80,000-99,999 SparkPoints
SONYALATRECE's Recent Blog Entries

The Tyra Show

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

When I finished watching "Tyra", I had to face the fact that I never really healed from my father being killed. I was 19 when this occurred, yet at 39 now, I am still "triggered".
The episode featured Grossiest People in America and obsessions.
The OCD of a woman who wore her father's clothing (he died in) brought out previous OCD behaviors.

I must admit that I have a few of those OCD behaviors myself, but they aren't harmful to others. My behavior is being OVERLY organized. That may seem like a "good" thing, but when things get messy or aren't where I think they should be, I tend to feel overwhelmed.

So, what am I doing to address this? I tell myself that I can't control other's messes and it's okay to leave some of my things unattended until it's convenient to get it cleaned/organized.

Self-therapy is what I practice so my problem doesn't get out of hand. Any other suggestions are welcomed.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

AKAFIT 3/22/2011 10:55AM

    I too am OVERLY organized and can drive my family crazy when I am on one of my rampages. I have had to learn that my life won't fall apart if EVERYTHING isn't in its place. I think just being open about what makes you struggle with your family is a good step.

I had to tell my husband that certain behaviors really triggered my OCD to come out in a major way. So, he is working on those things. It isn't easy because I find my OCD is an overcompensation for my years at home. Since I couldn't control my environment, i.e. my mother's drug addiction, my father's alcohol and drug addiction, my father's violent behavior towards my mom, etc, when I left home I became overly controlling of my things.

It is something that I work on daily, but I also realize that really taking ownership of my feelings and actions help. When you are weirded out or feeling like you need to control at all cost, let your loved ones know. Create a buzz word, so that they know when you are struggling. Mine is, "honey I am feeling overwhelmed right now!" Then he knows that I really need him to help out or else I am going to explode.

Hope this helps you soror. Just know that being OCD isn't a problem unless you are imposing that on someone else. It can also be a good thing in some cases.

Sisterly Yours emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
ROSES4UN4ME 3/16/2011 4:58PM

    TO GET Over A PROBLEM you must 1st admit you have a problem and try to change for yourself and than for others....

emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment

Addressing the Issue

Saturday, March 12, 2011

As a concerned parent and teacher, I know we have to address the issue of "who's responsible?"
It is certainly debateable by both sides. emoticon
Well, I was actually reading an article and in a staff development, the same issue reared its head again. Why is this even a question to debate? Isn't it all of our responsibility to play positive roles in children's lives.
It takes a village to raise a child~African proverb.
When did the notion of teacher vs. parent become a rival debate?
We (parents and educators) work T-O-G-E-T-H-E-R to assure every child's success.
We need each other. I can't imagine my children not having their teachers in their lives to help shape their imaginations, build their intelligences, and show them that their academic and social potential are precious jewels.
emoticonis of the essence! So we should stop spending time debating who's at fault and ALL of us (parents or not) need to mentor, adopt, share, create, and be active participants in the lives of children COLLECTIVELY!
We're in this together.
Okay, I just had to address the issue... Comments are positively emoticon!

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

CCASKEY1 3/15/2011 10:02AM

    Yes. The more time we waste pointing fingers, the less our students and children get out of their schools. Don't forget that when a child sees two 'sides' blaming each other, the child learns this behavior.

Report Inappropriate Comment
AKAFIT 3/14/2011 11:03AM

    I CONCUR!!

As parents, we can definitely sit back on our BOOTY and think that our children's teacher should be their teacher, parent, counselor, etc. Well, there isn't enough time in the day for that, so that means that as the people responsible for bringing said children in the world, we have to do our parts.

As the teacher, it is their awesome responsibility to teach and train our children academically to be successful . I believe that the teacher who loves their job is a dying breed, unfortunately. My kids' have had great teachers for the most part, but they have also had turds too. When their teachers aren't who or what they should, it has been my responsibility to step up and fill in the gaps which I don't mind doing because at the end of the day...their success is my GOAL!

In the end, I am appreciative of those teachers who have been amazing and the ones who have not. I am grateful for the village that my kids have ALWAYS had in their lives in the form of my church family, our family, and other friends who have pitched in a time or two. I know I couldn't do this alone and I am thankful for everyone who has taught all of us the meaning of giving and loving!

Comment edited on: 3/14/2011 11:05:31 AM

Report Inappropriate Comment

After the "Sty"

Wednesday, March 09, 2011

I don't know why
I have a sty
It bothers my eye.
I wanted to cry
when the school nurse said,
"It's a sty."
But my eye was dry.
Who'd know how irritated it was for me.
Damn! I can not see. Why?
Oh heck! It's because of the sty!

I had to make fun of my situation, to build humor, and be able to laugh at myself.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

AKAFIT 3/14/2011 11:08AM

    Hilarious soror, thanks for the comic relief. I wish I had thought of a poem for this confounded fever blister that appeared at the corner of my lip right before my birthday. emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment

56-58 The Final Score...

Saturday, March 05, 2011

My high school team just lost the basketball game taking away the chance to go to region. Dang! I'm so disappointed. It was a good game, but I wanted my boys to win so badly.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:


    It sure can be tough to watch kids work hard only to experience disappointment. Still, its an important lesson in life and I'm sure that one day, they'll experience the thrill of victory instead of the agony of defeat.

Report Inappropriate Comment

Well... On to another chapter in the "Life of Teaching"

Wednesday, March 02, 2011

Yesterday my 7th grade students completed the state-mandated Writing Test and I know they all worked extra hard and tried their best.
Today, the students were required to take a practice Math test.
Well, since so many were tired from yesterday, I suppose they felt, "Dang! Didn't I just finish testing yesterday?"
Why can't they seem to understand that each day is a new one where it is not the end of an era, but the beginning of a new chapter. I think I'm going to tell them that, too.
Isn't that life?
We work so hard to accomplish goals then we must understand that our true purpose is to be kind. Love others. Respect nature, and survive w/o compromising our integrity. Maybe I'm the one who is confused.
Middle school students tend to have that effect on the adult brain at times. (Head scratch moment)
Oh well... I still love those little rascals... "Mini-adults trapped in elementary minds" emoticon

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

YORHYNESS 3/3/2011 9:53AM

    What a flashback! I actually remember taking that 7th grade wrting test. I have been preaching some of those same words to my senior in high school. I love it that you enjoy what you do and are able to draw from your own life experiences to teach them. They are lucky to have you as a teacher. :-)

Report Inappropriate Comment

First Page  1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 Last Page