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Friday, March 11, 2011

How some of them touch us.
Someone of my friends on facebook had a poll, who is the best band....
The Rolling Stones
I forget the others, because after The Rolling Stones, who else is there?

Well, right now, Simon and Garfunkel...
"Fool, said I, you do not know, silence, like a cancer, grows
Hear my words and I might teach you, take my arms then I might reach you
But my words, like silent raindrops fell, and echoed in the wells of silence"

Sometimes people should just remain silent....But they dont.
I hate what happened in the world today.
I pray for those people, the survivors.
I hope each of you have a good weekend.
Try to laugh a little if ya can.

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NATNOEL 3/12/2011 4:32PM

    I have the loved the stones since the 70's. Have you seen them in concert? So much fun!

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SOFT_VAL67 3/12/2011 9:14AM

    i can listen to some of john lennon's later music....
but none of it is for working out to...
the rolling stones arent really much for working out to either...but i am their number one fan from way back!!
i like my first work out song to be pink..."get the party started"....once i hear that one, im pretty much pumped to keep going....

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CIVPRO1 3/11/2011 11:29PM

    I like the Rolling Stones....but for working out....I prefer Queen (We are the Champion etc)

But to just be listening/driving....the Rolling Stones are better.

Not a Beatles fan though.

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you have to read this and u still wont believe it

Wednesday, March 09, 2011

Wow, what a day I had. I go to the doctor, my first time at this clinic, I was referred there by my doctor and told that they had faxed my MRI results in advance.
However, once I get there I am told I have to go to the office of my former neurologist and sign a release form and get my chart from them.
Keep in mind, it is pouring rain. So, I drive across town, sign for this and wait, 15 maybe 20 minutes.
Drive back, to be told they didnt have a copy of my MRI report and I have to wait for them to call medical records and get that.
Ok, I finally get called back and the Nurse Practitioner comes in, a male.
So, of course, the first thing out of his mouth, as expected, is about my weight.
I know the routine and I sit and listen and nod my head in agreement, but then things take a bizarre turn.....
He starts telling me he wants me to stop taking my blood pressure medicine and so on....he is going to wean me off of all this medicine I am on.
Uh, ok?

But, he wants me to start coming only to him and not my personal doctor anymore, what?
I am there to see him for back pain.
I say to him, I dont like the idea of not going back to my doctor, shes been my doctor awhile now, I prefer a woman doctor.
So, he asks me how often I get online, on the computer, I am thinking hes going to tell me how sitting at a desk can worsen back pain, as I know this is true.
But, he says, " You have to be careful a bout meeting people online, as some of them can be crazy, especially if you are meeting strange men" WHAT THE HELL.....?????
I say, yes I guess that is true, but I am not meeting any men online.
He says, "You are a beautiful woman, if you lose some weight, you can get a man".....WHATTTTTTT THE HELLLLLL!!!!!!!
I say, well I have a man, have been with him for nearly 15 years now.
He looked at me like wow, he couldnt believe I have a man.
I say to him, what does any of this have to do with treating my back pain? I thought later about several overweight men I saw in the waiting room, and I just wondered if he asked them about meeting women online, or about how if they lost some weight they could get a wife.
I just bet he didnt.

He says that I need to walk 2 miles a day everyday and he wants me to stop taking one of my medications and he wants to replace it with a narcotic and muscle relaxer.
I say no thank you to the muscle relaxer.
And, until I speak to my doctor I am not going to stop taking any of my other medications either.
So, he says to me "Dont you want pain pills for your back"......I sit there thinking, do I really want to come back here month after month?
Do I want to be lectured about and questioned about my personal/private business?
So, I say to him, no, I think I will just take my chart and go back to my own doctor.
And so, tomorrow I go back to her and cant wait to tell her about BIZARRO MAN.....
I decided along time ago, that I will never be spoken to in a condescending, hateful, rude tone by any doctor.
Especially a man.
I went to a doctor who was rude and just out and out mean some years back and one day I woke up and said, screw that.....
I dont need to be spoken to in that way by someone who is supposed to be helping me.
Who do these people think they are?
He thought because he was in a pain clinic, and because so many people come there for pain pills, that he could speak to me in that way....Maybe he delves into the personal private lives of women to see who he might hook up with????
Or, who will play his game for pain pills.
Well not me, I could really care less about that.
But I felt pretty down when I left that office, I just wanted to hurry and get out of there.
So many things ran thru my head later that I wish I had said.

