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when am i gonna go forward the way i once did

Monday, May 20, 2013

Something has changed. I just dont think I remember how to do it anymore.
I think all this time that has passed has been too much for me to remember.
How do I get back to where I was?
How do I get my mind to think the way I did in January?
How do I lose weight again?
How do I go to lunch and eat heatlhy?
How do I walk again?
Why did this happen to me and what do I do about it?

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SOFT_VAL67 5/20/2013 10:38PM

    Thanks to all of you who responded. My foot is feeling better, but I am still feeling like every walk I take I am pushing it.
My goodness, its been 4 months since I broke it.
I walked this evening for 30 minutes. Now to just lay off the extra calories and get back to burning them off.

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CAPECODBABE 5/20/2013 7:02PM

    It's like riding a bike...

You just need your foot back to normal

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DEVONA8 5/20/2013 6:25PM

    This is how I feel too, it's like being underwater and trying to fight your way up. What I've begun again (just today) is to just start tracking my food. I'm spending 21 days just getting in the habit of tracking meaning I'll just do the best I can but my object is to just track regardless of how I do. Sometimes we just have to start doing something really small that will get us moving. emoticon

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GRAMMY_22 5/20/2013 4:51PM

    Just take one day at a can do it!

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*RENEAT* 5/20/2013 4:23PM

    Slow and steady wins the race....

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SHILOHPIP 5/20/2013 4:16PM

    BABY STEPS! Just try one thing at a WILL get easier! emoticon emoticon

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give me sunshine in a pill.....

Monday, May 06, 2013

Todays blog brought to you by rain, dark clouds, dampness and cold!!!
How is ones happy mood supposed to thrive under these conditions?
Where in the hell is Spring?
It sure isnt in Eastern Ky!!! Cold, is an understatement, I have worn sweats and huddled under a blanket for two days.
Zero chance of walking...cant risk a slip on the wet ground on this still healing foot.
At least I hope its healing!
Up early, to more rain....guess I will go grocery shopping today, although I really dont feel like it.
What i really want to do is crawl back into bed and sleep another 5 hours....
Maybe an early bedtime...
So much for getting vitamin d from natural sunlight...I can count on one hand the number of days we have had here so far where you could actually sit outside in the sun.
And those dont include the windy days, wind so bad that any desire to enjoy the sun was ruined and no heat!!!
I am sick sick sick of the cold and darkness.
This weekend, I did nothing, zero, zilch, nada....Sat at home Friday night, sat at home all day Saturday, with the exception of going out for a newspaper, and never left the house all day yesterday.
So, today I am forced to go grocery shopping.
Not that it is going to matter, I am still going to eat like a pig!!!
2 large helpings of spagetti yesterday, with parmasean cheese...
I havent worked out in days, I am starting back on my Wellbutrin this week, which I swore I never would.
But something has to give.
I am sick of always being in a funk and always feeling sick and always feeling angry.
I dont know how it will effect my eating habits, but if I see any signs that it is making me overeat I will stop it again.
I went off all my meds about a year ago or longer, except for zestril for blood pressure and clonidine for blood pressure and to help me sleep.
I stopped Metformin for pcos as I couldnt see one dang thing it was doing for me...I stopped wellbutrin and I stopped the cholesterol pills
and with the exception of more energy and less feelings like I was dragging around a 50 pound wet blanket behnd me...or that I was carrying around a 50 pound cinderblock on my shoulders...I couldnt see one negative effect from stopping these meds.
I became a believer in eating healthy would help more with these issues I had...but now, the depression is getting to be too much.
I think a combo of the broken foot, relationship issues, the bad weather, not losing weight and periomenopause, have brought about this depression.
And since i cannot treat it, by walking, by sitting in the sunlight..or turning back the clock to age 25....I have decided to start back on the wellbutrin...
I will keep the blog going on the results....
But you all just wait, til the day the sun shines continously for a week....I bet ya see a happier sunnier dispostion from me.
I know my blogs have been doom and gloom lately....but I have been in a funk and I cant clim out.
I need to real bad, cause even I miss the old me...
a friend told me recently she misses the old me, I said well, damn I miss the YOUNG ME!!!!

