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Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Oh, that's right... I haven't written any in EIGHT FREAKIN MONTHS!

Truth is, I kind of miss this. The process of catching up is just such a pain in the... well, you know. Can't upset the auto-censors. Here we go with the Reader's Digest Condensed Version, then. Everybody likes Readers Digest, even God.

I finally showed my son the door late in January, when he made it halfway through his twenty-third year continuing to be uneducated, unemployed, stoned, and frequently afoul of the law. Predictably, the process was accompanied by much recrimination on his part and guilt on mine. Will he use this cold-water dose of reality to get his stuff together? I don't know. But I can't make it my problem anymore. For awhile he hated me. For even longer, I hated myself. Now we're talking, at least. To my knowledge, he's still not working, and he still hasn't secured permanent residence anywhere. I imagine that will finally happen when his friends decide they want their couches back.

Seriously, this is hard. I'm codependent and a fixer by nature anyway, and it goes against everything I've been taught to cut those apron strings. Tough love always seemed a contradiction of terms to me. But I just can't do this anymore. It was literally making me sick.

My daughter and my grandson are still living with us. Prince Charming has been on again and off again with the child support, resulting in her no longer being able to work, because she hasn't been able to afford the daycare. There is no end in sight. Were she alone, I would insist that she learn to fend for herself too. But my grandson is in the equation, which changes everything. And, truth is, I really enjoy the little guy. There's nothing like toddler snuggles to make a woman's day. And he loves his Oma.

The hard part? She's increasingly sliding back into the old role of child, expecting me to center any available time I have around her and her needs. This is not happening. I don't have the energy I used to, and honestly, I don't have the desire either. It was old when she was seventeen. Now she's twenty-seven. It doesn't help that it appears to be her plan to maintain the status quo until either A, a new Prince Charming sweeps her off her feet and whisks her away to paradise, or B, she comes into her inheritance and can finally live the good life. Given that B would entail my biting the dust, that's not very appealing to me, even if it is more realistic than A. Somehow we're going to come up with a Plan C, unless one of you has an eligible brother, son, or grandson who has a job and an appetite for punishment. But I'm rambling.

Healthwise, things are much the same. I'm still smoking, although I quit about as often as a wasband who will not be named changes his socks. I gain weight. I lose weight. I gain even more. It's been the same old pattern. I made it all the way up to two hundred and forty-six pounds when I was diagnosed with non-alcoholic fatty liver. That scared the crap out of me, and so I sold a kidney (my bad one, not to worry, I'm not THAT much of a fool) and joined Slimgenics. This was about a month ago, and I've already lost twenty-two pounds. It hasn't been as hard as I anticipated. Processed foods are completely out of the picture, and I'm shedding old addictions as quickly as I am the weight. My ultimate goal is to make it down to a hundred and forty pounds. I haven't weighed that little in thirty years.

The down side? (There's always a down side.) It's expensive as hell. Their supplements and snacks could drive a person to bankruptcy. Once I go through my current supply, you can bet I'm not going to order more.

I got my crafty Libertarian self elected as a district delegate for the Republicans, and if all goes according to plan, I'm going to get myself elected as a State delegate too. If I could make it all the way to the Convention, that would be beyond fantastic. I harbor no illusions about Ron Paul actually winning, but the Party is growing, and the mindset is catching on. Some good changes will happen if the right people get elected to the right offices. And this groundswell will make the frontrunners just nervous enough to want to dicker on the points that are important to us. Baby steps, baby. These next four years are going to be interesting.

My job is demanding but satisfying. I love the people with and for whom I work. I do not love the commute. I average three hours a day on the road. That's too much. Unless I find something with comparable pay closer to home, though, this will have to continue until we retire in ten or so years. Then? Eastern seaboard, baby, here we come!

The weather is freaking me out. Last year at this time, we were cheeks-deep in snow. EVERY other year at this time, it's been cold as hell, and things didn't start greening up until well into May. Not so this year. We've had several days in the eighties, and trees are blooming already. The grass is back, shoots are springing up everywhere, and the frogs and mosquitoes have awakened. Mind you, I love the warmth, but it still makes me nervous. I can't help wonder if the earth has tilted on its axis or if, God help us, the Mayans or Al Gore were right.

