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Knowing When To Just Cool It...

Thursday, December 23, 2010

I am a hyper person. I am what they call a "spaz." Well, at least that is what Brian calls me pretty much on a daily basis.

"What's the matter with you? Why are you such a spaz?"
"Spaz, would you please sit down?"
"You're wearing a hole in the floor....Spaz."

Usually, I just wave him off and go about my business because, hey, there's alot to be done and not very many hours in the day to do it. But lately, I have felt the need to go overtime with the holidays coming up and forcing in my workouts between each task at hand. Yesterday was particularly stressful for me because not only was I busy, I was very sentimental over the loss of my brother January 2 of this year. (It's hard to believe that in a few days, he will have been gone for a year.) So, I was trying to keep my mind off of my feelings by pushing myself extra hard on the treadmill, stationary bike and weights. Even Beanie said that I better slow down or I was going to end up like a pile of mush.

My diet has been atrocious. I haven't had much of an appetite; my daily food intake has been a bowl of cereal for breakfast, a salad for lunch, zilch for dinner and another bowl of cereal for a snack at night. The time crunch is what I've had to thank for least that's what I told myself. My sleeping pattern has also changed drastically for the last year. But the last few weeks I've actually averaged two to three fitful hours per night. I guess it was just a matter of time before I crashed. It's not a very nice way to treat a body that is already ticked off with lupus. When you make it mad, it lets you know in a not-very-nice way.

Last night, before laying down to force sleep, I stood up from the desk and the room spinned. Grabbing hold of the back of the chair, I experienced the worst pain in my chest that I've ever felt. I must have stumbled because Beanie asked me if I was alright. I couldn't speak, I couldn't breathe and she ran to her father who was asleep in the next room. Before I knew it, I was collapsed in his embrace and gasping for air. Now, I know what you all are thinking. I should have immediately went to the emergency room because, at my age, it could have been a heart attack. But with my nursing experience, I recognized it immediately for what it was. It has happened to me twice before. It was a real bona fide panic attack.

Amidst the gentle words from my daughter, amidst the calming caresses of my husband, I slowly came back to earth and realized something very very important. I was not doing anybody or myself any favors by allowing myself to get into this predicament. The body has a way of reminding you that it is very fragile; it will take back what it needs viciously and quickly if you don't give it the respect it demands. I thought I was being superwoman; my body knew I was just being selfish and ridiculous. Payback was not very nice.

As I was placed into bed by a husband with weary, tear-stained eyes, I heard him say, "I can't live without you, baby. I can't watch you do this to yourself anymore." I was ashamed. I was remorseful. Above all, I was deeply hurt that I did not give my frustrations to the Lord in my life. A dear friend of mine has mentioned our soul's "default setting" to me many times over the last few days and I now fully understand what he means. It means giving everything you got to God. It means going back to the grass roots of your spirituality where you give your cares to a Higher Being and trusting Him to take care of the matters in your life. I tried to do it all on my own. I cheated my body out of what it needed just so I could drown my frustrations in work, in my work-outs, all on a meager diet, starved from sleep. It doesn't work that way, folks. In the end, you will pay a price.

We need to know when to just cool it, guys. Life can be hectic, confusing and just downright unforgiving but you have to take care of yourself first. You're not going to be "any good" to your family or friends if you are sick and gasping for air at the end of the day. Believe me, they would much rather have you smiling and calm with a few tasks unfinished, rather than sick in the middle of spotless living room.

So, in the words of my husband, simmer down. What you don't get done today will still be there tomorrow.

Or the day after.


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HOLLIHOCK6 12/30/2010 11:45AM

    Oh, bless you, dear. Thank you for sharing.

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CHERIRIDDELL 12/29/2010 12:36AM

    I think I feel so in tune with you because I could be you.I just got the "You need to look after yourself speech from my daughter" A phone call from Afghanistan from my husband cause she squealed on me (my daughter!)! We do know how to push ourselves don't we?

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KAT573 12/28/2010 9:28AM

    It takes our Life to figure out what we need to do and what to leave to God, and then, to ACCEPT it; it changes everyday, for no two days are alike. The only thing that makes it possible for me is to realize that NOW is all I have for real, the past is done with, the future is not mine to know. Then I know I can deal with this moment, and I can only do so much in it. Peace be with you.

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VAJRA82 12/27/2010 11:19AM

    I hope you're feeling a bit better. It sounds like you thoroughly deserve (need) a staycation - a couple days off from the gym, some good company for fun, a good book/movie for relaxation, a bubble bath and a massage. For serious.

And some time to grieve, because grief doesn't even run all the way out 10 months or 10 years later.

Please take good care of yourself.

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KATVHALE 12/26/2010 8:20PM

    Girl! You need to practice what you preach! You know that you are supposed to let go and let God; so just DO IT!

"Cast all your cares upon Him because He cares for you!" I don't really have to quote Scripture to you, do I? Get a grip and give up self and give in to the Father!

I love ya little sis and I want you to be well!


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IMJUSTFLUFFY 12/26/2010 10:57AM

    Well, I hope you can get a grip because you have me in tears.
I don't deal well with stress & I have my own damaging ways which I know are not healthy. You just helped me with your blog.
Thank you. And I wish you well.
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DBFBILLY 12/25/2010 11:14AM

    Hope you are feeling better soon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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HLTHYETER 12/24/2010 11:11AM

    Anniversaries of loss of some kind are the hardest for me--likewise "sobriety birthdays." I don't deal with suffering and death well--it helped me realize I had to take early retirement to cope with some issues that just weren't going away. Thankfully, with the help of counseling, support groups, my higher power and my association with SparkPeople I am so much better. As I take on an increasing workload in the new year, I know I MUST find time for nutrition and fitness or I will be right back where I started. Please take the time to REALLY care for yourself, Michelle. Keep on keeping on.

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HMCTEXAS 12/24/2010 9:33AM

    As a psychologist, I often tell my patients that you WILL get the rest you need, one way or another. Don't wind up getting it in the hospital.

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MTRUIZ1 12/24/2010 12:23AM

  Well just have to know when to stop, when you don't feel good, because we just live once, and we have to cherish those moments we have with love ones, so take care of yourself. And I will say prayer for you, and rosary for your brother.

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GEEMAWEST 12/23/2010 10:08PM

    Michelle, Michelle, Michelle, I know I don't have to lecture you because you know what you've done and you know what you need to do. Take a chill pill and be in the moment. You owe that much to yourself.

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BKNOCK 12/23/2010 9:58PM

    Wow, you sure know how to scare people! I hope that you are resting and not quite so stressed out. I cannot imagine life with you not in it!

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SCMAMAJONES 12/23/2010 9:12PM

    Take care of yourself, darling....I just try to take deep breaths and remember the reason for the season. This is the first time in our 12-yr marriage thad we didn't send out Christmas cards, and I just had to let it go. There just weren't anymore hours in the day. Merry Christmas.

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NANALD 12/23/2010 8:01PM

    Please take care of yourself! I had to push myself to the brink before I finally got it and I am still paying for it. Don't make that mistake...please!! For me, it was partially denial that I had physical problems...if I run fast enough it won't catch me! Your body is telling you something loud and clear. I find if I don't listen to a tap, I get a kick and if I ignore the kick..until eventually I can't ignore the two by four up beside my head! Listen to your body, your family, and your friends and take care of yourself!!! emoticon

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CBAILEYC 12/23/2010 6:33PM

    What a wise husband you have. I hope you do slow down a bit and take care of yourself for your loved ones there surrounding you.

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FLEMIDG 12/23/2010 4:31PM

    Michelle, I'm so glad you are all right. You had me really worried there for a while. I understand about panic attacks, I have a niece who suffers with them. I am so glad your dh and your daughter were there for you.

You are such a giving and loving person, but you need to take better care of you. You matter too. I know your dh and your daughter would be devastated if anything happened to you, as would I.

Take some time to relax and rewind and just spend some quiet time with your family.

Have a wonderful Christmas surrounded by family and friends.

Don't forget to take your problems to the Man Upstairs. He is waiting to hear from you. He will help you through all your troubles. If you need to, take some time alone to grieve for your brother and pray about it.

I'm sending lots of love and hugs your way. Keep on smiling. You are a very special friend.


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    I started to whiz through your blog for lack of a lot of time, but I'm so glad I read it all now. I hope you will follow up with the doctor, but that's just my careful nature! I'm sure you know what you're doing! I'm just glad you're ok and that you have such a supportive family that can recognize when you need to give yourself a break! I hope your Christmas turns out wonderful, and you stay well! emoticon

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TRENTDREAMER 12/23/2010 3:55PM

    "I tried to do it all on my own. I cheated my body out of what it needed just so I could drown my frustrations in work, in my work-outs, all on a meager diet, starved from sleep. It doesn't work that way, folks. In the end, you will pay a price. "

* You give great advice. I'm glad to hear that it wasn't a heart attack and that you are OK.

At the same time, as a friend who loves you very much, I have to ask you...

What are you going to do or change in your life so that this doesn't....
A) Happen again
or worse yet
B) turn into a heart attack scenario

Acknowledging a potential problem and bringing it to God are great first steps, but they are just that.

As a friend, I care very much for you and want to see you live a long and healthy life.

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p.s. Merriest of Christmases to you!