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CAPECODBABE 5/7/2013 8:32AM

    What a great comeback - I miss the young me!!!

It is amazing how the weather can influence your mood.

I hope the sun heads your way soon!!!

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GK1963 5/6/2013 10:37AM

    Wish I could send you some of my sunshine. We are lucky here and are in for a gorgeous week. It certainly makes a difference when that wonderful glowing orb is not covered by clouds. Here's to hoping sunshine comes your way soon.

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EVIE4NOW 5/6/2013 9:05AM

  Spring? Spring? What is that? Know it used to be in my vocabulary but for the life of me I can't remember what it means. I do know it doesn't mean 8 inches of snow on May 1 or still wearing a winter coat on May 5. Maybe this week I will remember.

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rock bottom aint no place to be!!! (and i can see it from here)!!!

Friday, May 03, 2013

I give up on trying to figure out how many calories I should be eating daily.
And I also give up on figuring out how to stay under that limit, once I do figure it out!!!
I reset my calories recently, as SP had set them somewhere around 1900, I lowered them to 1600, which I personally still felt was a little high.
But now I find myself even having trouble staying under that.
I just cant seem to stay at that range and I dont really OVEREAT.
Today I didnt really overeat, while I did go over my calories by 300..mostly it was milk, I choose not to drink the super skim milk, and I go for 2 percent.
I am drinking alot of milk right now trying, hopefully succeeding in increasing my vitamin d.
And yes, I know there are foods that contain vitamin d that arent as high in calories.
I just feel defeated.
Woke up early this morning, my plans were to go to the court hearing for my friend to get his bond reinstated, which I kinda knew wasnt really going to happen.
But I didnt go.
Cleaned my house and sat outside in the sun, while it lasted, which wasnt long.
He didnt get out by the way and I wasnt surprised.
Life goes on.
As the day wore on, I felt ok, I went and took care of some mail and visited the market.
Then I came home and got depressed.
Not really sure why, irrational thoughts I guess.
Feeling neglected by friends and wishing I had a hobby or a part time job that would help me take my mind off these endless wandering thoughts that swim thru my veins like a fish in the sea!!!
Feeling the loss.
My best friend is no longer a daily part of my life, in fact, if we speak 2 times a week we are lucky.
But for me right now, the thoughts and depression I am feeling is all internal.
I am just really sick and tired of thinking all the time.
Wondering why I cant lose weight...after having lost 71 pounds, I gained back 8 pounds and havent taken off another pound since and I am sick to death of thinking about it.
Worrying, tearing at it, pulling at the seams and turning it over and over in my head.
Tired of feeling these angry thoughts, sad thoughts, lost thoughts.
I just want to lose weight, that is all I want...once again, to get back to where I was in January and I hate this damn contraption that is strapped to my foot 10 hours a day....
is it doing anything???
is it helping my bone to heal??? am I an idiot for believing the doctor when he says it will?
Will I ever be normal and start losing weight and get over the hurts and stresses I have been thru?
2013 has totally royally and with much fanfare SUCKED!!!!
That is no exaggeration....Since Day 1....the whole year so far has been one big ball of dog excrement on the bottom of my brand new 80 dollar walking shoes, which I have only worn to the walking track 3 times, cause that is all I have walked in 120 days!!!!

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HOPEFILL 5/5/2013 9:03PM

    I'm so sorry you're feeling so awful. I have been through depression - and that's certainly what you're describing - and it's terrible to be imprisoned in your own mind!

This suggestion is so small it might actually be infuriating, but it was a key part of my own recovery. I bought a notebook and carried it with me everywhere for a month. Each day, I wrote the date on the page and started a bulleted list that began with "remembered to start the day's happy list." That was the first victory. The second was often "made it to work at a reasonable hour" or "noticed a pretty view" or "wore decent clothes" or "showered before noon" or "enjoyed breakfast". Whatever I could think of - each and every teensy tiny good thing that happened during the day, I wrote it down. Thing is, people love to add to a list...we just naturally start looking for things to put on a list once it gets going. And, in the process, I was ever-so-briefly interrupting the mantra that had taken over my life: "I'm so unhappy. I'm so unhappy. I'm so unhappy."

