Monday, January 11, 2010
I recently talked to a woman who stated that it was difficult to find a management job in this city. Since she said she is experienced, competent, and a recent transplant from another city, she wondered if not getting a job after interviewing could possibly have anything to do with her being overweight.
Speaking from my own experience, I have found that to be a distinct possibility. Having been thin most of my life, in the past few years I was tidal waved with hormonal changes, stress, workaholic exercise stagnation, and yes - overeating.
When I put on extra weight, I suddenly became invisible. As I interviewed and/or did project presentations, I couldn't figure out what was different in the way people were relating to me. I'd continued with a positive, happy, communicative approach that had always worked in the past.
Now that I'm thin again (well, not at my goal, but thinner than I was), I can see the difference in how people pre-judged me with the extra weight. It's a form of prejudice you don't often see written about in articles. And, ironically, who seems to be the harshest of judges? Those who are overweight themselves!
Being invisible was NOT fun. But it was a good lesson in what some folks have to go through on a daily basis.
Wishing all a wonderful day.