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LINDAKAY228 12/23/2010 3:47PM

    So glad that you're okay. You mind and your body on a deeper level are probably also going through some grieving because of the anniversary of your brother's death. Once you get through Christmas, which I know you want to be "up" for, try to let it surface and don't run from it. It's really hard to do that, but it catches up with you if you don't. Don't let it take over your life but do find some things to do to honor him and your feelings. The harder you try to run away from it by staying to busy to think, the more you run the risk of another crash. Anniversaries of losses are very significant in people's lives, whether they want to face it or not. Around last Memorial Day, the first anniversary of my mom's death, I was not consciously spending time thinking about her or her death, but I found myself being irritable and moody and tired for no reason I could really pinpoint (and also feeling depressed) until I really thought about it and let the feelings (and tears) come for a little bit. Then I was able to get past it. I talked to God a lot too about what I was feeling, everything from loss to anger. It really made a difference.
Hope you take good care of yourself and have a nice Christmas with your family even though it is a time of year that brings back sad memories. And celebrate that you are alive and didn't have a heart attack!

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DARLENEK04 12/23/2010 3:19PM

  Oh Michelle, thankful it was a panic attack and not a heart attack.
Your friend is right. Life happens and we can drive ourselves and
others crazy trying to control things, but no matter how hard we try,
He is the only one who can handle things, and I learned the hard way
to turn life over to God and just trip along living life enjoying my family,
friends, and ceasing to worry over things I CAN NEITHER CONTROL OR

Take better care of you, for Brian, for Beanie, the rest of your family,
and............. for me. Okay????

Loveyou punkin,

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JENNA3FROG 12/23/2010 11:00AM

    I am SO glad that you're alright and that you were 'open' to the message your body was trying to tell you! And thanks for sharing that message with the rest of's an important one we all need to learn :) Have a restful day today and a relaxing Christmas holiday!

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ONEREALLYBIGDOG 12/23/2010 10:55AM

    It's easier said than done,
Giving your troubles to God, that is!

I'm eSPecially glad that Brian got through to you
You are SOOOOOOOO SPecial to him and all of us!

Keep the faith and REMEMBER the good!

And don't forget to take care of YOURSELF
or we'll be missin' YOU.

Stay well and don't sweat the small stuff!

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CHRIS3215 12/23/2010 9:45AM

    Glad you are going to be all right!!!
Yes we all need you here healthy & we all are here for you no matter what!!
The Holidays can be very stressful.
Hope you have a better day today & a Very nice Christmas..

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ITSALWAYSABTME 12/23/2010 8:56AM

    Panic Attacks are HORRIBLE. Thankfully its been about 12 yrs since I last had one. they really scared me as I got the heart racing so fast I thought I was going to pass out (out of the blue while driving) , and having had a heart issue since birth, the racing really freaked me out. My doctor's @ the time tried to tell me it was just too much caffeine, but when it happened after NO caffeine for days, and when panic attacks became a bit more understood. I realized what it was (this after several ekg's and echos)
I am glad you are o.k. but make sure you eat more too! Stress on our body's adds more stress on our emotions. Take Care!

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REJ7777 12/23/2010 7:29AM

    You're so right! I heard a great phrase this week : Are you living life or is life living you? It's time for you to take back the control. God never asks us to do more than we are able to do.

You're blessed to be surrounded by so much love! And they are blessed to have you. Merry Christmas! emoticon

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JOHNTJ1 12/23/2010 6:57AM

    Shoot I'm crying and it's only 5:54 AM!!!

You are a very wise person and I have come to believe that God teaches the wise His most powerful lessons so they can share them with all of creation.

Busy or still, you are a true gift from heaven and what a perfect time of year to be sharing those gifts and insights.

Large hug for you today my friend

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LIZZYP609 12/23/2010 6:46AM

    I have come to that very real realization myself lately.
I am glad you are alright. emoticon

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SWEETNEENI 12/23/2010 6:38AM

    Amen. emoticon

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PJSTIME 12/23/2010 6:34AM

    Thanks for the reminder and I am soooo glad it was just a panic attack, but it did get your attention. Be good to yourself and trust in the Lord to handle things out of your control.

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MARCYNA 12/23/2010 4:26AM

    Thanks for reminding me; glad it was just a panic attack emoticon

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LMB-ESQ 12/23/2010 2:43AM

    Yeah emoticon

I think your blog will be one of the few I continue to subscribe to while I'm on my "break" over the next few months. You always say something I really need to hear. emoticon

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HICKOK-HALEY 12/23/2010 1:52AM

    Losing someone you love so much is always hard, but remember, Brian would want you to take care of yourself as well. You're so lucky to be loved by so many people. Including the Sparkers.

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SLEEKKITTY 12/23/2010 1:32AM

    And the holiday time can be especially stressful. Take care.

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THEMIGHTYLEX 12/23/2010 1:10AM

    Take it easy, my friend. Brian and your dear friend are right; walk steady in God's grace and at a comfortable pace. Don't go giving me cause to worry.


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DEVORA4 12/23/2010 12:58AM

  Slow down! You know you should eat better so do it!

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USFBULL 12/23/2010 12:47AM

    Thank you for this post, Slow down and experience the moment is a good meditation. emoticon

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KRITTERKEEPERS 12/23/2010 12:43AM

    Great reminder for us all during the holiday season! Another thing to remember is that as a Christian wife, your body belongs to your husband as well, because you are "one flesh". You have not been taking good care of "his" body by not taking care of yourself. Please get more rest and proper nourishment so the "we" can enjoy your friendship for a good, long time!

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CARTOONB 12/23/2010 12:41AM

    I'm going to print out this blog and show it to my MIL next time she comments on my house not being spotless. emoticon

I'm sorry that you had to have a panic attack to get your brain and your body to communicate, but I'm glad that they are on speaking terms again. Take it easy and take care of yourself. emoticon

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Friday, December 17, 2010

Today I have been fighting the almost uncontrollable urge to devour the refrigerator. It's not like I have anything in there that's worth eating. There's a can of crescent rolls, olives, ketchup, frozen chicken, milk, a gift box of beef and cheese sticks and a jar of Vlasic pickles. (Okay, there might be some cinnamon rolls and chocolate milk, too.) I'm eating enough, getting my calories in for the day, but my stomach is screaming, "FEEEED ME!" What is its PROBLEM? I'm usually pretty good at ignoring its moaning and groaning, but the voice has become deafening today. I'm unusually hyper, my house is getting the work-over from my incredibly OCD-ish mannerisms and I chased my neighbor around the yard yacking his ear off. Could it be....

THAT I'M GOING TO BE A GRANDMA AGAIN for the fifth time!? YESSS!! It's TRUE! I'm so excited, so happy that I could burst from the seams! My oldest son, Bobby, the father of my two gorgeous, incredible grandtwins is having another baby...I knew that his wife was pregnant, but we were waiting with bated breath to find out what the sex is going to be. IT'S A GIRL!! After making sure there weren't two or three more in there, he called me this afternoon and told me the news. To think that a few years ago I was sad because all of my kids were growing up and I was feeling sorry for myself because there were no babies around. Now, I am drowning in them. Life is good!

My problem is, however, that my emotions have always guided my life and my stomach. Years ago, when I was sad, I ate. When I was happy, I celebrated with food. When Breanna passed calculus, I was baking a cake. When my brother passed away, I was eating the WHOLE THING. I've become diligent about not allowing that to happen lately. Sure, I've had a few setbacks, but for the most part, I've been a very good girl. But today has been a little weird/happy for me. I'm usually okay before 4 p.m. but after that, I'm looking for cookies. Or cookie crumbs. ANYTHING. I was even eye-ing up the melted ice cream on the front of Brian's shirt this evening. Not good.

So, this is a cry for help. I'm asking for an intervention. If anyone out there has a tip on how I can curb this night-time/emotional-eating dilemma, PLEASE SHARE! Please keep in mind that I live with a guy who eats anything he wants because he's thin and can get away with it. He also shoves Mallo Bars in my face and says, "It's okay, hun, you can have one." It doesn't help to not buy the stuff because he gets his own. It usually doesn't help to threaten him either. Soooo, any tried and true solutions that will help me stop this urge at night, other than taping my mouth shut or throwing Brian out of the house??

I'm all ears! Let 'er rip! ˇDelo a mí! Give it to me!

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    Ah yes...Husbands. Mine also needs to have his candy, cookies, pie, and potato chips around. He said I'm fine like I am. At 5'3" and 230 pounds, we know he is looking through rose colored glasses, or maybe they distort like a fun house mirror. My daughter thinks it is because he is jealous. I'm 63 and he is 68. What is there to be jealous about! My oldest daughter is having our first grandchild this February. We can hardly wait. I'm having cravings for GRAPEFRUIT all the time now. When I have that uncontrollable urge to eat, that is what I run for. Congratulations on the granddaughter!

