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fried chicken, cold beer and daydreamin'......

Monday, June 18, 2012

This is a do-over blog....as I forgot SP makes ya post the link----so, here we go again, have a nice day and enjoy your freedom......
Just a little pick me up for us hillbilly girls--------------

being from kentucky isnt exactly the south, but we are close enough to see it from here!
plenty of times i have spent on the river bed, drinking a cold beer with friends, missing my friend when i think of this time, cause i have a pic of the river where we hang out....hoping he gets to see that river again, swim and fish and hang out and feel the breeze of freedom on his face....he loves these songs...just being a good country boy, driving a pick up truck and driving thru the appalachian hills that surround us....

gonna try to enjoy this day, try to keep bad thoughts out of my mind, cleaning out closets and drawers, and bagging up some old clothes to take to goodwill or give away.
just remember, as the songs say.....
if you think freedom is free, think again!!
and get your toes in the water, ass in the sand, life is good today!!!


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RG_DFW 6/18/2012 4:48PM

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update on my friend and other stuff

Saturday, June 16, 2012

Well as most of you know who have read my blog recently, I have been struggling with this surgery decision for awhile.
And had an apt yesterday with the surgeon, but she called to reschedule.
For the 29th. They had wanted to schedule me as early as July, the first week.
But I have been so stressed out, with indecison, inablility to stick to the food plan and all the stuff going on with my friend, that I know that isnt going to happen.
I am supposed to go to a support group on the 25th, going to seriously try to go.
I am hoping to speak to them, not only about my concerns, and putting the surgery off til a later date, but about my stress over other events in my life and see if the psychiatrist takes my insurance, if not, I will have to get an apt with a counselor and that might take a few weeks.
I just know that I am not ready, not even been thinking about the surgery at all.

My friend was charged with murder....even though his friend who was there when this took place, said he really thought the guy intended to kill him and thought he was armed. ((if u arent aware of this, please see my last blog))....

They didnt even set a bond, then he went before the judge and entered a not guilty plea and bond was set at half a million full cash.
The family has been calling leaving messages for him to call them, but he hasnt, they are always told hes sleeping.
Today they were able to visit him and the guards said they have been giving him meds to help him sleep cause he was having screaming nightmares about the man he shot.
He goes back before the judge this week and they will ask for bond reduction to a surety bond, or property bond, but I dont think the judge will give it.
I have never in my life been involved in anything like this.
I have known people who have gone to jail, a few to prison....but this man is one of my best friends.
Just days before this we had a conversation about how our crazy friendship began and how connected we are to each other.
He told me he loved me and that I had been there for him when no one else had.
We used to sit and listen to "Wish you were here" by Pink Floyd, he would play it for me on his guitar.
and every time we had a FB conversation or sent each other an email, we ended it with, wuwh.....
and now, I cant speak to him, to let him know I support him, I cant see him cause visits are limited and I dont want to take it from his mom or kids.
So, I am just so stressed.
and I know that I cant concentrate on anything as serious as surgery.
I am just lucky to concentrate on anything.

  
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FLY0NTHEWAL1 6/23/2012 10:52AM

    You know, I read the last blog back when you wrote it and it rested so heavily on my mind. I don't have any words of wisdom, just a sympathetic ear in all honesty. The whole thing is scary, from start to present (because there is no finish line yet). And since only a limited number of people "really" know what happened, well, no one really knows what happened. I hope your friend is ok, and I hope things work out as best they can considering the circumstances. Stay strong, be there for your friend. He will need you.

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NATNOEL 6/17/2012 11:16AM

    I am praying for your friend, I hope they will at least let you write to him. emoticon

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HONEYPOT319 6/17/2012 9:25AM

    I am praying for your friend. Please keep your chin up. I agree that the surgery should wait my sparky friend. You have too much on your plate right now. I hope that you can get in to see someone for counseling. It helps to talk to someone. Keeping you in my prayers.

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CORTNEY-LEE 6/17/2012 6:08AM

    I am so sorry you have to go through this. Thoughts are with you and your friend.

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do we really have the right.....?

