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Friday, May 09, 2014

The famous final scene!!!
The song by Bob Seger, has been in my head all day. I woke up very early, again, and depressed.
I have been really tired today and knowing I have to get up again early tomorrow and go get my dog from her surgery.
Monday back to the doctor, and at least I got my lab results back so I can go over them with her. Still no results of the ultrasound. I guess I am in menopause. That is really the only thing I can figure out by reading these hormone level results. Yes, PCOS can mess up your hormone levels as well.
But I am sure this is what they are going to tell me, based on my hormone levels.
It doesnt really bother me that much. Yes there is this feeling of finality. Like, ok, that phase of my life is over and yet I feel this longing, not that I ever ever wanted more children.
But I guess its the fact of knowing I couldnt even if I wanted and taking my dog to be spayed all in the same day of getting these results, makes me feel a little like I have taken something from her as well.
What is bothering me the most is my sense deep down inside of the last link to my girlhood.
Not childhood, but being a GIRL. My friend had an older boyfriend many years ago and every time we seen him, he would say " Here's the girls".
I am no longer a girl.
When you are young all you want is to be a woman. To be grown, to grow up.
Now, I have this feeling of just wishing I could be a girl again.
I have known for some time that this was coming and with the last few months of my cycle being messed up, dry skin, dry hair, my vitamin d being messed up, etc. I am not at all surprised or taken aback that my hormone levels are what they are.
Out of all of it, what is bothering me the most is knowing that this is really messing with my ability to lose weight.
This overall is the biggest factor in my weight loss stopping. I cannot get my hormones leveled out and I cannot find the right balance.
All I think about from daylight to dark is what I eat. Am I walking, did I eat too many calories, drink my water, getting the right vitamins. Will this morsel of food put me over my calories, how many grams of fat is in this, what about protein?????
It has become an never ending job to count calories, and feel depressed and sad and messed up and failing because I didnt eat as healthy as I should.
I shouldnt have had that snack.
I should have walked longer, I should have lost a pound by now, why am I not losing a pound, even one little pound?????

I am feeling so seriously depressed. I am 46 and what happens next?
I have a small glimmer of hope in my life, and while I wont go into detail, I dont want to get my hopes up too high, because the fall is way too far and my bones are getting old and when they break, they take much longer to heal.
I just want the 20th to come and go so I can get it behind me and be done.
Then will come the wait and see. More fear, more stress, more what ifs.
And I dont want to have to have surgery to lose weight, so I am to the point now that I either have to work 3 times harder and maybe fail and not lose any weight, or just be satisfied with where I am and how much I weigh and be done with all of this.
But I feel like I am up against a wall.

This is what is bothering me.
I dont wanna grow up!!!!

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PCOH051610 5/9/2014 6:30PM


Boy how I wish we lived closer so I could reach out and give you a big hug. Here is a virtual one emoticon all the same.

Are you eating enough? I know it's a weird question but sometimes our bodies rebel and protect themselves from weight loss. Also, you are going through a lot right now with the hormonal changes.

Ii just turned 48 and I'm getting there (with regards to menopause) but a lot of people have told me that they end up feeling renewed ultimately. And remember your age is just a number and doesn't define us. You will always be a girl at heart and I'm sure nobody is going to look at you and suddenly think "oh, she is going through menopause so she is an old fuddy duddy now all of a sudden"

Here is another big emoticon

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and a new bathroom scale!!!

Thursday, May 08, 2014

Early blog this morning. No walk today, my feet have been killing me so I decided to take a break today.
Yesterday after my walk, we got some work done.
Got the dishwasher taken out, it wasnt draining properly and the standing water was a health hazard, not to mention, stinky.
I dont miss it, I never used it.

So, now I get to replace it with a cabinet or some much needed drawer space.
Got the hot water heated checked and yes indeed, it was set to the lowest energy saving setting. Well, I am sorry, but I have to have some hot water. So we turned it up about 30 degrees. And that was part of the problem.
We have good water pressure in the sinks now, but not the showers so much, I believe its the shower heads, so today I am going to buy a cheap, one setting only shower head and see if the water pressure increases.