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SUGARBABY60 12/29/2010 1:15AM

    I like home made vegetable soup (no meat or fat in it) but my nutritionist told me to " FRONT LOAD " with protein. in other words eat protein first. then something warm like veg soup and not a tiny cup either (hey we did not get fat eating vegetables!) Hope this helps. Oh Mallow cups my favorite but a no no ! because like the old potato chip ads ."Bet cha can't eat just ONE" emoticon

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IMJUSTFLUFFY 12/26/2010 11:06AM

celery & a bit of peanut butter?
Wheat toast or Wheat crackers & Jam?
Veggies & lite dip?
Small mixed fruit bowl.
Yogurt with some cereal sprinkled on or sunflower seeds.
Good luck there as I have a time here with my other half too! LOL

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DBFBILLY 12/25/2010 11:24AM

    I'm right there with ya on that one too emoticon I can do soooo good all day, the jepordize it at night..One of my New Year's Revolutions is to get the book, Food, God, and Love, by Geneen Roth and focus on learning about emotional's really hard for me, and I think I do it for comfort reasons...
And,on your other Cool It blog, I can soo relate, i have been having lightheaded spells, not sleeping, work stress is getting to me, and i am worried about myself too, know I need to cool it.. i do the think all of the stress has caught up with me...Today, I was supposed to travel to Columbus to see my sister for Christmas, but she just called and they have virus and I'd rather not go..and I thought, this is God's way of giving me the break I've been ENJOY it...she feels bad, since it's Christmas and we are alone, but it's alright..I'm going to enjoy the resting and next weekend we plan on getting together and celebratin with lemon martinis emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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HLTHYETER 12/24/2010 11:05AM

    Maybe get that guy of yours to focus on you--rather than himself. Tears usually make me do that! emoticon Seriously, appeal to his better self however you can and share your need for support. If he just won't give it, then tell him you are going for a drive until you can feel better--then go get that cup of tea or coffee at Starbucks, take a good book to read, do whatever it takes to get away from the food and the emotion that is affecting you so much. My 12 step group says we must use such "outer circle behaviors" (like going for a ride, reading a good book, listening to good music etc.) when we are feeling overwhelmed by our addictions. And--always--ask our higher power for help. I pray you will feel the grace you are always encouraging us to remember! Keep on keeping on, friend!

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JENAANN3 12/21/2010 9:19PM

    How about hot tea? I use a small half and half, cinnamon and nutmeg in my tea.

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    You look so young, congrats on being a grandma again.....

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FIT-WHIT 12/21/2010 9:04AM

    Oh my goodness! I CANNOT believe you are a GRANDMA! You look about 23-- babelicious! :) But congrats on the expanding family-- you have so much love to give and receive as your family grows! What joy!

As far as the eating goes... I totally hear ya! In my family, we joke about how EVERY OCCASION is marked with food. When we're celebratory, WE EAT. When we're grieving... WE EAT. When there's an illness or recovery... WE EAT. When we gather... WE EAT! So it's no surprise that every time I'm happy / sad / stressed / bored / excited /etc... I turn to food, too. I get "munchies" and want to bake something (especially if I'm excited-- like you must be!).

Dealing with these cravings is a daily struggle, for sure. My hubby still eats his junk food around me, and I just dealt with this last night. We BOTH used to sit down almost every night at about 8:30 and inhale a huge bowl of ice cream with all the toppings. Now, he does that solo, and I eat a 100-calorie VitaTop or single piece of dark chocolate. But when he brings out the ice cream.... Ooooohhh maaaann... I gobbled up nearly a SCOOP of that stuff last night because he had it RIGHT THERE in front of me, being all tasty and flaunting itself.

A couple things that help me... drinking tea. I know a few other people have suggested it, but it's good and warms the belly is is practically NO calories. I also try to brush my teeth right away after dinner-- maybe even a few times, if I start getting the munchies later that night-- and then I don't want to eat as much with the toothpaste taste in my mouth. Also... maybe just gently tell your mister that when you're battling your cravings, you may have to leave him to sit by himself for a while as he eats his Mallow treats, if he insists on doing it in front of you. Just get up and leave. And maybe if he REEEAAALLLY wants you to stay, he'll stop gobbling them in your face. ;)

Have a great day!! :)

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BOOTYLISCIOUS3 12/21/2010 2:53AM

    cup of hot tea. then another lol
I try to get to bed a little earlier too!

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USFBULL 12/20/2010 4:11PM

    Fruits you enjoy, Vegetables you enjoy, Soup, block cheese of a variety you enjoy, cool water in the Fridge , even a protein drink will help by keeping them around for your night excursions. Sometimes I will make a plate of cheese with vegetables and a cup of soup. Sometimes an apple will do, sometimes its a mug of hot water. I never know which will work but nice to have options. Notice no mention of left over cake, cookies , candies, potato chips or many other sweet or salty snacks.
Walnuts and pecans, almonds work a bit also. Hope this helps. emoticon

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CALIMAN1 12/20/2010 3:29PM

    Hi abuelita muy bonita....aka....ummm, never mind...

Late night cravings have been one of my constant challenges....water is an excellent way of containing some of the cravings because you will be more full with 8 ounces than without. Also, what time do you go to bed? Folk who stay up late at night tend to roam more than others which is dangerous. Even the stuff in the dog bowl looks pretty tempting on certain nights, but little Murphy gives me a couple of growls and hunches up so that he looks 9 inches tall and I back up quickly. Crazy little vampire dog.

When all else fails, I try to buy snacks that at least have some nutritional value so that even if I over eat, I am at least getting something in me that my body needs....things with fiber mostly. Betsy laughed that i crave cereal, but that typically comes with a cup of coffee and serves as my dessert. May not taste quite the same as double chocolate cake, but still sweet and hits the spot.

Mallo Bar??? Is that from Scotland by any chance? I don't know what that is....educate please? Well, unless you think it will tempt me!!!!

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SKILL133 12/20/2010 10:43AM

    Congrats Granny!!! hehe
I don't know what to tell you about the cravings..I am not good at stopping mine so who am I to say...UGH.

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DARLENEK04 12/18/2010 4:16PM

  Totally understand ....

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LINDAKAY228 12/18/2010 1:18PM

    Congratulations on your new grandbaby! I can so relate to your comments about food and emotions, good or bad. I've always been the same way. By the way yesterday I binged on pop tarts because I was having the same cravings but don't know why. But we will have good days and bad days but the good days will become more and the bad a whole lot less. Hope you're feeling more in control today. DOn't give up!

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OLDERDANDRT 12/18/2010 12:49PM

    Congrat! Congrats! Congrats!!! I know you are excited about this baby girl!! Number 5 on your Grandbaby list !!
Now this emotional eating thing. Can't say I ever had this problem. Boredom got hold of me in college and I ballooned, but happy or sad, not so much! And the stuff that Brian brings home.....ok threats don't work on him, so try appealing to his deep, deep love for you. Tell him how imiportant it is for you to eat right and nix the candy and yummy but empty calories that only pack on the fat. Tell him it is important to you to be healthy, happy and slender and the way he eats doesn't work for you like it apparently does for him. You want to be there to take care of him when his bad eating habits catch up to him! And you want to be able as well as willing to play with all these Grandkids!!! Appeal to his love for you, b/c we all know it is very strong. To help you, I'd say the prayer is a great tool as someone else suggested. When you want to eat (overboard) get busy! Be creative, like your painting or clean out a closet, a drawer, the garage! the basement! keep busy! You are one of the strongest women I know and you can beat this! You are slave to nothing! Stiff upper lip and all that!!
Don't kick Brian out of the house, but if you have a fur-baby.......the 2 of you could squeeze him out of the bed occasionally! hehe
Hope you get along ok and that you have found some good suggestions here.

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KAILYNSTAR 12/18/2010 10:30AM

    A NEW BABY!!! How exciting! How amazing! What a blessing!
R>Now take all of that energy and do something with it. Maybe paint? I know that you paint. Paint what is in your heart about that precious baby.

Take that energy and do something with it. Maybe dancing? Maybe another hobby? Maybe climbing a tree and playing the rest of the monkeys? YEAH, that's could...Oh right. Sorry about that. I mean who could picture you up in a tree making noises and swinging from branch to branch with spider monkeys full of energy?! emoticon

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JOHNTJ1 12/18/2010 9:58AM

    Being a life long emotional eater I have come to the conclusion that it doesnt matter what the occasion is - positive or negative - I will indulge in my fantasy food of choice and tell myself it's okay to do so because I mean you dont have a grandchild every day, right?

My suggestion is spiritual in nature and it goes back to my comment about the Holy Spirit being our true default setting. When the John who wants to gorge himself appears I tell myself he is not the John made in Gods image and likeness. He is there to make John feel guilty and once he eats all the good news gets flushed down the toilet because I feel so bad. I pray. I pray really hard sometimes.

Hope that helped.

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    First of all,
Congratulations on being a GRANDMA AGAIN!

Can't believe that I have to tell you to eat for you AND the baby!
You don't want that baby to be malnourished do you? ; )

I guess I might new glasses,
cause when I was reading your refrigerator contents I thought it read:

a gift box of beef and cheese sticks and a jar of Vaseline. Wondering why you would have Vaseline in the fridge, then I realized it was Vlasic Pickles, DAAAAAA

As far as having advise, Brian might enjoy your advances of licking his melted ice cream off his shirt, and you might trade in the mallo bar for some chocolate syrup and whipped cream. Feeling really daring, add some pineapple and a bottle of cherries

You're making me blush!
Glasses are getting steamed up : )


Maybe an afternoon walk would help those pm cravings.

Again, emoticon Granny

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STEVENGO2 12/18/2010 8:44AM


Congrats on the soon to be 5th grandchild. My only suggestion is to go out and get fruits and veggies, so if you do have to eat something you have sweet and healthy food to eat that will fill you up!

