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Terrific Tuesday

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Had a great day yesterday. Sun was shining and gorgeous at lunchtime.

Took mom to Zumba last night. Know she is having issues gradually. Came out dressed in dress pants and long sleeved blouse. Said I didn't tell her we were going to Zumba but I had told her that morning and hubby had been over to remove a chair and she had told him she was looking forward to Zumba. Plus I called her as I left work and she knew we were going to exercise Zumba. She did about half of it. At least she was moving. She made her 100th time and ordered her shirt!

Hubby taking her back to Missouri to visit with her daughter and niece and great grandchildren. Daughter is moving to Texas in June. It will also be Memorial Day and she can put flowers on graves. Decided not to go with them. I'd want to see my family and there isn't enough time plus break from Mom may do me good. Really don't want to hear her complain the whole trip and us paying for it. Trying to look at the big picture and try to understand what is going on and not take it personally. Guess I have been! She is not the enemy the disease is.

Only two days until I can hug my daughter. Her boyfriend got a new job in his field. Will be turning in his resignation at his current job. Now I loose my discount with Coach...oh well save me some money.

Took a ride in the car last night. It was gorgeous weather out and sun still shining.

Not getting much done in evening for company. Won't be going to exercise in the PM so I can get stuff caught up at home before Wednesday night.

Off to seize the day!

  
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MOMMA_BEAR_69 5/11/2011 5:06AM

    Sorry for all your mom and you are going through and I am keeping all in my prayers. I think you could use the break. Keep looking toward all you have going on this week and ENJOY it!!!
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MALKS_ARIA 5/10/2011 7:32PM

    Keep up the great outlook!

aria

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ANATASHIKI 5/10/2011 1:06PM

    try to take it like a natural thing. I mean , thinking like-mom will complain about everything today -and be prepared. if she does ,you already knew and it would be normal(for this phase) and if she doesn't , you'll have a pleasant surprise . I did it with my mom, God knows I never saw her satisfied when I was a child.(who would get angry on the rain? emoticon)

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JSPIN74 5/10/2011 11:11AM

    I agree you're attitude & energy are wonderful.

So sorry you're mom is going thru this AND you too...

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LISA0517 5/10/2011 10:52AM

    I admire you for having such a great attitude! It is really tough to take care of someone who doesn't have their right mind all the time.

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HSMOM2FOUR 5/10/2011 8:50AM

    (((hugs)))
I've been in that caretaker role before... twice. I totally get it. Enjoy what time you do have, laugh at what's going on... some day it will only be a memory and you & your family will be able to laugh at the funny things that happened.

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TREASURINGLIFE 5/10/2011 8:35AM

    Have a fabulous day! And that is so right...your mom is not the enemy, the disease is. I don't know if you are part of a support group for those who deal with loved one's with the disease, but if not, that might be a very wonderful, helpful thing to be part of.

Enjoy your break and your time with your daughter. And again, have a fabulous day! :)

- Michelle

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DGFOWLER 5/10/2011 7:07AM

    Being the care taker of anyone is difficult but when it is your own parent it is twice as hard. You see the digression and can only hope for a better tomorrow. You hang in there my friend. Lean on us here on SP as well. You have great friends here. emoticon Donna

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REDMEL 5/10/2011 5:50AM

    I can not imagine what a rough situation that is with your mom. My heart goes out to you. I am glad that you are going to get some great days soon!

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Marvelous Monday

Monday, May 09, 2011

Had a nice Mother's Day. Took mom out for brunch. Only 45 minute wait. Mom complained most of the time. Upset we were going to bigger mall than the small one (but we thought better selection so she could find something) etc. didn't like the back seat of the car but wouldn't ride in the front, On and on and on. She found 4 pairs of capris though. They got me (I don't like shopping especially grocery shopping with them)...she brought her grocery list so after mall we went to SAMS, Walmart, Krogers and never got to get her flowers for her yard. Finally around 5 we got home. Then instead of working on house...we went for a ride. Gorgeous weather. Had a great time but now wishing I'd spent more time inside. When we got home...was tired and watched mystery Sunday. 3 more days to work on house before company. Waiting on hubby to get some of his stuff moved so I can finish some stuff up also. He is so slow. Mom demanded blue recliner be removed immediately...so guess hubby will work on that today. Not sure why Dad's chair has to go today...we get one thing done (birthday gift card used) and she always has 5 more ahead that need immediate attention. Have been pretty patient the last 3 years or so but suddenly I am worn out and have had enough. We have little time and what we have we give some to her and it's never enough and she complains the whole time. Drains me dry. I have to work on my attitude. I used to be fun and tease with her. Now quiet and hold my tongue most of the time. Between work and her attitude - she wears me out. She has so much to be thankful for and complains and is critical. I see where she is less able to function more and more in the little things. It will get worse as the Alzheimer's progresses. Unfortunately she'll probably not be the happy person.

My challenge is to rise above and be positive and loving to her. Just not feeling much right now. God is working on me to mold me and make me more like HIM.