Didnt get the outdoor cooling unit wired up, but we did get a window ac to do for now.
Tore one small section of the carpet back to see that the kitchen flooring continued on thru and began the process of pulling up carpet. Only to discover about 2 foot in, that it did not go all the way thru.
So, back down went the carpet.
As much hard work as I know its going to be, now I will get to put down the floating hardwood laminate that I wanted to begin with, and will continue it down the hall to the bedroom!!!
Yeah, for Victory!!
Might be next spring before we do this, but it will be done the way I wanted.
So, we did accomplish a little.
Many more jobs to do, but its all good, the sun is here and gives me incentive to get outside in the early mornings. I need some items for the place, a microwave and a microwave cart. Some storage to serve as a pantry.
I am still waiting to see if my morning glories are going to bloom soon.
Hoping to have a nice healthy lunch with honey today. As this weekend is going to be a stressful one.
Whatever possessed me to schedule my dogs spay surgery the same weekend as Mothers Day???
So she has to be at the vet at 9 am tomorrow and pick up on Saturday.
Alot done, alot more to do and I just hope I can stay on the right track with my eating and walking. It was such good news about my vitamin d that I do not plan on ever letting it get that low again.
I am sure it will drop some when the sun is no longer a daily option, because the problem seemed to be in the absorption in my intestines.
Doc thinks its probably related to the removal of my gallbladder some years ago and that my body speeds up the process of digestion, not allowing the vitamins time to properly absorb.
You would think I would be super skinney if that is the case.
Well, I hope you all have a nice day and hope the sun is shining where you are.

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PCOH051610 5/9/2014 6:21PM

    Wow, you have been busy! We don't use our dishwasher either but I'm reluctant to actually remove it because I keep saying we will get it fixed. emoticon

Hope you are doing great

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CAPECODBABE 5/8/2014 8:07PM

    Have a wonderful Mother's Day weekend and take some time for yourself.

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GARDENQE2 5/8/2014 12:28PM

    Doctors don't know so much...that's why they call their work "practicing!"
The body is also a very complicated machine!
In my case, I was weak and tired, had diarrhea for months, and was gaining weight the whole time, as well as not absorbing vitamins. Fortunately, I found a nutritionist who prescribed various enzymes, and the problem has reversed!
All we can do is keep searching for answers.
Have fun fixing up the house!
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JENNEINAZ 5/8/2014 12:10PM

  Lots of projects! I hope they all work out just as you want them to!

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GORDON66 5/8/2014 9:45AM

  Home improvement projects can be challenging. Stay strong!!

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    Sometimes I think doctors just say stuff to hear themselves sounding knowledgeable. You are right, if the vitamins don't stay long enough to do good, how come the fat stays long enough to do bad? Is bad faster than good?

Make Today the Greatest Day of Your Life

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ANDREWMOM 5/8/2014 9:07AM

    Wow!!!! Are you the busy beaver!!!! Have a great day yourself!

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i might as well be walking on the sun!!

Wednesday, May 07, 2014

I got some good news today. It was so good in fact, that I am almost scared to believe it, my lab work came back and my vitamin d is up to 72.3!!!
This is such fantastic news, its so hard for me to believe it, because in December it was only 19.
I guess taking high doses of D3 daily, and drinking lots of milk, eating fish and mushrooms and getting outside in the sun, now that we have sun, has been working.
I wonder if the tanning bed helped any?
Well either way, its up and I hope it stays up. I got so excited about it that I forgot to ask about all my other levels. The tech just said all was normal, but I like to have the actual number.
So, I am going tomorrow to get a copy of all the levels and a report on my ultrasound.
I got a tiny bit of other good news, well, right now its still in the planning stages and I dont want to jinx it by sharing too much too soon.
I will just say, if it works out the way I pray it does, I will be one happy person!!!
I will keep the rest under wraps for now.
But anyway, its a nice day here, the sun is shining and its supposed to be in the 90s. The fact that my outside cooling unit isnt hooked up or serviced yet doesnt even bother me that much. I will go to the old house where I still have window ac's and cool off.
I was on the walking track at 830 this morning and my bones just werent cooperating. I was stiff and sore and achy.
But I pushed on thru an hour, after stretching and sitting in the sun awhile.
Early morning walks are once again required with the hot days ahead, but I dont mind the sun to much now.
I know what good it does for my bones.
Have a nice day to all and stay the course!!!

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PCOH051610 5/9/2014 6:17PM

    Great news about the vitamin D but why in the heck would you go to a tanning salon and ruin your beautiful,complexion? Aaarrrggghhh

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BRADMILL2922 5/8/2014 2:46AM

    Awesome news on the Vitamin D! Hope your other news turns out how you want it!

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GARDENQE2 5/7/2014 11:54AM

    Great news about the vitamin D. emoticon

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the elephant in the room

Tuesday, May 06, 2014

ok for some reason the link keeps going to the bottom, try this one and see if it works. thanks.

