Tuesday, August 17, 2010
“It’s always greener over the septic tank” By: Erma Louise Bombeck ~February 21, 1927 – April 22, 1996~
If you don’t know Erma let me introduce her to you…. she was the beloved American humorist whose newspaper column, “At Wit's End” grew to such fame that it became nationally syndicated in 1965. Some of you may not remember her but I adore many of her quotes and would like to honor her memory here. As woman and mothers, you'll probably find good humor in her quips about the life of a housewife.
Like Erma said… “I haven't trusted polls since I read that 62% of women had affairs during their lunch hour. I've never met a woman in my life who would give up lunch for sex.”
Would you give up a meal for sex?
Friday, August 13, 2010
Socrates' guiding rule was, "Know Thyself." I’ve been self actualizing since a psych class I took in college way back in the 60’s. Since joining SP and reading Chris’s introduction to “The Spark” it’s as if my keen sense of self is transforming from a fuzzy focus to a much clearer vision of what really triggers my emotional eating.
For decades I’ve found myself standing in front of the pantry almost in a fog… searching, searching, searching for something to make me feel better and as my glazed stare sharpened I’d some times say out loud to myself, “What am I looking for?”
Food (comfort) of course… but why? Had I just seen, smelled, thought of food or realized I was hungry or missed a meal? No, I was standing there because I had had some kind of uncomfortable encounter with someone. Not always the same person, never for any particular reason but clearly because I’d been triggered by anxiety of some sort
I’ve known for a long time that paying bills always triggers a hot flash so I use a CD called “relaxpeacefully” by Solitudes and now, Voila no more hot flashes. Now that I realize its people that trigger me to over eat I’m using more appropriate responses to deal with the anxiety… like affirmations, which includes prayer, exercise deep breathing or a sweetened cup of calming tea to take that bitter taste out of my mouth. The ultimate reaction will be no reaction at all. I’m working on not taking things personally as well as “considering the source.” Maybe I’ll even grow a pair and speak up (I was raised not to talk back) but then I’ll have to remember to keep my words soft and tender, because I may have to eat them…. so for now I’ll just whisper sweet nothings into my own ear and breeeeeeeeeeeath while I wait for the teakettle’s whistle
What triggers your over eating?
Monday, August 09, 2010
A snippet from WomansDay.com on Improved Brain Function......
Sure, you may forget your keys more often, but the latest research indicates that, as with a fine wine, age might actually be good for your brain. “In her book , Barbara Strauch cites research that shows that in our middle years—ages 40 to 65—we are better at solving problems because we can think more creatively and conceptualize issues in a more comprehensive manner,” says Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, MS, PT, a psychologist in private practice in Wexford, Pennsylvania. “Our wisdom from years of experience helps us be more intuitive so we can quickly and more accurately size up people and situations."
Well of course I know being older has its perks... what I didn’t know is I’m still considered “middle aged” According to this article I have two more years before I’m official a senior citizen and that’s plenty of time to push that envelope and come up with another title I like better because that’s what us Baby Boomers do
My inner child still feels young… my outer self not so much. But the euphemisms used to describe women in their 60s and beyond don’t fit any more. I don’t care for these…. old woman, pensioner, geriatric patient, granny, silver brigade, the elderly, in my sunset or golden years, aged, old folk… Booooo
Lets find a more appropriate title to describe the new us as we grow older gracefully through a healthier life style.
Any suggestions fellow SP?
Wednesday, August 04, 2010
Let’s face it diets do work. Keeping the weight off is the trick.
And I’ve tried them all… from as far back as my teens to as recently as the early 80s.
The 1980s???? You say!
Yes, I honestly have not been on a diet since I lost 125 pounds in nine months on a doctor’s monitored “Protein Sparing Fast” which was the latest and greatest weight loss program at the time. It appears to still be around but it’s been modified. Well I certainly hope so because a little behavior modification would have gone a long way IF, when I was done losing, I had been able to keep it off. It’s taken me 30 years to put it all back on plus another 50 pounds to boot… or should I say too booty!!! OUCH
The really sad part of this whole mess is the fact that I wasn’t over weight as a child, in my teens or my early 20s. I had body issues so I believed I was fat. While in High School mom and I would replace a meal with “Sego” See the pounds GO…. was their motto, in preparation for swimsuit season. We even had a “Stauffer Machine”… don’t ask, heh. Looking back I didn’t need to lose an ounce. In fact I was stunning. Tall, and naturally blond with blue eyes and big boobs. But I didn’t see me then. I saw a big boned girl who got her height long before her friends, who wore woman’s sizes a couple years before they did. I stuck out. I got a lot of attention from men who didn’t realize how young I was. I was uncomfortable in my own skin but I didn’t know why.
Then I gained weight with my first pregnancy… and who doesn’t??? And found that I wasn’t being looked at in quit the same way. I felt more comfortable blending into the background and after having another wonderful son a couple years later I held onto that weight too. But I still wasn’t terribly over weight. If I had lost those 20-30 pounds I probably wouldn’t have packed on the 100 pounds I gained after my husband died in 1975.
1980 was my watershed year. I lost 125 pounds got remarried inherited a beautiful daughter and was very happy. I had a miscarriage but conceived again within months and gave birth at 35, in mid 1982, to another precious daughter. Had maybe an extra 20 pounds to lose then… but I didn’t and slowly over the next 25 years it all came back and I’ve been in poor health for years now. My knees are shot and I’m on 4 high blood pressure medications. The less I did the less I could or wanted to do. I kept telling myself I can’t exercise, there’s nothing I can do to turn this around in my 60s. So I continued to use food to comfort the damaged child I was feeding inside me.
One day I realized I was literally killing myself, life was going on with or without me and I felt like crap. With my 63rd birthday approaching and my weight creeping up I decided I’d prayed on it long enough and I had to face the demons that I’d allowed to pack on the pounds. I really was afraid of what I might learn about myself... but fear was not going to hold me back any more. So I started “facing my stuff instead of stuffing my face” and instantly I began to feel better. I started eating to live instead of living to eat. I began loving myself more than food and the scale loved me right back. It’s been hard but a lot less painful than living the life that I was just months ago.
The demons are still a part of who I was that’s made me who I am but if I can’t learn from my mistakes then my journey was worthless. Loving myself was the key that has opened the door to a healthier life style and Spark People has become the vehicle I’m using to get there… so far I’m loving the ride!!
There's plenty of room for you too so please join me as we put the top down and crank-up the volume because its truly a "Beautiful Day"
Monday, August 02, 2010
65% on Trivia… Yikes that’s a D it’s humbling to find out that I don’t know as much about my health as I thought I did. They know so much more now about nutrition and exercise than they did when I was paying attention back in my college health class. The nicest part of the trivia challenge is the immediate feedback when you get an answer wrong…. I am learning a lot and find myself applying the new information through out my day. And every once in awhile I get a question I got wrong before and get all excited and shout “Oh, oh, I know this one!!!!” Just another c00l SP tool that’s fun and informative…. Check it out if you haven’t already. It’s worth 3 points too
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