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Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Worried about hubby. I think he is fighting that summer bug that the rest of us had in this house. Unfortunately he is soooo busy at work there is no way he can stay home and rest. We got the dumpster yesturday and already started on the garage. Yeah! Feels good to purge ourselves of stuff. I have such a weird thing to talk about today. Our friend Mike told us weeks ago that he's thinking of getting involved with women again. He has in the past and was just so disappointed in men that there are things about women he loves. I told him we would love him whether he was with women or men. He thanked me and said I will never know how much that means to him. All of this through texts. Since then sometimes his texts to me seem kinda flirty. Of course telling me how awesome I am. He always did but now it kinda seems different. I've told him from the get go about how great he is and that anyone would be lucky to have him. That was always under the assumption that he liked guys. It made me feel safe to talk to him this way. I guess I didn't change the way I communicated with him and I just don't know. One day he texted, I'm just crazy about you. Don't tell Joe. I texted back I think he knows :). and he responded Darn. Now back when I thought he just liked guys I would have thought it was adorable and good for my ego. Now I'm not so sure. I've felt so uncomfortable that while Joe was away I didn't text him. Just wasn't sure how he would be. I think I've enjoyed the innocent flirting. I never would have spent this much time texting any man except with what we have been going through with Adam I needed his support and info on how to deal with everything correctly. He has always been such compimentary guy and so great for my ego but always innocent because there was no threat him coming on to me. I'm not sure if I should burden Joe with this. I could be overreacting. Last night we all went out for ice cream and I felt a bit uncomfortable. I'm worried I was leading him on with sweet things I said and I don't want that at all. I'm feeling I should say something to Joe. I just don't want this to be a thing. I'm glad I have spark to think this out. He has been so amazing with Adam and a friend of ours for years. I don't want this to make things weird or have Joe think badly of him. Anyway, food was great yesturday until I got ice cream. It was sugar free but still. Will be better today. I could be completely overreacting. I'm not sure.

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HARTKITTY 6/29/2011 1:04PM

    I wonder how many innocent relationships have been complicated by sms.
(just a personal theory I have about sms) You really should not feel guilty, if he has changed the rules on you. maybe you should just tell him how happily married you are and how much you love Joe. (a bit over the top if necessary) that way neither of you need be embarrassed, however if that doesn't stop him I would tell him straight out. In my personal feelings it is best not to beat about the bush if you feel confused.

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MRDPOLING 6/29/2011 12:46PM

    Hope Husby kicks this fast! No fun being sick and not being able to rest.

As for the friend, I think the others below have shared the best wisdom.

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VENISEW1 6/29/2011 12:36PM

    Sounds like you have a lot of great advice already.

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ELACEYX 6/29/2011 10:35AM

    Talk to Mike, let him know how you're feeling. Maybe you can email or text him because that's easier than face to face. Me, personally, I would tell my husband, but everyone's different. You know your husband better than anyone.

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TWEETYKC00 6/29/2011 10:16AM

    i personally think you should talk to Mike first and if you still think something is serious then talk to Joe about this. it might not be anything and if you tell Joe first, things may turn out for the worse if things get out of control. you might be able to work it out with Mike first and then you can calmly explain things to Mike after that. Ii hope your DH feels better very soon, being sick in the summer can really be bad.

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KEKEIKO 6/29/2011 8:47AM

    No, don't tell Joe. Some things are left better unsaid. Talk with Mike, work things out with him instead. You wish to keep him for a friend then don't give reason for Joe to be weary of Mike. Let Mike know that it's all innocent flirting and you enjoy it but you want to make it clear that it will never go any further. Read your blog to him if you feel you'll get nervous and can't say it directly. Let him know you value his friendship more than anything else. Strength to you! Hugs, Keke

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ODINRMC 6/29/2011 7:36AM

    This is Random, as I don't know you and this is the first blog of yours I've read, but if you think you should tell Joe, then you should tell Joe. Not telling him will make you feel like you are hiding something and it will be a seed that can manifest in other areas of your relationship. I have been in situations where I thought things were harmless friendships, that turned into more and it became a whole ordeal until it is faced and dealt with. If Mike truly values your friendship you can be honest with him about how you feel about it and tell him that you are a little uncomfortable with the direction your friendship might head. It's all easier said than done, but you will feel better for the honesty, and it will weed out anything that might come in between you and Joe. Good luck, hang in there!!!

