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He will be trying us...

Friday, January 28, 2011

So I thought we were in a good place with our son. He was supposed to get a ride home from swim practice with my dad. He got a ride instead from a senior on the team that he has a crush on. Then lied to us about it. Unfortunately my husband is a push over. He took away his phone and ipods for the weekend. There definitely would have been more than that if I had a say. I know he feels our son has a lot to deal with but there has to be boundaries or we are screwed! I know I can go overboard sometimes and we usually balance each other out but I worry. I hope my spark friends will help me through these trying years.

  
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RUNNER12COM 1/31/2011 1:40PM

    Good luck. As you know, EVERY child will push boundaries, special circumstances or not.

You two will find your way through this. Hang in there!

SDJ

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Starting out today feeling good...

Thursday, January 27, 2011

I feel my son is in a good place right now. As a parent my happiness is in direct association to where my kids are emotionally. If you've been following my blogs I wrote that my son has come to my husband and I. We are so proud of him for telling us at 15. I've read alot and most parents are the last to know. I'm so happy we have such a great relationship with him that we were the first he told. He has since told a good family friend of ours. She has many friends who are gay. She was surprised but accepting and suppportive. She actually said she would introduce him to some of her friends. So, it's been quite a stressful couple of weeks but I think we are all going to be ok. We have to find the right way to tell our 13 year old son. We are in therapy and I feel through her guidence we can make this ok for him as well. Thanks for being here Sparkfriends. I have to tell you I did not binge through all of this!!!!! A year and a half ago I would have turned to food in such an unhealthy destructive way. Instead of turning to food I would come hear and read others blogs. Blog myself. Read encouraging comments from others. Go to my message boards. So thanks with all my heart. I could come here to bear my soul when I couldn't go to another person in my life ! You have been here through the most life altering part of my world. Closer to me than my parents and sibling and friends. Thanks again!

  


Well had to blog twice today...

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

So went to the therapist today for the first time. I guess I can tell my Spark friends that my son has come out to us that he is gay. He is doing ok and now we just need guidence on how properly to handle all this. Our son is 15, our younger son is 13. We need to figure out how to tell him. I talked to the therapist about this today. I feel a bit better. It is a process. Thanks for being here for me.

  
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CHIQUENS 1/30/2011 11:45AM

    from the outside looking in, and from someone who lives in Los Angeles, I have to wonder why it's such a big deal? I mean, he's gay, but it's not like he's dying, or he's contagious, or he's going to burst into flames. It just means he loves in a different way.

I was a surrogate twice for a gay couple. They have two healthy girls that they're raising. The only difference between those two guys and any other couple is that they wanted to be parents more. They had to jump through serious hoops, pay out money, go though legal processes, just to do something that two drunk teenagers can do by accident.

Being gay is not a bad thing. It's not something you should worry about telling your younger son, or something that your older son should be ashamed of. Just explain that you love your older son for who he is, no matter what, and that acceptance should filter down to your younger son.

Feel free to message me if you need support on this.

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JANRTEACH 1/27/2011 3:23PM

    So glad it is all working out for you guys. You have made good decisions that will help the whole family. We have been watching and waiting hoping all is OK for you. Take a breath!! You are headed in the right direction.

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So busy day today... sometimes a very good thing...

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Bringing the dog to the groomer, having coffee with my friend, going to therapist for the first time and son is getting out of school early today. Busy but awesome because I won't have much time to binge. I'd like to get on the treadmill later in the day since I can't get to the gym. That is my goal.

  


Well got through the weekend...

Monday, January 24, 2011

Omg so much stress this weekend. Wow, parenting is sooooo hard sometimes. Teenagers are amazing. So we made it through this crazy weekend. No major damage done. Thank God. I meet with my new therapist tomorrow. I pray she is helpful. I didn't binge this weekend. Yeah for that! We went to nyc over night and had plenty of opportunities too. I was home all day today and did eat every calorie I was allowed but didn't go over it. I'm going to the gym tonight. I can't wait to go dance some stress away. :) Thanks for staying with me on this journey.

  
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AJEHLY 1/24/2011 9:25PM

  Great job not bingeing when you've had such a stressful time! Sounds like you are taking wonderful care of yourself by finding a therapist and going to your dance class. Enjoy and have a wonderful night!

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