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Thursday, August 09, 2012

We've made it to Thursday. Am enjoying SparkCoach. Is making me refocus and get back on track.

Called Mom yesterday AM early to see if she wanted to go to exercise and she was still all messed up about the day and hubby was taking her to eye dr appt...said she had to go get dressed. We try not to make a big deal about it all. Hubby went through her calendar with her and thought she had it straight and last night she still thought today was Friday and her Dr appt and fasting. I tried to explain it all again to her. Don't know why she is all of a sudden having so much trouble with days. Another stage we have to work through. Last night she told me she was teasing me...she really had known what day it was. She is trying to cover up...I know that. She says everyone thinks I'm stupid and can't keep things straight...and that is only her thinking that...we NEVER say those words to her and make a conscience effort not to make a big deal about these issues or argue with her.

Praise Team Practise tonight...makes for a long day.

Off to make it a great day!

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EDITOR 8/9/2012 6:05AM

    She is still covering up, Kathleen. My Dad did it for so long until he admitted he couldn't care for himself anymore. My MIL never admitted it and was adamant nothing was wrong with her. Either way, I walked on eggshells.
Should be great exercise, yes? Glad you like your coaching session. Don't know anyone else who is trying it. God bless today and always!

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Fabulous Wednesday

Wednesday, August 08, 2012

Co-worker went with me last evening. Drove down to get my hair cut. She has Celiac's and she went to the Sinfully Gluten Free pizza store and after I was done we went to Dorothy Lane Market and she got some gluten free breads and even hot dog buns. Then we went to Trader Joe's where I stocked up on some things and we went to the used book store. Had a nice evening. I usually like going's a nice adventure by myself. But it was fun with co-worker. We had a nice evening.

Logged on to the two week free Spark Coach. Kinda did it accidently but am enjoying looking around and seeing what all it has to offer. Maybe it will get me refocused and back on track.

Hubby taking Mom to eye appointment today. Hopefully it goes smoothly for them. Maybe we can get her back on track. She had yesterday all mixed up with eye appointment and didn't walk down for breakfast. He is also taking her to regular Dr on Friday for check up from hospital stay. Then they are supposed to go shopping. Hubby guessing she will hit him up to go shopping today after eye Dr. She can be relentless until she gets her way when she wants something.

Hubby talking with recruiter about job yesterday. Trying to keep busy and trust that God is in control.

Planning a busy weekend Labor Day Weekend. Had already agreed to help friend decorate for another friend's daughter's outdoor wedding and had kinda forgotten about it....then hubby and I talked about heading out to our BFF's about 10 hours away for a long weekend....then remembered I agreed to help out at the wedding. So guess we'll set up and attend the wedding and then zoom off for our adventure and tack on Tues/Weds to days off instead of Friday Tuesday. That way we can cram it all in. Always enjoy going to our BFF's and they've been out twice this year to our "0" We can relax and have a good time. Plus planning to see my aunt and uncle. They are in their 90's and I gotta get out and see them. BFF will take me to my hometown and visit them and her mom. Something I need to get done before they are gone. Hubby is already to go...he keeps you have to do the he really enjoys himself while we are there too! The get away from Mom will be good. Hopefully she doesn't pull something right before we leave...I keep waiting for those days ahead.

Heading out to buy supplies for the offices this AM. First time lugging cases of water since my knees have been acting up...but we'll take it slow and see how it goes.

Off to make it a great day!

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EDITOR 8/8/2012 2:04PM

    Quite some activity! Having a wonderful Wednesday is my dream for you the day through!

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Terrific Tuesday

Tuesday, August 07, 2012

Rested much better last night.

Mom is having issues...she is getting days days mixed up for going down to breakfast and Eye Dr appt. Last two weeks she just can't seem to get things straight. We have had issues before hospital stays but this started before her overnight to the hospital. Maybe she's taken another step down. She's been pretty good for the most part. This journey will get more challenging. It would be easier if she was pleasant and easier going but instead when she mixes things up she gets angry and lashes out at others. My goal/desire is to help her through these stages with dignity and respect and have a Christ like attitude. It will be challenging. The hardest part is to step back and not take things personally and understand it's just part of the disease as she slowly slips away from us. I know she hates it...she always had to be in control and have things just so and know she can't and she knows she's not what she once was. Also she is so demading. She has to have it right now and if we can't...she trys to make us feel guilty. Then I get angry because she makes me feel so guilty and like a bad daughter in law and that we don't care or have time for her because we're too busy for her. It occupies a lot of my mind and always sitting on my shoulders ...concern about her and what we can do to get her out and going again. A viscous cycle. Not uncommon for what a lot of people go through.