Have I missed anything? I don't think so. Enough for today, then. I'll do this again in another eight months, Mayans and Al Gore notwithstanding.

  
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MYOWNHERO 7/2/2012 5:24AM

    It's so great to see a new blog from you...thanks!

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GODSBABYGAL 6/22/2012 7:04PM

    I love it when you blog!!!
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SLOLOSER 3/29/2012 11:16PM

    Good to see you back here!

For a minute there, I thought you really had lost some blogs. I too, have fallen off the blogging wagon. Even longer than you. I'm not sure why. I have thought about writing one, but have not gotten around to it yet. (I'm not tracking much either... :(

Plan C - Hmm, maybe your daughter can learn to cook some really good nutritious and not too expensive meals and become your personal chef? That would save you time and money. and it would be only fair since it sounds like she is not paying rent. Maybe she could find some part-time work to earn some money? Maybe she could trade babysitting with a friend to d that? Just some ideas.

Good for you for kicking your son out. It was hard to do, I am sure, but it sure sounds like he needed it.



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CHATTIEGIRL 3/29/2012 10:45PM

    Hi Sly;

Missed you and glad you dropped in for awhile. Not growing up brother I had that did the same thing, no work, all the bad things and mom would put food in the mailbox, pay for his Van and on and on. I left home when I was 20 and never asked for anything and always supported myself even when I married I worked. But I did not get the love for being a good person. The ones that where dependent got it all which I could not understand. Glad you stood your ground and I know it is hard but if you don't let go and everyone else also he will never grow up. People enable them to be the way they are because they never ask any diffence from them so why should they change.

Continue on taking care of yourself and geting back to staying healthy so you can have a good life. God bless you always and watch over you.

Smile Joyce

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FRAN0426 3/28/2012 8:10PM

    Congrats on losing the weight. I suppose all those weight loss plans with food is expensive, thats what I always have thought----now I know.
Sorry to hear you had to make your son leave, but in the long run it was what needed to be done. When our son was drinking real heavy, we finally put forth the you staighten out or you must leave. He went cold turkey and is still here with us finishing up his masters degree at the U of M As for your daughter and grandson, I see that it is a tough situation ---certainly want the grandson in your life. So she wants to be qa kiddo again, your right in not letting that happen---don't make it too comfy that she never wants to leave. I will be thinking of you and keep you in my prayers for some resolutions in your situation.
Welcome back to blogging.

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Still at work

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

I put in two hours of overtime today, and lo and behold, I'm still hanging around. Amazing, how quiet it is, sitting in the middle of an ocean of empty cubicles. Got a lot accomplished, too. Didn't think about sneaking down to the cafeteria more than about seven dozen times. Easy peasy. So easy, I'm going to do it tomorrow too.

I'd be on my way home right now, but to tell the truth, I'm relishing the peace. Chaos is not my friend. And it's been a constant in my life, in one form or another. If it's true that we choose our lives ahead of time for the lessons to be learned in them, I suspect this is the bear I need to wrestle and overcome.

Truth is, I'm a codependent. Of course, back in old days, they had much nicer labels for people like me. We were fixers. That doesn't sound so bad. We were the beloved aunties everyone brought their sad stories to, the sweet old ladies with a ready ear, shoulder, and lace-trimmed hankie. We were the parents who were there for their children no matter what, and we were the lower middle class working schlumps who invited strangers to their table because they looked hungry. Isn't heaven supposed to be made up of people like that? Yeah. Well. Guess not.

The thing about being fixers is, the people who want fixing will fix themselves, the ones who don't will resent our efforts, and then there's that woefully large group of people who recognize our fixerishness (codependency just sounds so nasty) and milk it for all it's worth. And, in the end, we're the ones who need fixing, and we just don't have any energy left for it.

Why do you suppose Sonnyboy still lives in my house at 23, without a job, without an education, and without the slightest intention of doing anything except playing Peter Pan, getting drunk, and conning me out of money? Why do you suppose I've bailed Princess out of jams time and time again, and settled her financial woes at the cost of creating my own? Why do you suppose I always wind up in the middle of arguments between the two of them, and between them and the Silver Fox too, and thereby experience three times the stress of any one of them?

Yeah, I allow it. They may be the ones who put me there, but it's only because they can.

