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i talked myself into it, or did i

Thursday, July 24, 2014

I came to a conclusion this morning. I am a very very indecisive person.
Making something as simple as a doctors appointment, or a hair appointment, for most people, takes as long as picking up the phone and making the call.
But for me, it takes weeks of research, asking questions, and then picking up the phone and laying it back down at least half a dozen times.
I sit here, one month into this problem with my foot and still havent made an appointment with a Neurologist.
There are people out there reading this right now, thinking whats the big deal.
Well in a nutshell, I live in a very rural area, we are served by one hospital in the area.
There are 2 neurologists who see patients here and I have seen them, and do not care for them, both.
So, I cant decide, do I go ahead and take my chance with the lesser of the two evils, or do I branch out and go outside of my comfort zone and drive another 50 or 80 miles to the next area where there might be someone with hopefully more knowledge???
My problem is this.....I know this isnt going to just be a one time visit, I know they are going to want me to come back, twice, three times, four times, more?
If I have to end up having surgery, this is a burden on my partner who cannot take off work at will.
On my family who would probably have to drive me there and back, as I do not like to drive outside of my comfort zone either.
The lesser of the two evils is looking more desirable as I type.
The problem isnt so much the doctor, I went to this neurologist for quite awhile. It is the wait time to see her, hours and I mean that sincerely.
I have sat in her office up to 3 hours at times.
And the hospital she is affliated with, I do not care for.
But the numbness in my foot is not at all better and doesnt appear to be improving and the orthotics havent come thru yet, still waiting for that call.
So, the decision is becoming easier for me.
Second opinions are always an option.
I just really want to walk and I know if I am ever going to be able to get back to the track I have to take care of this problem.
I guess sometimes talking it thru is a good decision.
Am I going to regret this!!!!

  
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SOFT_VAL67 7/24/2014 8:37PM

    Thanks everyone, I made the phone call and now I just wait til they call me back with an appointment, hopefully it will be very soon.
And yes, I do have a good book I need to find an hour or two to read, thanks for the suggestion.

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SARAHSTORY23 7/24/2014 7:21PM

    Hey, I'm right there with you in putting off appointments for myself. My kiddos get everywhere they need to go, but me? The line I usually hear from docs is, "WHY did you wait so long?" Ultimately, though, taking care of things like your foot (and my back) is part of the journey to good health. Good for you for your decision.

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FITMARY 7/24/2014 5:12PM

    I agree with your decision and the other comments. Good for you for making up your mind and moving forward. It can be so hard, but talking yourself through it clearly helped. And using the time waiting as productively as possible will help it feel less burdensome. I hope you get the answers you want!
p.s. Beautiful dragonflies!

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MELISSIMAUS 7/24/2014 3:56PM

    If it's truly not the doctor, then maybe use the time to accomplish something—whatever that something might be. Reading some good books you've been meaning to get to? Writing letters? Researching something/making plans? Does sound to me like a wait in the office is the lesser of two evils.

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ONTHEPATH2 7/24/2014 2:23PM

    I would see her and at least get her opinion. At least you will know if it is just numbness due to foot issues - or a more serious problem. You can always get a second opinion from one of those out of town docs if you feel it is necessary. Waiting is not going to solve the issue. It most likely isn't just going to go away!

As my dear friend tells me, hiding your head in the sand isn't going to keep the lion from biting you in the a**. Be brave, pick up the phone, make the call!

"Hey Valerie, It's me your foot! I can't feel you! Think you could get someone to check it out? I know, you are busy. I know you are scared. But I really don't like being numbed out all the time! I kinda miss feeling! Thanks!"

Hope all goes well!
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GORDON66 7/24/2014 2:11PM

  No you won't regret making the appointment. Just show up at the office with a good book, you iPad, crocheting, knitting, whatever. You deserve answers and peace of mind, and this is the way to get both. Good luck!

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calling dr. good manners

Tuesday, July 22, 2014



From the garden of my neighbor, who is 87 years old and still works his garden every year.
So, today I am going to visit the local farmers market, hopefully to find some green beans and local honey.
Also hoping they will have some fresh local berries. We picked blackberries in our yard til we got all the good ones, now they are just dried out.
I woke up in an optimistic mood, despite that my shorts are tight.
I am going to eat healthy today!!!
I will stay on track today.
I am going shopping today, going to try on some shoes, make sure I am buying the right size.
It has been a week today since I went to get fitted for my orthotics, still havent heard from them, but hoping they call soon.
In the meantime, I am wearing the old ones and trying to make an appointment with a neurologist, waiting on that call back as well.
Modern medicine!!! pfft!!! I hate the way things are now. Where I live, if the doctor is affliated with the local hospital, you cannot even call their office to make an appointment.
you must call a scheduling service, there is no personal one on one anymore.
Doctors do not know their patient.
And it seems lately all the ones I go to spend more time looking at a computer screen than looking at me.
This is what technology has gotten us.
Even if the doctor isnt the most friendly or has bad bedside manner, at least acknowledge me and speak directly to me and listen to me!!!
So far, its been 2 days waiting on the doctor to call me back about an appointment.
I will give them til Thursday, then I move on to the next one on the list.

