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Bonking; Day One

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

This ole gal has finally found something that has given me exactly what I wanted in an exercise program. Stagnation in the exercise world has always been a huge problem for me because: a) I seem to not produce the results that I want; b) it gets boring, really fast, and c) I find myself hitting a wall, so-to-speak, in how far I can push myself. (My lupus reminds me that too much of a strenuous exercise will have me tied up in knots the next day.) I also love strength training, but in all honesty, if you have a muffin top or two over top of the muscle, you're not going to feel like you've accomplished much.

Then I heard about Bonk Training. Here is an excerpt from www.superskinnyme.com which explains:

"Bonk or bonking refers to the point when glycogen stores are depleted. Cyclists call this bonking, endurance runners call it hitting the wall. 'Bonk training' is an exercise program designed for weight loss. It burns more fat and may improve training adaptations and fat burning.

Commonly, bonk training involves CARDIOVASCULAR exercise on an empty stomach first thing in the morning, when glycogen store levels are low, as well as consuming coffee or caffeine equivalent to 2 or 3 cups of coffee and running or cycling at a casual pace (60% of max heart rate) for 20-90 minutes. Glycogen is the only fuel that can supply and support your exercise efforts above 70% of MHR (maximum heart rate). Therefore, when you bonk, your body is forced to dip into your fat and protein stores instead.

The training session is followed by a normal breakfast. Proponents claim this strategy forces the body to "bonk" shortly into the exercise, and subsequently burn more fat to produce energy.

(You can) perform two workouts in one day. One in the morning, one in the afternoon. Complete the second workout within hours of first workout, such that there is not enough time to replenish your muscle glycogen stores between workouts and without re-fuelling with sports drinks and gels."

I bonked. Ten minutes into the cycling routine, I hit my high intensity level and sustained it for 35 minutes, keeping careful watch on my heart rate and breathing. (With ANY exercise routine, it is crucial to watch out for dizziness, chest pains or any other adverse reactions your body may be displaying. When this happens, just for your FYI, PLEASE cease your actions and call your doctor.) One of the amazing things about this, you reach a point where you are not panting or feel out of breath, although you are pushing your body to a limit. It's almost as if your body is "one" with the exercise. After it was over, I came way from it with more energy than I've felt before with ANY routine I've tried and I ate a great breakfast.

My energy level is through the roof.

This isn't right for everyone. Just make sure if you decide to "try" it, clear it with your doctor first.

Happy Wednesday, guys!

  
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GREGGWEISBROD 11/28/2013 8:42AM

    I researched a lot this time around the fat burning block, and the actual process you've described that's happening in your body is called Ketosis - I suspect bonking is in reference to having to be 'bonking mad' to wake up early and exercise on an empty stomach, lol - bonking mad in a good way of course. Ketosis is the foundational concept behind how our bodies use up our fat stores. It's all incredibly fascinating. You can use a pretty safe method though if you work out how many calories you burn in a day and then divide by 24 - gives you a rough hourly number that's more than safe to use as a guide. This way you can assume if you burn 100 calories an hour naturally, and eat 400 calories at lunch, then your body will have burned through all of the glycogen that's easily derived from that 400 calories (usually carbs - since fat and protein metabolize slower). I used this knowledge throughout my weight loss to make sure that my body had depleted the majority of it's calories before I would workout before dinner. It's a very similar concept to bonking in the morning. The target heart rate is to ensure that your body doesn't demand more energy faster than the process of ketosis can provide for, because if you do, then it starts to draw the energy from your muscle tissue and your organs even... and I'm officially rambling, lol. I've a lot more to say even! :-D I've been meaning to post something about all of this - I may use some if this comment as part of that. :-D Hope you're having an amazing day so far, Happy Thanksgiving. I love that not many people are likely to read your history of thoughts, so my comments are almost like personal messages now, lol.

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AZCUPCAKE 1/20/2011 8:16AM

    Wow - just saying the word BONK makes me laugh! It has to be wonderful if it makes one laugh, right?! Can't wait to hear more about it! emoticon

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BIONICBETH 1/13/2011 8:57PM

    LMAO! This is the first time I've heard "Bonking" in a Positive way. To me, when I Bonk, I'm pretty much at the point that I would trade my bike for a hamburger! (Which is to say, my stomach started digesting itself two hours ago!)

Glad you found something to help you sleep...and help keep you motivated. Though you have re-confirmed your insanity!

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ISHIIGIRL 1/13/2011 6:10PM

    I didn't know it was called bonk training but I do this every morning. I don't usually get my second workout in until later in the evening though. Good luck, glad you found something you like!

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STARTINGINLIMBO 1/13/2011 4:50PM

    Sounds interesting

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SUGARBABY60 1/13/2011 12:52AM

    What was that Spark guy said? SLOW and STEADY wins the race.Fads are just that FADs They do not sustain a lifestyle change. (sorry to rain on your parade) as in all things in life I believe in Balance.

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FLEMIDG 1/12/2011 11:53PM

    So glad you found something that is working for you. Keep up the good work and let us know how you are doing.

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CHERIRIDDELL 1/12/2011 11:30PM

    Glad to hear this worked well for you!

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LADYVIDORA 1/12/2011 11:21PM

    When I saw the title of your bloc I said out loud, "Bonk training?" And my husband said "sign me up for some of that!"
Needless to say, he was very disappointed to find it was a cycling routine.

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LADYVIDORA 1/12/2011 11:20PM

    When I saw the title of your bloc I said out loud, "Bonk training?" And my husband said "sign me up for some of that!"
Needless to say, he was very disappointed to find it was a cycling routine.

:-D

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BKNOCK 1/12/2011 9:46PM

    You go girl! Keep us posted on your bonking!

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NANALD 1/12/2011 7:32PM

    Never heard of it but it sounds like a plan! Keep us posted on how it's going. Good luck!

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KEKEIKO 1/12/2011 6:49PM

    I'm glad this bonking is working for you. It's so exciting to try something new. After you finish your morning routine that's when you would take your morning vitamins as your body is quick to absorb them. Keep on drinking water to hydrate. If you perform P90X in their DVD's they drink water throughout exercising. Strength to you on your workouts! Hugs, Keke

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STAYCXL-NOMORE 1/12/2011 4:30PM

    Congrats on finding a new exercise you like, I am gonna have to look into this bonk thing. Have a great week bonking those pounds off !!! emoticon

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GRACEFULIFE 1/12/2011 4:18PM

    I can't do it. Any sort of training in even a semi-fasted state just becomes unbearable really quickly for me, and I can't sustain any sort of intensity for any reasonable length of time.

"Therefore, when you bonk, your body is forced to dip into your fat and protein stores instead. "

This statement bothers me. Forcing your body to dip into fat stores is great by everyone's agreement, but forcing it to dip into protein stores? That basically means eating muscle. That's counterproductive to my plan for BEEFCAKE.