I've got to wonder what's turned me into such a pleaser. Face it, that's what I am, at work too. Good for getting ahead and influencing people, but bad, very bad for a person's emotional health. It could be the legacy of a childhood in which I never quite measured up. It could be a subconscious attempt to keep myself safe and out of the crosshairs. Who the hell knows.

At any rate, it's doing me no good. And I don't want to run away. So I guess I've got some self-fixing to do. Again.

God isn't done with me yet, it would appear.

  
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CHATTIEGIRL 8/16/2011 11:17PM

    Hi SLY_REDUX;

My shoulder is always there for people and when my children need I am there. That is how we where raise and it isn't all bad except when you let them take total control of you and use you. Once you stop giving you can make them stand on their own 2 feet. My Mother enabled my brother to just throw his life always and depend on her. He knew she would pull him out of anything he got in and today I don't even know where he is and it is a shame. I will help but I will not support them after they are over 20 it is their turn to take care of their selves. I left home at 19 and never asked for anything my who entire life. I made my own way and when I married I still worked and helped with the home and I am better for it.

Continue with your healthy life style. God bless you always. Learn from Spark people each day.

Smile Joyce

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MRDPOLING 8/4/2011 9:00PM

    I love working early or late when few are around at the office. I can get soooo much done!

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BE-THE-CHANGE 7/15/2011 10:38PM

    Say hello to another fixer! I am always running interference between members of my family or not doing what I want to do for the sake of family peace. I am the same way at work, too, although there they call me a 'nurturer'.

There is still plenty of time for both of us!

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KAKIPOPUP 7/14/2011 7:13AM

    As I said to someone else in another context....do it the same way you would eat an elephant....one bite at a time.

The flip side of fixing/codependency is caring - if you didn't care, you wouldn't get sucked in...but you also would be a pretty dismal human being. I think that what sucks us in is feeling, in some way, responsible for the choices that other people make...

like, so-and-so wouldn't drink if I weren't such a b*tch or she keeps hanging out with creeps because I didn't give her enough time when she was little or what-have-you -

This kind of thinking keeps us mired in the mess. You can "think" yourself out of the mire (and free the others around you) if you refuse to be responsible for the choices they make...acknowledge your mistakes to yourself and accept yourself (because nobody is perfect or is supposed to be) because you did your best with what you could do at the time -

I don't mean this to be a lecture - I've been there, done that, bought several different t-shirts, some multiple times - but you are the only person you can change - and when you do, you will be amazed at the changes in the people around you!

This isn't a journey to start on alone - find some real-life companions to accompany you (clergy, therapist, support group, whatever works for you in your circumstances) - it is a difficult process but will ultimately be very rewarding - emoticon

You are not alone, and it is not "too late".

P.S. know that you are loved....

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SLOLOSER 7/13/2011 10:34PM

    Well, like anything else, I suppose this something you will have to fix one step at a time.

I'm glad you are enjoying the peace and quiet.

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And meanwhile, back at the ranch....

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

The low carb thing bombed miserably. And I have more arterial sludge now than ever before. The doctor put me on cholesterol meds yesterday. Freakin wonderful. She told me I was inching up perilously close to the danger zone with my blood glucose, too. Good bye, McDonalds Mocha Frappes. Good bye, burgers and fries. Good bye, indecent quantities of communal red licorice at work. I don't even like that stuff, so why the hell did I eat so much of it? Because it was there? (That's pretty much why I married my second husband too, and a different story entirely, which probably doesn't even belong here, but you know you'll read it anyway sooner or later.)

I haven't gained all my weight back - I'm still twenty-one pounds shy of that - but I could probably pull that off too within a month, if I continue in the direction I'm going. Can't do it. Just can't. I'm on BP meds. I'm on cholesterol meds. What's next? And I'm so DAMNED sick of wearing clothes with X's in them.

Life has been batsh!t crazy, which hasn't helped cement my resolve by any means. Sonnyboy just keeps getting in trouble and avoiding work like a pox-riddled ho, Princess moved back in with the most beautiful little boy in the world because Prince Charming turned out to be a toad, I'm still robbing from Peter to pay Paul, and I'm tripping over stuff in my own house. There's no room for anything. There's always chaos. The sibling rivalry thing apparently lasts well into the twenties. My Silver Fox is spending an awful lot of time in his garage. I'd join him if I didn't think he'd actually put me to work on something.

