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Friday

Friday, April 08, 2011

Enjoying the sunshine and time away from the office.

  
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MOMMA_BEAR_69 4/9/2011 9:14PM

    ENJOY!!! Glad you are able to enjoy some time away!!!

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HANSRICO 4/8/2011 5:10PM

    Love sunshine and being away from the office! Enjoy!

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Thursday

Thursday, April 07, 2011

Daughter having some health issues so am now now in Florida with her. A quick trip and will be back in Ohio on Monday but good for both of us to be together and get to the bottom of her health issues. Having a wonderful time with daughter...and she is doing better...

  
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MOMMA_BEAR_69 4/9/2011 9:13PM

    Glad that you are with your daughter. Hope you can get to the bottom of her health issues. Hope you can enjoy the weekend with her. Is she going back to Ohio with you for a visit?
Blessings and hugs,
Helen

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Tuesday

Tuesday, April 05, 2011

A lot going on...MIL birthday today. Taking her out for dinner if she'll go with us. Daughter having health issues so decided to fly down to Florida tomorrow to be with her for Dr apointment Thursday. Will do her good for me to be there and find out what is going on with her and good for me to be away from work and MIL for awhile.

Was going to take MIL on lunch cruise for her BD as a surprise but after last weekend's fiasco couldn't bring myself to make reservations and now it's a good thing. Time away from her and work will be nice. She seems to be on my last nerve right now. Acted like a spoiled child. She was under the weather yesterday and figured it was the meaness coming out of her ha! ha!

I know God is molding and shaping me and I'm praying I become more like Him and not like "me" through all these issues. Am feeling tht

  
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MOMMA_BEAR_69 4/9/2011 9:11PM

    It will be good for you to be with your DD and go with her to her doctor's appointment. Hope you were able to celebrate your MIL's birthday with her again. I know you had a lot planned that just didn't work out...and that is ok too. You can only do so much. ENJOY your trip.

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CRAZYCATHIE 4/5/2011 7:40AM

    "I know God is molding and shaping me"--hold on to that thought!

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EDITOR 4/5/2011 7:24AM

    My MIL had Alzheimer and moved in with me despite my wishes. Remember the good days and take care of yourself. Times may come when you don't do either!

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Monday

Monday, April 04, 2011

Off to the beginning of a great week! MIL told my friend Saturday was OK. First thing she did was tell us the chicken tenders we'd sent her home with...she wouldn't eat them while we were together...but when she got home...we hard as can be and she couldn't eat two of them at all. Wasn't complaining just wanted us to know. Hubby went to train show with buddies and I took her to brunch and she kept trying to trick/talk me into blowing off the day and doing something with her. If we walked her too much the day before (and she had same shoes on) and she had an OK time...why would I want to take her out...or why would she want to go back out with me another day? We are planning to take her out on river boat dinner this Saturday and I'm tempted to cancel it. Can't bring myself to make reservations yet. She informed me I needed to go home and make her a BD cake. She is really a piece of work right now. Maybe because she wanted to go back to Missouri for her BD and we couldn't take her she is upset. We usually do what she wants and it just wasn't possible right now. It's not like she offered to pay her way...she expects us to do it all and she's along for the ride. I just have to work through my emotions right now. Don't want to start war between us. I just have a bad attitude towards her right now. God is using this to mold and shape me. I desire to have His attitudes and not selfish one my self wants to have. Know I need to learn boundaries. Its a vicious circle...I am growing more angry with her and then feel guilty for feeling angry. Need to set boundaries...that I am free to do things with her some times and it's ok to need time to do things at home. If the roles were reversed her house would come first...why does she expect me to be at her beck and call? I just need to work through it and hopefully come out more Christ like.

