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April, in like a boss!!!!

Monday, April 01, 2013

Today has been a pretty good day. While I did sleep later than I had wanted, I got in a good morning workout.
Have stuck to my calories, gotten in my veggies and water.
And other than a slight evening headache, have felt pretty good all day.
I really feel like I am back to where I need to be.
I revamped my Spark nutrition plan a little...reset my short term goal and Sp gave me more calories in the day.
So, I normally change it back to try to stay under 1600 a day.
I decided the 2100 SP allowed me might be a little high, but I am gonna go with it...and so, sticking as closely to their food plan as possible today, I am still around 1600 which is where I try to stay.
I guess just knowing, I still have the option of eating a little more today makes me feel like I have been successful.
I am full, and not wanting anymore to eat today.
But might have my last cup of milk and maybe an orange.
Tomorrow is beauty day and I always feel better on those days...
My stylist is so great, she laughs at my lame jokes and tells me how proud she is of my hard work.
So, I realize, I have alot more support out there than I sometimes realize.
I know my friends are always behind me.
So, overall, today was ok...its been cold, but the sun did pop out for a bit.
I did some online checking and am going by my Lowes store tomorrow to check on buying a lounge lawn chair...
Knowing that soon the sun will pack some real heat and stay around for more than a few mins...I cant wait to soak up the sun, and cant wait to start seeing some success on the scale yet again.
And the one sad note to today, the death Shain Gandee, the 21 year old who appears in MTV Buckwild tv show.
He was my favorite on that show and I recall my post on FB after watching him for the very first time..."Shain reminds me of every boy I ever knew in high school"...
He was a nice young man and came from a good respectful Christian family.
His father taught him hard work and gave him good life advice.
He will be missed on that show and in his community.
I know he wasnt anyone I really knew, but he was a real person and he made that show.
Well, its sad when anyone dies at such a young age.
Hope everyone had a good day and didnt get tricked or fooled too much.
I had a good day and thats no joke!!!!

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HA_MONICA83 4/2/2013 11:22AM

    What a great day, glad it left you feeling good..and enjoy that beauty day! :) emoticon

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    Wow! You got in a good morning workout, stuck to your calories, got in your veggies and water - you rocked it! Way to go. I hope you have a wonderful beauty day today!

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USMAWIFE 4/1/2013 7:30PM

    Sounds like a great day

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motivation has come

Sunday, March 31, 2013

above picture, in red shirt, picture was taken christmas 2011....

these two pics, standing in green shirt... taken 3/29/2013...not very good pics, i was standing on my porch and just clicked these pics while looking into my glass door, lol, but, they show i am right now...and while i do look better, i dont look how i know i can, i dont feel like i should, because i have allowed myself to take too much time off and ive used the excuse of my foot and ive used the cold weather and so on, but now, its just time to go back to the way it was in sept, october, november, and december....when i worked harder than ever and i lost weight....
70 pounds less....
and its time to continue the journey....
its time to see more weight come off...
this isnt over for me, it has felt for some time like i have just stopped, given up????
no...given in to cravings, yes, given in to lack of motivation, yes, given in to excuses, yes...
but never given up!!!
as one sparker blogged today, tomorrow is april fools day, but no foolin this time
its time
my broken foot will no longer be an excuse for me to take time off from my battle
and i will keep fighting
i will post more pics soon of an even thinner, healtier me!!!

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INTHELOOP 4/1/2013 8:37PM

    Great Work - past and present - you can do it!!

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    You look AWESOME!!! I personally know the hard work that goes into losing and know all too well how easy it is to gain as I've regained 95% of what I lost in 2011. It is 2013 and YOU are my motivation to take it back off. I have a lot of work to catch up with you! :)

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    Some people work in phases. I think I'm one also. You had an awesome phase. Then a phase in which you slacked off and did some soul-searching, but you didn't give up. Now you are building up to the next phase. I'm sure it will be amazing.

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CAPECODBABE 4/1/2013 6:11AM

    It's April 1st, a new month. And the weather is getting better.