But it's going to be OK. It's going to be OK. (Said it twice, for luck.) And I've gotten Rosie the Wonderbike dusted off, my treadmill and elliptical set up in the smallest bedroom in the house, and an attitude. Maybe I should have mentioned the attitude first. You probably caught on to that part of the equation by my second paragraph, though. Smart people, here on SparkPeople.

  
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MADDEELOU 7/14/2011 11:53AM

    I admire you for being so brutally honest--both with us and yourself.

**This was supposed to go to the "Still at Work" blog. Not sure what happend. Oops! emoticon

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PUFFPASTRY 7/14/2011 2:38AM

    I'm pretty sure you could make me laugh no matter WHAT was going on in your life! Cut yourself some slack, and know your loyal readers are cheering for you. emoticon

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RAFT4WAVES 7/14/2011 12:49AM

    Frankly, I love the attitude and your honest blogs. I'm glad your back! Good luck with the chaos and getting it all back in order.

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WILSON425 7/13/2011 9:48AM

    Keep the attitude and your great humor!

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MIZCATHI 7/13/2011 6:31AM

    The attitude is essential. You're back, that's what counts.

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KAKIPOPUP 7/13/2011 6:28AM

    I'm so glad you are back - and so sorry that life has exploded on you- emoticon

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FRAN0426 7/13/2011 12:49AM

    Sounds to me your ready to move on with trying this again especially the exercise. Hang in there, you can do this. Yes, I hear and get the eating the red licorice, if it's there it is sooooooo tempting to eat...Bring your self some nutritinal treat like fresh fruits and cut veggies. Ya, I know it's not the same---but you need to get started in every way to let the meds work too.

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EMBRACE_SUCCESS 7/13/2011 12:23AM

    Welcome back! I remain a huge fan of yours:)

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BE-THE-CHANGE 7/12/2011 11:48PM

    Glad you are back!

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DEVORA4 7/12/2011 8:52PM

  emoticonto hear of your situations. Welcome to the real world where things go topsy turvy, You are as I remember a strong willed lady and WILL make things work, emoticon

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NUMD97 7/12/2011 7:46PM

    No platitudes from these parts. Your blog paralleled my last one. We'll do it because there are no other options. 'Nuff said.

But in fairness to you, you've had an awful lot on your plate with other unexpected events. Yeah, it's called "life." Can we not answer the doorbell sometimes when it comes a-callin'?

Dig deep. You're tough stuff. You'll find a way.

And you're back. With all the resources here and the SP buddies at your disposal. Use it, and them.

Meet you at the top, Sly,

Nu

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PRINCESSNURSE 7/12/2011 7:21PM

    Welcome back girl!

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MADDEELOU 7/12/2011 7:07PM

    It is going to be okay because you have ATTITUDE!

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KARIDIAN1 7/12/2011 6:56PM

    Sounds like you are back on track. Stay focused

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Lunchtime at work

Friday, April 22, 2011

I've been back in Minnesota for a week now. Mom is home and doing well, albeit still not ready to live alone. Her sister is staying with her for the time being. Fortunately, on my father's side, we're Italian, meaning my generation and the generation before me bred like bunnies. There will be plenty of relatives to take care of her when Aunt Karin has to leave. So all is well on that front.

It's good to be back at work. I've definitely missed the income. And having lived on credit cards for ten weeks left a toll. Leave it to me to have a plan, though - I've taken the internet off both our phones, I've cancelled my massage package, my tanning, my nail appointments, and the gym membership I never seem to take advantage of (and don't blow any aneurisms over that, we've got most of the equipment at home too!), and the monthly savings combined with the extra cash at my disposal since I'm not smoking anymore will get us caught up in a relatively short amount of time. Mind you, short to me may not necessarily be short to you.

I'm at a bit of an impasse with the low carb thing. I'll give it through the rest of the month before I start doing any tweaking to the routine, though.

Still cold in Minnesota. Now, there's a surprise for you.

Back to work!

  
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SLOLOSER 7/12/2011 8:23PM

    What do they say, take 7 steps forward, and 5 backwards? Something like that. Just take more steps forward than backwards.

It would be nice just to keep going forward, but we are human, we stumble and fall... and pick ourselves up and get moving forward again.

