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Wacky Wednesday

Wednesday, November 07, 2012

Made it through our study last night. Our attendance was less but we had a good study.

Wonder what today will hold? Planning to take Mom to exercise after work.

Some ladies are reaching out to Mom and she walked down and watched them Wii Bowl last night. That's the second time. Then they drove her home. She really enjoyed herself. They are trying to get her to play. She said next time she would. Praying they continue to reach out to her. She needs to get involved with someone and enjoy life.

More settled about upcoming weekend. Guess it takes me time to process everything.

Really feel in my gut I need to change jobs. Something keeps nagging me I need to get out of there. Where to go and what to do...I am not sure.

Off to make it a great day!

  
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SAINTBETH 11/7/2012 11:05AM

    You're doing well. Helping your mom is sweet.

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MNABOY 11/7/2012 8:02AM

    Prayer and patience will see you through.

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DGFOWLER 11/7/2012 5:47AM

    Good morning my friend. Glad to see mom's getting around a bit more I hope she continues and that the other ladies continue to reach out to her as well.

Sometimes 'over' analyzing a situation takes the fun out of it...

Have a wacky Wednesday filled with all kinds of fun.. I second what Mary said.. update that resume

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MARYJOANNA 11/7/2012 5:15AM

  Things do work out when we relax. If I may give you some advice, update your resume and send it out while you still have this job! Best wishes.

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EDITOR 11/7/2012 5:05AM

    Sorry I didn't make it to yesterday's blog by you, Kathleen.

Wonderful how God does send others in to minister to their needs.

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Election Day!

Tuesday, November 06, 2012

Get out and vote! You vote makes a difference!

Listened to Spark Radio this AM! What a neat new idea!

Learning to try to be flexible....BFF sent e-mail to see if she and her mom could come out this weekend....I was so sad. We would have had a blast and laughed and laughed....then we had wanted to leave with son and daughter in law around 9 am at their place and daughter in law e-mailed back and we can't be down there until 11 and although we invited them...it all has to be on their schedule and that discouraged me. Then she's wanted to plans meals hubby won't eat and it seemed like a viscous mess. What was meant to be a fun weekend has turned into frustration. I was just so down. Tempted to let them go by themselves and let BFF and her mom come out. But we need time with son and daughter in law and it will turn out ok. I just need to back off and roll with the situation and we will have a good time. So feeling better this AM but know I wouldn't have had all this drama with BFF and her mom.

Hubby had a phone interview yesterday with a recruiter...maybe he'll hear something.

Co-worker had a rough weekend and with everything going on...I think I must take on her troubles...I was really down and sad last night. Also lack of sleep from the night before. Went to bed around 9:30 and this AM feel like I got a descent nights sleep and feel better.

It will be fun to explore with son and DIL. Sometimes it just seems like we have to always bend over backwards for them. If we want to see them for holidays we have to go there or spend it with her family. Since daughter lives so far away and Mom enjoys their family gatherings we usually go there. It's not worth the fight or the holiday a lone. Mom really enjoys the feeling of family when we go there. There are young and old and she seems to enjoy all the commotion (which isn't normal for her). They make her feel loved and part of the clan. If she is having an odd day...she fits right in.

Guess I just let things get to me too much....maybe I'm a control freak too! Seems like I roll so much easier with daughter and BFF on our outings. Reminds me we are going to be living closer to daughter as we age.

I try to remember there has been a lot on our plate the last few years. In stead of growing calmer with age I am tending to get more stressed. Need to enjoy the moments I'm in instead of rushing through them. I think hubby is becoming more laid back...of course he isn't working...and I know that adds some stress.

Off to vote and make it a great day!

  
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SAINTBETH 11/6/2012 11:43AM

    I voted by mail a couple of weeks ago. Keep up the good work!

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AVANELL 11/6/2012 8:25AM

    Life can be complicated, but you're doing a good job of handing all the stresses and things that are on your plate. You can do this, too! Just relax and enjoy the weekend. Everything doesn't have to be perfect to be enjoyable! Take a deep breath and think about all the fun you are going to have with your kids.

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MARYJOANNA 11/6/2012 5:43AM

  You will get through this. Look on the bright side.

