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My 30 in 30 - Day 1

Friday, June 03, 2011

I'm going to attempt to do this 30 in 30 thing that I've seen a few people doing lately. Except my 30 in 30 will be 30 in 27 'cause I'm a few days late starting. I'm gong to do the first 3 days today; so stay tuned for Days 2 & 3 to follow this one. Why do I always have to be different? LOL

Ten Facts about Me:

1. Yes, this is my natural hair color!
2. I am the oldest of 3 (I have 2 brothers)
3. I was born in Newfoundland, Canada
4. The hottest guy I know is a pastor (AWWWW OM gosh, this one is sizzling)
5. Even though I got my drivers license when I was 18 & now I'm *cough, cough* much more than that... but not too much... I'm still waiting to get my 1st car.
6. I have a crush on a guy who almost drove me crazy (literally). So on that note, I guess I really am crazy.
7. I watched a lot of submarine races after dark from Signal Hill (Ya gotta be a Newfie to get that one!) :-)
8. I'm as stubborn as a mule.
9. I believe there are two perfect foods in this world... Cheesecake & Pizza, Oh, and Doritos.
10. I have huge faith in Jesus; and I have super power called prayer. (OK, I know, that's sorta 2 in one).

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TRACYZABELLE 6/6/2011 4:00AM

    LOVE IT!!

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SPARKYCARLEY 6/3/2011 9:15PM

    LOL Thank you. You're not the first one to tell me that; though truth is I just way what I'm thinking and for some reason other people think it's funny.

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NONNAJEANIE 6/3/2011 9:00PM

    You crack me up, Sparky - I think I'm going to be a fan!!

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6 Weird Weight Loss Tricks That Really Work

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Here's an article that called "6 Weird Weight Loss Tricks That Really Work"... and you know what?! I think they really are. Most articles I see about things like this ... or articles that list 6 "new & amazing things"... are things we've all known for decades. Rarely do you see anything that's truly "new" and "shocking". Just like on the evening news. So often we see a story about some "new" discovery... and it's all stuff that's really old news! Anyway... that's just one of my pet-peeves. lol These tricks in this article seem to be realistic enough to work.

Here's the link and the article:

Posted by, originally By Tina Haupert of

The key to maintaining my feel great weight is to not feel like I am missing out on the fun. I love to enjoy life, which, for me, does not mean starving myself. Over the years, Iíve found lots of little ways to cut calories or squeeze in extra exercise. But some of my best diet tips are a little stranger. These are the ďunconventionalĒ ways I enjoy my favorite foods and drinks without feeling like I am sacrificing.

I Follow the ď2 out of 3″ Rule.

Never heard of it? My ď2 out of 3″ rule allows me to indulge (within reason!) by choosing two splurges from a mealís usual options: bread basket, cocktail, or dessert. I allow myself to enjoy two of these three choices so I donít feel like I am missing out on all the fun when I dine out, but it keeps me from overdoing it in the calorie department.

I Start with Some Bubbly.

No, not champagne! I like to start my meal with a glass of no-calorie seltzer water. The bubbles from the carbonation give my stomach a full feeling before the meal even starts, which helps me slow down and think about my food choices as Iím looking over the menu. In fact, even drinking plain old water before a meal can help you limit calories and portion size.

I Snack on Hard-to-Eat Foods.

When Iím feeling especially snacky, I reach for foods that require some work to eat, like oranges, pistachios, peanuts, or edamame. These foods make you work for it, which forces me to slow down and become more aware of what I am putting into my mouth.

I Use Small Plates.

Iíve had one too many potato chip binges eating straight from the bag standing in the kitchen! So whenever I eat a snack, I make sure to use a small plate and sit down to enjoy it. Iím more likely to perceive it as a true snack this way. I also try to make my snacks seem special, so I focus on how many calories Iím consuming. I like to use fun dishes and placemats to enhance the eating experience.

I Pay for It with Cash.

I find that I make healthier choices when I pay for my food with cash than with a credit or debit card. Donít ask me why, but when I use cash, I give more thought to what I buy and tend to pick items that are healthier for me. When it comes to Starbucks or a happy hour cocktail, I tend to think twice about my selection before blowing my hard-earned dollars.

I Satisfy My Sweet Tooth with Chocolate.

But not just any chocolate! A little dark chocolate not only satisfies my cravings for something sweet, but it also packs some surprising health benefits, like protecting your heart and even lowering anxiety and stress. Plus, eating a small piece of chocolate as a snack can actually help curb your hunger and make you feel full longer.

