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Like Erma said…

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

“It’s always greener over the septic tank” By: Erma Louise Bombeck ~February 21, 1927 – April 22, 1996~

If you don’t know Erma let me introduce her to you…. she was the beloved American humorist whose newspaper column, “At Wit's End” grew to such fame that it became nationally syndicated in 1965. Some of you may not remember her but I adore many of her quotes and would like to honor her memory here. As woman and mothers, you'll probably find good humor in her quips about the life of a housewife.

Like Erma said… “I haven't trusted polls since I read that 62% of women had affairs during their lunch hour. I've never met a woman in my life who would give up lunch for sex.”

Would you give up a meal for sex? emoticon

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GINGER1OF16 8/18/2010 4:47PM

    My mom had a sense of humor much like Erma and she often dropped Erma's little wisdom bombs on us. It's 20 years in Dec since my mom died. Thanks for the memory reprisal. It makes me smile! Laughter IS great medicine.
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MRSSTUP 8/17/2010 11:24PM

    emoticon Well, I am trying to watch my weight.....
What did you say was on the Lunch Menu? emoticon
Erma was a hoot! Thanks for the memories,

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LINOVER 8/17/2010 10:01PM

    I love Erma also! Every few months I'll try to reread one of her books. She was really funny and is certainly missed!

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SUSIEPH1 8/17/2010 7:02PM

    No of course not! I love Emma she is so tongue in cheek ... thank you for such a great blog .. cheers Susie emoticon

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CLARISSA1980 8/17/2010 6:29PM

    Thank you for the awesome blog that you wrote today...you made me smile..!! I had forgotten all about Erma Bombeck...she was always so funny..!! I am going to do a google search to see if I can find some of her funny sayings online because after all, "laughter is the best medicine"..!!!
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JAKEANDNELLIE 8/17/2010 6:07PM

    I used to love reading her column and her occasional TV appearances! Her words were wisdom disguised as humor - always a message when you thought about what she said.
Stay positive,

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SHORTCAKE48 8/17/2010 4:53PM

  I love Erma. Had forgotten how funny she always was and always right on target with her humor. No, I would not give up lunch for sex thank you very much.

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    I loved Erma Bombeck! She was syndicated and appeared next to the comics in our local newspaper, alternating with Ann Landers. She was just plain REAL. I don't know any other way to describe her.

As for your question...I'd give up a meal for sex in a heartbeat! Now where's the man who HEARD me say that? C'mon, y'all. Line forms right...here...

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TWOTIMESS 8/17/2010 3:13PM

She also said: "Life's too short to stuff mushrooms." That's my motto. Thanks for the trip down memory lane.

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Triggers… food vs. people, places and things

Friday, August 13, 2010

Socrates' guiding rule was, "Know Thyself." I’ve been self actualizing since a psych class I took in college way back in the 60’s. Since joining SP and reading Chris’s introduction to “The Spark” it’s as if my keen sense of self is transforming from a fuzzy focus to a much clearer vision of what really triggers my emotional eating.

For decades I’ve found myself standing in front of the pantry almost in a fog… searching, searching, searching for something to make me feel better and as my glazed stare sharpened I’d some times say out loud to myself, “What am I looking for?”

emoticon emoticon emoticonFood (comfort) of course… but why? Had I just seen, smelled, thought of food or realized I was hungry or missed a meal? No, I was standing there because I had had some kind of uncomfortable encounter with someone. emoticonNot always the same person, never for any particular reason but clearly because I’d been triggered by anxiety of some sort emoticon

I’ve known for a long time that paying bills always triggers a hot flash so I use a CD called “relaxpeacefully” by Solitudes and now, Voila no more hot flashes. Now that I realize its people that trigger me to over eat I’m using more appropriate responses to deal with the anxiety… like affirmations, which includes prayer, exercise emoticondeep breathing or a sweetened cup of calming tea emoticon to take that bitter taste out of my mouth. The ultimate reaction will be no reaction at all. I’m working on not taking things personally as well as “considering the source.” Maybe I’ll even grow a pair and speak up (I was raised not to talk back) but then I’ll have to remember to keep my words soft and tender, because I may have to eat them…. so for now I’ll just whisper sweet nothings into my own ear and breeeeeeeeeeeath while I wait for the teakettle’s whistle emoticon emoticon

What triggers your over eating?

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MZLADY77 8/16/2010 4:40PM

    Nice and thoughtful blog, thanks for sharing! emoticon

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SUSIEPH1 8/15/2010 11:41PM

    Thank you so much for sharing..very interesting emoticon

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UNSTOPPABLE_ 8/15/2010 10:20PM

    Great blog..makes me think more about my over eating!