Thursday, June 14, 2012

Havent been sparking much the last couple of days.
This is one crazy story but true. Two nights ago, one of my dearest friends in the world shot and killed a man. I dont know all the details to the story yet, and since my friend is in jail, I cant find out the truth from his own words. So, I have just been frustrated and feel like I am walking in a daze.
All I know is, around 3am, someone called my friends house and told him this man was on his way there and said he was going to kill my friend.
He got his gun out and before he could even call the police or leave his home or hide, or anything the man was there knocking on the door.
According to a friend of his who was there, the man asked, thru the door for a cigerette, so my friend told the other man to slowly open the door to give him a cigerette, and see if he had a weapon.
Now I know this was the worst possible thing he could do in this case, he should have called the police, but the person who called to warn him says they had called the police to tell them that the man was threatening to go kill someone.
So, the friend barely opened the door to see, and the man said if "HE" is here tell him to come to the door, (speaking about my friend), and the other friend, made the mistake of turning toward my friend, tipping off the outside man that he was standing there, and the outside man pushed the door open a little and my friend, thinking he had a weapon, or feeling threatened I guess, shot him.
Now the man is dead and my friend was charged with murder.
They put my friend in the back of the police car and went inside and all around and talked to the witness and to neighbors, etc.
Leaving the dead man laying there for 4 hours, and my friend sitting in the back of the police car, crying and inconsolable, his sister, mom and son, all standing around outside wanting to help him and not being able to go near him.
I couldnt believe it when my friends sister told me he had been charged with murder!!
I just kept thinking, what was he supposed to do at 3 am, a person at his door, that he felt was there to do him harm????
What do we do as citizens to protect ourselves???

I guess the police are looking at it like that my friend could have left the door shut, or that the dead man wasnt carrying a weapon, which we dont even know yet, cause they wont tell his family.
It has been crazy, I feel like I am losing it.
This man is one of my best friends and biggest supporters in my life.
We have been there for each other thru so much and now, I cant do anything to help him.
All I can do is hope the prosecutor and grand jury will see it as self defense, or at least lower the murder charge down to manslaughter or involuntary manslaughter.
I havent had much mind to spark, or even worry about what I eat or what I do or anything.
Just trying to be there for his family.
Both these men were fathers and the thoughts of fathers day coming up this weekend, and one is dead and the other may be in prison for his life.
Shows me that there is so much more to life and living and making the most of our time and our choices.
Hope all of you have had a much better week than I. emoticon

  
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DAUGHTEROFTWIN 6/17/2012 4:21PM

    I'm so sorry about this. It truly seems unfair in so many ways. Will his family be able to hire an attorney for him or will he have a public defender? Any word on bond? I can only imagine how much pain you are in. I'm sending prayers and hugs your way.

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CORTNEY-LEE 6/15/2012 10:19AM

    we had a case like that very close to my house. A drunk young man was trying to break in to an older couples home. The older gentleman shot and killed him. It turns out that the young man who was trying to break in had the houses confused, because his girlfriend lived a few doors down from the older couple. He was unarmed. The older gentleman was not charged in the case since it fell under Castle Doctrine.

I know in Pennsylvania if you are in your home, and you feel threatened, you have the right to protect yourself. I am not sure how things work in your state.

Best of luck - and lots of positive energy for you

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CEKER9 6/15/2012 12:48AM

    I'm sending my support to you and your friend. Blessings~~~

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LINDA7668 6/14/2012 8:51PM

    I'm so sorry that you all are going through this. My prayers go out to everyone involved. emoticon

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PATTOMMC3 6/14/2012 8:44PM

    That is so sad....

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4 pounds gone, my knees thank me!

Wednesday, May 09, 2012

The weigh in went better than I had thought, down 4lbs since I was there last 2 weeks ago, so, my scale matches theirs, I can no longer get mad at the scale.
I am so so tired, I had planned to go do some shopping afterwards, but it was raining hard and who wants to be out trekking back and forth between the car and the stores in the rain...not this girl, since it was raining the day I hurt my knee, I have this overwhelming fear of falling on a slickened sidewalk.
So, I have been up since 4am, and I am pretty much too pooped to do anything, but, relax the rest of the day and hope I feel well enough and the weather is nice enough to get in an extra long walk tomorrow.

  
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NATNOEL 5/9/2012 7:40PM

    Oh that is great, good going.
I have a doctor appointment next Wednesday and I have to keep reminding myself that I want to be happy when I get weighed. I keep forgetting.

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FLY0NTHEWAL1 5/9/2012 5:41PM

    YAAAY! So happy for you Val!

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going thru unwanted changes

Monday, April 30, 2012

First, thanks to all who responded to my rant filled last blog.....I didnt throw my scale to the bottom of the river or throw it from a moving car, YET..... but as soon as I find a new one I probably will, I am thinking of attaching it to some large skyrockets and sending it into orbit.....now to the other bit of aggravation I have been experiencing on a regular basis......Spark people insists on challenging me it seems almost every day, by changing my nutritional values.
I have blogged about this, and asked about this before, oh well, I dont know why they do it, I havent changed my weight or my goals.
I have learned not to weigh in on, cause that seems to change it too. I havent changed my weight or changed my ticker in ages, cause if I do, I then have to go and change my food and my fitness, of course it has become tedious and I am considering skipping this part of sp altogther if something doesnt change, or well, uh, remain the same I should say.

