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Day 477: Day 6 of the 30 Day Extreme Push Challenge

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

We are 20% done already..can you guys believe that?? Woot woot!

Welcome to the 30 Day Extreme Push Challenge! You can jump in at any time! Donít forget to sign up at the 30DEPC team at: www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i
ndividual.asp?gid=51680


I will also be posting a lot of things that will assist you guys (thought provoking articles, vlogs, links, motivation, advice, free coaching, etc.) on my ďlikeĒ page on Facebook, so find me on there and like me!! I would LOVE your support :) www.laurenwardell.com !

Challenge #2 Description: Please watch the video on my "like" page titled "what would you do if you didn't worry about being judged?" You can find it here: www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=8
61687958637&oid=129211373824786&comments
! It's 15 minutes long, but I think it will be very beneficial and I am hoping it helps things click for you! Then answer these questions:

What do you think you could/would accomplish if you didn't have to worry about the judgments that other people make? Can you identify people who have conditioned you to be more likely to judge yourself (hypercritical parents, past relationships, abusive friends, etc.)? Do you find yourself judging other people for things that you may (subconsciously or consciously) be insecure about yourself? If so, do you want to change? If you want to change, what are some things you can actively start doing right now to that will help? Do you agree that judgmental people are insecure? Why or why not? How do you think making these changes (caring less about judgmental people) will change your life? What is going to be the hardest about changing? Who is one judgmental person in your life you are going to consciously going to ignore when they start passing judgments?

Check-ups:
Nutrition (giving up cheese/only going out once a week): Day 6!! This is getting easier, haha..the hardest part is figuring out if something has cheese in it or not! Sometimes I forget too..like today I was looking at the menu and was going to get a bagel with cream cheese..started debating if cream cheese counts as cheese (when I originally thought up the challenge I was thinking pizza cheese, sliced cheese, deli cheese, etc.). I decided it probably did. haha. And that eating it would be cheating (even though I decided that cottage cheese doesn't count, haha). It hasn't been TOO hard though :).

Fitness (phase 3 of ChaLEAN Extreme/finishing it): On day 69! I have one day I have to make-up (Fat Burn Challenge) from being so busy with work..but I'm pretty much on track with this!

Chalene Johnsonís 30 Day Push Challenge (sign up at 30daypush.com if you want access to the videos, do it before July 1 because if you don't you'll have to wait til August 1 to access the videos as of right now..she's considering changing it): I am a few days behind on this part. I made the decision to take however long as I need to complete this challenge. My main objective is making sure I put significant thought into every single day. For that reason, I am 4 days behind (as you guys know, I've been super busy with work). That's OK though..it's getting done! And it's getting done RIGHT! :) Much more beneficial that way than rushing through the days just to make sure I stay on top of getting the challenge done in 30 days! :)

Day 2 Description (created with her "Priorities" Car Smart, so it's a little bit more detailed/different): What are your priorities? What are your life goals? What are you living your life according to? What are your values? Give your priorities a ranking that is specific to YOU (not what society thinks, what is in your heart).

What are the things you are not willing to compromise or abandon while pursuing a goal (regardless of the outcome)? What is your top priority? What gives you the greatest happiness? What gives you the greatest joy? What gives you the greatest pride? What area of your life gives you pain? What makes you feel sorrow? What characteristics do you most value? Not what society imposes on you, but what YOU feel in your heart.

Attach actions/verbs to these categories that are your top priorities. This is something that when you add something new to your plate, you ask yourself, ďwill it allow you to continue to live my life according to my top priority?Ē List the five most important areas of your life, and then rank them according to their importance.

If an outsider saw you, would they assume you were living to your life according to whatever your top priority is? Whatever your top priority is, what can you do differently to make sure that you devote more of your time to it? Is your behaviors, your time, your focus directed toward that top priority? Are you living your life that way whether or not someone is looking?

What is your truth? Not what other people are telling you should be your truth, but what is YOUR truth? Whoís most important? Whatís most important? What do you want people to say about you when you arenít around?

