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When the Lie is Caught...Uh oh!

Saturday, January 21, 2012

My hubby asked my 8-year-old son if he had homework last night.
My son innocently replied, "No."
Now I know we have high expectations of our children, but we certainly don't condone dishonesty.
So at this point, understand how I felt when I checked his backpack only to discover, whala...the homework! (let's not mention previous completed homework not turned in...)
Of course, I really thought about flying off the handle.

Now how would Heathcliff & Claire Huxtable," The Cosby Show"parents (for you younguns out there) handle this?

Here's how it all went down...
Mom- AJ, why didn't you tell your dad you had homework when he asked you last night?
AJ- (looking up at me with large, innocent eyes- he's good) I'm sorry!
Mom- what is it called when you don't tell the truth?
AJ- lies...(waiting the verdict)
Mom- I await him to reply further...
AJ - Is dad gonna be mad at me?
Mom- He'll be very disappointed and may not trust you for a while. This includes me...
AJ- (disappointed look, with fear)...

After this conversation, I made him do his homework. He's about to write 50 times "I will not tell lies." Usually, we try to let him determine his punishment. We then ask why his choice is appropriate. This may seem unconventional, but it allows children the option of input and understood consequences. When make inappropriate choices, they must deal with the consequences.
Seems fair? What's your take?

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SPARKLE1908 1/22/2012 7:16PM

    I think you are wonderful parents...I don't have any kids so I can't answer the other part, lol!

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Saturday, January 14, 2012

Usually, I try to avoid funerals.

Today was an exception.

One of my neighbor's wives died unexpectedly. Don't even think she was ill... Just died.

Here last week.
Buried this week.

It's amazing how we don't usually reflect upon life's values until the birth of a baby or the death of a loved one.

I watched their only child~ a daughter~ grieve with her father. They both seemed alone in their bereavement, yet together physically.

This awkward absence almost felt as if it penetrated within my soul.

Sometimes I think it's a curse to somewhat feel other's pain...

We weren't close but my compassionate heart won't allow me the luxury of distance.

So to my fellow sparkers reading this, I simply say, "Enjoy every moment possible with those you love and around you, because you never know when those people will be gone." Time is precious, so make it all count.
Pun intended...

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SPARKLE1908 1/21/2012 10:57AM

    Wonderful blog...we all need to do better with our neighbors and family...I'm so sorry for their loss and will send prayers and hugs to you all...

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AKAFIT 1/19/2012 5:24PM

    Soror Sonya,

It is always sobering to know that we really have no control over our life or death. I am sorry for your neighbor's loss and only time and God will heal. However, I do applaud you for being neighborly and being compassionate to them in their grief.

In today's society how many times do we not even know what is going on in our neighbor's lives? I am guilty of this myself, so it encourages and challenges me to be a part of the community and be there the way God intended for us to be.

Love you sweetie. emoticon

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JUICENUT 1/14/2012 7:03PM

    Thanks for the sobering reminder.

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MCJULIEO 1/14/2012 4:50PM

    Such a good reminder for me...

I lost a neighbor this year, too, and have neglected to follow-up with true compassion over time for the widow...

Not to mention all the others who are still around, who I take for granted every day!

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DIANNEMT 1/14/2012 4:37PM

    You are a compassionate person. Even if you don't know them well, a phone call in a week or so may be a wonderful thing to do.

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DOOBIE893 1/14/2012 4:26PM

    Inspirating blog! Thanks for sharing.

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CMOMINEE 1/14/2012 4:25PM

    I am so sorry that you and the family, they will be in my prayers. Such a poignant lesson that we should not forget, but so often do. Thank you for the reminder.

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Motivation to Persevere... Conversations with My Mind

Sunday, January 08, 2012

Watching the progress over the past (almost) 2 years has proven to be another emoticon
From 167 to 145 has been a serious accomplishment for me.
No, it's not 100, 200, or even 50 pounds like so many of the success stories I've read on this site, but I was stuck for over 6 years at an undesired weight.
That should count for something! Right?

Being unsatisfied with my appearance caused some feelings of insecurity. Some of you can relate.
I used to think, "Why do those who have lost larger amounts of weight get accolades?"

What about the rest of us who had some to lose, but felt just as inadequate or a failure?

Learning so many things about myself has caused me to realize that it's never REALLY about the weight, but HOW I get there in the first place.

I had to emoticonthe self-destruction and learn to love me for me BEFORE losing weight.

So, with all that said, I will persevere into healthy self-body image, manage stress, and see myself the way God sees me...created in His image.

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MRSGOAD 1/16/2012 12:15PM


You definitely deserve the accolades!

Love that about how God sees us! So true. I hope we are all able to reach that point!