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    That's great you're to have a new granddaughter. How exciting!
I tend to crave goodies in the evenings too, so I have planned what to do that works best for me. If I'm not having company, I make sure that I have at least one fruit still needed for the day, or a fruit or vegetable salad, and have that for my evening snack (yes, I added "evening snack" to my nutrition tracker) -the fiber just makes it so you're feeling full and the food really is yum anyway, so that satisfies too. If a friend is coming over I usually have Terra veggie chips planned into my day and have only the one measured out serving, while a bigger bowl is set out for my guest. The mediteranian kind is soooo yummy, plus they're healthy fat and a variety of veggies in it. I may need a fruit or veg after that yet, so might plan that in after the friend goes home, but usually I'm good after just that for the evening. Or add a couple zellies, which are only 2 calories and 1 carb! They are made with xylitol which dentists say help your mouth in good ways -so go for it. Lotsa times having something salty you want something sweet anyway. :)

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PJSTIME 12/18/2010 6:50AM

    Congratulations Grandma (and you are a hot Grandma I might add). As for the evening munchies that is a problem for a lot of us (I still have to fight that one myself) Maybe set up a personal streak on spark about not eating after a certain time of day and see how long you can keep that streak going.

Since you can't throw Brian out (he would just come back anyway to the love of his life).

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WALKOFFWIN 12/18/2010 1:53AM

    Congratulations on being the mother of a son who's wife is having a baby that will be your fifth grandchild! Somehow I just can't bring myself to call you the much shorter more commonly accepted name. I have this image of you with your ever so youthful spirit; this forever young image of you that won't let me call you that. My mind just rebels! (No offense intended to all you grandmas out there who wear your title proud!)

But I still can be happy for you, Michelle, for having raised children into adulthood who now have children of their own. That's a real accomplishment, very cool and worth celebrating!

Now, the problem... Since it's also my problem, I don't know if I'm in a position to help you with it.

BUT... this has worked for me sometimes. Similar to what Beth said, pick a time after dinner when you will cease all eating of any kind whatsoever. Nothing goes in your mouth except for water. Really commit yourself to this "no eating" cutoff time. Also, make any place where food is, a "NO ENTRY" zone after the cutoff time. Stay the hell out of the kitchen!!! You just aren't allowed in there until next morning.

And... commit to a time that you will go to bed. And when that time comes, stop whatever you're doing and GO TO BED! Even if you can't sleep, stay in the bedroom. (unless you need the bathroom - but get back in the bedroom ASAP.) If you can't sleep, try reading. If you have an over active mind that won't settle down, try to find something to distract it with. Maybe you can listen to soft mellow music.

I've found that if I can't sleep, getting online is the worst thing I can do. It's guaranteed to keep me awake! So you might need to ban the computer after bedtime, if it affects you in a similar way. (I know... pretty radical stuff I'm preaching here!)

This strategy has worked for me, enough to be part of the program that helped me to lose 85 lbs.

And yet sometimes I still fail badly and pig out late at night. But every new day is another chance to commit to doing it right this time.

And now, go ahead... Ask me what I'm doing here online at 1:50 AM! It's a perfectly logical question to ask, after what I just recommended that you try to do, and try not to do!

My only answer, admittedly weak, is that my PC is nowhere near the kitchen, and I'm not eating anything. And right after I send this comment, I'm going to bed and staying there.

Good Night and Good Luck, Michelle
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CIVIAV 12/18/2010 1:20AM

    Wow, congrats on the new babes!

As to the voracious eating. Have you tried the fantasy eating trick? I tried this last night twice and almost fell off my chair that it worked.

It has been said that if you picture eating something you really desire. Really picture it, imagine crunching into it, or having it run down your throat. And then take the next bite, that the craving goes away. I imagined eating half a box of Good n Plenty and then I was bored!

Can't remember who blogged about it but it is one of the members who regularly has Most Popular Blogs so if you want I can go find it.

Try it and see...

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INFLATED 12/18/2010 12:54AM

    I have had the munchies of late and gave in. I now weigh 24 lbs. more than I did in August and am trying to get a handle on it, but it is out of control.

Maybe my telling you this will help.

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0309COOKIE 12/18/2010 12:19AM

    I can't be of any help. I am sitting here eating a chocolate chip cookie.........

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JENNA3FROG 12/17/2010 11:00PM

    Congratulations on the new granddaugher-to-be!!! Sorry I don't have any advice on the emotional eating because I am the same way. Good luck and I hope you get some helpful suggestions!
And I loved the calculus reference because my 16 year old daughter has 2 more days left of PRE-calc and we're both on the edge of our seats just praying she passes so she can be DONE with math for the rest of high school!

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BIONICBETH 12/17/2010 10:57PM

    Congratulations on another GB! (You Do realize that we're the same age and I don't even have KIDS yet. Not gonna happen I guess.)

As for the eating. Yes, I have an idea. I have a very bad evening munchie issue. I CHALLENGE you!

NO Munchies after 4:00 PM!

Okay, NO Munchies that aren't Carrots, Celery, or Broccoli after 4:00 PM.


PS - This does NOT translate to gorge until 4!

EDIT: Changed time from 7:00PM (My Munchie start time) to 4:00 PM (Your Munchie Start Time)

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HICKOK-HALEY 12/17/2010 9:54PM

    Wow, well first, let me congrat you. How exciting. I'm 60, and I don't have any lol. Hopefully someday. Only thing I can say is when I get in those moods lately, I just walk away from whatever. Today I parked by a donut shop, and it smelled sooooo good. I told my Daughter, "let's get out of here before I walk in the place"

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BKNOCK 12/17/2010 9:54PM

    Wow, a Grandma! Congratulations! I always allow my self some sort of snack at night when I get the munchies that fits into my calories. Sometimes it is fruit if the day has not gone as well and some time it is 3 oreo cookies. I try to plan ahead for that because I know that I will eat something either way.

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CARTOONB 12/17/2010 9:51PM

    Ahhhh....Grandbabies are the best (so I've heard). Always meant to have those first! LOL!

Chew gum. Seriously, that helps. And brush your teeth. And then paint Brian's nails. Hey, he's gotta suffer for bringing that stuff in the house! emoticon

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LIZZYP609 12/17/2010 9:41PM

    Yea for Babies!
Boo for night solution...big glass of water and bedtime! yea, probably not that big of help! emoticon

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LMB-ESQ 12/17/2010 9:29PM

    Congrats Grandma! Great news! emoticon Sorry, no help on the night time eating. My solution is to just keep it out of the house!

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KEKEIKO 12/17/2010 9:04PM

    Congrats on the news! That's terrific!

My comment is ... allow yourself one treat a week. Put it in the refrigerator wrapped up and you can look at it, you can smell it but you can't eat until the target date. Drink lots of water to fill you up. When hubby tempts you, take one, put into a baggy and put it away for later.

Strength to you!


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Don't Judge Too Quickly...

Thursday, December 16, 2010

(This is my third blog which details an individual who touched my life....)

I was in seventh grade. Wanda always sat next to me in American History class. She was a solemn girl and she always held her head down, afraid to meet the eyes of someone else when they spoke to her or walked past her. It was rare when someone DID speak to her; most treated her like she was a plague to be avoided. To be totally honest, I was afraid of her. Not because she was different, not because I was afraid of what others might think if I befriended her. It was because I didn't want to know what "secrets" were hidden behind her sad and seemingly-angry face that took solace behind her long, dark hair.

One day she came to class, shoulders sagging, hair unkempt, clothes that looked like they had been slept in. Many of my peers made unflattering comments that fell on deaf ears; she looked as if she were a million miles away. She took her seat next to mine with an appearance of the weight of the world on her. I caught a glimpse of her face. Her bottom lip was swollen and her eyes were red from crying. My heart jerked, I couldn't stand it. I tapped her on the shoulder and asked her if she was alright. She jerked from me and then looked at me, square in the eyes. If misery had a face it would be hers. I quietly asked her if she was alright. Eyes filling with fresh tears she quickly shook her head "no" and put her head back down. My heart filled with grief and uncertainty. I passed her a note and told her to meet me in the restroom.

Minutes passed. I was surprised that she actually came. At first, she acted like she didn't want to talk to me; yet when I placed my hand on her shoulder and crouched down to look into her eyes, she fell into my arms. It was then the torrent of emotion rocked through her and the dam broke. She was pregnant. She was beaten by her father when she told him the news, hence the busted lip. She didn't know what she was going to do, but she wasn't getting an abortion like her mother screamed at her to do. Her "boyfriend" who was in his twenties, broke up with her and told her he never wanted to see her again. The heartbreak kept pouring out unabashed, free-flowing. I was just a young kid myself. I didn't know how to respond but I found myself crying right along with her.

A little while had passed and the storm within her was spent. We were standing in the middle of the restroom holding hands when a teacher came in and firmly told us to get to class or risk being sent to the principal's office. Wanda scurried off and I numbly stood there. Mrs. Yeager repeated her order and I looked at her, shaking my head. Before I knew it, I was blurting everything out to her. One part of me was afraid that Wanda would be hurt that I shared her secret, but the other part of me knew that I was not able to help her on my own.

Wanda wasn't there the next day. Or the day after. (In fact, she never returned to school that year.) Afraid I had done something terribly wrong, I sadly sat throughout class each day, not listening to my teacher, scared that something had gone terribly wrong. I heard my classmates making snide remarks about the "crazy" girl and why they thought she was gone. They were soooo way off.