All decisions should be made based on your PRIORITIES. When you have a big decision to make, make sure you are referring back to your top priorities. Ask yourself, ďis this consistent with my top priority?Ē

Develop clarity of what you want to achieve. What will bring you happiness? Which one of your priorities is going to make you the most fulfilled (regardless of what society thinks)? If you achieve and live your life according to your priorities, will you be happy? If not, make some new priorities! Stop doing things that donít move you towards happiness!

Are you living your life and setting priorities that are developed around the clarity of your values (what you want to be remembered for)? Set priorities with a purpose, live your life and set your priorities as though you are looking back on your life? What do you want people to say about you at your funeral?

What are your intrinsic priorities? The priorities that donít have to go on your list because they are just a part of who you are. These are things that donít go on your list because they are part of your fiber.

Chalene Johnsonís 30 Day Push Challenge, Day 2 Answer: My number one priority is being true to myself/loyal to who I am/practicing what I preach. This is my number one priority because it is required so I can do the rest of my priorities. If I am not being true to myself/loyal to who I am/practicing what I preach, I am unable to help people in the best way that I can. That is why it's my number one priority, regardless if I usually put other people's needs in front of mine. I figured making this my number one priority will reinforce this and remind me how important it is.

My number two priority is my closest friends/their wellbeing/helping them live happier, more fulfilled lives. My friends are very important to me and I want to seem them take advantage of everything that I have learned (if they want to). Before I help other people I don't know, I like to help my friends who have been there for me. They were the first to teach me some of the things that make me the coach that I am! To show my gratitude (and remain true to my value of being loyal), they are my number two priority.

My number three priority is helping people live happier, more fulfilled lives. This one a lot of the time goes straight to my number one because I have a lot more people in my life that I don't know that need help than I do know (if that makes sense). I'm also a people pleaser, and often put the needs of others before mine (it makes me happy!). While I think that I need to be careful of this so I don't neglect my own needs (which could cause me to be less of a coach than I can potentially be), I think it's a very good priority to have.

My number four priority is my family. You may be like "what?!?!" Honestly, when I first did this exercise, my family/friends were grouped as my number one priority. After some soul searching and listening to Chalene's Car Smart on priorities, I decided that (even though society says family should be above my other priorities) right now family cannot be higher on my list of priorities than myself or my friends. The reason being that they drain SO much of my energy. I love my family very much, but they can be very unsupportive of what I am trying to do and very critical. I have identified that (for this reason) I cannot make them too high of a priority if I want to ensure that I am successful with my other priorities (if that makes sense?).

My future coaching business is my fifth priority. This pretty much falls in line with all of my other priorities. This coaching business reflects being true to myself/loyal to who I am/practicing what I preach because it's something that pushes my agenda of helping friends, family, and people in general. Having an official business/making it my career ensures that I am successful when it comes to being true to myself (and becoming the best I can be through constant learning of how I can be a better coach/applying this knowledge to myself). It also ensures I will be able to help people live happier, more fulfilled lives because it will eventually be my main focus (after I complete school). It is my last priority because the other four are more important to me.

Quick List Of My Top 5 Priorities With Action/Verbs:
1. Being true to myself/loyal to who I am/practicing what I preach
2. Friends/their wellbeing/helping them live happier, more fulfilled lives
3. Helping people live happier, more fulfilled lives
4. Loving and supporting my family
5. Creating a successful future coaching business

AHH! I have so many life goals, the possibilities are seriously endless! The ones that stick out the most to me is to help millions of people via transformational coaching (indirectly and directly), have a successful marriage, have a successful coaching business, be a great mom who creates an environment for her children that allows them to grow up confident and with lots of self-esteem, help people reach their goals, completely say goodbye to my issues with emotional vulnerability, take 3-4 vacations every year, be able to take my family and my closest loved ones on a cruise every single year (and be able to pay for it) so they never have an excuse not to take time for vacation (like I used to do), be a great boss/someone that my employees are proud to work for/treat my employees AMAZING, come as close to being completely nonjudgmental as possible, be the best friend I can be, etc. etc. So many more if I REALLY thought about it! haha..but you get the picture! :)

I will not compromise my future family/time spent with them (when I have one) no matter what. I will not compromise my values as a person (loyalty, what I believe) just for money or fame either. I will also not compromise my relationships with my closest friends or the time it takes to help other people.