A perfect time to get back to a healthier lifestyle (again)
Can't wait to see the new pics. emoticon

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caught in a trap

Monday, March 25, 2013

So, old man winter and Mother Nature must be having a battle of wills or maybe they are in cahoots to play April Fools Day jokes on us all!!!
The snow is continuing here and reported to get heavier into the night, its miserably cold and makes me feel even more dark and depressed.
But I did fix a nice healthy veggie laden dinner for myself, and get in a workout.
Did some laundry and cleaned a little.
Seems theres just not much to do anymore.
I am very bored in my life.
I am struggling with this personal issue...of overcoming boredom and lonliness and depression.
I am usually pretty upbeat, but lately I cant find the humor in much.
I keep hoping once summer gets here, I will feel better, or differently, but I am unsure at this point.
Wondering if antidepressants are in order....
I know more exercise will help, and once I am able to walk again, I will have that at least.
So, overall, this day is pretty miserable....cold, wet, snowy, dark, no tanning bed, no sunlight, not much to do at all.
Wollow in self pity I suppose.
And keep searching for answers....and a laugh or two.
I dont really feel bad...I feel ok...just really wishing there was something to do.
or that this dark cloud would finally lift and move on....
Tuesdays are usually weigh in day for me, although I think I will skip tomorrow.
I really see no point in it, I know I havent lost since last week and I sure dont want to see it if I have gained.
Maybe one more full week of healthier food choices and exercise will make some bit of difference.
I really want to start losing weight again.
I am pretty sick and tired of being stuck in a rut.

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CORTNEY-LEE 3/25/2013 8:14PM

    it is miserable here too.

Hang in there! It will be over soon!!

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PARKERB2 3/25/2013 7:12PM

    Hang in there, Spring will arrive in time and we will all feel better.

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THEEXERCISER 3/25/2013 7:06PM

    Don't give up emoticon emoticon emoticon

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blue eyes...NOT crying in the rain.....

Sunday, March 24, 2013

Today, despite the heavy rain and impending snow...has been alot better than yesterday...I was so down last night and feeling lost and angry.
Today, I realized I have to let this all go.
The past is lingering in my mind and it is just that, the past.
There is no going back, there is no finding a way to fix things. I can only fix things from right here, and maybe not even fix all things.
But I can try to fix my calories and I got in a workout...could have been better, more calories could have been burned.
But it felt good to get back to it.
And so now, I sit on the couch, under an electric blanket, getting ready to watch The Walking Dead and reading and nursing a sore foot.
But feeling pretty good.
I know I will have more days like yesterday and I know I will try to have even more better days like today. I look forward to going back to the doctor to have my xrays on my foot and to get my vitamin d level checked...only 18 days to go and I feel confident that my vitamin d is gonna be up.
I have been very watchful of the amount of vitamin d I am taking in supplement and the amount I am getting in food.
And while I did go over my calories a little today and my carbs...which is a little upsetting, I know I am getting back into my high protein....and protein is going to really help me when I get more heavily back into my workouts!!!!
So, rain on....I am snug as a bug in a rug and staying in.
And as a friend pointed out in her blog....its good for the seeds in the ground.

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MARTY728 3/25/2013 12:58PM

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    Sometimes I have to tell myself about work-outs, "do it ugly if you have to, but just do it."
Sometimes, the best goal is to just concentrate on what we can do and not feed the negative thoughts that are used to popping into our head. Can't change others, so why let them take up space we could be using for ourselves? KWIM?
I absolutely LOVE the pic you put on the end of this post. One of the best ways I have found for picking myself up and encouraging myself (b/c we really do have to be our own best friend) is looking at sites like "Queen of Your Own Life" or other motivational visuals. You deserve a best friend that treats you with love, respect, honor, joy, compliments your strengths, that doesn't cut you down or discourage you from being healthy physically, emotionally, or spiritually. Be that best friend to yourself.
Heck, give her a name if you have too until you can accept that she is part of YOU! (I know, sounds crazy, but sometimes that works.)
Wishing you an awesome Monday, no matter what the weather is outside. Heck, that's the whole reason we live in houses, right? To be able to carry on despite the weather! Light some smell-good candles, put on the music, and stoke the fire (or wrap that blanket around ya!) Spring really is on it's way. I'm sure you've seen the geese, robins and buttercups, and even heard peepers a couple of times that say so. Trust it will be here! Even the maples are starting to turn that red-rust color in their tops!