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CALIMAN1 1/12/2011 3:33PM

    Thanks for the bonk education...I read about bonking when I was contemplating a marathon....the only suggestion i would make based on limited experience is, as with all things, balance the bonk training with regular training when your glycogen levels are adequate or more than adequate....I don't want to see you all bonked out after a couple weeks! You'd be absolutely bonkless and who wants that?????

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KATVHALE 1/12/2011 3:08PM

  I learn something new every day! I had never heard of this before today, Michelle. It sounds very interesting but I am not sure I can do it. If it works for you that is awesome! Please be careful and keep us posted as to your progress. Maybe this will help you work through your Lupus problems?

Thanks for teaching us something new today!

Kat

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LIZZYP609 1/12/2011 2:46PM

    I used to do this in the mornings only. Only I didn't know what it was called! I had enough energy that I didn't get the "afternoon sleepy" until 6pm (instead of 3!). I have tried to do it in the afternoon but my sugar levels sometimes drop which is dangerous and sometimes makes me physically sick. not sure why I can do it in the morning and not in the afternoon...just another reason to get back into my early morning routine!

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CARTOONB 1/12/2011 2:23PM

    I'm glad you found an exercise program that seems to work for you. Of course, you would find "bonking". emoticon

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OLDERDANDRT 1/12/2011 2:22PM

    This is great! Going to tell my DD about it as she seems to remain concerned about her tiny muffin top post partum. Baby is 17 months old tomorrow, so she feels "fat"! Thanks for the link. Gonna check out this site!!! Don't bonk yourself out, now! Be careful, but have fun!! You amaze me all the time! You are emoticon

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THEMIGHTYLEX 1/12/2011 1:35PM

    I'm going to give this a try. Though, I refuse to call it "bonking"

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MINENA1 1/12/2011 1:13PM

    WOW!! You ROCK Michelle!!! That's incredible! BONK away girlfriend! emoticon

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BIKERBABE2BE 1/12/2011 1:07PM

    Sounds interesting....let me know how the rest of your day goes.

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ONEREALLYBIGDOG 1/12/2011 1:07PM

    I tried it this morning and it wasn't for me.

DW bonked me on the head when I could decide what I wanted for breakfast!

Maybe tomorrow, she'll go to work and I can try it "the other way", LOL

Good for you for finding something new and exciting

Keep us informed and be careful, Brian might try to bonk you like MY DW did!

Have a GREAT Hump/Bonk Day

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Imagine THAT!

Sunday, January 09, 2011

I usually don't watch a lot of television. I average around three hours tops A WEEK and even then I'm busy getting into other things and miss half of the show. I have found that when I sit and watch the boob tube, I eat. A lethal combination for someone of my height and build. I'm the type of person, if I look at something, it's hanging off of my hips the next day.

Lately I've been using some visualization techniques that a SparkFriend told me about. She said that when there is something REALLY tempting me to visualize eating it in my mind, envision feeling the textures and the tastes in my mouth. Enjoy it, savor it, then tell my myself that I am full and I am finished. At first I thought, "Okay, this is a little WEIRD..." but it was working for me! Plus, when I want something really sinful, I will visualize myself in a little pink bikini or hiking up a mountain, not getting winded. I thought that I had found something that clicked with my warped little mind and I was becoming quite the master of my temptations until....

During the play-offs today, one of those nasty little restaurant commercials popped up. There, before me, was a beautiful chicken wrap. Ohhh, I could sooo go for that. But NO! I was going to envision myself in my bikini. Closing my eyes, I saw myself sitting on the beach in the Bahamas, not a sag or muffin top in sight. Then something odd happened. Suddenly the chicken wrap was in a bikini. Not good. Opening my eyes, clearing my head, I tried again. Bikini chicken wrap! WTH!??

Feeling quite disturbed, I flipped through the channels and watched some guy shake a "Shake Weight" for about sixty seconds, then flipped it back onto the game. All was well for about fifteen minutes then Dairy Queen decided to rear its ugly head. Again, closing my eyes, I envisioned a snow-capped mountain in the distance and the act of lacing up my hiking boots. Looking up, in my mind, I saw the mountain, snow tops glistening in the sunny sky...with a cherry on top.

Another thing, what is it with some guys, like guys named Brian, who insist on putting pizza on a plate and setting it in front of me?

"Aw, c'MON, honey, one piece won't hurt you!"
"There's four pieces on it."
"Just eat one."
"Just go away."
"Just eat it!"
"Just BITE ME!"

It didn't stop there. After my failed visualization techniques and the pizza fiasco, I heard Mr. Slim-n-Trim rummaging through the freezer.

"What are you doing?"
"Butter Pecan?? Ice cream??"
"Lower drawer."

Two minutes later he sat a bowl of it in front of me.

I don't know what was going through his mind for doing that but I know what was going through mine. I was in a bikini, on top of a snow-capped mountain, strangling him.

But I'm proud. I didn't buckle and go to town for a chicken wrap. I didn't eat the pizza OR the ice cream. I sit here, Queen of my WillPower Domain and, most importantly, Brian is still alive and breathing.

I call that a good day.


(Photo courtesy of THEMIGHTYLEX!)

  
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GREGGWEISBROD 11/28/2013 7:41AM

    That's the sexiest looking chicken wrap I've ever seen. :-)

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ODIROM 1/12/2011 9:38AM

    Funny, but when I am going to do something horrible in the eating department, I close my eyes and envision you in a bikini too!!! (because a smoking hottie would not want to speak with me at my current weight...so I need to slim down to hang with the bikini clad cuties at the beach!)

Yay for not strangling Brian...and yay for the self control!

Have a good day, and I can't wait for Sat!!!

O

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WOLFKITTY 1/12/2011 1:55AM

    Ooh.

I have no idea why guys will sometimes do the "big temptation" thing.. Even my friend's husband the other day offered me pizza A DOZEN TIMES when I was over there to play Just Dance 2 and exercise with her. It's so weird.

Good for you for sticking to your choices, even if your mnd was playing funny little tricks on you! :D

Jocelyn

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STARTINGINLIMBO 1/11/2011 12:41PM

    Cool:)

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 1/11/2011 9:27AM

    Man oh man! Brian likes to live dangerously.

I'm glad you resisted. It can be tough but you were tougher! Great job!

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GRACEFULIFE 1/10/2011 10:01PM

    And NEVER MIND what the SHAKE WEIGHT may make you visualize! emoticon

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LASVEGASLES 1/10/2011 9:43PM

    Nice blog! The next time I need to step away from the caramel corn, I will envision something....just anything to not want to eat another piece of popcorn!

Darn those doctors at the office that sent all the paralegals big ol tins of different kinds of popcorn!! Yes, I said doctors....nice of them, huh?

Willpower is a learned thing...I keep telling myself this on the daily!