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DGFOWLER 11/6/2012 5:28AM

    Kathleen chances are you were closer to your daughter while she was growing up then with your son. And it's always harder for a DIL to step in then a SIL. I think we compare ourselves to them.. lol.. I would or wouldn't have done things that way syndrome.

Glad you are still going though. Have you reminded your DIL of the types of foods your hubby enjoys or dislikes for that matter? Perhaps a conversation is all it takes. It's a good thing though that your MIL enjoys the get together that in itself has to make the time more manageable.

Have a blessed day... Donna

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Magnificient Monday

Monday, November 05, 2012

Mom was difficult yesterday morning. Not sure if she was up all night afraid she'd oversleep with time change or what but she was so moody at lunch. I was dreading the Harvest meal yesterday evening...I just withdraw...afraid I'll say something I'll regret. She had to sit on a wooden chair instead of a booth as they were crowded and busy...she sat next to a window and wouldn't change sides because she would face the wrong direction and said she was cold by the window. Offered to put my coat behind her and so did hubby but no she wouldn't do that...wouldn't change seats either. Made a big deal about waitress spilling coffee on her and burning her. Waitress was just helping her as she was unable to pour her own coffee....and waitress apologized and when she left Mom complained the coffee was too cold to drink!!!!!

Trying not to become unglued but I feel the stress weighed me down when she pulls stunts like that. I want to say change seats so we can stop hearing you belly ache about how cold you are...just do something about it. Stop whining and complaining like a little child. But I didn't. She talks about days going by so slowly...asked if she was going to go to her retirment complex Thanksgiving dinner. No it's already happened...no Mom it's the 17th...well I haven't signed up so I can't go. Now I know she could still go. She tells me she won't accept rides from other neighbors down to breakfast because she doesn't want to put anyone out...and yet she piles a huge load on us by expecting us to entertain her...ugh!

Anyway was dreading last night but she must have rested some yesterday afternoon because she was in pleasant mood last night. Ate with co-worker and hubby at our table and had a nice evening. Got to see minister's new son...lots of hair. Great time of Praising God!

Know I need to work through all this. Used to take Mom shopping for clothes and out doing girl things but she is growing so difficult and cranky I dread going. We shop and purchase things and then she'll say they don't fit or she can't find where she put them and forgets she got them or decides she doesn't like them and I feel like my time has been wasted. I dread taking her out for a precious day off...and she gripes and grumbles the whole day and I'm left drained and frustrated with her...so I have less and less time for her. I feel guilty about it. Nor sure where I would find the time for it...but I would make time to do some little things with her....like go to the coffee shop and just talk. I no longer have the energy to try and cajole her and tease with her...I just grow quiet. I know she'd like to spend a day just shopping around and adventuring...just not able to right now and if I have time...I can find something better to do.

Looking forward to time away with son and daughter in law. Hopefully I won't download too much on them about their Grandma. Not sure how to process through this. Mom wanted to go to our little town's Christmas Open House this coming weekend. Don't think hubby's told her we're out of town. Will try and take her to Christmas Open homes in December.

Hopefully daughter will take her out while they are home at Christmas time. They enjoy time together and it's good for both of them. When she was back she acted so much like I once used to with her and had a wonderful time. Made my heart swell with pride to see what a wonderful lady she is growing into.

So will work on trying to understand what stresses me out so much about being around Mom and how I can learn to love her where she is and not let it get to me and let her words roll off and not make me feel so guilty and a bad daughter in law.....a learning process....

The journey of life is an adventure. Thankfully we have had Mom around so I can work on these issues in my life.

Been about two weeks...hubby hasn't heard about last interview. Wonder if maybe we need to do something else but not sure what that would be. This time been about a 2 year stretch. I know it allows time for hubby to take care of Mom and maybe that is part of it....

  
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EDITOR 11/5/2012 6:05AM

    Mom is mom and the family is doing their best for her. Hubby needs to take care of his mother and God sends in whomever He can to keep the family unit functioning. Who can possibly understand how God is working in the background for all involved? A family unit may be small or large, but the ones (God bless them) that contribute to the elder one's welfare is recognized and appreciated. Our day will come also for receiving care and God will oversee the process. Your family is in my prayers, but that says so little at times like this. Love ya'.