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MRSSTUP 8/14/2010 2:34PM

    All the social gatherings, old habits, stress, boredom, and many more. I like the idea of tea. I just bought a lemon ginger tea that sounds pretty good about now. Thanks for your tip!
JoAnne emoticon

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CHERYL7777 8/14/2010 2:07PM

    It's not just one thing that triggers my overeating but many. I learned for sure last week at work that conflict really sets me off. I think that goes back to my childhood when my mother and father fought. I would seek solace and comfort in food and that practice has carried over into my adult life. So when ever I hear any one in the mist of an argument or disagreement, I head for the vending machine, the candy dish in the front office, or any where I can get something to eat to numb my stress and fear of the situation.

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TAYLORLIV31 8/14/2010 11:27AM

    When you take time out to sit quiet and realize what's really going on it all makes sense. emoticon

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PLAYBLUES22 8/14/2010 10:34AM

    Sweetie, it is nice that you have learn to know yourself emoticon

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WALNUT5612 8/14/2010 10:20AM

H -hunger
A -anger/anxious
L -lonely
T -tired!

Great blog!!

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KELZIEROSE 8/14/2010 7:11AM

    Boredom. I get bored and I over eat.

My weekends are Thurs/Fri, and my hubby's are Sat/Sun and so when I'm home alone all Thurs/Fri I snack like there's almost no food left on earth!

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KATRIONAH 8/14/2010 4:32AM

    Great blog. You really seem to have gotten a great understanding of "YOU". That has to help in your weight loss adventure. I am working to discover "MY" triggers so I can try to avoid some of the emotiuonal eating pitfalls I end up in. Thank you so much for sharing......Karen

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JAKEANDNELLIE 8/14/2010 4:04AM

    You are definitely making great progress in understanding yourself! That is going to make your weight loss/healthy lifestyle even more successful! My triggers are family situations - usually involving interactions with one of my brothers. They still know what buttons to push and I still can't control my reactions - even at our ages!
I have been reading a book recommended by JEMPOWER and have learned a lot about calming breathing techniques and words to say to myself - I do see some improvement so I need to practice it more!

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Hidden Benefits of Middle Age

Monday, August 09, 2010

A snippet from WomansDay.com on Improved Brain Function......

Sure, you may forget your keys more often, but the latest research indicates that, as with a fine wine, age might actually be good for your brain. “In her book , Barbara Strauch cites research that shows that in our middle years—ages 40 to 65—we are better at solving problems because we can think more creatively and conceptualize issues in a more comprehensive manner,” says Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, MS, PT, a psychologist in private practice in Wexford, Pennsylvania. “Our wisdom from years of experience helps us be more intuitive so we can quickly and more accurately size up people and situations."

Well of course I know being older has its perks... what I didn’t know is I’m still considered “middle aged” emoticonAccording to this article I have two more years before I’m official a senior citizen and that’s plenty of time to push that envelope and come up with another title I like better because that’s what us Baby Boomers do emoticon

My inner child still feels young… my outer self not so much. But the euphemisms used to describe women in their 60s and beyond don’t fit any more. I don’t care for these…. old woman, pensioner, geriatric patient, granny, silver brigade, the elderly, in my sunset or golden years, aged, old folk… Booooo emoticon

Lets find a more appropriate title to describe the new us as we grow older gracefully through a healthier life style.

Any suggestions fellow SP?

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BLESSEDGRANDMA 8/10/2010 11:20PM

    Yay!! Encouraging words for sure!! We are OVERCOMERS for sure!!

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CHRISTYD921 8/10/2010 8:07PM

    To play off the sparkers idea ..how about sparklers

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JAKEANDNELLIE 8/10/2010 6:17PM

    Another hidden benefit - I just got a discount on my hotel price (my 100 pound reward) for being a "senior citizen!"

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IVYLIBRA 8/10/2010 10:50AM

    I'm simply AGELESS!

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JAKEANDNELLIE 8/10/2010 10:47AM

    I like the idea - let's be Sparkers!

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MRSSTUP 8/9/2010 11:16PM

    How funny... when I was reading your blog I thought the exact same thing. "Man, I'm still middle age!" I agree, let's be Sparkers. This was a fun read..Thanks,

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CHERYL7777 8/9/2010 5:18PM

    Well that made my day to find out I'm still considered middle age and will be for 5 more years. Wow that really makes me feel great. I think we should just be called EXPERIENCED. I know I am.

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KSHAGGY 8/9/2010 4:51PM

    How about Sparkers instead of Seniors?

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Diets I've tried....

Wednesday, August 04, 2010

Let’s face it diets do work. Keeping the weight off is the trick.

And I’ve tried them all… from as far back as my teens to as recently as the early 80s.