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NANALD 1/10/2011 9:20PM

    Way to go! I don't know if I am more impressed with the fact that you didn't cave in and eat the junk or that you didn't strangle the life our of your hubby! Thanks for another fun blog!

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VRADAA 1/10/2011 7:10PM

    You are AWESOME Lady!!

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FLYER99 1/10/2011 5:35PM

    Your blogs are awesome. I just stumbled upon them through a friend. I am going to have to try that "imagine" thing and visualize eating my next piece of pizza. Good Job! Laughter is the best medicine they say. Haha!
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OLDERDANDRT 1/10/2011 5:29PM

    OMG, girl!!! You are the MOST emoticon I am soooo proud of you!!! My ever-lovin' man does that stuff to me, sometimes, too. God only knows what goes through their pea brains, sometimes!! Now, if your DH was fat, you could say misery loves company, but I know that's not the case......it is in my house. Sad to say his physical fitness stint didn't last too awful long and now he looks almost like before he started and he doesn't really seem to care! Oh, well. I love him, but I can't make him do what he doesn't want to do, but he's not dragging me to the fat life with him!! You are so good and can't say it enough how proud I am of you for sticking to your guns!!!!! You go girl!!! You inspire me. Gonna go make me a salad!!!!

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KATVHALE 1/10/2011 4:36PM

  I am fortunate in a way that I don't have to worry about my DH tempting me because he is a diabetic! I hate that he has that disease but to my advantage we don't have anything unhealthy in the house for me to get into trouble!

I am always looking for diabetic desserts, however, that he can eat on occasion and I have found some really good ones right here on SP.

That visualization thingee doesn't work for me because I can see me in a bikini in my current body and that is not a good thing for anyone to see, not even me!

Kat

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AZCUPCAKE 1/10/2011 3:55PM

    Once again, every time I read a blog of yours, the world is a brighter place. I miss you, Michelle! I have been sidelined by some serious health problems my dad is having, and my parents live down in Tucson, so I have been DRIVING quite a bit. I haven't had the "umph" to get on Spark much, even though I really am trying not to jump off the healthy eating wagon. I can't say I have made much progress, but then, I haven't lost my mind yet either, and if you ask my husband Philip, that is HUGE in and of itself!
I think of you more than you can possibly know; I look forward to seeing you this summer, Girlfriend! I sure hope you and Brian are still planning on making tracks to the southwest to see those beautiful grandbabies of yours! Love you lots!
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DARLENEK04 1/10/2011 2:21PM

  Congrats on not strangling Brian. Sorry, David does me the same
way. As soon as my jeans begin to look the slightest bit looser, he
decides he cannot live one omore day on the diet without a big bowl of
icecreamwithchocolatesyrupandwh
ippedcream. We came back from
my sons in June and I actually lost almost 7 pounds on the trip....guess
where he just could not live without eating dinner???? Yep, a fish and
chips joint that I shall not name so i dont get sued. He does it every time.
I am not showing him anymore weight losses where I write them down on
my dresser, I will put them in a notebook. Maybe I can lose a few w/o him
noticing.........

Sig
ned,
Someone who is disappointed in their???????? support???????system.

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CALIMAN1 1/10/2011 1:45PM

    Hmmm, I tried that visualization thing, too....all I can say is...I don't look so good in a pink bikini.

But, seriously, wtg on not strangling Brian and not giving in to the mounds of food stuff.....

Well done...Gerard would be proud!

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CBAILEYC 1/10/2011 1:37PM

    I visualized your visualization. I laughed out loud. People here at work looked at me. It was completely worth it!

Very good day indeed!
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BKNOCK 1/10/2011 12:38PM

    LOL, you crack me up! Thanks, I needed a laugh today!

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LIZZYP609 1/10/2011 11:27AM

    Oh how easily they forget! I call my husband the DEVIL! GET BEHIND ME DEVIL!!!

One breath they are saying...."oh I am so proud of you for doing such a good job at taking care of yourself" then the next thing you know they handing you dark chocolate...a whole BAG of them! (ummmm Dove Dark Chocolate....)

Great job on the self control Michelle! You are my hero! :-)

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SKILL133 1/10/2011 10:37AM

    HAHAHHAAH good stuff and good job on the will power. Wish I could say the same, but I fell for the Hooters Wings commercial. Can you blame me? LOL

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KEKEIKO 1/10/2011 10:18AM

    Uh huh ... had a good day! Yep! But you took my great response ... just had to throw in the DQ didn't you! emoticon

How about ... Keep a bottle of whipped cream in the refrigerator (well maybe you already do, I dunno emoticon) and every time Mr. Skinny offers you something unhealthy pull out your bottle, shake well [the bottle, not you, tee he he) and cover it in whipped cream. Now c'mon you're not going to want to eat whipped cream all the time, right emoticon

Or maybe you do emoticon

Congrats on being strong! emoticon

You won this round! emoticon emoticon

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KAILYNSTAR 1/10/2011 9:33AM

    Ooh, nothing worse than having a man sit beside you with ice cream!

That happened to me two nights ago. I was not impressed yet, I managed to ignore him. The sad thing is is that he offered to get a bowl of ice cream for me too. I mean, he is always offering and I have to decline all of the time.

I know that I am awful for eating in front of the t.v. I have cut down lots though I am proud to say! I realized that I was teaching my kids that you have to eat when watching, and that is so not true.

Good for you for not relenting to your urges. You are the master.


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JOHNTJ1 1/10/2011 8:29AM

    Definitely a win-win, LOL, especially for Brian.

Our minds are the most powerful tool we posses. When we can channel that knowledge to help us it's absolutely amazing, isnt it?

Love Ya

John

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JILLWILSON2102 1/10/2011 7:43AM

    Well thank goodness on all counts, but seriously I would have canned Brian big time! emoticon

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EAGLE101 1/10/2011 7:31AM

    Great symbolism. Heck of a story/blog.

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1NICUBABE 1/10/2011 7:28AM

    That is a spectacular day! I unfortunately caved to the wings that Barry wanted for dinner. I really think that what with the obesity epidemic of this country that the FCC should outlaw food commercials past noon!

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FLEMIDG 1/9/2011 11:42PM

    Wonderful blog, Michelle. Good for you for passing up on all those calories. You have great will power. Boy, Brian sure is lucky to be alive, isn't he (lol). You are doing great. Don't give up. The visualization technique sounds interesting. Maybe I'll give it a try.

Talk to you soon

Darlene

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SUGARBABY60 1/9/2011 11:22PM

    Good for you and by the look of the comments here I think we better start thinking about starting a BUTTER PECAN Spark TEAM (my very favorite ice cream by the way) No , I guess we should all just learn a little good visualization!

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THEMIGHTYLEX 1/9/2011 11:17PM

    Good job keeping the willpower burning. I've been going strong by imagining that anything bad for my waistline will make me sick. When a friend dropped off a bunch of chocolate treats, I pictured them making me nauseous. Soon the sight of wicked foods will turn my stomach.