I hate that they change this on me it seems at least three times a week. I have to go in and manually enter each exercise now as well.
When did they change all this?
Well, I took some advice and havent gotten on the scale today, and let me just ask this, if its true that our weight can flucuate by as much as 3 lbs a day, then how the hell do you know when you've really lost weight?
I guess if you've lost 30 lbs then you can safely say the scale isnt wrong....but other than that I cant be sure.
I mean, you might weigh yourself after 7 days to find you have lost 3 lbs, but have you really?
I did pretty good today, with the exception of one too many weight watcher cupcakes, and the fact I skipped my long walk in exchange for weight workout here at home.
At least I did something.

  
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SUZY95 5/2/2012 11:40AM

  It's pretty easy to track whether you are losing weight. Pick one time of day to weigh, and ONLY weigh yourself at that time. Your water retention level and, er, digestive process will be roughly the same every day at the same time, so you can use that to track movement down the scale. I weigh first thing in the morning after using the bathroom, which is a very popular time to weigh, since you generally weigh less than you will at any other waking hour. Weigh at 7:00am or 10:00pm, it doesn't matter--but only weigh during the same time frame or you will have freakouts like you did a few days ago.

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CHRISTINA791 5/1/2012 1:47PM

    This is an analogy I've used before, but it's a useful one: It's spring right now, right? That means it's getting warmer. Now, if you take the temperature on any given day, it might be a couple degrees higher or lower. Maybe it's a really hot, unseasonably fantastic day and you feel great. Maybe it's rainy and cool and it feels like winter will never end. You'll even get that kind of fluctuation in a single day!

Now, just because it's 70 degrees one day and then drops to 50 the next morning, that doesn't mean the seasons have turned around and we're now heading back to winter. The temperature graph from March to June isn't a steady line up - it bounces all over the place, because there are a million little factors that can affect the temperature at any given time. That's why one single reading will give you some useful information, but you can't place your entire understanding of what's happening with the seasons on that one reading.

Human body weight is the same deal. That number gives us a useful shorthand, but we are NEVER a single number. We fluctuate within a range, day by day and hour by hour, and it's that range that we want to change over time. Stepping on the scale is simply taking a single reading, and while it'll give you some useful information about where you are, it's not the single definition of success, any more than you can tell which way the seasons are going based on one single temperature reading.

Here's an example: Let's say I hit a new low weight of 140 pounds in July. That reading now represents the low end of my weight range. Then in August, after hitting lower points a couple times and 'losing' a couple pounds, I go out for a fantastic Chinese dinner, retain a ton of water, and... weigh in at 140 the next day. Is that failure? Did I undo a month of work in one night? Nope - it just means that that 140 now represents the *high* end of my range. One weight reading is up, but my range (and my average weight) are down - and that's success, even if I'm higher than usual that morning.

So, there's a couple ways to deal with this: First, you can detach yourself from the scale. Put enough time between weigh-ins that it'll reflect the movement of that average weight range rather than the normal daily fluctuation (and for that, you're looking at at least two weeks or a month). Second, you can do what I do and weigh daily (same time and conditions, once per day). That gives me a consistent graph that I fully expect to bounce around all over the place, knowing that I'm looking for trends, not single points. By weighing daily, I was able to pick out patterns in how I lost (or didn't lose) over the course of the month, so when I hit my regular two week plateau like clockwork, it didn't freak me out. To do that, though, you need to separate the scale from emotion and look at it in a more clinical manner.

Save that emotion and passion for things that you have control over - your behavioural changes. Sink yourself into a fitness streak or into loving your new way of eating. Try to hit a ten week streak on something or train for a race.

Good luck, and sorry for the comment novel :-)

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CEKER9 5/1/2012 3:39AM

    Have you gone to the HelpDesk link at the bottom of "some" pages. They will tell you if there is something wrong and (hopefully) fix it or tell you how to "set" the information in until you change it. That sounds frustrating to say the least.

I have been "off" my program for a while and haven't used the weight and nutrition (or actually any areas... except my teams and blogs) for quite some time. I'm starting tomorrow (actually today since it's after midnight, but after I go to bed and get up) to re-commit myself again to get healthy and shed some pounds.

And yes, weighing once a week will help... it will actually give you a better average. Although some people find that certain days they weight less than others and try to weight in on those days. Good luck on finding your "perfect" day!

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