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getting my ducks and piggies in a row

Sunday, August 03, 2014

I am still stuck in struggle mode.
I wake up daily with the best intentions and for the most part I do pretty good, but I am finding myself back to late night snacking, mindless grazing.
I havent gotten on the scale in about a week. I have no desire to do that right now either.
But when I woke up this morning, I knew something had to change.
I have only been to the walking track once in 6 weeks. Tomorrow is my appointment with the Neurologist so I am really hoping these tests will show what is going on and get some help.
I got the new orthotics on Wednesday and so far I cant tell a big difference in them from the other pair.
However, yesterday I wore my kswiss without the orthotics, which are in the asics. and I could tell a big difference.
Softer and more cushion under my feet without the orthotics.
I understand thats what they are for, to give a firm support to my arches. But they dont offer too much comfort.
Maybe the new shoes will be here soon and make some difference.
I just want to get beyond these set backs, its been one right after another for over a year.
It is now time for healing.
It is now time for focus. I am tired and I shouldnt be. I am taking my vitamins, drinkng my water and getting my fresh fruit and vegetables.
But I am being lazy.
I am not working out and I am giving in to cravings for junk and sweets.
Baby steps. and getting all my priorities in order, starting with the physical health of my foot and going from there.

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SARAHSTORY23 8/3/2014 6:09PM

    I hope your appointment will provide solid answers. I know that I'm discovering that a weight loss journey has many more steps than I had supposed. Best wishes, and let us know how the appointment goes.

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CAPECODBABE 8/3/2014 2:32PM

    I hope your appointment tomorrow goes well and you get the answers you need.

My journey has become more spiritual, getting to know myself with baby steps towards my dreams, wishes, happiness, etc has made all the difference in my journey and energy level. I find myself humming the song - slow down you move too fast - all the time.

Good Luck tomorrow

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miss indecisive made a decision!! alert the press!!!

Thursday, July 31, 2014

I did it!!!
I ordered a pair of shoes.
This might seem like a whats the big deal moment to some of you.
But I am a very indecisive person. I have been doing some reading about it, and it seems it is a very real disorder associated with anxiety.
I suppose for most, the choice to buy a pair of shoes is as simple as how they look, or how they fit, or even how much they cost.
For me, it is will my orthotics fit in them easily, and still allow my feet room to not be squeezed in.
Will they last awhile as I cannot afford new ones every few months.
Will they support my flat feet and allow me to walk without worry of rubbing and blistering.
So I had narrowed it down to three pairs.
They had recommended Brooks to me at the place where I got my orthotics and the lady let me try on a pair of Brooks Addiction.

I found them to be very similar in fit and material feel as the Asics.
I didnt do the taco test, for those who dont know what that is, I read a blog from an avid runner who has gone thru many different brands of shoes.
The taco test is, when looking at a pair of potential shoes, she will fold the shoe upward, like a taco, and see where the bend is.
The nearer to the ball of the foot the better.


She measured my feet and told me that I am not a 9 but an 8.5 and that while my feet are not overly wide, I would be better off with a wide due to the orthotics and allow for thicker socks while I walk.
I always wear socks that are made for those with diabetes and circulatory problems. So they are a little thicker.
I went with the Asics Gel 1000, which I had tried on in the past, but the only ones they had in my local store was medium, not wide and they were a little on the smaller side, so I went with the 9 wide.
Free shipping and free returns on zappos.