Rested instead of working out this AM...will walk at justified I needed the rest this morning. And it felt good..still wanted to sleep more :)

Off to make it a great day!

This blog may become working through issues with Mom and our journey. Been down this road so it should be easier right????

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MIZCATHI 8/7/2012 10:50AM

    Your MIL is blessed to have such a loving and conscientious DIL. You are doing the loving and generous thing, and deep inside she knows it and loves you for it. Fear, even in illness, results in a loss of control and anger. Anger finds a place and lets go. While it may seem directed at you it's only because you are there. It is only personal in your MIL's emotions and not directed at your inability to fulfill every one of her needs. As one of her caretakers and with many responsibilities, you must take care of yourself and your family before you can be of service. Your MIL before her illness would have understood that.

I don't know what her illness is, but becoming more dependent as we age is natural. It's the course of nature. Many of us try to deny that in our march to live full, but we will find ourselves in the exact same spot at some point. Take heart, and march on.

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EDITOR 8/7/2012 10:35AM

    Work through issues. I had no one to talk to and it means so much for someone to say a kind and understanding word.

Dad and MIL became a very angry people and "aides" would ask me if they were always like that. The comments like that would sting me because I grew up with anger but not professionals. I say as long as she doesn't revert to cursing and your patience in the Lord hold out, you will do well and get through this. Vent and know we will not think any less of you, Kathleen.

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Monday- Off to an early start!

Monday, August 06, 2012

Here we go again with early wake ups. Had a nice weekend. Spent time with hubby, went to an 85th birthday party, went to a bigger Farmer's Market and started cleaning our deck so we can get it painted and cleaned up.

Mom is in a spell where we can't get her out again. She was doing OK but demanded I take her to the store Friday after work and I did and she was in a mood. Couldn't get her to go to birthday party with us or church. Viscous cycle we go through trying to keep her active and going.

Got a lot of rest over the weekend and even got some reading in...not sure why the early morning wake up.

Meeting former neighbor for lunch. That will be nice to catch up on what is going on in her life.

Off to exercise and get the day off to a good start.

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FREES1 8/6/2012 12:46PM

    looks like you have a lot on your plate with your mom... hang in there... miss seeing you on the Stars threads....

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VICTORY2XS 8/6/2012 5:50AM

    Sounds like you have a lot on your plate. I am glad you had a good weekend.

Best luck to you!


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DGFOWLER 8/6/2012 5:50AM

    Have a great lunch date Kathleen. Glad to see you are still keeping yourself a priority too. emoticon Donna

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EDITOR 8/6/2012 5:39AM

    Thanks for the goodie and comment this morning. Very glad you got rested up and ready to face the week ahead.
Yes, one day at a time sweet Jesus! Hopin your Dh can still find a job opportunity and that Mom will allow you that luxury of both of you being busy and understands (???) it.

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Fabulous Friday

Friday, August 03, 2012

We've gotten through another work week...or almost. Boss is supposed to be back from vacation...maybe he'll stop by???

Knees are doing better. I have some days that are better than others. Really seemed to take the steam out of my exercising. I think I was doing pretty good but have really backed off and they seem to be doing better.....

Daughter coming back home September 28 for a week for her High school reunion. It will be good to have her home.

Mom is back to usual...walked down to breakfast yesterday. Walked down from there to get her hair washed and styled (she lives in an retirment complex so it's safe for her to walk around and good for her). Hubby spent a lot of time over there yesterday and went to grocery store for her. She seems back to her usual self and appears to be doing well. She even said she slept through the night which is very unusual for her to say. Think she sleeps in her chair during the day some and then can't sleep at night.

Off to make it a great day!

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GHOSTFLAMES 8/3/2012 6:13AM

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EDITOR 8/3/2012 6:12AM

    Sounds like a fabulous Friday. Mon-in-Law and Dad would nap in chair. As I watched them, I would also look at the chest to see if they were still breathing. Scary!

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