Taking her to exercise if she feels up to it tonight. Exercise really helps her attitude and physically...plus it gets her out some.

I get on a role about Mom and then forget...this is the beginning of a FANTASTIC WEEK for me...daughter and boyfriend coming home, days off work, massage, son's college graduation, Best friend coming in for two days...life is good and sometimes I get focued on the negative when I have so much good going on.

  
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MOMMA_BEAR_69 5/11/2011 5:03AM

    You have so much going on...I don't know how you do it all!! Praying...

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MALKS_ARIA 5/9/2011 10:23PM

    Take a Deep Breath.. and then let it go...

Huggerz, keep up the good work/press on!

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TREASURINGLIFE 5/9/2011 2:12PM

    ((((HUGS))))) - you're human so people will frustrate you and their moods will affect yours. Don't be too hard on yourself because of that. Keep pulling to the forefront of your mind all the positive, wonderful things you have in store for yourself this week. Hopefully that'll help ease the stress of the situation with your mom a little bit.

And by all means - have a FABULOUS week!!!!!!!! :)

- Michelle

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SCHNOOTIE 5/9/2011 11:50AM

    It's tough when they get older, isn't it? Sorry you had such a demanding day, but it's true, you have a lot to look forward to this week!! Enjoy the ride!

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LAURIETAIT 5/9/2011 10:47AM

    My aunt recently died after living with Alzheimer's for several years. I think the hardest part is watching the person that you knew and loved slowly disappear. It may ease your frustration with your mother if you try being angry with the disease that is stealing your mother away. This is one of the most difficult thing you will ever have to do. You're doing it with grace and compassion. Try not to let it consume you. Enjoy all those other marvellous events you have coming up.
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NHGRL68 5/9/2011 8:35AM

    Sorry you are going through this. I can definitely understand why it would have an effect on you. Make sure you are getting in fun and good times for yourself. It might help a little. It sounds like you will have a GREAT week. Enjoy yourself. emoticon emoticon

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ANATASHIKI 5/9/2011 8:27AM

    I'm sorry you have such hard times. my sister in law's mother has alzheimer and she's very mean all the time. she wasn't a daisy before but now she's really mean with all of her family. they try to ignore her , take care of her and ignore the things she says. every time my mom steps on my nerves I'm thinking of how lucky I am that mom is just like a stubborn 3 year old mule.
you were so happy the days before , just try to focus on the good things that are coming!

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REDMEL 5/9/2011 6:41AM

    I wish I had some great thing to say that would help this situation. I am sure this is very difficult and anytime you are dealing with negativity it is going to wear on you. You are doing a great thing by helping and being there even if it does not seem as though she wants it or appreciates it. I am sure she does. I hope that these next few days help to refuel you and bring you tons of happiness!!

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Marvelous Mother's Day

Sunday, May 08, 2011

Off to Church and take Mom out for breakfast and then off to the Mall to use her BD gift certificate from my sister in law. Then if she's up to it buying flowers daughter and I will plant next weekend. Got a good start at cleaning yesterday but still more I want to do.

  
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REDMEL 5/9/2011 6:38AM

    Sounds like a wonderful plan! Happy Mother's Day to you and your mother!

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 5/9/2011 2:59AM

    Sounds like you enjoyed a great Mother's Day. So glad it was a Happy one for you!!

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MESEATURTLE 5/8/2011 1:11PM

    Have a great day!!!!!Enjoy!

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HSMOM2FOUR 5/8/2011 11:43AM

    Flowers and planting them are a great Mother's Day gift -- one she'll get to enjoy all summer long!

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JUNEBUG150 5/8/2011 10:16AM

    Happy Mother's Day to you and your DM. Have a wonderful day.

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JOLOVESRUM 5/8/2011 10:08AM

    Sounds like a great day. Happy Mother's day. ENJOY!

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SCHNOOTIE 5/8/2011 10:03AM

    Happy Mothers Day. Enjoy it. You can always do like me and get to cleaning TOMORROW, lol.

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ANATASHIKI 5/8/2011 8:03AM

    have a good day! nothing makes me sweat like a serious cleaning! emoticon

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ARLENE_MOVES 5/8/2011 7:47AM

    Have a great day!

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NHGRL68 5/8/2011 7:31AM

    Hope you have a Happy Mother's Day! Cleaning burns calories. emoticon

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Magnificent Saturday

Saturday, May 07, 2011

A Saturday all to myself. Hubby gone to Car Rally about 1 1/2 hours away. Last full day to clean the house for company next week. Garage sale went well. Hubby out did himself. We still have 3 pieces of furniture and 2 bikes but they will go next time maybe. Don't have a lot left. GOOD! God hubby in mood to get rid of things. Need to keep that motivation. So much to do...where to start.

Am proud of myself..doing a challenge for the first time...I'm a shooting Star...aiming to shoot to the stars. Starting to keep track of my food...better. Was actually within my calorie range yesterday. And we ate out last night. Making better choices.