i feel good about the choice and just hope I dont regret it.
So, I had this little girl who is the daughter of a friend. I kept her so that her mom could prepare things for her upcoming birthday party this week, and we always have a blast with her. we took her to the local pizza/playland, and let her play and win prizes, then I took her shoe shopping for school.
It was so easy to find a pair of sneakers for her, she just picked out the pair she liked the best and that was that. Why cant I do that??
I had only had my new orthotics in for about 4 hours, when we took her to the park and where the walking track is, I walked a couple of laps while she played and my feet were so sore.
The arch on my right foot felt like it was becoming blisterd and my left foot, still numb, was even more so.
I just hope that the shoes will make some difference, the docs tell me to wear these orthotics as much as possible, yet I read another blog about someone who chose to go the other way and train his flat feet to adjust and not use unnatural supports.
I dont know which way is better. My foot has been numb for 6 weeks now and wearing my orthotics has made no difference so far.
I go to the Neurologist on Monday for a nerve conduction test and I just hope that they can fnally pinpoint, no pun intended, a reason, a location, what ever this is.
The ortho thinks it is tarsal tunnel syndrome related to my flat feet and the fact that I have bone sprus and arthritis built up around the area where it was broken.
I guess time will tell and hopefully the tests will also and I can get some treatment.
Some relief finally once and for all.
So, tomorrow is the birthday party, Monday the doctors appointment, and I dont plan on doing anything much in between, I have run run run for 3 day and today I have to clean and catch up on some laundry.
Then maybe will come a day of rest.
Now, the shoes are taken care of, next is a new smartphone.
A friend of mine has a Motorola Razr Maxx for sale and I have gone back and forth about buying it.
I do not care for the Iphones, only because of our local towers not being as compatible with them as with android phones.
So to spend that kind of money I need to sure I am getting a phone where I can get a good signal and be able to use the data/internet here at home.
I am tired of decision making, most people would just walk into a store, see somethng they like and say this is the one for me.
I over analyze, read, blog, research, compare, and then after making the decision, I usually still back out at the last minute!!!

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ONTHEPATH2 8/1/2014 11:20AM

    Ohhhh I can relate to the sore feet! But congrats on those new shoes! Hopefully they will help! A good pair of workout shoes is a must. I just bought a pair yesterday. I tend to stick with the Saucony brand - they fit my crazy feet the best. Last time I fell for the Adidas Boost shoes because they were so light weight - but they didn't support my feet enough and I found them aching after long walks. Back to my old standby!

I think it is awesome that you overanalyze! I wish I did that a bit more! Enjoy those shoes!!! emoticon

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GORDON66 7/31/2014 11:26PM

  Having someone fit your feet to the shoes is a wise choice. Being able to walk without pain is a joy!!!!

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GREEN-EYED-LADY 7/31/2014 6:11PM

    I think it is actually a GOOD thing that you shop around, do your research, think about it for awhile, etc. THAT is SO MUCH BETTER than being an impulsive shopaholic. Many people get "manic" and spend money wildly. That can be very dangerous financially ! ( I'm more like you - I check things out. ) So don't be so hard on yourself. (And I LOVE the dragonflies too !) I hope your feet get better ! Pain in your feet is the WORST !

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FITMARY 7/31/2014 5:29PM

    I'm so sorry your feet hurt. That must be excruciating! But I'm glad you were able to find a new pair of shoes that you think will fit.
Over-analyzing is a big problem, made worse, I think, by all the choices we have. I have a friend who has that problem, and it is so difficult for her. She's chosen an area of her life to "go crazy" and just try things without analyzing, and that actually seems to be helping her in other areas too. She and her husband eat out quite a bit and she decided to try all kinds of things on the menu without thinking about it. Surprisingly enough, that has helped free her up a bit over all. Maybe there's a place in your life where you could give up "control"? Just a thought....
p.s. I love the dragonfly!

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help, anyone, hello, Bueller? Bueller????