I just hope none of you ever have to be talked to in such a way, but the weirdest thing about it was....he was one of those fake nice people. He spoke in a soft tone, in a caring tone, but his words were jabs....his stares and his attitude.
I am just glad I stood for my convictions and took my chart and left.
I could have said sure prescribe me the pain pills so my back wont hurt so much.
But I know they are only a temporary fix and he was right about me losing weight to help relieve my pain.
But its the way he said it.
Told me I would be in a nursing home in 5 years.
I should have shown him how a mad Ky woman could put him in a nursing home in 5 minutes!!!!!
I felt bad about myself for all of about 5 minutes, then once I got outside, I was just glad I wasnt crying or cussing....and I am glad I didnt know which car was his.
But I feel good now, knowing I didnt take his crap in exchange for a few pills.
I came home and rode my bike.

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LOSINGLINNDY 3/10/2011 11:36PM

    Bravo for you! That is the most bizarre doctor experience I have heard. What a jerk!

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ELSCO55 3/10/2011 8:42PM

    Wow, what a strange man.

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GRAMMACATHY 3/10/2011 11:14AM

    Wow, that was a close and dangerous call. He probably should be reported. I am glad you wrote the whole incident down right away. If he gets other complaints then you have the information to produce and protect yourself.

On a side note that is why I have never been too worried about posting on the internet. You are just as apt to meet the weirdos in real life.

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SOFT_VAL67 3/10/2011 12:34AM

    i think he was a nurse practitioner, because my mom goes there to a doctor and she said he wasnt the same guy, i dont know why this guy came in, maybe the doctor was busy with other patients, i dont know....he was a dork!

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CIVPRO1 3/9/2011 11:06PM


I have never heard/read anything like that did the right thing. I am stunned.


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FANGFACEKITTY 3/9/2011 10:26PM

    WTF!?! He's probably taking advantage of patients who come there, I can't imagine a doctor coming out with that stuff about "getting" a man and hooking up on-line. What a weirdo, definitely report him to whomever you can!

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SOFT_VAL67 3/9/2011 9:50PM

    thanks for all the comments, i wish i had made it up, or dreamed it at least....i am going to find out who runs the clinic and i am going to put in a formal complaint, i dont expect anything to come of it, but just to give other women the chance to avoid this.

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EDWINA172 3/9/2011 9:43PM

    Thank goodness that you have a sensible head on your shoulders! OMG! That IS too weird to be true! You should definately report this person to your primary doctor and anyone else who will listen. I'm glad you stood up for yourself. Think of the others' who didn't or won't.

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ROSES4UN4ME 3/9/2011 9:42PM

    OMG that is sereal the idiot should be in the one should be talked to in such a manner and to think if you would of stopped yours meds you could of had a heart attack.... such DR's shouldnt even be practicing so he needs to be reported to the POLICE...

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OUREB33 3/9/2011 8:53PM

    I would report him that is harrasement. So glad you didn't take it personally.

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SWEETONE111 3/9/2011 8:48PM

    Wow - that is bizarre. You sound like you handled yourself perfectly. Don't go back there!

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KIYOSHI04 3/9/2011 8:48PM


i am going to choose to believe that you made this all up.
i know you didnt. what a weirdo!!
good for you for not sitting there and taking it. and it was weird about meeting people online--please tell your regular dr. about that cos he's in a position of power and id hate to see him taking advantage of people.

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one bridge burned.....

