when Old Man goes back to work.

Stressful? Yes. Worth it? Yes. Especially when I see his proud smile and puffed out chest when I hug him and tell him how great of job he has done. I wouldn't trade it for the world.

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DBFBILLY 10/16/2010 8:16PM

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K8NJKSMOM 10/15/2010 2:29PM

    What a great way to find the "good" in the, well, maybe not so great!!! I just loved your thoughts!!!

My wonderful bf is renovating my bathroom in the next two weeks. I will keep your good thoughts close to heart as we go through it!!! emoticon

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LMB-ESQ 10/14/2010 10:37PM

    STEELKICKIN IS.... great at reminding us what's important!

Now, if I could just overlook... the dirty dishes... the dirty laundry... the dog hair on the floor... the unmade bed... LOL

And if I could overlook the worry about his health **sigh**

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MOCACHOC 10/14/2010 5:28PM

    Hey there how are you. It's been awhile. You have the spirit of a kindred sister. If every woman could have a man like yours there would be no divorce or complaints. Just simply joy and loving life in the here and now. I was laughing up a storm though because those thoughts will creep in just as long as we don't act on them. I am still loving your paintings. They get more and more special as you paint them. Your gift is a gift from God keep using it to His Glory.

Peace and Love

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AZCUPCAKE 10/14/2010 5:10PM

    You are just this: THE BEST. The best wife, the best mother, the best sister-in-law, the best sister, the best friend,......there is no end!! If your SparkPals had their way, your daily status would always read: STEELKICKIN IS: FABULOUS! Thanks for making me laugh today! emoticon emoticon emoticon

p.s. How funny/coincidental is it that my husband took this week off, too?? And that I wanted to run away to Wal-Mart at LEAST three times this week by myself, and it is only Thursday?! Yikes!!!!

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JILLWILSON2102 10/14/2010 3:54PM

    Way to turn it around my friend! You are truly blessed as are we for having your friendship! emoticon

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KAILYNSTAR 10/14/2010 11:33AM

    You are so right with you reality check. Nothing is more of a blessing than finding love in your life.

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 10/14/2010 8:50AM

    I love your relationship with Old Man! It's like reading a really good romance novel. Give him a high five from me and tell him I said way to go.

Now, where are the pictures so we can see all the hard work???


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DAWNDMOORE40 10/14/2010 8:37AM

    emoticonWhat an inspiration your blog was for me this morning! I can definitely relate! It is funny how we love our husbands, but then sometimes we want to bite their heads off! We know they have good intentions, but sometimes you just want them to stop and take a break! I am thankful I have a wonderful husband just like you but you are also lucky you have one that loves to do projects around the house! I wished mine wasn't having pain in his wrist and back all the time so that he could do more! Have a blessed day! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    :) Great blog, and I can so relate. Have had a bathroom makeover in the past. It's frustrating for sure.

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DONGR8NCHARNC 10/14/2010 12:08AM

    Husbands- can't live with them; can't live without them. You hit the nal on the head with this one, Michelle!

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GEEMAWEST 10/13/2010 11:41PM

    I can so relate to this blog. DH gets on my nerves often, but Monday we went out target shooting and bonded all over again. During those times I forget about all the "bad" times and just want to relish in the moment. Funny how the "little" things are the most important.
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CARTOONB 10/13/2010 11:10PM

    Nice! Are you going to let him read this? Don't want his head to swell too much to fit into the bathroom! LOL!

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DARLENEK04 10/13/2010 9:29PM

  Hi Punkin,
Great blog, as usual. I know exactly where you are coming
from. When we got married, I knew all his health issues,
so each day is precious to us. His open heart surgery was
a reiteration of that.
The house doesn't matter, how dirty the truck gets, in the
end all that matters is the one you love, who loves you, are


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FLEMIDG 10/13/2010 6:21PM

    What a beautiful blog, Michelle. You always make me laugh and sometimes cry. God bless you. I'm so glad you and Brian have each other. You were meant to be together. Hope your bathroom is done soon. You'll have to send us a picture.

Love you.

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BKNOCK 10/13/2010 5:21PM

    I love your blogs! I like the way you draw a picture for us for all the spaz things going through your brain! Fantastic!

So, is the bathroom done?

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LIZZYP609 10/13/2010 4:47PM

    emoticon oh that sounds like something me and my hubs would do too! Just have to keep remembering that I ahve been married to him for 16 years for a reason!!

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ELYMWX 10/13/2010 4:42PM


One lucky lady!

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AWOLF24 10/13/2010 4:42PM

    Hilarious!!!!! Love it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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PEGJOHN1997 10/13/2010 4:41PM

    I loved this blog! It makes me want to hug my husband, but I can't because he is working a second shift today. So I'll call him and give him a verbal hug. Thank you!