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ELYMWX 1/9/2011 10:57PM

    I'm just surprised that you didn't end up visualizing a DQ banana split that had been made in a bikini.

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BLAKBIRD 1/9/2011 10:55PM

    Butter Pecan, wow you really do have some amazing will power. emoticon

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DREMARGRL 1/9/2011 10:52PM

    Ahhh....the good ole football munchies......DANGEROUS for sure!
Enjoyed your blog. Oh...I also use visual stimulation. Had a closed MRI last week and had to be in there for 45 minutes. I definitely use it in uncomfortable situations and have for many years.....It's an extremely valuable tool! Glad you've got it down, too. LIVE STRONG AND HAVE A NICE, NEW WEEK!
XO MaryAnn (visualizing me...in that bikini....soaking up the sun in Bermuda! Yeh! emoticon

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USFBULL 1/9/2011 10:31PM

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ONEREALLYBIGDOG 1/9/2011 10:29PM

    OMG
it works

I sat here and closed my eyes,
and what did I see?

I envisioned you watching the Chiefs lose to the Ravens who will whoop up on the Steelers and while you were watching that, you were a succulent chicken breast wrapped in a flour tortilla with Butter Pecan Ice Cream melting all over your breasthen I woke up and ...


ROTFL

Sure which I had some of that butter pecan ice cream though!

Thanks for inSPiring me to use that visualization technique

I'll have to keep it in my arsenal of FUN stuff to do.

Have a Wonderful Week and keep on imagining that!

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JUNEBUG150 1/9/2011 10:27PM

    Good for you! I'm proud of you. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CHERIRIDDELL 1/9/2011 10:00PM

    LOL Like you I don't watch alot of tv mostly because I am tempted to snack while Ido.I have found a solution though I do my exercises while I watch !I have a husband who eats like Brian but since he is in Afghanistan for another 6 months he is not tempting me now!

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GEEMAWEST 1/9/2011 9:54PM

    My DH does exactly the same thing. "One piece won't hurt" , very frustrating. I also love butter pecan ice cream, good thing I don't feel good or I might be tempted.

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 1/9/2011 9:54PM

    Oh, what a great way to finish my day.... to read your blog!!! Thank you! I smiled and chuckled, and I loved it... as I ate my rice cake instead of ice cream!

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CARTOONB 1/9/2011 9:50PM

    Brian is alive?!? That is a GREAT day! Congratulations on that...and not caving. Football is dangerous! I've wanted nachos and chips and dip and pizza and wings and fried chicken and...you get the idea...all day!!!

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Shine On, Patti.

Friday, January 07, 2011

(This is my fifth blog which details an individual who touched my life....)

Patti loved to have her nails manicured. They were her pride and joy; long, exact, buffed to perfection. Sometimes she would have them painted scarlet red, but most times you would find them in baby pink with a touch of white at the tips. We often talked about her long beautiful fingers and I agreed that she could most definitely be a hand model for an upscale fashion magazine. She would smile a schoolgirl smile and hold her head a little higher when I spoke of this, so I said it to her quite often.

Patti also loved blouses in bright loud colors. You could see her coming a mile away, rolling her wheelchair down the long narrow corridor. Usually with some tidbit of gossip that she wanted to share with me, perhaps to tell me that Mr. Morrow had tried to climb into bed with her again; she would make a beeline to my nursing station to fill me in on each “juicy” detail. She would have ran if she could…her excitement usually bubbled over before she made it to my desk…but both of her legs were amputated just below the knee. They had been gone for 10+ years. Long black hair curled away naturally from her seamless face, make-up dead-on, and a push-up bra; that was Patti, who believed if one had it, one should flaunt it. She often told me the necklines to my scrubs were too high. She also gave me advice on how to wear false eyelashes that I wear to this day. I loved the day she applied my eye shadow and beamed with pride at the purple glittery landscape she created below my brows. I don’t know who got the biggest kick out of it; me, Patti or my co-workers who threatened to “pimp” me out.

Little did I know that this fashion-conscious diva was going to blow everything I had believed in out of the water when I answered her blinking call light one day. I was surprised to find her still lying in bed, hair a mess, face naked from foundation and her smile gone. I felt my heart lurch in my chest, remembering that the departing nurse had not mentioned anything wrong with her. Pushing aside my frustration at the lack of communication, I went to her side and asked her what was wrong. Looking up at me, she said these words:

“I never married. I never had children. When I am gone, what is going to be left of me? A couple of wheelchairs and two prosthetics that I never wore? The things in this little cubicle of a room are what I have in this entire world. My parents are gone, my sister is gone. This is IT. Why was I given this cross to bear?” Pulling her beautiful perfect hand to my chest, I tightly held it to my racing heart. I allowed her to speak freely, to shed her tears, to unburden her heavy heart. She needed to do that. I refrained from the usual, “It’s going to be alright.” because it wasn’t. Not for Patti. She knew this, I knew this and she needed to voice her soul. Finally, spent from emotion, she looked at me with tear-stained cheeks and made me promise to live my life with pride and ambition. She made me promise to never take anything for granted and to be grateful for the blessings that I have in my life. But the thing that stuck out the most was to love, dance, laugh all of the days of my life and if I could, to please do it for her sometimes.

It wasn’t long before Patti was back at it again and a few times I caught her goosing Mr. Morrow in the butt as he passed by. I would catch her sitting across the hall from Mamie talking about hiding the pudding in the flower pots in the lobby and cornering the night shift RN because he was so "hot." She started to deteriorate a few months later and wasn’t long before she could not find the strength to get out of bed. With a heavy heart, I would still do her nails. The best that I could do. Mr. Morrow came to sit with her quite often and I would find him in the middle of the night tenderly caressing the hair from her face. On my round one evening, I found him lying in the bed beside her. Although it was against company policy, I gently shut the door and pretended that I did not see. I instructed the nurse’s aides to pretend that they did not see either.

When Patti passed, I went to Mr. Morrow’s room where he sat in silence. I did not go to his room often as he was not a patient of mine. But there I found the pictures of Patti, tacked on his corkboard, pictures that she had in her room at one time or another. There were pictures of her throwing her head back as she “danced” with the Elvis impersonator at a community party. I cried when my eyes caught the one of her in the thick of things at the “slumber party” taken a year before. She was waving her blush brush and smiling with lips of scarlet red to match her nails, about to tackle a lady who looked as if she had been ambushed and kidnapped by Patti herself. The truth be known, she most likely had been.

“She was a beautiful woman, you know that?”
“Yes, Mr. Morrow, I know.”

Patti, your legacy lived on. You DID touch lives. I often find myself thinking of you, especially when I think I can’t put one foot in front of the other. So, I do it anyways, just so you will know that I heard you that day, just so I know that I heard you and that your words were not in vain. No more excuses. No excuses for me.