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SPARKLE1908 1/9/2012 9:15AM

    Amen found what is really important with this whole journey...any amount of weight loss is to be celebrated and appreciated by everyone!!!

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ROOSTER72 1/9/2012 12:48AM

    I know where you are coming from.
I started at about 71kg (158 lb) and am now down to my goal of 60kg (132 lb).
On SP a loss of 26lbs might not seem like much, but it is.

In fact, the way I look at it - if I did not adopt this new healthy lifestyle, and start treating me as important - then in 10 years I would have another 20lbs to lose, and in 20 years probably 50lbs more.

Being healthy makes me feel better, more energy, more attractive & any number of other benefits. Maintenance does not get you the accolades - people assume its easy - but it is the really challenge for all of us on SP.

Good luck with your journey

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    If one's goal is a loss of weight, whether 5, 50, or 100 lbs, ANY lose should be celebrated!!

Way to go on your accomplishment!
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Our Future in MY Hands...Whew!

Tuesday, January 03, 2012

Well, here I am hoping to post about the beauties of getting fit and healthier...
Ain't gonna happen right now! ( I only have a Texan Southern drawl when writing- HA!)

Need to vent first...

So today was our first day back from Winter holiday vacay.
Those lovely little middle schoolers of mine have really got me wondering...
Is there hope for the society of future adults?
Could there be another method for overcoming the laziness of unwarranted couch potatoes of tomorrow?
How can WE reiterate the urgency of educated adults in the NEAR future?
I don't mean formal education. I mean LIFESKILLS!!!
When a 7th grader shows me they have no idea what most contractions are, I shutter to think that pregnancy pains are the only concept that flickers or merely illuminates the emoticon

So my fellow Sparkers, I forge ahead into the mysteries of ascertaining the solutions to HOW guidance has faultered and now I (of the human caliber) must walk on water and perform the miracles which should've been addressed in yesteryears.

As my students say, "I'm just saying"...

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LAURIEWY 1/6/2012 10:36PM

    Well I'm going to start with you should get a purple heart for teaching 7th grade! Thank goodness there are angels like you in this world (lol). But I really agree with the last post. Our society is lacking in parenting, resulting in a generation that is being raised by video games and the latest reality TV show. Many of my parents are too busy being their friends and living their own lives that they have not tuned in to their child's lives and/or education. I'm very lucky teaching first grade that they are still sweet and innocent, but I definitely can name those who are raising themselves and will eventually be a heart ache on society. I wish that I had the funds and ability to adopt all and actually RAISE them. But unfortunately there's just too many and most of them have 4 or more siblings at home. Well I could go on and on.....but I'm going to go be a parent and play a board game with my son.

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LOVECARTIER 1/3/2012 6:39PM

    LOL! I didn't want to laugh, but the contractions part had me on the floor. I personally believe that everything starts at home. Many kids don't have anyone positive in their lives that they can look to for guidence, they have reality tv. With the way our society is now, it doesn't seem like you have to have an education or do too much to be successful. All you need now is a cute face, anger problem, and ability to act crazy or make a freaky movie with your boyfriend to make it. I know that doesn't answer your question, but that's what I think is destroying our youth

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Twisted Family Members... -Part 2

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Yesterday, I dropped off my mother's present.
Yes, I had her come out to the car to get her gift.

Later, I was pleased that no matter how much she decides to sabotage her health, I refuse to be an enabler.

I refuse to allow my children to play a role in her demise.
I refuse to be the absent daughter who distances myself from her (mostly for the sake of my kids).

Sadly, because of her demeanor and indifferent attitude with my siblings and I, my oldest 2 children don't really like dealing with her. My son is too young to notice or care.

Daily, I continue to be the open-minded, loving mother to my children.
It's truly a blessing to have three children who have open communication with my husband and I.

My oldest daughter, who is an 18 year-old senior in high school, talks to me daily.
My 14 year old daughter also says she enjoys spending time with me & we always laugh and talk.
My 8 year-old son discusses school and ideas with me often. He is a very self-sufficient, easy-going sweetheart. Just don't make him angry... Hmmm...similar to his mother!

So, as for my bio"logical" siblings & mother...enough said in the previous blog.

Happily ever after...only in fairytales, but let's just say, "Happier ever after".

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GETDONE 12/29/2011 11:06PM

    Your doing it RIGHT mommy!!!!!!! emoticon

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EDUCGRAD 12/28/2011 9:33AM

    hugs to you,you exemplify the verse,be at peace with those around you as much as in is in your power.have a great new year

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TEENY_BIKINI 12/27/2011 9:20PM

    "Yes, I had her come out to the car to get her gift. "

Nicely done! Excellent!

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SPARKLE1908 12/27/2011 3:51PM

    Good for you Soror!! Peace of mind is are doing the exact thing that is needed to keep you and your family's sanity!!!

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