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hanging on and letting go

Saturday, March 23, 2013

Sometimes the best laid plans dont always work out. and sometimes we are reminded of things we would rather forget..but know that we never can or ever will forget.
Today my good friend, the one who had court yesterday, asked me to come to the walking track where he had brought his daughter and her friend to play at the playground nearby.
He said we can walk awhile...the way we used to.
But I had to tell him that I am still unable to walk.
But, I drove up by there, he wasnt there by the time I got there. But even just the drive up there was bittersweet.
The memories of better days...not just the walking days, but him coming to walk with me...even as he was dealing with his own demons and problems.
Coming to encourage me to keep at it, and even now, yesterday was his hearing and he thought of me today.
Then on the drive home, I was in such a good mood, despite the fact that I had to decline the walk, as I passed by my best friends house I seen her and her boyfriend, the cad, sitting on her front porch, drinking beer, which they had to raise into the air as I passed, as though they were toasting, maybe they were.
It angered me, recalling his recent hateful words about me and all of her friends, her son and herself, and yet there she sat with though nothing had happened...and so I passed on by with a courtesy toot of the horn and was still determined to come home and get ready for a night out with friends...and was almost to the turnoff to my road, when I passed another old friend.
A friend I havent seen or spoken to since December...a friend who invokes painful thoughts and memories in my mind and tears at my heart.
A friend who I cherished and who lives so very close by and yet I cannot see them or talk to them or them to me....or they will not I guess.
For their own reasons, whatever they are.
But my mood changed on a dime.
I felt the feelings I had been letting go of, come rushing back and wondered why am I not good enough.
Why do I allow them still all these months later to make me feel like I am not good enough to even speak to???
I know its crazy to hang on to such feelings, and I hate that I do....if I had gotten home maybe 2 minutes earlier I would not have seen them and my night would have been as planned, happy.
But, I ended up feeling depressed and angry and wishing I could go back to December and see what I could have done differently.
And wishing I could walk.
Because after I got home and decided not to go out with my friends for the evening, I found myself very bored and lonely and wishing there was something to do. And I found myself wanting to eat!!! I wanted to eat junk and I was able to reason with myself enough not to binge...although I did drink two beers and even that made me feel worse, so I stopped at two, knowing all I was doing was digging myself deeper into a state of self loathing.
I didnt overeat....but I could have made better choices. White bread and bacon with mayo sandwich...wasnt exactly a healthy dinner.

The logical thing would have been to clean house, workout, read my book...but instead, I sat on my front porch, wondering if I would see them drive back by and wondering if they would see me and wondering why I give a damn!!!!
But, I let it go, came inside and watched a movie.
The nostaglia I think I felt from driving up to the walking track and the invitation from my friend to come all just took me back to a better time and made me realize, I cannot walk, I dont know when I will be able to walk and it pains me and then why did that chance passing on the roadway occur while all those painful thoughts were already inside me????
Why does anything happen?
People say they happen for a reason, crossing paths, whatever....
I wish I knew the answers to all the questions and I wish I didnt let little things like someone elses dislike for me ingrain itself into my heart and mind.
I wish I had an outlet for my anger and sadness and I wish even more that I didnt feel the anger or sadness.
But I sat here all evening, feeling this building up inside me and knowing I have to find a way to deal with it.
I have to let it go....
I want so badly to just let it go.....

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MARTY728 3/25/2013 12:58PM

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WEARINGTHIN 3/24/2013 5:10AM

    You had quite an emotional day. Hope you're doing better. Glenn

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OBIESMOM2 3/24/2013 1:51AM

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it's tough for me to let things go too. I'm getting better at it, so after all years of working on it at least now I know that EVENTUALLY I'll get there. I just have to do it on my own time.

I've written a couple of blogs about it
Life is too short to hold a grudge - Oct 20
Lessons learned (part 1) - Nov 12

have you ever read Stephen Covey's "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People"? That book changed my life. I had been working for YEARS trying to find help dealing with stress and anger. I would listen to self help tapes in my car all the time. I read probably 20 or 30 different books. I learned useful info from all of them, but I still would lose control more often than I liked.

I actually hyperventilated twice at work! I mean, bag over my nose and mouth, trying to calm down. I hated knowing that I was letting other people make me feel so CRAZY.

Then I lucked into The 7 Habits. It was like the heavens opened, the clouds parted, and the sun broke through. I bought an audio copy and listened to it several times to get a better grasp of the info. I still keep it in my car. When I feel myself slipping back to my old ways, I pop in that CD for a refresher.

I hope you find something that helps you. Trust me, it IS out there. Just keep trying!
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