It was a year later when I ran into Wanda in the grocery store while with my mother. She was with her mother and carrying a small baby. She looked at me and smiled. Timidly, I smiled back and walked close to her and looked at the child in her arms. I asked her his name. I asked her where she had been. She said the day I talked to her, social services had came to her house. She had been angry at me for "narking" but they ended up protecting her AND HER MOTHER from the father who had beat them BOTH. In cooperation with them, they had allowed her to keep her baby and she was going to school in another town. She made friends, she was doing better in school, she actually felt hope for the future. I could see the look of love in her eyes for her child. I could sense her liberation from the abuse at home.

Today, Wanda is a legal secretary. She is married, happily. Every time I see her, she gives me a smile brighter than the sun itself. She went on to have two more children later in her life and is now a grandmother, like me. I have to wonder what would have happened if I never told that teacher that day what Wanda confided in me. I have to wonder what would happen if EVERYONE spoke up for someone that was in trouble.

Wanda changed my life. She made me realize that everyone needs a shoulder, an advocate when it seems there is none. We are often quick to turn the other way, to pretend that we don't see turmoil going on around us. We can't change the world but we CAN change the world of someone else. Sometimes just helping one person, even when it is uncomfortable in the beginning, helps US to become more tolerant, less judgmental, more aware to the possibility that just ONE change in our circumstances could have put us in the same position as "that OTHER" person.

Wouldn't we want someone to speak up if it were us?

Let's give thanks for who we are and where we are today. If there is a "Wanda" in your life, speak up for her.

God bless you all...for it is by His grace that we are who we are today.

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TOOSH731 1/17/2011 4:55PM

    Thank you for sharing that story.

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PURSUITOFJOY 1/11/2011 9:45AM

    This really hit home for me...I was actually in a similar position in elementary school. One of my friends told me that his father physically abused him and I just couldn't hold it in. I told a guidance counselor. I was so scared my friend would be there the next day so mad at me. But he wasn't. I didn't see him for a long time and then he shrugged it off as if it were nothing. I don't know what happened to him, because I never saw him after that one time. However, I hope I helped. I have no regrets.

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PURSUITOFJOY 1/11/2011 9:45AM

    This really hit home for me...I was actually in a similar position in elementary school. One of my friends told me that his father physically abused him and I just couldn't hold it in. I told a guidance counselor. I was so scared my friend would be there the next day so mad at me. But he wasn't. I didn't see him for a long time and then he shrugged it off as if it were nothing. I don't know what happened to him, because I never saw him after that one time. However, I hope I helped. I have no regrets.

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PURSUITOFJOY 1/11/2011 9:42AM

    This really hit home for me...I was actually in a similar position in elementary school. One of my friends told me that his father physically abused him and I just couldn't hold it in. I told a guidance counselor. I was so scared my friend would be there the next day so mad at me. But he wasn't. I didn't see him for a long time and then he shrugged it off as if it were nothing. I don't know what happened to him, because I never saw him after that one time. However, I hope I helped. I have no regrets.

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    What a blessing...we can all make a difference....

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If there was an applause button here, I would certainly insert it right here into this comment!

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CTOWNSKINNYB 1/7/2011 1:28PM


WOW youre tiny action has had a wonderful ripple effect. You were Wanda's angel that day.

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CHEF4RENT 12/29/2010 11:33PM

    Amazing story. Thanks for sharing.

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CHEF4RENT 12/29/2010 11:33PM

    Amazing story. Thanks for sharing.

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CHEF4RENT 12/29/2010 11:33PM

    Amazing story. Thanks for sharing.

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TIME2GETSERIOUS 12/28/2010 10:26AM

    Very touching :)

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KAT573 12/28/2010 9:34AM

    This is what we are here to do; help each other become the most we can, no matter what. Bless you and Wanda and the teacher who did what teachers are supposed to when they are presented with evidence of abuse among their students!

May we all be open both to giving and for some of us, more difficult, recieving!!!

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MSPLACEDAGAIN 12/27/2010 9:46AM

    Wow! This is such a good reminder. I teach middle school and as an adult I want to look for Wandas everyday. It hurts to imagine all the people that saw her everyday and didn't reach out!

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S76SMITH 12/27/2010 12:25AM

    Wonderful to share with us. Thank you. It really makes me think how many lives are touched by each and every one of us. Wow. Sue

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AMYBUTLER10 12/26/2010 7:03PM

    Thank you for your story. Praying God's blessing on you AND Wanda!

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SKINSLVRGRL 12/26/2010 6:03PM

    Thank you for sharing that wonderful story. It's a nice reminder to people that you never know how you might change someone's life by just reaching out.

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NACHOSMAMA 12/26/2010 5:25PM

    That is beautiful. She owes her now rich and fulfilling life to your act of kindness.

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L3DESIGNS 12/26/2010 4:59PM

    Thanks for sharing. A wonderful story.

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ELASTI-GIRL 12/26/2010 4:32PM

    You're a gifted writer and what an amazing story. I have a nephew and niece who live with an abusive mother. While I've submitted reports to Social Services, to date they have done nothing. The son has begged for help but he has been written off as a behavioural child. Others are horrified at how the children are treated, but nobody else has filed a complaint. I now pray that they will find the courage to speak up; otherwise, I fear that these children will never be rescued.

Congrats to this mother for keeping her child in difficult circumstances. Every child deserves to be raised by their bio parent, in a safe environment.

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MOUNTALUM 12/26/2010 2:43PM

    Powerful blog. Thank you for sharing.

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RECIPE4ME 12/26/2010 2:06PM

    Awesome! You were in her life for a reason. Glad you didn't pass up the opportunity to be there for her.

Thank you for sharing, reminding us how special a moment in time can be. Reaching out to others is truly a gift that's so easy to give.

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GINGERVISTA 12/26/2010 1:13PM

    Wow, incredible story. You were brave to 'narc' on Wanda & she was blessed that you did so. Absolutely emoticon
And your message is a good one.

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ANNETTE1024 12/26/2010 1:11PM

    What a beautiful thing you did for Wanda. Such courage and strength for a 7th grader to take on. Thank you for sharing this post and reminding me that it is a gift to reach out to others, either as a shoulder or as the one who needs a shoulder.

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BLOOMING52 12/26/2010 11:37AM

    Thank you for your bravery.

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PAMANNN247 12/26/2010 10:53AM

    wonderful story! It will help me get outside myself and reach out in the weeks to come! Thank you!

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DFROMTX 12/26/2010 8:25AM

    Great blog, thanks for sharing. Nice that you were able to see and talk with her later and know that she had a good "outcome" to a bad situation.

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MASE72 12/26/2010 8:04AM

    Thank You !

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OCTOBER2842 12/26/2010 6:03AM

    A beautiful story

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RONNIEHUEY 12/26/2010 3:58AM

    Awesome even though I had tears.God Bless you!

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MINDY502 12/25/2010 7:00PM

    Awesome story and something to really think about how many times we could have helped someone and made a difference in their lives. So glad you reached out to her that day and that she has a great life now!

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PRUJATISSA 12/25/2010 5:17PM

    I was touched by this post. MY parents raised us to be caring and compassionate. I actually cried as I read this.

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    Touching with a great ending....Caring and sharing is the way to go!!! emoticon

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TRICIAP0812 12/25/2010 1:25PM

    I am truly touched by your story and it is a valuable lesson for us all.

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PRINCESSBAEZA 12/25/2010 11:06AM

    Thanks for the awesome message! You had me in tears, but it was well worth it. I think the world would be a better place if we all just acted like this. I am so guilty of this at times because life is so busy. Merry Christmas to you and your family!

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JANI-LOU 12/25/2010 10:27AM

  You brought tears to my eyes. I am blessed to have read this story. How wonderful you have been able to stay in touch with her.

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MARLYD 12/25/2010 4:55AM

    Thanks for a very thoughtful and compelling blog. We must be compassionate to our fellow human beings. As you said, we are all just this far away from being in an equally unpleasant position.

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MUSLIMAH_AK 12/25/2010 12:47AM

    wow! I think we could all use a reminder like this about the people we meet. wow again! thanx.

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STORMTMB 12/24/2010 7:54PM

    Good reminder of how many times we have no idea what's really going on with the person who is "odd" or "different". We're all human and everyone need some care and compassion sometimes. So glad that she trusted you when you made the effort to be a comfort to her.

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JAZZYDJ1017 12/24/2010 4:10PM

    Also came across your blog as I searched the site and was intregued by the title. AS an abuse victim like Wanda it is great to know there are people like you who hear our cries and reach out when others dont.thank you, and Merry Christmas

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TARANITUP 12/24/2010 12:49PM

    Thats a beautiful story and I'm so glad Someone put you in her path that day... otherwise, who knows?

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CTOMEK1-123 12/24/2010 10:58AM

    Wow what an amazing story. Your writing had me in tears

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HLTHYETER 12/24/2010 10:57AM

    Wonderful blog and a great reminder at this holiday season for us to share in the spirit of giving! Great job of telling the story!

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2014THISISIT 12/24/2010 8:37AM

    Came across this blog because it was among the voted as a Popular Member Blogs and I'm truly glad I did. This is a wonderful story and truly touched me. I wondered how many times I might have let an opportunity like this pass me by. It must be wonderful to know that you took part, whether intentionally or not, in helping to change the course of someone's life for the better. It gives me warm-fuzzies all over. :) Wonderfully inspirational!

Merry Christmas to you!