Thursday, March 03, 2011

Today, was a much dreaded, and long worried about day. And it turned out ok. Not as great as I wish, but, better than it could have.
Hopefully its all behind us and we can move on.
Knock on wood.
I really dont feel like it was a bad day as for my calories.
I ate some things I shouldnt have.
Ok, behind me as well.
I dont know if I am coming down with a cold or its allergies or what.
I have had the sniffles all evening and I had to take some medicine.
Feeling pretty run down and tired.
I should be dancing a jig, having this stressful day behind me and all, But cant get into working out.
Maybe its ok to just take a day off. Maybe I will at least try to do my dumbbells later.
But most likely, I will sleep.
I have a ton to do this weekend.
Tearing carpet up from the living room, and I am so hoping honey has Sat off.
Will not cross my fingers too hard.

I am just looking forward to focusing on me.
Getting my calories under control, and planning my meals, journaling and workng out.
If we have nice days as we had today, I look forward to walking alot more.
Thanks to all who took the time to read.
Hope each of you have a nice weekend.
And take care of yourselves.

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LOSINGLINNDY 3/3/2011 11:21PM

    So glad the day turned out better than expected. What's one pepsi in the scheme of things? Enjoy your time focusing on you. You deserve it.

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    I'm glad your day turned out better than you thought.
My day was good...a lot of running around, shopping with a friend, but not so good food choices =/ I am exhausted as well.
I hope you have a nice weekend, too!

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the sun will come out......

Wednesday, March 02, 2011

Today was the first day I have had all week that wasnt stressed filled.
I cooked a nice lunch and went with honey to buy a lottery ticket. Then home, watched Days of our Lives and cleaned house, worked out, a little while watching Survivor.
Now it is 10 pm, hopefully, the next hour will pass, I can go to bed, the phone wont ring.
Tomorrow I expect the stress to come back.
But hopefully, fingers crossed, knock on wood, the GOOD LORD willing and no rabbit tricks, it will all be over by 3pm and hopefully life can get back to some sense of normalcy.
This has to.
I have to make it.
I cant keep letting other peoples issues overwhelm me and consume my life.
Even if that person is my own child.
He is MY CHILD, but he isnt A child, he is 26 years old and its time for him to look life square in the face and stand alone while doing so.
I hope I can stick to my convictions.
I also hope all of you had a good day and have an even better day tomorrow.
Thanks for reading my vent.
Good night to all.

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LOSINGLINNDY 3/3/2011 11:05PM

    I so hope the stress does ease by 3 pm. You are right. Other peoples's issues can overwhelm you and consume your life. You can do this!

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Friday, February 25, 2011

Stress much? It seems I have alot lately. Letting go of something, or in this case someone.
No, no relationship is ending, or anyone dying. I am having to learn to let go of my CHILD. I dont mean so much that he is leaving my life. But that the mother in me, has to learn to let him grow up. Or, in this case, pretty much make him.
He really has to go on with his own life.
I have to stand back and stay quiet and watch him make mistakes, and hope he can work it out. FOR HIMSELF!!
Other than all of that, my day was so so. I rode my bike, did my air stepping. I havent lifted weights yet, but I probably will sometime tonight.
Do you follow that old addage, that working out at night isnt good for sleep?
I dont really have a big problem sleeping, no matter what I do at night.
But I did last night, the wind here was super scary.
I sat up late just listening to it.
I did oooooo kkkkkk??? question!
No fast food. I had chicken and pasta salad for lunch but I did have a hot dog.
I am just bored to death.
There is never anything to do around here. Clean house. Watch tv, or FACEBOOK.....
and be bored.

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LOSINGLINNDY 2/26/2011 9:35PM

    Don't you like to read? What about journaling? There must be some things you like to do that will free you from boredom.

Letting go of your children is difficult. I did it with 3 and it did not get any easier. In fact the youngest was the hardest. We do it though because they need to learn to lead adult lives. Just don't give up the relationship rather let it change as he matures.

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CIVPRO1 2/25/2011 11:08PM

    I like working out in the evenings, I think it helps me sleep (maybe it just wears me out!)

Keep up the good work!

(Plus the point I get for replying here, puts me at 25000 and a new trophy!)

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