No more excuses for YOU guys either. Get UP. Love, dance and laugh all the days of your life from this day on.

Don't take your ability to do so for granted one more day.


  
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LASVEGASLES 1/10/2011 11:52PM

    WoW....

That should have started with some kind of warning that tissues would be needed!!

That was beautifully written and Patti would have loved the way you endeared her to us!

WoW....

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AZCUPCAKE 1/10/2011 3:59PM

    Patti would be so proud of you. I do believe she is one of your guardian angels these days! Thank you for sharing this lovely woman with all of us. emoticon emoticon

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SUGARBABY60 1/9/2011 11:34PM

    every time I read one of your blogs I cry ....either from Joy and silliness or from ,well you know.......thank you for bringing my emotions to the surface and thank you for being ...YOU

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WHEEZELO 1/8/2011 10:44PM

    Thanks so much for sharing.

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PATTISPAGE 1/8/2011 5:12PM

    Beautiful story, thanks for sharing! Your blog title in a friends feed caught my attention for obvious reasons... thanks for the reminder of how others have impacted our lives, if we just stop to appreciate the journey.

~ Patti - a younger and probably not nearly as fiesty one!

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KATVHALE 1/8/2011 3:35PM

  You are so blessed to have met and known so many "Pattis" in your life. God put them all there to help you get through your life with love, laughter, compassion and sharing.

Now go out and dance with Brian!

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JILLWILSON2102 1/8/2011 9:32AM

    emoticon emoticon Michelle you have been blessed to have encountered many remarkable people. Thank you for sharing this story!

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CHERIRIDDELL 1/8/2011 1:50AM

    Patti was lucky to have had you in her life .You bring a bit of joy to every life you touch.Thank you Michelle we are better for having you in our lives. hugs,Cheri

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FLEMIDG 1/8/2011 12:02AM

    Another beautiful story, Michelle. I love the way you write. You always make the story come alive. I am so glad you were there for Patti so that she could have someone to talk to. You are such a compasionate and loving person. Thanks for that awesome message. We do take too many things in our life for granted. I will be reminded of this each time I start to feel sorry for myself.

Thanks again for being such a beautiful, loving and caring person.

Love you. God bless you.



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RACINGSLUG 1/7/2011 11:51PM

    That was beautiful, and so are you.

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CARTOONB 1/7/2011 10:43PM

    I KNEW you were going to make me cry and I read this anyway. Darn you! Well written and great message. Gotta go dance now.

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DARLENEK04 1/7/2011 7:34PM

  You have such a caring heart Michelle...
Thanks for sharing the story of Patti...

Hugs,
Darlene

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HDHAWK 1/7/2011 7:07PM

    Patti would be proud. She has touched many lives through your stories. emoticon

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PCOH051610 1/7/2011 6:14PM

    Wow! What a powerful story and to think I just stumbled across it. I'm going to check out your other blogs because you write with such conviction, it is like having a story teller talking away to me!

Susan

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KAILYNSTAR 1/7/2011 6:02PM

    Living, dancing and loving!!!! emoticon emoticon

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 1/7/2011 5:51PM

    Michelle, you always leave me full! Full of the joy of knowing that there are people like YOU in the world who really and truly CARE! Thank you for seeing the special things in people that so often get overlooked! Oh, you are dear to my heart and I look forward to these blogs! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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STIPER23 1/7/2011 5:39PM

    Thank you for another touching story. Patti was right, don't take life for granted. I needed that reminder.

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ONEREALLYBIGDOG 1/7/2011 5:18PM

    Yet another wonderful story from you, Michelle!

I'm getting smarter or wiser, yea, that't it

I was always Bud Wiser

I grabbed my tissues PRIOR to reading

Keep up your great work

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MINENA1 1/7/2011 3:56PM

    Wow! What a beautiful story. Thank you so much for sharing this.

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JOHNTJ1 1/7/2011 3:48PM

    What touches me about this blog and your others is the genuine caring and sensitivity you show towards the people in your life. I am grateful you have touched my life.

Much Love

John

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GEEMAWEST 1/7/2011 3:44PM

    Another beautiful story. Thanks, Michelle.

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LADYVIDORA 1/7/2011 3:34PM

    beautiful story.

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    Touching story, thanks for sharing her with us!!! emoticon

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LINDAKAY228 1/7/2011 3:09PM

    Thanks so much for sharing this story. As someone who also works with the frail older population I know how much they can touch our lives. Your story brought tears to my eyes.

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KRITTERKEEPERS 1/7/2011 2:41PM

    I can feel the love you have for your patients. They were blessed to have you for their nurse. Thank you for bringing me to tears today!
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TXDREAMSPINNER 1/7/2011 2:03PM

    She sounds like an amazing woman. You were lucky to have her in your life and it sounds like she was lucky to have you in her's. Thank you for sharing this.

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MIYASEDAI 1/7/2011 1:39PM

    You have a true talent for writing. If you don't already write professionally... look into do it. You have a gift. Thank you for sharing your gift with us today (both the message and how it was delivered.) I'm weaping with a smile. *hugs*

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BKNOCK 1/7/2011 1:10PM

    Wow, what a beautiful blog! Nothing like sitting at work crying!

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Day One...One More Time

Wednesday, January 05, 2011

I was going through my house the other day looking for things that my daughter might have forgotten to pack for the trip back to campus last Saturday. In some small part of my mind, I figured, if it was important enough, I could take it to her this weekend; it would be an awesome excuse to get back up there to see how she is doing. So far, I've only ran across a comb and a pair of socks. Of all the wonderful things I can say about my daughter, I can now also add "thorough." I'm not going to lie and say that this transition has been easy. I've even done a few things I shouldn't have, like raid the refrigerator, curse out the treadmill and text her nonstop, but I'm getting better. Slowly. I think.

It didn't help matters when she called me at midnight the other night and said that her laptop quit working. I was trying to calm her down and guide her through some various exercises that might help it spring back to life. (Yes, Barb and G-ma, ME!) "Nothing!" she would say, getting increasingly agitated and worried. It was comforting for me to comfort her. I felt like me again, taking care of my baby girl. About 2 a.m., when the problem was still not resolved she said, "It's okay, Mom. I'm going to bed but we can work on it tomorrow." I asked her, "Do you want me to come up and look at it for myself??" Yawning, she replied, "No, my friend James is going to come by. But if he can't fix it, you can come up." Crossing my fingers, I went to bed with a smile on my face. It sounds twisted, but, hey, I was looking forward to seeing her.

The next day she texted one word. "Success!"

Apparently, James is quite the computer whiz. (The little snipe.) I texted her back and said, "Do you still want me to come up just to make sure??" Her reply, "Nope, it's okay. We got it. But thanks!"