Has anyone read this? See, this is my love hate relationship with the Biggest Loser and any of the other "weight loss quick" shows.
You all know, well most of you, who have lost a significant amount of weight, and especially if you are over a certain age, that your body doesnt miraculously get tight and toned such as they want us to think it does on the BL.
While I know they work out alot, like training for the Olympics workout, they still arent going to go from 450 pounds to 180 and not have some skin and some other visible signs of the loss.
I know I have blogged about this before, but this isnt a crapshoot show, they DO NOT pick people at random.
This is how they are able to bring us the heart wrenching back stories of some of the contestants.
They are examined, etc long before the show.
They have experts who pick and choose the contestants they believe they can show as fit and toned and not the ones who are going to be jiggly.
At any rate, they need to stop pretending to the home viewers that they too can look this way and not ever have to have surgery to help remove skin and that their bodies will be prefectly toned and no scars and life will be sunshine and roses.
They have past contestants come on to encourage and you can see that some of them have gained some of their weight back, which is typical especially if you lose it so quickly.
The girl they had on this past season who lost so much weight, that was scary.
The biggest incentive for them to lose the weight is money.
That is not a good reason in my opinion, yes, we all need money and some way more than others, but when she went home and came back, she looked sickly, almost anorexic.
This is not a good way for her to have lost the weight, and probably she has gained some back.
Anyway, this story is inspiring and sad all at once, that this woman lost all this weight on her own, and then her pic was rejected because who wants to see the truth right??
No one wants to admit that this is what happens to our bodies after a significant amount of weight loss.
This is probably one reason that holds alot of people back from really going for it.
Fear of having loose hanging skin.
Fear of having to have plastic surgery and even bigger fear of not getting approval for it.
There is a plastic surgeon here in my town, and he only really does surgeries on patients who have the WLS at the hospital he works from. In fact, they only brought him here once they started doing alot of WLS here, to keep people from going elsewhere for the surgery.
I recall when I made the choice not to have WLS, the surgeon told me that if I was lucky enough to lose any weight on my own that my insurance wouldnt cover my reconstructive surgery since it wasnt related to WLS.
I said oh well, and left her office and never looked back and I am happy with that decision.
I am often left shaking my head at the decision of some and most insurance companies not to pay for these surgeries.
Well any way that is my rant for the day.
I have so many other things I could rant about but I will save it for tomorrow, its so hot in here.
That is one of my rants, the heat and lack of having my a/c unit fixed yet!!!

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PCOH051610 5/9/2014 6:15PM

    Very well said!

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MELISSIMAUS 5/7/2014 8:26PM

    I agree with you. I lost almost 100lbs in 2004-2005, and I had some loose skin. Well, guess what, at 44 and having gained and lost the same 100lbs again, I have more loose skin. The good part is, I am not trying to win any beauty contests. It's not about that. It's about being able to get up in the morning and not be in crippling pain, and to be able to do what I want, physically and otherwise. That weight was holding me back. Loose skin won't hold me back from anything.

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GORDON66 5/7/2014 8:54AM

  I take The Biggest Loser with a grain of salt, because it's an unrealistic way to lose weight. I have to have a job to pay my bills, so I couldn't be locked up for months on end in a weight loss compound. With that said, the show does provide some inspiration. I just wish it would focus more on the process rather than the silly challenges.

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CAPECODBABE 5/7/2014 6:05AM

    Thank you for sharing.

I haven't watched the Biggest Loser in years. I just can't watch Jillian scream at people.

Congrats to all who lose that much! They should be proud!

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BRADMILL2922 5/7/2014 3:02AM

    I have never really seen much of the biggest loser but I always go back to the same thing with all "reality tv" is that no matter how "real" it is, it is still prodcuced. So of course they are going to find stories and certain stereotypes and all that. But, with that said, that is a really sad story about her being rejected. Having lost over 200 lbs myself, I understand all the skin issues, it is something I deal with every day but in the end, it is much better to have that and healthy than to not and be 500 lbs again!

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POSITIVEHOPE 5/6/2014 9:37PM

    My skin frequently looks like I've been in the bathtub too long. So what? A Loose, jiggly body and undefined body contours are a small price to pay to be at a healthy weight and to be able to move freely and do more things.
Yes, the show isn't straight forward. Somehow reality TV always seems to celebrate the worst of humanity. Not everyone could or should do what those people chose to do. It is their choice. I won't sit in judgment of them. I have felt that desperate a time or two myself. The inner journey of learning what lead us to overeat is a much more difficult thing to get in our grasp. Those are the real things that fixing to stay at a healthy weight for life.