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JILL313 12/23/2010 8:55PM

    Like you said, I can't help but wonder what would have happened to Wanda if you hadn't been there for her. . .A great reminder for all of us even when it's uncomfortable by caring and lending a shoulder to cry on we can help someone else in need. What a wonderful friend you are!! God Bless. emoticon emoticon

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What Really Matters To YOU?

Sunday, December 12, 2010

With a winter storm quickly approaching, I am reminded of the ice storm we had two years ago. It knocked out our power for two weeks; not fun, especially since we live in the boonies and our wood stove is operated by electricity. We were heating up soup on the kerosene heater and finding new and unexciting ways to keep ourselves entertained. By the third day we were ready to strangle one another. (Beanie even threatened to run away from home because her iPod finally ran out of juice.) The trees were bent over by the humongous amounts of ice on their limbs and our part of the world was eerily quiet. Laundry quickly piled up, we were worried about our pipes getting frozen and, with the exception of a battery-operated radio, we were cut off from the outside world.

By the middle of the second week, we started becoming accustomed to the simple way of life. We were talking more. We were laughing more. We even started reading the Bible more and having discussions on how God's love is there even in the middle of crisis. Perhaps, we surmised, this was a test on how we were to be thankful for the comforts that we normally have in our day-to-day lives. Transformations were taking place on a whole different level. Brian was calmer. Beanie was humming a song long forgotten from her youth. My hyper-ness was replaced by an easy feeling of solitude and peace. It was almost a disappointment when we heard the whir of electricity firing up through-out the house and our lights suddenly beamed to life.

At first, my daughter was ecstatic and ran to her room to fire up her television and XBox. Brian donned his coat to run to the grocery store to buy some steak and potatoes. Everybody was scattering in all different directions. It was exciting, yes, but it seemed almost sad to me, to be honest. I continued to sit on the couch, trying to hold onto the unbelievable closeness that we shared when there were not other things to grab our attention. Sighing, I closed my eyes and thanked God for his blessings and for keeping His arms around my family during the past two weeks.

A funny thing happened, though, when Brian returned from the store and I prepared dinner. Beanie turned off her television. Brian turned off the lights. He lit a candle and put it in the middle of the dining room table. We joined hands and said grace. We realized that it didn't take a power outage to be close; to talk, to laugh, to enjoy one another.

With the storm quickly approaching this year, with the snow clouds on the horizon of our town, I am oddly calm. I know that if we lose power, we won't lose each other... fact, we might just get to know each other a little bit more once again.

God bless you all. Let's all give thanks for what's REALLY important in our lives today.

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IMJUSTFLUFFY 12/26/2010 11:13AM

    Wow...that's how I feel when we go nice to get away from the news first thing in the on all day, computer all day, busy all day!
Nice to just commune with the nature around us & have some simple quality time together!
You are a great blogger.

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    A great post!!!!

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JPRICE217 12/17/2010 7:57AM

    God works in every thing in our lives. Have a happy and close winter with your family.

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TRACIENICOLE 12/16/2010 4:49PM

    WoW! I absolutely LOVED this blog! The part about your daughter turning off the TV and your husband turning off the lights and lighting a candle for dinner brought tears to my eyes! Beautiful story !

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BIKERBABE2BE 12/16/2010 4:26PM

    I just love your blogs. Thanks for sharing another remarkable experience with us. emoticon

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THEMIGHTYLEX 12/15/2010 3:43PM

    The simple silent beauty captured in that setting says so much. Even under the cold of winter life is warm and present. All of the miraculous twists and tangles held in place for a moment of reflection and rebirth.

Thank you for another post that moves the heart and mind.

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KAILYNSTAR 12/15/2010 2:32PM

    Nothing is more of a lesson than to have a storm come among us and bring out the best in people.

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CIVIAV 12/14/2010 8:55AM

    Thanks for the lovely picture and lovelier words to go with! emoticon

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PANFRIEDTROUT 12/14/2010 12:36AM

    Thanks for sharing this story. You're such a great writer Michelle, that with each passing sentence, I can clearly see in my mind's eye the scenes as they unfold and emotions build up.

I'm so glad that your family was able to draw close to each other and that you were able to see this for what it was .... a blessing in disguise.

You're right ... relationship building is everything because at the end of the day (so to speak) when the proverbial lights go out, all we have is each other. And that's important. That's what really matters.

Love you!

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HDHAWK 12/13/2010 9:34PM

    Lovely blog!

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DREMARGRL 12/13/2010 9:16PM

    What a beautiful experience....what a beautiful blog.....what a beautiful YOU!
May you and your lovely family always be filled with the joy and wonderment of those days you shared together in solitude.
XO MaryAnn
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SPARKENISTA 12/13/2010 9:03PM

    You know, what you are saying is definitely a game-changer. I think that you found the sweet spot in the effect of the storm just as many people are finding the "benefits" of the recession with fewer possessions, vacations and other unnecessary "toys"and distractions.

They are losing the extras and discovering each other, which is the essence of what is truly important. John was right. This is a great blog!

Here's to a Merry Christmas and a happy and healthy New Year and Every Year!



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MY_LIFE_NOW 12/13/2010 7:53PM

    Beautiful blog love the picture i can't wait for snow to happen ,,been in florida for 4 years now back in r.i. and i brought a place in the boonies..can't wait for the white stuff to fall.

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ONEKIDSMOM 12/13/2010 7:46PM

    Love this blog... thanks for sharing!

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LMB-ESQ 12/13/2010 7:14PM

    The simple life. You know, I don't know what that means anymore. I have this fantasy of graduating from law school and moving out to some little boondocks town someplace and being Atticus Finch. I mean the part about being paid with a sack of potatoes or a couple of chickens, not the part about the high profile trial. I know that's not very realistic in today's world, but it's still a really nice thought. Back to simplicity and knowing your neighbors and really caring about each other. I've lived here 8 years, and I don't know any of my neighbors. Kinda sad when you think about it.

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DARLENEK04 12/13/2010 4:50PM

  Hey Puddin,

We actually have had some snow.......well, flurries here,
but the two counties adjoining us closed schools today because
the roads are not safe....alll rural.......

Great all your Christmas shopping


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OZARKMARY 12/13/2010 3:18PM

    Awesome blog! How we learn from God's gifts. The gift of losing our modern lives, if only for a little while.

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 12/13/2010 1:12PM

    I was on a job site when this storm happened. I only heard about it but it sounded terrible.

I think the reason I love the Canada Cabin trip so much is because there is nothing there to distract us. There's electricity but no computers, no TV... we listen to the radio, talk, walk and at night watch a DVD. It's much simpler times up there. I miss it!

I loved reading your blog. Thanks for sharing it!


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JRDIAMOND4 12/13/2010 10:41AM

    We lost everything and moved here 12yrs ago. I was worried about my boys missing all the conveniences of everything right around the corner. We were broke and lived 30 miles from any where. They were in the first and second grade. It was harder on me than my DH or boys. It wasn't until Cody was about 16yrs old that I stopped regretting moving here. He hugged me and said "Mom, I love you and dad for moving us here. We don't have much but we have each other. I see the kids at school spoiled with all their gadgets and they don't know what they are missing." Happy ending to a unhappy beginning. I love it when God reveals to us the "Why" it happens.

I always enjoy your blogs. It brings back memories in my life.

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JILLWILSON2102 12/13/2010 10:33AM

    There is this moment of appreciating God's grace and nature's beauty even in the midst of craziness. Stay warm and safe. emoticon

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MIZCATHI 12/13/2010 9:38AM

    Beautiful. Thanks for the reminder of love's power.

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RENA1965 12/13/2010 9:20AM

    nice blog..

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LINDAKAY228 12/13/2010 9:10AM

    That is such a beautiful story! It's amazing how sometimes what seems to be such a crisis turns out to be such a blessing. Hopefully you won't have the ice storm like that again this year but if you do I love the peace you've found with it.

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NANCYANDRA 12/13/2010 8:36AM

    Lovely - thoroughly enjoyed your post!!!! Be Safe. God Bless

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PJSTIME 12/13/2010 6:39AM

    Love the pictures and the blog. The top of grateful list is the love of my family and my health,

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FLEMIDG 12/12/2010 11:44PM

    What a beautiful blog. Thanks for sharing. Thanks for the lovely pictures too. Isn't it wonderful when we can just be together and enjoy each other's company without any distractions? What a peaceful scene you pictured. I am reminded of when I lived in the country. We had no tv or running water and we used kerosene lamps in our home. We did have a radio, and we used to sit each night and listen to radio programs before we went to bed. All the modern ameneties are great, but they do seem to make us busier rather than help us find more time. Thanks again for sharing with us.

Love and hugs.


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USFBULL 12/12/2010 11:29PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon Merry Christmas

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SARSPARKS25 12/12/2010 11:25PM

    This brought tears to my eyes. I often wish I could spend more time with my family. I want to tell them how much I love them and how much they have influenced my life. Even when we are angry, they should know that I love them and feel as though I have been given the greatest gift in the family!

Mom & Dad, Grandma, 5 sisters, 4 brothers, 2 Brothers-in-law, 1 sister-in-law to be, 2 beautiful nieces, soon to be 2 nephews and countless extended family that have shaped me and shown me how to love!

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CHERIRIDDELL 12/12/2010 10:42PM

    What a lovely tranquil ,peaceful blog .love and hugs,Cheri

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DUTCHIEKIWI 12/12/2010 10:32PM

    What a beautiful story, a wake up call for me too, about what's important in life.