You would think that by now my apron strings would be a little shorter. Or that I would be out doing what I wanted to do instead of hanging on every little word my daughter had to say. Brian asked me the other day why I don't "dote" on the other kids like I do Beanie and I said that Beanie is my baby. She is a mini-me. He said, "Well, don't be so sure. Apparently she's moving on. You aren't."

Ouch.

Okay, so maybe I AM a little annoyed at the thought that she is finding ways to be her own person. Wow...that's coming across as really selfish, isn't it? You know what? It is what it is. I admit it. I AM being selfish. I've taught my daughter from day one to be self-sufficient, to make decisions and be her own girl. Now that she's doing that, I feel lost. Plain and simple. Ohhh, don't get me wrong. You ALL know how proud I am of that young woman. You have read my blogs, seen my pictures of her, you KNOW that I am on cloud nine with this girl. I don't have a beef with her, ya know. I have it with ME.

Sooooo....since I'm not going up to see her this weekend, I'm going to take the first step to reclaiming MY life. Let's call it a little knock in the head with the Reality Hammer. It's not just the fact that I am not a full-time mom now that's bothering me. It's the fact that I have put limits on myself in so many other ways. It's the fact that I have allowed other things to dominate my thinking that have caused me to doubt who I am. It's even changed the way I do things. I have allowed the past, my grief in other areas, to dictate my heart, my head. It's time to start finding out who I am. Deep down. Believe me, there's a lot of muck and mire to sort through, so it's not going to happen overnight. I know there is a lot of CRUD to purge through so, frankly guys, it's now or never.

I do know one thing...God is beside me. Plus, I have some of the most incredible friends beside me, too. At least I'm not doing it alone. It's time to stand up and be held accountable, for myself.

You guys with me?

  
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AZCUPCAKE 1/10/2011 4:03PM

    I am taking notes from you on how you love Beanie from afar....you make it look easy, but in fact I know it is hard. My turn comes in less than a year, and I will need to look back at all of your blogs about not being too much of a helicopter-mom (hovering-hovering!!!), and still being there at the drop of a hat if need be. You really know how to strike a healthy balance! emoticon

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SDPARTON 1/6/2011 11:06PM

    Your an awesome MOM! I am sure Beanie knows how lucky, blessed, she is to have such a wonderful mother! I know how you feel, my son will be 21 in April. I am so very proud of him, the man he has turned out to be! He works full time (12 hours a day) and goes to college full time! Sometimes.....I just want to have my child back, to change the way his life turned out, because of my husband and I! He had to become a father to his three younger siblings in 8th grade, because of his father's addiction to pain medication. He lost his childhood over a little pill. He tries so very hard! His grade point average this semester was a 3.6! I am so very proud of him!
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KATVHALE 1/6/2011 12:53PM

  Why don't you purchase a webcam for Beanie and yourself and then get a skype account and you can see each other when you talk? You both might have cameras already in your 'puters, I don't know... We just got a webcam so Norm can visit with his daughter and Grandson. (You do understand what I am talking about right? emoticon )

We all have to adjust to the empty nest syndrome sooner or later and just pray that we brought our children up to know and love the Lord and be able to function responsibly in the real world! Beanie will do just fine but sounds like we all need to pray really hard for you! emoticon

I love ya!

Kat

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RACINGSLUG 1/6/2011 10:20AM

    You have given your daughter such a tremendous gift to love and support her the way you do. I love my Mom so much but our relationship is at times incredibly painful because of her mental illness. I definitely did not have that connection with her when I was in college so I recognize how valuable it is that you two can be so close during such a difficult transition period.

I can't imagine what it must be like to have to let go (literally cannot imagine - no children yet) but if your girl is as extraordinary as you say, then you know she's going to be just fine. You've spent a huge chunk of your life taking care of someone else, and now is your chance to focus on what YOU want and who YOU are. I think you will find that your relationship with your daughter will change as mine did with my mother when I began to become my own person. That transition might be rough, but you will find a kind of liberation there, because you will start meeting her as an equal, as a friend, instead of constantly needing to sublimate your own needs to serve hers. From now on, she's the one who meets her own needs, and this opens up so many exciting possibilities for your new relationship. I think you are on the right track getting back to yourself, I think ultimately that will be the best thing you can do for both of you.

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JOHNTJ1 1/6/2011 9:16AM

    My baby is going to 24 in March. I still call him three or four times a week just to see "what's up." I text him also. It's hard to move on and to realize that somewhere in the dim and distant past that you actually had a life and it didnt include those wonderful people God entrusted you with to raise.

A good priest friend gave me a tip that's served me well. Each night, before I go to sleep, I pray for each of my kids and end with this request to God, the ultimate father, "And, hey, God, take care of them, okay? They're your kids too ya know?"

Love Ya

John

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JUNIAATROME 1/6/2011 1:48AM

    I'd add something - but it's all been said including: Did you really mean to go up there and 'fix' that girl's computer?! emoticon

However, I am trying to find reasons why it should be our budget's priority for me to fly to Ireland these days. We didn't even see our 'baby' for Christmas.... emoticon emoticon

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THEMIGHTYLEX 1/5/2011 11:10PM

    I'm with ya all the way, sis. Rediscovering yourself, re-purposing yourself, and even just being yourself is something we are constantly doing throughout our lives. You're going to build something more wonderful than you can imagine in the days to come.

As far as the bulk of the blog, having a stronger attachment or bond with a particular family member/child isn't unusual. My brother and I are by far closer than we are with anyone else in our family. You and your daughter have a friendship. Letting go of a friend, even temporarily isn't easy. Don't think of it as your mini-me leaving the nest instead see your friend heading out for adventure. When she returns, you will BOTH have a lot to share and catch up on, as long as you remember to have adventures too!

Lot's of love Squirt. You're gonna be alright.


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CHERIRIDDELL 1/5/2011 11:06PM

    We are always with you.My daughter just got her Masters from the London School of Economics (I let her go all that way on her own but I did sort out a few things for her while she was over there ,I speak the lingo you know!) Yet I amlmost had a melt down when she bought a house on the other side of the city (not to worry she phones every night ! Even though I did teach her to be independant she likes to chat with dear old MUM!) Don't worry Beanie will manage on her own but you will always be her Mom ! emoticon

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JENNA3FROG 1/5/2011 10:28PM

    Good luck and best wishes as you find yourself :)
And this blog gave me a bit of a mini-panic attack ... this will be me before I know it. My oldest is 16 and will be a senior next year and then it will be ... gulp ... college! I SO hope she goes someplace close ... I'm not ready!!!!

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GEEMAWEST 1/5/2011 10:07PM

    Wait until she calls you and tells you that she got great grades! You will rejoice together just like I did with my daughter last night. Even though she is clear across the country we are still in this together. Just like you and your baby girl. She will always need you to tell the good and the bad stuff to. No one can take that away from you, not even James.

And, of course we're with you. We've put up with you this long haven't we?

