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Tantilizing Thursday

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Not sure where that name came up...but wanted something besides just Thursday :) One Co-worker saw our little friend "the mouse" poke his head out yesterday from the furnace room. Been trying to catch him but guess he dosn't want caught. UGH!

Off to a great day!

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BILL60 3/10/2011 5:54AM

    Have a good one!!

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ROZELL99 3/10/2011 5:49AM

  A dead rodent is a good rodent. Have a great day!

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Rainy Wednesday Morning

Wednesday, March 09, 2011

So much for good intensions...took Mom to new hairdresser so she could walk there in the future and wouldn't depend on me...that was her whole reason for changing. So we go and new lady is so nice and we scheduled her a perm and mom says...schedule it around her schedule so she can bring me...I'm like Mom the whole purpose is so you can come on your own...and she said..what if it's rainy or cold I can't walk down here...will you come with me...>UGH! So it was all for we had a 40 minute wait because others were slow getting there so backed up our appointment. It was of NO savings of time for me...except now we can't get in and out as quickly. Then afterwards took her to dinner. I know she enjoys time together. Taking her out for a girl's day Saturday. Going to get undergarments. Everytime we do she won't wear them...they don't fit right. UGH! Love her dearly yet she manipulates to get more time with me. She makes me feel guilty that I'm not over there every day. Hard to find balance. We haven't spent as much time with her as we used to when they first moved here. There are things we need to get done and we've been traveling some weekends this year. Some times I feel frustrated spending time with her when I need to get things done at home. I come home and I'm exhausted....I'm drained and used up. I know she's a priority. Some day when she's gone I can declutter and get things done at home all I want. Guess it would be easier if she wasn't an EGR person. I realize that I'm one of those people that she wants to be around...I'm a positive, confident person who she feels safe with and we have fun and laugh. I make her feel good...I'm not critical. My memory is usually no better than her's and I don't think I have Alzheimer's yet She wants to be around me because I energize her and brighten her day. I struggle because afterwards I'm drained and all my effort for the time seems at times like it was useless. We spend all Saturday looking for the right bras...and a month later she'll be like...They don't fit...we need to go look for new ones. Stop complaining and move forward. I won't regret spending time with her someday when she's gone. I desire to make her latter years comfortable and enjoyable. I will do the right thing...just need to find ways to recharge afterwards. I know she knows we will take care of her and we are there for her. She does get bored...because she won't join any activities in her community. She is more comfortable with us. I need to take advantage of her physical ability to move easily. Some day she won't be able to go shopping with me and keep up. Then it will be a struggle to take her places. She tires now...but she can walk the malls or shop all day with rest breaks. After a day out...she is alive and more energetic and her mind is so much better. She has been stimulated.

Work went OK. Boss had me out running errands...out of the office for a couple of hours...Yipee! By the end of the day co-worker actually came in and talked with me...about purchases for the baby. Guess she was finally social by the end of the day. I try to be respectful and polite to her all day...and respect not talking to her until after 10:30 except I greet her when she comes in the AM.

Lots of issues working on. Know God has me right here for a reason. Need to work on dealing with difficult people..mother in law and co-worker...ha! ha! Off to seize the day!

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DGFOWLER 3/9/2011 5:58AM

    Raining here in Northwest Ohio too. You know I understand about always needed or feeling like you need to be doing something else, but one thing I know by experience, once they are gone it's for good and at those times you will have wished or you will be thankful for all of the time you have together. My dad has been gone almost 5 years (3/18) and I miss him everyday and I wish I hadn't been so busy singing in the country band I was in.....

It's too bad your mom won't get involved in the local senior center, so many activities to do there. What about reading to a kindergarten class or something like that?

Have a great day, stay motivated emoticon Donna

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TINY67 3/9/2011 5:33AM

    Looks like rain here all day and most of the next seven days

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Tuesday, March 08, 2011

Had a good day yesterday - the one co-worker was off sick :) Took Mom to exercise last night. She's gonna get a week full of us this week. Tonight taking her to new place to get her hair cut after work. From now on maybe she can walk down there herself but imagine I will have to make appointment for her. Not feeling challenged at work...evaluating things and sorting through things...know we aren't marketing things right now and it's slow for me...but busy for the others. I know it's a plugging on sorting out things in my mind.

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Magnificent Monday

Monday, March 07, 2011

Had rough night...couldn't go to sleep was up a time or two during the night and woke up 5 minutes before alarm went off. Drank some tea last night...must have kept me awake and running to the bathroom.

After church went to a different restaurant for brunch. Mom did OK. Sometimes she has a terrible time with change. Went to grocery store with her and hubby. It wasn't too bad. They dropped me off before going to SAM's and Walmart. She's needed to get out and we haven't had a lot of time with her. It seems like I see changes in her...slipping even more but we haven't been around her as much to stimulate her. Not sure why but I struggle having patience with her. I could have patience with my parents. Maybe I'm just stressed out with work and house to clean my patience flies out the window. Have to work on that. I know she longs for a girls day out together. Just hard to find the time. Hubby will be gone Saturday...maybe I can spend Saturday with her doing girl things and looking around. Now she wants me to go with her to new hairdresser. Have to try and schedule her an appointment with this new lady when I can go. Always seems like more work for me. Last lady was so patient. This one maybe she can walk there. She is trying to be less dependent but to get her there is more work for me and she wants me to go with her. Then she thought I'd want to change and go to her new person with her. She changes hair people all the time. Never likes what they do. She seemed hurt that I wouldn't want to go to her new one. She's probably trying to get me to do more with her. She drains my energy when I'm around her and I try to balance my time with her and with things that energize me. I am still with her 3-4 or more times a week but to her it seems like we are never around her. She started crying yesterday because she's never going to see "home" again until we take her back to bury her. Laying guilt on us thick. This will be the second yearsince we took her back. We did see sister in law and family in Texas last October, There is no place for us to stay unles we stay with my best friend an hour away or a hotel at our expense for all of us. If we take her back my sister in law will be too busy to spend any time with her. We do plan to go back this year...but I didn't open my mouth and hubby didn't say a thing...let her whimper and gather herself. That is her way to manipulate us. Maybe that's why it's hard to loose weight...stress makes me eat. I love her dearly yet she is an Extra Grace Required Person.

Guess that's how she's learned to work people...manipulate them. Why couldn't she just say...I'm missing home...can we go back sometime?....I'll pay! But of course she wouldn't say anything like that. We always absorb all the costs. We flew to Texas and I'm thinking you want to spend as much time as you can with Mom being you can't afford to come out and visit here...they stayed about 1/2 hour the last day before we took off as they wanted to visit a reserve post on their free time. They just miss her dearly. In their defense she is an EGR person and they can handle only so much.

Time to get off my soapbox. We are caring for her and we will get through this. She is manipulative and we know it and we love her and care for her in spite of it. She has a good quality of life and we will get her back to "home" sometime this year to visit with family and see dad's grave.

In spite of this I will continue to exercise and work on loosing weight. Probably need to work more on filling myself with food to ease stress and my causes for gaining weight.

Off to the beginning of a GREAT WEEK!

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MOMFAN 3/8/2011 9:33PM

    I so understand, will be spending ten days with my mom and I have to prepare myself that it is not about me during this time, but about her. However she doesn't live near me, so it is only on the phone most the time. God will give us the grace we need on a daily basis! LOL

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Sunday, March 06, 2011

Got some much needed house cleaning done...never done but gone some done and felt like I got a lot accomplished. Off to church in a little while.

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 3/6/2011 5:02PM

    emoticon on getting some of it done. Mine just seems to multiply...the more I do the more I have to do. (((sigh)))

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