You know you can do it!
Sorry to hear you had to go on the meds.
It might not be permanent.

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MADDEELOU 6/21/2011 9:04PM

    was wondering how you were doing. I love your blogs.

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LIZBETHC 6/3/2011 9:28AM

    Have missed you. Glad you're back on Spark. Congratulations for kicking the habit, especially in light of great stress. Been there, done that and wish you all the best.

Your follower, LizBeth




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CHATTIEGIRL 5/8/2011 9:20PM

    Hi SLY_REDUX;

I am glad you have restructured your life and the way you eat. Some times it takes us longer to get a handle on what we want to do but we get there. Some times we do not and suffer for it. It is nice to have large families to help out and I am the next to the oldest of 8 children. My husband was the youngest of 7 but now most of his family has passed away, along with him. Only 1 sister in my family is gone but they live 90 miles away.

Continue with your healthy life style. God bless you and hope you had a lovely Mother's Day. Keep learning from Spark people.

Joyce

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MRDPOLING 4/29/2011 2:00AM

    I need to take some lessons from you on the ways of saving! Seriously!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 4/28/2011 3:11PM

    I love that your family is kicking in to help out. I keep hoping mine will do the same.

I'm glad to hear you are taking care of yourself. You'll be back on budget soon! Hang in there!

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MYOWNHERO 4/25/2011 9:54PM

    I bet they'll be happy to have you back at work! Glad things are working out with your mom, too.

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KAKIPOPUP 4/23/2011 4:59AM

    Congratulations on quitting smoking - and staying quit during this stressful time - emoticon

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FRAN0426 4/22/2011 6:45PM

    Nice to have the extra money to get caught up with. Isn't this weather the pits? We got home from Ks. on Wednesday night and the last two days are sure feeling like winter ( too chilly and windy) for me. Loved the one day in Ks. that hit 80, sure felt good. They however get high winds---clocked in 63 gustsa one day---thats might powerful, and had me flying over DD patio and have bruises to prove.

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NUMD97 4/22/2011 2:29PM

    I heard you had snow! Better you than me.....I could never get used to what the Minnesotans call "weather" so drolly.

Glad you're back in your routine. And even gladder that your mom stabilized.

Best,

Nu

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I am not Martha Stewart. So I'm blogging.

Monday, April 04, 2011

What I ought to be doing is chemically soaking thirty years worth of nicotine stains off my mother's bathroom tiles. I also ought to be cleaning her toilets and her sinks, waxing her furniture, vacuuming her brand new carpets, and washing her floors. I ought to. She's coming home tomorrow, finally, barring setbacks. God knows there have been enough of those. And, despite the fact that my brother and I have painted the entire house, replaced all the carpets, and replaced the living room furniture and drapes to completely exorcize the last traces of the evil Nicodemon, I have no doubt that even the one dancing dust mote that escaped our attention will be the first thing to capture hers. And then, I'll be in for it, oh yes I will. I may be pushing sixty, but Mom's steely stink-eye can still make my lunch curdle.

So yeah, I really ought to be doing this stuff. But, damn it, I need a break. So, here I am. And yes, I know, you haven't heard from me since before Christmas. The cruise did happen in January, and it was wonderful. And since then, everything's gone to hell.

My mother, no surprise, has emphysema. She was made aware of that over fifteen years ago, when she had surgery for bladder cancer (also caused, incidentally, by smoking - any mucosa within the body is very sensitive to the effects of nicotine). She kept on smoking anyway. And lo and behold, the latter part of January, her COPD landed her in the hospital. Pneumonia and CHF (congestive heart failure) decided to get in on the act too. Her heart was racing like a rabbit's, her oxygen levels were dangerously low, and she was weak as a kitten, she couldn't even stand up. I came home on FMLA on the seventh of February, and have been here ever since.

It's been a rough road. Honestly, we thought she was going to die that first week. But she didn't. She fell no less than four times while in the hospital, because she's a stubborn old German, and refused to ring for assistance when she needed to go to the bathroom. Still, her heartrate and her oxygen levels stabilized, and the third week of February, she was moved to a nursing home for short-term physical and occupational therapy.

That very night, she was rushed back to the hospital by ambulance, and spent the next week in the ICU. It appears my mother never told anybody when her bowel patterns changed a year ago. Prone to frequent loose movements most of her life, she thought it was a great thing when she started producing little rabbit turds instead. She never questioned why things changed so drastically. She also never told anyone she hadn't had a bowel movement for three days prior to her release.