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KFH3107 5/25/2011 10:29PM

    Thank you for this blog. It certainly sounds interesting. Will be checking out the link and testing this rationale on my own. I have always believed that we can learn new things anywhere from anyone. Thank you again for this food for thought.

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LOVESTYPOS 5/24/2011 4:32PM

    Thank you! I'll be trying a few if not all of these.

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PEISHYGIRL 5/24/2011 10:29AM

    Great tips emoticon

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K4ACHANGE1 5/24/2011 10:23AM

  Thank you for sharing this!

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BIRKIE528 5/24/2011 10:05AM

    Interesting!!! Some good tips! Thanks for sharing.

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VIBRANTVAL 5/24/2011 9:23AM

    Great post! Thanks! emoticon

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Thinking Skinny

Monday, May 23, 2011

I once heard a quote by Richard Simmons that went something like this... if you ask an overweight person why they're eating, you'll get responses such as 'I'm upset', 'I'm happy', 'I'm celebrating', or even 'I don't know'; but if you ask a naturally thin person why they are eating, they will respond with something like 'Duh, because I'm hungry'.

For me, I was never an emotional eater. When I'm upset I stop eating, sometimes for a couple days (this is also BAD people, and is not something a healthy person should do but I'm working on it). I never understood the idea of eating if I'm not hungry. I spent my whole life until my late 20's being super skinny, naturally. I gained weight because of meds.

This article / slide show attached really lists some of the ways that have always been part of my thinking process. It's called '12 Ways to Think Slim' by Marisa Cohen of Self magazine.

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SPARKYCARLEY 5/23/2011 10:31PM

    Thank you so much for the comments. I'm so happy that you all have enjoyed it so much.

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HOPEFULANGE 5/23/2011 8:18PM

    Thanks for the link! One of the quotes really spoke to me:
"Because it's there" is a fine reason to climb Everest, not to eat a treat. That's my problem hands down. Now it's on my spark page to remind me everytime I log in! emoticon

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RESULTS361AP09 5/23/2011 5:42PM

    Good info-thanks for sharing with us!

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GRANDCRACKER 5/23/2011 3:52PM

    great blog. i normally eat when i;m hungry. because most of the time i forget to eat

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ALYSSA203 5/23/2011 2:17PM

    Very interesting. :)
I'm working on doing a check in when I head to the kitchen.
"Am I really hungry or am I craving? If I'm craving, what can I do instead? Am I just thirsty?"

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    Some really excellent points here, thank you so much.

Enjoy your day living life with a vengence for living life to the fullest.

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PIXIEFLOWER1 5/23/2011 1:24PM

    Thanks for sharing this blog. I too used to be very skinny naturally. I still sometimes forget to eat. I know it sounds crazy but I have three sons at home that I'm always cooking for. Sometimes the cooking tricks my brain into thinking that I ate. But I have the opposite habit as well, mindless eating. I've been working very hard at keeping the food out of the living room, my mindless eating happens in front of the t.v., usually watching food network!

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JUKEBOX2 5/23/2011 12:23PM

    Great blog... Thank you!

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KIMMYWIZZIE1 5/23/2011 10:58AM

    Great blog post! I eat when I'm bored. Very bad habit.

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Stockholm Syndrome

Friday, May 20, 2011

I was reading about Stockholm Syndrome. Here's an article on the issue

What I don't understand is this... how does knowing the reasons why one falls in love with their abuser help you to stop feeling it?

I don't ever talk to him anymore; but I do still see him all the time and it can't be helped. The feelings I had for him were intense. The good feelings were as intense as the bad ones were on the bad side. Despite all that he put me through (mental and emotional abuse) my heart still stops each time I see him.

Anyone have any experience with this kind of thing?

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SPARKYCARLEY 5/25/2011 2:23PM

    Thanks BOBBIENORTHERN so much for sharing your story and your advice. I've been through a lot myself. I'm about to turn 45 in a couple months and I still feel 25 on the inside. But to look at what I've been through and survived, I'm thinking I should be much older. I guess all in all I'm doing well. The transformation on the inside for me has been extreme. It's taken a long time. I have gotten to the point though that I am happy being single and learning to be independent without a man. It can be fun. It's lonely much of the time but I'm always busy so it helps. One of my biggest changes is that I am willing to wait for God's timing on a new man in my life. Who ever he is and where ever he is I know God is preparing us both to be together; and I know no matter how long it takes he's worth waiting for. In the mean time I get to be happy and fun just being me! It's a whole new feeling that I've never had before. I'm liking it a lot. Each and every day is a step further away from the past, the pain, the hurt and the ugly stuff and a step closer to Jesus. It's awesome.