The 1980s???? You say! emoticon

Yes, I honestly have not been on a diet since I lost 125 pounds in nine months on a doctor’s monitored “Protein Sparing Fast” which was the latest and greatest weight loss program at the time. It appears to still be around but it’s been modified. Well I certainly hope so because a little behavior modification would have gone a long way IF, when I was done losing, I had been able to keep it off. It’s taken me 30 years to put it all back on plus another 50 pounds to boot… or should I say too booty!!! OUCH

The really sad part of this whole mess is the fact that I wasn’t over weight as a child, in my teens or my early 20s. I had body issues so I believed I was fat. While in High School mom and I would replace a meal with “Sego” See the pounds GO…. was their motto, in preparation for swimsuit season. We even had a “Stauffer Machine”… don’t ask, heh. Looking back I didn’t need to lose an ounce. In fact I was stunning. Tall, and naturally blond with blue eyes and big boobs. But I didn’t see me then. I saw a big boned girl who got her height long before her friends, who wore woman’s sizes a couple years before they did. I stuck out. I got a lot of attention from men who didn’t realize how young I was. I was uncomfortable in my own skin but I didn’t know why.

Then I gained weight with my first pregnancy… and who doesn’t??? And found that I wasn’t being looked at in quit the same way. I felt more comfortable blending into the background and after having another wonderful son a couple years later I held onto that weight too. But I still wasn’t terribly over weight. If I had lost those 20-30 pounds I probably wouldn’t have packed on the 100 pounds I gained after my husband died in 1975.

1980 was my watershed year. I lost 125 pounds got remarried inherited a beautiful daughter and was very happy. I had a miscarriage but conceived again within months and gave birth at 35, in mid 1982, to another precious daughter. Had maybe an extra 20 pounds to lose then… but I didn’t and slowly over the next 25 years it all came back and I’ve been in poor health for years now. My knees are shot and I’m on 4 high blood pressure medications. The less I did the less I could or wanted to do. I kept telling myself I can’t exercise, there’s nothing I can do to turn this around in my 60s. So I continued to use food to comfort the damaged child I was feeding inside me. emoticon

One day I realized I was literally killing myself, life was going on with or without me and I felt like crap. With my 63rd birthday approaching and my weight creeping up I decided I’d prayed on it long enough and I had to face the demons that I’d allowed to pack on the pounds. I really was afraid of what I might learn about myself... but fear was not going to hold me back any more. So I started “facing my stuff instead of stuffing my face” and instantly I began to feel better. I started eating to live instead of living to eat. I began loving myself more than food and the scale loved me right back. It’s been hard but a lot less painful than living the life that I was just months ago.

The demons are still a part of who I was that’s made me who I am but if I can’t learn from my mistakes then my journey was worthless. Loving myself was the key that has opened the door to a healthier life style and Spark People has become the vehicle I’m using to get there… so far I’m loving the ride!!

There's plenty of room for you too so please join me as we put the top down and crank-up the volume because its truly a "Beautiful Day" emoticon


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BELTONWALKER67 8/8/2010 11:43AM

    I'll join you on this journey & Yes, It's a Beautiful Day! Great Blog & Thank you for sharing!

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KARRYB1 8/5/2010 1:03PM

    Your story surely does hit home for many of us. So glad you are doing well with Spark, all it takes is a little effort to begin and it's on to success. Great Blog! emoticon

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SHORTCAKE48 8/5/2010 12:33PM

  What a terrific blog. Have definitely been there, done that. I remember Sego--only I didn't see those pounds go. I have always fought with my weight. When I was in my late 20's I weighed around 115-119 and I thought I was enormous. Like you, I have lost and gained and lost and gained but this journey is different on SparkPeople--we are not alone emoticon None of us. We all have really good days and weeks and then not so good days and weeks.

Hey, I want to be in that convertible too, only I agree with Shelia--let's don't go over the cliff!! We have too much living left to do.

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JOANOFSPARK 8/5/2010 11:17AM

    oh, how I can relate to this.....the Sego..yes, I tried it and loved the chocolate........only one that I could stand...but I used it, thinking that I was fat.....even though I walked constantly in high school, I somehow got the impression that I was fat. Looking at my pictures I see a pint size venus....beautiful, but I could not see that then.

I have tried every diet on earth known to man and then some. Losing it and gaining it back, every time. I remember the Dolly Parton where I ate lots of watermelon and cabbage soup. I even had a magazine packed full of various quickie diets. Fun, and doable for about a week....but no more. You did not change your lifestyle. I also remember those machines that shook your fat like a bowl full of jelly, at Elaine Powers. Why do we do that to ourselves.