  
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GORDON66 7/22/2014 10:30PM

  You can blame the computer screen on Obamacare, because everything is centralized. Going to the doctor sure isn't what it used to be. Good luck!

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XANA97 7/22/2014 10:58AM

    I enjoyed your post. Quote for the day, "I woke up in an optimistic mood, despite that my shorts are tight." I'll be using that and crediting you. Cheers!

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are you there foot, its me, valarie!!!

Sunday, July 20, 2014

Today I wanted to walk so bad, so I laced up my shoes and went to the track.
For the first time in a month.

After only 20 minutes, sadly I had to give up.
My foot is so numb that all I could feel was my the numbness of my toes to go as a guide.
Fearful of misstepping with my numb foot, but then I began to have some pains up in my bend of my knee.
My leg is beginning to get numb as well up from my ankle.
I am very worried now.
It has been a month since this started, but it isnt getting any better.
My ortho told me the broken bone healed ok, but I havent seen the xray myself, so tomorrow I am going to get a copy of the disc.
He thinks the problem is lack of support and so I am waiting for new custom orthotics.
He says it might also be Tarsal Tunnel Syndrome.
No, I am not a diabetic, but this is a form of Neuropathy caused by what??? possible nerve damage from the long long time it took the bone to heal???

But, whatever it is, he wants me to wait til Sept to have tests conducted to find out.
Hoping new support shoes and inserts might help, but I am not wholly convinced.
I am bitter and angry and sad and upset that I cannot enjoy walking.
Why did these things, broken foot, numb foot, why did they happen to me after I started loving to walk????
Before when I was sedentary, I was fine.
I understand I put alot of work on my feet, but I was doing so good, now I am sidelined, yet again and I am just beginning to worry about this lack of feeling.
I really am.

  
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GORDON66 7/21/2014 9:29AM

  In our town, the park district runs a fitness center. It has a pool, and there are regular sessions for water aerobics. That would be a fun way to get in some exercise, and you wouldn't need to put weight on your foot.

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CAPECODBABE 7/21/2014 6:22AM

    So sorry. Wait until September? That doesn't sound right. Maybe find a new doctor, you need answers!

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FOCUSD 7/20/2014 11:51PM

  Sorry to hear that you're not able to walk right now. hang in there, you'll be back. Maybe this will give you a chance to do other things and find out you love them? I want to start enjoying some strength training exercises.

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my name is valarie and AM I an addict?????

Friday, July 18, 2014

I am just so beyond ready to get back to healthy eating and eliminating the junk from my life and the toxins from my body.
And I will not be tricked by my mind into believing I am hungry when I know I am full and I wont give in to cravings for that junk.
It is a detox, they call it that for a reason, junk food is just as addictive as cigs and alcohol.
I have been listening to this singer named Jason Isbell, and he sings alot about drug addiction and recovery from that and alcohol abuse.
and while listening to those songs, I find the words inspiring to me in my struggle to overcome food abuse and self abuse.
Because ultimately, no matter what the vice is, addiction is real and why is it we give pity and understanding and offer help to someone who is a drug addict who is struggling, but a food addict, who back slides, is just a pig, or a glutton, we laugh at pics of overweight people in bathing suits, but not at the pic of the wino homeless on the streets.
The young kids who get addicted to their parents prescription pills in the medicine cabinet, we try to get them help, but the overweight children being picked on, who helps them??

I bet there is no answer to those questions that I havent told myself a million times.
well we just have to deal with our own demons. whatever the reason is that we eat, or gamble or cheat, or steal or get high for. Well, onto healthier thoughts------(we just try to ignore the elephant somehow)!
Last night, realizing I had red, yellow and orange bell peppers in the refridge, that had been there a week at least, I decided to make a nice sauce.
So, I added some oregano and some mushrooms and onions, and olive oil. I added some ground beef, and ground pepper, both black and red.
I put it all in the crock pot and let it cook.
Honey had a bowl of the sauce alone when he came in from work at 4am, but my plan had been to cook some whole wheat pasta and have it for dinner.
I think I like cooking sauces and other foods in the crock pot.
Next I am going to make some non-rolled cabbage rolls, adding basically the same ingredients as before, only with brown rice and cabbage, if you like added flavor, you can add spicy rice, and myself, I always add a can of some kind of beans, usually just Lucks pinto beans, but red beans or black works too.
After that, I am going to make some chicken breasts, I add the mushroom onion pepper mix, but leave out the sauce, although some people enjoy marinara on chicken.
I usually add veggies and chicken broth and make more of a soup.
And I add carrots to everything, sometimes celery, but always carrots!!
So, planning out all these veggie laden meals, I have to get my veggies in and sometimes I just add a big bag of frozen mixed veggies, although to me they taste too waxy, so I prefer fresh.
I plan on getting more than my 5 servings of veggies, I plan on focusing my meals around the veggies.
And today I plan to stick to my calories, I will eliminate alot of processed foods, such as the frozen dinners I have been having.
Not that I dont love them.
Pecan chicken is a favorite of mine.
Water, veggies and fresh fruit is a must for me. but I cant forget my protein right now either.
I guess I enjoy reading blogs and articles and researching foods.
Any helpful hints from friends are welcome.
Hope everyone enjoys the weekend.