I am happiest when: I am with my closest friends/helping them, I am seeing the people I help have their a-ha moments, when I make accomplishments that were a real challenge for me, when other people say I have changed their life, and when my family is together talking about memories (haha, random..but true).

What gives me the most pride is: when I finish a project that I have worked hard on, when my hard work pays off, when someone tells me I have changed their life for the better, and when I am seeing evidence that all the work to get rid of my bad habits (the things I don't like about myself) actually working (i.e. getting over people judging me by creating a "like" page on Facebook that everyone I know can see and read my story/naturally have the ability to judge me for all my vulnerabilities I've put on that page and here on SparkPeople)!

What gives me pain: seeing the people I love hurting, not being able to help someone I feel really needs my help, not being able to help someone who has similar issues as I did because they won't let me/don't believe they can get better, negative people who try to bring me down, and seeing people in general in pain (I would say I'm more empathetic than most people I know).

I would imagine that an outsider would assume I was living my life according to my top priority of being true to myself/loyal to who I am/practicing what I preach. While I could sometimes work on practicing what I preach (I often preach things I'm trying to work on--that's why I preach it! To ingrain it into my head), I am pretty good at being loyal/true to myself.

I can make sure I devote more time to me as a person by doing at least 2 things that help me improve myself every single day (these can overlap with my push goal). For instance, making sure I read a self-development book that relates to something I'm trying to work on for 15 minutes. This will reiterate EVERY single day that I'm important and worth the time and effort, just as much as the people that I help. And that I can't help anyone unless I'm happy with where I am at.

My behaviors could reflect this priority more than it does right now. I have a problem with people pleasing, which is a good thing if you are pleasing the right people who have the right reasons. I have a hard time saying no when people ask me to do things, this is something I want to actively work on and have started thinking about more recently.

I am proud to say that I have been really working on living my life the way I want to live it, regardless if people know about it. Today, I was given an extra $10 for change when I was paying for my lunch (lady thought I had given her $20 and I think I gave her $10)..and even though no one was around and I could have kept the $10 (and I wasn't 100% sure I gave her a 10, but pretty sure), I immediately gave it back to her. I don't think this was something I would have necessarily done..keeping extra cash can be so tempting. It wasn't even something I thought about though. This situation doesn't happen regularly, but it made me feel like an honest, good person. I didn't know whether or not she would have to pay the difference if her register wasn't what it was supposed to be..and it didn't matter, that $10 wasn't mine, regardless if it was given to me. Old me may have been like "oh well, she should have paid attention!" haha..this is not how I want to live my life though, regardless of who is watching.

What do you want people to say when you're not around? I want them to think of me as an understanding person who genuinely cares about other people. Someone who has helped them when they needed help and was always there to rely on. My closest friends come first, followed by my family members, followed by other friends, followed by everyone else. Obviously, how much help someone needs could change if they were put in front of someone they normally wouldn't be as well.

I think the priority that will make me the most fulfilled is helping friends/others live happier, more fulfilled lives. The reason why this isn't higher than being true to myself/loyal to who I am/practicing what I preach though is because in order to do that the best that I can...I NEED to focus on me first and foremost. I have to be the best I can be before I can be the best coach I can be/help other people.

Ultimately, having a successful coaching business will allow many of my priorities to really flourish, even though it is my #5 priority as of right now. I would definitely be happy if I lived my life according to these priorities, and I know this because I'm actively trying to do it right now!! :)

I am about 75% there when it comes to living my life and setting priorities according to my values. I think coaching school will be really therapeutic for me and increase clarity of what i really want to do. I'm still in a transition period right now of going from old me to new me...I'd say I'm about 75% there. There's some things that I will need to work harder to change (such as wasting more time than necessary partying with friends on the weekend because I love being social), things that have been a part of me for quite some time. Things that are hold to change because they are fun, but not bringing me any closer to my goals.

I want people to say the following about me at my funeral: I really cared about other people, I helped so many people, I was a fantastic mom, I wrote some really helpful books, I was an amazing friend, I was a fantastic wife, I was a fantastic person to work for, and that I loved what I did.

