Friday, August 13, 2010
Socrates' guiding rule was, "Know Thyself." I’ve been self actualizing since a psych class I took in college way back in the 60’s. Since joining SP and reading Chris’s introduction to “The Spark” it’s as if my keen sense of self is transforming from a fuzzy focus to a much clearer vision of what really triggers my emotional eating.
For decades I’ve found myself standing in front of the pantry almost in a fog… searching, searching, searching for something to make me feel better and as my glazed stare sharpened I’d some times say out loud to myself, “What am I looking for?”
Food (comfort) of course… but why? Had I just seen, smelled, thought of food or realized I was hungry or missed a meal? No, I was standing there because I had had some kind of uncomfortable encounter with someone. Not always the same person, never for any particular reason but clearly because I’d been triggered by anxiety of some sort
I’ve known for a long time that paying bills always triggers a hot flash so I use a CD called “relaxpeacefully” by Solitudes and now, Voila no more hot flashes. Now that I realize its people that trigger me to over eat I’m using more appropriate responses to deal with the anxiety… like affirmations, which includes prayer, exercise deep breathing or a sweetened cup of calming tea to take that bitter taste out of my mouth. The ultimate reaction will be no reaction at all. I’m working on not taking things personally as well as “considering the source.” Maybe I’ll even grow a pair and speak up (I was raised not to talk back) but then I’ll have to remember to keep my words soft and tender, because I may have to eat them…. so for now I’ll just whisper sweet nothings into my own ear and breeeeeeeeeeeath while I wait for the teakettle’s whistle
What triggers your over eating?