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LYNNEJ5 10/13/2010 4:36PM

    As always I love your blog, You have a gift for writing and telling a story! I am glad that as always you think things through and come out the other end with a positive. Keep on keeping on girlfriend, and remember to be good to yourself. You deserve it. emoticon emoticon emoticonLynne

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JOOPRINCESS 10/13/2010 4:35PM

    So sweet. Good of you to turn your mind to writing a gratitude list. It always makes life so much more beautiful, yes?


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KATVHALE 10/13/2010 4:33PM

  Michelle I am so glad you came to your senses! Home improvement tasks can cause feathers to fly but what a blessing to have a home to improve!

I love Olive Garden's salad and breadsticks! I bet you had a great meal together. I am waiting for my DH to get healthier so we can go out to dinner again. I have to admit that I am getting tired of cooking three meals a day but when I consider the alternative, it is my pleasre to cook for him!

I am sure that is going to be the best bathroom in your town!

Love ya,



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    Oh, sweet friend, I SO loved your blog! I always love your blogs, but this one, YES, I could so relate! You really do have a wonderful way with words! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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PJSTIME 10/13/2010 4:27PM

    Well well well true love rules in the end. You just had to think about it for while first. Love your blogs and your down to earth attitude and how in the end your head may waver but your heart stears you in the right direction.

We all get on each others nerves after so many years together the important thing is we are still with our old men and old women working on that happily ever after. There is a commercial on TV that I like the guy goes to a bar and is boohooing to the bartender about his life and that he wants that perfect life in the family picture behind the bar. The bartender says it isn't always perfect but there are perfect parts. That just about says it all. Oh I guess I have gotten carried away with this comment and wrote a book emoticon

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THEMIGHTYLEX 10/13/2010 4:19PM

    That's awesome. I got a little weepy towards the end (blaming it on mystery onions)!!! Thanks for brightening my day, and giving a good example of the power of love. I'll let Beth read this one, so we can refer to it if we ever bump heads.

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GRACEFULIFE 10/13/2010 4:17PM

    Nice... love the statuses. You're on the road to being my official status maker-upper. emoticon

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I'm Never Doing THAT Again!

Friday, October 08, 2010

A few months ago I let myself "go." I allowed the events of my daughter going off to college "sabotage" my exercise and eating plans until my arms and legs felt like rubber and I had no stamina. Even my best attempts to get out there on the hiking trail were met with a self-defeating attitude. Basically, I felt like rat crap on a good day. I gained ten pounds. I hated exercise, I told the candy bars on the grocer's shelf, "Come to Mama, baby" and I used every excuse in the book not to do what I knew was right for me.

But now, I've found my groove again. I've been hitting the trail for the last two and half weeks and I'm finally strong again. My legs have gained back their muscle tone, my abdomen doesn't hurt when I get on the Total Gym and my arms don't ache. My skin has cleared up, my face has color again and I'm finding that I'm doing more than what I expect of myself. After my hike yesterday morning, that afternoon I walked an additional three miles with my camera, taking pictures of the countryside around me. It was then I realized that I am at my happiest when I'm in shape. Sure, having a quick soda and candy bar feels great at the time, but by nature, I cannot allow myself JUST ONE. I find that it is all it takes to put me into a downward spiral.

So, I'm back at it. I've even instituted a few additional exercises into my regimen that I didn't do before. I find myself WANTING to get out to get the burn. And I've even done some Zumba. That fits right up my alley because I really love to dance and get "jiggy" with it. Brian likes it when I do Zumba, too, because it gives him some much needed comic relief after a long day at work.

So, I'm never allowing myself to go off the edge again. It's just not worth it and it's a long haul to get back to where I need to be!

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AZCUPCAKE 10/14/2010 5:12PM

    AWESOME, Michelle! You are my personal rock star! When I grow up, I am going to be just like you! I have a loooong way to go! emoticon emoticon

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STAYCXL-NOMORE 10/13/2010 11:08AM

    Glad to see you getting back to the groove !! You said it right just not worth it !!

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CALIMAN1 10/12/2010 3:25PM

    ZUMBA????? Seriously, Michelle, that is one gift that Brian can't have to seriously need to put that on could call yourself..ummmm...MiChakira and dance to your hearts content...and I am so sure the rest of us would enjoy it as much as Brian!!!!! PLEASE OH PLEASE????? emoticon

On the serious side, I think it is awesome that you have rediscovered your love for is supposed to be fun and fulfilling....and you have all bases covered now!


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LMB-ESQ 10/10/2010 7:29AM

    Ugh... send some of that groove over here. I know I've been talking a lot of talk... but so far it's been really hard to walk the walk. I think.... I'm burned out. emoticon

I am glad you're feeling better though! Isn't it great when we can finally get there? We KNOW what we have to do... just a matter of making ourselves do it!

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TRENTDREAMER 10/9/2010 6:23AM

    "So, I'm never allowing myself to go off the edge again. It's just not worth it and it's a long haul to get back to where I need to be! "

* i hope not 4 ur sake. but if u do, its easier to g3t back on if uve done it b4. (omg i cant w8 2 start talking n0rmally again th1s iz annoying lol.)