Intrinsic priorities that donít need to go on my list:
1. Building and maintaining relationships with people
2. Setting goals and accomplishing them
3. Working on improving myself in general
4. Nixing unhealthy habits that will cause me to be a poor example (i.e. smoking, coffee, etc.)

Hope you guys enjoyed this long blog! Do you understand what I mean now when I say I don't want to half do these days? haha. Perfect day to use as an example :)

  
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DEBBIE19580 6/29/2011 10:54AM

    wow!!! you'r such a great writer, and touched on sooooo much stuff that gives me soooo much to think about.I wrote down your sentence ALL DECISIONS SHOULD BE MADE BASED ON YOUR PRIORITIES. i really loved that one, among many many others. congrats on everything your accomplishing, your doing soooo awesome, and i know how cliche this is, but you ARE my inspiration every single day. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Day 476: Day 5 of the 30 Day Extreme Push Challenge

Monday, June 27, 2011


www.laurenwardell.com

:) Thanks for understanding guys! :)

  
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DEBBIE19580 6/28/2011 9:38AM

    yOU'R giving us waaayyyy more then 110%!!!! i LOVE LISTENING TO YOUR VIDEO'S, BLOGS, AND READING ALL THE ARTICLES!!! aLL OF what your doing is helping me so much. I honestly dont know how your doing all this, for real, i wouldn't make it past a day!!!! THANK YOU,AGAIN!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CUYLERAYERS 6/28/2011 8:36AM

    Girl, you are ON FIRE! I wish I was posting as much as you are! I can't even manage my sparkpage and my personal blog....and you have ALL this stuff you post!

Keep it up! You are doing great!

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CUTE_MIKEY 6/27/2011 10:42PM

  Wow, Lauren, your really dedicated! emoticon

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Day 475: Day 4 of the 30 Day Extreme Push Challenge

Monday, June 27, 2011

"Like" me on Facebook! www.facebook.com/laurenelizabethward
ell
Tons of support, including exclusive articles, vlogs, free coaching, etc. :)

  
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CUTE_MIKEY 6/27/2011 6:27PM

  Hey Lauren, i hope you got some much needed rest and thats ok if you cant blog everyday! Keep up the great work and you motivate us a lot!!

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SUNRIZING 6/27/2011 10:17AM

    emoticonyou sound sleeepy emoticon

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DEBBIE19580 6/27/2011 9:56AM

    I hope you got some sleep. Just listening to your schedule wore me out. You gotta be exhausted. your doing sooooooo AWESOME lori and your such a huge motivator for me too!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Day 475: Where Was I On Day 3 Of The 30DEPC?

Sunday, June 26, 2011

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NEWSWEETBREEZES 6/26/2011 4:44PM

    Hi I had a difficult weekend but getting back on track today. I was doing so well and then just because I celebrated my moms birthday with a black bottom muffin I did not lose anything this week and then with my 14 year old daughter flying out of province for the first time got me stressed and I ended up eating 500 extra calories that were not vegs and fruit yesterday and then today I am doing better but struggling.
Also I am disappointed that I am not exercising that I am still healing from shin splints. Yep I have this thing with doing to much exercise as I keep injuring myself. I am getting tired of the blocks and my feeling towards them that makes them blocks. I know this sounds like a boo whoo secession but I really feel a little defeated. I did blog today. I have many goals . In your blog you talk about giving yourself permission. I am wonder if I was giving myself permission to sabotage myself. I can't let myself sabotage all I have worked for so far. emoticon emoticon

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JOIE501 6/26/2011 2:39PM

    That is great that you know you can keep up with your goals and not have to blog everyday. Since it is summer now, it has become way harder for me so I still need to blog daily and keep my goals fresh in my head. I dislike not having a set schedule, and I am having to push myself to run. Urg! I hope it gets easier!

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Day 473: Day 2 of the 30 Day Extreme Push Challenge

Friday, June 24, 2011

32 days of consistent blogging and checking up on my goals!!

