Monday, February 07, 2011
So I’m reading this self-help book called “Have a New You by Friday” and I loveeeee it! Haha-the author is so funny, I have caught myself laughing out loud several times and I have only read the first 58 pages. The title is a little bit misleading...it's really about like birth order, how your parents treat you, etc. Kinda about understanding why you are the way you are. Every day (Monday-Friday) you’re supposed to do different exercises. I’ve read the intro and Monday. I think I’m going to go ahead and read Tuesday too since I won’t have too much time tomorrow to do so. I’ll wait to do the exercises for Tuesday tomorrow though so I can really put some thought into it. I highly recommend it though. Very funny but at the same time…one of those books where I find myself saying “I totally identify with that!” haha.
Who are people that influence you? What are their personality traits?
Person #1: Grandma
Role In Your Life: My role model—someone who I strive to be like.
Personality Traits: Extremely driven, frugal, caring, loyal, faithful, hard working.
Person #2: Mom
Role In Your Life: Parent
Personality Traits: Driven, persuasive, impulsive, superficial, hypocritical.
Person #3: Dad
Role In Your Life: Parent
Personality Traits: Critical, knowledge-driven, superficial, hypocritical.
Person #4: Past Mentors (Yearbook advisor, my best friend’s mom, etc.)
Personality Traits: Disciplined, smart, caring, organized.
How many of these people did you describe in a positive way? How many people in a negative way? 2 people positive, 2 people positive and negative.
1. Am I stuck in a rut? If so, which one(s)? I believe I have been stuck in a rut since October. I believe this is due to some psychological work that needs to be done (this is one of the things that I am doing for it). I also believe that I have found the trick to getting out of my rut. I was burnt out and I have just figured out what I need to do to get my Spark going :).
2. Do I fear change? Fear becoming someone different, even though I long to be different? Why? I think I do fear change, as I have exhibited behavior the past couple months that this is the case. That is why I recently came up with the plan that I did.
3. What self-improvement techniques have I tried before? Why did they not work? I have tried a lot of different things (self-development books have been a favorite of mine since I was very, very young-haha), but very few things worked other than Sparks. Sparks made me realize how important rewards are and discovering the psychological aspect of improving yourself. You can think you want to improve as much as you want, but if it doesn’t click psychologically…you’re out of luck.
Who believes in you?
When I was asked this question, I thought my response in my head and it is kinda pathetic. The truth is that outside of my SparkFriends, there really isn’t anyone outside of the Internet who is all that supportive. I may work out with a couple of different friends-but a lot of the times my work out partners serve as a deterrent because they aren’t as serious about working out (probably because most of them aren’t trying to lose weight) as I feel like I am. The result is that I am often waiting for them to be ready to head to the gym…and then they end up not wanting to go at all but wait until like 8:30 at night to decide that. Haha-anyone know what I mean? I don’t really have one person who really BELIEVES in me and motivates me to do well so I can make them proud or whatever…it’s sort of unfortunate. While my friends may believe in the fact that I can complete my goals, it doesn’t go very much past that. Discussing plans and stuff like that doesn’t really interest them. I rely heavily on the Spark community to get this done.
This quote really hit me in the book: Why be less when you can be more?
To Do on Monday:
*Decide you want to change – check! :)
*Identify your personality type (this is done by the book, which divides them up into 4 different types of dogs that are based on 4 different personality types commonly referred to in the psychology world) – I am actually a little bit of all the personality types (Great Dane, Yorkie, Standard Poodle, and Irish Setter…in that order). I have to always be in control of my life (like the Great Dane personality type--because my life lacked structure when I was a kid/my family life was always so out of control…planning everything down to the last detail when it came to school work, etc. made me feel like I was in control. I also knew if I put the effort in, I could control how well I’d do). I also have a bubbly, very extroverted personality and love to be the life of the party (like the Yorkie personality). While I like to have things done my way (like a Great Dane personality), my way is usually the textbook definition of the right way (like a Standard Poodle type—I like to follow proven, conventional ways to do things). Lastly, I am extremely loyal like an Irish Setter type and would rather avoid confrontation in most cases. Haha-so I’m pretty much a mutt-go figure :)
*Make a list of the personality traits you’d like to change
1. I would like to be a little bit more sensitive and aware of what I say to people
2. I would like to be able to compromise a bit more than I do
3. I would like to be less stubborn
4. I would like to be more aware of other people’s feelings along with my own
I'll do my check-list after I go to the gym :)