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CARTOONB 1/5/2011 9:18PM

    Beanie asked you to fix her laptop?!?!?! She must have thought that since you couldn't actually touch it, it wouldn't implode! LOL!

It's nice to be needed by someone. It sucks when they don't need you as much anymore...even when that's what your goal was in the first place. Good luck wading thru the muck and mire. Hope you like what (who?) you find.

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STARPESCADO 1/5/2011 7:38PM

    Your daughter is so lucky & blessed to have the great love that U have for her.
You are going to be OK, and I think that you taught her to be so independent is the best thing you can teach a girl.

Hugs!

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WALKOFFWIN 1/5/2011 7:20PM

    Of course we are!!! Hang in there, because you're now headed in the right direction. Self knowledge is a very good thing, even when what we know, tells us we need to change and improve on some things. So add another day to day one, and another, and another, and the day will come when you see a big neon sign that says "Welcome to Your New Life! You Have Arrived!"

I know it's not easy, but I also know that you can do it, Michelle!

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TRENTDREAMER 1/5/2011 6:27PM

    "You guys with me? "

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And I look forward to being there with you on this one.

So what are you going to do this weekend? What's the first step. While I always recommend visits from Ghosts, I'm sure that there are other ways.

If there isn't a SparkTeam for recent empty nesters you might want to consider joining (or starting if one doesn't already exist) one.



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NANALD 1/5/2011 6:11PM

    She is flying, that's true but she is doing it because she had such a good teacher. I know from experience that she needs some freedom but as she becomes confident in her ability to be independent she will want a new relationship with mom and it will be every bit as enjoyable as the old one. In the meantime, what a wonderful YOU you have to rediscover and explore! ENJOY!! emoticon

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DUTCHIEKIWI 1/5/2011 5:32PM

    I haven't been where you are yet, and can not give much advise except... if you need me.. I'll be here!

xoxoxo

Dutchie

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FLEMIDG 1/5/2011 5:28PM

    Michelle, I'm with you all the way. I know it is hard for you to cut those apron strings and let go, but you have taught your lovely daughter well, and she will do great on her own. Never fear, though, she will be reaching out to you when she needs some mothering again. You know what they say, if you love someone you need to let them go, in time they will come back to you.

Now it is time for you to find something to occupy your time that you enjoy. Take time to decide what you would really like to do and go for it. It is also great that you will be able to spend more time with your DH.

Good luck in whatever choices you make. God is indeed with you and He will be happy to direct your path if you call on Him. We are always there for you.

God bless you. Love you lots.

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LMB-ESQ 1/5/2011 5:02PM

    Ummm.... Michelle dear? OU has a great IT center. If she can't get her computer running, they can. Oh yeah... that defeats the purpose of you finding an excuse to go see her LOL Guess you'll have to come up with something else!

Seriously, good for you to get back to yourself. I'm trying to do that too.

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DARLENEK04 1/5/2011 4:28PM

  You have to let them grow up and move on and move out. I
know it is hard, but you want them to be self-sufficient
and mature and be amazing adults, who still want to come
home and spend time with Mom n Pop.

I think, Michelle, you have to regroup and make this time
about you and Brian, and don't worry, your little chickees
will still come home to visit and bring all the grandkids.
At least you will have soe grandkids to enjoy...
Loveya and you get your nose out of the fridge and cookie
jar and begin concentrating on you and your own health, by
which will help Brian also....
Love you baby, you are a good mommy, but you have to let her
spread her wings...and fly.

I love you,
MommaD

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OLDERDANDRT 1/5/2011 4:05PM

    Hey, sweetie, you'll always be her mom. She just doesn't need quite as much "mothering" right now, but from time to time, a girl needs her mommy. My DD is 30 with 2 kids and every once in a while a get "the call" that she wants some advice fron ME!! She is a very self-suffiecient woman and fantastic mother and wife. So, anyway, you have the opportunity to carve out a niche for you!!! Go for it!! You can do it!! One foot in front of the other!! hehe Love ya, sweetie!
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KAILYNSTAR 1/5/2011 3:40PM

    I haven't had any of my children leave as of yet. The oldest will be 15 years later this month. I am trying to raise them to be self sufficient, but I do see in the future that I will have problems with the apron strings too.

You know that saying, "Once you're a parent, you're always a parent."

Yup. I am.



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MIYASEDAI 1/5/2011 3:24PM

    I'm with you! *hugs*

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BKNOCK 1/5/2011 3:23PM

    Oh sweetie you will also survive this! We are all here for you anytime you need us because you are an awesome person who raised an awesome daughter. Don't worry she will be home again and you will still be her Momma! NOW STAY OUT OF THE REFRIGERATOR!

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SKILL133 1/5/2011 3:22PM

    Awwwwwww...this put a tear in my eye as I will be doing this some day. Fortunately for me I'm a lot younger than you and it won't happen for another 9 years. emoticon

Reclaim your life Steely. You are a full time Granny now...REJOICE!

ps. Using my words now I see - CRUD........

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 1/5/2011 2:46PM

    You are beautiful INSIDE and OUT! I love the way you mother your daughter! We have a commonality there! I love my kids much the way you do!

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CINDYC53 1/5/2011 2:41PM

    I hear you. I've had my own issues with letting my daughter (now 37) separate from me - at various times during her life. (She's the one who taught at OU!) My only child - and we're so close - but I had to keep telling myself that it was healthy for her to make her own life - and choices (that might not be mine!) I think it goes in waves - they move away from us, then reach out again for Mom - and it's that knowledge they have that we're always there that is so wonderful.

How awesome that you can see it all for yourself - and you're finding ways to fill the void.
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1NICUBABE 1/5/2011 2:40PM

    I know exactly how you feel. It is so hard to stop being the fulltime mom and to realize that they don't need us as much anymore. Sometimes we need them more. Hang in there. I know you'll do great! emoticon

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KRITTERKEEPERS 1/5/2011 2:40PM

    Great blog! It is really hard to let go of the last one to leave the nest!
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CIVIAV 1/5/2011 2:30PM

    Totally with you and doing the same. Stretching boundaries never comes easily but I have the feeling you have done this before and will succeed again!

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CALIMAN1 1/5/2011 2:29PM

    Beanie is moving forward, but not away from her momma...she is just building on the foundation that you helped established...while it may be hard, you have equipped her well...she will be great....you will see!

As for the muck and mire, here is my hand sis...take hold and I'll be on board with ya....I'll add my muck to yours...but we'll be ok....we will.

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JACARRENO 1/5/2011 2:28PM

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Been feeling a little introspective myself lately and feeling like I need to do some purging myself ...

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Poolside Bikini Pics!!!!

Wednesday, December 29, 2010









What?! You didn't REALLY think I'd put pics up of ME in a bikini, did you?? Just thought I'd give you all a smile this evening....