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FLEMIDG 10/8/2010 11:54PM

    So glad to see you are back on track. It is nice that you can get out there with your camera and take some pictures of nature. I don't know what Zumba is, but it sounds like fun. Enjoying the exercise is half the battle. Thanks for another wonderful blog. God bless you. Keep up the great work. Love you.

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TERR59 10/8/2010 10:49PM

    Great Attitude! emoticon

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DONGR8NCHARNC 10/8/2010 10:37PM

    You always have a plan, Michelle; your family is blessed to have you! Love the exercise plan. Can't wait to hear how it works for you.

Gentle Hugs,
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GEEMAWEST 10/8/2010 9:08PM

    Good for you Michelle!!

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CARTOONB 10/8/2010 8:36PM

    Exercise is addictive too! Great job!

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IRONCUTTER 10/8/2010 8:14PM

    Yeah, been there.

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VRADAA 10/8/2010 7:17PM

    You go girl! Keep the attitude and you'll do just fine.

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DARLENEK04 10/8/2010 5:55PM

  I want Brian to tape you doing Zumba and send it to me...maybe
then I will understand what it is.................LOL

See how much better you feel when you take care of yourself.


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LYNNEJ5 10/8/2010 5:06PM

    emoticonon getting back on the wagon. You are not the first nor will you be the last to fall off at sometime during the time they are trying to get healthy. Be good to yourself, you deserve it. emoticon emoticon emoticonLynne

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PJSTIME 10/8/2010 4:28PM

    I hear you sister. Its not worth it to fall away from the program. It may not always be easy but we can't quit. I have heard of Zumba but never checked it out. Hmmmm I'm sure if it is any kind of dance moves I would be hilarious maybe I could laugh off the inches at the same time

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THEBOOKBINDER 10/8/2010 4:05PM

    Thats awesome you go girl, every one loves to zumba these days!

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K8NJKSMOM 10/8/2010 3:34PM

    Good for you! I hit that same wall when Kaitlin left for University. It's a lot of stress for us mommas! The important thing is that we realize it and drag ourselves back into the game. I'm with you. Although I'm lovin' those chips and candy bars - I'm lovin' me more when I'm feeling healthy and fit. Keep up the great work!! emoticon

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K-SHIN 10/8/2010 3:00PM

    Congrats! I've done the same thing and it really isn't worth it at all. I spent almost two whole weeks at the end of it eating junk upon junk at my parents' house. Long before it was over my body felt polluted and disgusting. It gave me the kickstart I needed to get back into exercising and eating right. =D Keep it up! You can do it!

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BKNOCK 10/8/2010 2:16PM

    Yay, I new you would do it!
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KATVHALE 10/8/2010 2:04PM

  I am hoping to emulate you as I have not been exercising at all lately! I have managed to lose three pounds since hubby came home from the hospital because I am eating the healthy meals that I fix for him and no snacks except fruits and fat free yogurts.

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KEKEIKO 10/8/2010 1:37PM

    Don't be so hard on yourself. We all fall. We just have to make sure we get right back up, brush off our knees and begin again. One only fails when they don't get back up. As for entertaining hubby, put a g-string on and make some money, LMAO! emoticon

WTG with walking. You're doing a great job!


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STAYCXL-NOMORE 10/8/2010 1:23PM

    Glad you got your groove back , keep it going emoticon emoticon

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LIZZYP609 10/8/2010 1:15PM

    emoticon I have come to the same realization...except I still fall off...the important thing is that I don't wait to long to get right back on! That is awesome! I am so happy for you! Keep up the great work!

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THEMIGHTYLEX 10/8/2010 12:58PM

    YAY!!!! That's an incredible place you've arrived at!!! Picking yourself up after a stumble and getting stronger for it!!! I'm so proud of you, I wanna buy a SteelKickin' t-shirt! LoL!

I barely managed to maintain my weight last month (Finances dictated poor meal choices), but I've dropped nearly 10 pounds in the last 7 days. Not beating ourselves up, but choosing to regain our momentum is a winning strategy!


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MUSTANG_SALLY2 10/8/2010 12:56PM

    I knew you could do it! Woohoo! I'm so glad to hear that you are taking care of yourself. Just wait til those college guys get a look at Bre's hot momma! (Don't tell Brian I said that.)

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RUNNER12COM 10/8/2010 12:47PM

    And just like that, a single good decision begets another and another... and then, you've turned it all around!


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BIKERBABE2BE 10/8/2010 12:41PM

    What a wonderful attitude. It is contagious. Thanks for sharing and enjoy being healthy!


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    YOU GO, Sister! Yay! emoticonYou are emoticon emoticonand... just for good measure... You are emoticon

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KKFRENCHY 10/8/2010 12:36PM

    you are amazing, sometimes you need to fall off to realize how much you like being on!!

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