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Under the weather today...

Tuesday, February 08, 2011

Ugggg, I have a stomache issue today. Haven't gotten out of my pj's. I have gotten some laundry done but haven't gotten the house back in order since my grumpy father in-laws birthday party. The party went extremely well. The weather didn't cooperate at all though. We actually had to have some of the guys shuttle people to there cars down the street because our street was a sheet of ice. It actually sleeted the entire day. Also our roof was leaking into our house an hour before guest were arriving! My husband was on the roof shoveling snow off for fourty minutes! So glad he didn't kill himself! So not a great start :). Once everyone got here though it went so well. Everyone had a great time catching up with relatives they haven't seen in a long time. I kept busy which is always a good thing. So even though I begrudgingly got a thank you from grumpy father in-law, I know my husband was very grateful I made it happen and that really is who I did It for. Sunday I woke up very sick with this stomache bug and now recovering. I hope all my Sparkfriends are having a good Monday.


A great start to my day...

Monday, February 07, 2011

I went to see my therapist this morning and just love her. She is my mom's age and so completely different. So awesome to have her to bounce ideas and healthy solutions off of. Adam came home after his therapist appt. and said he doesn't want to tell our younger son he is gay until closer to summer because he is worried how his friends would handle it. My therapist seems to believe its important for our younger son to know because he will feel that he was betrayed if he hears it from someone else. Our older son has told our family friend who is his age. She has been wonderful about it but I'm concerned about getting together as families now and having Josh overhear their conversation. My therapist is also concerned. We decided that I should tell my son that we won't be getting together as families until he feels comfortable about telling Josh because it could be very toxic to keep this from him and have him find out from someone else. Thanks for letting me vent and let me know if you have any words of wisdom to pass on. Thanks again Sparkfriends and I hope everyone had a great weekend! Hopefully not to much binging on Super Bowl goodies.


Just a short blog today

Friday, February 04, 2011

Short but upseting to me. Our older son told me last night he doesn't believe there is a God. He believes when we die we do come back but maybe on other planets! Now to some this may be just a growing process but I'm a very spiritual person and have gotten through alot in life by relying on God to get me through. With prayer and knowing a higher power is there for me has gotten me through alot. It has been a rough month and just need a break. Thanks for listening Spark friends.

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RUNNER12COM 2/5/2011 9:50AM

    Hey, I saw your note on my Spark Page and thought I would reply here.

Don't assume your son isn't using his spirituality to get himself through this point in his life. Right now, if he is anything like I was at his age, he needs to separate spirituality from religion.

All my life, I grew up with one clear message from society. If I was gay, my Church and my God would not approve. The hateful and judgmental voices seemed so much louder than the welcoming and supportive ones. Ultimately, I felt chased away from God, because it's hard to embrace something that doesn't embrace you.

But somewhere, deep down, I knew that I wasn't the problem. And while my external connection to all things religious fell apart, my internal spirituality strengthened. I found validation in my own daily life, learning to love others as I hoped to one day be loved and to give of myself without expectation of gifts in return.

I began to feel that religion was something people preached AT me, while spirituality was something people shared WITH with me.

So what if your son believes in aliens or karma or Buddha or the Flying Spaghetti Monster? The important thing is that, right now, he believe that there IS something greater in this world than just himself. He needs to know that there is meaning to life, that there is a reason to love and give, and that he matters to you and to those around him.

In other words, support him as he finds his spirituality. For now, that may be all that he can trust.


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RUNNER12COM 2/4/2011 4:32PM

    If you truly are a spiritual person.. and I believe sincerely that you are... than you already know that you cannot "learn" spirituality. Sure, someone can teach you the basics of a religion, but true spirituality is something that a person comes to in his or her own time, in their own way, and only when they are ready.

It must be very frustrating, and even a bit scary, to hear your son say such things. But remember, the part about "a phase" is really true. He is trying to wrap his young mind around beliefs that wise scholars and religious leaders debate to this day, so it's not unexpected that there may be false starts and wrong turns.

Love him. Pray for him. And believe that he will find his way.


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We have snow!

Wednesday, February 02, 2011

Omg we got lots of snow! It's so comforting to be snowed in sometimes. The boys are tucking in tight in bed and the dog and I are comfy on the couch with a cup of tea. It's great to know that there is no place to be. No errands to run. :) The boys will get up and so the shoveling. I'll make some hot cocoa and we will get the house ready for the party. Enjoy your day Sparkfriends! Stay warm.

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Wow so we are getting some snow!

Tuesday, February 01, 2011

Holy cow! We should have 2 more feet of snow by the end of Wenesday! A little worried that ice could cause a power outage. We are having a 70th b'day party for my grumpy father in-law on Saturday. Trying to figure out parking with all this snow. We will be having about 55 people at our house. I do enjoy entertaining and will enjoy having it but a bit stressed right now. It's good stress though so a nice change. :) I got our son a book at the library that was a fictional book about 3 gay teenage boys called Rainbow Boys. He loved it and has finished it within a week. He usually hates reading. He wants me to get the next book in the series and I will work on that once I can get on the roads. Have a great day my Spark friends. Thanks for being here for me every day! Stay warm!


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