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    I have been married 3 times and my first husband was shot to death by someone else that he was attacking so I was left a widow.

I then went and married 2 months later to another abuser and divorced him and then went a married again years later to another abuseer and divorced him.

All of this took place before I was born from above, before I gave my life and spirit and soul and body to Jesus.

I was born again, born from above in 1984 October 1, 2, and 3rd. It was a 3 day and night process of repenting and being infilled with Holy Spirit.

This all took place with my 3rd. husband and because of my inner transformation I began living different and thinking different and responding different and feeling different.

I took me until 1992 to divorce that 3rd. abuseer.

It takes time but the deeper you get into Jesus and the word of God which is Jesus who put on flesh the more I was able to start loving myself and accepting who I was and am.

The more I started liking and loving and respecting myself for who He made me to be the more different I became.

Holy Spirit finally got it through to me that I was not created to be mistreated by the hands of anyone at all.

The more and deeper and stronger I was in getting with the word of God and my relationship with Jesus the more my 3rd husband beat on me and kept saying vile and dirty and ugly things to me to try and beat me down to raise himsself up in his own estimation.

So, I got the ok from Holy Spirit to walk away from him.

I got my divorce in 1992 and am so happy and filled with Jesus.

I would love to get married again, but only to another believer who loves Jesus as much or more than I do.

He taught me how to love me, like me and appreciate myself for who He created me to be and that is when I said enough is enough and I no longer have any desire anymore to have anything to do with abusive men.

It took years but I am finally arrived to being in the joy of our Lord all the time.

It takes time to be transformed on the inside which means to have a change of heart which means a different way of life.

I hope I have explained myself to where you can understand what I am trying to say.

If you have any questions you can ask me any way that you want.

I am now 68 and have been single since 1992 and am just enjoying my new life in Jesus and being free in Jesus.

Freedom and peace and the ability to walk in love and peace and the ability to forgive all others is such a joy to me.

Also, I sure would love to read your blogs and please keep me posted with what you are doing.

It is all up to us with each new day given to us with our daily decisions of what we pick and choose to do with each day which is a gift from above to walk in love and peace and freedom to forgive and love.

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SPARKYCARLEY 5/22/2011 9:01PM

    DAWNO64 thanks for sharing your story. I think realizing these things you've realized is one of the hardest lessons to learn... but when you truly understand that and feel it, your world can change. Hugs to you for making this accomplishment.

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DAWNO64 5/22/2011 7:04PM

    Wow, I agree with everyone here. The sperm donor (as I call him) had a bit of the effect on me, until I realized that hating him was still keeping myself tied to him. And the saying "holding a grudge is like taking poison and then waiting for the other person to die" applied, also. He died a few years ago, and I felt...nothing. Not anger, sadness, or relief. Just nothing. Felt a bit like a triumph when I realized it.

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SPARKYCARLEY 5/22/2011 1:10PM

    Thank you so much PATTYCAKE17 for the support. You're probably right. Subconsciously this could be because it's familiar.

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PATTYCAKE17 5/22/2011 12:49PM

    It's my understanding that we are comfortable with what we know. If we've grown up with abuse, for example, we may try to run from it but will often find someone to continue the pattern or relationship that we are familiar with. Often it seems to run in families for generations. That is why we have to define the situation so we can be aware of what we are walking into or what we are trying to walk away from. It's complicated.
You are not alone. God loves you and understands. He can help turn things around like no one else can. emoticon

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SPARKYCARLEY 5/21/2011 9:13AM

    Thank you so much for the support and advice. It really does help to know I'm not the only one. I was starting to think there's something wrong with me; or even trying to tell myself that "maybe God has plans for us to be together in the future". You guys have given me something to think about in a new perspective.

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VIBRANTVAL 5/21/2011 1:02AM

    YES! My ex-husband...he didn't physically abuse but there was enough mental/emotional abuse to make up for it. It was a very INTENSE roller coaster ride...the good was very very good, and the bad was horrid!
I really have no advice, just wanted to say i know what you mean! There was a part of me that longer for,missed, loved him long after he left me for a TEENAGER....and I even missed the "ride" for a long time.(I think i was addicted to the adrenalin rush of the dramatic ups/downs.) We had children togethar, so it was impossible to put him completely out of my life.
Until he died by his own hand 2 years ago.
The good news is that I was able to move on and have been happily married to an incredible guy for 16 years! At first, I thought there was something seemed kind of boring without all that INTENSITY ! But trust me,i've adjusted! So there is hope!
Chin up and rock on! emoticon

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It's Almost Time!

Friday, May 13, 2011

It's almost time Friends. Time for my doggie to come home! Woo Hoo.


