Friday, November 25, 2011
Had a wonderful day! Started out with breakfast at home. Hubby went to get mother in law. Not sure if she didn't get enough sleep as she is letting neighbors adult children sleep there or moody or what. Her daughter had called that morning. Sometimes she's difficult after that. She made a big deal about where she sat. I said...just sit at the table where you usually do. Then it was a big deal...did I say or do something wrong...why are we so testy and sharp. Caused me to take a deep breath refocus. I had a headache and I probably said it curtly. Some days I get tired of the game we have to play. Said she didn't want anything to eat and then she ate a plateful of scrambled eggs, french toast and sausage which she made a big deal she couldn't eat and then did eat. She usually wants coffee first thing but of course refused it until she was seated and then she needed it immediately brought to her. She was in a difficult mood. Then we pack up to leave for son's and we give her the front seat so she'll be more comfortable but she has to give us some room in the back. No position suited her back...even when we put it in the same position we started at. She wanted to go home. It would hurt her back. We would have to take her to hospital if we didn't take her home. We weren't leaving her on Thanksgiving. Hubby got kinda sharp with her and told her we weren't leaving her home, she'd taken a tylenol for her back before the trip and she was just going to have to deal with it. Of course she never offers her SUV to use. She doesn't drive it any more but she never lets us use it. We try to give her the best we have and it's difficult. Instead of being thankful we take her.....yah yah yah! She pouted for the first hour or so and refused anything at my son's but did nap in the recliner. Then after my daughter in law had baked the last dinner roll...we headed to her parents for the family Thanksgiving. Mom was better by then but still a little prickly. Ate a plate full but kinda stayed by herself but she made it through it.
I still had a nice time and I think Mom did too. She just needed a right attitude...don't know if she ever got it...but she didn't verablize it.
Taking her to neighbors viewing/funeral this morning. She doesn't want to be a bother but is very demanding and difficult. Thankfully she isn't living with us...yet. I know this season is difficult on her and we deal with them and move on. My daughter in law said we're working on sainthood...and I tell her...we are just taking care of our mom the best we can and loving her through it. I know her own daughter wouldn't treat her like we do. We have spoiled her but she is the only living parent left. For the most part she is happier than I've seen her in years and less difficult. She knows she is loved and we will take care of her. But it doesn't make the road easy at times.
Enjoying time with daughter and her boyfriend.
Hubby surprised me. I have a platform rocker that's been in the garage for ever that we had growing up. It needs to be repaired and reupholstered. Hubby said he had something for us to do on Saturday. He took it to get repaired and redone and I get to pick out the fabric. It made me cry. WOW! He really hit the nail on the head of something I have wanted done for ever it seems. Really touched me! He loves me and found something to please me beyond belief. Awesome!
I ate in moderation yesterday and didn't have dessert...I was so full. Not used to eating like that anymore. So that was a big improvement for me.
Off to make it a great day. Plan to take Grandma shopping afterwards to keep her mind off her neighbor's passing. Found we need to keep Grandma busy and she functions better instead of staying home and dwelling on things.