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

One thing I have discovered about myself, is that I am not a traditional girl.
Or the stereotypical girl I guess is a better way of putting it.
I despise shoe shopping!!!
So, I am coming to you, spark friends for some much needed advice.
Walking/Running shoes for the overpronator (flat foot)!
Brooks was recommended to me by the people that fitted me for my orthotics.
I understand that they sell this brand and therefore would recommend it, but is it a good shoe?
Is it the best for flat feet?
the best for use with orthotics?
are they worth between 120 and 160 dollars, because every site I have checked this is the standard cost.
Asics is what I currently wear, that and Kswiss tubes, which I do not recommend myself.
The Asics seemed to be a good shoe for walking, but I ordered a replacement pair, in a size 8.5 medium, and I couldnt even get my foot under the tounge.
They fit like a size 6.
New Balance seems to come up on alot of the websites I have checked.
But there are so many to choose from and when I ask for reviews, I get for underpronators or mild pronators.
So, finding the one for OVER pronators has been a hassle.
I went into a shoe store last week and tried on a pair of what they sold, which was Nike, but just to see what is the correct size, then I realize not all shoes are made alike or will fit alike.
I am lost.
We do not have any shoe stores near me that sell Brooks, and very few that sell special shoes, such as stability shoes.
I appreciate any suggestions anyone can give.
I need support for flat feet, and stability and mostly used for pavement, walking track, I dont do trails.

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MELISSIMAUS 7/30/2014 12:09PM

    I'm flat-footed and wear New Balance. Currently these:

I'm not sure they're perfect… with my new medial ligament issue (from the sprain) I will probably be seeking orthotics myself, and might change up shoes. They do work well for my flat feet, though.

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GORDON66 7/29/2014 10:38PM

  I wear New Balance 587.

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PHOENIX40S 7/29/2014 10:04PM

    I don't have flat feet (or use orthotics), but I do need stability shoes for over-pronating, and I have bought Brooks GTS for the past few years and have been very satisfied with them. I haven't had any problems with my knees since using them.

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4 pounds gone. small victories can be huge!!!

Monday, July 28, 2014

I know the last few blog posts have been somewhat dark, negative nancy. But I have just been dealing with inner demons that seem to show up in the form of over indulgence and they make me feel so bad about myself and the people around me.

But today I can post a happy-ish blog.
I got on the scale to discover a 4 pound weight loss. Now keep in mind, that I had gained 8 pounds the last time I got on the scale, after vacation.
I was a little taken aback by the 4lb loss, I suspect now that the gain I had might have been partially water weight, swelling from too much salty foods and alcohol I took part in a little pina colada action while at the beach.
Not too mention enjoying a smores and a trip to Dunkin Donuts!!
So, I had nothing to blame it on but poor decison making and lack of walking.
The loss on the scale today is a victory, even if I am still 17 pounds over the weight I was before I broke my foot.
So, as of today, wiping the slate clean and starting here, that is my goal to lose these re-gained pounds and get back to that weight.
I dont think my mind is going to accept the victories totally as real victories until I get back to that place.
Yesterday was a good day.
I made one or two very minor slip ups off my planned meals and calories, but not to the point that they sent me into depressed mode.
I had a whole wheat pita pocket and one barbequed rib that were NOT a part of my planned meal.
But I gave up my late evening planned snack of yogurt and peaches and opted for a small box of raisins instead.

I pretty much have an even balance on vitamin d, calcium and protein, but I am needing to increase my daily iron and fiber.
So, the day was good overall.
and PLANNING to stick to THE PLAN again today.
Just sparking, blogging, recording, and private journaling has really helped me stay focused.

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MOM2ACAT 7/28/2014 4:24PM

    Congrats on the 4 pound loss!
Small victories are great, at least for me, they are what helps to keep me going!

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GORDON66 7/28/2014 2:29PM

  Good for you!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm delighted that you're so happy!!!!

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SARAHSTORY23 7/28/2014 11:55AM

    Yay for you!

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when do you give it all or not at all? can there be a middle?