See as awesome as my new apartment is, there's one thing missing. My dog. Those who have been following my stories for a long time may remember me talking about my dog. There's pics of him in my photo gallery. Anyway, the new building doesn't allow dogs. The thing with this, though, is that not allowing dogs into apartment buildings is completely illegal here in Ontario! That, however, doesn't always make it easier for people who are still afraid to stand up against their landlords. You may get 'one up' on your landlord with the law if you want to push it; but the landlord, if s/he is under-handed enough, they could do things to make your life so miserable that you would want to move. My landlord has the reputation of doing this. It's a big company who owns and manages a lot of buildings.

Granted in other places I've lived, I knew the law, and it didn't bother me what the landlord said... I took my dog with me and I never had any trouble and never regretted it. This time, though, is a little different. See for a few reasons I have a bit of a personal connection with the owner of the company who owns this building I live in. This is a person who was very influential in helping me get this place to live; and thereby helping me stay out of a shelter or off the street. So, because I'm so overwhelmingly thankful, I don't want to appear to be ungrateful. It is SO very important to me that this doesn't happen. If I brought my dog home, because I have the right to do so, the landlord may regret helping me. I just don't want to be that kind of person. Yet, I know my rights, and I need my dog. I have had some struggles in my Bipolar because I don't have him anymore; including the changing of my meds several times.

So, 2 of my doctors (my GP and my PDoc) plus my pastor that I do counseling with; have all written letters of support for me, saying that I need my dog as an emotional-support dog as part of my therapy for my Bipolar Disorder. Today, I got the last one of these needed letters. Plus, the other day, God put an article in my path that talks about new medical studies that show that dogs, even those who are just pets and not actual trained therapy dogs; are known to help people with Bioplar. So I have a copy of this article to accompany my letters of support.

My next step is to write a letter to my landlord and submit my request that she give me her blessings to bring my dog home. I have also been in touch with legal support about this as well. So I have that if I need it. But I don't think so. God has been guiding this whole journey with my life and I know that He will not keep me and my dog separated. I have faith. I have been praying for a long time. It's almost a year now that my dog and I have been separated. He's living with a friend. As a matter of fact, I also have been praying that God change this person's heart to do good for people and their pets instead of using her position and power to hurt people as she has been. I have such faith that I wrote a long journal entry about it so later when it happens I can show people that I 'knew' because of my faith!

I've felt God telling me on several occasions that my dog and I would be separated for a year... which, at the time, felt more like a decade. Well, the end of this month will be a year! Coincidence? I think not... but then as a Christian I don't believe in coincidences. I believe in the love and supernatural power of the Lord and Creator of the Universe; who happens to love me very much!

So next week, I will submit my request. Then I'll wait. So, friends; please pray for me and my baby. We will be reunited soon.

Thank you for the love and support you guys have given me for such a long time now.

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DSNOWAK 5/16/2011 7:20PM

  You have a wonderful support system, pets are as important as meds sometimes. You Go Girl! emoticon

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SPARKYCARLEY 5/16/2011 4:03PM

    Thank you all so very much for your prayers. Casey and I need them so much right now. I just, today, submitted the letter to my landlord with my medical support letters. Now, I have to wait. But I know it's all in God's hands. I will not give up faith.

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SERENEMOM71 5/16/2011 3:21PM

  I have a chocolate lab (3 years old) who thinks he is a human named Duncan and two cats who are rescue cats (almost 2 years old) who are brother and sister named Prince (he is regal!) and Purrfect (yes, she purrs all the time!) who are my babies! even though I have 3 children, 8 grandchildren, and 1 great grandchild! I need them for companionship and support as I am disabled. You will be in my thoughts and prayers! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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RSSSLHB 5/15/2011 9:35AM

    I will be praying, God is emoticon emoticon

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SEAWAVE 5/15/2011 7:27AM

    With the medical support, I don't think they can refuse you having your dog with you. I think it's considered to be in the same category as a seeing eye dog. Despite the law that says they cannot refuse tenants their dogs, I think you were wise to get the extra support and so hopefully also protect your relationship with your contact. Let us know how it turns out!

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LINDAKAY228 5/14/2011 4:02PM

    I can relate to your love for your dog and need to have him with you. I have a lab who is my baby. Prayers going your way.

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CAROLIAN 5/14/2011 6:04AM

    I will pray that your landlord sees you need your little friend with you lol carol emoticon Hope you are happy in your new home

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AMBERLEIGHM1 5/13/2011 9:41PM

    I pray that your landlord will realize their error and allow you to have your faithful companion back. I know how important pets can be.

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