Thank you for sharing,

with goosebumps and love...



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TRENTDREAMER 12/12/2010 9:44PM

    "God bless you all. Let's all give thanks for what's REALLY important in our lives today. "

* You as well. Good blog

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CARTOONB 12/12/2010 9:29PM

    Hope you find each other without losing power. Best of both worlds, right?

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MYOWNHERO 12/12/2010 9:26PM

    Gorgeous photo!

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REJ7777 12/12/2010 9:17PM

    What a heart-warming blog! Thanks for the reminder of what's really important! emoticon

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KANSASROSE67 12/12/2010 9:11PM

    Loved this blog! We had lots of blizzards and a major power outage last year. Spent Christmas Day with just myself and the kids because DH is always called out to work in snow storms, and we couldn't get to family's homes or church. But when DH got home we had a turkey dinner just for the 4 of us and spent wonderful time together.

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    Oh, I LOVED this blog! Thank you for sharing it! Simple life is wonderful, isn't it!? Let it emoticon!

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WHEEZELO 12/12/2010 9:02PM

    My family had a similar experience during the fire storms a few years ago. Without power, roads, and phone service, you do depend on each other more.

Have a fun storm! Sometimes adversity brings out the best of us.


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DJ4HEALTH 12/12/2010 8:59PM

    That is what is needed in this country today, families that talk to each other and not having all that tech going on and giving kids all that stuff so that you don't have to talk to them.

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JOHNTJ1 12/12/2010 8:54PM

    I read somewhere recently that the Holy Spirit is our "default setting." We just get lost from time to time. I guess you and your family found their way back.

Good for you

Much Love


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    Thanks for the wake up call,
times like that are times to cherish
the things that we have and are
REALLY thankful for.
Nothing better than family and friendships

Hope the weather is kinder to you guys this time.
It's been cccccccold and wwwwwindy as can bbbbe here : )
But our iPhones, iPods and iMacs have all been working,
more than me but less than the furnace!

20-50 mph wind is what they report
but our little weather station has shown me winds of 35+
and gonna be single digits tonight
Prayin' the the power holds on through the night.

Take care and be as prepared as you can be.
I know you are a happy camper
as the Steelers won today and your buddy Hines Ward excelled too. I thought of you, when I saw the SPorts re-cap

Stay warm and toasty and bundled with LOVE!

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BKNOCK 12/12/2010 8:19PM

    North Carolina is known for ice storms and we sure have had some doozies! We still also talk fondly of one when we all moved into my brother's house since it was 19 degrees and we had no power for a week! Fun times even though that first night I thought we would freeze to death! Found out that fire places are just a decoration in NC they do not produce any heat!

Thanks for bringing back those memories! Beautiful pictures too!

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LIZZYP609 12/12/2010 8:03PM

    I remember all to well that ice storm. We were "lucky" not to have lost our power during the whole thing.
The snow is here and the kids, most likely, won't have school tomorrow. Which means I will be staying home from work with them (oh darn). Your blog gave me a great idea of the fun we could have while home together.

Thank you for a wonderful blog!

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KATVHALE 12/12/2010 7:44PM

    That is exactly what is dying in the modern family! Every member is doing their own thing and going their own way and there isn't that homey closeness that I knew growing up. Hardly anyone eats together at the dinner table and the kids are always holed up in their rooms...

It is the simple pleasures and blessings that today's youth seems to be missing out on!

Let's pray that we can all get those simples pleasures back again!

I loved the pics!

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MELNELO 12/12/2010 6:59PM

    beautiful. you are so lucky to have that. we try for that, sometimes. it's def hard these days, especially with the kids. i remember going camping with my family and all we had was each other for entertainment. we sat around playing cards, going swimming and listening to stories. camp was magic.

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HOT4FITNESS 12/12/2010 6:42PM

    You are such an inspiration to Sparkpeople, thanks for sharing your story and reminding us of what is truly important!

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DBFBILLY 12/12/2010 6:33PM

    Very touching and beautiful pictures!!

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Icy Hot, Anyone??

Tuesday, December 07, 2010

I'm not sure, but I think I was meant to live somewhere warm all year round. If it drops below 80 degrees my body goes through warmth withdrawal and my nose and toes feel like they are blocks of ice. I don't understand how there are some people who can ride their motorcycles all year around in weather like this! I guess I'm not a "true biker." I'm a "poser" but I like to believe I'm a SMART poser. NOT SAYING THAT cold weather bikers aren't smart, but I think they're a few fries short of their Happy Meals.

It doesn't help matters that I am getting old now. Thank you, ONEREALLYBIGDOG, for the early birthday wishes the other day, but you got me thinking about the impending 42-dom! My ears used to get piqued by the catchy tunes on advertisements about iPods or things of youth; now they perk up when they show Depends or Oil of Olay. I want to fight the seven signs of aging...whatever they may be. One of them might be the stubborn muffin tops that have adorned my middle since two years ago. I wonder if Total Effects will work on them?? I've even been wondering about that LifeStyle Lift they talk about for your face. I wonder if they can do it for your whole body? Okay, so it's not been done on anyone before but I will be first in line when they offer it.

I'm not bitter. I love it when my grandkids call me Grandma. Not so much "the old lady" that my grandson Dylan called me two days ago, but the little snipe was just kidding. It appears that he has inherited the off-the-wall humor that my family possesses. He won't say it again, though. Trust me. He learned. "The Old Lady" still has enough strength in her arms to hang him upside down by his feet and scream, "Say it again, you little whippersnapper! I dare ya! DO IT!" I should be ashamed that I gave him an atomic wedgie. But I'm not.

Okay, so maybe I'm a little slower slapping the alarm clock off the stand these days, but I can still make it fly with pizzazz. And maybe my left eye is a little slower to open than the right one in the mornings, but it's nothing that a little poking and prodding won't take care of. If I bought stock in Miss Clairol years ago, I would be rich. I saw a gray LEG hair the other day. IS THAT NORMAL?? I wasn't concerned until I saw one on my chin yesterday. Right in the middle. And it had looked like it had been there for A VERY LONG TIME. I have to wonder why Brian never mentioned it. Maybe it's because he's too busy plucking the wiry ones out of his own ears.

Oh well. I'm still young at heart. That's all that matters anyways, right?? I can still get jiggy with it. I might be hunched over the next day with sprained neck muscles, but while on the dance floor, I can put those uncoordinated little girls to shame. The last time I went I noticed that people stared at me. I was quite proud. Brian said they might have been thinking I was having a seizure and were contemplating calling 9-1-1, but I think it was just because they couldn't believe the moves I was busting all over the place. Yeah! It's like THAT.

Now excuse me while I go cut out my coupons. They're having an awesome sale on BenGay and orthopedic shoes inserts at Walgreens this week. (Not for me, pfffft! FOR BRIAN!)

Have a great day, guys!

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GREGGWEISBROD 11/22/2013 12:59AM

    And with that, I can close my eyes tonight with a big smile and a happy heart. I swear, reading you is the equivalent of snuggling up under a warm blanket on a cold day, with a cup of tea and a great book. It's that comforting! :-)

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SUNSHINEGIRL49 12/21/2010 1:22AM

    Now I'm wondering if I have gray leg hair. If so, I likely haven't noticed because the angle is awkward for my trifocals. Thanks for the laughs!

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INFLATED 12/19/2010 1:04PM

    As I read your blog and came to the part about dancing, I burst out laughing because it brought to mind the dance Elaine did on Seinfeld.

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STAYCXL-NOMORE 12/10/2010 11:50AM

    Cute blog , I needed to read something funny today and you had me laughing so loud my co-workers thought I was having a seizure. I love to dance and can show those girls 10 years younger a thing or two also !!! Glad I aint alone , maybe we should have a dance off LOL , we may break a bone or something !! HEHE Thanks for brightening my day !!!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 12/9/2010 2:03PM

    You're too funny. I hate to find out that I'm older than you. I thought we were young together. Now I find out that you're a whippersnapper and I'm not. *sighs*


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KAILYNSTAR 12/8/2010 12:41PM


Yep, right there with you, including the one hair on the chin. I will be getting to that 42 mark in the coming summer. I could care less.

What is in a number if your spirit doesn't feel it?

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PEGJOHN1997 12/8/2010 10:00AM

    I'm not going to say it's all downhill from here because I'm one of those people that feel better at 55 then I did at 42. I was a lot skinnier then, too. I think it's because I'm not as stressed as I was then (although you wouldn't think it to read my blogs now).

I love your blogs, I'll miss then while you are on your break.

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CDAWN26 12/8/2010 9:55AM

    Thanks for a great blog this morning! I really needed a good laugh to get me going as well. I'm moving on to the next biggie next month...50. That can't be right! I feel like I just turned 40 last week. Of course, as you know, that 'ole body tells me otherwise. Hang in there and stay warm the best way possible. The cold blast this week is really getting to me too! Where is that icy hot tube!

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NANALD 12/8/2010 2:56AM

    Your blogs are great!! You know....many, many people never get as young as you are! Thanks for the smiles!