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DGFOWLER 11/5/2012 6:01AM

    With both of my marriages I wasn't around my in-laws at all. One set had already passed away and the other didn't want anything to do with me because I was his second wife. Now mind you they were already divorced three years before I came on the scene.. lol.

I believe with your mom she wants to be entertained and you guys are the ones doing it all. Does she have any other children that live close by? What about setting up transportation for her and having them arrive and just take her places like eating out? What about speaking to her neighbors yourself and having them help you? Church members etc? It's difficult when you guys are the only ones doing it all and I can see where the frustration comes in.

Does she suffer from Alzheimer's? Have you spoken with the Alzheimer's Association to get some ideas from them? She lives in a retirement community doesn't she?

Sounds like your journey is simply taking one day at a time and making sure that each day doesn't evolve around just her. You have to take time for yourself as well. If you need to include her in stuff continue to do the Curves with her since she seems to enjoy that so much and it still gets you out and exercising.

Continue as well to pray about is since we both know the Lord answers our prayers..

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MARYJOANNA 11/5/2012 5:56AM

  Apparently, she has Alzheimers disease.. It is difficult to reason with them and you just have to do your best. I think you treat her wonderfully.

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Praising God!

Sunday, November 04, 2012

Made some homemade chicken soup....got a bunch of it. Will share some with Mom if she'll eat it...think she should???? Also baked up some squash so will have that will meals.

Car having some trouble...slow to start first thing...hubby checked it...took battery to get tested...was low so took it back where we had bought it 5 years ago and they replaced it free. It's the little things that brighten you day!

Got daughter-in-laws Christmas present yesterday. One down. Think it will be a joint present.

All Church Thanksgiving Dinner tonight. Mom seems to enjoy the outings so try to get to all the events.

Looking forward to get-a-way with son and daughter in law next weekend. Renting a cabin near Red Gorge in Kentucky and spending a 3 day weekend. Will be too short but time with them will be good. Planning to do some walking so hopefully the weather will cooperate.

A day to sleep in with the time change and woke up with headache. Just can't seem to find a good pillow right now....

Off to make it a great day!

  
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DGFOWLER 11/4/2012 7:58AM

    Kathleen it's great you will be spending more family time and KY this time of year absolutely gorgeous. My parents were from Carter Co, KY. Not too far from Ashland and Grayson KY.

Have a great day and enjoy tonight's festivities as well. ~ Donna

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DOOBIE893 11/4/2012 5:59AM

    Have a blessed Sparkday.

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MARYJOANNA 11/4/2012 5:53AM

  Your blogs are so uplifting and I can see that you live life to the fullest! Have a blessed Sunday!

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EDITOR 11/4/2012 5:51AM

    Thank you for the note, Kathleen.
Amazing that anyone honors warranties now-a-days.
I have simplified Christmas shopping, but October is usually start up month.
Sounds like things are good and that this, we can say, is another praise day!

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Early Saturday Morning

Saturday, November 03, 2012

For some reason was awake early this AM and decided I might as well get a jump start on the day. Hoping to get some much needed housecleaning done.

Off to get in some exercise this AM to get in my 50 miles / week in.

Already listened to video for my Bible study and ready some in the book for my study on Tuesday....

Off to make it agreat day!

  
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RONALANA 11/3/2012 12:08PM

    Way to start your day! emoticon

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AVANELL 11/3/2012 11:22AM

    Doesn't it feel good to get an early start on your day? Hope you make it a great one; as you always do!

Comment edited on: 11/3/2012 11:22:29 AM

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DGFOWLER 11/3/2012 10:06AM

    Have an awesome Saturday Kathleen.. remember to relax bit too.. emoticon

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MARYJOANNA 11/3/2012 6:21AM

  I am an early riser and enjoy the morning and all it brings. Have a great weekend!

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EDITOR 11/3/2012 6:05AM

    And it will be a good day because you are flexible in the Lord.

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MYBULLDOGS 11/3/2012 5:46AM

    I woke up early as well. Decided to get up since leaving early tomorrow for Florida.

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