So excited to get my arms around daughter and her boyfriend on Wednesday night. He's been teasing me about the weather...how hot the sun is when it's been rainy and wet and dreary around here. He's a nice young man. We'll see if he stays around or not. It will take someone special and only my daughter gets to make that call. But the guys keep getting better and better and nicer and nicer. They are going to ask my hubby to go down to Florida for Father's Day present so he can take him to NASCAR Race. He will be estatic. He'll go there in a heartbeat. It's hard not to tell him. But looking forward to seeing his reaction.

We are going for a massage next Friday. Can't wait. Shoulders hurt from working on computer all the time at work.

Then my son graduates college on my birthday...next Saturday. What a nice BD present. He really graduated in Dec but will walk with the class. So proud of him and graduating with honors. When we paid for it...he didn't take it serious...but working retail and married and helping wife get through to her masters and her urging...he went back and finished...with honors..plus worked full time and married. So proud of him. He's like..it was so much easier if I had done it the first time...it's like DUH! But knew he was capable of it...when he wanted to do it.

Then...THEN...my best friend who lives 10 hours away is coming out for their niece's graduation that same weekend and then they are coming to stay for a couple of days! I mean I have the BEST few days of my life coming up...AWESOME. Am taking a couple days off work...and I CAN hardly contain myself today! And then it will be over and only memories.

Oh well need to get on with my day....

Making better choices with food and tracking and fun week to look forward to.

  
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JUNEBUG150 5/8/2011 10:15AM

    I just love the excitement in your blog! It made me feel excited for you! Have lots of fun this week with your challenge and with your company. Congratulations to your son, graduating with honors, that's wonderful!!

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CHARMIAN2 5/8/2011 6:44AM

  Have fun with your company!!!

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MONAMOM 5/7/2011 10:06PM

    WOOHOO!! Keep that excitement going!! emoticon

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SCHNOOTIE 5/7/2011 8:29PM

    I can literally see your excitement, lol. Your blog is sparkling with it like glitter and fairy dust. I love you enthusiasm about the challenge as well. We are gonna have a ton of fun. It is not easy to make better choices while eating out, so for today, you are my hero. emoticon

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REDMEL 5/7/2011 6:33PM

    Wow it sounds like you are going to have some amazing experiences! So excited for you and good luck with all of your goals for the challenge!

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 5/7/2011 3:34PM

    You have a lot of exciting events coming up and your best friend coming too!!! AWESOME!!! Have fun and make some more wonderful memories!!! ENJOY every moment! Congratulations to your son for graduating and walking with his class.
Have a Super Mother's Day!!!
Hugs,
Helen

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MALKS_ARIA 5/7/2011 2:31PM

    emoticon (close as i could get to a shoooting star for ya....)

Sounds like you got lots of company coming... WOOOHOO!

Sounds wonderful - have a great visit! emoticon

~aria

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MESEATURTLE 5/7/2011 12:38PM

    Let's all rock this challenge together!!!!!
Hope u have a blast with your best friend!!! There is nothing in the world better than catching up with old friends!

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NHGRL68 5/7/2011 8:46AM

    I'm excited about the challenge too:-) It sounds like you are off to a great start. I hope you have a GREAT weekend:-) emoticon

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JAMARIGOLD 5/7/2011 8:45AM

    Thanks for sharing such an upbeat blog! I'm happy for you! Welcome to the Shooting Stars*** This is my second time and I sure hope to do better this time. Didn't even come near to my 5% last time, but I had a lot of fun with the challenges. Have a great weekend! We can do it!!
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ANATASHIKI 5/7/2011 8:35AM

    great to see you so excited and happy!good luck with the challenge!

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Fabulous Friday

Friday, May 06, 2011

The weather was gorgeous yesterday. Sun was shining...beautiful. First day of garage sale went well. Sold several large pieces of furniture. Hubby is awesome at this. Added a few more things last night. Praying the big stuff sells. 5 days until daughter...whoopee!

  
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LAURIETAIT 5/7/2011 10:04AM

    We had a fabulous Friday here too. I need to get motivated and have a long needed garage sale. Good for you for taking care of business.

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MALKS_ARIA 5/6/2011 11:07PM

    Glad the weather is doing well for you... and glad you are actually "Selling" it.... It is always so frustrating the times you pull it all out.. and people just drive by and don't stop....

Have a great weekend!
aria

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JOLOVESRUM 5/6/2011 11:04PM

    I am so glad the weather cooperated for you. Nothing more satisfying then getting a job done, other then it being fun while doing it. Hope the rest of the garage sale goes just a smoothly.

Don't forget to weigh in tomorrow.
woohoo we are going to do it.

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 5/6/2011 1:51PM

    Hope hubby does great again today and gets rid of all the big stuff. I have noticed the countdown is on til your DD is home!!! WOOHOO!!

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ARLENE_MOVES 5/6/2011 8:31AM

    WTG hubby!! Glad you are getting rid of the big stuff.

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