Tuesday, December 27, 2011
Yesterday, I dropped off my mother's present.
Yes, I had her come out to the car to get her gift.
Later, I was pleased that no matter how much she decides to sabotage her health, I refuse to be an enabler.
I refuse to allow my children to play a role in her demise.
I refuse to be the absent daughter who distances myself from her (mostly for the sake of my kids).
Sadly, because of her demeanor and indifferent attitude with my siblings and I, my oldest 2 children don't really like dealing with her. My son is too young to notice or care.
Daily, I continue to be the open-minded, loving mother to my children.
It's truly a blessing to have three children who have open communication with my husband and I.
My oldest daughter, who is an 18 year-old senior in high school, talks to me daily.
My 14 year old daughter also says she enjoys spending time with me & we always laugh and talk.
My 8 year-old son discusses school and ideas with me often. He is a very self-sufficient, easy-going sweetheart. Just don't make him angry... Hmmm...similar to his mother!
So, as for my bio"logical" siblings & mother...enough said in the previous blog.
Happily ever after...only in fairytales, but let's just say, "Happier ever after".
Friday, December 23, 2011
Yes, you've been waiting for it.
So, here it is!
This holiday, like many others, I am forced (somewhat) to be nice.
Those of you who have been keeping up know how awkward my biological (still can't figure out why "logical" is part of the word) immediate family is.
Playback* Mama- diagnosed bipolar schizo; oldest bro- promise-maker, ex-Marine;
Youngest brother- criminal, con artist, liar, thief...to name a few; me- the youngest of the crew, driven, avoids the others as often as possible. Btw: twin half sisters I've never seen before, but closer to finding them. Dad- murdered when I was 19.
Now, I'll bet you think I am the survivor and normal one of the group. Right you are!
So, when holidays come around, I avoid them like the plague.
My dear chain-smoking mother tries to lure me to her apartment by coercing me to do small tasks for her.
She thinks I'm unaware of this. I have allergies, so stay at her house to roll her hair would set me back into a sinusitis coma with red eyes to boot. Ain't gonna happen!
My youngest brother doesn't attempt to make contact accept he called last month for my 40th birthday. Suits me fine, though! At least he's consistently inconsistent!
My oldest brother, "let me treat you to lunch for your b-day!" That was November 8th...hmmmm...never happened!
So, I look forward to the hubby kids and in-law...functional family on this holiday season where we celebrate in peace the birth of Jesus drama-free.
Now I have to figure out a way to give Mama her gift...ideas???
P.S. My youngest brother will visit her with his CRAZY girlfriend who looks manly- scary!
Happy Functional, Family Holidays to you all!
Saturday, December 17, 2011
A wise man finds a way.
A fool finds an excuse.
I am putting this on my board when I return to work.
It shall be written next to the homework assignment.
Think they'll get the message?
Friday, December 02, 2011
Aging is both a beautiful & rewarding process.
Some see the process as a scary future of wrinkles, graying, and body decomposition.
My adjectives: strength, perseverance, and change.
We all see life as a series of tests which we must pass to gain promotion- eternal life for some, afterlife for others.
Whatever your religious or personal beliefs, it stands that the true value of life is not in appearances, but the soul which can not be seen with the human eye, but seen through the spirit of our actions.
So as we age and grow, both physically and mentally, our value lies within ourselves and not the outer shell which masks and protects.
What is your true value?
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