  
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MOMMA_BEAR_69 4/5/2011 2:20AM

    I am keeping you in my prayers...you are doing such a good job. Sometimes she is difficult but I think it is the nature of her illness a little bit. Keep up your great work!!
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Sunday AM Early

Sunday, April 03, 2011

Woke up early...had a challenging day yesterday. Took off with Mom for an adventure with hubby and meeting up with son and daughter in law for lunch....UGH Mom just wasn't happy. We went into a couple of little shops as we were early. It was too windy for her. I told her what to wear but she didn't remember and decided to wear dress pants instead of the jeans I had suggested and wore her dress shoes instead of walking shoes I had suggested and didn't bring her warmer coat like i had suggested to her. Just got a wrong start. We got seated and of course son and daughter in law were 20 minutes late...as usual...before they got there we had to play musical chairs 3 times to get mom seated comfortably. She chose every time. After the third rotation I said we are NOT playing musical chairs again! She complained about her water glass and the waitress brought her two new glasses and hubby finally suggested she use a straw. She finally said I'm just a pain in the A-- and I said Yes Mom some times you are! She had trouble finding anything to eat...needed more dressing for her Cesar chicken salad...we got it but she doesn't like Cesar dressing..so that was a bomb..on and on and on. We ended up having a nice time. I know she enjoyed herself afterwards and when we got her home she apologized to me. I seem to have little patience now days. I am tired after a week of work and Saturday is the only day to get things done around the house...Sundays I'm often tired after church and get some things done...but not as much. So I take my one day to do something special and she complains the whole time...I'm like Why do I do this? This is a waste of my time and effort. Then I feel quilty for feeling that way towards her. She is our only living parent. I wanted to make her BD special and only time we could meet up with son and daughter in law. She is an EGR person. I used to have more patience. I wasn't on my A game either. Usually I tease and pat her and chat with her a lot and tease and laugh with her...didn't feel like that yesterday and I was quiet...so didn't help to ease her along. Hubby tells me not to feel guilty...but I do. It's a vicious cycle. I long to treat her with respect, love, make her feel cherish and needed and after all these years I'm slowly becoming more vocal and not always overlooking her idiocyncrasies and quirks. Sometimes its hard to see what is her quirkiness and what is aging/alzheimers/depression issues. At the season where I need to show more patience and caring...I am less patient and caring. Issue I need to work on. Stopped by McDonalds on way home...because she had complained of not enough to eat...to get her her beloved chicken tenders...get in, order and she decides she too full and doesn't want to eat. Hubby and i weren't hungry but thought if we sat down she would eat...so we ate and she sat and watched us eat...so ate useless calories didn't need to eat to try to get her to eat which she didn't. She probably ate them when she got home alone. Some times I wonder why I try or care...UGH! Well we move on to a new day. I know why sister in law rarely calls. They care she is just difficult at times. I knew it would be challenging...just some times it piles up some. Hubby seems so patient with her..yet she is his mom. When my mom lived with us years ago with Alzheimers...he was NOT. I struggle with those memories too! Yet I choose to be patient and loving to her. Lessons we learn and struggle through life. Each day we choose whether to follow Christ or ourselves/world. Probably shouldn't vent it out. Woke me up at 4:30 pondering all this and thought maybe if I journal it out...I can analyze it and process it. Off to make it a GREAT DAY! AWESOME worship service ahead.

  
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MOMMA_BEAR_69 4/4/2011 4:11AM

    You did the best you could do at the time. Sometimes we don't feel our best is good enough. Don't beat yourself up over it. You are a great DIL!! You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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FLMOMX2 4/3/2011 7:49AM

    Praying for you as it sounds trying.

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ARLENE_MOVES 4/3/2011 7:43AM

    Been there, done that with MIL also. And we're supposed to be the perfect caregiver and always do the right thing when we don't know what the right thing is....impossible.

You are human and impatience and tiredness are part of life. Look at the other parts of your life - you are one busy woman. Breathe deep - today will be better.

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CHARMIAN2 4/3/2011 6:44AM

  I am in the same situation with aging parent-good luck

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