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SOFT_VAL67 5/6/2014 8:07PM

    well i appreciate everyones comments and yes the biggest loser contestants motivate and are real people. but the editing and producing of the show is not real.
it does not show that in between weigh ins is not 1 week but up to 4 to 6 weeks, this coming from former contestants.
and as we seen in the last season, many of the contestants were taking fat burners, etc.
do you ever wonder why the women all wear shorts and sports bras early on, the men, only shorts. but as the show progresses, the women and men both wear spandex shorts and spandex shirts, then you look closely you can see the men are wearing body contouring undergarments. the clothes get tighter and you get this idea that wow they look so great.
but all the fat and saggy skin is sucked up and taped and spandexed over.
do they do this to protect the pride of the contestant???
hardly, how could they when they have stood before the world in their bra and shorts??
no, they do it to give the audience this idea that there is no ugly side to weight loss.
but you still see the arms and thighs. they arent kidding anyone so why try?
the blog wasnt intended to be all about the biggest loser, but about any show or magazine article that sugar coats what weight loss looks like.
i used to buy womans world and first magazine and i was motivated by the people and their stories.
but one woman was interviewed and she admitted that her photos were air brushed.
rememeber when jamie lee curtis posed in a magazine with no air brushing, while she looked really good, everyone was making this HUGE deal out of it, like what in the world possessed her to appear as she really looks.
im just saying, you dont lose 140 pounds without some jiggling, some loose skin and why do magazines and tv shows want to act like you do???

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LIVE_AMAZINGLY 5/6/2014 7:40PM

    That link wouldn't work, but I checked around and found this link.

Personally, I don't care if I ended up with a bunch of skin, as long as I know I helped my health and heart.

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SUZIPAM1 5/6/2014 6:08PM

    i watch biggest loser as it really makes me motivated I really dont mind what others say

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the long im hungry its supper time blog

Monday, May 05, 2014

I spent the day in the doctors office. The gyno!!
I had put the visit off for far too long and I knew I needed to get some answers about pcos and if my meds need to be changed.
So, it was a 3 hour visit, an hour of that just being waiting, then the exam, the discussion, the lab work, the ultrasound, and finally I was out of there. None to happy with the number on the scale, but, I guess it could have been alot worse.

So, I came home to bath the puppy and she tried to bite me as she always does when I bath her, only today she really bite at me like she was trying to bite me.
I bought her a muzzle for when she has her surgery which is coming up at the end of this week.
When I tried it on her, it seemed to fit and now today I put it on her and it was so lose it was coming off of her.
I am trying so hard to tough it out with her, but after nearly 5 months, the potty training is still an on-going battle, she will pee everywhere BUT her pee pad.
I really want to keep her, but its getting tougher.
I am at my wits end.
I just hope to get some things done here around the house that are well past due, like my dishwasher is leaking in the bottom, it doesnt drain properly and the standing water stinks and is making me fear rotting and insects.
So that is the job 1 here.
Then I need the outside air unit serviced, yes, I know that should be job 1, but its not, its job 2 and then is having the hot water heater checked, and the water pressure here is terrible.
This place was supposed to be move in ready and its been one issue right after the other.
Well, its getting on toward dinner time and I havent a clue what I am having.
I was so starved out by the time I got out of the docs office today I went straight to mcds for a coffee and mcchicken and that is all I have had today, well, Hope all of you are having a better day than I am.
Maybe tomorrow will be better.

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PCOH051610 5/9/2014 6:13PM

    How is the puppy? Maybe she isn't the best fit for you if you don't have the time to devote to her. I mean that in the best possible way. When we adopted our last dog I was off work and it took a good few months with me going around with a leash attached to my waist(!) for both of us to learn what was expected of the other.

No pun intended but you have to nip the biting in the bud before it develops into a huge problem.

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GORDON66 5/6/2014 8:36AM

  A visit to the OB/GYN is never fun. I hope today is better! emoticon

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NEWBIRTH2014 5/5/2014 6:49PM

    Monday Blues…on your next doctor visit pack a small healthy lunch and snack to take with you, get a tick and flea collar for your pet maybe some training?Take advantage of my nutrition weekly menu on SparkPeople.

Hang in there, tomorrow WILL be a better day!


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