Sunday, July 27, 2014

When do you get really serious about your health?
A man I know just died this morning, he was my age, 46. I have known him all his life, since we were little children.
and he has always been overweight, obese, morbidly obese.
I had suspected he had some kind of weight loss surgery in the last few years, as he had lost alot of weight, but he was still very obese.
He had been in and out of the hospital for the last year with heart condition.
He was sent to Jewish Hospital in Louisville, earlier this week for potential heart surgery, but he was too weak and he gave in this morning.
So, I once again find myself sitting here knowing I do not want that to be me.
I do not want to be like my father and have 4 heart attacks, a heart pacemaker and defib.
and still not be healthy,
My father at the age of 74 is now pretty well bedfast, of his own making.
He was offered in hospital physical therapy for 2 weeks to help build up his muscles and get him back up moving with the help of a walker or cane.
He refused.
Opting instead to come home and crawl into his bed, where he slipped out of last week and my brother had to try to get him out of the floor and back into the bed.
Parents become a medical burden to their children, usually not by choice, and usually after fighting to stay independent.
Not my father, he has given up. The only thing is, the doctors cannot find anything physically wrong with him. Other than the fact that he did work underground in the coalmines most of his life and therefore has breathing problems and wear and tear on his body, bones.
When do you decide to just give up?
When do you choose to fight?
I fought, then I gave IN, NOT UP, BUT IN.
I am the first to admit the last few months, I have been struggling.
I havent been careful about what I eat, mindful, but not careful.
I knowingly have eaten ice cream and burgers and chips and breads.
and every single time afterward, I have felt guilt, I have felt failure.
So, when do I start fighting again?
Proof positive that WLS isnt always the answer, a man I know had the surgery 4 years ago, he has gained back at least half of the 180 pounds he lost, and is now starting the process to have the surgery AGAIN.
He has undergone at least 5 bowel and stomach related surgeries since.
When do I start fighting again?
When do I say no longer will I accept that failure? When will I stop giving in to cravings and thoughts that its ok, now, worry about it later.
Well it is later.
I dont want to go out like them. I might, no one knows the future, even thin and healthy people develop illnesses that they cant overcome, the lady I stayed with last year before she passed, all of her life, she stayed busy, worked, and was in good health, physically.
But a fall and a broken hip and surgery and she never recovered, she went down hill from that day on.
So no one knows what is going to happen.
The healthiest of us, the sickest of us, no one knows how it is going to end.
But I know this, I dont want to struggle anymore.
I am killing myself not only with my food choices, salty and fat and sugary, but I am killng myself with what I am doing to myself mentally, back and forth with the depression over food.
I just dont want to go out like that.
I guess you could say at least those guys tried, right? Some look at it like surgery is the easy way out, well it cant have been easy for them, it cant have been easy for those others I have known who suffered health problems and numerous surgeries after.
I do know a few who have been successful after.
I think those people would have been successful without it if they had chosen that road.
That is one reason why I dont think I would be successful after surgery. Because I had a small success on my own, then I just got tired of trying. Well I have rested long enough, its time to get back to work.
I dont want to be in this place in my mind anymore.

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SARAHSTORY23 7/28/2014 11:54AM

    I'm there with you, Val. I often give myself a mental "pass" on taking care of myself because of all the time and energy my oldest son's care requires. BUT, the truth is, if I want to be around for him, and I do, I need to take care of myself. It's just so hard not to give in to depression and crappy habits :/ I'm rooting for you, and you are not in this alone.

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GORDON66 7/28/2014 9:55AM

  Figuring out your motivations will help you pinpoint what you need to target. Self-awareness is crtical in changing your life.

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LINDA7668 7/27/2014 10:05AM

    Thank you for speaking from your heart. I also struggle with the yo-yo effect often- I can do really good and then let it all go. You would think that after watching my father losing his kidneys to cancer and uncontrolled diabetes, I would change my ways. I didn't, instead I held on tighter to the comfort of food.

Today, I will refocus and recommit to becoming a healthier me. It's the best thing I can do for myself. I'm not going to let these setbacks stand in my way. We both deserve so much better. emoticon

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RIDLEYRIDER 7/27/2014 9:11AM

  The healthy person in you is taking all this overwhelming info and experience of those around you and is trying to do the right thing. Is it easy, definitely not, not ever, unfortunately. Success will come when you make a plan, small, easy doable steps...those small successes will lead to bigger ones, I assure you. Forget the slip-ups or the backsliding...we have all been there and can move on. Never, never, never give up. You are worth every effort! emoticon

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