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JENNA3FROG 12/7/2010 11:41PM

How nice that I get to end my day with a good laugh! Love your blogs :D
And I'm totally opposite as far as the weather goes...if it's above 40 degrees it's too warm for me! I overheat just walking across the room, lol! I am probably not going to survive menopause...I will probably spontaneously combust :P I'm hitting the big 4-0 in May though so at least I still have a few good years left ;)

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THEMIGHTYLEX 12/7/2010 10:58PM

    You always crack me up! Your still a young thing. I've been 42 for months and you'd hardly notice the increase in adult diapers, or the smell of Mentholatum I coat myself with in order to move without grunting. Gray hairs are curious things... they seem to appear spontaneously, at an insane lengths, and in the oddest places. I mean, who gets elbow hair?

Stay warm. I'll pretend it's cold here in San Diego, so you won't feel bad about being where you are. Sarah has nasty cold weather where she is too... and I almost feel guilty for wearing shorts outside at night here.


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DONGR8NCHARNC 12/7/2010 10:55PM

    42 Michelle- OK "Old Lady"; you are VERY well preserved (smile)! As for the cold, I think that is a Butterfly trait. Too bad you live in a cold area; but, it seems everywhere is cold now. I know all will be well with you and that you'll have a laugh all along the way.

Take care and blessed Dear Friend,
Denise (The Really Old Woman-LOL!)
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CARTOONB 12/7/2010 10:15PM

    I'm so glad that I'm not old like you! emoticon

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JIMBOEHNER 12/7/2010 9:57PM

    I'm a few fries short of my Happy meal. Dylan had it right the first time.

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JREA24 12/7/2010 8:33PM

    Ha, when I saw your title, I was thinking about the cream for pain. LOL. Hey, just keep moving and you will stay young.

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KATVHALE 12/7/2010 8:29PM

    Age is all in the mind! I am still 35 in my minf and will probably be 35 for at least another 10 years! I used to really get jiggy with it but now if I try, I look like Santa's Jelly Belly all over!

Enjoy your youth while you can because it won't be long that you will feel a new ache or pain every time you get out of bed or even out of a chair like I do now!

Have fun on your hiatus from SP for a while!


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SDPARTON 12/7/2010 8:15PM are to funny! You look amazing, your absolutely gorgeous and I love your blog! emoticon

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TLCFME 12/7/2010 6:49PM

    Had to peek in on the Harley team cuz I still have the yearnings. Enjoyed your blog! Happy to have you as a Spark friend! I am actually walking with crutches now. My leg still hurts and my knee crunches when I move but the doctor said I could bear weight on it. He also said I might need another surgery. Please say a prayer that I don't need surgery. Ty. Love your snowflakes. Blessings to you and yours this Holiday season and always. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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FLEMIDG 12/7/2010 6:35PM

    What a wonderful blog, Michelle. You are so funny. Believe me, you are far from old. You have a long way to go. You made my day, again. Thanks for the smiles. Love you.

God bless you.

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DARLENEK04 12/7/2010 4:54PM

You are a mere babe...............

Of course I may have to have David help
me up.....


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JACARRENO 12/7/2010 4:54PM

    Oh my goodness! You are way too funny for your own good! Thank you so much for the laughs today!

I can totally relate to the cold weather "issues". While I grew up in Wisconsin, being in CA since '91 has definitely thinned my blood as my daddy would say. Hubby likens me to the scene in "When Harry Met Sally" and Billy Crystal tells Meg Ryan he loves how she's freezing unless its above 70 degrees! (On the flip side, I hate when it gets past 80 in the summer and do miss true fall & winter seasons but that's a different story!). And the riding in the cold - not my favorite for sure. When I have, its been with many layers, chaps, face mask and a hot shower when I got home to raise the core body temp!

Having just celebrated my first 6 months as 40 I take exception to you calling 42 "old" by any means! If you still know what jiggy means and can still do anything even resembling it you are still YOUNG in my book!

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CALIMAN1 12/7/2010 3:43PM

    My dear dear sister, if you keep busting moves like you THINK you can, you are so gonna bust something else!!!!!!!!! emoticon

With the exception of Brian's wiry earhairs, which quite frankly made me cringe since I believe he and I are close in age and I know they are coming, he seems like quite a guy!!!!

Loved your blog, the humor, and, perhaps, doses of reality sprinkled throughout? Hmmmm? DEPENDS????? Really? You are a YOUNGUN!!!!!!!!!!! You won't need to even think about Depends for another 5-6....months! At least!

OK, back to work for me...and a nice bowl of Jalapeno Chili Beans....ciao made me get my giggle on! I don't do the jiggy thing....because I am not quite sure what that is....I am jiggyless!!!!!!!!!! Is that a personal problem for me???

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LINDAKAY228 12/7/2010 3:26PM

    Oh that was sooo funny! But believe me, you've still got a ways to go till you need all the "comfort" of old age LOL! I've got 13 years head start on you!

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OLDERDANDRT 12/7/2010 2:50PM

    42??? PLZ!!!! You are but still a babe yourself!!! emoticon Sorry you are finding already a few of the signs that we can't stay (physically) young forever. But keep thinking young and doing as much as possible young and you'll stay that way longer!!! Wish I were as smart at 42 as you are today!!!

SPark on, dear!


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ANISMENDOZA81 12/7/2010 2:50PM

    Absolutely loved your blog..Keep rocking that dance floor chica!

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PJSTIME 12/7/2010 2:31PM

    Aaahhh don't worry about it. We ain't gettin older we're gettin better. But I do love to read your blogs. You bring a smile to my face everytime. Why is it we lose hair where we don't want to and gain it where we don't. emoticon

The red hat society has the right idea (I think but I'm not a member) but aren't they a group of women that just want to have fun.

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BKNOCK 12/7/2010 2:30PM

    Wow, you know how to make me laugh! I am glad that you are jiggy!

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MANDABEAR11 12/7/2010 2:29PM

    I hope am as snappy as you are at your "old" age emoticon Loved it!

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    Oh, boy, this blog was a wonderful LIFESAVER! Thank you for the five minutes of de-stressing and giggles I got out of it! You, my friend, can really bring the funny out of a person! Thank you! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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GEEMAWEST 12/7/2010 2:11PM

    Sorry, laughing too hard to respond!

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    Blame poor ME for your 42-dom, HUH?


Gray hair on your legs, no problem

Just braid them and make sure the GRAY is UNDER the others! : )

I can 't do that anymore,

Just can't reach that far any longer!

I've been searching for a surgeon to do some surgery for me.

Not sure what SPecialty to look for,

Maybe you could help me out!

I'd like to have my arms lengthened,

Gettin' harder to braid my hair on my legs PLUS too

difficult to tie my shoes,


I have VELCRO shoes

Still to far to reach, LOL

Sis, you are the same age as my blood sister. When I realized that, It was a real wake up call for me too. I, like you, have difficulty opening my left eye. I blame my C-Pap mask for air leaking causing my eyes to concrete up.

Oh well, Guess I won't charge you for using my name in your blog


Have a great day and quit blamin' poor Brian for EVERYTHING : )

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HUZZAH39 12/7/2010 1:44PM

    I love your sense of humor! You have been gaining wisdom by experience and I believe you are so far away from old. Even when you live out those days when society deems you as old, you will always be young at heart.

Now pass me some of that Ben Gay.....LOL!!!!!

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BIKERBABE2BE 12/7/2010 1:36PM

    42-dom???? I wish! I can hardly remember being that young! I agree that age is just a number and not one to be concerned about. Get out there and DANCE!!!

Thanks for sharing...I love the atomic wedgie!


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LMB-ESQ 12/7/2010 1:29PM

    Somebody said it.... Oh, to be your age again! LOL I gave up dancing ages ago (okay, so I never danced), but I can still send the alarm clock flying just like you can! Gray hairs? Pffftt.... yeah, I should own stock in Clairol too. Riding in the cold? Well, I wanted to.... ummmm.... there's snow on the ground **snivel**

LOL... so when is the big day anyway?

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JRDIAMOND4 12/7/2010 1:28PM

    HAHAHA I could have written this. HAHAHA I so relate. All my friends are jealous cuz they all have their own personal summers and I don't. I am a freeze bug, I would really like to turn up my internal heat. :)

Cody turned 21 last month and we went dancing. OK, first when did they start allowing 13yr old girls in the dance halls and 2nd where is the fashion police? Some of the outfits were made for the beach NOT the dance hall. HELLO!

I must say I was proud that I left out of there without embarrassing my son in front of all his friends, so all was good. I get to go again. YAY!! bwhahaha I did miss the table dancing. bwhaha No one dared me this time. Go figure. bwhahaha

Love the blog, Michelle.

Happy Tuesday,

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LIZZYP609 12/7/2010 1:18PM

    I am not far behind you (about 4 years) and I can tell ya, 35 hit me much harder than 30 did. Not that I even feel the age that I am! Age is JUST a number. It is how you feel!

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ANNAMARIE1958 12/7/2010 1:17PM

    Honey you are as young as you feel....I know you feel pretty damn old some times...but you look not a day over 39.... emoticon

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MINENA1 12/7/2010 1:16PM

    LOL!!!!!!! So funny!! Age ain't nothing but a number, girlfriend. emoticon

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PAPADON96 12/7/2010 1:12PM

    Oh my dear to be your age again !!!! Enjoy your youth and forget about those occasional white hairs. Hold on a second !! Ok back, I heard a creaking noise and realized it was just my bones. Ok time for my afternoon nap. LOL...

PS go Pats and congrats on their "in your face Rexy" slaughter of the Jets

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FATROCKSTAR 12/7/2010 12:57PM

    You are ageless, and timeless my wonderful friend, and don't you forget it! Normandy emoticon

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