A niece recently found a picture of me taken somewhere around my son's senior year in high school. My husband said, "my gosh, you look like a movie star." I could not believe it; I don't remember ever looking that good or feeling that I looked that good, but the proof is there.....in the picture. What we do to ourselves, by beating ourselves up and not allowing ourselves to believe we are worthy of love.
We are beautiful from the inside out and we are worthy of love

I'll join you in that convertible.....where shall we go first.......*grin* sounds like fun to me..... emoticon

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PLAYBLUES22 8/5/2010 10:35AM

    Sweetie, great blog, nicely done emoticon

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MRSSTUP 8/4/2010 11:28PM

    I can so relate to your blog. Would love to travel along with you. Thanks for sharing your feelings.

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JINLYNN 8/4/2010 8:49PM

    It's amazing the baggage we carry around from years gone by - I like your motto: "facing my stuff instead of stuffing my face” - I too have issues to face and "monsters" to stare down.
And I am enjoying the SP road trip too.
Keep walking the journey.

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    Wonderful blog. Facing our past and what we experienced during those earlier times is often difficult and painful, but I truly believe we need to in order to move forward. I've done a lot of soul-searching and thinking back since joining Spark in November and have dealt with or at least "visited" several issues. I know that is what is helping me make progress and face each day determined to stay positive and on track. I slip frequently, but now I have the desire and the skills to continue on.
What color is our convertible? Can we be like Thelma and Louise, only not drive off a cliff?

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VGIMLET 8/4/2010 5:17PM

    We had one of those machines with the webbing that was supposed to shake the weight off...or something...lol...

Great blog.


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I suck at Trivia

Monday, August 02, 2010

65% on Trivia… Yikes that’s a D emoticon it’s humbling to find out that I don’t know as much about my health as I thought I did. They know so much more now about nutrition and exercise than they did when I was paying attention back in my college health class. The nicest part of the trivia challenge is the immediate feedback when you get an answer wrong…. I am learning a lot and find myself applying the new information through out my day. And every once in awhile I get a question I got wrong before and get all excited and shout “Oh, oh, I know this one!!!!” Just another c00l SP tool that’s fun and informative…. Check it out if you haven’t already. It’s worth 3 points too emoticon

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SURFKITTY 8/2/2010 7:49PM

    I have a low average too, but that's OK because 1) I answer all the questions based on what I actually know (instead of just looking up the right answer) and 2) I'm hopefully learning something, I always read the little information bit on the right side where it explains why the correct answer is the correct answer, and hopefully that helps me remember it.

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SHORTCAKE48 8/2/2010 2:04PM

  Love the trivia too. I consider myself a professional dieter and thought I knew everything about dieting, nutrition, calories, etc. Well, boy was I wrong. It is a great learning tool.

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JAKEANDNELLIE 8/2/2010 12:24PM

    I always have fun with the trivia - it's surprising how much we DON'T know!

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JOANOFSPARK 8/2/2010 10:34AM

    oh, yeah.....It so kicks my butt, but I am learning so much in the process..and on the days, few but they do happen....when I get 3 out of 3.....I am so happy and grinning from ear to ear.. I am learning so much from the trivia.

hey, 65% is not soo bad; at the moment, mine is 61%. Every time I get it up to 66%, I end up with some trick questions.....and when I see the answers, I think......well, duh!!I knew that....but I didn't think of it that particular way..it really makes you think, which is good....especially at my age....*grin*

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REDSKNU2 8/2/2010 10:33AM

    I agree! Trivia usually deals me a humiliating blow most mornings. I do love to play and learn!

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MRSSTUP 8/2/2010 10:31AM

    I'm in the same boat as you...60 something as a score. I do like to play and it is usually one of the first things I do. If they graded for real, I would be taking a class in summer school! emoticon

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NATKITA 8/2/2010 10:30AM

    I do it every day, and feel the same way. I love learning! I average about 75%, with some 100% days and other days where I apparently don't know diddly-squat! LOL

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PLAYBLUES22 8/2/2010 10:23AM

    That Spark Trivia kicks my butt sometimes, but talk about a learning tool it is definitely one emoticon

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MARSHASTAR 8/2/2010 10:01AM

    I agree. I like the trivia game. It's informative and fun. . . . . .65 per cent is my average too. Sometimes I get 100 per cent for the day, but it sinks back down over the week.
I'm learning a lot , though.

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BELTONWALKER67 8/2/2010 9:01AM

    Love to play Trivia! what's so sad is when I miss the same question more than once! Senior moments, I guess! Keep on playing to keep on learning & have fun!

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MRE1956 8/2/2010 5:56AM

    I've gone through "sucky" periods with the trivia.....I really wish they'd stop asking questions that involve percentages (I'm SO not the math type), or the amount of calories removed if you chose one thing over the other or chose a particular cooking method (those questions have always involved choices that I wouldn't make in the first place or cooking methods that I don't use)......yep, it's really annoying, that's for sure......

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BUTEAFULL 8/2/2010 4:26AM

    I love trivia of all kinds and so this is fun as well as informative for me
your score will improve

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