Bottom line is, she had an obstruction. The colonoscopy revealed, thank God, that it was not malignant, but rather the result of extremely infected and extremely inflamed diverticulitis. She was put on IV antibiotics, given a truckload of stool softeners and laxatives, and for the next three or four days, crapped more than I believed was humanly possible. It was mind-boggling. It also relieved the distension in her abdomen, and allowed her diaphragm to to descend back to where it belonged, thus increasing her lung capacity.

March first, she returned to the rehab center. Mind you, Murphy's Law is an ever-present force in my mother's life. All the pooping must have given her shingles. And oh, what a vicious case it was - horrible to see on anyone, much less an eighty-two year old woman. She worked her skinny little butt off anyway, and as I mentioned, is scheduled for release tomorrow.

She is, of course, on oxygen, and she can't be alone for the time being, and so I will stay until my aunt is able to relieve me, hopefully late next week. Thank God for FMLA - it may be unpaid leave, but at least I still have a job. I think.

I gained weight though. Boy, did I gain weight. I ate everything that wasn't nailed down that first month. I even ate some stuff that WAS nailed down. That was nipped in the bud a couple of weeks ago. I've been doing a lot of reading at night, and I've come to some conclusions about what is apt to work for me long-term, and I've adopted the low-carb approach. Stay tuned.

Almost two o'clock. I suppose I'd better get back to work. Well, crap. That's all, then. For now.

  
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GOLDDUSTTWIN 3/26/2012 6:06AM

    WOW! Your Mother & my MIL must be cousins! WE did the cleaning so not a smidgin of nicotine was in the house and after 2 months of not smoking she was doing it again...even with oxygen! emoticon

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DEVORA4 5/10/2011 1:05AM

  I missed you big time and am so happy to see that you are back with us!! Best wishes to your mom!

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MYOWNHERO 4/22/2011 2:09PM

    I missed your way with words so much. Welcome back.

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DIASTER 4/18/2011 10:21AM

  Makes you wonder what we are goGood luck in the coming weeks.ing to be like when we hit our eighties doesn't it.
You sure have been busy but it sounds like you need to take some you time and figure how best to accomplish your goals. Caregivers need a break also as you cannot please everyone and we tend to forget ourselves in the process.

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SANDYLH1 4/7/2011 4:41PM

  Sorry to hear about and Mother. emoticon Glad you are back.

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ADELE66 4/5/2011 3:19AM

    The main thing is... you are back. I'm sorry to hear about what you have been going through, and hope that your mother does well on her return home.

Maybe now a little time to focus on you?

:o)

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MRDPOLING 4/4/2011 9:23PM

    Sure have missed the heck out of you! (((((((HUGS))))))

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GOTTALUVPINK 4/4/2011 2:42PM

    Glad you're back... sounds like you are going through a very difficult time. Seeing someone as ill as your mom must be a reality check to get healthy. If you feel you need a dose of diet tough love, go to Fatloser.com. A fellow sparker mentioned it and I am loving it! It's a 21-day video message about mental toughness. Glad to hear low carb is working for you. We all need to find what works for our own bodies and lifestyle.
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Take care, Jodie

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DJS-DEBBIE 4/4/2011 2:19PM

    So glad you came back here! I love your FB posts, but they pale in comparison to a nice long Spark blog!

Here's to your mom coming home tomorrow!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 4/4/2011 2:14PM

    I've been wondering about you. I had hoped you won the lottery and had run away to paradise. Sounds like maybe just the opposite happened.

I'd never heard of diverticulitis until my dad was diagnosed about 2yrs ago. He and my mom have been having a lot of health issues. It's so hard to not be able to fix all their problems.

My mom is not German, but she is very stubborn and is very unhappy with her current placement. I got to hear during our lunch phone call that none of her kids love her and she's been dropped off someplace and just left there. Ugh! This is so hard.

I'm glad you can be there for your mom. I'm hoping that all goes well. Don't forget to take care of yourself too!

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FISHTAILS444 4/4/2011 1:57PM

    Love your sense of humor! Even at this hard time. Hope all goes well with Mom's return. Good luck with the low carb.

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