  
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SARAHSTORY23 7/19/2014 9:46PM

    I've been struggling with similar thoughts. It's funny that I can actually ignore hunger pangs but can't seem to avoid eating when stressed. Hang in there, and thank you for your input. For me, and I think for many others, writing about the journey helps work things through.

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GORDON66 7/18/2014 2:42PM

  Obesity has finally been labeled a disease. That being the case the health insurance industry will find it prudent to help tackle the problem. With Obamacare being the law of the land, this should get interesting. Since comedians continue to make fun of people with weight issues, there will others who will not take the problem seriously. As for Dr. Laura, her statement is just plain stupid and insensitive. An emotional addiction to food is extremely complicated and takes a lot of work to conquer.

I seriously LOVE my crockpot!!! I use it all the time. Check the Cooking Light and Eating Well websites for tons of recipes and ideas.

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GREEN-EYED-LADY 7/18/2014 12:06PM

    Very interesting blog how addiction to food is as real as other addictions such as alcohol, nicotine, gambling, narcotics, shopping. I never really thought about it that way because we all need food to live but WHAT you eat or HOW MUCH you eat certainly can get out of control. Thanks for pointing that out. ANY addiction is certainly difficult to recover from. I don't think it's "easy" to just STOP. You HAVE to eat, right ? Dr. Phil says you don't just quit a bad habit, but rather replace it with a healthier option. Definitely all your veggies are the perfect option ! You are on the right track. emoticon

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BOOKLOVINGGIRL 7/18/2014 10:50AM

    Oh yes, food addiction is very real. Like you said, we all have demons to fight. Your crockpot meal sounds quite yummy.

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CLAIRELINN 7/18/2014 10:34AM

    I too am trying to figure out what causes me to eat... For me it's mostly stress... To sate my stress I eat sugar and salty foods. Once I start on that train...it's hard to stop. But...like I heard on Dr. Laura the other day... "What do you do to stop something?" She says...'You just stop. It's just that easy." I guess Nancy Reagan wasn't so far off when she said..."Just don't do it." :)

Wishing you the best!

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theres a reason going down hill to the bottom is so easy

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Today I got on the scale for the first time in about 3 weeks and I have gained 8 pounds!!!
I knew vacation I had let things go and since returning home I have found it very difficult to get back on track.
I had assumed maybe I had gained 2 or 3 pounds, but EIGHT!!!
So, all games end today and all the relunctance to cook and eat healthy and make better choices when deciding what to eat.
It all has gotten out of hand and this isnt the first time and this wont be the last time that I find myself here, in this place, of anger and self blame.
It is just time to stop the nonsense, stop the insanity and stop the weight gain.
No, I cannot walk for health right now, that bothers me deeply, but due to the problems, unresolved with my foot, I cant chance making it worse.
But, I can lift weights, I can use the elliptical, I can find other ways to exercise and why am I not????
Well, its time to stop making excuses.

So, today I get back to reality and had to take a good long hard look at myself and say ok enough is enough.
I also said to myself, "start right now, and decide, continue bad behavior, continue gaining, stop even trying or, live and find your way back and be healthy again".
I chose happiness, and believe me, happiness you find in the good taste of a cheeseburger or a brownie isnt the happiness I speak of.
It is the happiness you find, when you can look at yourself in the mirror and not feel disappointed, not feel hatred and heart break for your own failures.
I want that feeling back again.
I have heard it said, nothing tastes as good as weight loss feels.
Well, I will let you know how good weight loss feels when I actually begin to lose this weight once again, but, Nothing tastes as good as being healthy feels.
Nothing tastes as good or gives you as much pleasure, as seeing results.
I start today.
It is a long road back.
It always is.

  
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GORDON66 7/17/2014 10:19PM

  I hear you. Been there, done that, have the T-shirt. Something tells me by starting to eat appropriately and watching your sodium, those eight pounds are going to come off pretty quickly. Having an injury can be really depressing, but you do have other choices. A swimming pool would be excellent!!!

You go girl and take care!!!

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DANDEELUC 7/17/2014 9:40PM

  You're not alone, but vacations are tough. Don't let 8 lbs ruin the memory of a vacation. Accept you gained weight, quit beating yourself up and move forward. Forgive yourself and be kind to yourself. Most importantly.....never give up emoticon

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SARAHSTORY23 7/17/2014 9:20PM

    I too am tired of failing. I keep letting the stressful circumstances of life be my excuse for making horrible dietary choices when what I need to do is get strong to deal with the stress! Three cheers for you, and you can do this.

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IWANT2DOTHIS1X 7/17/2014 9:02PM

    Yes! I needed to hear this today. I have been on track all week but struggled with craving and today I caved. I knew when I did it, but didn't stop eating chips. Oh well. what done is done, but I can start back now. I choose happiness too. I choose health, and weight loss. Thank you!

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