(Thanks for the awesome email today, Barb!)

  
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FLYER99 1/10/2011 5:29PM

    This is amazing. How cute is this! LOL.
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AZCUPCAKE 1/10/2011 3:56PM

    Just another reason to love you....your wonderful sense of humor! I am laughing out loud!!! emoticon

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HUZZAH39 1/7/2011 11:54AM

    Too funny!!!! Thanks for the smile!

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SPARKENISTA 1/3/2011 11:05PM

    What an idea...you have a great sense of humor!

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    HHAHAHAHAHAH

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    Cute blog! emoticon

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JIMBOEHNER 1/1/2011 4:43PM

    Ive seen you in yer bikini. You rock it. You should have posted one and blew everyone's mind away. Goody two shoes.
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KAITLYNSNAMMY 12/31/2010 7:22AM

    lol! How adorable! I know my Wheaten wouldn't let me do that to her...she'd shred the bikni in a minute...wait, I don't own a bikini...no surprise there! lol

Have a beautiful day and Happy New Year too!
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DUTCHIEKIWI 12/30/2010 10:00PM

    I was looking forward to see a hot mam... but this was almost just as good!! ;0)

xoxoxoxox

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STARTINGINLIMBO 12/30/2010 9:39PM

    No, I didn't think you would, but was curious! How fun:)

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MBOURKE8 12/30/2010 9:23PM

    LOVE it! Love the weimer :-)

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LMB-ESQ 12/30/2010 8:48PM

    LOL Those are too funny! And look at all the comments you got from people who probably thought this blog was about something completely different!! emoticon

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GEEMAWEST 12/30/2010 8:37PM

    Look at how many people commented on this blog. Actually, look at how many people came to this blog hoping to see something else.
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KATVHALE 12/30/2010 6:41PM

  How shameful; those huzzies.... emoticon



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PARKIE 12/30/2010 5:46PM

    you are too funny!! emoticon

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OLDERDANDRT 12/30/2010 4:39PM

    OH! I see you posted pics from this summer's Diva swim party!!! Hehe!! Sweet!!! (And I like the triple top on that petite Diva!!! Very trendy!!) LOL

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BKNOCK 12/30/2010 3:02PM

    Too funny!

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CHRIS3215 12/30/2010 3:00PM

    WOW SEXY LADY!!!!!
NOW you need to lose the hair & tail!!!!!!
TOO FUNNY!!!


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KEKEIKO 12/30/2010 1:45PM

    That's just not right! emoticon

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JRDIAMOND4 12/30/2010 1:42PM

    When I read the post. My first thought was emoticon up to something. I knew it. We have to be related!!! bwahahahaha
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BIKERBABE2BE 12/30/2010 1:13PM

    Too cute! Thanks. I needed the laugh today. Happy day to you!

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DARLENEK04 12/30/2010 12:56PM

  What a bunch of cute pictures. Hows come you aren't out there
playing in the snow in a bikini??????? You'd rock one........

Darlene

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 12/30/2010 12:15PM

    LOL Thanks for the giggle. I needed it!

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LOVESLIFE48 12/30/2010 11:41AM

    Love it!!! Good one!!! emoticon

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WALKOFFWIN 12/30/2010 11:30AM

    While knowing it wouldn't be you in a bikini Michelle, when I saw the title I got over here in 1/10th of a second just in case! Because hope never dies... and I can dream, can't I? (actually already have) Lol ;o)

But LOVE the very funny pictures!!!
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The brown dog definitely has the shape to wear a bikini, but maybe someone should gently tell the little one with the triple top that she'd look a lot better in a one piece...
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WATERMELLEN 12/30/2010 9:48AM

    Too hilarious: love this!!

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EAGLE101 12/30/2010 9:21AM

    O.K. You got me, too...

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RACINGSLUG 12/30/2010 8:55AM

    I laughed!

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MINENA1 12/30/2010 8:23AM

    Ohhhh SO CUTE!!!!!!!!! emoticon

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-POLEDANCEGIRL- 12/30/2010 8:22AM

    How cute!! That is awesome!

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JOHNTJ1 12/30/2010 8:20AM

    I have to admit, that while I was waiting for this page to load I was wondering "Would i be a good friend if I didnt comment at all?"

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LINDAKAY228 12/30/2010 8:09AM

    Those are so cute! I did think from the title it was going to be you LOL! You had us going for a minute! Thanks for the smile. Have a great day today!

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ODIROM 12/30/2010 7:55AM

    Ok...I will admit, that when I saw this title flash across my screen, and then saw that it was YOU who posted the blog, I literally knocked things over on my desk to get here and see the pictures.

To answer the question that you asked at the end? Did I really think it would be pictures of you in a bikini?

WELL YEAH!!!!!

*snaps fingers*

DARN IT....

Oh well...I will wait....

Big Daddy T, naughty old man...(I would say dirty old man, but I showered this morning...)

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LIZZYP609 12/30/2010 7:47AM

    ((Giggle))

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JILLWILSON2102 12/30/2010 7:25AM

    I have seen these before and laugh every time. I do think #3 Miss Chihuahua needs SP though! emoticon

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ONEREALLYBIGDOG 12/30/2010 6:23AM

    FINALLY

Got to see some tail on SP

It's gonna be warm enough here in SW MO for me to get MY bikini out of storage. 52 degrees here now at 5:20 in the morning with a forecast high of 60 or so.

Thanks for testing my heart this morning

Have a great day

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CALGARYDAVE 12/30/2010 2:22AM

    Very good! emoticon

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LOUANN22 12/30/2010 1:43AM

    lol those pics are so awesome! i LOVE IT. I do the same thing with my dogs. especially during halloween :)

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UNSTOPPABLE_ 12/30/2010 1:24AM

    You are a little trickster...I love laughing so THANK YOU!!!

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JUNIAATROME 12/30/2010 1:20AM

    Now that certainly is the silliest idea to dress a dog! (no, I didn't think you would post your bikini pics - just wanted to see what you were up to again!) LOL

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CJWORDPLAY 12/30/2010 1:08AM

    emoticonI love laughing out loud emoticon

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DJ4HEALTH 12/30/2010 12:22AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
How long did it take you to put it on the dogs?

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PONYFARMER 12/30/2010 12:10AM

    Well at leaast she has the body for that suit. I sure don't.

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ELYMWX 12/30/2010 12:10AM

    Brat!

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THEMIGHTYLEX 12/30/2010 12:09AM

    Finally the world can see me in my nifty bikini.

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THEMIGHTYLEX 12/30/2010 12:09AM

    Finally the world can see me in my nifty bikini.

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USFBULL 12/30/2010 12:09AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 12/30/2010 12:04AM

    You! Are! A! MESS! emoticon emoticon

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FLEMIDG 12/29/2010 11:54PM

    Thanks for the pics. You sure know how to brighten someone's day.
God bless you. emoticon

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