Depression is a deadly illness, so please please take good care of yourself and consider enlisting professional support. In the meantime, maybe my notebook trick will help a little.

You've been through a lot. It really will get better, though.

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    Having dealt with depression for decades, sometimes it just isn't your fault. Sometimes you have to talk to a doctor about meds and counseling. You're doing a great job blogging about it, but do reach out for help when you need it. Life is too short to spend it in misery. Wishing the very best for you.

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CAPECODBABE 5/3/2013 9:00PM

    Wish I could give you a big hug.

Just know things will get better.

Tomorrow is a new day. Give yourself permission, just for tomorrow, not worry about anything. If you have trouble doing that, write all your worries down and put them away. Get back to them another day!

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MEBAZI 5/3/2013 8:24PM

    Sounds like you have a lot going on. Good job for blogging about it. It helps process things. Just know you have the strength to get yourself out of this, stressing out about it makes things worse. Try to channel that stress energy into answers to solve the problem. I know easier said than done, but I know if I think less and do what I know instead, it can sometimes help. You have came so far, you know you can do it. Continue the things you know work. Don't give up now, you have accomplished so much! Just breathe, set small goals and take small steps....good luck!

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the letter, the message!!!

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Today I had lunch with a friend, had a chicken salad and water. Feeling good, laughing and joking around with friends all morning.
Got a little house work done, the sun was shining, finally.
Then I went to the post office, hidden amongst the clothing catalogs and bills was the sweetest surprise of the day!!!
A little from my friend SM!!!
Yes the one who is in jail. He seemed in good spirits, he said he loved the letters I had sent him and as he read them, he could picture me sitting on my porch, he said he could feel the breeze on his skin and the warm sun on his face.
He told me that he felt himself in the words.
I am going to see him tomorrow...I hadnt planned to, I had wanted to wait a little longer.
There is a slight possibility that he might get to come home on Friday, if the judge will reinstate his bond til his sentencing on May 17th.
This will be good for not only him, but his family, his son especially is having a hard time dealing with all of this.
But it made me feel good to hear from him and realize just how much I really do miss him and need him.
He was always the friend who I could tell any problem too and he had the perfect words, no judgement, no joking, no lecturing, just words to help me see it and understand it...that only I can fix it!!! or learn to live with it.
So, I decided I am going to visit him tomorrow, even if he does get to come home, in case he doesnt, He told me if he does get to come home he really wants to go walking with me.
I never got a chance before, no one expected he would be taken into custody before his sentencing.
But, all the same, if he gets out I cannot wait to walk with him, he was one of my earliest supporters and encouragers!!!
Today has been pretty good otherwise.
Have stayed within calorie range and even though I did enjoy a York Peppermint patty for a snack, I am not beating myself up.
I still have enough calories for a good healthy dinner and snack.
So, I feel pretty good right now.
Dreading sitting looking at my friend thru a piece of thick glass, but knowing I have to be there for him the way he has for me.
And so, I look forward to seeing him....
and I look forward to each free day I have, each day I can decide what to eat, what to wear, what time to go to bed, what time to get up, what time to enjoy the sun, go walking, watch tv, listen to music...I understand the importance of freedom and I wont take for granted.
Nor will I take for granted that I have the choice to eat healthy, to exercise, to make wise choices and to be healthy.
I cant control others around me, but i can control who I allow to affect me with their words or actions.
And I choose to be around people who build me up and want to see me succeed.
me and SM in october, 2012...

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    A beautiful blog, and honor to SM. I hope your visit went well.

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Sunday, April 28, 2013

found a few things i wanted to share....

i just thought that one was funny, havent we all been there?

i feel that last one is so true...i dont want to change who i am, i do want to change the body i carry me around in, and maybe with that, i have to change just a little on the inside, but im doing it to make me happy, not others.

and so i did, survived my food cravings and ate healthy fruits and veggies and got my protein and am working on healing my foot and getting my mind and spirit healed as well and love to all my spark friends and family who are there to help me survive another day....

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    Such a positive and upbeat blog. LOVE it! I especially loved that 2nd pic, it's perfect.
Have an awesome day!

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LOVINGAFRICA 4/29/2013 4:30AM

    This is such a wonderful blog. Thanks for sharing.

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