Welcome to the 30 Day Extreme Push Challenge! You can jump in at any time! Donít forget to sign up at the 30DEPC team at: www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i
ndividual.asp?gid=51680


I will also be posting a lot of things that will assist you guys (thought provoking articles, vlogs, links, motivation, advice, free coaching, etc.) on my ďlikeĒ page on Facebook, so find me on there and like me!! I would LOVE your support :) www.facebook.com/laurenelizabethward
ell
!

Check-ups:
Nutrition (giving up cheese/only going out once a week): Day 2! I can't believe it--cheese is seriously in EVERYTHING. hahaha. But I've done fine! :) Gotta read labels a lot of the time though!

Fitness (phase 3 of ChaLEAN Extreme/finishing it): Finished Lean Circuit 3 for the first time today!! Amazing feeling!! I am liking the lean circuit..definitely more coordination required (which I lack, HA!)..but I sweat a TON..I love it!

Chalene Johnsonís 30 Day Push Challenge, Day 2 Description: What are your priorities? What are your life goals? What are you living your life according to? What are your values? Give your priorities a ranking that is specific to YOU (not what society thinks, what is in your heart).

What are the things you are not willing to compromise or abandon while pursuing a goal (regardless of the outcome)? What is your top priority? What gives you the greatest happiness? What gives you the greatest joy? What gives you the greatest pride? What area of your life gives you pain? What makes you feel sorrow? What characteristics do you most value? Not what society imposes on you, but what YOU feel in your heart.

Attach actions/verbs to these categories that are your top priorities. This is something that when you add something new to your plate, you ask yourself, ďwill it allow you to continue to live my life according to my top priority?Ē List the five most important areas of your life, and then rank them according to their importance.

If an outsider saw you, would they assume you were living to your life according to whatever your top priority is? Whatever your top priority is, what can you do differently to make sure that you devote more of your time to it? Is your behaviors, your time, your focus directed toward that top priority? Are you living your life that way whether or not someone is looking?

What is your truth? Not what other people are telling you should be your truth, but what is YOUR truth? Whoís most important? Whatís most important? What do you want people to say about you when you arenít around?

All decisions should be made based on your PRIORITIES. When you have a big decision to make, make sure you are referring back to your top priorities. Ask yourself, ďis this consistent with my top priority?Ē

Develop clarity of what you want to achieve. What will bring you happiness? Which one of your priorities is going to make you the most fulfilled (regardless of what society thinks)? If you achieve and live your life according to your priorities, will you be happy? If not, make some new priorities! Stop doing things that donít move you towards happiness!

Are you living your life and setting priorities that are developed around the clarity of your values (what you want to be remembered for)? Set priorities with a purpose, live your life and set your priorities as though you are looking back on your life? What do you want people to say about you at your funeral?

What are your intrinsic priorities? The priorities that donít have to go on your list because they are just a part of who you are. These are things that donít go on your list because they are part of your fiber.

Chalene Johnsonís 30 Day Push Challenge, Day 2 Answer: I spent SO long writing a huge long article on aligning priorities. It ended up taking up a lot more time than I thought it would. I want to take more time to do this tomorrow, so I'm going to put it off.

It was REALLY therapeutic for me, it's sort of long (23 minutes), but I think it ultimately has a great message (if you can get over the fact I went into so much detail, haha). You can find that on my like page here: www.facebook.com/laurenelizab
ethwardell
!

LONG entry tomorrow :)

  
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CUTE_MIKEY 6/25/2011 3:30PM

  Wow, you have been working hard and great job with your goals so far Lauren!!! emoticon

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JACARRENO 6/25/2011 2:58AM

    I'm impressed that a fellow mid-westerner would be giving up cheese! WOW! You definitely are way ahead of me in the will-power on that one!

I look forward to listening to your latest video posts. It's late so I will have to do so another time.

Keep up the emoticon work!! You are doing emoticon

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DEBBIE19580 6/24/2011 10:34PM

    your doing AWESOME!!!! YOUR SO RIGHT DECISIONS WE MAKE SHOULD BE BASED ON OUR PRIORITYS, NOT SOMEONE ELSE, I LOVED THAT ONE!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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