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First major disappointment...

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Ok. So the friend I told about Adam a couple weeks ago? It was her daughters grad. party Saturday. The daughter is a sweetheart and we just love her. She came over Sunday afternoon just to spend more time with us before she leaves on a mission to Uganda for 5 weeks. Anyway, she texted with Adam last night. She asked him why he would choose to be gay.... He, being the amazing awesome kid he is tried to educate her. She then said well liars and cheaters are made by God but its not how he wants them to be... and he doesn't want you to be that way. I know its her parents influence. I know we need to help educate her... it was just a knife in my heart. Adam did great and says he is good. He knows we will worry about him and wishes we didn't . How can we not. To have someone who we love feeling this way about our son is torturous. I really thought she would be good. She has friends in school who are gay. She even considered going to prom with one of them. I'm sure she didn't get into that conversation with them. I think she is confused. I think she is torn. Her parents have poisened her mind. That is their fault. Sadly she is one of my oldest and dearest friends. I will go slowly with this. I ate awesome yesturday. I'm back. Greek yogurt for breakfast, Chipolte chicken burrito bowl with only chicken, salsa and lettuce for lunch. activia plain yogurt for snack, chef salad for dinner. I went to my hip hop class last night. That was awesome! Adams best friend was here last night when Adam got the texts and he was a great support. We all realized not one kid from school did this too him and such a close family friend has. She is struggling I think. Questioning is good. I hope we can help her.

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VBPARROTHEAD 6/29/2011 10:01PM

  So sad that there are some people so fearful that they have to be terribly judgmental. yes, God made all things and al people. If we really think about that then we are saying that God made evil as well as good, and maybe He/She did. God made both male and female yet some believe that the male should dominate the female. In the time of the old testament the priests in the temple weren't married. Maybe they were gay, I don't know but I know that being gay isn't a choice it is the way one is born. I hope that this young woman and her family come to understand that. It must be really hard to have close friends not understand!

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TABBYARTS 6/29/2011 1:28PM

    God doesn't want be to be judgmental, but she (her parents) apparently are. It is sad that she has to live such a conflicted life. The Bible was (re)written by homophoebic people. It is difficult for some people to see this for the contradiction that it truly is.

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MRDPOLING 6/28/2011 9:35PM

    Adam is soooo lucky to have a mom and dad so loving and supportive!

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ANNESYLVIA 6/28/2011 9:03PM

    It sounds like you and DH did a great job in raising Adam. He is a confident young man. He is self assured and that comes from upbringing.

Hugs, {{Anne}}

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KEKEIKO 6/28/2011 4:56PM

    It's horrible how some feel the need to judge others. If this is a true friend there will be understanding not criticism. Your son is a strong person to take the time to educate those that do not take kindly to his being gay. It's hard to overcome hatred from people who already determine being gay is wrong. Bravo Adam for being the better person.

Looks like you are right on track with your food intake. emoticon


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KAILYNSTAR 6/28/2011 4:21PM

    How unfortunate for that to happen. I know that Adam is doing his best for educating people, but there are times that a person has to step back and let them come to their own answers in their own time.

She knows Adam. In the end, after she does some soul searching, she will make some sort of decision. What will happen, not sure.

Good to know that you are back on track with the eating.

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MIRAGE727 6/28/2011 3:30PM

    Lately, I've gone on rants. I will try to be civil.

"Choosing to be gay!" What a concept! We are given freewill to live how we feel inside. I truly believe that. I just came back to the church after 40 years. This type of thinking made me leave the church. Today, I know that God loves us all including the poisoned minded ones who will twist words. I wish your family the best and your son the strength to deal with any adversity that he encounters. Obviously, he can already handle himself with dignity. Rock on, Adam.

