Thursday, October 16, 2014
Today's Prompt: Do you think your friends are a positive or negative influence on your healthy lifestyle? Write about this in your blog--and think of some ways you and your friends can make healthier choices when you are together.
Welp, first things first...to be quite honest, at the moment I don't have friends that I am hanging out with. I am living in Florida right now and am from Chicago. Over the past few years, I have spent a lot of time on my own. For awhile, I was going to Dahn Yoga and hanging with a lot of people my age from there..but now I pretty much just see the same few people back home. I spend a lot of time with myself..which is very different than how I was my whole life. I used to constantly surround myself with people. I feel like the past few years I have really been learning how to be alone.
Through spending all this time alone, I have realized the tremendous impact that your friends have on your lifestyle. There's that one quote about how you are the average of the five people you spend the most time around. Because I was raised to always be taking care of other people, I had a tendency to surround myself with people who always needed my help. As a result, I had very little time for myself.
As I started letting go my relationships that were all about me giving and stopped needing to feel needed, I really noticed how much energy I was putting into others. Often times, these people wouldn't even change. I was just sticking a temporary bandaid on their problems. It really made me realize a lot about myself and how unhealthy most of my relationships had been. If they weren't unhealthy, they were usually shallow.
As a result, I started to crave to spend more time alone so I could find my voice and put the energy I was giving everyone else into myself. That may sound selfish, but it was actually the most selfless thing I have ever done. Now, when I am around other people, I show up in a completely different way. Partly because I don't have as many close relationships (so I have more energy for the most important ones) and partly because I am not drained.
I also tried to make sure that I was being conscious of how I felt after spending time with certain people. Some people just suck all the energy out of you..and some people's negative energy I absorb like I sponge. I have even found myself emotionally eating after I'm around certain people..literally emotionally eating *for them*
So I do think it's extremely important to monitor who you spend your time with. Quite honestly, minimizing the amount of relationships I have in my life has felt really good. It's helped me get in touch with myself so I can see who is a good influence on me (and who is not).