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CHRISTINA791 6/28/2011 10:26AM

    Your son sounds like an amazing young man, and hopefully his influence (and yours) will start to change the way this friend views things, even if the effects aren't obvious to begin with. Sometimes all it takes is one little seed to start changing minds, one at a time.

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RUNNER12COM 6/28/2011 9:39AM

    She is struggling, trying to balance what she feels in her heart with what has been poured into her head.

Your son is well grounded and strong. Have faith in him and his ability to ride through all of this.

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CAROLINATEACH 6/28/2011 9:38AM

  It is sad that a young person would compare negative acts such as lying and cheating to who a person loves. My neighbors and dear friends are a lesbian couple, and they fight this kind of ignorance daily just by living their lives positively and educating people along the way. Your son is blessed to have you in his corner, and I look forward to a world where who you love is not judged on race, gender, or any other criteria. I wish you well!

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The day went well.

Monday, June 27, 2011

The Christening went ok. I think I'm definitely getting to a better place with my sister inlaw. Slowly but thats ok. Food choices were ok there. They only had macaroni salads of many kinds and hamburgers and hot dogs. I didn't have cake which was good. But ... came home and had a big bowl of ice cream with family :(. So not a good day with food. That stinks. I will do better today. I'm going grocery shopping today and getting healthy stuff. Less than two weeks from vaca. Back to no carb! Thats it! Have a good day!

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HARTKITTY 6/28/2011 4:08AM

    All positive changes come slowly. I'm so glad that things are coming right for you. Blessings. emoticon

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BRANDYSDONE 6/27/2011 11:20AM

    Congrats on not eating the cake :) I have such a hard time when I go to places that have food to eat its like I forget that Im trying to lose weight. emoticon

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KAILYNSTAR 6/27/2011 11:11AM

    You blog was ok. I wouldn't have a problem not eating macaroni salad, since that is not ok with me.

Not ok with the ice cream, but your future trip to the grocery store is ok.

Okay? emoticon

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Hoping for a good Sunday.

Sunday, June 26, 2011

We went to my high school girlfriends daughter's graduation party yesturday. It was nice. She is a sweetheart. I ate so well. I had some carrot sticks, celery and chicken. NO CAKE! It wasn't chocolate so that was kinda easy :). I did have 3 Corona Lights and a couple vodka with arnold palmer. Ok that was a bit too much. I know. Summer is here :). Will do better with that today. We are going to my neices Christening today. I think a little hangover will be good for me. It will keep me distracted from what I may see. Taking that minute by minute. I will make great food choices today. I'm still doing my planks and upper arm strength and it feels really good. I'm able to keep the pose much longer in one week. Yeah! I will start my Zumba song tomorrow again. I feel better about it. Hope my Sparkies have a great day!


NY has made it possible for my son to marry...when he's not a teenager :)

Saturday, June 25, 2011

Well I said all was needed for Adam to come out and things would be changing here in NY! We watched it happen on television last night! We all cheered and went to bed very content. Not only for that amazing awesome announcement but because the man of the house was home :). I was feeling very weak yesturday. I wanted to binge soooo bad. I made it through, with the help of my Sparkies. I felt so much better this morning. I'm so happy Joe is home. That was not a good time. Going to Zumba this morning and a graduation party later today. I hope the weather holds out for them. Have a good day my friends!

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ELISEL 6/28/2011 10:43AM

    Great news! I'm from Massachusetts and I think people saw that the world didn't end when we allowed same sex marriage here. I hope more and more states will see the light.

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LADYIRISH317 6/25/2011 1:21PM

    God bless the state of New York! I wish the voters of California had been so enlightened.

And yes, DO remind Adam that he still needs to wait awhile. I know how teenagers can be, believe me.

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HARTKITTY 6/25/2011 11:48AM

    Sarah, my wife and I are so pleased for your country and rejoice with you.

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COOLMAMA11 6/25/2011 10:37AM

    emoticon Way to go on being strong, and resisting that binge! emoticon

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TABBYARTS 6/25/2011 10:30AM

    YAY for equality AND
YAY for you!

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HDHAWK 6/25/2011 10:08AM

    Congrats for holding out on the binge and for the NY news!

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